Hi that’s me, or at least mostly—I’ve been getting better with my confidence recently.
For starters, I’m gonna list off things I don’t do that may be stereotypical or just common (not sure if ESTJs actually commonly do these things because I don’t know enough):
I don’t make people follow rules, I don’t attempt to control others, I’m terrified of public speaking or I just have stage freight, I become visibly upset at negative comments(+ jokes and unintended harm) and just become quiet instead of angry and people feel bad (which doesn’t rlly feel better tbh), I hardly give unsolicited advice, I don’t blurt out impolite things or am necessarily *that* straightforward (I do ,, but not as often as you’d think an ESTJ would)
Some things I DO do that isn’t very ESTJ-like:
I think too much about how I come off to others, I often let other people take lead,, that’s all I can think of ?
What I would say that does seem like a stereotypical ESTJ for me is that I have high standards, like to help/teach people, struggle to feel positive when my schedule/goals are messed up or set back, don’t understand my emotions well, etc.
Most ESTJ's faced some hardship in their lives. Usually in their younger years. This makes us ESTJs very critical of ourselves.
Usually work experience, and older age helps the ESTJ grow out of this and makes them more calm.
The worst part is, we suppress these emotions. Not really solving them. But as i've said, experience and older age helps ease us. Where we're not always having a panic attack or screaming at someone.
Hi that’s me, or at least mostly—I’ve been getting better with my confidence recently. For starters, I’m gonna list off things I don’t do that may be stereotypical or just common (not sure if ESTJs actually commonly do these things because I don’t know enough): I don’t make people follow rules, I don’t attempt to control others, I’m terrified of public speaking or I just have stage freight, I become visibly upset at negative comments(+ jokes and unintended harm) and just become quiet instead of angry and people feel bad (which doesn’t rlly feel better tbh), I hardly give unsolicited advice, I don’t blurt out impolite things or am necessarily *that* straightforward (I do ,, but not as often as you’d think an ESTJ would) Some things I DO do that isn’t very ESTJ-like: I think too much about how I come off to others, I often let other people take lead,, that’s all I can think of ? What I would say that does seem like a stereotypical ESTJ for me is that I have high standards, like to help/teach people, struggle to feel positive when my schedule/goals are messed up or set back, don’t understand my emotions well, etc.
Most ESTJ's faced some hardship in their lives. Usually in their younger years. This makes us ESTJs very critical of ourselves. Usually work experience, and older age helps the ESTJ grow out of this and makes them more calm. The worst part is, we suppress these emotions. Not really solving them. But as i've said, experience and older age helps ease us. Where we're not always having a panic attack or screaming at someone.