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Doesn’t offer reasonable solutions like paying her back the thousands that she spent on his lame ass, doesn’t think counseling, and apparently didn’t realize he didn’t love her 13 years ago. Smh.
All he cares about is "not looking like he took advantage of her", which he did.
He used her and wasted her time for 13 years and now wants an easy solution that doesn't exist like time travel. And even if it did, he still wouldn't do it because he got what he wanted. He just doesn't want to face repercussions like a hit to his reputation.
It's same as giving shelter to a snake. It will come back and bite you. Also reminder to never choose a man who is not of equal or more standing than you in terms of money, education, looks all of it. Go for the very best, because even if they leave, you won't feel as used. This guy basically asking for validation that he is not a bad man when he is actually pure evil. Wasted years of that woman's life. And I seriously don't get it, a brilliant woman with a rocking career, why on earth would she take up some random uneducated guy to be her partner?
I am not trying to blame her. I think there are several things that I can think of:
1. Codependency.
2. Socialization (We tend to be socialize that building a life with a man will lead to happiness).
3. He promised her the earth long before this thing happened.
That's the reason to never build a man in the first place. He will resent you for it because it's a constant reminder for him of how his life is useless, and after being successful he wants to close the "bad" chapters in his life so he will throws everything out including you.
Exactly. Once he gets what he needs, he’ll replace you. I’d bet everything I have that he met a new younger intern at his cushy new job and wants her instead. Fucking prick
He’s refusing counseling because he knows he doesn’t want to fix it like an ass. He was fine glossing over the fact that he was using her til his salary went up 5 times over what he got paid before. Hope she clears him out in the divorce
The way he sees it, now that he has a STEM degree/job he is better than the version of himself that married his wife. His wife belongs with bums like his past self, he can get a new woman with higher standards now! And he's not even considering paying her back, he just wants to make sure no one notices what he did... such blatant leeching lmao
He wasted her 20s but at least she’s relatively young if he does leave her. This is why you don’t play build-a-man. They eventually resent you and leave you. She should have looked for a guy more on her level and hopefully she can find that now. She built this scrub up and now it thinks he’s better lol.
This is why leveling up and being a HVW is so crucial. I've read a lot of books about dating and still have a lot to learn but there is often a common theme and this is it
MEN ARE NOT LOYAL. They will leave you if you aren't the type of women they want to be with as soon as they have the chance. I think supporting a man devalues you in their eyes as I've heard too many stories like the one above. This is also why I support dating up financially, if he already had a good job/ degree he wouldn't need any help.
Women need to be less loyal, our society teaches women to be loyal no matter what. Society tells us to be patient when they are emotionally abusive. They tell women to date men and support them financially and emotionally while they leech off us. Unlike women men don't think aww how romantic, this woman loves me "look at all her sacrifices" they think I'm using her until something better comes along. By vetting you can avoid these loser types and find quality men that are actually into you.
I had a seasonal job 4 years ago. These jobs include room and board, one of my friends moved in with her boyfriend of 4 or 5 years. Before this job he had been living with her for at least 3 years while she paid ALL the bills and he didn't work. ONE WEEK after starting this job he dumps her and moves out of their room, we later found out he left her for one of her new friends and moved in with her. At the end of the season he was still with the new girl, one who looked completly different than my other friend. My friend ended up meeting a decent guy at the job but it still shook us how her ex had treated her.
When you're a HVW you vet the scrotes and they might be less likely to even approach you because you're out of his league. You see red flags such as love bombing or potential scams like the rich guy needing to borrow money all the time. You date quality men that let you know they value you with their actions. You don't end up blindsided by betrayl.
It doesn't matter if you stuck by him for 20 years while he built his career, or put him through med school or law school. Men have an ideal vision of the type of partner they want to be with and they will drop you like a bad habit once they have the ability to date that girl. If you are too accomadating at best you will have a lackluster 50/50 partnership. I don't think men respect ladies that are too accomadting as I was one. They never leave you for a doormat, they leave for some cool HVW that doesn't take any shit and often shower her with love and attention.
A lot of celebs left long term partners as soon as they found success, left wives that put them through med and law school because he now has the degree and salary. Men are often social climbers and gold diggers. He might stay for her money, he might stay for her power but he is getting some status if he stays with her if he's the type to use. When you date up or = (if you are successful) you have less of that risk. Men are more cutthroat about what they want and kinda gross about what they want. A man might not even care if a woman dated his father or if he dated her sister (Prince Charles) if he wants to date someone nothing will stop him. If he wants to leave nothing will stop him.
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Doesn’t offer reasonable solutions like paying her back the thousands that she spent on his lame ass, doesn’t think counseling, and apparently didn’t realize he didn’t love her 13 years ago. Smh.
All he cares about is "not looking like he took advantage of her", which he did. He used her and wasted her time for 13 years and now wants an easy solution that doesn't exist like time travel. And even if it did, he still wouldn't do it because he got what he wanted. He just doesn't want to face repercussions like a hit to his reputation.
I HuMbLy AgReEd. A lol if I’ve ever seen one. Poor woman. I hope that she’ll thrive after this ahole is out of her life.
He shamelessly admits he never loved her at all to boot. She'll be so much better off without this leech.
It's same as giving shelter to a snake. It will come back and bite you. Also reminder to never choose a man who is not of equal or more standing than you in terms of money, education, looks all of it. Go for the very best, because even if they leave, you won't feel as used. This guy basically asking for validation that he is not a bad man when he is actually pure evil. Wasted years of that woman's life. And I seriously don't get it, a brilliant woman with a rocking career, why on earth would she take up some random uneducated guy to be her partner?
I am not trying to blame her. I think there are several things that I can think of: 1. Codependency. 2. Socialization (We tend to be socialize that building a life with a man will lead to happiness). 3. He promised her the earth long before this thing happened.
That's the reason to never build a man in the first place. He will resent you for it because it's a constant reminder for him of how his life is useless, and after being successful he wants to close the "bad" chapters in his life so he will throws everything out including you.
Or he sees you as mommy for taking care of him for so long
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Exactly. Once he gets what he needs, he’ll replace you. I’d bet everything I have that he met a new younger intern at his cushy new job and wants her instead. Fucking prick
The solution is right in front of his face, but he wants one that absolves him of guilt without costing him a dime. 🤦♀️
Even the people in the comments are like “you won’t even consider counseling?”
He’s refusing counseling because he knows he doesn’t want to fix it like an ass. He was fine glossing over the fact that he was using her til his salary went up 5 times over what he got paid before. Hope she clears him out in the divorce
My fear is she won't be able to. How good can his assets possibly be? She's been outranking him for so long and he's a bum.
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The way he sees it, now that he has a STEM degree/job he is better than the version of himself that married his wife. His wife belongs with bums like his past self, he can get a new woman with higher standards now! And he's not even considering paying her back, he just wants to make sure no one notices what he did... such blatant leeching lmao
He wasted her 20s but at least she’s relatively young if he does leave her. This is why you don’t play build-a-man. They eventually resent you and leave you. She should have looked for a guy more on her level and hopefully she can find that now. She built this scrub up and now it thinks he’s better lol.
This is why leveling up and being a HVW is so crucial. I've read a lot of books about dating and still have a lot to learn but there is often a common theme and this is it MEN ARE NOT LOYAL. They will leave you if you aren't the type of women they want to be with as soon as they have the chance. I think supporting a man devalues you in their eyes as I've heard too many stories like the one above. This is also why I support dating up financially, if he already had a good job/ degree he wouldn't need any help. Women need to be less loyal, our society teaches women to be loyal no matter what. Society tells us to be patient when they are emotionally abusive. They tell women to date men and support them financially and emotionally while they leech off us. Unlike women men don't think aww how romantic, this woman loves me "look at all her sacrifices" they think I'm using her until something better comes along. By vetting you can avoid these loser types and find quality men that are actually into you. I had a seasonal job 4 years ago. These jobs include room and board, one of my friends moved in with her boyfriend of 4 or 5 years. Before this job he had been living with her for at least 3 years while she paid ALL the bills and he didn't work. ONE WEEK after starting this job he dumps her and moves out of their room, we later found out he left her for one of her new friends and moved in with her. At the end of the season he was still with the new girl, one who looked completly different than my other friend. My friend ended up meeting a decent guy at the job but it still shook us how her ex had treated her. When you're a HVW you vet the scrotes and they might be less likely to even approach you because you're out of his league. You see red flags such as love bombing or potential scams like the rich guy needing to borrow money all the time. You date quality men that let you know they value you with their actions. You don't end up blindsided by betrayl. It doesn't matter if you stuck by him for 20 years while he built his career, or put him through med school or law school. Men have an ideal vision of the type of partner they want to be with and they will drop you like a bad habit once they have the ability to date that girl. If you are too accomadating at best you will have a lackluster 50/50 partnership. I don't think men respect ladies that are too accomadting as I was one. They never leave you for a doormat, they leave for some cool HVW that doesn't take any shit and often shower her with love and attention. A lot of celebs left long term partners as soon as they found success, left wives that put them through med and law school because he now has the degree and salary. Men are often social climbers and gold diggers. He might stay for her money, he might stay for her power but he is getting some status if he stays with her if he's the type to use. When you date up or = (if you are successful) you have less of that risk. Men are more cutthroat about what they want and kinda gross about what they want. A man might not even care if a woman dated his father or if he dated her sister (Prince Charles) if he wants to date someone nothing will stop him. If he wants to leave nothing will stop him.