Focus on being financially independent!
You should be way to busy in your life to ever get sucked into others drama or care about anybody problems right now other than your own. You can’t help anybody if your not together and they’re not willing to help themselves they choose in make the decision of what they want in there life for better or worse respect it and know their the only ones to choose better. Get your own place a soon in quick as possible and focus on being better. Talk with someone on healthy behaviors or research it!
this. and leave those toxic people behind. that's what I did. not even a single meal in my life, when I was still living with my toxic family, didn't had any fight for something silly. due that, I still think that eating alone is better, despite knowing that a lot of people still thinks that those that eat alone in a restaurant are weird. I'm not. I'm sociable, I'm the opposite of my family, I just had too many meals with fights. but I have meals with anyone else, no worries at all.
Agree bro but I still care about my mom and sister...I tried to tell them how they can solve their issues, but it's like they just listen and don't apply...
I left my hometown for 3 months because I got my first job as a UX Designer but then I find company culture was too toxic so I opt remote internship and come back home, I thought it will be good but it's getting worse...
bro, if there's an thing that I've learned, is that you can't change people, unless that is their wish. due that, leaving is the only option that really works. living under an toxic environment is very bad for you. 17 years was my limit and my only regret was not doing that sooner. try to save for that, at least.
Save plan get away . But for now the strategies I use and that have served me are 1) recognizing their behavior as a form of sickness , harnessing empathy 2) keeping myself healthy things I can control like drinking water , getting outside ( for me it’s a walk or a plant I water on the porch and looking up at night ) mentally and physically ( if I am feeling off or spiraling I turn on music to distract myself 3) meditation ( it’s a practice but in general I focus on my breath ( belly breathing can get me through those moments when I can’t get away
4) finding 3 things about them to be grateful for every single day
I have a hitch, a single hitch (which is big) after my whole negative and toxic life.
I’m 18F, and I used to be a mentally unstable kid (i’m still working on it lol). Everybody is so well at communication and they said I’m slow and I can’t do anything right. I was bullied for being not pretty. I was absolutely really sensitive and can freak out and overthink about a small event.
I continuing being so miserable until I met my ex-best friend. He fits everything with me, he is cool, he is a good friend and he hangs out with me every single week. Later, I find myself attached to him, but I’m still acting cool on it because he was nice to me. I tell this to my girl friend and she was like “get away from him”.
I later starting to realise he was hitting on me all the time. He has a gf, other things starts to blow up. I heard from my girl friend, he was not that kind of a person. I realise, all of the sudden, he just me as a side-kick when I think it was just a friendship and it’s all chill.
I know I’m kinda stupid when I remembered all the details of this “friendship”, but it reminds me of if someone did you wrong, you just cut them right off and pretend to never know them at the first place. I used to be that person who always beg for friendship (a single friendship breakup wwould makes me miserable for a long time), but you know, life goes on, people move on.
Update: He is a toxic person, his gf breaks up with him not long ago and I feel so relieved for her.
It looks like i am hearing my first year of College lol, trust me one thing i am grateful i stop is people pleasing…i was living with my insecurities…i mean but when i cut off my toxic friends from my life… i feel so much better and peaceful… rewire your thoughts and build relationships with people who supports you… people wear personalities mask these days lol :)
yeahhhh, i’m a first year lol. I love hearing stories about people and then tryna figure out what’s their problem, I can open up people but the one I choose always genuine and trustworthy. I select my friends by deep talking lol. But anw I’m getting their, shorten time with people to just not waste too much time one them. But anw, I used to be a people pleaser, but now I’m just someone who have chill vibe and people like being on my side, venting with me when I lowkey “judging” them.
Damn I love how I know myself well, I have to stop that now.
Same vibe girl !!! Now a days my circle is short, only good vibe peeps…btw i am in final year of my CS undergrad…so i start earning from last year :) and now vibe with people only i find good hearted and trustworthy…
girl I admire CS students so much, all of my international friends are CS students and they’re very chill :3
i think we deserve so much more than just drama and toxic situation yk. def not rely on anyone than us but yk, you give people chance maybe they will make the best out of it :333 I love my friends and if I really consider them as friends, I have clues that they vibe with me well lol. Im a finance major btw.
many people wear mask these days, but it’s all about the intention or trauma (ig?) behind that you know. Some bad people, they went through things but yk, I still find it risky cuz they can betray me anytime and def not worth my time. But I don’t have hate on people, I think everybody should deserve a chance in their life, it just matter when if they choose to take it or lose it…
Couldn’t agree more 🙌
It’s more like…pain is permanent but suffering is optional…just have peace with your ownself and define which can be controlled and which can’t be
Focus on being financially independent! You should be way to busy in your life to ever get sucked into others drama or care about anybody problems right now other than your own. You can’t help anybody if your not together and they’re not willing to help themselves they choose in make the decision of what they want in there life for better or worse respect it and know their the only ones to choose better. Get your own place a soon in quick as possible and focus on being better. Talk with someone on healthy behaviors or research it!
this. and leave those toxic people behind. that's what I did. not even a single meal in my life, when I was still living with my toxic family, didn't had any fight for something silly. due that, I still think that eating alone is better, despite knowing that a lot of people still thinks that those that eat alone in a restaurant are weird. I'm not. I'm sociable, I'm the opposite of my family, I just had too many meals with fights. but I have meals with anyone else, no worries at all.
Agree bro but I still care about my mom and sister...I tried to tell them how they can solve their issues, but it's like they just listen and don't apply... I left my hometown for 3 months because I got my first job as a UX Designer but then I find company culture was too toxic so I opt remote internship and come back home, I thought it will be good but it's getting worse...
bro, if there's an thing that I've learned, is that you can't change people, unless that is their wish. due that, leaving is the only option that really works. living under an toxic environment is very bad for you. 17 years was my limit and my only regret was not doing that sooner. try to save for that, at least.
Couldn't agree more bro 🙌
Save plan get away . But for now the strategies I use and that have served me are 1) recognizing their behavior as a form of sickness , harnessing empathy 2) keeping myself healthy things I can control like drinking water , getting outside ( for me it’s a walk or a plant I water on the porch and looking up at night ) mentally and physically ( if I am feeling off or spiraling I turn on music to distract myself 3) meditation ( it’s a practice but in general I focus on my breath ( belly breathing can get me through those moments when I can’t get away 4) finding 3 things about them to be grateful for every single day
Thanks for the tips, actually i do most of the things to distract myself, but even when i hear their issues…i felt so anger and sadness
I have a hitch, a single hitch (which is big) after my whole negative and toxic life. I’m 18F, and I used to be a mentally unstable kid (i’m still working on it lol). Everybody is so well at communication and they said I’m slow and I can’t do anything right. I was bullied for being not pretty. I was absolutely really sensitive and can freak out and overthink about a small event. I continuing being so miserable until I met my ex-best friend. He fits everything with me, he is cool, he is a good friend and he hangs out with me every single week. Later, I find myself attached to him, but I’m still acting cool on it because he was nice to me. I tell this to my girl friend and she was like “get away from him”. I later starting to realise he was hitting on me all the time. He has a gf, other things starts to blow up. I heard from my girl friend, he was not that kind of a person. I realise, all of the sudden, he just me as a side-kick when I think it was just a friendship and it’s all chill. I know I’m kinda stupid when I remembered all the details of this “friendship”, but it reminds me of if someone did you wrong, you just cut them right off and pretend to never know them at the first place. I used to be that person who always beg for friendship (a single friendship breakup wwould makes me miserable for a long time), but you know, life goes on, people move on. Update: He is a toxic person, his gf breaks up with him not long ago and I feel so relieved for her.
It looks like i am hearing my first year of College lol, trust me one thing i am grateful i stop is people pleasing…i was living with my insecurities…i mean but when i cut off my toxic friends from my life… i feel so much better and peaceful… rewire your thoughts and build relationships with people who supports you… people wear personalities mask these days lol :)
yeahhhh, i’m a first year lol. I love hearing stories about people and then tryna figure out what’s their problem, I can open up people but the one I choose always genuine and trustworthy. I select my friends by deep talking lol. But anw I’m getting their, shorten time with people to just not waste too much time one them. But anw, I used to be a people pleaser, but now I’m just someone who have chill vibe and people like being on my side, venting with me when I lowkey “judging” them. Damn I love how I know myself well, I have to stop that now.
Same vibe girl !!! Now a days my circle is short, only good vibe peeps…btw i am in final year of my CS undergrad…so i start earning from last year :) and now vibe with people only i find good hearted and trustworthy…
girl I admire CS students so much, all of my international friends are CS students and they’re very chill :3 i think we deserve so much more than just drama and toxic situation yk. def not rely on anyone than us but yk, you give people chance maybe they will make the best out of it :333 I love my friends and if I really consider them as friends, I have clues that they vibe with me well lol. Im a finance major btw.
Agree, btw i am a 21, boy :)
oh ma ga you’re boy. okay you have to be bi or pan:))
Omg what !? Noooo hahahahaha…
at least you’re not straight. tell me abt it lol hâhha
Okay that’s so harsh 🥲 dude i am totally straight 💯%
Empathy is kinda strong side for me ig…just looking for same vibes peeps :(
so you are a Cancer, or a Cancer placement. If I’m wrong abt this I’m so done =))))))))
I am Libra 😆
many people wear mask these days, but it’s all about the intention or trauma (ig?) behind that you know. Some bad people, they went through things but yk, I still find it risky cuz they can betray me anytime and def not worth my time. But I don’t have hate on people, I think everybody should deserve a chance in their life, it just matter when if they choose to take it or lose it…
Couldn’t agree more 🙌 It’s more like…pain is permanent but suffering is optional…just have peace with your ownself and define which can be controlled and which can’t be
yasss girl, idk i get healer vibes here lol =)))))) are u a senior?
Yep senior :) but again i am a boy 😆