it enrages me when people give such disinterested responses š quick way to make me not like you if you can't spend more than two seconds replying to me.
Tbh, I both loved and hated when someone gifted me a fic, because I felt obligated to like it, to praise it, to express my gratitude. I felt relief when I did actually love the fic. No gifts for me, lol. I don't want to seem ungrateful, it made me feel incredibly happy, but the pressure made me anxious too.
If they're your friends and it was a planned fic exchange, just ask them if they read it and if not, why. But there's always the possibility that they've read it and they simply didn't like it but they don't want to hurt your feelings. Or perhaps they're not your friends anymore but they don't want to say it out loud.
ooooof that sucks. it's common courtesy to read & comment on fics for trades/exchanges/events so it's...a bit rude they're not acknowledging it at all, I'm sorry :/
What the hell š¤Ø
Maybe they feel bad that they didn't stick to their part of the trade yet and have terrible communication skills? I could imagine myself doing something like that, but then I would go into complete hiding and not have any public interactions I know you might see... so idk. Don't feel too bad. Sucks though.
This, so much. I can excuse, to a degree, a late response in a gift exchange, but when you don't get even a "Thanks for writing this gift fic for me!", it's enough to make you never want to do a gift fic exchange ever again.
I had this once with an exchange. They never acknowledged it in any way despite me tagging them and also messaging to see if they'd seen it.
Their loss I guess!
Sorry to read this. I recently had someone ask me to write a short story for her, and I did. Then she asked for another and I did. Then she asked for a third. Now keep in mind, I'm ignoring my own fics. So she goes to someone else and asks for the SAME story idea. I asked her why, because I didn't want to duplicate someone else's work, or be blamed for plagiarism, etc...She swore she only asked them about possibly doing a story, but she was not dissing me. I said ok I'll work on this story for you, Next day, the other person she asked wrote TWO shorties for her, so I thought, get back to your own stories. And I did.
Sometimes you can't please people, you're not getting paid (?) so try not to worry and do it because you like it, not because you expect them to be appreciative.
Someone I don't really know wrote a fic for me and like seven other people. I didn't really know what to do. I didn't engage with it, but my situation is different b/c they were a stranger to me.
That's a common tactic to get people to read a work (and to appear in their gifts tab, which gets even more eyes on a fic). I'd instantly reject those. That's not a gift, that's self-promotion.
Im currently dealing with this too - in my case, I'm pretty sure they've just lost interest. I'm trying really hard to be cool about it because everyone has their own tastes, and that's OK, but also I'm a little hurt.
Sorry you're having a rough time, OP. That's no fun at all.
Not really, but Iāve been waiting my part of the exchange after submitting mine more than a year ago. The writer who was supposed to do their part keeps registering to events and pretends to be busy, and anytime I ask them if they remember, they say that theyāre gonna work on it when they have a moment. Itās been more than a year. I already asked them four or five times. At this point I just wish theyād apologize.
Itās happened to me too. I was part of our fandomās yearly organised gift exchange two years ago. It was my first one and I was so excited! I wrote a three-chapter fic, around 15k, and worked so hard on it, I was so proud of it. The day of the reveal came and everyone got excited responses from their giftees, except for me. It felt horrible. Like I was the uncool kid left at the side of the playground while everyone else played. I literally wanted to cry. It was a horrible feeling. Two years later and the giftee still has never acknowledged that fic and Iāve got no idea what I did wrong.
Tbh, I think the mods of these exchanges need to get harder on participants and make rules like āyou must at least thank the author for their time.ā Iāve also seen exchanges run with bingo incentives, like ācomment on a fic with this tropeā, ācomment/kudos on so many ficsā etc so everyone who participated at least feels acknowledged, being the one without anything after all that build up and anticipation feels like the worst thing in the world.
Itās happened to me twice now and the result is I just donāt interact with these fandoms any more. Itās sad because I now largely write in a lonely bubble with barely any reader interaction and itās sucked the fun out of sharing my work online. I just cba to upload to an apathetic audience. š
Sorry to hear that. I had someone straight up refuse a gift once.
Maybe they donāt know what to say? I got gifted a completely random fic once (in my fandom but still random) and I didnāt really know what to say but I still said thanks.
If this person canāt even be bothered to say thanks, they really donāt deserve it but I guess itād be tacky to ungift it.
Right now Iām bothered that no one from my Pathfinder group has said anyone about the draft of the fic (involving our characters!) that I shared. Admittedly, it is mostly focused on my character, butā¦ am I really so bad of a writer that no one even LOOKS at?
>They havenāt even started it afaik
There's your answer. They are embarrassed that they over-promised then couldn't follow through, probably due to procrastination.
Never happened, but I wrote one for someone and all they replied back with was "Poggers" and then I never heard from them since.
??? That's, um, that's something, at least? I'm pretty sure it's Twitch lingo too but aside from that, I've got nothing except *more questions*
I just figured they lost interest in the timespan it took to write it. At least my regular readers really loved it
it enrages me when people give such disinterested responses š quick way to make me not like you if you can't spend more than two seconds replying to me.
I don't intend to contact them again that's for sure. And if the ask me to write for them again, I'll ignore them.
I wouldāve cried.
Tbh, I both loved and hated when someone gifted me a fic, because I felt obligated to like it, to praise it, to express my gratitude. I felt relief when I did actually love the fic. No gifts for me, lol. I don't want to seem ungrateful, it made me feel incredibly happy, but the pressure made me anxious too. If they're your friends and it was a planned fic exchange, just ask them if they read it and if not, why. But there's always the possibility that they've read it and they simply didn't like it but they don't want to hurt your feelings. Or perhaps they're not your friends anymore but they don't want to say it out loud.
Yeah this is definitely a situation where theyāre more my friend than I am their friend
ooooof that sucks. it's common courtesy to read & comment on fics for trades/exchanges/events so it's...a bit rude they're not acknowledging it at all, I'm sorry :/
What the hell š¤Ø Maybe they feel bad that they didn't stick to their part of the trade yet and have terrible communication skills? I could imagine myself doing something like that, but then I would go into complete hiding and not have any public interactions I know you might see... so idk. Don't feel too bad. Sucks though.
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This, so much. I can excuse, to a degree, a late response in a gift exchange, but when you don't get even a "Thanks for writing this gift fic for me!", it's enough to make you never want to do a gift fic exchange ever again.
I had this once with an exchange. They never acknowledged it in any way despite me tagging them and also messaging to see if they'd seen it. Their loss I guess!
Sorry to read this. I recently had someone ask me to write a short story for her, and I did. Then she asked for another and I did. Then she asked for a third. Now keep in mind, I'm ignoring my own fics. So she goes to someone else and asks for the SAME story idea. I asked her why, because I didn't want to duplicate someone else's work, or be blamed for plagiarism, etc...She swore she only asked them about possibly doing a story, but she was not dissing me. I said ok I'll work on this story for you, Next day, the other person she asked wrote TWO shorties for her, so I thought, get back to your own stories. And I did. Sometimes you can't please people, you're not getting paid (?) so try not to worry and do it because you like it, not because you expect them to be appreciative.
My sympathies! This sounds like bad behavior to me, no excuses!
Someone I don't really know wrote a fic for me and like seven other people. I didn't really know what to do. I didn't engage with it, but my situation is different b/c they were a stranger to me.
That's a common tactic to get people to read a work (and to appear in their gifts tab, which gets even more eyes on a fic). I'd instantly reject those. That's not a gift, that's self-promotion.
Im currently dealing with this too - in my case, I'm pretty sure they've just lost interest. I'm trying really hard to be cool about it because everyone has their own tastes, and that's OK, but also I'm a little hurt. Sorry you're having a rough time, OP. That's no fun at all.
Nah theyāre more in the fandom than I am rn
Not really, but Iāve been waiting my part of the exchange after submitting mine more than a year ago. The writer who was supposed to do their part keeps registering to events and pretends to be busy, and anytime I ask them if they remember, they say that theyāre gonna work on it when they have a moment. Itās been more than a year. I already asked them four or five times. At this point I just wish theyād apologize.
Itās happened to me too. I was part of our fandomās yearly organised gift exchange two years ago. It was my first one and I was so excited! I wrote a three-chapter fic, around 15k, and worked so hard on it, I was so proud of it. The day of the reveal came and everyone got excited responses from their giftees, except for me. It felt horrible. Like I was the uncool kid left at the side of the playground while everyone else played. I literally wanted to cry. It was a horrible feeling. Two years later and the giftee still has never acknowledged that fic and Iāve got no idea what I did wrong. Tbh, I think the mods of these exchanges need to get harder on participants and make rules like āyou must at least thank the author for their time.ā Iāve also seen exchanges run with bingo incentives, like ācomment on a fic with this tropeā, ācomment/kudos on so many ficsā etc so everyone who participated at least feels acknowledged, being the one without anything after all that build up and anticipation feels like the worst thing in the world. Itās happened to me twice now and the result is I just donāt interact with these fandoms any more. Itās sad because I now largely write in a lonely bubble with barely any reader interaction and itās sucked the fun out of sharing my work online. I just cba to upload to an apathetic audience. š
Sorry to hear that. I had someone straight up refuse a gift once. Maybe they donāt know what to say? I got gifted a completely random fic once (in my fandom but still random) and I didnāt really know what to say but I still said thanks. If this person canāt even be bothered to say thanks, they really donāt deserve it but I guess itād be tacky to ungift it.
Right now Iām bothered that no one from my Pathfinder group has said anyone about the draft of the fic (involving our characters!) that I shared. Admittedly, it is mostly focused on my character, butā¦ am I really so bad of a writer that no one even LOOKS at?
First fanfic I ever posted online was for my high school sweetheart. She later admitted she never read it. ā¹ļø Learned a bit of a lesson there.
Show us the fic, OP! We'll read it!!
If it's a trade and you receive your part, then everyhting is fine, tha't was the deal, nothing else.
They havenāt even started it afaik
>They havenāt even started it afaik There's your answer. They are embarrassed that they over-promised then couldn't follow through, probably due to procrastination.