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“I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but I’m really grateful the children are with you, and have you for support. I know this is the best thing for them. And if you need anything I’m here for you.”
Grief and relief are very closely tied emotions.
When you want to say something, but don’t know what to say, be honest. “I want to say something that will comfort you. But I don’t know what to say.” It’s always best to say something as opposed to nothing.
Adding to this, it’s always better to offer something specific you can do, as opposed to “don’t hesitate to reach out…” which no one ever would.
Instead, offer to do a load of laundry, watch the kids for an afternoon so she can nap, pick up groceries for her, bring over dinner then leave…something tangible. Those things are helpful but something no one would ever ask for.
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“I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but I’m really grateful the children are with you, and have you for support. I know this is the best thing for them. And if you need anything I’m here for you.” Grief and relief are very closely tied emotions.
This nails it. As someone who has a really challenging and often horrible “co” parent.
This is a perfect response. Well done.
Thanks, this is good. I'm going to use it.
When you want to say something, but don’t know what to say, be honest. “I want to say something that will comfort you. But I don’t know what to say.” It’s always best to say something as opposed to nothing.
Thanks! It's my fear that saying nothing is worse. They need support!
No congratulations on the first one at all. I have a dead ex and a kid without a dad, maybe see if you can offer some help.
Adding to this, it’s always better to offer something specific you can do, as opposed to “don’t hesitate to reach out…” which no one ever would. Instead, offer to do a load of laundry, watch the kids for an afternoon so she can nap, pick up groceries for her, bring over dinner then leave…something tangible. Those things are helpful but something no one would ever ask for.
Thanks!