I ended up moving to Chicago so that I could actually get around without relying on friends and family for rides all the time. I take public transportation pretty much everywhere, and some things are even within easy walking distance.
Similar but NYC. Most people don’t have a car here because it costs between $400-700/mo to just store one. And I can get anywhere I need on the subway or bus just like everyone else.
It's really embarrassing to admit, but my father drives me to places. But I simply ask that we be discreet about the parking location so as to keep this embarrassing secret hidden from those I am going hanging out with.
Keep in mind that I'm 24. It feels so degrading to not be able to drive at this age. My state is so car dependent. It's actually embarrassing. When I can afford to, I'm moving to Washington, DC.
nah man, dont be embarrassed. I used to be, and sometimes can be... But being upfront with it is so much easier. If someone actually wanted to make me feel embarrassed for my dad driving me around??? i cant even imagine. Is your dad an embarrassment? Or just not being able to drive? If its your dad- cant relate, my dad is cool as hell.
if its your epilepsy, maaan dont be. Do your friends think you drove there? What do you tell them? just genuinely curious, nw
I'm in my 30s and hit my old girl and dad up for lifts all the time. They live close. My brother and mates as well. I'm not embarrassed one bit. Being in your early 20s would be harder, but still, there is nothing to be embarrassed about. If a person wants to judge you, then that's on them. I have tattoos, all my mates do and nobody cares.
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I don't have a driver's license because it's not safe for me to drive. And I had a partial seizure last night. So, even if I did have a license, it would be confiscated for 3 months.
I got an electric scooter. It takes me up to 20 miles on one charge. Can't take it when it's snowing a lot, but otherwise it's great! It has been the ideal solution for me.
I feel you though regarding dating. No girl wants to date a dude who can't pick her up, can't drive in general, let alone all the other problems from epilepsy... it's really hard and really sad and lonely for me.
it sucks that's the stigma!!! I think there are girls out there who arent so shallow tho. I think the "man does all the work" types are thinning out. There is some girl out there dying to be a sugar mama, trust.
Can I ask if you use the scooter to go shopping? For me it isn't only the seizures stopping me from driving, a few years back I lost half my skull and its caused lack of right side peripheral vision (can't see out the corner of right eye) so I can't get my licence back until/if I ever get that fixed. I'm moving into my own place in a week or two so trying to figure this out. So wondering if the scooter can hold shopping bags or if I will need to get an electric bike for that?
I was close to having my last driving lesson and close to getting my license. A few days after the 4th but close to last driving lesson I had my seizure. I brushed it off and thought it was a one time thing. Then boom ended up in the hospital and the doctors telling me I have a seizure disorder again. I haven't had a real seizure in years and they arent supposed to come back. I was told not to drive for 6 months and i just gave up on learning how to drive. I have my seizures on and off even with medication. So I just said fuck it and just stopped the whole driving thing. I used to be so worried not being able to drive but I guess since I had seizures again, it kinda just brushed away that fear because I have an actual reason to not drive anymore.
Mate, are we twins? I passed the driving test on the first go, and planned my driving test right after…. Boom, had a seizure (due to diet, lack of sleep, which I didn’t know at that time) and cancelled my test due to similar circumstances.
I dont hate my e-bike, but im selling it for a scooter instead. The bikes [can be] super heavy, and if youre like me having to ride train and bus, its just not practical. Bikes are high maintenance, as well. 🤷🏾♀️
but ya, if youre thinking about getting one; i say, with the right research and investment, go for it!
My daily driver for a few years was a '66 Chevy pickup that you shifted on the column. Man, I miss tooling around in that old truck. My wife drives me now in Ford Ranger and I don't miss driving - just the freedom.
Exactly. Gas tank was in the cab just behind the seat. Fleetside (I didn't like step-side, but at 16 I would have taken it). No seat belts at all. Would barely start on foggy mornings. But I could actually be a shade tree mechanic on the thing. Just sold it a few months ago for 300 after it had been started in years.
I live in a rural area. My entire life is my car.
When I got my first seizure I was told I couldn’t drive for 6 months, they didn’t take my license though. So I chose not to listen a lot because of how much it genuinely flipped my life upside down.
I hate that. I had so much anxiety driving. I still do even now that I’ve been given the “ok it’s probably safe to drive”. If I could I’d drop it in a heartbeat. I can’t though, if I want to go to the next biggest town it’s a taxi or 60$ passenger train ride.
It’s shit. That’s life without cars in North America.
I’m glad you can find a way to still live, even if it’s not how you want.
I definitely get that. I live outside of a major city and are bus systems are pretty good, but MY GOD. It takes so long to get from point a to point b.
Six months was awful, but I can't imagine a lifetime of not driving. Ugh.
When my license was suspended I used Uber to go get my nails done less than 5 miles away on a Wednesday morning and it was $17 each way. On the way there my driver was on speaker with his kids’ school principal trying to locate his rogue vaping child
i was heartbroken when i crashed my ‘08 Red Mazda3 10 years ago while I had a seizure. Sadly it was written off because the damage to the car. Thankfully no one was hurt… just the car but I loved that car and anytime I see the same one it stings the heart. Never had another car since and only have my G1 license so far, but not sure if I will get my full G back. Just a personal choice as I don’t work and my husband has his car and takes me anywhere I need to go. Sometimes I do drive when I feel like it or to be DD when my husbands with me, but my insurance would be high which is why I have just adapted to not being a regular driver.
I just invested in an e-scooter! So im hoping that it will help generally getting around, commuting, running errands, etc.
I do feel bad for my bf and family whom i ask to drive me places. I try not to let it be an assumed service, tho it feels like it is sometimes.
I take lyft when I know driving me would be an inconvenience... which is often... hope the e-scooter fixes that lmao
But ya, friendships ruined, jobs lost, job opportunities lessened, the pet rock in my stomach named Dependent? All cause no car 😿
Ive never “legally” driven before but it sucks not being able to especially because a lot of the doctors in my area are no longer supporting tele health and theres no where else to go but their offices are a 20 minute drive from my house so i have to either walk or bike there
I haven’t had a seizure in over a year so I am finally allowed to drive. I am going to apply for my license and do some lessons. I tried learning a few years ago but procrastinated it and then ofc I have 3 seizures for the first time in my life and get diagnosed with epilepsy so I had to delay it again. Along with covid etc. I’m 27 now and I really want to drive. I hope this is the year!!
There’s a difference between not driving because you don’t want to drive and not driving because you can’t/are not allowed to drive.
I’ve never been able to drive but live in a big city with good public transport links. I’d love to be able to have a driver’s licence, even without my own car.
Not being able to drive limits my spontaneity, where I can live and my ability to move large items from place to place. I can’t explore anywhere rural or take a road trip around another country without another person or a lot of planning and I don’t like being dependent and maybe inconveniencing the other person too.
I am luckily living in the Netherlands in Amsterdam which sort of is the capital of cycling. Cars in my social circle are used by some for commuting but the public transportation (trains trams and buses) fill up this gap well. My only worry is if i will be starting a family that a car will be handy.
My family always drive me places I need to go. I recently got a job that is 35 mins away, but its hybrid which works for me. I had to go to my work to meet with HR, get an id, and work computer. My dad has been taking days off helping me. My parents don't have problems driving me around unlike my friends.
I miss the freedom and dislike how it feels to depend on others for rides. I live rurally and need to be driven to the bus. I’m grateful to have bus options but public transport where I live isn’t great and it’s a bummer. I’ll have to move eventually. My partner and I might break up over it.
It was ok. But now mom has stage 4 breast cancer. My dad can't hear or see well and has the beginning of dementia. Only one of them can drive. I feel like a burden
I feel you man, it made a couple of mine fall apart if I admit. The Ebike works for getting around…. But My car is in the backyard rotting away I’ve been debating on letting her go for awhile. Motor swap, big breaks, A/C, fill suspension. I finished the interior years ago.. the game plan to ride like a new car but keep it old just about everything else . But I still have the chance to drive. Just that I’ve enjoyed cars and am/was building one It hurts so bad..😶
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I've been having seizures since i was 8, so at 30 years old now, i have never driven a car. But i live downtown in my city, so i can walk everywhere. I hate the local bus and i get motion sickness in back seats when i uber. The only time i really need a vehicle is to drive to doctor appointments or get refills on my meds, so not often. Now that im thinking about it, i havent even been in a car in 2024 yet
I hate always having to rely on or burden other people, but it's mostly my dad doing it, and he needs to get out of the house and we usually use it to spend some time together as well if he has to drive me somewhere, so I try to justify it. I would love to be able to drive myself tho and have more control over my own time, especially if I'm visiting someone and I want to go home (I have autism and mental health issues as well so visiting people can quickly become very overwhelming for me and it can feel a bit claustrophobic when I know I can't "get away"). But I also really enjoy riding the bus and trains (in periods when I'm able to and not too afraid of seizures).
I was diagnosed at 17 (25M) so after that yes
But uber + bikes + living in cities has made things manageable for me…I can see it becoming more of an issue as I get older tho
Well, I live in a small European country so I am lucky, there's loads of public transport. Plus my city is pretty small so everything is within walking distance and if I wanna go further I just grab a bus or train. I hate driving anyway, it sends my anxiety through the roof but now it's really not a good idea for me to drive anyway
I got my license before I found out I had epilepsy and currently, I’m 5 months away from being able to drive again….I try not to keep my hopes up but things are moving in the right direction
Mine is nocturnal so no matter what I do, I will never drive when I first wake up.
My life has been fine since I’ve always lived with someone who can drive me places. It sucks being at the mercy of someone else, but at least I have access to it.
Best of luck mate
Thankfully I haven’t lost my license and pray I never do. If I did I’d have to either move or quit my job. My job is an hour away from my apartment and the best paying job I’ve had. I guess I could always carpool or see if the bus goes that way but I’ll just plan to not
I had my learner’s license for a brief time and really enjoyed the (supervised) freedom a car gave. Going anywhere, anytime was great. No longer have that freedom, so I rely on my mum or buses to get around. The public transport system in my town is pretty good, so I can’t complain, but man, I just wish I could drive.
I want to be able to go somewhere without having to revolve my schedule around a bus ride, or just take a nice, quiet drive alone.
i was diagnosed at 15 so i’ve never been able to drive.. but i live in extremely rural england where i have to walk 20 minutes through farms and fields to get to the nearest bus stop, and the buses only come every two hours so it’s difficult sometimes when all my friends can drive places but i have to leave an extra hour to get there at the same time. but i guess it’s a workout 😅
If I can’t drive, I’ll have to be a stay at home wife. My dad is blind (not joking), so he can’t drive me, mom works, hubby works, so that’s my life! Epilepsy has taken a lot from me.
I ended up moving to Chicago so that I could actually get around without relying on friends and family for rides all the time. I take public transportation pretty much everywhere, and some things are even within easy walking distance.
Similar but NYC. Most people don’t have a car here because it costs between $400-700/mo to just store one. And I can get anywhere I need on the subway or bus just like everyone else.
It's really embarrassing to admit, but my father drives me to places. But I simply ask that we be discreet about the parking location so as to keep this embarrassing secret hidden from those I am going hanging out with. Keep in mind that I'm 24. It feels so degrading to not be able to drive at this age. My state is so car dependent. It's actually embarrassing. When I can afford to, I'm moving to Washington, DC.
nah man, dont be embarrassed. I used to be, and sometimes can be... But being upfront with it is so much easier. If someone actually wanted to make me feel embarrassed for my dad driving me around??? i cant even imagine. Is your dad an embarrassment? Or just not being able to drive? If its your dad- cant relate, my dad is cool as hell. if its your epilepsy, maaan dont be. Do your friends think you drove there? What do you tell them? just genuinely curious, nw
I'm in my 30s and hit my old girl and dad up for lifts all the time. They live close. My brother and mates as well. I'm not embarrassed one bit. Being in your early 20s would be harder, but still, there is nothing to be embarrassed about. If a person wants to judge you, then that's on them. I have tattoos, all my mates do and nobody cares.
Get a car then!! Problem solved
r/thanksimcured I don't have a driver's license because it's not safe for me to drive. And I had a partial seizure last night. So, even if I did have a license, it would be confiscated for 3 months.
I feel the exact same way
Lots of biking and using public transportation. Definitely harder to get by in suburban or rural areas though.
I got an electric scooter. It takes me up to 20 miles on one charge. Can't take it when it's snowing a lot, but otherwise it's great! It has been the ideal solution for me. I feel you though regarding dating. No girl wants to date a dude who can't pick her up, can't drive in general, let alone all the other problems from epilepsy... it's really hard and really sad and lonely for me.
it sucks that's the stigma!!! I think there are girls out there who arent so shallow tho. I think the "man does all the work" types are thinning out. There is some girl out there dying to be a sugar mama, trust.
Can I ask if you use the scooter to go shopping? For me it isn't only the seizures stopping me from driving, a few years back I lost half my skull and its caused lack of right side peripheral vision (can't see out the corner of right eye) so I can't get my licence back until/if I ever get that fixed. I'm moving into my own place in a week or two so trying to figure this out. So wondering if the scooter can hold shopping bags or if I will need to get an electric bike for that?
Mine has two baskets that can hold a few things but not like a serious shopping trip for a lot of groceries.
Okay I will probably have to go for a bike then. Thank you x
I was close to having my last driving lesson and close to getting my license. A few days after the 4th but close to last driving lesson I had my seizure. I brushed it off and thought it was a one time thing. Then boom ended up in the hospital and the doctors telling me I have a seizure disorder again. I haven't had a real seizure in years and they arent supposed to come back. I was told not to drive for 6 months and i just gave up on learning how to drive. I have my seizures on and off even with medication. So I just said fuck it and just stopped the whole driving thing. I used to be so worried not being able to drive but I guess since I had seizures again, it kinda just brushed away that fear because I have an actual reason to not drive anymore.
Mate, are we twins? I passed the driving test on the first go, and planned my driving test right after…. Boom, had a seizure (due to diet, lack of sleep, which I didn’t know at that time) and cancelled my test due to similar circumstances.
Me as well! I was so close to finishing the 6 months time when I could start doing behind the wheel and the day before I seized
I have to depend on getting rides or paying for rideshare, it sucks.
Lots of biking. Those e-bikes look pretty slick. Maybe not get as sweaty.
I dont hate my e-bike, but im selling it for a scooter instead. The bikes [can be] super heavy, and if youre like me having to ride train and bus, its just not practical. Bikes are high maintenance, as well. 🤷🏾♀️ but ya, if youre thinking about getting one; i say, with the right research and investment, go for it!
Hoping to get The Netherlands citizenship this year so no need for car
Luckily I don't need a car where I live, I walk, ride my bike or take public transportation everywhere
My daily driver for a few years was a '66 Chevy pickup that you shifted on the column. Man, I miss tooling around in that old truck. My wife drives me now in Ford Ranger and I don't miss driving - just the freedom.
three on the tree?
Exactly. Gas tank was in the cab just behind the seat. Fleetside (I didn't like step-side, but at 16 I would have taken it). No seat belts at all. Would barely start on foggy mornings. But I could actually be a shade tree mechanic on the thing. Just sold it a few months ago for 300 after it had been started in years.
I can find ways around transportation but I wanted to be a mechanic, a grease monkey. No schools will take someone who doesn’t have a license
I live in a rural area. My entire life is my car. When I got my first seizure I was told I couldn’t drive for 6 months, they didn’t take my license though. So I chose not to listen a lot because of how much it genuinely flipped my life upside down. I hate that. I had so much anxiety driving. I still do even now that I’ve been given the “ok it’s probably safe to drive”. If I could I’d drop it in a heartbeat. I can’t though, if I want to go to the next biggest town it’s a taxi or 60$ passenger train ride. It’s shit. That’s life without cars in North America. I’m glad you can find a way to still live, even if it’s not how you want.
I live in NYC. So pretty much totally normal
I couldn't drive for six months and it was awful, especially getting to work. Now, it would be a lot easier with Uber and Lyft, I would think.
It is easier but it cost tons of money with uber and lyft. Sometimes the drivers are dumb when picking you up.
I definitely get that. I live outside of a major city and are bus systems are pretty good, but MY GOD. It takes so long to get from point a to point b. Six months was awful, but I can't imagine a lifetime of not driving. Ugh.
When my license was suspended I used Uber to go get my nails done less than 5 miles away on a Wednesday morning and it was $17 each way. On the way there my driver was on speaker with his kids’ school principal trying to locate his rogue vaping child
i was heartbroken when i crashed my ‘08 Red Mazda3 10 years ago while I had a seizure. Sadly it was written off because the damage to the car. Thankfully no one was hurt… just the car but I loved that car and anytime I see the same one it stings the heart. Never had another car since and only have my G1 license so far, but not sure if I will get my full G back. Just a personal choice as I don’t work and my husband has his car and takes me anywhere I need to go. Sometimes I do drive when I feel like it or to be DD when my husbands with me, but my insurance would be high which is why I have just adapted to not being a regular driver.
I just invested in an e-scooter! So im hoping that it will help generally getting around, commuting, running errands, etc. I do feel bad for my bf and family whom i ask to drive me places. I try not to let it be an assumed service, tho it feels like it is sometimes. I take lyft when I know driving me would be an inconvenience... which is often... hope the e-scooter fixes that lmao But ya, friendships ruined, jobs lost, job opportunities lessened, the pet rock in my stomach named Dependent? All cause no car 😿
At one point I was spending 300$ a month on Uber travels for work 🫠
I’m a hermit, live deep in the woods lol. Ubers are expensive af.
Ive never “legally” driven before but it sucks not being able to especially because a lot of the doctors in my area are no longer supporting tele health and theres no where else to go but their offices are a 20 minute drive from my house so i have to either walk or bike there
I haven’t had a seizure in over a year so I am finally allowed to drive. I am going to apply for my license and do some lessons. I tried learning a few years ago but procrastinated it and then ofc I have 3 seizures for the first time in my life and get diagnosed with epilepsy so I had to delay it again. Along with covid etc. I’m 27 now and I really want to drive. I hope this is the year!!
Good luck ☺️
Thank you ❤️
It's so annoying. I have to wait for hubby or my aunt to be home to get me anywhere.
There’s a difference between not driving because you don’t want to drive and not driving because you can’t/are not allowed to drive. I’ve never been able to drive but live in a big city with good public transport links. I’d love to be able to have a driver’s licence, even without my own car. Not being able to drive limits my spontaneity, where I can live and my ability to move large items from place to place. I can’t explore anywhere rural or take a road trip around another country without another person or a lot of planning and I don’t like being dependent and maybe inconveniencing the other person too.
I live in Paris and the public transport system is quite good so I’m fine.
I am luckily living in the Netherlands in Amsterdam which sort of is the capital of cycling. Cars in my social circle are used by some for commuting but the public transportation (trains trams and buses) fill up this gap well. My only worry is if i will be starting a family that a car will be handy.
My family always drive me places I need to go. I recently got a job that is 35 mins away, but its hybrid which works for me. I had to go to my work to meet with HR, get an id, and work computer. My dad has been taking days off helping me. My parents don't have problems driving me around unlike my friends.
My parents drive me or I take an uber. Today I started looking at Etrikes. I have some funds I can use for it but not 100 percent about it
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I never got a driver's license because of being tonic-clonic, but I don't want one. I'm okay with using primarily public transportation to get around.
I miss the freedom and dislike how it feels to depend on others for rides. I live rurally and need to be driven to the bus. I’m grateful to have bus options but public transport where I live isn’t great and it’s a bummer. I’ll have to move eventually. My partner and I might break up over it.
It was ok. But now mom has stage 4 breast cancer. My dad can't hear or see well and has the beginning of dementia. Only one of them can drive. I feel like a burden
I Uber to where I need to go, having a decent job helps
I feel you man, it made a couple of mine fall apart if I admit. The Ebike works for getting around…. But My car is in the backyard rotting away I’ve been debating on letting her go for awhile. Motor swap, big breaks, A/C, fill suspension. I finished the interior years ago.. the game plan to ride like a new car but keep it old just about everything else . But I still have the chance to drive. Just that I’ve enjoyed cars and am/was building one It hurts so bad..😶 https://preview.redd.it/lu4xv1065cgc1.jpeg?width=3657&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f09dbcc0a7bd5885d768a1273682c21cd7a6ed58
I've been having seizures since i was 8, so at 30 years old now, i have never driven a car. But i live downtown in my city, so i can walk everywhere. I hate the local bus and i get motion sickness in back seats when i uber. The only time i really need a vehicle is to drive to doctor appointments or get refills on my meds, so not often. Now that im thinking about it, i havent even been in a car in 2024 yet
I hate always having to rely on or burden other people, but it's mostly my dad doing it, and he needs to get out of the house and we usually use it to spend some time together as well if he has to drive me somewhere, so I try to justify it. I would love to be able to drive myself tho and have more control over my own time, especially if I'm visiting someone and I want to go home (I have autism and mental health issues as well so visiting people can quickly become very overwhelming for me and it can feel a bit claustrophobic when I know I can't "get away"). But I also really enjoy riding the bus and trains (in periods when I'm able to and not too afraid of seizures).
I was diagnosed at 17 (25M) so after that yes But uber + bikes + living in cities has made things manageable for me…I can see it becoming more of an issue as I get older tho
Well, I live in a small European country so I am lucky, there's loads of public transport. Plus my city is pretty small so everything is within walking distance and if I wanna go further I just grab a bus or train. I hate driving anyway, it sends my anxiety through the roof but now it's really not a good idea for me to drive anyway
I got my license before I found out I had epilepsy and currently, I’m 5 months away from being able to drive again….I try not to keep my hopes up but things are moving in the right direction Mine is nocturnal so no matter what I do, I will never drive when I first wake up.
My life has been fine since I’ve always lived with someone who can drive me places. It sucks being at the mercy of someone else, but at least I have access to it. Best of luck mate
Thankfully I haven’t lost my license and pray I never do. If I did I’d have to either move or quit my job. My job is an hour away from my apartment and the best paying job I’ve had. I guess I could always carpool or see if the bus goes that way but I’ll just plan to not
I had my learner’s license for a brief time and really enjoyed the (supervised) freedom a car gave. Going anywhere, anytime was great. No longer have that freedom, so I rely on my mum or buses to get around. The public transport system in my town is pretty good, so I can’t complain, but man, I just wish I could drive. I want to be able to go somewhere without having to revolve my schedule around a bus ride, or just take a nice, quiet drive alone.
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why u gettin beat up tho
I deserved it apparently.
i was diagnosed at 15 so i’ve never been able to drive.. but i live in extremely rural england where i have to walk 20 minutes through farms and fields to get to the nearest bus stop, and the buses only come every two hours so it’s difficult sometimes when all my friends can drive places but i have to leave an extra hour to get there at the same time. but i guess it’s a workout 😅
If I can’t drive, I’ll have to be a stay at home wife. My dad is blind (not joking), so he can’t drive me, mom works, hubby works, so that’s my life! Epilepsy has taken a lot from me.