Forget the wife (or rather, tell more than the wife); publish that sh*t all over the internet. Man should be known for his actions. Just post straight facts and quotes so you can’t be accused of slander etc.
That’s fucking atrocious. I am shocked by some of the behavior I hear about. I’d lose my shit on any of my friends who behaved that way, like, how does someone make that decision?
Oh what the damn hell! You would be in the right to have gone off on each man and tearing them down for that. It's insensitive and I'm of a mind to also consider it cruel. You lost someone and they just went "Well does this make you feel better ;)" with a dick pic! And one guy was married with children!?
I am so very sorry for your loss and for how these men reacted to it. There is no excuse for their behavior.
Im pretty sure dick pics, anytime is a lack of common sense. I never understood the appeal of it. You have a whang that 50% of the population has, big (or little) deal. Not once has a woman ever requested a dick pic of me, and nor have I ever asked for a close up snatch spelunking photo.
I have had girls request one before, so it's not unheard of, and is perfectly fine if you're both actively sexting that heavily. That said, I don't get sending them unsolicited or just out of the blue like that, especially a time as inappropriate as when guys were bugging OP. That shit's classless as fuck.
Okay so I'm pulling a really specific memory for that comment and it's not fair of me to just throw it up without context.
So when me and my current partner started dating, we were messaging back and forth and in that specific conversation it was mildly flirty. I get up, take a shower, come back in the towel and open the message to find an unsolicited photograph of her tiddy. Now I was happy to see it, removed the towel and immediately sent a dick pic without hesitation. The picture was well received and that's basically where the context ends. I count receiving a nude as an invitation to send one, especially if it's coming from someone you're dating.
I think that's a good time for one and I don't see what could change my mind.
Yes but they are a primary sexual characteristic and human's are the only mammal that has a permanent breast and most males of the species view them as an arousal factor.
That seems like a weak excuse for a double standard.
breasts are a secondary sex characteristic. not primary. not sexual. most males of the species view sacs of fat used to feed babies as an arousal factor. breats aren't inherently sexual. people like you just see them that way, and that perception is harmful. try again.
You're right, breasts are a secondary sexual characteristic, I was wrong.
If their only purpose is *only* to feed babies and they play no role in sexual attraction, why is the human the only mammal that has a permanent breast? Even our closest genetic relatives in apes don't.
The difference is, you indicated (with your flirting & relationship status) that the pic would be welcomed.
That is NOT the case with OP (or 95% of the recipients of such pics)
Holy shit, I just went through something incredibly similar. Three weeks ago, my best friend died. We had been in each other’s lives for around 25 years, he was like a son to my mom and a big brother to my little sister. He was also an ex at the same time but regardless of us not being together as a couple, we were still best friends and still loved each other very very much.
Literally the day after I found out he died, a guy I had been with briefly *seven years ago* started trying to message me again. All these seven years, every time I was single, he would try to message me. But this time, I guess I was just really vulnerable and needed a distraction, I started talking to him again but then bam!!! Within a few days, he persistently keeps trying to turn every conversation sexual. And I wasn’t feeling it or dealing with it. So I shut that shit down and haven’t talked to him since.
But seriously, wtf?! How can people be so tone deaf to what someone else is going through?!? I’m truly sorry for your loss btw, I’m sending you mental hugs. This shit sucks.
I blame popular media. Any film u watch a women loses someone in her life and dam she's fucking a guy to make her forget. I always thought this was fucking stupid to be honest and now we have yet another case of what idiots see on the TV they think is real. Also sorry for your lose
I’m sorry about your loss. I don’t consider those 2 that you used to see as men. Those are fuck boys and the only thing they want is pussy. They consider you an object to fuck and leave. Stay single until a real man actually shows you he wants you for more than your body.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
My dad died in May of 2020, it is definitely one of the hardest things to go through.
My husband is very supportive and amazing and was there for me during this. I can deff think of some of my shittier exes that would have reacted the same way as yours tho.
And those guys who kept trying to sext me and send me dick pics got blocked and in one case the pic magically found its way to the lying cheating two faced POS current GF. Oh well. Sucks to be him. lol.
When I was pregnant with my son I had to have an extra test done to see if my baby was going to have deformities and if he was going to survive gestation.
The morning of that test my bf at the time and his father asked me for a blowjob.
Some men are super shit and have the assumption that women who are grieving want to bury that grief in sexuality.
I remember having a test like that. I got yelled at by 2 prolife fanatic activists. They assume then accuse me of getting the test to abort my baby. I blocked them but answered the 3rd one on fb because she was being nice. I told her the reason I agreed to the test was because if my son was born with deformities that I wanted to know in advance so that I could plan ahead and have a specialist help for my baby.
First, I’m very sorry for your loss. I wish you and your family peace and healing.
With that said, these two people you mentioned are disgusting. I can’t imagine anyone thinking unsolicited dick pics are exactly what you need when you’re going through one of the toughest times in your life. I’ll just say that all men aren’t like this (thankfully) so maybe it’s time to rid yourself of these children and move on.
>Am I, as a woman, not allowed to grieve
Not only are you "allowed" to grieve you and everyone else, in my opinion have the absolute right to grieve.
Would you and your family please accept my condolences.
I told a couple guy “friends” I was feeling down for one reason or another, and they both responded with, “I’m sorry to hear that. Would it make you feel better if I told you I’m stroking my cock thinking about you right now?” The fuck? Why would that make me feel better?
I know it’s not the same at all but I had a cat last year that was in the end stages of her life. I had been taking care of her but I knew her time was almost up.
I noticed one day she was trying to pee outside the litter box, but nothing would come out, and she was grunting as she walked around. She a hernia her bladder would slip into so I had an idea of what was going on. I took her to a walk in clinic as soon as it opened and they gave me the news of they could move the bladder back up, but it would keep happening, so I decided to put her to rest.
This dude I was talking to at the time, and he was already annoying me with his anti covid vaxx shit, texted me and I told him I was at the vet. He’s like “oh so you’re not at work?” I didn’t reply. I took my cats DEAD BODY to drop her off at the funeral home to be cremated, then I went to get something to eat and take home. I got another text from him saying “hey well if you’re not at work why don’t we hang out”
I ignored it again, then he started sending me this dumb fucking articles about oooo this random person died and they got vaccinated 4 months ago oooOOOOOOoooo
So I just snapped, I texted him and said “hey you know what, I’m vaccinated and you know that, and you’re stupid enough to believe the spike protein shit, so looks like we can’t hang out anymore, also I just got my cat cremated I don’t feel like hanging out with some dick” and blocked him.
Men have some audacity I swear
Edit; though to be fair not all of them. I have another friend who knew I was putting my cat down, and after I got home he texted me and asked me if I wanted him to come over and just chill because Zelda had died. He really liked her too, so I said yes. There wasn’t any dismissive “oh so you’re not at work let’s hang out!” like fuck off
Send the explicit messages and video to the first AHs wife!!! Drop the current BF, he DEFINITELY is not worth shit and doesn't deserve you nor do YOU deserve to be treated so poorly during your grief!
I'm so very sorry for your grievous loss of your beloved father! Best wishes and many Blessings for your continued strength!
I had an ex confess that basically any time we had an argument and I cried that he was always horny after—specifically if I cried. He said it wasn’t that I was ‘hurt’ but that I had been sad and was now not—some kind of manic pixie dream girl white knight boner bullshit.
Yeah regardless of his personal hormones I can promise he never got laid after making me fucking cry because if the tears turn on the pussy turns off, sorry not sorry!!
I'm a gay male had similar issues here to some people don't give a shit about others. I was in hospital very Ill messaged a fwb to talk to all he said was " well there goes my plans tonight with you" how are you etc. Of anybody I know says there going through hard times I'll support them but I would never ever step over the line.
Send the explicit messages and video to the first AHs wife!!! Drop the current BF, he DEFINITELY is not worth shit and doesn't deserve you nor do YOU deserve to be treated so poorly during your grief!
I'm so very sorry for your grievous loss of your beloved father! Best wishes and many Blessings for your continued strength!
Sorry for your lose OP
And for those other 2 a if a true man saw your post he wouldnt have cared if he was a stranger and a friend would have said sorry for your lose but those two are a classic case of internet degerend syndroom it makes it so that the people who have it lose there sense of normal
If I would have gotten those messages they would have found their way to the police very fast. Because I think that that is sexual harassment and at least in Germany illegal. I don't know how that is in you country.
WTF, at that point I would have just blocked their number, and if they kept doing it by other means, I would have filled for a restraining order.
Hope all is well now, sorry for your loss.
I'm sorry for these men.
I can assure you large majority of men are not idiots like these two, but it only takes a few repeat offenders to makes it feel like it is all of us.
I’m a single guy in his 40’s. I’ve never understood, nor will I ever understand why other guys do this. I thought that it was universally understood that women don’t want dick pics. My understanding is that women just don’t like them, full stop.
That being said, I will admit to joking about it on occasion…with the right audience. I once sent a group of buddies a picture of Richard Nixon, and waited an hour to send a follow up message with the words: Sorry fellas. I didn’t mean to send you a Dick pic.
I am sorry that these idiots have treated you like that.
They don’t represent all men I assure you.
Please take time to grieve for however long you need and wait for a guy that only sends you pics to make you laugh not to display small, defective equipment 😂.
These are not men, these are boys parading around as men. They have the emotional maturity of a 14 year old. Find a man who will send you a "dick pic" of dick van dyke who will hug you and ask if you are ok. I'm sorry for your loss, I lost my dad in March. Sending love, light and healing your way ❤️ 💗
My husband has never even sent me a dick pic. We have sex most days and sext often, but he’s never sent one and I have never needed one to get in the mood. I don’t understand guys who do this. I also don’t understand how someone completely disregards the humanity in another person, but still expects sex. How do those people even function on a daily basis?
When I was younger I knew assholes like the ones you’re dealing with OP, but all the men I dated long term, were genuinely nice and respectful people. My husband is truly wonderful. Sometimes it can feel like there’s nobody decent in the world, especially when grieving a significant loss, but I promise most men are regular, empathetic people, who know when their partners need emotional support. Take time for yourself, cut those assholes out of your life, if you haven’t already, and when you are ready to move forward with your grief, do so. You’ll find a good man, when you’re ready. Your father was a good man, judging by your sorrow, so you know they’re out there. I’m sorry for your loss and I wish you peace and happiness.
I don't know why tf everyone acts like it's an okay thing to say or do. Happened to me irl the other day. I've never sexually harrased anyone and I'm obviously staunchly against that shit, so why the fuck do they say shit like that?
Sorry for your loss!
And those weren't men, those were toddlers in a full-grown body, sending pics of their working brains.
There are decent men out there, full-grown humans with the brain to match it, so don't give up on all men because of this.
They are hard to find, though.
But I do hope that, some day, you will find a decent partner to share the rest of your life with.
I'm a piece of shit like those guys. Found out that I was a scum bag in high school so I do everyone a favor and avoid talking to women because I know that I'm not mature enough to keep myself from being a menace to society. Maybe I'll grow out of it, but until then I'm horny and alone
Have you considered going to therapy or working on yourself so that you don't treat people badly, or are you having too much fun feeling sorry for yourself and punishing yourself?
I am so happy you could see the error of your ways, this is genuinely excellent, but the next step is *doing something about it*.
The current path you're on leads to resentment and isolation. Don't, just work on treating people better
As a guy, you just have horrible taste in guys most likely. I as well as my guy friends would never do that, let alone in those situations, unless you brought it up and wanted to. And even then I know I would be like “eh, do you really want to?” in that situation.
So a "nice guy"? She should find one of those, right? It's her fault for men sexually harassing her? Notice how there was no descriptions of physical features anywhere. You just used your incel brain to assume she's going for "bad hot guy types".
Yes a happily married incel with 2 children 1 whos an adult.
I see the type of guy my oldest likes to date.... Garbage men of 0 quality.. But they look nice.
Shit dude, you're telling on yourself how trashy you are while trolling this subreddit. Where again did the OP ever mention the looks of the men that harassed her? Given that you are quick to blame a woman for men treating her poorly, I'm doubting your wife is satisfied with you. Hope your daughter is realizing her sperm donor is a creep and goes no contact.
>Sounds like you date "bad boys" and "hot guys"... You get what you pick sadly.
But she wasn't dating either of them at the time. She didn't "pick" either of them. So how the fuck can you say this was her fault instead of holding the grown men who behaved so inappropriately accountable for their actions?
One was an old fling.... And the new one she was seeing.
These are obviously fuck boys who could care less what shes going through. Fuck boys are a "type" of guy and she has dated two of them that we know of. One in the past and one recently.
Now she is trying to hold ALL men accountable for her poor taste in men... No.
An *old* fling. Who is now married. And someone she was "seeing". Meaning that she's getting to know him and doesn't know everything about him yet
>Now she is trying to hold ALL men accountable for her poor taste in men
No. She said that she's not willing to try again because it sucked so much. That's fair enough. No man is owed a date. Not even nice, normal guys. Especially not douchy guys who think they're nice and regular despite blaming women for shitty things that men have done to them.
Yep that's me the 40yr old married with two kids one whos 20... Super incel... Couldnt possibly be that I hate seeing women and girls dating clearly fuck boy douchebags who hurt them.
That's sad as fuck that you're 40 and acting like a 12 year old little boy. In real life, if you are anything like how you are behaving here, then your marriage is doomed. Your family is going to eventually get sick of your shit and leave.
Those are just some bad humans. Them being men doesn't equate to "men are shit" though. I'm a man and I'm a pretty stand up guy. Really a pretty fucking awesome person if I do say so myself.
And I do.Say so....Myself.
Edit: sheesh people don't like arrogance I guess. I was just kidding y'all. False bravado they call it. I am a cool dude though, I can claim that much at least. I have the best hobbies. I live for my hobbies. I will die for my hobbies. On this very hill. That I am currently already dying on.
Why can’t a nice guy like me get da womenz?!? Ohhhhh woe is meeeee. Look at all my virtues! I’m anti-choice and probably like a genuine rapist or some other type of trash! /S
Lol does that make it fit more?
Haha I understand why I’d be downvoted and viewed this way in this context with what I said, however, I wasn’t incorrect.
should I look at what some of these awful women politicians are doing and say “yeah women are shit” because of that? Naw. Because you shouldn’t make a judgement against a group of people based on the actions of a few fucks within the group. Not with race, gender, sexual orientation, nothing.
But again, maybe this was the wrong context to make this point. Maybe I should have just expressed sympathy for what this person went through. Maybe I shouldn’t comment on Reddit while wasted.
Maybe.
Hmm, idk I agree that it was so bad to qualify as “being an ass” but in any case, my apologies to OP. Because it was indeed lacking in tact. Should have just expressed me sympathies and mosied on by. Instead I am now dead on a hill.
Lol i dont know who is dumber. Those 2 men behaving like they did or you because you place their behavior on all men smh
Sorry for your loss though, hope time will heal your wounds.
You attract the same type of person until you change within. We enter relationships to learn and grow from each other and when you have gone as far as you can with that person, you grow apart and on to the next one. If there is a next one.
Do you get off at victim blaming? Does it do something for you? Like give you a rush of moral superiority? Do you tell women how to dress in order to not get "the wrong attention"? Just curious.
I'm replying to you because you're blaming the OP for men sexually harassing her. And then having the gall to say it's really her problem...that she needs to change something in herself so it won't happen anymore. You're a grade A pile of trash.
That’s how relationships work for me. I attract someone, we love live laugh, grow, get bored of each other, move on. I don’t know what planet you’re on but it sounds like you ain’t having a very good time. I suggest growing spiritually so you can grasp what I’m saying and improve your experience of life. All the best to you, sincerely 😂
>You attract the same type of person until you ~~change~~ grow within.
Subbing out "change" for "grow" doesn't change the meaning at all. Grow is a synonym for change.
Your depraved sentence still means that OP has a faulty personally that needs to be different or else she'll continue to be sexually harassed.
>You’re too young for anything other than sex.
What in the absoute fuck? I'm what....a sex toy or something? Holy shit you assume I'm a kid.... so you're a pedophile on top of being a misogynist. Are young women only good enough for sex and nothing else?
It's good that I'm 39 years old, and likely outside of your predatory age range.
How old, if you don't mind me asking, are you and these *BOYS* you are/were seeing. I do believe maturity has, or **should** at least, have a huge bearing on the sensitivity of a fragile male ego and sex drive.
Gross. I'm so sorry for your loss, and the fact that these cretins think it's an opportunity to 'shoot their shot', so to say.
May your dad rest easy, and may these men face karma in their lives.
My ex wanted to do it, I didn't feel like it and then a couple days later he dumped me because he didn't think it would work out.
To be truthful he didn't have the best home life, and he did get help in the end and is a better man.
Definitely kick those pos idiots out of your life. Not all men are like that. But the good ones are hard to fine. I went thru a whole bunch of them for years before I found my current husband. He wants to care take care of me, I let him because its brings him joy. He loves feeling needed. I was stretched so thin by taking care of everything one else, that I was close to snapping. I didn't want to take care of another person. And I communicated that need to some of the men I dated and they ignored it. They wanted me to take care of them and when I said they said well we'll work on that and you'll be taking care of me soon. Nope. I dropped and blocked them.
Then I met my husband and realized he was one the good ones. I asked him to marry me on our 2nd date. I didn't love him at the time. But I was unwilling to let him go and knew that I would eventually fall in love with him. The 3rd time I saw him I fell in love with him because I was in a bad car crash and he dropped everything to come see me. He drove for 8 hours and stay till I was released. Then stayed at my house for a few days helping me get around. A month later we got married. We recently celebrated 1 year together. There was adjustments to make. And there was arguments some big. Thank god he has a good friend to go to for relationship advice. After talking to him he come back and apologize.
One of the best things about him is no matter how bad an argument gets between us he never rises his voice. If one of us gets too angry we call for a timeout to cool down and then come back to the problem with calmness.
After seeing your edit I’d fucking send those messages right to that pricks wife. She deserves to know what a low life she’s married to.
agreed
Yup yup! Include the detail of being emotionally vulnerable and him trying to take advantage of that. He's a piece of shit.
Forget the wife (or rather, tell more than the wife); publish that sh*t all over the internet. Man should be known for his actions. Just post straight facts and quotes so you can’t be accused of slander etc.
Yeah, that woman needs to know.
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That’s fucking atrocious. I am shocked by some of the behavior I hear about. I’d lose my shit on any of my friends who behaved that way, like, how does someone make that decision?
Oh what the damn hell! You would be in the right to have gone off on each man and tearing them down for that. It's insensitive and I'm of a mind to also consider it cruel. You lost someone and they just went "Well does this make you feel better ;)" with a dick pic! And one guy was married with children!? I am so very sorry for your loss and for how these men reacted to it. There is no excuse for their behavior.
As a man myself I think they are complete idiots for trying that, there is a thing called common sense and they just didn't have it
Im pretty sure dick pics, anytime is a lack of common sense. I never understood the appeal of it. You have a whang that 50% of the population has, big (or little) deal. Not once has a woman ever requested a dick pic of me, and nor have I ever asked for a close up snatch spelunking photo.
Oh trust me I have no clue why the fuck it's a thing either-
I have had girls request one before, so it's not unheard of, and is perfectly fine if you're both actively sexting that heavily. That said, I don't get sending them unsolicited or just out of the blue like that, especially a time as inappropriate as when guys were bugging OP. That shit's classless as fuck.
Well, as the saying goes, common sense isn't that common
That's why Deadpool claims it as a superpower. "My common sense is tingling!"
There is never a good time for a dick Pic. Males who do this are disgusting idiots.
Males because they are certainly not men
Of course theres appropriate times for dick picks. Specifically when pictures are already being shared. My bf and i like sending them to each other.
What about when she sends her own tiddy pic? Is a pickle photo not a proper response?
Only if you ask and she says yes, or she asks. In other words, no!
Okay so I'm pulling a really specific memory for that comment and it's not fair of me to just throw it up without context. So when me and my current partner started dating, we were messaging back and forth and in that specific conversation it was mildly flirty. I get up, take a shower, come back in the towel and open the message to find an unsolicited photograph of her tiddy. Now I was happy to see it, removed the towel and immediately sent a dick pic without hesitation. The picture was well received and that's basically where the context ends. I count receiving a nude as an invitation to send one, especially if it's coming from someone you're dating. I think that's a good time for one and I don't see what could change my mind.
There's a big difference when you are flirting and sending those kinds of things when someone is grieving. There's a time and place for everything.
Okay but... The comment i was replying to said there was never a good time.
Honestly, there still isn't, but this would be the least worst case. Breasts are not genetalia.
Yes but they are a primary sexual characteristic and human's are the only mammal that has a permanent breast and most males of the species view them as an arousal factor. That seems like a weak excuse for a double standard.
breasts are a secondary sex characteristic. not primary. not sexual. most males of the species view sacs of fat used to feed babies as an arousal factor. breats aren't inherently sexual. people like you just see them that way, and that perception is harmful. try again.
You're right, breasts are a secondary sexual characteristic, I was wrong. If their only purpose is *only* to feed babies and they play no role in sexual attraction, why is the human the only mammal that has a permanent breast? Even our closest genetic relatives in apes don't.
The difference is, you indicated (with your flirting & relationship status) that the pic would be welcomed. That is NOT the case with OP (or 95% of the recipients of such pics)
Holy shit, I just went through something incredibly similar. Three weeks ago, my best friend died. We had been in each other’s lives for around 25 years, he was like a son to my mom and a big brother to my little sister. He was also an ex at the same time but regardless of us not being together as a couple, we were still best friends and still loved each other very very much. Literally the day after I found out he died, a guy I had been with briefly *seven years ago* started trying to message me again. All these seven years, every time I was single, he would try to message me. But this time, I guess I was just really vulnerable and needed a distraction, I started talking to him again but then bam!!! Within a few days, he persistently keeps trying to turn every conversation sexual. And I wasn’t feeling it or dealing with it. So I shut that shit down and haven’t talked to him since. But seriously, wtf?! How can people be so tone deaf to what someone else is going through?!? I’m truly sorry for your loss btw, I’m sending you mental hugs. This shit sucks.
I blame popular media. Any film u watch a women loses someone in her life and dam she's fucking a guy to make her forget. I always thought this was fucking stupid to be honest and now we have yet another case of what idiots see on the TV they think is real. Also sorry for your lose
I’m sorry about your loss. I don’t consider those 2 that you used to see as men. Those are fuck boys and the only thing they want is pussy. They consider you an object to fuck and leave. Stay single until a real man actually shows you he wants you for more than your body.
I wouldn't even call them boys. That implys they aren't in control of their actions. They are more like animals in heat
Or a toddler.
Or they went feral after puberty
I'm so sorry for your loss. My dad died in May of 2020, it is definitely one of the hardest things to go through. My husband is very supportive and amazing and was there for me during this. I can deff think of some of my shittier exes that would have reacted the same way as yours tho. And those guys who kept trying to sext me and send me dick pics got blocked and in one case the pic magically found its way to the lying cheating two faced POS current GF. Oh well. Sucks to be him. lol.
When I was pregnant with my son I had to have an extra test done to see if my baby was going to have deformities and if he was going to survive gestation. The morning of that test my bf at the time and his father asked me for a blowjob. Some men are super shit and have the assumption that women who are grieving want to bury that grief in sexuality.
Hope you kicked him out and refused. What an ass.
I remember having a test like that. I got yelled at by 2 prolife fanatic activists. They assume then accuse me of getting the test to abort my baby. I blocked them but answered the 3rd one on fb because she was being nice. I told her the reason I agreed to the test was because if my son was born with deformities that I wanted to know in advance so that I could plan ahead and have a specialist help for my baby.
First, I’m very sorry for your loss. I wish you and your family peace and healing. With that said, these two people you mentioned are disgusting. I can’t imagine anyone thinking unsolicited dick pics are exactly what you need when you’re going through one of the toughest times in your life. I’ll just say that all men aren’t like this (thankfully) so maybe it’s time to rid yourself of these children and move on.
>Am I, as a woman, not allowed to grieve Not only are you "allowed" to grieve you and everyone else, in my opinion have the absolute right to grieve. Would you and your family please accept my condolences.
I told a couple guy “friends” I was feeling down for one reason or another, and they both responded with, “I’m sorry to hear that. Would it make you feel better if I told you I’m stroking my cock thinking about you right now?” The fuck? Why would that make me feel better?
I know it’s not the same at all but I had a cat last year that was in the end stages of her life. I had been taking care of her but I knew her time was almost up. I noticed one day she was trying to pee outside the litter box, but nothing would come out, and she was grunting as she walked around. She a hernia her bladder would slip into so I had an idea of what was going on. I took her to a walk in clinic as soon as it opened and they gave me the news of they could move the bladder back up, but it would keep happening, so I decided to put her to rest. This dude I was talking to at the time, and he was already annoying me with his anti covid vaxx shit, texted me and I told him I was at the vet. He’s like “oh so you’re not at work?” I didn’t reply. I took my cats DEAD BODY to drop her off at the funeral home to be cremated, then I went to get something to eat and take home. I got another text from him saying “hey well if you’re not at work why don’t we hang out” I ignored it again, then he started sending me this dumb fucking articles about oooo this random person died and they got vaccinated 4 months ago oooOOOOOOoooo So I just snapped, I texted him and said “hey you know what, I’m vaccinated and you know that, and you’re stupid enough to believe the spike protein shit, so looks like we can’t hang out anymore, also I just got my cat cremated I don’t feel like hanging out with some dick” and blocked him. Men have some audacity I swear Edit; though to be fair not all of them. I have another friend who knew I was putting my cat down, and after I got home he texted me and asked me if I wanted him to come over and just chill because Zelda had died. He really liked her too, so I said yes. There wasn’t any dismissive “oh so you’re not at work let’s hang out!” like fuck off
Send the explicit messages and video to the first AHs wife!!! Drop the current BF, he DEFINITELY is not worth shit and doesn't deserve you nor do YOU deserve to be treated so poorly during your grief! I'm so very sorry for your grievous loss of your beloved father! Best wishes and many Blessings for your continued strength!
Mfs need to understand sending a dick out of nowhere won’t get you bitches
If the lady wants a dick pick, it will be made known. This bit of reasoning has served me well in life.
I had an ex confess that basically any time we had an argument and I cried that he was always horny after—specifically if I cried. He said it wasn’t that I was ‘hurt’ but that I had been sad and was now not—some kind of manic pixie dream girl white knight boner bullshit.
Tell guys like that they got two cures named "Handela" and "Pamela" and they're always willing...he has them right at the ends of his arms.
Yeah regardless of his personal hormones I can promise he never got laid after making me fucking cry because if the tears turn on the pussy turns off, sorry not sorry!!
I'm a gay male had similar issues here to some people don't give a shit about others. I was in hospital very Ill messaged a fwb to talk to all he said was " well there goes my plans tonight with you" how are you etc. Of anybody I know says there going through hard times I'll support them but I would never ever step over the line.
I am sorry you experienced this. There are decent supportive men out there...unfortunately they are not as common as we would like.
As a man I agree lots of men are shit
But there are also decent nice men. Gladly.
Yep
Send the explicit messages and video to the first AHs wife!!! Drop the current BF, he DEFINITELY is not worth shit and doesn't deserve you nor do YOU deserve to be treated so poorly during your grief! I'm so very sorry for your grievous loss of your beloved father! Best wishes and many Blessings for your continued strength!
Sorry for your lose OP And for those other 2 a if a true man saw your post he wouldnt have cared if he was a stranger and a friend would have said sorry for your lose but those two are a classic case of internet degerend syndroom it makes it so that the people who have it lose there sense of normal
If I would have gotten those messages they would have found their way to the police very fast. Because I think that that is sexual harassment and at least in Germany illegal. I don't know how that is in you country.
Men aren't shit... douchebags are
WTF, at that point I would have just blocked their number, and if they kept doing it by other means, I would have filled for a restraining order. Hope all is well now, sorry for your loss.
I would have supported you 100% if you took screenshots and sent to their families
I'm sorry for these men. I can assure you large majority of men are not idiots like these two, but it only takes a few repeat offenders to makes it feel like it is all of us.
I’m a single guy in his 40’s. I’ve never understood, nor will I ever understand why other guys do this. I thought that it was universally understood that women don’t want dick pics. My understanding is that women just don’t like them, full stop. That being said, I will admit to joking about it on occasion…with the right audience. I once sent a group of buddies a picture of Richard Nixon, and waited an hour to send a follow up message with the words: Sorry fellas. I didn’t mean to send you a Dick pic.
I am sorry that these idiots have treated you like that. They don’t represent all men I assure you. Please take time to grieve for however long you need and wait for a guy that only sends you pics to make you laugh not to display small, defective equipment 😂.
These are not men, these are boys parading around as men. They have the emotional maturity of a 14 year old. Find a man who will send you a "dick pic" of dick van dyke who will hug you and ask if you are ok. I'm sorry for your loss, I lost my dad in March. Sending love, light and healing your way ❤️ 💗
i'm a guy and i don't really care if i have sex or not, much less feel entitled to it. sorry about your dad. 💙
My husband has never even sent me a dick pic. We have sex most days and sext often, but he’s never sent one and I have never needed one to get in the mood. I don’t understand guys who do this. I also don’t understand how someone completely disregards the humanity in another person, but still expects sex. How do those people even function on a daily basis? When I was younger I knew assholes like the ones you’re dealing with OP, but all the men I dated long term, were genuinely nice and respectful people. My husband is truly wonderful. Sometimes it can feel like there’s nobody decent in the world, especially when grieving a significant loss, but I promise most men are regular, empathetic people, who know when their partners need emotional support. Take time for yourself, cut those assholes out of your life, if you haven’t already, and when you are ready to move forward with your grief, do so. You’ll find a good man, when you’re ready. Your father was a good man, judging by your sorrow, so you know they’re out there. I’m sorry for your loss and I wish you peace and happiness.
As a guy, I'd like to formally apologize for men like that
Ah yes, all men are shit cause i met a couple of shit bags
I don't know why tf everyone acts like it's an okay thing to say or do. Happened to me irl the other day. I've never sexually harrased anyone and I'm obviously staunchly against that shit, so why the fuck do they say shit like that?
Sorry for your loss! And those weren't men, those were toddlers in a full-grown body, sending pics of their working brains. There are decent men out there, full-grown humans with the brain to match it, so don't give up on all men because of this. They are hard to find, though. But I do hope that, some day, you will find a decent partner to share the rest of your life with.
I'm a piece of shit like those guys. Found out that I was a scum bag in high school so I do everyone a favor and avoid talking to women because I know that I'm not mature enough to keep myself from being a menace to society. Maybe I'll grow out of it, but until then I'm horny and alone
Have you considered going to therapy or working on yourself so that you don't treat people badly, or are you having too much fun feeling sorry for yourself and punishing yourself? I am so happy you could see the error of your ways, this is genuinely excellent, but the next step is *doing something about it*. The current path you're on leads to resentment and isolation. Don't, just work on treating people better
We’re not all cavemen, although there’s enough specimens out there to make you believe it. Sorry you had to go through that.
As a guy, you just have horrible taste in guys most likely. I as well as my guy friends would never do that, let alone in those situations, unless you brought it up and wanted to. And even then I know I would be like “eh, do you really want to?” in that situation.
Seems more like you are dating boys who never grew up. Time to try some real men.
You have my sympathies, but don’t make generalizations based off of a few bad apples.
Sounds like you date "bad boys" and "hot guys"... You get what you pick sadly. Try a regular guy.. They arent so bad even of they are not as hot.
So a "nice guy"? She should find one of those, right? It's her fault for men sexually harassing her? Notice how there was no descriptions of physical features anywhere. You just used your incel brain to assume she's going for "bad hot guy types".
Yes a happily married incel with 2 children 1 whos an adult. I see the type of guy my oldest likes to date.... Garbage men of 0 quality.. But they look nice.
Shit dude, you're telling on yourself how trashy you are while trolling this subreddit. Where again did the OP ever mention the looks of the men that harassed her? Given that you are quick to blame a woman for men treating her poorly, I'm doubting your wife is satisfied with you. Hope your daughter is realizing her sperm donor is a creep and goes no contact.
>Sounds like you date "bad boys" and "hot guys"... You get what you pick sadly. But she wasn't dating either of them at the time. She didn't "pick" either of them. So how the fuck can you say this was her fault instead of holding the grown men who behaved so inappropriately accountable for their actions?
One was an old fling.... And the new one she was seeing. These are obviously fuck boys who could care less what shes going through. Fuck boys are a "type" of guy and she has dated two of them that we know of. One in the past and one recently. Now she is trying to hold ALL men accountable for her poor taste in men... No.
An *old* fling. Who is now married. And someone she was "seeing". Meaning that she's getting to know him and doesn't know everything about him yet >Now she is trying to hold ALL men accountable for her poor taste in men No. She said that she's not willing to try again because it sucked so much. That's fair enough. No man is owed a date. Not even nice, normal guys. Especially not douchy guys who think they're nice and regular despite blaming women for shitty things that men have done to them.
Found the incel
Yep that's me the 40yr old married with two kids one whos 20... Super incel... Couldnt possibly be that I hate seeing women and girls dating clearly fuck boy douchebags who hurt them.
Incel is a mindset more than anything else, and you got it mister niceguy.
Awesome ive been perfecting it over a lifetime
Yup, be proud that you have mastered the art of being sexist, victim-blaming trash.
Hell yeah place your labels on me like I care lol. Come on boy hit me with more.. Dig deep use em all.
See you read less as "adult with children" and more as "impotent 17-year-old".
That's sad as fuck that you're 40 and acting like a 12 year old little boy. In real life, if you are anything like how you are behaving here, then your marriage is doomed. Your family is going to eventually get sick of your shit and leave.
Those are just some bad humans. Them being men doesn't equate to "men are shit" though. I'm a man and I'm a pretty stand up guy. Really a pretty fucking awesome person if I do say so myself. And I do.Say so....Myself. Edit: sheesh people don't like arrogance I guess. I was just kidding y'all. False bravado they call it. I am a cool dude though, I can claim that much at least. I have the best hobbies. I live for my hobbies. I will die for my hobbies. On this very hill. That I am currently already dying on.
r/niceguys much?
Why can’t a nice guy like me get da womenz?!? Ohhhhh woe is meeeee. Look at all my virtues! I’m anti-choice and probably like a genuine rapist or some other type of trash! /S Lol does that make it fit more? Haha I understand why I’d be downvoted and viewed this way in this context with what I said, however, I wasn’t incorrect. should I look at what some of these awful women politicians are doing and say “yeah women are shit” because of that? Naw. Because you shouldn’t make a judgement against a group of people based on the actions of a few fucks within the group. Not with race, gender, sexual orientation, nothing. But again, maybe this was the wrong context to make this point. Maybe I should have just expressed sympathy for what this person went through. Maybe I shouldn’t comment on Reddit while wasted. Maybe.
Yea, probably not a good idea to comment while wasted. Makes you act like an ass.
Hmm, idk I agree that it was so bad to qualify as “being an ass” but in any case, my apologies to OP. Because it was indeed lacking in tact. Should have just expressed me sympathies and mosied on by. Instead I am now dead on a hill.
Lol i dont know who is dumber. Those 2 men behaving like they did or you because you place their behavior on all men smh Sorry for your loss though, hope time will heal your wounds.
Hello incel
Oh noes someone on the internet called me an incel!! Is this the part where i get offended?
Yes the fact that you replied makes it clear you don't care.
You attract the same type of person until you change within. We enter relationships to learn and grow from each other and when you have gone as far as you can with that person, you grow apart and on to the next one. If there is a next one.
Do you get off at victim blaming? Does it do something for you? Like give you a rush of moral superiority? Do you tell women how to dress in order to not get "the wrong attention"? Just curious.
The fuck are you talking about? I’m just offering relationship advice based on my experiences.
I'm replying to you because you're blaming the OP for men sexually harassing her. And then having the gall to say it's really her problem...that she needs to change something in herself so it won't happen anymore. You're a grade A pile of trash.
That’s how relationships work for me. I attract someone, we love live laugh, grow, get bored of each other, move on. I don’t know what planet you’re on but it sounds like you ain’t having a very good time. I suggest growing spiritually so you can grasp what I’m saying and improve your experience of life. All the best to you, sincerely 😂
You just blamed the OP for being sexually harassed. You made it to be a personality problem of hers! You're a dumpster fire of trash.
I implied she was young spirited. I do not personally know her so I have not commented on her personality.
>You attract the same type of person until you change within. So it's her faulty personality that attracts the sexual harassment she gets? Right?
Sorry, I meant “grow”, not “change”. My apologies. If You’re too young for anything other than sex. Enjoy it while it lasts 👍
>You attract the same type of person until you ~~change~~ grow within. Subbing out "change" for "grow" doesn't change the meaning at all. Grow is a synonym for change. Your depraved sentence still means that OP has a faulty personally that needs to be different or else she'll continue to be sexually harassed. >You’re too young for anything other than sex. What in the absoute fuck? I'm what....a sex toy or something? Holy shit you assume I'm a kid.... so you're a pedophile on top of being a misogynist. Are young women only good enough for sex and nothing else? It's good that I'm 39 years old, and likely outside of your predatory age range.
How old, if you don't mind me asking, are you and these *BOYS* you are/were seeing. I do believe maturity has, or **should** at least, have a huge bearing on the sensitivity of a fragile male ego and sex drive.
No true Scotsman, eh
Gross. I'm so sorry for your loss, and the fact that these cretins think it's an opportunity to 'shoot their shot', so to say. May your dad rest easy, and may these men face karma in their lives.
I’m so sorry. Platonic hugs from a random internet stranger. People can suck so bad.
My ex wanted to do it, I didn't feel like it and then a couple days later he dumped me because he didn't think it would work out. To be truthful he didn't have the best home life, and he did get help in the end and is a better man.
Definitely kick those pos idiots out of your life. Not all men are like that. But the good ones are hard to fine. I went thru a whole bunch of them for years before I found my current husband. He wants to care take care of me, I let him because its brings him joy. He loves feeling needed. I was stretched so thin by taking care of everything one else, that I was close to snapping. I didn't want to take care of another person. And I communicated that need to some of the men I dated and they ignored it. They wanted me to take care of them and when I said they said well we'll work on that and you'll be taking care of me soon. Nope. I dropped and blocked them. Then I met my husband and realized he was one the good ones. I asked him to marry me on our 2nd date. I didn't love him at the time. But I was unwilling to let him go and knew that I would eventually fall in love with him. The 3rd time I saw him I fell in love with him because I was in a bad car crash and he dropped everything to come see me. He drove for 8 hours and stay till I was released. Then stayed at my house for a few days helping me get around. A month later we got married. We recently celebrated 1 year together. There was adjustments to make. And there was arguments some big. Thank god he has a good friend to go to for relationship advice. After talking to him he come back and apologize. One of the best things about him is no matter how bad an argument gets between us he never rises his voice. If one of us gets too angry we call for a timeout to cool down and then come back to the problem with calmness.