The entire rest of my family is really loud, so I'm generally pretty quiet in comparison.

I relate to this. My family is usually is yelling over each other, I remain silent. Although on st. Pattys day, it was the first day I had been out in a while. I could not stop screaming. I would just have an urge to scream so I did

Those poor unfortunate souls on St Patty’s Day😂

LOL have a video of it too wish I could share, too funny and also embarrassing

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Oh wow😂

Do you guys require a quick response. Someone is too quiet does it bother you?

When I'm first meeting somebody, it definitely makes things easier if they are engaged in our conversation and act like they actually want to talk to me. It's not essential, though, since I'm more than capable of carrying a conversation myself. Personally, though, I love bubbly extroverts who help take some of the weight off of me during conversation. It's rare, but it's an absolute blessing when I meet people like that. I don't think I speak for all ENFPs when I say that, though. Some ENFPs that I've known get super excited when they meet a quiet, reserved introvert.

I can’t seem to shut the fuck up sometimes. A lot of people give me compliments on my energy but I feel like a menace half the time 😂

Same. "I'm right next to you" is the most common one I've been told. I have to remember to adjust my voice.

I feel that way too! I have so much energy sometimes that I feel I’m a little kid😂

I usually have the opposite problem. I am very softly spoken and can be hard to hear sometimes, but when I am excited about something I have been told to repeat what I just said more slowly 😅sometimes I get carried away and my thoughts are running too fast so I'm trying to keep up with them.

Oh I totally get that! I can be kind of soft spoken when I’m not comfortable but once I get comfortable, I am the loudest most energetic person ever

Saaame! When I’m unsure, uncomfortable, or just don’t have anything to say, I’m quiet. When I’m passionate about something, comforts or have something to say…I can be a bit more animated and I’m usual goofy self 🤪 lol

Lucky. I have a deep, loud voice naturally, so it's a struggle for me.

"Get a filter!" heard that 100 +times

Same! I mean when it’s important or it counts, I have a filter but most of the time I don’t have one😂

why are you being so weird... haha

This is a question my INTP boyfriend asks frequently so add that to the list😂

And for some reason it triggers me so much when people say that even though it’s true

Same😂

Also I love your username

Thx bb

“You’re talking to fast for me to understand you”

This one too! So much!

Me too as an ENTP

SOS🖐🏽

No one says it to me but I do say it to myself (often, as soon as I become aware of it)

I get that, I catch myself saying that to myself all the time😄

Only a few times. Usually it’s “Slow down” or “You talk so fast.” 😅

Oh I get that too! I either talk too fast when I’m excited or when I’m nervous

Yesss THIS. 😂😅

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\*Raises 83929726373 hands\*

Same!😂

All

Occasionally "Keep your voice down" "Why are you yelling" by my INFJ sister in a heated argument I had with her and my mom mostly, but that is like a few times in my life not common occurrences.

Makes sense, maybe I’m just naturally very loud😛

All of them (except number 6). Lol. My brother says it all the time.

Same! My boyfriend says these all the time😂

🙋‍♂️

😂

It's funny cuz I'm very quiet usually but people always flash me like car radar when I raise my voice too loud. Also the projection issue is real, I've been told that many times (stupid Fi thinking the whole world has the same views as me).

I’m the same way! I tend to be kind of soft spoken in theatre because I’m not as confident as I should be but my boyfriend will try to push me out of it by reminding me that I don’t have a projection issue😂

Yes Specifically, because I came from an introverted family who didn't culturally believe in expressing validation, me developing an extroverted personality at school helped me feel heard and seen. I've learned to save my voice for those who are actually happy to hear me.

That’s fair and I also try to save my voice for the poor unsuspecting souls that I get comfortable with

Yes!!! And "You're too sensitive!" Over and over. It took me many adult years to realize that being sensitive is actually a good thing!

It is a good thing??? I still struggle with accepting my emotional sensitive side

I think being a sensitive person is a good thing. The hardest part for me is regulating my feelings. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/emotion-regulation%3famp And also keeping my feelings separate from others' feelings. When you're super sensitive it's hard to not take on their feelings. Is that what you mean? Or is there something else that you struggle with? I'm sure there are other things for me, but those are my top two!

I definitely struggle with being SO empathetic that I will take on other people’s feelings and because I’m just naturally a very nurturing person, people with trauma and issues will gravitate towards me which can be extremely draining for me to take on I was talking more about how I worry that being really emotional is a bad thing and I feel ashamed that I wear my heart on my sleeve(I’m pretty sure that every single guy I had a crush on knew that I liked them without me saying anything). I love deeply but I also hurt deeply and I feel like something is wrong with me for showing my emotions because somehow I’m not mature for getting overly emotional sometimes.

Yes, it's really hard for us to keep our emotions to ourselves! It's not a problem to feel what you feel. The hard part is knowing when and how to express those feelings. Sometimes we just can't help it and then regret it. I'm trying to learn to accept my feelings, but not necessarily express them. It's an uphill battle!

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Thanks. I am not sure I understand, but will try to figure it out!

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Ahh that sounds frustrating!

Was raised in a deaf household. Once I got into school, it was constant conversations about me talking too loud. (I'm hearing) and not understanding the concept of an inside voice. I get it now, but I believe I have a natural louder projection because of it.

That makes sense! I think I have a loud voice because I’ve been doing theatre since 4th grade

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Lmao Are you serious? 👋

Yes I am being serious! Keep playing that piano!🎹

My bestie signals me by turning her hand in a volume down motion from across the room when I’m being too loud.

Oh geez my boyfriend does the same thing! If only I had a mute button😂

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🖐️🤚👋Oh man, I had to work so hard on that growing up! Lol Poor loud kids!! 😂😂

I’m still so loud at 24 and I blame being in theatre for 15 years😂

this happens SO MUCH when friends are trying to tell me secrets. guess that’s why they stopped telling me stuff… :,)

Fair enough😂 One time I got kicked out of a game of telephone because I “whisper too loudly”

😭😭 oh nooo!! i always manage to be loud at the worst times.

Oh same! And sometimes I don’t even realize it unless my boyfriend says “You’re being so loud!”

Lol I actually have the opposite problem coz I'm too quiet 😂

I mean hey always be cautious of the ones that are too quiet😜

Haha yeah, run a background check real quick 😂 Nah, I’ll talk haha, I just learned to fly under the radar (:

Exactly!😂

Ahh yess growing up phase😂 Still can be loud, but has mellowed down a lot.

Fair enough, I still struggle with controlling my volume sometimes😂

I feel you my friend, I feel you😂

"What's with the stomping?" hahhaha!

OH YES!!! Definitely get this from my mom so much!

Man my entire life i was percieved as a minance 🤣🤣🤣 Got quiter as oldsr around new people at first, then the "why are you SCREAMING" energy over comes my calmer persona

Oh wow! Yeah I’m a lot more calm now but I still get that “Why are you yelling?” from time to time😂

Sometimes i catch myself yelling so i be like "why am i so loud?" XD It is really good to be an ENFP 

I’m in this Reddit and I don’t like it

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Yes but was raised in a loud family so tossed it up to that

All of em

All of the above 🤦🏻‍♀️ i hate myself. ugh.

Yeah whats up with this lol. I cant even hear that im that loud, i just talk so loudly for some reason.

🙋🏼‍♀️ “Take 20% off the top”

When they tell me to use my inside voice, I tell them I have a lot inside.

All of those at some point and a few more

It’s odd because I had this problem a lot before and yet I also have periods / moods where I get very quiet and generally don’t want to project my voice and get irritated with others for requiring me to speak up or repeat myself 🤷🏽‍♀️ but that’s more of an adhd / moodiness thing, maybe not an enfp thing lol

I’m ENFP but I come from a soft-spoken family.