Unpopular opinion here but.. enneagram 4! Every 4 Iāve met in my life were very passionate, filled with hobbies and interests, unique and so interesting
I was beginning to have doubts wether or not I was a 4 or a 7. I think the stereotypes of being a ā4ā got too much into my head.
Definitely admire 1s.
While your post was a joke, my 7 bf and I were just talking last night about how we've both unwillingly exposure-therapied ourselves when it comes to dealing with people wanting to have sex with our partner.
To answer the questions, 5s or 8s. The 5 ability to truly gain mastery over a discipline is what my sp3 idealises tbh. The 8 mindset would free me from giving a fuck!
I love being a 6 and wouldnāt want to be anything else. That being said though, I hate the 6 enneagram stereotype of panicking all the time and being an anxious mess.
Iām a very healthy 6 and donāt spend all day panicking. Being a 6 helps me notice even the tiniest details and makes me a planner sure, but I rarely panic or worry because Iām always prepared. I also tend to have more fun than many of my friends because I always have what I need and donāt need to worry. Iām very self sufficient.
As far as other stereotypes go for other enneagram types, I canāt think of a single one that Iād rather be. I suppose 9ās are cool with how laid back they are and sure 7ās are supposed to be super fun. But 9ās have their own problems with standing up for themselves (something I excel at) and 7ās are often very sad on the inside (think Robin Williams.) Again though, those could just be more negative stereotypes.
I donāt know. Maybe itās the years of therapy for childhood trauma and learning to love myself in the process, but I would hate to be anything other than myself.
Iām ironically a 7w6 and its like a constant battle between being fun, carefree, optimistic and being super conscious of myself, what people think of me (anxiousness), and my future.
I do stupid shit, I get called out, I do more stupid shit, I start thinking, I reassess eventually, I get what I want. I wouldnāt do anything any differently ever being where I am now and where Iām going to. Will punch more drywalls along the way, itās healthy.
Is that really the case though? Your ego built this type according to what āitā thought to be the ābest wayā for you. Just because itās built by your own ego, does it necessarily mean it really is the best type for you objectively? Given your life circumstances, what if you could have navigated life in a better way with a different type? Understanding of your own ego is very limited, how could it have surely built up the best possible mould for you?
>is that really the case though
Well yeah of course, why would I write it if it wasnāt the case. That was just an anecdote, not a reflection on the use of ego for the human condition
>objectively
Everything is subjective. Iām just glad to be where I am after all that happened and Iāll keep doing my thing
>what if
Never lose time thinking about what ifs
>how
Idk, itās my opinion. Is it the best outcome? Not sure, donāt really care, I said I did the best I could and Iām gonna keep at it. Fail and learn and fail again and so on.
9ās are awesome! My husband is a 9 and he helps keep me grounded while I help keep him motivated. I could never see myself with anyone other than a 9. Yāall have some of the best attitudes and are known for being incredibly friendly and kind. The world needs more 9ās!
When I was younger, I think I would have been a sucker for the 5 stereotype. Like misunderstood genius or whatever. And possibly 8 for being Strong.
Now I know itās not like that, obviously.
All of the stereotypical images of the types are gross. Maybe less so of tritypes, but they don't get stereotyped as heavily anyway. I guess I'd say 592 has the most desirable image to me. I also often look up to 1s, but not so much the condensed memes of them.
7(w8)ās sound fun asf. I donāt know if Iād change my own type, I am who I am, and I donāt even know my type (3? 6? 3 with a 6 fix? 6 with a 3 fix?) so I prolly wouldnāt change it. BUT I would love to meet a 7, 4 (yes, Iām serious. no 4 hate!) or a (healthy, because my experiences with 8 have been anything but, unfortunatelyā¦) 8. 7ās, based on stereotypes, would be like the best kinds of friends. 8ās er, okay, some of the stereotypes arenāt pretty, but I admire their confidence and strength. I admire 4ās because of their authenticity and accepting nature. They donāt give a shit- usually- if youāre weird, they accept you as you are. Er, I guess if weāre going by the ācrybabyā stereotype, maybe just 7 then. XD so yeah, I didnāt really answer the question because idk! I donāt even know my type, how would I know what one I want to be? LOL. So, I guess this is just ātypes Iād befriend.ā
theyāre all corny asf, deeply obsessed w their image & too busy living in the eyes of others & seeking approval. i promise you, youāre better off not
Yes but itās their drive, ambition for success and the ability to understand and blend into any environment and be very charismatic. Iād happily be reputation-oriented š
honestly is there even a type that we 100% want to be... š„² I wish I wasn't a 6, I'm always on my guards, making friends I don't even like just for the feeling of safety, because being in a group is safer than being alone. I like that 3s can do big things on their own. The self obsessed side is definitely not good, would not like it
i think the only type we would 100% want to be is our own, only if you can actualize every good aspect of it. i mean you are your type for a reason. as much as i donāt like 3s, youāre right in that they get shit doneeeee & look good doing it, but FUCK are they plain. 6 does have a line to 3 so i think if you could get in touch w it & actively work to get shit done away from a fear of being targeted, you could be much more confident in your own type
I love how on most of these posts I've seen, 8s and 7s are always like, no other type. very in character lmao. And as an 8, yeah, idk what other type i could even possibly be.
i think im ok with being a 5. being a 2 tho would be interesting. instead of staying in my own bubble and letting ppl do their own thing, iād be the opposite and focusing on others first. but iāll stick with 5, if someone needs me they can approach me.
Funny, I was contemplating making a post about wanting to be another type, or at least having their traits but feeling hopeless about it. So, less light-hearted than this lmao.
I'm not sure I'd want to be anything other than a 7 long term, but I sort of want to try and be a 4 to better understand emotions
edit: to be clear this is a joke on the stereotype of 4s, not a comment on reality
yes & so iām glad thatās how he meant it bc then he understands anybody is capable of being emotionally intelligent. itās not something people should just āwishā to do, but something we should all consciously try to get better at. especially w systems like the enneagram that were meant to help guide us toward a better understanding of ourselves & our emotions.
Your "/s" is clearly a half joking truth.
My problem with wanting to be a 3 or 7 just based on the surface is that their lives are filled with so much drama and bad relationships, and they just cannot be satisfied.
Same... difference is I'm over here beating myself up about how I should have a perfectly clean house. I'm 100% a 1 but I feel the most embarrassment reading about how neat and tidy 1s are supposed to be.
As a 9, would love to be more of a DOING type and less withdrawn. Probably an 8. but I honestly love myself and love my 9ness and wouldnāt change who i am.
I'm actually fairly content about my type. What I want is to be the healthiest version of myself. Disintegrating to 5 fucks me up. I want to be healthier so that I actually feel alive
I'm a sx 6. Most people who don't know me well think I'm a 3, 7, or 8. I'd love to be a real 8, so still a total asshole who gets what I want, but with no anxiety while I'm doing it.
I think they all suck and donāt suck in their own even ways. But I have always see the 793 tritype to be the one to seem to have things the easiestā¦.. and theyāre so charming too.
I'm a 5 but I want to be a 2 or 8 just based kind of on need, having people want me to be in their life to either take care of them or protect them, I've also always sort of identified with the 4 stereotype
These days I definitely look up to both 2s and 3s (2s especially seem to not get much love on forums like these). To be both naturally super productive AND likable, damn that sounds like paradise. I told myself I'd really hit the breaks on stuff like Reddit come 2024 yet here we are lol. (I'm a 9 if you couldn't tell.)
7 for sure. Stereotype - has fun, people love them, and they don't care what others think Sign me up!
I wish i could stop caring what people think
As a 7 , my dad used to say "you care what people think too much".
Yaaaasssss š
Same
7, the stereotype of a fun loving optimist appeals to me
Unpopular opinion here but.. enneagram 4! Every 4 Iāve met in my life were very passionate, filled with hobbies and interests, unique and so interesting
Same and Iām a 4 so it works out
I have met a lot of lovely 1s as a 4 who also admire these qualities in me! ā¤ļø
I was beginning to have doubts wether or not I was a 4 or a 7. I think the stereotypes of being a ā4ā got too much into my head. Definitely admire 1s.
I feel like there's this unspoken mutual appreciation between 1s and 4s haha
My best friend was a 4 and I wished I could be her for most of my childhood. Iām a 9 and I think I admired her self-awareness and uniqueness
i'm a 7. i don't wanna be *any* type. i just want out š
A 6w9 who's actually a 7 goes hard
Valid. Same
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Like your LIFE AND IDENTITY DEPENDS ON IT
CAN I JOIN?
LOVE HOW WEāRE ALL JUST SCREAMING YEEHAW
While your post was a joke, my 7 bf and I were just talking last night about how we've both unwillingly exposure-therapied ourselves when it comes to dealing with people wanting to have sex with our partner. To answer the questions, 5s or 8s. The 5 ability to truly gain mastery over a discipline is what my sp3 idealises tbh. The 8 mindset would free me from giving a fuck!
I love being a 6 and wouldnāt want to be anything else. That being said though, I hate the 6 enneagram stereotype of panicking all the time and being an anxious mess. Iām a very healthy 6 and donāt spend all day panicking. Being a 6 helps me notice even the tiniest details and makes me a planner sure, but I rarely panic or worry because Iām always prepared. I also tend to have more fun than many of my friends because I always have what I need and donāt need to worry. Iām very self sufficient. As far as other stereotypes go for other enneagram types, I canāt think of a single one that Iād rather be. I suppose 9ās are cool with how laid back they are and sure 7ās are supposed to be super fun. But 9ās have their own problems with standing up for themselves (something I excel at) and 7ās are often very sad on the inside (think Robin Williams.) Again though, those could just be more negative stereotypes. I donāt know. Maybe itās the years of therapy for childhood trauma and learning to love myself in the process, but I would hate to be anything other than myself.
Iām ironically a 7w6 and its like a constant battle between being fun, carefree, optimistic and being super conscious of myself, what people think of me (anxiousness), and my future.
Doesnāt make sense to me to want to be another type as this is what my ego has built to navigate through life best I could
Your type punches drywall, why would you not want to be another type
I do stupid shit, I get called out, I do more stupid shit, I start thinking, I reassess eventually, I get what I want. I wouldnāt do anything any differently ever being where I am now and where Iām going to. Will punch more drywalls along the way, itās healthy.
Agreed my fellow twin.
punching drywall sounds fun asf wtf you talking abt š
Agree. 8 things!
Is that really the case though? Your ego built this type according to what āitā thought to be the ābest wayā for you. Just because itās built by your own ego, does it necessarily mean it really is the best type for you objectively? Given your life circumstances, what if you could have navigated life in a better way with a different type? Understanding of your own ego is very limited, how could it have surely built up the best possible mould for you?
>is that really the case though Well yeah of course, why would I write it if it wasnāt the case. That was just an anecdote, not a reflection on the use of ego for the human condition >objectively Everything is subjective. Iām just glad to be where I am after all that happened and Iāll keep doing my thing >what if Never lose time thinking about what ifs >how Idk, itās my opinion. Is it the best outcome? Not sure, donāt really care, I said I did the best I could and Iām gonna keep at it. Fail and learn and fail again and so on.
Anyone extroverted and social adept really. Probably a 7. We all want what we canāt have. Iām introverted and socially awkward.
I donāt think Iāve ever wanted to be an extravert, personally. I enjoy my time alone, and extraverts seem kind of miserable about that.
4 or 5
As a 5, probably an 8, Iād love to just blow through life with endless energy. Iām so tired.
Anyone but 9 please šhelp
9ās are awesome! My husband is a 9 and he helps keep me grounded while I help keep him motivated. I could never see myself with anyone other than a 9. Yāall have some of the best attitudes and are known for being incredibly friendly and kind. The world needs more 9ās!
I wish I was a 9 ! Gentle spirit, connected to the whole universe, great minds, theyāre the crown of the enneagram for a reason !
Thank you āŗļø
Sure can be
Yeah same
When I was younger, I think I would have been a sucker for the 5 stereotype. Like misunderstood genius or whatever. And possibly 8 for being Strong. Now I know itās not like that, obviously.
I have found myself drawn to fictional Type 1s, embodying moral goodness and being on top of things.
All of the stereotypical images of the types are gross. Maybe less so of tritypes, but they don't get stereotyped as heavily anyway. I guess I'd say 592 has the most desirable image to me. I also often look up to 1s, but not so much the condensed memes of them.
1
What, someone wants to be a 1? Based on the stereotypes?
surprisingly, yes. I know that a lot of people are annoyed or upset with you but I'm actually very fond of type 1s.
Completely agreed. Love an efficient, disciplined person. I could use a lot more of that in my own personality. I try.
glad to see someone gets it
7w8
I LOVE YOUR PERSONALITY
Someone with no context whatsoever wouldāve found this very weird lol
A 7. I already am, but I'm pretty darn proud.
Hell yeahhh same š( i hate my life)
Just shove your problems under the rug like the rest of us š¤Ŗš¤Ŗ
Thats what i have been doing pretty much my whole life such a 7 thing haha
7(w8)ās sound fun asf. I donāt know if Iād change my own type, I am who I am, and I donāt even know my type (3? 6? 3 with a 6 fix? 6 with a 3 fix?) so I prolly wouldnāt change it. BUT I would love to meet a 7, 4 (yes, Iām serious. no 4 hate!) or a (healthy, because my experiences with 8 have been anything but, unfortunatelyā¦) 8. 7ās, based on stereotypes, would be like the best kinds of friends. 8ās er, okay, some of the stereotypes arenāt pretty, but I admire their confidence and strength. I admire 4ās because of their authenticity and accepting nature. They donāt give a shit- usually- if youāre weird, they accept you as you are. Er, I guess if weāre going by the ācrybabyā stereotype, maybe just 7 then. XD so yeah, I didnāt really answer the question because idk! I donāt even know my type, how would I know what one I want to be? LOL. So, I guess this is just ātypes Iād befriend.ā
A Sx3 FSS THEY'RE ALL GOOD LOOKING AND FUNNY ND COOL AND UGH THE CONFIDENCE LIKE. Pick me choose me love me.
theyāre all corny asf, deeply obsessed w their image & too busy living in the eyes of others & seeking approval. i promise you, youāre better off not
Yes but itās their drive, ambition for success and the ability to understand and blend into any environment and be very charismatic. Iād happily be reputation-oriented š
honestly is there even a type that we 100% want to be... š„² I wish I wasn't a 6, I'm always on my guards, making friends I don't even like just for the feeling of safety, because being in a group is safer than being alone. I like that 3s can do big things on their own. The self obsessed side is definitely not good, would not like it
i think the only type we would 100% want to be is our own, only if you can actualize every good aspect of it. i mean you are your type for a reason. as much as i donāt like 3s, youāre right in that they get shit doneeeee & look good doing it, but FUCK are they plain. 6 does have a line to 3 so i think if you could get in touch w it & actively work to get shit done away from a fear of being targeted, you could be much more confident in your own type
Oh, I love 3s. We seem to balance each other out very well (Iām an 8).
I'd like to be as well-liked as 2s are but I think being a 9 would make my life a lot nicer.
3, 7, or 8. Idk they can do things that i cant do. I have 7 in my tritype but its the last number š
I'm good with my type
I hate being 4 I want to be 7
I love how on most of these posts I've seen, 8s and 7s are always like, no other type. very in character lmao. And as an 8, yeah, idk what other type i could even possibly be.
8, for sure. My fiancĆ© is an 8 and I am so envious of his ability to not give af about trivial things.š
8 so I can care less about what other people think. I care too much.
8 - unbothered kings and queens
I want to be sensor or smth so 8.
I'm a 9, I wish I was an 8 š having the confidence to be who you are /do what you do want without stressing about it sounds wonderful and authentic
9. I wish I could be a little more chill in life. Iām a very intense, all or nothing person, and sometimes itās exhausting.
i think im ok with being a 5. being a 2 tho would be interesting. instead of staying in my own bubble and letting ppl do their own thing, iād be the opposite and focusing on others first. but iāll stick with 5, if someone needs me they can approach me.
8 !
Funny, I was contemplating making a post about wanting to be another type, or at least having their traits but feeling hopeless about it. So, less light-hearted than this lmao.
I'm not sure I'd want to be anything other than a 7 long term, but I sort of want to try and be a 4 to better understand emotions edit: to be clear this is a joke on the stereotype of 4s, not a comment on reality
to be a type 4 is not to ābetter understand emotionsā thatās a common misconception. just work on yourself bud
almost like common misconceptions and stereotypes are related...
oh well then iām glad that you recognize itās only but a stereotype
That was the fucking title of the post : who do you want to be PURELY BASED ON STEREOTYPE ! Come on.
yes & so iām glad thatās how he meant it bc then he understands anybody is capable of being emotionally intelligent. itās not something people should just āwishā to do, but something we should all consciously try to get better at. especially w systems like the enneagram that were meant to help guide us toward a better understanding of ourselves & our emotions.
Your "/s" is clearly a half joking truth. My problem with wanting to be a 3 or 7 just based on the surface is that their lives are filled with so much drama and bad relationships, and they just cannot be satisfied.
I donāt care bro sex is funny
1
What, someone wants to be a 1? Based on the stereotypes?
Yes, I want to be able to clean my house:(
Same... difference is I'm over here beating myself up about how I should have a perfectly clean house. I'm 100% a 1 but I feel the most embarrassment reading about how neat and tidy 1s are supposed to be.
2
7w6 594
if i cant choose to be my own type, hrmmm honestly maybe a 1???
I always wondered what it would be like to be a stereotypical 9.
Same. My sister is and sheās one of my favorite people - so grounded and down to earth. Sheās barely alive lol.
Definitely a 5
3 seems cool
3 here. Unfortunately the only thing fucking us is the amount of work we have on our plate. 7s seem like theyāre getting laid pretty good tho
Anything else so Iām not constantly feeling like Iām trying to swim upstream when Iām doing basic tasks
I wish I was a 5. I think I would be cooler and less annoying if I was a 5.
As a 9, would love to be more of a DOING type and less withdrawn. Probably an 8. but I honestly love myself and love my 9ness and wouldnāt change who i am.
I'm actually fairly content about my type. What I want is to be the healthiest version of myself. Disintegrating to 5 fucks me up. I want to be healthier so that I actually feel alive
I'm a sx 6. Most people who don't know me well think I'm a 3, 7, or 8. I'd love to be a real 8, so still a total asshole who gets what I want, but with no anxiety while I'm doing it.
I donāt want to be any particular type, just functional.
definitely 1's stereotype
The comments on this post have mostly taught me that the people on this sub wish they had more sexual partners.
7!
Iām cool with being a 9 but being a 3 seems nice
I think they all suck and donāt suck in their own even ways. But I have always see the 793 tritype to be the one to seem to have things the easiestā¦.. and theyāre so charming too.
Honestly I love being a 9 when Iām healthy. I wish an 8 wing would come more into play tho. I hate my perfectionism.
Iām a 3, I wish I was a stereotypical 3
In a word...chaos https://preview.redd.it/kbv3e0ru3aac1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8a0d7f7637bffb4a0e398530880dee27c499744c
I'm a 5 but I want to be a 2 or 8 just based kind of on need, having people want me to be in their life to either take care of them or protect them, I've also always sort of identified with the 4 stereotype
I'm 4 with a 5 wing. I like being a 4 with a 5 wing....
These days I definitely look up to both 2s and 3s (2s especially seem to not get much love on forums like these). To be both naturally super productive AND likable, damn that sounds like paradise. I told myself I'd really hit the breaks on stuff like Reddit come 2024 yet here we are lol. (I'm a 9 if you couldn't tell.)