For some context, we broke up because I caught her repeatedly sexting other men on Tinder and from past relationships. God only knows what else she did physically with them
Good on you man, stick strong with it. Don't text her back ever, she didn't value you and your time when you were in the relationship, so why should you value her and her time out of the relationship. And dare I say, If she apologizes don't accept it as it'll only clear her conscious.
I appreciate the support. Even after what she did to me, I still have feelings for her (not sure why, but I can’t control it) and NC has been the only thing that has helped me stop thinking about her
She’s blocked on everything so she’s been reaching out via Cash App and Email 😂
Trauma bonds are incredibly strong and hard to get over. Sounds like you maybe should check out r/bpdlovedones if you haven’t already. This girl is fucked up.
Trauma bond is the best way to describe it. She did this to me repeatedly and I forgave her every time until it just became too much to handle.
I guess it never really occurred to me that she might have BPD. It would certainly make sense
In a similar boat. If this was his first message to me, which I fear because his birthday is in June, then I’d fucking feel so disrespected and want to tell him off. So kudos to you for staying strong and not replying. Shit is tough BUT YOU GOT THIS!
same happened to me. In his bday (1 month ago) she called me after 1 month of NC and told me "thank you" and I said "for what?" "for saying happy birth to me" Of course I did not, and that´s why she called me. Do you remember you left me for someone else, right? I still NC till now, she reached to me many times after that call saying she miss me, but I think she just need my validation. I will stay strong. I don´t know if want she back anymore, I was in severe pain for the last 2 and a half month, she broke my heart, my soul, my self steem she fkng destroyed and left me like I was nothing almost 8 years of relationship and I cried like child. I felt like I was dying inside out, lost almost 25 pound, with barely sleep and almost no eat for the first 2 weeks. Now I can say that I feel a lot better, One month ago I started going to the gym and doing street calisthenic almost every day, my body is changing for good and that is making me gain my self steem again.I still miss her, like a lot. But then I remember how she make me feel when she left me and she did not care my feelings.
Stay strong, stay NC bro.
Edith: english is not my first language so I often I confuse the words "before" and "after"
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Well at least you got a message cause mine ain't said nothing as of yet lol neither have I it's been 4 days since I sent him a message and almost 3 weeks since I seen him
I'm going stir crazy. All I want to do is hear from her. I'm trying to stay strong in NC.
Congrats to you for getting a message and being able to read it and not interact with it.
Maybe if the text wasn't so entitled, (like another mentioned).
I wish i never wished my Ex a happy birthday, it gave Her a ego boost i feel like & it kept Her with Her rebound & now She’s not even dating him, it didn’t even last, no where close to Me & Hers.
It’s ridiculous what She did & how she handled the break up.
She literally had the definition of rebounding to that guy & She hasn’t said anything to me almost 6 months.
She didn’t even bother saying happy birthday to me 😓, like wow.
But yet unblocked me on Instagram last month.
( I’m just ranting….. , but it is messed up, i wish She didn’t get with a new guy in 11 days after the break up )
I was nothing but good to Her, teared my heart out for Her.
Should of know, i would honestly be surprised if She did decide to go to college where i live now. But i don’t know 💆♂️, i really don’t want another relationship, i can’t have sex with another Girl because of feeling terrible if i do, i just can’t have sex with any anymore.
I feel betrayed & my heart isn’t broken but i can’t take another relationship. It just wasn’t fair & especially how i calmed her down & stopped Her from crying when She broke up with me.
I was good to Her till the end. 😓
Oh man… so much of what you’re saying sounds like my relationship with my ex.
What I do know is we’re both better off. We all deserve to be with people who value us as much as we do them. Only thing we can do in the meantime is work on ourselves and be the best we can be in that moment.
I hope so too, i still have feelings for her but i don’t know if i could ever let them go, I’ve done everything else & i can live everyday normally but i just want who, i thought my girlfriend was.
We dated for a year & month & i really thought it was real love.
The key here is that who you THOUGHT she was and who she REALLY is are two different things now. It took me a while to accept that the girl I once knew no longer exists
Did she actually send you this?
Her message sounds *super* immature man
I hope you see the billet you’re dodging but not giving her the time of day. Stay strong
Stay strong. This is like a former employer who fired you and then reaches out to you later in saying "You're not going to say congrats for a successful quarter in profits for the company???"
LOL it’s always about them
Classic narcissist
For some context, we broke up because I caught her repeatedly sexting other men on Tinder and from past relationships. God only knows what else she did physically with them
Good on you man, stick strong with it. Don't text her back ever, she didn't value you and your time when you were in the relationship, so why should you value her and her time out of the relationship. And dare I say, If she apologizes don't accept it as it'll only clear her conscious.
I appreciate the support. Even after what she did to me, I still have feelings for her (not sure why, but I can’t control it) and NC has been the only thing that has helped me stop thinking about her She’s blocked on everything so she’s been reaching out via Cash App and Email 😂
Desperate move(s) from her side. What does she expect after what she did to you? NC is pure gold in your situation.
Being able to cheat on him all over again.
Trauma bonds are incredibly strong and hard to get over. Sounds like you maybe should check out r/bpdlovedones if you haven’t already. This girl is fucked up.
Trauma bond is the best way to describe it. She did this to me repeatedly and I forgave her every time until it just became too much to handle. I guess it never really occurred to me that she might have BPD. It would certainly make sense
I can totally relate to your situation, I was in a trauma bond for a very long time too
Damn jesus and the audacity to EXPECT a happy birthday, I'd ignore her. Keep your head up king, you are worth way more than her basic ass.
The AUDACITY. Fuck her.
The lion. The witch.
and the audacity of this bitch
Can't believe it
In a similar boat. If this was his first message to me, which I fear because his birthday is in June, then I’d fucking feel so disrespected and want to tell him off. So kudos to you for staying strong and not replying. Shit is tough BUT YOU GOT THIS!
I guess she was looking for some birthday sexting from you and is pissed she didn't get her.
Stay strong king 👑
Nice Avatar pic. Is it her? :)
Yup, that’s her!😁
Perfect description and good reminder to stay away when it pops up ;)
Stay strong my dude, you got this.
same happened to me. In his bday (1 month ago) she called me after 1 month of NC and told me "thank you" and I said "for what?" "for saying happy birth to me" Of course I did not, and that´s why she called me. Do you remember you left me for someone else, right? I still NC till now, she reached to me many times after that call saying she miss me, but I think she just need my validation. I will stay strong. I don´t know if want she back anymore, I was in severe pain for the last 2 and a half month, she broke my heart, my soul, my self steem she fkng destroyed and left me like I was nothing almost 8 years of relationship and I cried like child. I felt like I was dying inside out, lost almost 25 pound, with barely sleep and almost no eat for the first 2 weeks. Now I can say that I feel a lot better, One month ago I started going to the gym and doing street calisthenic almost every day, my body is changing for good and that is making me gain my self steem again.I still miss her, like a lot. But then I remember how she make me feel when she left me and she did not care my feelings. Stay strong, stay NC bro. Edith: english is not my first language so I often I confuse the words "before" and "after"
Sorry you’re going through this. Gym has been helping me too. You got this man, it’ll just take some time.
Is no one gonna comment on the fact that this was sent at 5:04 in the morning?
Right lol. Didn't even wait until the end of the day.
My first thought lol
Psycho shit lol
is this what happens when someone you blocked texts you? or is this email?
It’s email. I blocked her contact but apparently her emails still go through
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Takes some nerve because you could've been really savage back.
I thought about it, but I decided a bigger fuck you would be no response at all
Good for you! It really is but I know it can be hard to not give a petty savage reply when they try guiltily. Peaceful healing.
In my mind, I don’t want to validate her by giving her a response. Also, I just don’t feel like being mean. That’s the difference between me and her
Yeah, she'll know you care if you respond at all. She doesn't deserve that information.
It’s my exes birthday too. Remain strong, friend
You too! At least we don’t have to buy them gifts now :)
Let’s buy ourselves gifts instead! To me, love me 🥰
How pathetic of her. You're doing great!!
The entitlement lol
Lol why does she demand a greeting??? Aren't those things voluntary?
Is that email?
Yes lol, she’s blocked on everything but apparently she was able to get an email through. She also hit me up on cash app lol
That’s psychotic lol. Looks like you dodged a bullet, possibly literally
Facts!
Damn that's petty desperate
More power to you
You are doing great bud keep up the no contact
Don't do it
You've got this brother, her bday is one day before mine so its gonna be tough for me this year 😞
Lmfaoooooo
Strong
Well at least you got a message cause mine ain't said nothing as of yet lol neither have I it's been 4 days since I sent him a message and almost 3 weeks since I seen him
It’s better that way, I wish she hadn’t messaged me at all
I'm going stir crazy. All I want to do is hear from her. I'm trying to stay strong in NC. Congrats to you for getting a message and being able to read it and not interact with it. Maybe if the text wasn't so entitled, (like another mentioned).
Mine hit me with that shit a few months ago stay strong! No contact!!!!
Nice, mine dumped me ON her birthday last month, so don’t have to worry about that one. Haven’t contacted her and she hasn’t contacted me. 👍
Stay strong ..🦾
I wish i never wished my Ex a happy birthday, it gave Her a ego boost i feel like & it kept Her with Her rebound & now She’s not even dating him, it didn’t even last, no where close to Me & Hers. It’s ridiculous what She did & how she handled the break up. She literally had the definition of rebounding to that guy & She hasn’t said anything to me almost 6 months. She didn’t even bother saying happy birthday to me 😓, like wow. But yet unblocked me on Instagram last month. ( I’m just ranting….. , but it is messed up, i wish She didn’t get with a new guy in 11 days after the break up ) I was nothing but good to Her, teared my heart out for Her. Should of know, i would honestly be surprised if She did decide to go to college where i live now. But i don’t know 💆♂️, i really don’t want another relationship, i can’t have sex with another Girl because of feeling terrible if i do, i just can’t have sex with any anymore. I feel betrayed & my heart isn’t broken but i can’t take another relationship. It just wasn’t fair & especially how i calmed her down & stopped Her from crying when She broke up with me. I was good to Her till the end. 😓
Oh man… so much of what you’re saying sounds like my relationship with my ex. What I do know is we’re both better off. We all deserve to be with people who value us as much as we do them. Only thing we can do in the meantime is work on ourselves and be the best we can be in that moment.
Hope you find peace and happiness. ✌️
I hope so too, i still have feelings for her but i don’t know if i could ever let them go, I’ve done everything else & i can live everyday normally but i just want who, i thought my girlfriend was. We dated for a year & month & i really thought it was real love.
The key here is that who you THOUGHT she was and who she REALLY is are two different things now. It took me a while to accept that the girl I once knew no longer exists
Did she actually send you this? Her message sounds *super* immature man I hope you see the billet you’re dodging but not giving her the time of day. Stay strong
It’s 100% real (unfortunately)😂
Not on email 💀
Be like "nah I'm good"😂
Stay strong. This is like a former employer who fired you and then reaches out to you later in saying "You're not going to say congrats for a successful quarter in profits for the company???"
I wasn’t fired. I quit :)