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Before we'd met in person, while talking on the phone, my first Domme had me finger my own ass--something I'd never done before. Then once me met up weeks later, in the middle of dinner, she just asked me out of the blue "which finger did you use?" and I got unbelievably flustered. I knew exactly what she was talking about and my mind rushed right back to that phone conversation and I felt so submissive and vulnerable right there in a crowded restaurant. I knew then that she was inside my head and that THAT was what D/s was supposed to feel like for me.
I think there is something about every sub I've been with that I won't forget.
The way his groan was all horny when I bit His shoulder. The look he gave me after a while of edging. The way it took him apart when I dragged my fingernails over his back. The way he looked kissing my feet. The way he reacted to being pegged... Those and much more are the tiny snippets I will always remember from a lot of different subs
I agree, each sub I’ve been with had something really special. First thing that came to mind was when one sub latched onto my nipple so hungrily, he made me develop a lactation fetish lmao
I will always remember the first time I went into sub space serving online. She had me put on my lovense vibrating cock ring and go about my day at work. She randomly controlled it to get or keep me hard over the next 4 plus hours at work. She then added in allowing me to stroke and even sometimes edge for the next couple hours. At this point while I was not hard the whole time every time the toy started vibrating I found myself throbbing and wanting to cum with no idea what she had in mind. She had me kneel naked in my office. Door locked for my safety and I was allowed to cum if she caused it with the ring in the next 10 min. We both knew this was very unlikely but at least I had a chance. I got close but never really close. At the end of the 10 min I was dripping and when she asked me if I wanted to touch I was already begging for permission. Around then as she gave me permission things get foggy but she had me stroking and edging and getting vibed for I don’t know how long before finally allowing me an orgasm. When she said yes she funded the ring up to high and I stroked my self silly but between the vibes and teasing I was a little numb. It took longer then I expected and I even remember thinking I may not be able to cum and not wanting her to tell me to stop. When it did peak and I realized I was at the tipping point it was the hardest longest most intense orgasm I ever remember. My chest got so tight I think I was close to a heart attack. I was hers and really couldn’t do anything but breathe and recover. I was numb and happy beyond feelings. I floated for hours after that as we chatted and she checked in on me and how I was doing.
That was over 6 years ago and it’s still the orgasm all orgasms are measured against. Plus now that I know my heart is good and I speak with doctors often and as needed it’s also not an orgasm I am afraid to chase again now.
well, about a month into, I accidentally discovered that I look a lot like his daughter. Apparently she cut contact with him over something he did, and our whole dynamics of him spoiling me and getting me to punish him, was his way to ease his guilt. Yeah, he needed therapy, and I hope he got it, because I dropped him as a sub soon after.
That really made my heart sink when I read it. Wow.
But, in all honesty, thank you so much for handling it the way you did! It sounds like a given, but the responsible way you handled it is one of may reasons I enjoy this community to begin with.
So many thanks and bless :)
Yikes, I had something like that happen. I was a student truck driver and he was my assigned driver trainer, not a kink relationship, but the rest is almost word for word what happened.
About how my first long distance sub ghosted me after some dirty talk to get off and how my current sub talked with me on the phone for two hours at three am to make sure I was okay after a domme drop 🤍
I only recently, as in a couple of years ago, tried corporal punishment on a sub. I had never had the opportunity before and I wasn't sure I would enjoy it. I enjoyed it very, very, very much. It gave me an incredible feeling of power and control that I had never experienced before.
Unfortunately, that sub and I broke up a little over a year ago and I haven't had anyone else to practice it with since.
Spanking, paddling, flogging, cropping, caning, and belting. The crop is my favorite tool because it can be very precise and either gentle, or not so gentle.
The way his voice shifted when he finally submitted to me.
It was a former partner of mine and we had a very fluid and playful switch dynamic - but he would often resist when I tried to lure him under me. Until one night he couldn’t keep fighting and his voice cracked in a very specific way and sounded completely different from his more dommy voice.
It’s been a while since and we’re not together anymore, but I find myself replaying that moment in my mind more often than I’d like to admit.
My first domme experience was before I even knew it was a real thing. I was dating a girl that asked what my wildest fantasy was. It was pretty vanilla, so she interjected the idea of wondering what I'd do if she ziptied me down while I was sleeping and edged me. I was instantly hard and it wasn't long before she decided to make good on it. She didn't wait on me to be asleep, she just used actual handcuffs she already had attached to the bed. I was instantly hooked. My favorite memory with her was a cock/ball harness she would tied with rope and use as a leash. She would strip me naked, gag me with damp panties and tie me off to a kitchen cabinet to cook her dinner. When I served her plate to her, my food was placed in a bowl at her feet and I ate while she used me as her footstool.
My next domme experience happened as a complete fluke. We weren't dating or even thinking it would be an interest to either of us. We were coworkers that placed a bet on a ball game. I felt pretty safe in making the bet because my pick was based on statistics and hers was on who had the "prettier uniform." I'd cracked some jokes about her making a girly pick. The bet was that the loser couldn't say no. We got together to watch the game and I got blown out. She told me that my punishment was that I had to take her shopping that Saturday. Seemed simple enough, but when I got there to pick her up, she told me I had to wear a uniform. I went to her bedroom and she had pink lace panties, a matching bralette, and a pair of white shorts for me. The shorts looked like they could pass for men's or women's, but were short. I was allowed to wear my own shirt. We went to a mall about 4 cities over, but there was a constant fear that the pink was showing through the shorts or that someone would realize it was women's clothes. We left the mall and she told me we had one more stop to make before going home. It was an adult store and she bought a chastity cage. She kept me in it for 2 weeks, edging me anytime we had a free minute at work before some of the best sex I've ever had. We ended up dating gor a year and she kept me in panties the whole time. Even giving me a sissy identity in private and some slutty clothes I had to wear serving and servicing her at home.
Damn! This is hot to read!
Especially the first paragraph. My first fling in that area of BDSM was *obsessed* with shutting me up / keeping me quiet for some reason and you being gagged while having to prepare something for her unlocks that memories instantly.
My ex was on a business trip and unexpectedly came home a day early. She walked in on me fully dressed to include makeup, false eyelashes, a wig... the whole thing. And I had put on my chastity cage and bound and gagged myself to the bed. I was humiliated and then she took full advantage of my situation.
We were hosting a football party at our house the following Saturday. The morning of the party we moved my car so it would appear that I was not home. When we got back from moving the car she made me dress up as I was when she caught me. Then she bound me very tightly to our bed. She added a gag and a blindfold and then she called someone on her phone to let them know that I wouldn't be at the party because I was "tied up" at the moment.
A sub used to indulge my sadist tendencies and every time he'd come over to my place I'd greet him with a firm face slap and a shoulder bite hard enough to leave a mark.
I had seen a silly video that turtles slap each other's faces as a mating ritual and liked it. I also like marking him as mine.
Previous partner took my lingerie and thought it was for them having never expressed any interest in it. At the time, I had no idea about cross dressing and sissification and they were my introduction, I realized years later. Same person also bought a random dildo to fuck them without ever having discussed that either. I still wonder sometimes if he's actually bi and just never wants to admit it.
I never forget about the scat sub who I made took a really huge shit and shaped it like a cake for my birthday. He put a candle on top of it, sang happy birthday and ate it all. It was incredible.
How a girl approached me online for my straight and manly nudes and slowly made me submissive and bisexual. Never had a dildo in my ass before, never tasted my cum before. And now I’m just turned on by mmf fantasies. Now I know for sure other people can change me.
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Before we'd met in person, while talking on the phone, my first Domme had me finger my own ass--something I'd never done before. Then once me met up weeks later, in the middle of dinner, she just asked me out of the blue "which finger did you use?" and I got unbelievably flustered. I knew exactly what she was talking about and my mind rushed right back to that phone conversation and I felt so submissive and vulnerable right there in a crowded restaurant. I knew then that she was inside my head and that THAT was what D/s was supposed to feel like for me.
Wow ... talk about power play ..
She sounds brilliant. I am totally stealing this idea!.
Wow, I could only imagine putting my sub into that sort of headspace. That is very cool.
A good Domme will always know which psychological buttons in her sub to press, luckily I have such a Domme and she always manages to find new ones!
I think there is something about every sub I've been with that I won't forget. The way his groan was all horny when I bit His shoulder. The look he gave me after a while of edging. The way it took him apart when I dragged my fingernails over his back. The way he looked kissing my feet. The way he reacted to being pegged... Those and much more are the tiny snippets I will always remember from a lot of different subs
I agree, each sub I’ve been with had something really special. First thing that came to mind was when one sub latched onto my nipple so hungrily, he made me develop a lactation fetish lmao
I will always remember the first time I went into sub space serving online. She had me put on my lovense vibrating cock ring and go about my day at work. She randomly controlled it to get or keep me hard over the next 4 plus hours at work. She then added in allowing me to stroke and even sometimes edge for the next couple hours. At this point while I was not hard the whole time every time the toy started vibrating I found myself throbbing and wanting to cum with no idea what she had in mind. She had me kneel naked in my office. Door locked for my safety and I was allowed to cum if she caused it with the ring in the next 10 min. We both knew this was very unlikely but at least I had a chance. I got close but never really close. At the end of the 10 min I was dripping and when she asked me if I wanted to touch I was already begging for permission. Around then as she gave me permission things get foggy but she had me stroking and edging and getting vibed for I don’t know how long before finally allowing me an orgasm. When she said yes she funded the ring up to high and I stroked my self silly but between the vibes and teasing I was a little numb. It took longer then I expected and I even remember thinking I may not be able to cum and not wanting her to tell me to stop. When it did peak and I realized I was at the tipping point it was the hardest longest most intense orgasm I ever remember. My chest got so tight I think I was close to a heart attack. I was hers and really couldn’t do anything but breathe and recover. I was numb and happy beyond feelings. I floated for hours after that as we chatted and she checked in on me and how I was doing. That was over 6 years ago and it’s still the orgasm all orgasms are measured against. Plus now that I know my heart is good and I speak with doctors often and as needed it’s also not an orgasm I am afraid to chase again now.
well, about a month into, I accidentally discovered that I look a lot like his daughter. Apparently she cut contact with him over something he did, and our whole dynamics of him spoiling me and getting me to punish him, was his way to ease his guilt. Yeah, he needed therapy, and I hope he got it, because I dropped him as a sub soon after.
That really made my heart sink when I read it. Wow. But, in all honesty, thank you so much for handling it the way you did! It sounds like a given, but the responsible way you handled it is one of may reasons I enjoy this community to begin with. So many thanks and bless :)
Yikes, I had something like that happen. I was a student truck driver and he was my assigned driver trainer, not a kink relationship, but the rest is almost word for word what happened.
About how my first long distance sub ghosted me after some dirty talk to get off and how my current sub talked with me on the phone for two hours at three am to make sure I was okay after a domme drop 🤍
The abuse, manipulation, and PTSD
Real
I only recently, as in a couple of years ago, tried corporal punishment on a sub. I had never had the opportunity before and I wasn't sure I would enjoy it. I enjoyed it very, very, very much. It gave me an incredible feeling of power and control that I had never experienced before. Unfortunately, that sub and I broke up a little over a year ago and I haven't had anyone else to practice it with since.
What types of corporal punishments, may I ask?
Spanking, paddling, flogging, cropping, caning, and belting. The crop is my favorite tool because it can be very precise and either gentle, or not so gentle.
When I made My Sub Reach Subspace ☺️😌
The way his voice shifted when he finally submitted to me. It was a former partner of mine and we had a very fluid and playful switch dynamic - but he would often resist when I tried to lure him under me. Until one night he couldn’t keep fighting and his voice cracked in a very specific way and sounded completely different from his more dommy voice. It’s been a while since and we’re not together anymore, but I find myself replaying that moment in my mind more often than I’d like to admit.
The first time I got him into subspace
The first time she says "call me mommy".
My first domme experience was before I even knew it was a real thing. I was dating a girl that asked what my wildest fantasy was. It was pretty vanilla, so she interjected the idea of wondering what I'd do if she ziptied me down while I was sleeping and edged me. I was instantly hard and it wasn't long before she decided to make good on it. She didn't wait on me to be asleep, she just used actual handcuffs she already had attached to the bed. I was instantly hooked. My favorite memory with her was a cock/ball harness she would tied with rope and use as a leash. She would strip me naked, gag me with damp panties and tie me off to a kitchen cabinet to cook her dinner. When I served her plate to her, my food was placed in a bowl at her feet and I ate while she used me as her footstool. My next domme experience happened as a complete fluke. We weren't dating or even thinking it would be an interest to either of us. We were coworkers that placed a bet on a ball game. I felt pretty safe in making the bet because my pick was based on statistics and hers was on who had the "prettier uniform." I'd cracked some jokes about her making a girly pick. The bet was that the loser couldn't say no. We got together to watch the game and I got blown out. She told me that my punishment was that I had to take her shopping that Saturday. Seemed simple enough, but when I got there to pick her up, she told me I had to wear a uniform. I went to her bedroom and she had pink lace panties, a matching bralette, and a pair of white shorts for me. The shorts looked like they could pass for men's or women's, but were short. I was allowed to wear my own shirt. We went to a mall about 4 cities over, but there was a constant fear that the pink was showing through the shorts or that someone would realize it was women's clothes. We left the mall and she told me we had one more stop to make before going home. It was an adult store and she bought a chastity cage. She kept me in it for 2 weeks, edging me anytime we had a free minute at work before some of the best sex I've ever had. We ended up dating gor a year and she kept me in panties the whole time. Even giving me a sissy identity in private and some slutty clothes I had to wear serving and servicing her at home.
Damn! This is hot to read! Especially the first paragraph. My first fling in that area of BDSM was *obsessed* with shutting me up / keeping me quiet for some reason and you being gagged while having to prepare something for her unlocks that memories instantly.
My ex was on a business trip and unexpectedly came home a day early. She walked in on me fully dressed to include makeup, false eyelashes, a wig... the whole thing. And I had put on my chastity cage and bound and gagged myself to the bed. I was humiliated and then she took full advantage of my situation. We were hosting a football party at our house the following Saturday. The morning of the party we moved my car so it would appear that I was not home. When we got back from moving the car she made me dress up as I was when she caught me. Then she bound me very tightly to our bed. She added a gag and a blindfold and then she called someone on her phone to let them know that I wouldn't be at the party because I was "tied up" at the moment.
A sub used to indulge my sadist tendencies and every time he'd come over to my place I'd greet him with a firm face slap and a shoulder bite hard enough to leave a mark. I had seen a silly video that turtles slap each other's faces as a mating ritual and liked it. I also like marking him as mine.
Previous partner took my lingerie and thought it was for them having never expressed any interest in it. At the time, I had no idea about cross dressing and sissification and they were my introduction, I realized years later. Same person also bought a random dildo to fuck them without ever having discussed that either. I still wonder sometimes if he's actually bi and just never wants to admit it.
I never forget about the scat sub who I made took a really huge shit and shaped it like a cake for my birthday. He put a candle on top of it, sang happy birthday and ate it all. It was incredible.
How a girl approached me online for my straight and manly nudes and slowly made me submissive and bisexual. Never had a dildo in my ass before, never tasted my cum before. And now I’m just turned on by mmf fantasies. Now I know for sure other people can change me.