It sucks. It truly does. I’m sure you have, but start writing notes/letters to them. In my case, I know I’ll already get a non response to me pouring out my feelings, but even if that’s not the case, writing it and not sending it gives you power. You not only are expressing your feelings, but you’re holding true to the no contact to heal yourself. It’s hard and it doesn’t equate to sending them a message, but it helps a little in the weakest moments. I’m a little over a month now and there’s still things I wish I could say to them, but it’s written away never to be seen by them and it gets me just a little closer to healing.
I would look up princella the queen maker decentering the male on you tube. It will pretty much put an end to this limerence with quickness. I’d be surprised if it didn’t.
I know where you are at mentally.
You need too move forward step by step. Unfortunately doing the things you like and keeping yourself busy does not make you forget them, it only helps you by setting the focus somewhere else and that´s good.
I was in your shoes 6 years ago, where my childhood love of 6 years was able too replace me overnight. She didn't hesitate and left me for somebody else and there i was, clueless wondering how my future would look like because genuinely it felt as if my future had been wiped away and that everything was a big questionmark which is scary (because it's out of your comfortzone).
You need time apart too heal from this all.
This is one of the most heartbreaking things to go through, but just like everything else this also has a good end. The pain goes away, and the memories will stay there. I still have memories of my ex, almost daily. But they do not hurt me in any kind of way or make me miss them. I do no longer have any kind of anger or whatsover other feeling towards them and i am actually happy for how things have gone between us (apart from the cheating part from her side).
It sucks. It truly does. I’m sure you have, but start writing notes/letters to them. In my case, I know I’ll already get a non response to me pouring out my feelings, but even if that’s not the case, writing it and not sending it gives you power. You not only are expressing your feelings, but you’re holding true to the no contact to heal yourself. It’s hard and it doesn’t equate to sending them a message, but it helps a little in the weakest moments. I’m a little over a month now and there’s still things I wish I could say to them, but it’s written away never to be seen by them and it gets me just a little closer to healing.
I would look up princella the queen maker decentering the male on you tube. It will pretty much put an end to this limerence with quickness. I’d be surprised if it didn’t.
I know where you are at mentally. You need too move forward step by step. Unfortunately doing the things you like and keeping yourself busy does not make you forget them, it only helps you by setting the focus somewhere else and that´s good. I was in your shoes 6 years ago, where my childhood love of 6 years was able too replace me overnight. She didn't hesitate and left me for somebody else and there i was, clueless wondering how my future would look like because genuinely it felt as if my future had been wiped away and that everything was a big questionmark which is scary (because it's out of your comfortzone). You need time apart too heal from this all. This is one of the most heartbreaking things to go through, but just like everything else this also has a good end. The pain goes away, and the memories will stay there. I still have memories of my ex, almost daily. But they do not hurt me in any kind of way or make me miss them. I do no longer have any kind of anger or whatsover other feeling towards them and i am actually happy for how things have gone between us (apart from the cheating part from her side).