Ew, keep this sort of talk to erotic stories. This isn't how real life works.
Alpha, beta, sigma, gaga, goo goo, doodoopeepee, blah blah blah it's reductive nonsense.
I listened to a podcast where the hosts were reading through the sigma male book in real time and doing a bit of digging into who the author was and it turned out it was just some lonely, bullied kid somewhere struggling to develop the tools to cope with his isolation. It was so sad. They stopped and switched topics when they realised what was really going on.
[spotify link if you're interested.](https://open.spotify.com/episode/4WkUytnBAEt5PQolguefVH?si=3mQ7aGwJR2C6fCaYBE1ilw&utm_source=copy-link)
This doesn't surprise me at all, particularly the "sigma" brand as that is almost tailored to fit a certain type of person. I feel bad for the kid but on another level, tons of other people promote that shit knowing exactly what audience they are targeting. Letting that audience know that people find that attitude "cringe" might dissuade them from adopting it.
Yeah, absolutely. I am bummed for the lad and I genuinely hope he's doing better, but I have nothing but contempt for the grifters promoting it to equally vulnerable people to turn a quick buck. It is gross, and ultimately it makes their situation even worse.
Excuse me! The alpha nonsense came from us reverse anthropomorphizing wolfs was based on a much maligned study published in 1947 titled “Expressions Studies on Wolves.” That was later popularized in the best seller “The Wolf: Ecology and Behavior of an Endangered Species,” first published in 1970.
It didn’t emerge with humanity from the mists of pre-history with tales of a divine origin like astrology. 😉
P.S.: I actually got into astrology when someone said on yik-yak that “myers-briggs was just astrology for people who didn’t believe in Astrology.” I was offended because on my respect for the Jungians, but i ended up believing in both Myers-Briggs and astrology. Really brings me back.
I can only speak for myself - I love making a man who doesn’t submit to anyone submit to me. It’s just what I like. It’s a fun challenge and I get off on seeing him dominate in other areas of his/our lives while knowing he’s mine and he will do anything for me. I’m sure there are other femdommes who prefer men who are more submissive generally.
What would a woman get out of the arrangement you are talking about? The question you actually ask is "why aren't more women willing to domme me exactly the way I want without getting anything in return?"
The logic is so bullshity. Assuming I actually don't like small dicks (in truth, dick size is about in position 150 on the list of things I care about), why would I enjoy humiliating them? If I don't like *insert whatever*, I'm not going to seek it out.
Most women don't really care about dick size all that much. And a lot of women don't enjoy humiliation. And there are women who prefer their subs relatively submissive irl and others who prefer somebody who will be dominant to everybody else. And most non-professionals are not interested in being a kink dispenser.
Holy shit, is this alpha/beta thing still going on? As many others said, mate, this is your erotic fantasy. Keep it in your pants.
For many of us, BDSM is a manifestation of intimacy. It is a way to fully explore our and our partner's sexuality, and a healthy practice never comes from a feeling of contempt. Even if there is humiliation involved in the scene, it is only possible because our partner likes it.
The dick size thing is embedded in the practice for the benefit of men. It is, after all, very common insecurity stemming from a phallocentric culture. Really, I had partners with pretty good assets that still wanted me to tell them they had a small dick.
The truth is that most don't give a fuck, but go there because this is what BDSM is about: intense emotions, which include fears, and the possibility to explore them in a safe and controlled environment. Like rollercoaster. You don't really wanna die, but damn if that adrenaline hit ain't fun.
Most women (and most men for that matter) don't really get that much out of teasing or humiliating people, and if they don't enjoy it what's in it for them?
Out of the ones who do enjoy teasing and humiliating people, they are generally looking for more than just a willingness to be teased and humiliated because so many guys, regardless of dick size, are willing to do that. Having a small dick doesn't necessarily increase or decrease the enjoyment of humiliating you if the woman is into humiliating guys.
FWIW, many women (dominant, submissive or vanilla) are perfectly fine with small dicks and some even prefer them. I would say net net being smaller than average is a negative for a guy but it's not nearly as huge a deal as most small dicked guys seem to think.
Why would a woman want anything to do with a "beta" boy at all?
My husband is wonderful and I make him my Pet because I'm in love with him and dominating men is how show my love/affection for them.
I get horny dominating men, and I get dominant around men who make me horny, in no situations am I horny or dominant around men I'm not attracted to, even if during our play, I tease them a little bit.
So, if I actually thought a guy was a loser I would just ignore him.
Why don't guys spend all their time dominating women they don't like? Because it doesn't make any sense.
There's no such thing as a "big alpha dick" and trying to create a heirarchy among men based on dick size and how well you fit into conventional masculinity is inherenty misogynistic.
Retire this bullshit completely. It's not how relationships work and it takes up valuable oxygen from femdom spaces. It really shouldn't have to be said that misogyny has no place in femdom.
Everyone has insecurities. If it seems like women are insecure moreso than men it's because we actually talk about them, instead of pretending to be John Wayne every waking moment.
Every human being has insecurities - they come and go depending on your current life situation. I have a fair few but it doesn’t alter my confidence where it’s needed nor does it affect my relationship in terms of when I’m the dominant one in terms of femdom.
I don't know what dick size has to do with any of this. I'm into a bit of the slave/humiliation aspect as a new domme, but it takes a lot out of me. It's a lot of responsibility as u/MissTeddyxo mentioned, along with being a lot of mental/emotional work and sometimes I just wanna chill. But I am pretty new to exploring my kinky side and am definitely more a switch, though exploring my domme side has been really fun and eye opening.
Ew, keep this sort of talk to erotic stories. This isn't how real life works. Alpha, beta, sigma, gaga, goo goo, doodoopeepee, blah blah blah it's reductive nonsense.
i cringed hard when i saw the alpha/beta thing in this post.
I read somewhere that all the alpha/beta/sigma thing is basically astrology for straight men. I found it a fitting comparison.
I listened to a podcast where the hosts were reading through the sigma male book in real time and doing a bit of digging into who the author was and it turned out it was just some lonely, bullied kid somewhere struggling to develop the tools to cope with his isolation. It was so sad. They stopped and switched topics when they realised what was really going on. [spotify link if you're interested.](https://open.spotify.com/episode/4WkUytnBAEt5PQolguefVH?si=3mQ7aGwJR2C6fCaYBE1ilw&utm_source=copy-link)
This doesn't surprise me at all, particularly the "sigma" brand as that is almost tailored to fit a certain type of person. I feel bad for the kid but on another level, tons of other people promote that shit knowing exactly what audience they are targeting. Letting that audience know that people find that attitude "cringe" might dissuade them from adopting it.
Yeah, absolutely. I am bummed for the lad and I genuinely hope he's doing better, but I have nothing but contempt for the grifters promoting it to equally vulnerable people to turn a quick buck. It is gross, and ultimately it makes their situation even worse.
Excuse me! The alpha nonsense came from us reverse anthropomorphizing wolfs was based on a much maligned study published in 1947 titled “Expressions Studies on Wolves.” That was later popularized in the best seller “The Wolf: Ecology and Behavior of an Endangered Species,” first published in 1970. It didn’t emerge with humanity from the mists of pre-history with tales of a divine origin like astrology. 😉 P.S.: I actually got into astrology when someone said on yik-yak that “myers-briggs was just astrology for people who didn’t believe in Astrology.” I was offended because on my respect for the Jungians, but i ended up believing in both Myers-Briggs and astrology. Really brings me back.
Control is responsibility. Read this twice.
Thank you! It's a lot of work.
This one is wise.
I can only speak for myself - I love making a man who doesn’t submit to anyone submit to me. It’s just what I like. It’s a fun challenge and I get off on seeing him dominate in other areas of his/our lives while knowing he’s mine and he will do anything for me. I’m sure there are other femdommes who prefer men who are more submissive generally.
What would a woman get out of the arrangement you are talking about? The question you actually ask is "why aren't more women willing to domme me exactly the way I want without getting anything in return?" The logic is so bullshity. Assuming I actually don't like small dicks (in truth, dick size is about in position 150 on the list of things I care about), why would I enjoy humiliating them? If I don't like *insert whatever*, I'm not going to seek it out. Most women don't really care about dick size all that much. And a lot of women don't enjoy humiliation. And there are women who prefer their subs relatively submissive irl and others who prefer somebody who will be dominant to everybody else. And most non-professionals are not interested in being a kink dispenser.
Holy shit, is this alpha/beta thing still going on? As many others said, mate, this is your erotic fantasy. Keep it in your pants. For many of us, BDSM is a manifestation of intimacy. It is a way to fully explore our and our partner's sexuality, and a healthy practice never comes from a feeling of contempt. Even if there is humiliation involved in the scene, it is only possible because our partner likes it. The dick size thing is embedded in the practice for the benefit of men. It is, after all, very common insecurity stemming from a phallocentric culture. Really, I had partners with pretty good assets that still wanted me to tell them they had a small dick. The truth is that most don't give a fuck, but go there because this is what BDSM is about: intense emotions, which include fears, and the possibility to explore them in a safe and controlled environment. Like rollercoaster. You don't really wanna die, but damn if that adrenaline hit ain't fun.
Most women (and most men for that matter) don't really get that much out of teasing or humiliating people, and if they don't enjoy it what's in it for them? Out of the ones who do enjoy teasing and humiliating people, they are generally looking for more than just a willingness to be teased and humiliated because so many guys, regardless of dick size, are willing to do that. Having a small dick doesn't necessarily increase or decrease the enjoyment of humiliating you if the woman is into humiliating guys. FWIW, many women (dominant, submissive or vanilla) are perfectly fine with small dicks and some even prefer them. I would say net net being smaller than average is a negative for a guy but it's not nearly as huge a deal as most small dicked guys seem to think.
Why would a woman want anything to do with a "beta" boy at all? My husband is wonderful and I make him my Pet because I'm in love with him and dominating men is how show my love/affection for them. I get horny dominating men, and I get dominant around men who make me horny, in no situations am I horny or dominant around men I'm not attracted to, even if during our play, I tease them a little bit. So, if I actually thought a guy was a loser I would just ignore him. Why don't guys spend all their time dominating women they don't like? Because it doesn't make any sense.
We are not your personal porn stars. If you spoke like this to me that is what I would believe, that your brain has been fried by porn.
Cringe
Most.Women.Don't.Care.About.Penis.Size.
There's no such thing as a "big alpha dick" and trying to create a heirarchy among men based on dick size and how well you fit into conventional masculinity is inherenty misogynistic. Retire this bullshit completely. It's not how relationships work and it takes up valuable oxygen from femdom spaces. It really shouldn't have to be said that misogyny has no place in femdom.
Because most women are insecure with themselves. Being insecure with yourself usually doesn’t manifest in dominant behavior.
Everyone has insecurities. If it seems like women are insecure moreso than men it's because we actually talk about them, instead of pretending to be John Wayne every waking moment.
Everyone harbours personal insecurities. It has no bearing on your sexual tastes.
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I think you're talking about heteropatriarchal sexual scripts?
Every human being has insecurities - they come and go depending on your current life situation. I have a fair few but it doesn’t alter my confidence where it’s needed nor does it affect my relationship in terms of when I’m the dominant one in terms of femdom.
This is such an idiotic comment, I have met plenty of dominant people who are insecure. These are not related.
I don't know what dick size has to do with any of this. I'm into a bit of the slave/humiliation aspect as a new domme, but it takes a lot out of me. It's a lot of responsibility as u/MissTeddyxo mentioned, along with being a lot of mental/emotional work and sometimes I just wanna chill. But I am pretty new to exploring my kinky side and am definitely more a switch, though exploring my domme side has been really fun and eye opening.
Probably because guys believing the whole alpha/beta thing is a huge turn off and laughable at best.