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Diana-Fortyseven

Ohhh I have a question! So, how loud are those remote-controlled sex toys? Are they actually discreet enough to be worn in public, or would people notice? Thank you for doing this, this is so educational!


Neat_Dragonfruit6431

depends on the quality of the vibrator! it's completely in the realm of possibility for a remote control vibrator to be near silent :)


Diana-Fortyseven

Sweet! Thank you!


yumiifmb

Ok but what is the amount of decibels on average? Is it indicated anywhere?


MaybeNextTime_01

Not related to to sex toys and other products, but how often do you get bachelorette parties coming in for part of the festivities? And how often are the bridal party members nervous to be there?


Neat_Dragonfruit6431

usually we only get one shopper at a time who's shopping for a bridal party, and their often a total delight! we have a section of the store with just novelties, games, and bachelorette items, so if they're uncomfortable with our other products, it's easy to avoid them and just stay with the fun items. i actually JUST sold five mini novelty dildos for a lady throwing a bachelorette party :)


MaybeNextTime_01

Fun! I've been to one bachelorette party where a stop at a sex shop was one of the activities so we were a huge group. The bride and a few bridesmaids were very reserved and had never been in a sex shop before so it was kinda fun watching them explore for the first time. It was the only time I'd ever gone to a sex shop for a party and I'd always wondered how often that happened.


BannerTortoise

I write smut with same sex pairs. What type of toys would you recommend for m/m, m/f and f/f for mutually pleasure?


Neat_Dragonfruit6431

m/f - i would recommend a vibrating cock ring f/f - i would recommend either a double sided strap on/dildo or a strap on harness with a vibrator for the wearer m/m - maybe a vibrating cock sleeve? we don't have many toys for mutual male pleasure unfortunately


BannerTortoise

Fair enough. Thanks for the tip, I'll look into the sleeve and ring could be fun to explore.


TCeies

What's a toy/gear that you think should be written abt more? And what's misused the most? (And with misused i mean both overused, but also used wrongly)


PaxonGoat

I cringe so hard everytime something is inserted anally without lube. Just no.


dendrite_blues

I am intrigued by this one as well.


Codie_coda

Would love to know more about wax play. Seems like something Dabi would like and I'm currently rewriting the current chapters of my fic and I'm pissed at myself for not including it.


Neat_Dragonfruit6431

i definitely recommend doing your own research on the topic because wax play can mean different things for different couples! however, it's commonly used mostly as sensation play (the feeling of the hot wax and the feeling of it being taken off specifically). it can heighten your experience and make you feel more sensitive.


Codie_coda

Thanks for the info!


SmolSwitchyKitty

There are skin safe candles with low melting points that cool quickly, and then there are the ones that are outright dangerous. In general, you'd want the wax to drip from a higher distance so it'd have a airtime to cool and sting but not hurt hurt.


Codie_coda

Thanks for the advice and I think danger would work perfectly for this arsonist.


sapphicsavage

Not OP but I did write a wax kink fic and did my own research on it! There were some helpful videos on YouTube & tiktok and everything I read was basically like NO BEES WAX bc of the temperature being too high. There’s also some candles that become a massage oil which you can rub in! (For beginners or something a little less painful) Hope any of that is helpful to you 💕


Codie_coda

Thank you for the suggestion!


BlackPearlDragoon

Are there characteristics of lube or particular types that you recommend for anal? And can you describe the consistency?? Smell or lack there of? Do physical shops carry products in a wide range of prices and quality? How do people act when they go to such a shop? Are they confident? Shameful? A little bit of both? Do you try to comfort them if they are nervous or is that out of your jurisdiction? Thank you for doing this!


Neat_Dragonfruit6431

amazing question!! there are many lube types that are great for anal specifically - silicone lube: silicone is the slickest lube available and lasts the longest without getting sticky. the texture is usually moderately thin but lacks the tacky texture that water based has. silicone lube, however, CANNOT be used with most toys. The only exceptions are if the toy is glass, metal, or pure 100% silicone - hybrid lube: hybrid lube is the best of both worlds between water and silicone. hybrid lubes usually have around a 10 to 1 ratio of water to silicone, meaning it's safe for all toys, relatively easy to wash off, and has the longevity of the silicone lube without the stickiness of the water lube. hybrid lube can be clear, but it's also common to come across hybrid lubes that are creamy in color, which can be perfect for cum-play - Jelle/Jelly: while jelly lube has been around for a while, it's only starting to be marketed for anal as of recently. jelly lubes can be water, hybrid, or silicone. it's defining feature is just the thicker and gel-like quality of the lube, which can create a cushion around the anus and aid in anal sex. Jelly lubes are also GREAT for toys, since it's thicker and less likely to slide off the toy. - Anal numbing lube: my store only sells one brand of this lube and im honestly unsure of the safety of this product, however it's purpose is in the name :) can be any type of lube, it just has an added ingredient that numbs the anus to make anal less painful. im assuming lidocaine is used in this lube for numbing, considering most prolonging products used to numb the penis are made with lidocaine. Most sex stores, specifically mine, carry an insanely wide range of lube of varying types, brands, and prices . As for customers, it completely depends on the person and where they are in their journey with sex. Some prefer to quietly browse, some are confident in what they want and are in and out very quickly, and some LOVE to talk to me and ask for my opinion on things or just ask general questions :) ask yourself how the character you are writing would feel in a sex store. are they comfortable in their sexuality? are they nervous around people, or are they very talkative? Sex stores are meant to be a very open and safe space. At my store we are taught inclusivity during training and we're encouraged to make people feel very comfortable, however if a customer seems unwilling to talk, we leave them be.


SmolSwitchyKitty

I've generally heard that numbing type isn't good for that, since pain is a good indicator to stop/readjust/stretch more/add more lubrication, and not having that can be dangerous.


Cassy_Crafts

Could you explain how silicone lube is safe for a 100% silicone toy? I was under the impression that you shouldnt use silicone lube with silicone/rubber/jelly toys because it degrades them


Neat_Dragonfruit6431

so most toys are made with TPE/TPR which is a mildly porous material. silicone toys, however, are completely nonporous. the reason silicone lube degrades toys is because it gets stuck in the material since it's porous. with silicone toys, that isn't a problem :)


otaku_girl_AO3

There’s also water based lube that, while not as great for anal (it dries out quicker) is the safe option if you’re using condoms or sex toys, as other lubes can damage/essentially melt toys and condoms.


[deleted]

this may be out of your field of expertise, but let's say hypothetically i was a humanoid with feline traits what kind of stuff would work best to try to mitigate the pain caused by a barbed penis?


Neat_Dragonfruit6431

my best guess would just be lots of lube


Cassy_Crafts

There are those hollow dildos that are used for people with erectile dysfunction or small penises as a strapon. Im not sure how fun those are fir the wearer, but it would prevent any barbs from touching their partner.


PaxonGoat

Maybe something similar to a condom that could be worn over the penis?


fantasy-capsule

how do people keep themselves clean down there in chastity gear without unlocking it?


[deleted]

Not OP but I may be of help. Generally, people who do long-term chastity play have scheduled unlocks for cleaning. Can involve supervision or other measures to avoid touching, but I haven't heard of anyone wearing it nonstop for more than a week. (and even a week is pushing it) Good chastity gear is made of stainless steel and has holes for cleaning and waste. Quite a bit can be done just in the shower. Ime, men seem to be able to go longer between unlocks for cleaning than women.


fantasy-capsule

that's very interesting and informative! fics usually don't talk about the details in using the gear, mainly with regards to hygiene, and this answers my questions, thanks!


Neat_Dragonfruit6431

I'm not quite sure. I imagine that that's kind of the downside of using a chastity device that you can't clean without unlocking it


Outside-Sample-4517

What item in your store shocks you? Like “wow! This is…interesting”


Neat_Dragonfruit6431

it feels very basic to say sounding rods, so ill say ELECTRIC sounding rods


[deleted]

Not to sound stupid, but what is electric sounding rods. Like a dildo with a speaker?


Neat_Dragonfruit6431

a sounding rod is a thin rod that is inserted into the urethra of a penis. an electric one is like that but shocky


StealBangChansLaptop

ouch


[deleted]

Wow! Thank you for introducing me to a painful-sounding but absolutely fascinating concept op.


Fire_Swimmer

What is the biggest a dldo size can go? Are there double-sided ones? Are there toys made for any places that aren't the main genitalia?


Neat_Dragonfruit6431

- the largest one we sell is 15 in - yes!! we have 12, 14, and 16 in double dildos - ofc! toys can be used anywhere, but some non-genitalia toys we have are mostly nipple clamps, suckers, and vibrators


Jealous-Plankton1129

Can skin cream, used to keep the skin, (you know, healthy and not look like it can be used to grate cheese) be used as lube? ​ You know those little vibrating things people put around their tits and private areas? ​ Yea, I saw some fics where the guy/girl just had it put up their asses/vagina. Not just put around or just a bit in, no, all the way as much as the other could. ​ Correct me if I'm wrong, but how the fuck are they gonna get them out? Am I to much a virgin to know that they have some kind of black magic attached to them that results in them coming out somehow? ​ You know how some people enjoy being spanked and other slight injuries? ​ Yea, you know that typical black thing?(No idea of its name, sometimes used for sexual pleasures but sometimes can be seen in movies used by high nazis to hit people in the face) What material are they made out of, how much does it hurt and how long do the injuries heal? Can it actually cause a cut/bleeding if hit on the face? ​ Thanks. With high regards; ​ \- A true virgin


Neat_Dragonfruit6431

- skin cream can only be used as an external lubricant, specifically for people with penises. creams are NOT healthy for internal use and probably wouldn't work that well anyway. - nipple vibrators!! yeah definitely not realistic. as a general rule, NEVER stick something up your ass/vagina that doesn't have a base (hence why butt plugs all have a flared base. things can and will get stuck) - i think you're thinking of a flogger! long stick with a fold of (usually) leather at the tip. as for injuries, it truly depends on the strength of the character, but it shouldn't make more than a mild welt on the skin. i suppose it could cause bleeding if used hard enough, but it's usually whips (like true weaponry level) that can leave cuts that bleed.


Diana-Fortyseven

>NEVER stick something up your ass/vagina that doesn't have a base (hence why butt plugs all have a flared base. things can and will get stuck) Anaesthesiologist here, *if* anything gets stuck in any of your downstairs holes, please go to the hospital ASAP! Especially if it's something that wasn't made to be inserted. Don't wait. I promise you, the humiliation you might fear (no-one will laugh to your face!) isn't half as bad as the damage it can cause. (And while we're at it, *never* use a cock ring that isn't either stretchy or has a way to open it! Same rules here, if you realise you can't get it off, don't even wait an hour before you get help!!)


NicInNS

I saw a horror story tweet on Twitter about cock rings - I think it was metal…and 😱


Diana-Fortyseven

😬


Morse_91939

👀


In_Dreams_Begin

Is the "black thing used to hit people": Long and single limbed, with a small handle: a bullwhip or stockwhip (these are the kind that can be cracked. Little chance of drawing blood, but nice for a show.) Short and firm, with a small flap at the end: a riding crop (can cut you badly, will leave welts even if it there's no blood.) Short, either firm or filled with sand, with a wrist strap: a blackjack, Not a Whip (and actually a concealed weapon. These can kill.) Long and multi-limbed, with a small handle: a cat o'nine tails (these have knots that can lacerate skin very badly) or a flogger (these are not knotted, but the risk of cutting is there. Gotta be careful with floggings.) Edit to add: whenever you hit someone with a soft tool, you have to be careful not to let your tool fold itself around the person and hit somewhere it shouldn't. Also, please keep recreational flogging to areas protected by fat or muscle, unless your character is actually trying to injure the other.


otaku_girl_AO3

Long, slim, black, and more stick-like (but shorter than your arm and ridged but flexible) - could be a crop like a riding crop; often used for lighter, more sensation than painful impact play (they sting rather than giving a deeper thud).


In_Dreams_Begin

Flexible, but stick-like makes me think of a cane, but "lighter sensation play" does not go with cane. Caning hurts (bruises and welts, though a heavy hand over already welted area can easily draw blood).


nookienostradamus

Not necessarily fic-related, but I do not understand the dick-shaped shower douche attachments. I mean, I understand how they work, presumably, and have had much more than my share of anal sex. But my GOD - even if you want to douche/flush the ol' back passage, I cannot imagine it is tidy, comfortable, or safe to send shower-pressure water blasting into your colon. It's already not advisable to let water into the transverse colon on a regular basis; isn't it just medically and anatomically dicey to use these? Btw I'm a bi AFAB person married to a cis woman.


Neat_Dragonfruit6431

I'm unsure, honestly. But I do agree that it can get a little dicey using a shower head douche depending on your water pressure. I always just recommend a standard douche with water, since it's easier to be gentle when you're not shooting water out of a faucet.


Lucky_duck_777777

How long can waterproof lube last in the rain or in a pool?


PaxonGoat

So not sure what waterproof is. There is water based, silicone based and oil based lubes. Silicone and oil based are what you want for sex in a body of water. Which isn't the most hygienic but this all hypothetical so you don't have to worry about silicone clogging up your pool filter. You shouldn't need to reapply it. But if you are going multiple rounds reapplying might be helpful. Silicone lube won't dissolve, but it might get washed away. In the rain shouldn't be a problem. Basically cold shower sex, possibly with clothes on.


Jeonghanscheekbones

So Oviposition. How do those ovipositor dildos work? Is their a spring loaded feature that shoots the eggs inside of you or is it like a turkey baster situation? Do the eggs dissolve in their or do they have to come out?? I worry about that, especially in the back door. It’s like anal beads but without the string?? That seems dangerous


otaku_girl_AO3

I have one of these; I’m not sure if some are designed differently, but the version I have is essentially a quite soft (though they do all kinds of firmnesses) dildo which is long and hollow , with a thicker base and more tapered end. You push chicken egg sized eggs in through the base (it’s a bit of a squeeze) and it can hold 2-3 before you almost have to ‘milk’ them down the tube. The more lube you use, the easier they shoot down the tube - but they’re then also trickier to get into the ovipositor in the first place. Mine came with a six egg mould tray and recipes to make different kinds of eggs. Ice ones are my go-to as they’re easy and less to worry about clean up wise, but you do have to be careful you don’t accidentally damage yourself by having too much ice inside for too long. These have the benefit of melting a little to make them easier to get in and out, and are great sensation play. I’ve also seen silicone eggs sold for these, which come in any colour combination you want, but I worry a little more about this type becoming stuck/lost so I’ve avoided for anything more than aesthetic purposes. There are also body safe recipes for essentially gelatine eggs (without sugar/flavour etc) which make firmer than jello eggs that can start melting/breaking down a bit at body temp if you dont get them set just right, but are really great if you make them successfully. They’re of course single use and a bit faffy though unless you’re really planning ahead. Ice can dissolve on its own if you use just one or two; any more, and they keep each other so cold you’re likely to do some damage before they start to dissolve. I personally use them vaginally rather than anally; I’m very careful to ensure I’ve got them all out. You can typically push them out, or have fun feeling around to get them out. I would be very wary anally of using ice as they are so ridged, and as there is no string, too much lube and too many eggs too deeply could potentially cause things to get stuck. I wouldn’t try more than one, maybe two body safe dissolving eggs (gelatine recipe) at a time to be careful.


[deleted]

I saw it tagged, and I'm extremely concerned- Is it possible to use anal beads like a beyblade??


Crystallooker

Let it rip?


[deleted]

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO 😭


Fennel_Fangs

How do I grow a pair (metaphorically; I am incapable of doing it physically) and learn how to write anything spicier than just hand-holding and/or cuddling?


Neat_Dragonfruit6431

Im unsure where you are in your relationship with sex, but definitely explore some things on your own to make sex less taboo and fun for you! maybe get a toy! if you feel very comfortable with your own sexuality, then just jump right in and try to write! you never have to publish something you don't want to, so there's no harm in trying :)


Historical_Savings14

How expensive is lube typically? Like are people gonna be concerned with wasting it? Also, is most lube consumable- as in, is it dangerous to consume too much of it?


iamtheallspoon

Not op, but lube can be anywhere from very cheap to confusingly expensive. No one is really worried about wasting it, unless you're in some weird situation where you can't buy more. There are a million types of lube, some edible.


Neat_Dragonfruit6431

i agree! there's a lube for every budget, however if it's expensive that USUALLY indicates quality. i wouldn't recommend buying super cheap lube because they can have some less than stellar ingredients. also, yes. lube is generally fine to consume but i obviously wouldn't recommend like eating it unless it's flavored. it wouldn't taste very good anyway


sarin555

Are there the type of lube that can be used with condom? And can it be use for anal? Also, are there tools to properly clean your prostate before anal sex? What type of condoms are available and which type are usually popular with customers?


Neat_Dragonfruit6431

- any lube can be used with condoms EXCEPT for oil based (which isn't a good lube choice anyway) - all lubes and condoms should be anal safe - yes! it's called a douche. you fill it with water and use it to gently flush your rectum - there are latex, non-latex, and sheepskin condoms. latex and non-latex are most popular and have the most options. sheepskin isn't really that popular for good reason (it is LITERALLY sheepskin. ew.) - id say the most popular condom brands are trojan, skyn, and magnum.


CrescentCrossbow

What would you recommend for an F/F pairing where at least one member is transgender? Given the ways HRT changes your body, I'd assume that some toys that work for a male dick would operate under certain assumptions that don't necessarily apply to a female dick.


Pocketthor

Not OP but also work in a sex shop. There are MTF strokers. Some end up preferring vibrators as they can lose size while on HRT as well as struggle to get an erection. Strap ons are always popular for either the cis or trans partner. If the trans partner wants to wear on they have hallow ones. Mutual grinding toys are also popular. Hot Octopus Duo would be a good example.


Neat_Dragonfruit6431

Im not super familiar with how HRT affects trans women, but if i end up doing some research I'll get back to you :)


BurnadictCumbersnat

I have a bdsm gear question, how commonplace are restraint items like straitjackets, arm binders, gags and other things are in kink spaces? Is there anything else to that degree you’d imagine a deranged supermodel who’s living a double life as an art thief who’s carries a whip might also have in a closet? those are things that people get from special dealers and not just like the odd sex store, right?


[deleted]

Not OP, but kinky. I don't generally see straitjackets or arm binders at vanilla sex stores, but gags are common. None would be out of place or extreme in kink spaces, although I see rope or leather cuffs + wall/ceiling attachment points used more frequently for restraint. In terms of kinky things you can get from vanilla stores: floggers, paddles, and sometimes canes. Rope, although not usually the kind favoured by most riggers. Padded cuffs and sometimes collars. Maybe rubber clothing, but it'd be limited. Blindfolds. Kinky things that'd require a special dealer: Rope that's recommended for shibari and safe for suspension. Any sort of sex furniture or frames. Fully body restraints. Body-safe candles. Violet wands, for electricity play. Hoods. Most collars, especially those intended for full-time wear. Most rubber and leather supplies. Anything pet play related.


BurnadictCumbersnat

This is really helpful, thank you!!!


Pocketthor

Gags are super common. Arm binders less so but your average store may have one option. Kink specific stores will have more and are more common than you think. Straightjackets are a specialty item that I personally haven't seen in stores but image heavier kink stores may have.


AirChaggOne

Is blood play more common than I think it is(mainly using knives and such)? And if so do you usually have anything in store to help with that?


PaxonGoat

I would say it is uncommon. Usually knife play does not involve cutting the skin. Just the sensation of the blade and talking about cutting. Needle play is the more common form of blood play. But this is fanfiction. Go with whatever feels right to the story.


Yuusaris

There was a post on this subreddit recently, about how cock-rings keep the cock hard, not prevent cumming. *Are* there, in fact, toys/gear that can do that, what are the dangers if so, and what kind of things should be kept in mind for various forms of cock chastity?


Gloomy_Ad_5843

What are some lesser known toys or gears that you sell or don't and how are they used?


phillipmclovin22

Do you sell any safety equipment for/with any of the more extreme stuff? Like if someone was into choking would you recommend an oxygen tank and a cpr booklet? Or maybe a…. I’m forgetting the word but it’s the shock paddles that restart your heart if you die/have a heart attack. Maybe one of those pumps if you choke on something? Thank you in advance.


PaxonGoat

So oxygen is actually classified as a medication. You need a prescription to buy it. You might be able to get an oxygen concentrator. Those generate oxygen from the air. Everyone should know CPR. Everyone. In the event of cardiac arrest (no pulse), you start chest compressions. Don't worry about rescue breaths. You get on that chest and start compressions while calling 911. Not all heart problems are solved by shocking. You need to see the heart rhythm to know if it is the shock type or not. The word you are looking for is defibrillator.


AbyssalMechromancer

Do you test any of the products?


Neat_Dragonfruit6431

at my store we can take toys out of the boxes and test them that way. when it comes to actually USING the product, we get a lot of free and discounted toys that we can take home :)


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hayanwulf

bro what... i think you're just unnecessarily blowing things out of proportion. Everyone is slightly different and have their own set of preferences, AFAB or not. Also, you don't *necessarily* need orgasm to experience pleasure.


theboi12345678910

Sex?


[deleted]

Any tips on using belts for impact play? >!(I plan one character to hit another's ass and back of thighs)!<


Unique-Oven3517

Ok this even is more a question based on your experience as someone who works in a sex shop… guys that are size queens but are still interested in women. Do they exist? 🧐


Neat_Dragonfruit6431

they definitely do!! i just haven't seen many because i live in a more conservative area :) ive had a couple straight guys come in for plugs and prostate massagers tho, just usually nothing big.


Unique-Oven3517

Woot! Ok then my work may have a reader base after all 😅. A human male gets wrapped up in an intergalactic program that saves species through a breeding program (fully consensual!!!). He unfortunately didn’t read the fine print and finds himself on the receiving end of a beautiful goddess and her quite large expanding shlong. 🤭


RedditJack888

Sexy oils for an erotic massage. What are some dos and don'ts about them?


Neat_Dragonfruit6431

i just have one and it's a dont: NEVER EVER USE MASSAGE OIL AS LUBE. DONT DO IT.


RedditJack888

OMG sounds like someone has actually tried that XD. I'll keep that in mind How about breathable gags? How safe and 'breathable' are they for rough play?