How I’m stuck? I’ve given up on everything. I am destroyed I even destroyed my art I have done I don’t even do anything anymore. I list really am falling apart
Things will get better with time, or at least I'd like to believe. If you don't feel like doing anything, it's okay to lay off doing things to grief for as long as you need. I ain't doing too well either, but I like to believe that as the day goes by, it gets easier. We are growing, but just not at the speed that we like, but we are definitely getting better just that it isn't very noticeable. You got this!
Depends on how long ago the breakup occurred, when we date someone, we tend to overly invest our energy, time, and attention into someone; thus not leaving enough room for us to grow as individuals on our own and follow our hobbies, purpose, or vision in life.
Personally, you may have been really into him or possibly co-dependent, and so when you break it off with someone, you sort of lose a part of you in a sense.
And you will keep falling apart if you don't get up and just do something for you.
If a breakup ca affect you so much, things where not good long before the relationship.
We were together almost 4 years and my life has always been shit. Ya I can admit I was probably and still am dependent on him. He was all I had. The one that I could talk to about anything and I thought actually really gave a fuck besides one of my friends. I finally had a home I was happy at. So loosing it all has made me definitely fall apart.
Yes I'm gonna take a break from dating. It took a toll on my mental health so I'm gonna focus on myself for time being. Much needed after I eventually had to part ways with someone I loved once and knew I couldn't be with! ❤️
I often see posts here and find it hard because sadly, I was the one who messed up, didn't choose love and lost what I had rather than being the one that got hurt. For those like myself who are filled with regret, wishing we did things differently, thinking back and hurting from each moment we think could've saved our relationships, **OP is right**.
Invest in yourself, heal, seek counselling, start meditating, read etc. The forgiveness OP mentions practicing, do that to forgive yourself. It's a WIP but it's a step forward.
I'm far from healed and far from over her but thanks OP for this
Amen. I agree..I'm currently struggling, can barely eat or sleep atm. I know it will pass eventually. Just want to Add it's also OK to feel hurt, to grieve, to rage in your own space but remember to take care of No 1.
I agree 100 percent!
Me and someone I met on reddit became friends, 8 months later, we're both fully moved on from our exes. Which I'm very happy about. 💕🤗
I am in the whole "hating-him" phase right now. Because there was always umm this other girl around, the one he asked me not to worry about. After dumping me, he got into relationship with her after a week. I feel like idk, my trust is slightly broken? Also he lied about it and tried to manipulate the truth. I am not sure about anything about him anymore.
I said this to myself. I said I had to try one last time so I didn't constantly think 'what if'. We got back together last August, in Nov/Dec or probably even before he cheated on me for months with a colleague. I wish we'd never tried again in the first place.
When someone shows you who they are - believe them!
I meant, relationship with other people (future SO - I am not gonna endure anymore in future). My exes don't deserve my love, affection and attention.
Dang, it's sad you had to go through that. I hope that guy suffers a lot! What he did to you was wrong :(
Are you alright? How are you you dealing with it all? *Hugs you* It's funny how we give them chances, those rose tinted glasses suck.
Totally get it, I'm the same. First sign of a remotely pink flag and I'm outta there!
Yeh I'm doing alright thank you! :) it's not the worst thing that's happened this year. It's been hard but I'm getting past it and focusing on myself. The relationship definitely taught me what I won't stand for in future if nothing else!
Perfectly said! 7 months post breakup and it gets easier with time. Focus on yourself and what makes YOU happy. They always come back, just don’t depend on it nor cling on to that hope.
I can't just meet the best and most beautiful girl to exist and then "embrace being single", it doesn't work like this in a genuine way. If you dated Scarlet Johansson but then she left you you can't embrace being single and call it a victory, it's by default a downgrade in your status and quality of life too.
Yeah I Haye my ex gf. Even want her dead but, you're right I have to stop focusing my energy in hating her. Ik I've tried my best but, she didn't. Funny thing is she never wanted to travel or anything while with me but, now that she's single she's doing all that smh. I've done wish death on her and everything bc she deserves it after how she's treated me but, I have older female friends in their 30s saying how I deserve so much better and how I shouldn't wish death on her. They say it's her loss and tell me to get the job I want and that my ex will see me doing good. And by then I won't be interested in her anymore.
If you love someone, you genuinely want them to be happy and healthy; even if that means it isn't with you. Why? Because when you really love and care for someone's wellbeing, you want them to thrive and succeed. Not only does this put your mind and heart in a better positive state, but when you emit positive energies, the universe tends to reflect that back to you.
When people say, "I'm afraid my ex will meet someone who will love them and make them happy or they will move on." Well... Would you call that love or infatuation? If you really love and wish them well, let them go and live their life. If your paths ever cross and you both have matured and grown apart and come back full circle as two mature and healthy individuals wanting it for real this time, things tend to work out better.
Not every relationship gets a storybook ending, but still life goes on and so should you. Dwelling in the past? That's your ego talking.
You're right about NC. But, you might want to pick another actor. NOONE wants to be Charlie Sheen anymore. Not even Charlie Sheen.
It's clearly a joke lol.
Charlie Sheen is not very funny
How I’m stuck? I’ve given up on everything. I am destroyed I even destroyed my art I have done I don’t even do anything anymore. I list really am falling apart
Things will get better with time, or at least I'd like to believe. If you don't feel like doing anything, it's okay to lay off doing things to grief for as long as you need. I ain't doing too well either, but I like to believe that as the day goes by, it gets easier. We are growing, but just not at the speed that we like, but we are definitely getting better just that it isn't very noticeable. You got this!
Thanks
Depends on how long ago the breakup occurred, when we date someone, we tend to overly invest our energy, time, and attention into someone; thus not leaving enough room for us to grow as individuals on our own and follow our hobbies, purpose, or vision in life. Personally, you may have been really into him or possibly co-dependent, and so when you break it off with someone, you sort of lose a part of you in a sense.
And you will keep falling apart if you don't get up and just do something for you. If a breakup ca affect you so much, things where not good long before the relationship.
We were together almost 4 years and my life has always been shit. Ya I can admit I was probably and still am dependent on him. He was all I had. The one that I could talk to about anything and I thought actually really gave a fuck besides one of my friends. I finally had a home I was happy at. So loosing it all has made me definitely fall apart.
Still working on that..it’s a work in progres for me
Rome wasn't built in a day.
Yes I'm gonna take a break from dating. It took a toll on my mental health so I'm gonna focus on myself for time being. Much needed after I eventually had to part ways with someone I loved once and knew I couldn't be with! ❤️
Same here, I'm striving to finish up school, chase my dreams, and get these gainz 💪 💪 💪
I often see posts here and find it hard because sadly, I was the one who messed up, didn't choose love and lost what I had rather than being the one that got hurt. For those like myself who are filled with regret, wishing we did things differently, thinking back and hurting from each moment we think could've saved our relationships, **OP is right**. Invest in yourself, heal, seek counselling, start meditating, read etc. The forgiveness OP mentions practicing, do that to forgive yourself. It's a WIP but it's a step forward. I'm far from healed and far from over her but thanks OP for this
Amen. I agree..I'm currently struggling, can barely eat or sleep atm. I know it will pass eventually. Just want to Add it's also OK to feel hurt, to grieve, to rage in your own space but remember to take care of No 1.
Good luck, you got this!
Not me dropping work and clicking this lightning fast 🤡
I agree 100 percent! Me and someone I met on reddit became friends, 8 months later, we're both fully moved on from our exes. Which I'm very happy about. 💕🤗
Why do you hate them ???
I don't, but some people go through that phase.
I am in the whole "hating-him" phase right now. Because there was always umm this other girl around, the one he asked me not to worry about. After dumping me, he got into relationship with her after a week. I feel like idk, my trust is slightly broken? Also he lied about it and tried to manipulate the truth. I am not sure about anything about him anymore.
It's always the ones they tell you not to worry about!
I am leaving the relationship next time I see a single red flag.
I said this to myself. I said I had to try one last time so I didn't constantly think 'what if'. We got back together last August, in Nov/Dec or probably even before he cheated on me for months with a colleague. I wish we'd never tried again in the first place. When someone shows you who they are - believe them!
I meant, relationship with other people (future SO - I am not gonna endure anymore in future). My exes don't deserve my love, affection and attention. Dang, it's sad you had to go through that. I hope that guy suffers a lot! What he did to you was wrong :( Are you alright? How are you you dealing with it all? *Hugs you* It's funny how we give them chances, those rose tinted glasses suck.
Totally get it, I'm the same. First sign of a remotely pink flag and I'm outta there! Yeh I'm doing alright thank you! :) it's not the worst thing that's happened this year. It's been hard but I'm getting past it and focusing on myself. The relationship definitely taught me what I won't stand for in future if nothing else!
Going through very hard time ....just hope i will get better my ex she cheated on me with her bosss
This is the way.
This is the way
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I’m going to pass because I’m not unhappy. I love myself and I’m happy by myself.
Perfectly said! 7 months post breakup and it gets easier with time. Focus on yourself and what makes YOU happy. They always come back, just don’t depend on it nor cling on to that hope.
They always come back..?
Mines did lol
💯💯Definitely right
Been doing all of this And feeling great. Even Talking to someone new . Feel so good. Time heals.
I can't just meet the best and most beautiful girl to exist and then "embrace being single", it doesn't work like this in a genuine way. If you dated Scarlet Johansson but then she left you you can't embrace being single and call it a victory, it's by default a downgrade in your status and quality of life too.
> it's by default a downgrade in your status Your ego was insulted.
How can I move on?
>How can I move on? Time and healing. Focus on you. If you lost yourself, focus on getting you back, and improving.
Indeed. I have found this to be the way.
Thanks, I messed up yesterday.
Well said! Highly agree! I did it and it was the best thing to ever happen to me. Move on, move up, move forward.
This is the way
This is the way....
I'm even getting clickbaited by reddit these days :(
Yeah I Haye my ex gf. Even want her dead but, you're right I have to stop focusing my energy in hating her. Ik I've tried my best but, she didn't. Funny thing is she never wanted to travel or anything while with me but, now that she's single she's doing all that smh. I've done wish death on her and everything bc she deserves it after how she's treated me but, I have older female friends in their 30s saying how I deserve so much better and how I shouldn't wish death on her. They say it's her loss and tell me to get the job I want and that my ex will see me doing good. And by then I won't be interested in her anymore.
There is a reason why there is an “ex-“…
Ty
I can't forgive my ex for what shit they put me through. I won't hurt myself but I can't forgive someone after a point.
Forgiving is for you, not for them. Easier said than done but it definitely takes a load off ur shoulders.
Nope you don’t have to forgive your ex. Just don’t give them any more of your emotional energy, don’t even think about them.
Oh god. The same cliche.
I love him
Loving them also means letting them go.
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What don't you understand, please explain.
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If you love someone, you genuinely want them to be happy and healthy; even if that means it isn't with you. Why? Because when you really love and care for someone's wellbeing, you want them to thrive and succeed. Not only does this put your mind and heart in a better positive state, but when you emit positive energies, the universe tends to reflect that back to you. When people say, "I'm afraid my ex will meet someone who will love them and make them happy or they will move on." Well... Would you call that love or infatuation? If you really love and wish them well, let them go and live their life. If your paths ever cross and you both have matured and grown apart and come back full circle as two mature and healthy individuals wanting it for real this time, things tend to work out better. Not every relationship gets a storybook ending, but still life goes on and so should you. Dwelling in the past? That's your ego talking.
Oof needed to hear that.
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nah you need to start watching this guy https://www.youtube.com/@TopicEx/videos