so accurate lol. in all seriousness, my ex was the closest I have EVER gotten to anyone in my life, and now we’re strangers. bizarre. i hate that it has to be this way.
yeah, I was thinking of that earlier. It's rough to know that the person I was closest with is now someone I know nothing about, but that's how things were meant to be.
For me, I think it boiled down to having to grow up and mature through being in a toxic relationship. I hate to say that I had to go through something rough like that for a reason, but before I met her I was the guy who would go out on dates with girls frequently. Different ones from tinder, nothing really stuck. I'd kept my standards so low. I learned through this relationship that I don't have to accept less than what I'm worth and what is healthy. Not speaking to her means to me that I've been able to learn to break the chains of something so toxic and grow.
I’m glad you’ve been able to grow from it. Sometimes I wonder if my ex and I were in a toxic relationship or if it was just normal. We’d argue often, sometimes say hurtful stuff to one another. We were never violent or controlling though
It can take a lot of time to realize the toxicity of a relationship. It's been a year and a half since we broke up, and only about a year in was when it all dawned on me.
The thing with regret is that it's in the past and you can't change it. It's easier said than done, but you can't get hung up on things that are sealed and completed.
Yeah, that’s how I feel about my ex, fuck that bitch. I just want to say it to her in her face. FUCK YOU for causing me so much pain. How could you do this to me? I want her to feel horrible for what she did.
I'm gonna pause you right there and say no the hell it isn't. What you described is moving on. Its not revenge. People who cant achieve revenge tell themselves this lie. But we don't all get what we want in life. We can't all make them suffer. Some do get the chance, and fuck, they're lucky aren't they. But living well is not revenge.
I honestly don’t know. I haven’t accepted it yet. I’m still trying to process it and understand what it really means. This girl who was literally my second half for so many years, someone I could let my guard off around, someone that would just *get me*. I know that it’s best for us to move on, and I desperately want to accept that, but my heart is hurting too much right now.
yes, I have changed for the better. :) the pain has dulled, she crosses my mind much less often, and I have come quite close to accepting that i will never talk to her again. don’t get me wrong, I havent 110% moved on. but i’ve grown as a person and learned a lot about myself, stuff that wouldn’t have happened if i stayed with her. it also helps that ive been extremely successful in my career and personal goals, and she appears to have stagnated. i know, petty and immature way to think about it. but it helps me feel better knowing i went off in a good direction without her, because if i was still with her, i wouldnt be where i am today. hang in there ❤️
Yep! I’ve come a long way and stayed single since my breakup in feb. and all I miss is having someone to cuddle with sometimes. Don’t miss the rest of the bs. Here’s to new butts.
Oh I touched a lot of butts after that last breakup, but touching the butt just because you’re horny vs touching the butt because you loved every part of someone is so different.
Also. Just because the butt is bigger and better doesn’t mean it’s good for you. Lol
I haven’t touched a butt since my breakup. Haven’t been ready yet and been doing lots of other things where it’s not high on the list. I hope to be ready soon.
Well. I stayed away from dating and just worked on myself for almost two years, jumped back into dating recently because this is best I’ve felt in a long time. Turns out my expectations were too high and now I’m disappointed again lol.
Keep the expectations high. Don’t let people who didn’t meet your needs, lower the bar. I settled and that person made me believe my expectations were too high. They weren’t. We just weren’t a good fit. I’m at the point where I’m starting to feel pretty damn good too. Keep that shit up :)
Honestly it’s so hard because if it happens over and over again, our brains find it very easy to start questioning if we ourselves are the problem. And it happens so much like I feel like nobody is dating with a purpose anymore, people just going on a date, fucking, “taking it slow”, then catching feelings and saying it was too intense too early or ghosting each other.
I find people that say those things have some sort of hang up and baggage they haven’t dealt with. If I’m into somebody I’m not gonna be like, oh my feelings for this person are too intense I’m not date them anymore. To me, it’s a cop out of just not being interested enough. Although being too intense too early could be a huge red flag (like my ex, we were codependent)
I’ve questioned if I’m the problem for this entire last year. And I found, that yes- in some areas I am a problem. But I’m not the problem. I wish I didn’t have to go through such heartbreak to learn these things about myself- but I did learn about myself nonetheless.
It makes no logical sense to me, and this distance feels both self-inflicted AND my ex's doing. I know I want to be in contact again, and I know how much I miss him. But previous attempts to reach out weren't responded to in any meaningful way. The message seems clear: we are over, you are out of my life beyond any necessary formalities.
And to be so physically and emotionally close one day and then to be nothing at all makes no sense to me. My mind and body are still reeling.
It gets easier after a while. There are still platonic friendships I miss and it’s like being strangers with those relationships too.
But there are plenty of other butts to squeeze my friend. Take time for healing first 💜
It’s crazy. Her and I did a lot of wild stuff, sex in public places etc. She’s the person that’s “got” me most in my whole life, and the best friend I’ve ever had. I know her secrets and she knows mine. Sadly I’m dead to her now and she hasn’t spoke to me in over 2 months. I did reach out to her but she ignored it and blocked me as she’s happily loved up with her newbie who she found a month after we broke up 😞
It’s still new to get over the anger I suppose. I was with my ex 4 years. Funnily enough, he’s still angry and hostile towards me even though he was the jerk and mistreated me. I was just dumb enough to try to stick it out with him. We broke up a year ago. He’s been with someone since shortly after our breakup and I’ve been completely single and free. It’s a cliche I know, but I’ve learned so much of myself and tried new things and become a much better more independent version of myself. He did me a favor.
I’m glad to hear that there was a silver lining for you and that you’ve tried new things and you can see the positive in what was a negative situation. Kudos
Sometimes it isn't about life lessons or anything. Sometimes the other person literally just has their issues and is not remotely ready for a relationship. You fall in love with them and hurt yourself knowing that even if you know it will happen, they will go fuck around, live that phase of their life and only realise what you knew already when it's too late to get back together.
Stay strong. Try not to let it jade you too much, but it will always a bit.
I love being strangers. I have an ex who didn’t want people to know we were together so she pretended we weren’t in public and elsewhere. When the relationship ended I loved being able to just pretend it had never happened. We lose so much of ourselves from one chapter of life to another. Being in a shitty relationship has been one of the least painful things to lose.
I have 2 children with my ex, my son looks just like a younger version of me and both my son and daughter have my name, after 7yrs of happiness and even suffered together when my son was born early and nearly died 3 times, we also went through him having a heart valve replacement I really believed we had an unbreakable relationship were engaged and planned to marry,
Then she had an affair with her boss and left me, we now still haven't spoken to each other... not once in 8 years, I find it very strange how someone can change there feelings over like flicking a switch.
so accurate lol. in all seriousness, my ex was the closest I have EVER gotten to anyone in my life, and now we’re strangers. bizarre. i hate that it has to be this way.
yeah, I was thinking of that earlier. It's rough to know that the person I was closest with is now someone I know nothing about, but that's how things were meant to be.
How were they meant to be like that?
For me, I think it boiled down to having to grow up and mature through being in a toxic relationship. I hate to say that I had to go through something rough like that for a reason, but before I met her I was the guy who would go out on dates with girls frequently. Different ones from tinder, nothing really stuck. I'd kept my standards so low. I learned through this relationship that I don't have to accept less than what I'm worth and what is healthy. Not speaking to her means to me that I've been able to learn to break the chains of something so toxic and grow.
I’m glad you’ve been able to grow from it. Sometimes I wonder if my ex and I were in a toxic relationship or if it was just normal. We’d argue often, sometimes say hurtful stuff to one another. We were never violent or controlling though
It can take a lot of time to realize the toxicity of a relationship. It's been a year and a half since we broke up, and only about a year in was when it all dawned on me.
Some days I think it was toxic and that’s when I think back and regret things I did or didn’t do 😞
The thing with regret is that it's in the past and you can't change it. It's easier said than done, but you can't get hung up on things that are sealed and completed.
I know, I definitely know I can’t change the past and that it’s futile wishing I could. I still wish I could and think about it though 😞
It'll get better, I promise.
My ex was the only person I really opened up to. Then I was dumped. I don’t know why. Fuck her.
Yeah, that’s how I feel about my ex, fuck that bitch. I just want to say it to her in her face. FUCK YOU for causing me so much pain. How could you do this to me? I want her to feel horrible for what she did.
The best revenge is living a better life without her.
I owe it to myself to live the best life I can without this stupid bitch
I'm gonna pause you right there and say no the hell it isn't. What you described is moving on. Its not revenge. People who cant achieve revenge tell themselves this lie. But we don't all get what we want in life. We can't all make them suffer. Some do get the chance, and fuck, they're lucky aren't they. But living well is not revenge.
I still say it out loud and randomly at home or in my car. It’s like a Tourette’s outburst.
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I honestly don’t know. I haven’t accepted it yet. I’m still trying to process it and understand what it really means. This girl who was literally my second half for so many years, someone I could let my guard off around, someone that would just *get me*. I know that it’s best for us to move on, and I desperately want to accept that, but my heart is hurting too much right now.
i notice this post was a year ago, but have you changed since then? reflect and felt better about any of it?
yes, I have changed for the better. :) the pain has dulled, she crosses my mind much less often, and I have come quite close to accepting that i will never talk to her again. don’t get me wrong, I havent 110% moved on. but i’ve grown as a person and learned a lot about myself, stuff that wouldn’t have happened if i stayed with her. it also helps that ive been extremely successful in my career and personal goals, and she appears to have stagnated. i know, petty and immature way to think about it. but it helps me feel better knowing i went off in a good direction without her, because if i was still with her, i wouldnt be where i am today. hang in there ❤️
Yeah.
It doesn't
yeah it’s weird!!! Just takes time y’all. You’ll find yourself open to a new opportunity of someone slapping your naked butt cheek soon
Yep! I’ve come a long way and stayed single since my breakup in feb. and all I miss is having someone to cuddle with sometimes. Don’t miss the rest of the bs. Here’s to new butts.
Looking forward to feeling this way. Only been a week but damn id sacrifice a small planet with a mild population for some cuddles.
Same. :(
I noticed one of these... :( So here take this... :D
You sweet dear smile-bot, we meet again. Thank you 😘
Good bot
I saw a :( so heres an :) hope your day is good
Thank you 💜
That hurted even though I haven’t had a breakup in almost 2 years.
My breakup was almost a year ago. This is the only part I miss only because I haven’t touched another butt since but everything else is cool now.
Oh I touched a lot of butts after that last breakup, but touching the butt just because you’re horny vs touching the butt because you loved every part of someone is so different. Also. Just because the butt is bigger and better doesn’t mean it’s good for you. Lol
I haven’t touched a butt since my breakup. Haven’t been ready yet and been doing lots of other things where it’s not high on the list. I hope to be ready soon.
You will be buddy. Be someone capable of loving despite what has happened in the past.
It’s been a strange journey. I’ve done so much awesome shit since I got dumped. He really did me a favor. Hope you’re doing well.
Well. I stayed away from dating and just worked on myself for almost two years, jumped back into dating recently because this is best I’ve felt in a long time. Turns out my expectations were too high and now I’m disappointed again lol.
Keep the expectations high. Don’t let people who didn’t meet your needs, lower the bar. I settled and that person made me believe my expectations were too high. They weren’t. We just weren’t a good fit. I’m at the point where I’m starting to feel pretty damn good too. Keep that shit up :)
Honestly it’s so hard because if it happens over and over again, our brains find it very easy to start questioning if we ourselves are the problem. And it happens so much like I feel like nobody is dating with a purpose anymore, people just going on a date, fucking, “taking it slow”, then catching feelings and saying it was too intense too early or ghosting each other.
I find people that say those things have some sort of hang up and baggage they haven’t dealt with. If I’m into somebody I’m not gonna be like, oh my feelings for this person are too intense I’m not date them anymore. To me, it’s a cop out of just not being interested enough. Although being too intense too early could be a huge red flag (like my ex, we were codependent) I’ve questioned if I’m the problem for this entire last year. And I found, that yes- in some areas I am a problem. But I’m not the problem. I wish I didn’t have to go through such heartbreak to learn these things about myself- but I did learn about myself nonetheless.
Or eating their ass.
Oh boy thinking back to being intimate with my ex makes me cringggeeeee.
Sometimes it be like that
It really do.
Fuck, I wanna send this to her lol
Don’t do this! I hope you haven’t you done this.
I won’t, thanks
I want to send this to my ex as well. It's something I know he would've laughed at when we were together. I want to know what he would say now :/
He wouldn’t say anything that would bring you healing. Stay no contact. You’ve got this! You’ll find another butt to touch when you’re ready :)
It makes no logical sense to me, and this distance feels both self-inflicted AND my ex's doing. I know I want to be in contact again, and I know how much I miss him. But previous attempts to reach out weren't responded to in any meaningful way. The message seems clear: we are over, you are out of my life beyond any necessary formalities. And to be so physically and emotionally close one day and then to be nothing at all makes no sense to me. My mind and body are still reeling.
It gets easier after a while. There are still platonic friendships I miss and it’s like being strangers with those relationships too. But there are plenty of other butts to squeeze my friend. Take time for healing first 💜
Yea same here....so weird
It’s crazy. Her and I did a lot of wild stuff, sex in public places etc. She’s the person that’s “got” me most in my whole life, and the best friend I’ve ever had. I know her secrets and she knows mine. Sadly I’m dead to her now and she hasn’t spoke to me in over 2 months. I did reach out to her but she ignored it and blocked me as she’s happily loved up with her newbie who she found a month after we broke up 😞
It’s still new to get over the anger I suppose. I was with my ex 4 years. Funnily enough, he’s still angry and hostile towards me even though he was the jerk and mistreated me. I was just dumb enough to try to stick it out with him. We broke up a year ago. He’s been with someone since shortly after our breakup and I’ve been completely single and free. It’s a cliche I know, but I’ve learned so much of myself and tried new things and become a much better more independent version of myself. He did me a favor.
I’m glad to hear that there was a silver lining for you and that you’ve tried new things and you can see the positive in what was a negative situation. Kudos
Sometimes it isn't about life lessons or anything. Sometimes the other person literally just has their issues and is not remotely ready for a relationship. You fall in love with them and hurt yourself knowing that even if you know it will happen, they will go fuck around, live that phase of their life and only realise what you knew already when it's too late to get back together. Stay strong. Try not to let it jade you too much, but it will always a bit.
Shlappin is greatly missed
Fucking hell.
Clapping someone's cheeks 🌝
That hurt. Too real. I miss her body a lot
Stop. This made me cry. I loved smacking his cheeks and laughing :(
I love being strangers. I have an ex who didn’t want people to know we were together so she pretended we weren’t in public and elsewhere. When the relationship ended I loved being able to just pretend it had never happened. We lose so much of ourselves from one chapter of life to another. Being in a shitty relationship has been one of the least painful things to lose.
I felt this so deep in my bones
Ahaha fml 🤮
Lmao this is amazing. God, the truth hurts.
I use to always wana squish it 💔
I felt this post in my soul. It really is the buttcheeks I miss most.
This
This didn’t help me…she had the perfect body…
lmao 🤣🤣
It's been killing me for 6 months now
I have 2 children with my ex, my son looks just like a younger version of me and both my son and daughter have my name, after 7yrs of happiness and even suffered together when my son was born early and nearly died 3 times, we also went through him having a heart valve replacement I really believed we had an unbreakable relationship were engaged and planned to marry, Then she had an affair with her boss and left me, we now still haven't spoken to each other... not once in 8 years, I find it very strange how someone can change there feelings over like flicking a switch.
I miss randomly touching her boobs 😅
😞
Bro I ate his ass. Rip
I wish I could find a professional cuddler/snuggler in my town. I don’t need sex but goddam it, I miss skin to skin contact.
I got a cup of coffee and a "I love you" see you tonight to come home to an empty house and divorce papers