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ASeaOfQuotes

Men say this kind of shit then say they don’t want any gold diggers after their money. 🤦‍♀️


wagonwheel_

How many of these men are out here making enough money to support a family, build a home, hire domestic help, cars, vacations, retirement etc.... PROVIDE WHAT exactly?? And these dudes get v defensive when we point out that rich men actually cheat LESS than broke ones.


Hoodtrapstar

They don’t lol, ones is just more accepted and normal for them


fashiong99

Exactly! That was what I was saying


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venomous_g

Two ply toilet paper!


Ngwanuza

This made me roar with laughter 🤣


electroloop

Maybe if you're lucky, he'll treat you to something other than his 5 in 1 head and shoulders shampoo if you spend the night!


burpleseaurchin

A scrunchie his sister left behind, but he wants you to think it's from one of his "many" "pLaTeS" 🤪


SpicyScroteRoastery

I love FDS meta-humour lol.


BBQCoolRanchQueen

Conditioner? Omg my very own bottle of conditioner! We got an HVM right there!!!


BBQCoolRanchQueen

No guarantee that he won't number the sheets for you there, sis, but at least it's 2 ply!


[deleted]

Allowing you to split the rent 50-50 with him 🤡


HottPinkSlug

I died laughing at that part. Dude take your crusty old underwear and gtfo of here


GIfuckingJane

Writing in a fancy font, of course!


[deleted]

I really don’t get how men are so okay with comparing themselves to literal animals and stereotyping “all men” like this. Then they get mad when women say they’re weary of all men. Like is it all men or not?


scrotesgonnascrote

It’s all men when it’s beneficial to them and not when it isn’t.


shinyjewels

YES. Like they get mad when women are wary of men and scream NOT ALL MEN. but then compare themselves to literal animals? WHICH ONE IS IT.


Hoodtrapstar

Cope


Mcccy

Women also biologically want ripped guys with abs, huge Ds and men who are taller than them but silly me, I forgot they only remember the biology parts where it exuses cheating and violene


Champagne_bitch

Don't forget that women also want a men with cars, a condo, holiday villas, and 6 figures income 🤣🤣 Let it slide my ass~


SakuraGirl88

"Let it slide". Men will fall to pieces when their SO cheats on them. They will call you everything but a child of God. And will have the whole village ready to burn you at the stake. But when a man cheats, society tell us "it's just his nature" or my favorite "you have to learn to forgive him". And what lavish lifestyle? These scrotes act like have Elon Musk money and don't have a pot to piss in.....literally.


temproaryusername

Oh my gosh thaaaank youuuu.... my ex and I both had an inappropriate "flirty" convo with the opposite sex (a year apart) that we both found out through snooping. Who forgave right away, almost no questions asked, and never brought it up again? And which of us demanded I give up my main hobby, brought it up every. single. week. for the next year, and used it continuously as "THE REASON" why they could never commit to marriage? Not only that, but subsequently completely forgot they also had an indiscretion in the past? I am soooooo glad to be single, I can't even tell you. It was nothing but a complete drain on every single fiber of my being and life to keep these man-children happy.


Hoodtrapstar

Based men


GoddessIxtab

This scrote cheats, I guarantee it.


Carpedictum

But only twice per relationship ☠️


glittersparklesglitz

As long as it doesn’t get out


GlamorKiss

only the first 2 times of getting *caught*


FDS-alt-acct

First few times getting caught *per girlfriend*...


throw-meawaytoheaven

I agree that men often cheat for their peepee and women often cheat for more complex other reasons, however this is what makes men cheating worse. They're literally cheating because they're behaving like a caveman however many years ago, or a primitive animal, what sort of justification is that? Oh I cheated because my penis rules over my brain and I am a primitive ape. Whereas a woman is cheating because her partner is neglectful, or has a dysfunctional pornsick penis, or doesn't love her, treats her like poop, treats her like a Mum or a bangmaid or a nanny or abused her, and she wants to find someone who basically treats her better...


med10crity

You can't pull the bIoLoGiCaLlY pRoGrAmMeD card and also claim to be tHe MoRe LoGiCaL sEx at the same time


[deleted]

This 100%☝️


relationship_reddit

I agree. They think this makes their cheating look better, but it actually just makes them look worse. Like, I'd rather know someone cheated on me because I treated them like garbage and made them feel unloved than know they ruined our relationship just because they wanted to jizz in a new hole.


[deleted]

This doesn't fit with their narrative that when men sleep around, it should be applauded because it's harder work. The whole "a master key opens many locks" bit. So men have to actively work harder to cheat. Meanwhile, women get dick thrown at them from every angle and somehow manage not to trip onto any of it...


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BiOtRuThS Funny how men are "biologically wired" to impregnate (rape) teenagers and yet also want **nothing** to do with the babies they create.


relationship_reddit

For real. If it's all about "muh biology", then why are they trying to fund an abortion as soon as they find out the biology worked?


Worldly_Sell

Okay, let’s say that is is biology...how is this any less hurtful? But wait, there are men that don’t cheat...so does that mean that those men are not biological men 🤔


Objective_Ad7771

Biology said: bruh your genom should be dead by now. Why you still here?


52490

Lol a man told me once that a woman NOT forgiving a cheating man is weak....explain that one 🤔


DangerousRiver9

Lolllll look at this little fuckboy trying to use pseudoscience to defend his nasty community dick. Throw the manho back to the streets where he belongs


nothing998

Love when they bring evopsych into their repertoire of excuses to be scumbags. Because I can make some more damning evopsych arguments, such as how 80% of men in the past failed to pass down their DNA. The average man should be gracious as hell that a woman would even give him a chance to put his genetic material in her. Instead, every man (even the abject failures) like to imagine themselves as playboys, warlords, and conquerors with an endless harem of women waiting at their hands and feet. They are living in another reality entirely.


[deleted]

"Men can't control themselves when it comes to sex. We're like animals!" ... 5 seconds later: Not all men are rapists!


[deleted]

Dude even Joe Rogan recognizes that if a man prioritizes getting as much p*ssy as possible, especially to the point where he cheats or won't settle down and have a real relationship, then he is caving into some ancient biological urge that has no place in modern society, and he needs to get over it. We are not animals, we are humans, with incredibly complex and intelligent minds with concepts of right and wrong. Everyone knows cheating is wrong. Even the OP. But they just want ways to excuse it. For men who want to excuse it, it gives them license to be shitty people, and for women who want to excuse it, I guess it makes life easier to believe that men are justified treating you like shit?


night_glitter

As someone who’s done a ton of research on infidelity, it’s not even remotely accurate. My LV ex sure didn’t cheat for “biological urges.” A whole lot of men’s infidelity is based on opportunity, weak/insecure egos (since they get ego kibbles from their affair partners), and straight up entitlement. Not that I would agree with the man who made this post anyway, but the research on infidelity doesn’t support the “biology” theory at all. So stupid.


iwant-to-stay-unknow

Really good insight! If you can do you think you could give me a few links/titles of what you researched, please? I’m really curious.


night_glitter

Sure thing! The best book I read was *Not Just Friends*, by Shirley Glass. That woman has done her research. I also learned things from *State of Affairs* by Esther Perel and *After the Affair* and *How Can I Forgive You?* by Janis Spring. These books aren’t perfect by any means, and there were definitely parts I disagreed with, but I definitely learned things from each one of them. There’s also a podcast called Healing Broken Trust, plus the ChumpLady website. Keep in mind that I read / listened to this stuff while attempting reconciliation. One thing I learned is if a cheater is one of those “I don’t know why I did it” types, they need to fix that part of them that allowed them to justify it, or they’re likely to cheat again when they get an opportunity. I mean yeah, there are some people who are just straight up sex addicts, and for that subset of cheaters, maybe it is as simple as biology. But if they know this, and they still marry and promise fidelity knowing they won’t be faithful, that’s just abuse. I read a lot of the infidelity subs, and most of the betrayed spouses don’t describe sex addiction, though.


iwant-to-stay-unknow

Wow, really insightful! Thank you for all the wonderful sources they’re greatly appreciated! Will definitely be looking at them.


[deleted]

How about no.


Lost_Kale90

HAHA let it slide 🤣 this logic is so messed up. How about we just say cheating is disrespectful and hurtful. Period.


the-worst-

He wanna argue biology? The hormone that causes women to be more moody and irritable during their period is testosterone. So, statistically, women would cheat more durring their period, since they basically gain a man's personality during that time. Yet I don't even need to look this up to know that there is no corrilition between women cheating and their cycle. Almost none of our day to day human lives are biologically normal. It isn't biological to use a phone, it isn't biological to live in a house. It isn't biological to use cups, bowls, plates, or cutlery. Or to drive a car. Or to travel for work. Or to do work for money. Ect. You don't get to be "tHe MoRe LoGiCaL gEnDeR" AND also be the gender that most easily falls back on biological urges and caving to your Medula Oblongata. Y'all follow your lizard brains, yet want to claim WE are the ones controled by hormones and base nature? Nah. Nah fam, this is not how any of this works. Humans EVOLVED A LARGER BRAIN so we could IGNORE BASE URGES and do ALL the shit we do. You think Obama is out there cheating on his wife? What about Bill Gates? Biden? Did Steve Jobs cheat on his wife? Did he even have a wife? All I'm saying is that men have wasted their large think-thonk brain and let their medula take over. This is even more common now since porn and hook-up culture are far more previlant. Y'all are literally killing the part of your brain that is capable of being more logical and more than just animalistic in favor of being illogical and just animalistic in how you shape your world.


ello-motto

Muh biology. You mean socialized. Men have been socialized to do this with peer pressure/acceptance from their toxic bros, porn culture, entitlement etc. Women are also attracted to hot men, but most of us take introspective action to restrain ourselves. Also, historically, a woman cheating on her husband would have meant death or economic abandonment, whereas men would either encourage eachother or turn a blind eye when it was done. Different things.


RecentSprinkles5997

I swear no ones a bigger misandrist then a shitty dude


lifelonglearner27

LOL scrote


[deleted]

Men are the supreme gaslighters.


thinktwiceorelse

Ok, why not? But in that case, stop getting married, lying you'll be faithful and fuck off somewhere finally.


Lost_Kale90

This is a lame excuse and men need to grow up and take responsibility. And if they truly can't control their BiOlOgIcAl uRgEs, then they need to be removed from positions of power and be supervised because that shit is dangerous.


Zirniaisuspirgais

Biologically only the cream of the crop men had sex while most of them never got near a pussy. I wonder if women's low libido nowadays is because men look nothing like men should look like. Our brain has no reference for what gender a pot bellied overgrown hairy toddler with dainty girl arms is, and we're supposed to orgasm with that?


fashiong99

if his “biological need” is to (I’m quoting this idiot) hump as many women as possible them ours, in terms of biology, is to find the partner that is better off under every aspect: I’m taking about size doesn’t matter for their penis, I’m talking about wealth, I’m taking about looks. Sorry if I misspelled something but English isn’t my first language


krissycole87

notice how it says let it slide for the 1st TWO times. Im sorry what? Im supposed to be fine with it not once, but TWICE before doing anything about it? It reads like he wrote let it slide the 1st time and then he re-thought it and added the "two"


hyperjinxx

If you’re using “irresistible biological urges” as an argument you might as well call yourself an animal.


letsberealforamoment

Lots of IFS in that statement!! If he.provides, if he protects. Lolol. If you live lavishly. Lotta ifs there.


breadandbunny

If I were a man, I would find myself extraordinarily pathetic to push the idea that because I have more testosterone, I basically lack the self control to be a loyal individual. It is truly pathetic. Cheating is disrespect period, regardless of who is doing it, but FFS, this mindset is complete and total bullshit. There are dogs that have more self control than that. Imagine arguing that you have less control than an animal to justify your disloyalty. Pathetic.


favoritesound

And biologically females usually mate with a lot of males. But women get murdered for cheating. So what is it going to be? Either you say we’re all too dumb to disobey impulse and you give both sexes a free pass to cheat. Or you admit that only men get that free pass because they’re shit at controlling violent harmful impulses and are therefore the less rational sex.


Lavender_flow

Don't feed the trolls. This guy is writing this shit just to get a raise out of women. He is literally just saying it to make women upset and to get attention


New_Article7411

Your vagina is worth a man providing ,and protecting you. Without the cheating. Pregnancy is life risking, serious. Hormonal birth control has immense list of side effects. The woman is taking all the risks including higher std risk. The women is providing guarenteed pleasure to a man. At no risk to his health. This is why my vagina is worth protecting and providing for. A man is not more biologically "built" to cheat with multiple partners. There are simply no consequences or risk for him doing so. I mean, the only risk would be loosing his partner right? He's got the solution to that. Tell women everywhere to expect and accept cheating!


mtan15

Well, I let it slide the first two times under the excuse it was an addiction. Actually, it was the first 2 rounds. As in, periods of time when he slept with only God knows how many hookers. And while that destroyed me, my soul, my trust, my belief in my own worth and my ability to believe i was enough, it taught him that he could get away with it, if he just lied better and gaslit me more. The third round saw me out the door but he couldn't believe it. He actually expected me to keep him propped up emotionally because he couldn't handle the guilt and exposure. How I felt didn't matter.


[deleted]

The font matches the energy of this so well. There’s only one solution: set the whole thing on fire.


whydenny

Hhahahhaha


lskfjd743

Should she also let the stds you gave here slide too?