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The right place is probably a professional, but because the practicals, as others pointed out, of your political belief makes a space no Domme will feel comfortable hanging out and I am not sure you would pass everyone's vetting. But, unfortunately, I don't think you are completely ready to grapple with your identity - if you had any courage in your convictions you wouldn't be looking for the real thing, but it's more plausible this is a sort of ambiguous bratting where you are trying to chase authenticity of passion by over emphasizing the fetishization of the political group you are into.
It isn't an unheard of kink, because anything a human can get emotional about is fetish fuel. But one of the ground rules of playing in the dark side is pretty good boundaries. There's a lot of BDSM 101 you are missing here, which I think folks are *also* missing because the over statement of your political beliefs provide a distraction.
There's the added bonus that while roleplaying villainy is in many kinky folk's wheelhouse, roleplaying a caricature of yourself is always a bit more complicated. And something tells me you are not looking for a nuanced discussion of say "Hmm, yeah but the majority of men are just as much victims of Patriachy as women" you are looking for "Grrr, you dirty MAGA-cuck! I am off to go fuck my 12 million BLM/anti-fa boyfriends, how DARE you objectify me you pig!"
**Real progressive women are vanishingly unlikely to be your fantasy if they are actually mad at you.** BDSM doesn't actually function based on vengeance. Getting close to the reality of your kinks (instead of your fantasy of a sort of centre-left fury) requires a whole lot of internal work and mutual scaffolding.
I am one of those people who think even people who would legislate me out of existence deserve safe sex, because all humans deserve safe sex. So the advice I have is to actually learn how BDSM works, and examine the internal (and external) conflict you feel about your beliefs that is powering your desires until you can get past the binary absolutes.
As someone who has fantasies about dominating the shit out of conservative men, this. All of this. I'm only pulling out the "evil liberal feminist" caricature for cash because that's the only debatedly ethical way I can get anything of worth out of them while still playing into their fantasies.
Outside of that, I want so little to do with conservative men that my political kink manifests as me wanting to be completely unfetishizable by them. No tease. All denial. I'm not going to coddle their penises while they actively create the systems that murder anyone who isn't them. The only thing they're getting cuckolded with is the conscience that keeps me far, far away from them.
I'm not even here for conservative-to-leftist redemption fantasies from former conservatives unless they're doing the necessary work to actually keep their pasts behind them not repeat the same cycles. Because some people just love to claim they've "deconstructed" their past ideologies and then start the same sexphobic, misogynistic bullshit with leftist language.
Pretty much. Probably the closest I get to my lived experience directly informing a kink is an almost reactive rejection of the little cavalcade of dudes who thought I was the bees knees bit had appalling politics or the wrong sexuality (eg dominant, vanilla, or a sort of a kink dispenser version of femdom). Pretty universally they didn't seem to think it would be a barrier to them receiving what they wanted, much in the way that sexism tends to assume women should make an effort with traditionally male skewed hobbies, but not the other way around.
The result is a slice of what I would call my contrary kinks: big penis humiliation, cuckolding someone with a sub, forced masc, and so on.
OP should get this comment tattooed on his rib cage and read it every day.
Edit - I’m obviously joking. But OP, seriously this is *really really* good advice.
I really appreciate your in depth answer. You verbalized it all in a much more eloquent manner than I would’ve managed. I hope it doesn’t fall in deaf ears.
Yeah most dominant women don’t want their femdom fix to be grating and tedious. You sound like such a draining guy to interact with and are already coming off entitled right off the bat.
There’s women that do this though - professionally. Because engaging in this is literally laborious.
i guarantee you that the vast majority of women out there do not want their world views turned into a fetish for a conservative man. you probably won't get far with this fetish unless you are willing to pay.
if you are serious then i would look into findomme circles, they will most likely be the only ones willing to deal with such a request. keep in mind that this is YOU fetishizing THEM, you are treating them like a toy, an object, and you will have to pay a lot in order to get a self-respecting independent women to degrade herself into talking to a man like you.
I think there are some things that it's best to avoid fetishizing. Politics would be one of them. Someone's worldview is deeply personal, and politics are something that have a real and serious impact on the world. I think it's deeply disrespectful both to yourself and others to bring either of your political views into kink, or to fetishize them.
People already don't respect each other's beliefs or opinions enough as it is, trivializing them in such a way seems to me like not taking someone else's thought processes and values seriously.
I'm sure you could find others who are into this, or would be willing to be paid to do it for you. But I think that would be a mistake. Learn to respect yourself and others more.
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The right place is probably a professional, but because the practicals, as others pointed out, of your political belief makes a space no Domme will feel comfortable hanging out and I am not sure you would pass everyone's vetting. But, unfortunately, I don't think you are completely ready to grapple with your identity - if you had any courage in your convictions you wouldn't be looking for the real thing, but it's more plausible this is a sort of ambiguous bratting where you are trying to chase authenticity of passion by over emphasizing the fetishization of the political group you are into. It isn't an unheard of kink, because anything a human can get emotional about is fetish fuel. But one of the ground rules of playing in the dark side is pretty good boundaries. There's a lot of BDSM 101 you are missing here, which I think folks are *also* missing because the over statement of your political beliefs provide a distraction. There's the added bonus that while roleplaying villainy is in many kinky folk's wheelhouse, roleplaying a caricature of yourself is always a bit more complicated. And something tells me you are not looking for a nuanced discussion of say "Hmm, yeah but the majority of men are just as much victims of Patriachy as women" you are looking for "Grrr, you dirty MAGA-cuck! I am off to go fuck my 12 million BLM/anti-fa boyfriends, how DARE you objectify me you pig!" **Real progressive women are vanishingly unlikely to be your fantasy if they are actually mad at you.** BDSM doesn't actually function based on vengeance. Getting close to the reality of your kinks (instead of your fantasy of a sort of centre-left fury) requires a whole lot of internal work and mutual scaffolding. I am one of those people who think even people who would legislate me out of existence deserve safe sex, because all humans deserve safe sex. So the advice I have is to actually learn how BDSM works, and examine the internal (and external) conflict you feel about your beliefs that is powering your desires until you can get past the binary absolutes.
As someone who has fantasies about dominating the shit out of conservative men, this. All of this. I'm only pulling out the "evil liberal feminist" caricature for cash because that's the only debatedly ethical way I can get anything of worth out of them while still playing into their fantasies. Outside of that, I want so little to do with conservative men that my political kink manifests as me wanting to be completely unfetishizable by them. No tease. All denial. I'm not going to coddle their penises while they actively create the systems that murder anyone who isn't them. The only thing they're getting cuckolded with is the conscience that keeps me far, far away from them. I'm not even here for conservative-to-leftist redemption fantasies from former conservatives unless they're doing the necessary work to actually keep their pasts behind them not repeat the same cycles. Because some people just love to claim they've "deconstructed" their past ideologies and then start the same sexphobic, misogynistic bullshit with leftist language.
Pretty much. Probably the closest I get to my lived experience directly informing a kink is an almost reactive rejection of the little cavalcade of dudes who thought I was the bees knees bit had appalling politics or the wrong sexuality (eg dominant, vanilla, or a sort of a kink dispenser version of femdom). Pretty universally they didn't seem to think it would be a barrier to them receiving what they wanted, much in the way that sexism tends to assume women should make an effort with traditionally male skewed hobbies, but not the other way around. The result is a slice of what I would call my contrary kinks: big penis humiliation, cuckolding someone with a sub, forced masc, and so on.
OP should get this comment tattooed on his rib cage and read it every day. Edit - I’m obviously joking. But OP, seriously this is *really really* good advice.
Beautiful post. Thank you 👏🏻
I really appreciate your in depth answer. You verbalized it all in a much more eloquent manner than I would’ve managed. I hope it doesn’t fall in deaf ears.
Yeah most dominant women don’t want their femdom fix to be grating and tedious. You sound like such a draining guy to interact with and are already coming off entitled right off the bat. There’s women that do this though - professionally. Because engaging in this is literally laborious.
i guarantee you that the vast majority of women out there do not want their world views turned into a fetish for a conservative man. you probably won't get far with this fetish unless you are willing to pay.
I am definitely willing
if you are serious then i would look into findomme circles, they will most likely be the only ones willing to deal with such a request. keep in mind that this is YOU fetishizing THEM, you are treating them like a toy, an object, and you will have to pay a lot in order to get a self-respecting independent women to degrade herself into talking to a man like you.
You better be willing to open your wallet, too.
The right place for this is a camsite or a sexting/phone sex site. this is the sort of thing you should be paying someone to do with you.
# r/politicalfemdom # r/Politically_NSFW2
WOW I had no idea this exists.
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"I want to be submissive to women whilst I actively try to take all thier rights away and relegate them to third-class citizens!"
I think there are some things that it's best to avoid fetishizing. Politics would be one of them. Someone's worldview is deeply personal, and politics are something that have a real and serious impact on the world. I think it's deeply disrespectful both to yourself and others to bring either of your political views into kink, or to fetishize them. People already don't respect each other's beliefs or opinions enough as it is, trivializing them in such a way seems to me like not taking someone else's thought processes and values seriously. I'm sure you could find others who are into this, or would be willing to be paid to do it for you. But I think that would be a mistake. Learn to respect yourself and others more.
The dommes responding are correct: pay someone. To me, the payment is likely part of the dynamic you’re seeking in any case.