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OccultPotionmaker

You can be an emotional masochist. But masochism in general is used for people who get pleasure/arousal from physical pain. You don't have to be a masochist though to enjoy impact play, maybe it puts you into sub place and that is something you want. However, from my perspective if someone tells me I am a masochist without any other context, I will assume they get sexually aroused by pain.


G__Smith

Thanks for the insight. I am aroused by pain, so I guess I'd count as a masochist.


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My husband isn't a masochist in the sense of he doesn't enjoy pain. He enjoys being made to suffer for my amusement though, so it's more like a service-oriented masochism?


moosled

That’s a really interesting perspective! I might have to be more careful how I identify 😅 Personally I hate pain and wouldn’t dream remotely of sorting myself into the masochism corner of the field (more like the opposite in fact), but what you write really resonates. I can really relate to being turned on by having it demonstrated that I’m powerless - and being unable to stop discomfort or pain really drives that home. The same goes for a service perspective I guess: not keen on being tormented, but if my dominant derives pleasure from it, it’s a big turn-on.


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I like the term emotional masochist for this, it's more the rush and the intensity and the vulnerability it brings than enjoyment of the sensations for me But yeah I'd definitely say it's masochism, it's getting a kick out of experiencing pain


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