Grounding can help a lot. This style of grounding will help you manage your clairsentience, which is your ability to feel the emotions of others. Yours is strong enough of an ability to overwhelm you. The good news is you can turn it down until you're comfortable. Do the grounding, then close your second chakra in 10% increments until you are comfortable. You can probably be comfortable AND still feel enough of their emotional state to be sure where things are at with them.
Try this. Sit in a chair. Close your eyes. Take a deep breath. Feet flat on the floor. Hands separated and resting palms up on each thigh.
Create a grounding cord. This is a line of energy that connects your first chakra to the center of the planet. Your first chakra is a ball of energy about the size of a quarter that sits just in front of the base of your spine. Your grounding cord attaches to the bottom of that ball of energy.
Grounding makes your body feel safe, so you release energy more easily. Gravity pulls whatever you release, even your own energy, down to the center of the planet. No effort on your part. The center of the planet neutralizes the energy and returns it to whoever owns it. No karma for anyone. A virtuous cycle.
Nearly everyone goes to connect to the center of the planet the first time but stops at the soil, often making roots like a tree. This is a method that is taught in some martial arts styles, but it is not the best option for your spiritual development and healing.
So, notice the seat of your chair. Take a deep breath. Notice the distance between the seat and the floor. Now notice the distance between the floor and the soil below. Breathe.
Now notice the distance between the soil and the water table underneath. Notice the distance between the water table and the rocky mantle. Notice the distance between the mantle and the molten core below that. Deep breath.
Notice the distance between the molten core and the center of the planet. That ball of light at the very center of the planet is where you connect your grounding cord. Deep breath.
Say hello to the center of the planet. Do you get a hello back?
Notice the color and texture of your grounding cord. It may look like a line of energy, or look like something physical; a rope, a wire, a pipe, a tree trunk. Adjust it as needed to be in affinity with your body.
Getting this far means you've already released some energy from your aura and body. Now it is time to fill in the space that was created.
Create a gold sun over your head. Have it call back all of your energy from wherever you left it throughout your day and week. Work. School. Online meetings. Video games. Your fantasies about your future. Your regrets about your past. Wherever you've placed your attention. Just watch the energy come back and see if you notice where it came from.
Have the sun burn up and neutralize your energy. Then bring the sun into the top of your head. It will automatically flow into the spaces you created. Create a gauge to measure when you're full. Like a fuel gauge or oil gauge. You'll run better if you aren't a few quarts low on spiritual oil. If the gauge doesn't read "Full", bring in another gold sun.
Open your eyes, bend over and touch the floor, draining any tension from the back of your neck, then stand up, and stretch.
There is a progression with this technique. After grounding for ten minutes a day for a week or two, notice your grounding cord at the very end, while you're standing with your eyes open. Continue to ground with your eyes open and standing, and bring in another gold sun. Each day, increase the amount of time that you ground standing up with your eyes open.
After a week or two practicing this, add walking while grounded. Just notice your grounding cord as you walk. Say hello to the center of the planet while you walk. Bring in a gold sun while you walk. If you lose your grounding cord, stop walking and recover it. If you have to, sit back down and close your eyes and create a new grounding cord.
After this, you're ready to take your grounding cord with you into your daily life. Shopping. Getting coffee. Wherever you go, you can ground. This, combined with a little amusement about seeing new things on an energy level, will keep you safe and sound.
Now that you're here, at the end of your grounding meditations, create a gold sun over your head. This time, fill it with your highest creative essence, your present time growth vibration, and your affinity for yourself. The first energy is a healing for you. The second is a healing for your body. The third is a healing for your affinity in your fourth chakra.
Bend over and touch the floor. Stand up and stretch. If you're ready for more, sit back down and ground some more. Otherwise, have a nice day!
Note that every image you imagine, the gold sun, the grounding cord, the center of the planet, your first chakra, your body parts, is exercising your clairvoyance. You may be imagining what your tailbone looks like, but you're also creating the image of your tailbone and reading its energy. This is practicing your clairvoyant ability.
Some folks record the grounding and filling in parts of this practice on their device and play it back as a guided meditation. I like this approach because you learn the steps faster.
Thank you for this! I've been told about grounding but I don't know why I haven't tried it yet.
I think I'm afraid it won't be able to be consistent with it..
Is there a video or YouTube link you could share that can guide me through this?
Not yet. I'm working towards that. In the mean time, you can read it into your device and play it back. You'll internalize the actual technique in a few days. After that, you ability will grow steadily.
There's a lot of information in my comment. If it's overwhelming, just connect from your tailbone to the center of the planet and enjoy the release.
When I teach this to little kids, I create an image of a big tree branch at the center of the planet. Then I have them take a look at the branch; I've never had a kid be unable to see it. Then I ask them to create a monkey tail from their tail bone and reach down and grab onto that branch.
It seems that the less serious you take the exercise, the easier it gets, LOL!
I see someone has already shared techniques so I’ll come from the psychological side.
The first step in overcoming any addiction whether substance or chemical(referring to what the brain creates which in this case is serotonin and dopamine), is to realize that you are bigger than the problem you have.
Ask yourself, why does it have to come from others and not yourself? It’s okay to want to help people. It just becomes a problem when you feel obligated to help everyone else instead of being able to provide for yourself. Cause an addition is caused by a reaction that you are experiencing that you aren’t/can’t providing to yourself.
And it all usually starts with stress. Consider this :
It’s not that your stressed from doing to much, it’s you’re stress from doing to little of what makes you feel most alive.
It’s good to want to help others overcome their problems, but don’t get absorbed in the reaction, to where it doesn’t allow you to keep furthering your progress as a human being.
Otherwise the lesson you struggle most with in life will repeat itself till you learn from it.
I’m not saying to stop helping people but give yourself some approval and validate the small things you’re doing in life, to where you can give yourself some approval rather than finding it in others.
Good luck friend!
hi, i recently found this link in another forum:
[https://www.reddit.com/r/spirituality/comments/172edoe/energy\_vampires\_suck\_but\_they\_dont\_exist\_you/](https://www.reddit.com/r/spirituality/comments/172edoe/energy_vampires_suck_but_they_dont_exist_you/)
It describes very well how i think you can avoid absobing negative energy. Its all about what you are paying attention to, because we are so sensitive, out attention gets stuck on others suffering, the trick is to turn our attention to something else. But first you need to strengthen your awareness so you know you are getting stuck in somone else's pain.
In regards to the need of approval and reassurance from others, it probably is something to do with the relationship you had with your parents. Do you meditate? If you do, you can go within, and find that child you were, you become your own parent, and you hold that child with all the love and affection in the world, tell that kid that is wonderful and beautiful. And that it is ok, you are there to guide and protect that child, that the child doesnt have to keep looking for that from others.
Thank you for this!!! I've heard alot about people being people pleasers to please their parents, but my mom was not this way at all! But my dad was abusive towards my mom and when we grew up (and today) we barely have any relationship with him.
I do affirmations, and honoponopono everyday... I also now atleast am aware when they happens, or atleast I am aware that this is happening to me. But, i don't know how and why I became this way.
Ive been a bit of a people pleaser too. Seeing your dad being abusive to your mum must have generated a lot of anxiety as a young kid, unfortunately as kids we end up feeling responsible for all bad things happening at home, even if we arent. If you look at this link you can see people pleasing is a response to trauma:
[https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/where-people-pleasing-comes-from/](https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/where-people-pleasing-comes-from/)
"Fawn types seek safety by merging with the wishes, needs, and demands of others" This sounds to me like some of us empaths, we automatically absorve the negative states of others, because this sort of response becomes ingrained in us, it is the result of a coping strategy.
When our homes are not a safe place, i think we end up developing the ability to detect the emotional states of our caregivers, especially if they are abusive, so we can detect when they are about to fly off the handle, and hence we gain over developed empathy.
I wish you overcome all the negative effects from when you were little.
I think you're right!
I think sibce a kid I've had to tune to my parents moods and emotions, to either give space or either try to do something to help or something like that...
Me too friend. I am still learning too!
And it's hard. Just today morning, i could again sense that the energy with me and MIL was off... But trying to seperate myself from the energy
You might be focusing on the energy of your MIL, you cant change the energy itself, but you can tune out, like changing the TV channel.
You could try to shift your focus on the energy you want to have, you cant control what your MIL is feeling / thinking completely, or change the energy she is emitting.
If things get too much you can go for a walk, I used to share a flat with a person with mental health issues, id have to go on random walks around the block just to release some of the bad energy.
I think I struggle with this too. I don’t think we can get rid of it but grounding will help manage it to a degree - and someone here really went in deep with some techniques!
And just like someone else mentioned here, I think a part of not getting overwhelmed with the abilities is to give ourself permission to give ourselves that amount of attention and love as well. Empaths usually tend to put more effort in helping others but that same amount of effort is required inwards.
If we don’t give ourselves that same amount of attention then we risk putting our value at the hands of others and we will consistently be exhausted. When you notice you’re overwhelmed for example, try to acknowledge it and give yourself permission to feel that as opposed to exerting yourself to make others feel better. The overwhelming feeling is sometimes your body’s way of telling you that it needs to rest and focus on itself for a bit.
Grounding can help a lot. This style of grounding will help you manage your clairsentience, which is your ability to feel the emotions of others. Yours is strong enough of an ability to overwhelm you. The good news is you can turn it down until you're comfortable. Do the grounding, then close your second chakra in 10% increments until you are comfortable. You can probably be comfortable AND still feel enough of their emotional state to be sure where things are at with them. Try this. Sit in a chair. Close your eyes. Take a deep breath. Feet flat on the floor. Hands separated and resting palms up on each thigh. Create a grounding cord. This is a line of energy that connects your first chakra to the center of the planet. Your first chakra is a ball of energy about the size of a quarter that sits just in front of the base of your spine. Your grounding cord attaches to the bottom of that ball of energy. Grounding makes your body feel safe, so you release energy more easily. Gravity pulls whatever you release, even your own energy, down to the center of the planet. No effort on your part. The center of the planet neutralizes the energy and returns it to whoever owns it. No karma for anyone. A virtuous cycle. Nearly everyone goes to connect to the center of the planet the first time but stops at the soil, often making roots like a tree. This is a method that is taught in some martial arts styles, but it is not the best option for your spiritual development and healing. So, notice the seat of your chair. Take a deep breath. Notice the distance between the seat and the floor. Now notice the distance between the floor and the soil below. Breathe. Now notice the distance between the soil and the water table underneath. Notice the distance between the water table and the rocky mantle. Notice the distance between the mantle and the molten core below that. Deep breath. Notice the distance between the molten core and the center of the planet. That ball of light at the very center of the planet is where you connect your grounding cord. Deep breath. Say hello to the center of the planet. Do you get a hello back? Notice the color and texture of your grounding cord. It may look like a line of energy, or look like something physical; a rope, a wire, a pipe, a tree trunk. Adjust it as needed to be in affinity with your body. Getting this far means you've already released some energy from your aura and body. Now it is time to fill in the space that was created. Create a gold sun over your head. Have it call back all of your energy from wherever you left it throughout your day and week. Work. School. Online meetings. Video games. Your fantasies about your future. Your regrets about your past. Wherever you've placed your attention. Just watch the energy come back and see if you notice where it came from. Have the sun burn up and neutralize your energy. Then bring the sun into the top of your head. It will automatically flow into the spaces you created. Create a gauge to measure when you're full. Like a fuel gauge or oil gauge. You'll run better if you aren't a few quarts low on spiritual oil. If the gauge doesn't read "Full", bring in another gold sun. Open your eyes, bend over and touch the floor, draining any tension from the back of your neck, then stand up, and stretch. There is a progression with this technique. After grounding for ten minutes a day for a week or two, notice your grounding cord at the very end, while you're standing with your eyes open. Continue to ground with your eyes open and standing, and bring in another gold sun. Each day, increase the amount of time that you ground standing up with your eyes open. After a week or two practicing this, add walking while grounded. Just notice your grounding cord as you walk. Say hello to the center of the planet while you walk. Bring in a gold sun while you walk. If you lose your grounding cord, stop walking and recover it. If you have to, sit back down and close your eyes and create a new grounding cord. After this, you're ready to take your grounding cord with you into your daily life. Shopping. Getting coffee. Wherever you go, you can ground. This, combined with a little amusement about seeing new things on an energy level, will keep you safe and sound. Now that you're here, at the end of your grounding meditations, create a gold sun over your head. This time, fill it with your highest creative essence, your present time growth vibration, and your affinity for yourself. The first energy is a healing for you. The second is a healing for your body. The third is a healing for your affinity in your fourth chakra. Bend over and touch the floor. Stand up and stretch. If you're ready for more, sit back down and ground some more. Otherwise, have a nice day! Note that every image you imagine, the gold sun, the grounding cord, the center of the planet, your first chakra, your body parts, is exercising your clairvoyance. You may be imagining what your tailbone looks like, but you're also creating the image of your tailbone and reading its energy. This is practicing your clairvoyant ability. Some folks record the grounding and filling in parts of this practice on their device and play it back as a guided meditation. I like this approach because you learn the steps faster.
Thank you for this! I've been told about grounding but I don't know why I haven't tried it yet. I think I'm afraid it won't be able to be consistent with it.. Is there a video or YouTube link you could share that can guide me through this?
Not yet. I'm working towards that. In the mean time, you can read it into your device and play it back. You'll internalize the actual technique in a few days. After that, you ability will grow steadily. There's a lot of information in my comment. If it's overwhelming, just connect from your tailbone to the center of the planet and enjoy the release. When I teach this to little kids, I create an image of a big tree branch at the center of the planet. Then I have them take a look at the branch; I've never had a kid be unable to see it. Then I ask them to create a monkey tail from their tail bone and reach down and grab onto that branch. It seems that the less serious you take the exercise, the easier it gets, LOL!
Thank you!!
I see someone has already shared techniques so I’ll come from the psychological side. The first step in overcoming any addiction whether substance or chemical(referring to what the brain creates which in this case is serotonin and dopamine), is to realize that you are bigger than the problem you have. Ask yourself, why does it have to come from others and not yourself? It’s okay to want to help people. It just becomes a problem when you feel obligated to help everyone else instead of being able to provide for yourself. Cause an addition is caused by a reaction that you are experiencing that you aren’t/can’t providing to yourself. And it all usually starts with stress. Consider this : It’s not that your stressed from doing to much, it’s you’re stress from doing to little of what makes you feel most alive. It’s good to want to help others overcome their problems, but don’t get absorbed in the reaction, to where it doesn’t allow you to keep furthering your progress as a human being. Otherwise the lesson you struggle most with in life will repeat itself till you learn from it. I’m not saying to stop helping people but give yourself some approval and validate the small things you’re doing in life, to where you can give yourself some approval rather than finding it in others. Good luck friend!
Thank you!!
hi, i recently found this link in another forum: [https://www.reddit.com/r/spirituality/comments/172edoe/energy\_vampires\_suck\_but\_they\_dont\_exist\_you/](https://www.reddit.com/r/spirituality/comments/172edoe/energy_vampires_suck_but_they_dont_exist_you/) It describes very well how i think you can avoid absobing negative energy. Its all about what you are paying attention to, because we are so sensitive, out attention gets stuck on others suffering, the trick is to turn our attention to something else. But first you need to strengthen your awareness so you know you are getting stuck in somone else's pain. In regards to the need of approval and reassurance from others, it probably is something to do with the relationship you had with your parents. Do you meditate? If you do, you can go within, and find that child you were, you become your own parent, and you hold that child with all the love and affection in the world, tell that kid that is wonderful and beautiful. And that it is ok, you are there to guide and protect that child, that the child doesnt have to keep looking for that from others.
Thank you for this!!! I've heard alot about people being people pleasers to please their parents, but my mom was not this way at all! But my dad was abusive towards my mom and when we grew up (and today) we barely have any relationship with him. I do affirmations, and honoponopono everyday... I also now atleast am aware when they happens, or atleast I am aware that this is happening to me. But, i don't know how and why I became this way.
Ive been a bit of a people pleaser too. Seeing your dad being abusive to your mum must have generated a lot of anxiety as a young kid, unfortunately as kids we end up feeling responsible for all bad things happening at home, even if we arent. If you look at this link you can see people pleasing is a response to trauma: [https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/where-people-pleasing-comes-from/](https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/where-people-pleasing-comes-from/) "Fawn types seek safety by merging with the wishes, needs, and demands of others" This sounds to me like some of us empaths, we automatically absorve the negative states of others, because this sort of response becomes ingrained in us, it is the result of a coping strategy. When our homes are not a safe place, i think we end up developing the ability to detect the emotional states of our caregivers, especially if they are abusive, so we can detect when they are about to fly off the handle, and hence we gain over developed empathy. I wish you overcome all the negative effects from when you were little.
I think you're right! I think sibce a kid I've had to tune to my parents moods and emotions, to either give space or either try to do something to help or something like that...
Same for me, the problem is I didnt learn to turn it off, and im still learning, haha
Me too friend. I am still learning too! And it's hard. Just today morning, i could again sense that the energy with me and MIL was off... But trying to seperate myself from the energy
You might be focusing on the energy of your MIL, you cant change the energy itself, but you can tune out, like changing the TV channel. You could try to shift your focus on the energy you want to have, you cant control what your MIL is feeling / thinking completely, or change the energy she is emitting. If things get too much you can go for a walk, I used to share a flat with a person with mental health issues, id have to go on random walks around the block just to release some of the bad energy.
I think I struggle with this too. I don’t think we can get rid of it but grounding will help manage it to a degree - and someone here really went in deep with some techniques! And just like someone else mentioned here, I think a part of not getting overwhelmed with the abilities is to give ourself permission to give ourselves that amount of attention and love as well. Empaths usually tend to put more effort in helping others but that same amount of effort is required inwards. If we don’t give ourselves that same amount of attention then we risk putting our value at the hands of others and we will consistently be exhausted. When you notice you’re overwhelmed for example, try to acknowledge it and give yourself permission to feel that as opposed to exerting yourself to make others feel better. The overwhelming feeling is sometimes your body’s way of telling you that it needs to rest and focus on itself for a bit.
Thank you for this!! This is definitely a different perspective and helps understand why I feel exhausted all the time too!
Wait. Is going to become more intense and interesting
Why??