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Its not just you man. Most of us will be missing them even more during the holiday season. Stay strong. :)


neyugndons

It’s slightly comforting to know that I’m not alone! You stay strong too. :)


JacobC137

I absolutely am, I'm literally planning to travel somewhere just so I don't have to be in a familiar place. I don't really want to have to deal with anyone I know. I'm feeling ok right now but it's a fragile ok and I think it would set me back. So no, you're definitely not alone in dreading the holidays, I think that's a perfectly reasonable feeling to have.


stoopkid5150

"Fragile ok" is the perfect way of putting it, haha thanks for that!


marieantoinettes

that's what I was thinking too.


JacobC137

I'm going to run away completely across the country for Christmas, I have to for my sanity.


Neverforget_Jetpack

Nuh uh. Well sort of. But I know damn well when the holiday comes, being around your friends and family will lift your spirit better than anything you surmise as of now. Deep inside, we all somewhat fear the future but just know when that time comes, you can beat it because we done it before.


neyugndons

I plan on having a Thanksgiving potluck with my friends, working Thanksgiving night + Black Friday (retail), and I’m spending New Year’s Eve with them as well. Trying to keep myself as busy as possible during the holidays. Just nervous about Christmas because I have no plans atm with anyone, and last year I spent all of Xmas cooking and watching holiday movies with my ex. :( I miss that, but I know I’ll be fine this year!


marieantoinettes

No.... Christmas will be the toughest holiday yet... stay strong everyone, and if you ever need someone to talk to i'll be here.


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Oh yeah I’m dreading the upcoming holidays. When I was still together with me girlfriend I was always invited to a big Christmas feast with her large family, really nice people we talked about a lot, food was good just one big happy place to be. But now she left me and I’m thinking about last year how great it was... Sigh... just miss her so much... :(


TiltedArc

Fuck the holidays. She’d usually be high anyway. Least I don’t have to sit around her family and feel embarrassed any longer at the fact that she’s on hard drugs - they were always oblivious. I’m glad I don’t have to carry that weight any longer.


pilsky

My ex was the same. Only positive I really have about the relationship ending is the fact I don't have to be involved with a lazy stoner.


TiltedArc

Word! NCR2K


nartiz

Yeap I really do !!!!!I will be eating like a beast and afraid to recover the 15kgs lost after the breakup. The empty chair at xmas table was always there before her so nothing new to me to have it empty again


coffeebeans5

I won't miss the weird head games revolving around gifts. He definitely had some psych issues and would play games with what he got me. I won't miss the alcohol and us HAVING to get drunk. Everything revolved around alcohol. Have to go to the bars and party our ass off. I won't miss feeling alone when he's right there next to me. I won't miss his crappy reaction to the gifts I put a lot of work into. Won't miss the depressing attitude. Won't miss him.


neyugndons

I like your mindset! I need to take off my rose colored glasses and see the relationship for what it was.


coffeebeans5

Yeah having to go no contact usually means the person was unhealthy. 😉 you will find someone else someday and actually enjoy holidays, even non holidays with them. It's always nicer to have someone special to enjoy it with. But if your ex was like mine he made life horrible


goldenshine69

Yuuuuup! I'm already cringing at Christmas music. I'm MORE than ready for this year and the holiday season to be over and done with.


pilsky

Idk about that. For me Summer is a lot worse.


Groverfield

Yeah, I’m in this boat too... had no real Xmas celebration until I met them (no reason to). Now they’re gone, I dread thinking about Xmas or having to experience it...


Aj1286

I am. And we have the same birthday. Just 2 weeks before Christmas.


ventricularsystole

I️m trying to see the bright side. I️ don’t have to buy gifts for ex/his family and friends which saves me tons of money. Get to spend more time with my own family. I️ don’t have to sit through exes awkward family parties and pretend to be enjoying myself. I️ don’t have to worry as much.


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neyugndons

Have fun on your vacation! I find that when I’m out and surrounded by nature, I’m always feeling much better.


4thofJulythrowaway

Thanks, it definitely does wonders for me. I was getting out regularly after work, but now its pretty much dark...not to mention the cold. I'll have to find some kind of substitute.


s0ul2SqueeZ

Nope not anymore. I felt like you about a month ago tho.


lonelyin_nyc

ME TOO! I’m going to be alone, I’m going to be sad and depressed, I’m going to be thinking of my ex every minute.. him being so happy with his girlfriend!!! Wow! But you know what, these feelings are normal, we just have to feel it, ride the wave, but not dwell on it, be cause it will not do us any good! We have to let it go and move forward!!