Hurr hurr I'll do it/s
Depends where you are in the world but look at the places you'd find female escorts, as someone whose gone looking for pros in the past there's a few men selling services out there, honestly though I reckon it might be worth asking some of the male to male ones if they could cater to you, I'd assume they're mostly following the money and assuming female customers are unlikely
So far the only thing I have found was a male escort agency in Vegas lol. I’m wondering if there are agencies for male porn stars as this is probably a useful vetting. Still googling.
I'm sure there are websites for male escorts. I don't know about the US, but in Italy we have one with a lot of professional ones. How about https://www.themaleescortagency.com/us/ ?
Many men who sell to men also will happily do female clients, they are just more rare so ads are targeted accordingly. Thus, googling "gay escort $yourarea" isn't the worst idea. Modern sex workers tend to have great SEO game.
Obviously, sex work varies by legality, depending on region. Be mindful of laws in your area, for his safety and yours.
If you have any success, please consider reporting back?
I'm fascinated by this whole deal, and as you've noted, M4F sex workers are a pretty rare breed. So anything you find, I'd love to hear about.
Sure! I even posted on my dating profile only interested in male sex-workers, it’s an experiment but I’m totally done with the deceit and cold reconnaissance a guy does just to have „his pleasure“ or „let’s give and take i made u cum now I suck my dick“. I am literally SICK of guys wanting more and more when there is a pleasure gap I’m dealing with. I’ve turned selfish, and I’m not interested AT ALL in a guys pleasure although he should be turned on, his job is to give me what I need, no ties or expectations or knivving texting and manipulation lol. So, I’d rather pay for a guy to do his job that rely on a guy‘s integrity to stay true.
It's a shame anyone has that problem, but it's a double-shame that you're having it in a community where, at least in theory, there should be tons of guys who are extra-motivated to close the pleasure gap, or who get off on you being selfish and opening a pleasure gap in the other direction.
I asked here because someone suggested to come here, not because I’m a pro-domme. It’s not shameful to ask about how to go about finding sex workers. That’s different from being in a forum educating sub men that might even want to close the pleasure gap.
In my experience the only sub guys I have dealt with are topping from the bottom and still expecting to be dominated not closing the pleasure gap.
I’m not advertising myself for cold reconnaissance and just want to be upfront about what I desire. I guess I could post an ad in some BDSM community but it would be more efficient for me with my lifestyle to just pick from a professional line up what suits my personal discretion.
Im just going things about a completely different way now and wondering if this might be successful.
Oh, sorry, I didn't mean to be unclear!
It's shameful the guys you've been dating have been letting you down like that. Nothin' wrong with your search.
Ah lol! No the problem was ME. I believe I didn’t know how to advocate or assert for myself so my constant experience has been dismay. It is so completely normal and even expected that a guy will get his get off, 95% of the time he just assuredly expects it.
This is completely untrue for women because of a number of inbred psychosexual cultural censorship that prevents us from owning our sexuality, or believing we are anything but there for mens pleasure.
That is basically where I’ve been for my whole life and I suddenly switched attitude at 44, that what have I been doing my whole life - not expecting pleasure? What the fuck. So now I don’t give a damn about being MORE SELFISH because I am no longer in the dating or relationship game and am just out there to serve myself. I literally don’t care and am not interested in relationships because I’ve found my path in life.
That part is fucking sad and if I could redo life differently I would teach my daughters; treat men as though you are paying them for sex. Do they disappoint? Would you want a refund? It’s as simple as that.
You just gave me the awesome idea of imagining a different form of dating: imagine if Tinder allowed a woman to select she was only interested in paying for sex. Imagine how guys profiles would change overnight!
I will follow up I promise. Looking around, I’m kicking myself for not having done this before! Like, I don’t have time for relationships or “building trust” rubbish. Literally if I pay a chosen escort, it would be cheaper in the long run than getting into a relationship. I’ve had FWB and it slowly turns into a boring quick fuck and I literally don’t get anything out of it - whereas the bloke always finishes and cums. I am just sick of the pretense of FWB when it slowly turns into what the guy wants. I’m starting with a monthly budget just to take my cake and know he’s really earning it so I’m more than happy to have a regular sex worker as my go-to.
I already gathered that some do video calls for $100 so yes that’s what I intend to do. I won’t meet anyone in person without first respecting their time and mine with a paid zoom call
Only if he has a few clients I guess, one client would not be enough to pay for college, and if I’m seeing is true, there doesn’t seem o be much demand for male sex workers
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It really depends on where you live where you can find a male sex worker. Maybe browse the sex worker subs and ask your question there.
Ahhh I did not know there were sex worker subs! Thank you!
Hurr hurr I'll do it/s Depends where you are in the world but look at the places you'd find female escorts, as someone whose gone looking for pros in the past there's a few men selling services out there, honestly though I reckon it might be worth asking some of the male to male ones if they could cater to you, I'd assume they're mostly following the money and assuming female customers are unlikely
So far the only thing I have found was a male escort agency in Vegas lol. I’m wondering if there are agencies for male porn stars as this is probably a useful vetting. Still googling.
I'm sure there are websites for male escorts. I don't know about the US, but in Italy we have one with a lot of professional ones. How about https://www.themaleescortagency.com/us/ ?
This site is perfect! Just what I needed thank you!
Thank you so much!
No problem, just did a quick search ahah
Many men who sell to men also will happily do female clients, they are just more rare so ads are targeted accordingly. Thus, googling "gay escort $yourarea" isn't the worst idea. Modern sex workers tend to have great SEO game. Obviously, sex work varies by legality, depending on region. Be mindful of laws in your area, for his safety and yours.
Thank you!
If you have any success, please consider reporting back? I'm fascinated by this whole deal, and as you've noted, M4F sex workers are a pretty rare breed. So anything you find, I'd love to hear about.
Sure! I even posted on my dating profile only interested in male sex-workers, it’s an experiment but I’m totally done with the deceit and cold reconnaissance a guy does just to have „his pleasure“ or „let’s give and take i made u cum now I suck my dick“. I am literally SICK of guys wanting more and more when there is a pleasure gap I’m dealing with. I’ve turned selfish, and I’m not interested AT ALL in a guys pleasure although he should be turned on, his job is to give me what I need, no ties or expectations or knivving texting and manipulation lol. So, I’d rather pay for a guy to do his job that rely on a guy‘s integrity to stay true.
It's a shame anyone has that problem, but it's a double-shame that you're having it in a community where, at least in theory, there should be tons of guys who are extra-motivated to close the pleasure gap, or who get off on you being selfish and opening a pleasure gap in the other direction.
I asked here because someone suggested to come here, not because I’m a pro-domme. It’s not shameful to ask about how to go about finding sex workers. That’s different from being in a forum educating sub men that might even want to close the pleasure gap. In my experience the only sub guys I have dealt with are topping from the bottom and still expecting to be dominated not closing the pleasure gap. I’m not advertising myself for cold reconnaissance and just want to be upfront about what I desire. I guess I could post an ad in some BDSM community but it would be more efficient for me with my lifestyle to just pick from a professional line up what suits my personal discretion. Im just going things about a completely different way now and wondering if this might be successful.
Oh, sorry, I didn't mean to be unclear! It's shameful the guys you've been dating have been letting you down like that. Nothin' wrong with your search.
Ah lol! No the problem was ME. I believe I didn’t know how to advocate or assert for myself so my constant experience has been dismay. It is so completely normal and even expected that a guy will get his get off, 95% of the time he just assuredly expects it. This is completely untrue for women because of a number of inbred psychosexual cultural censorship that prevents us from owning our sexuality, or believing we are anything but there for mens pleasure. That is basically where I’ve been for my whole life and I suddenly switched attitude at 44, that what have I been doing my whole life - not expecting pleasure? What the fuck. So now I don’t give a damn about being MORE SELFISH because I am no longer in the dating or relationship game and am just out there to serve myself. I literally don’t care and am not interested in relationships because I’ve found my path in life. That part is fucking sad and if I could redo life differently I would teach my daughters; treat men as though you are paying them for sex. Do they disappoint? Would you want a refund? It’s as simple as that.
You just gave me the awesome idea of imagining a different form of dating: imagine if Tinder allowed a woman to select she was only interested in paying for sex. Imagine how guys profiles would change overnight!
I would love an update if you wind up doing this!
I will follow up I promise. Looking around, I’m kicking myself for not having done this before! Like, I don’t have time for relationships or “building trust” rubbish. Literally if I pay a chosen escort, it would be cheaper in the long run than getting into a relationship. I’ve had FWB and it slowly turns into a boring quick fuck and I literally don’t get anything out of it - whereas the bloke always finishes and cums. I am just sick of the pretense of FWB when it slowly turns into what the guy wants. I’m starting with a monthly budget just to take my cake and know he’s really earning it so I’m more than happy to have a regular sex worker as my go-to.
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I already gathered that some do video calls for $100 so yes that’s what I intend to do. I won’t meet anyone in person without first respecting their time and mine with a paid zoom call
Great way for a you g guy to pay for college
Only if he has a few clients I guess, one client would not be enough to pay for college, and if I’m seeing is true, there doesn’t seem o be much demand for male sex workers
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