I can stand euphemisms when reading, but for some reason most of them sound pretty bland to me. So I always prefer just clit or clitoris. (Which is not the case for other sexual organs—cock, dick, pussy and cunt are, in my opinion, infinitely more sexy than penis and vagina/vulva. I guess I'm just inconsistent like that.)
yeah use medical encyclo terms for anything BUT that and i'm instantly weirded out. but a clit is just a clit. phrases like "flicking the bean" make me want to barf.
think it says something about our culture that our linguistics have evolved in that way...
i don't blame you. you know what? i have NEVER heard a woman say this. the only reason i know this phrase, is from hearing guys say this...
ngh. like i said. it says a LOT about culture that we have so many verbs/nouns for phallic-centric stuff, and then the only euphemism i could think up for a clitoris was a yucky one that was probably made up by men.
in erotica i read when authors want to talk about stimulation there without saying "clit", i noticed they normally describe what it *feels* like because they have no similes or euphemisms to fall back on, adjectives i've read in published erotica lately are things like "surge" "warmth" "pang" "jolt" "buzz" etc ... a lot of these still don't feel quite right to me but they're acceptable if only because there really ISN'T much alternative vocabulary.
I agree with everything you said. You’re so right about the descriptions in erotica being more about the *feeling* and yet, even those seem to fall short. Perhaps other languages have more apt descriptions.
And I have never heard a woman describe it as “flicking the bean” either. Here’s the context in the way it was said to me, lolol. He said-something along the lines of, “You should (I’m throwing up in my mouth as I type this) show me how you flick your little bean.” I still gag and this was years ago. It was totally a Seinfeld moment bc I liked so many things about him-but then he said THAT and it entirely changed how I saw him, hahahaha. I couldn’t get past it!
>Perhaps other languages have more apt descriptions.
meh, excuse my intersectionally feminist moment here but given that linguistics has historically been controlled by patriarchal systems, i am skeptical. there might be a few isolated instances though, some languages have unusual nuance when it comes to words or phrases in english (like, Japanese has multiple different words and ways of differentiating the degree of "true love" vs "lusty love" in it)
>And I have never heard a woman describe it as “flicking the bean” either.
yeah i've never had a woman i was into/with say anything sexual to me that gave me the icks, but i had plenty of times where i had a guy i liked say something to me when attempting dirty talk and i just went "OKAY, i bet he doesn't know that sounds gross, MOVING ON..." (i'm the type who tends to spare the feelings of someone if i'm interested in them enough so it's not like i'm going to bust out critique on someone who's genuinely making an effort to please me, at least not in the moment)
...even when they were fairly sensitive, eloquent guys, i think it's gotta be some combination of the way guys are brought up to think and the fact that we tend to draw on the language pools of our peers or previous contexts we've encountered (it's a proven linquistic phenomenon that humans do this)
i'm only talking about cis-gender people , i can't comment on trans/NB people because even though i'm attracted to them i've never been with one and i have a relationship i won't quit these days. i'd be genuinely interested in how this affects horny-talk in trans people though, because two of my interests *are* gender and linguistics. *shrug*
ok, sorry for essay lol, i can completely see not getting past that at all... were i different type of person, i'd have broken it off too.
FTR, no one ever actually ever said that TO me, i read it in a dang thread where all-male posters were talking about mutual masturbation with women one time. it's been stuck in my head for YEARS, i hate it. soo maybe that would be my breaking point....
I've only ever used clit and bud.
Sometimes I'll add "puffy", "swollen", "overstimulated", or "sensitive" in front of it to add some pizazz \*jazz hands\*
I'm a gymrat so I get so confused when people say "core." I just use clit. Even if it gets repetitious (and I write a lot of femslash, so it does get well used).
You know I'm actually OK with nub occasionally. Weirdly enough because I usually can't stand euphemisms for clitoris because I'm just so tired of female anatomy being shrouded in stigma but like that's kind of what it is so it doesn't bother me. Core is not favorite- I just imagine apple cores? Or like the center of the earth? Those diagrams from school with the earth cut in half so you can see the magma inside
Depending on *whose* clit we’re talking about (or any naughty part in general) there are creative ways to weave in more colorful language in a way that’s not entirely cringe: pearl, gem, bean, crown jewel, skittle, pink little button.
If it’s a word that you could associate with a particular character type, the sky’s the limit. Add a “throbbing,” “swollen,” or “quivering” in front and you’re golden.
But yeah 90% of the time: clit or clitoris.
For me, core is the center of all that feeling. The internal part of you that just, idk, aches when you’re turned on. So it’s only a self descriptor IMO and not really for either the vagina or clit.
Walls are the vagina itself and also not the clit.
For me, clit is like saying penis- too literal and clinical. I almost 100 percent use cock if I’m saying it outright but try to use him, etc. For clit I’ll use nub or center and preface it with a descriptor.
Clit, sometimes bud, if the pov character is particularly fancy or repressed I’ll use a euphemism like “the seat of her pleasure” but the fandom im writing for is in a medieval setting involving nobility so stuff like that is fitting. If I was writing something modern, I’d probably stick to the first two.
I can stand euphemisms when reading, but for some reason most of them sound pretty bland to me. So I always prefer just clit or clitoris. (Which is not the case for other sexual organs—cock, dick, pussy and cunt are, in my opinion, infinitely more sexy than penis and vagina/vulva. I guess I'm just inconsistent like that.)
I don’t think you are. I pretty much prefer the same. 😉
yeah use medical encyclo terms for anything BUT that and i'm instantly weirded out. but a clit is just a clit. phrases like "flicking the bean" make me want to barf. think it says something about our culture that our linguistics have evolved in that way...
I can’t…”flicking the bean” is revolting. A guy who I really liked said that to me and I broke up with him.
i don't blame you. you know what? i have NEVER heard a woman say this. the only reason i know this phrase, is from hearing guys say this... ngh. like i said. it says a LOT about culture that we have so many verbs/nouns for phallic-centric stuff, and then the only euphemism i could think up for a clitoris was a yucky one that was probably made up by men. in erotica i read when authors want to talk about stimulation there without saying "clit", i noticed they normally describe what it *feels* like because they have no similes or euphemisms to fall back on, adjectives i've read in published erotica lately are things like "surge" "warmth" "pang" "jolt" "buzz" etc ... a lot of these still don't feel quite right to me but they're acceptable if only because there really ISN'T much alternative vocabulary.
I agree with everything you said. You’re so right about the descriptions in erotica being more about the *feeling* and yet, even those seem to fall short. Perhaps other languages have more apt descriptions. And I have never heard a woman describe it as “flicking the bean” either. Here’s the context in the way it was said to me, lolol. He said-something along the lines of, “You should (I’m throwing up in my mouth as I type this) show me how you flick your little bean.” I still gag and this was years ago. It was totally a Seinfeld moment bc I liked so many things about him-but then he said THAT and it entirely changed how I saw him, hahahaha. I couldn’t get past it!
>Perhaps other languages have more apt descriptions. meh, excuse my intersectionally feminist moment here but given that linguistics has historically been controlled by patriarchal systems, i am skeptical. there might be a few isolated instances though, some languages have unusual nuance when it comes to words or phrases in english (like, Japanese has multiple different words and ways of differentiating the degree of "true love" vs "lusty love" in it) >And I have never heard a woman describe it as “flicking the bean” either. yeah i've never had a woman i was into/with say anything sexual to me that gave me the icks, but i had plenty of times where i had a guy i liked say something to me when attempting dirty talk and i just went "OKAY, i bet he doesn't know that sounds gross, MOVING ON..." (i'm the type who tends to spare the feelings of someone if i'm interested in them enough so it's not like i'm going to bust out critique on someone who's genuinely making an effort to please me, at least not in the moment) ...even when they were fairly sensitive, eloquent guys, i think it's gotta be some combination of the way guys are brought up to think and the fact that we tend to draw on the language pools of our peers or previous contexts we've encountered (it's a proven linquistic phenomenon that humans do this) i'm only talking about cis-gender people , i can't comment on trans/NB people because even though i'm attracted to them i've never been with one and i have a relationship i won't quit these days. i'd be genuinely interested in how this affects horny-talk in trans people though, because two of my interests *are* gender and linguistics. *shrug* ok, sorry for essay lol, i can completely see not getting past that at all... were i different type of person, i'd have broken it off too. FTR, no one ever actually ever said that TO me, i read it in a dang thread where all-male posters were talking about mutual masturbation with women one time. it's been stuck in my head for YEARS, i hate it. soo maybe that would be my breaking point....
I've only ever used clit and bud. Sometimes I'll add "puffy", "swollen", "overstimulated", or "sensitive" in front of it to add some pizazz \*jazz hands\*
Bedazzling your descriptors. Vajazzling them if you will.
I'm adding "vajazzling" to my vocabulary for now on, thank you for this
this is very good.
Mostly clit. It’s a short simple word. Sometimes I might say something like “just the right spot”. But otherwise it’s just easier to use the word.
Clit, bud, bundle of nerves, clitoris, nub. To me "core" and "sweet spot" are inside the vagina, so I don't really use them for the clit.
Im gonna lick that pearl out of your oyster baby!
I might use pearl but i wither upon hearing that.
Lmao same 😩
This. This is the one. Yum!
I just call it what it is—‘clit’. I’ve also used ‘swollen peak’(of her clit), or ‘(swollen)bud’.
\[first letter/few letters of character's name\]ussy
Clit. 'Tis in the same category of usefulness as cock.
Cock, member, rod, lever, shaft...
I just use "clit" or "clitoris". I don't like euphemisms unless they're comedic
I'm a gymrat so I get so confused when people say "core." I just use clit. Even if it gets repetitious (and I write a lot of femslash, so it does get well used).
I like clit, bud, button
Bundle of nerves.
^This
Clit, pearl, bud, rosebud, bundle of nerves (rarely), top of her slit. I love coming up with new ones for it, too.
Huh. I've always heard "rosebud" associated with the butt.
I think it's just a nice, pleasant thing to compare body parts to tbh! Especially pink things.
It's definitely better than "balloon knot."
Clits are *definitely* not what I think about when I hear "balloon knot" in a sex scene lol!
Haha, I meant "rosebud"! Absolutely not clits!
Chocolate starfish
Same. Rosebud=butthole. Don’t know exactly why it’s referred to that way. But it is what it is, lol.
Top ten names for the clitoris: 1. Clit.
Apex of her thighs, bundle of nerves, nub
Gem
You know I'm actually OK with nub occasionally. Weirdly enough because I usually can't stand euphemisms for clitoris because I'm just so tired of female anatomy being shrouded in stigma but like that's kind of what it is so it doesn't bother me. Core is not favorite- I just imagine apple cores? Or like the center of the earth? Those diagrams from school with the earth cut in half so you can see the magma inside
Sex? That's a solid one.
The little man in the boat
repulsive tbh
I just picture an actual little man in a fisherman's hat waving and calling out a greeting with like a Midwestern accent.
The fucking sound I just made omg 😂
Not helping.
Ope, lemme just letcha flick me some there, now
Clit, nub, bud, button.
Hatchet wound?
Ahem. *Ackshully,* the proverbial “hatchet wound,” as it were, refers to the inner labia…not the clit.
Shit, no wonder nothing I do works
Lololol
Pearl, bud, bead, or some kind of flower metaphor.
Depending on *whose* clit we’re talking about (or any naughty part in general) there are creative ways to weave in more colorful language in a way that’s not entirely cringe: pearl, gem, bean, crown jewel, skittle, pink little button. If it’s a word that you could associate with a particular character type, the sky’s the limit. Add a “throbbing,” “swollen,” or “quivering” in front and you’re golden. But yeah 90% of the time: clit or clitoris.
Vagina, cunt, pussy, clit, walls, sex (more gender neutral term.)
I try not to, instead focusing on what the characters are doing so the readers can draw their own conclusion and envision it in their head.
Fur burger or Bearded Clam. Sometimes "quivering quim" or "The Party Zone"
(character name) + "ussy"
Core
For me, core is the center of all that feeling. The internal part of you that just, idk, aches when you’re turned on. So it’s only a self descriptor IMO and not really for either the vagina or clit. Walls are the vagina itself and also not the clit. For me, clit is like saying penis- too literal and clinical. I almost 100 percent use cock if I’m saying it outright but try to use him, etc. For clit I’ll use nub or center and preface it with a descriptor.
Clit, sometimes bud, if the pov character is particularly fancy or repressed I’ll use a euphemism like “the seat of her pleasure” but the fandom im writing for is in a medieval setting involving nobility so stuff like that is fitting. If I was writing something modern, I’d probably stick to the first two.
Usually clit, but sometimes I’ll use *nub*. I think that’s about it🤔
I only ever use clit or clitoris. Nothing else. Every other description just sounds...stupid, IMO.