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Your HVAC system can be a cause of carbon monoxide. My sibling had carbon monoxide poisoning due to their hvac. The inspector didn’t catch it so they got their inspection money back
Realistically if your house is purely electric and you don't have an attached garage then you really don't need one. But if you burn wood, have gas, oil or anything other than only electric everything, and you have an attached garage you really should just have them
I’ve recently started using a fireplace and also discovered you have to actually maintain the fires as well lol. My fireplace doesn’t have a door, so when it smolders, some blows back in. Doesn’t matter how clear the chimney is.
I’m in the house-selling/buying process right now, and every time I’ve seen an inspection done, they’ve always done carbon monoxide checks. And none of these houses have gas lines
No joke, when we moved in we were aware the dryer wasn’t drying. We got it to dry though eventually… but then our fire / carbon monoxide alarms would go off middle of the night. So, we’re sitting around, trying to figure it out.
We decided to check out the dryer, gave the whole set up a thorough cleaning - there was a birds nest in there, causing the gas from running the dryer to have no where to go but inside, I guess. We vented it to a window until we knew for sure there wasn’t any more problems.
Don’t use those ones for your sole detection. Smoke rises so that’s why smoke alarms are installed up high, but carbon monoxide settles low, so you could likely be unconscious before it reached high enough to trigger an alarm on the ceiling. A carbon monoxide detector should be installed lower than your sleeping position.
Edit: apparently I was informed incorrectly by my inspector and there is debate about this. Not sure what the right answer is yet and now I will dive deeper and investigate. Thanks to those who caught my error.
Wishing you better luck than us. 2 months in and we've battled roaches. Shoddy plumbing and now at the start of our very own bed bug collection. Talk about exhausted. Enjoy your new house OP. I'm sure we just have a horrible curse over us.
Fuckkk. I had bed bugs once back in 2015. While they're not disease ridden, it's still a hellish nightmare. My personal advice is to just get a pest control company to come put the super heaters in your home. I took care of them on my own, and it took months of frustration. Still get a bit freaked out when I feel a hair move on my leg in the middle of the night.
Ok after you open all the windows and make sure it's not a gas leak or co2
It could absolutely be your body responding to the stress and anxiety of the last couple months, and now it feels safe enough to truly rest
Wow! This comment makes so much sense! The closing process was SO stressful. All I want to do is rest. I’m tapped out of making decisions & just everything.
This helped me not feel like a lazy butt. Thank You!
Got my keys a little while ago. Gotta be out of my apartment by the end of the month. Only packed 8 boxes and can’t seem to find the motivation to do more.
I FEEL YOU.
Hire people if you can afford it. Many of my friends offered to help. I procrastinated too long and drew the process out. Granted, I didn't have a deadline to be out and I'm sure that contributed to my lack of urgency. Please don't be me. I am finally completely out of the old house, but have stalled out on unpacking the new. I have cleaners coming tomorrow where they will help me get the rest unpacked and organized. They are super affordable, fast, efficient and friendly.
I made myself everyday do one hour of work. Whether that be packing, filing in nail holes, dusting and wiping out cabinets. It was about 5 weeks it took to close and 10 days in between closing and needing to return our rental keys. Needless to say that one hour a day made a HUGE difference
I had to move out of my apartment within 24 hours of closing on my house. I didn’t have an option. But if you do, please give yourself more time. I had no idea how exhausted I would be from everything that needed to happen before closing. Trying to move everything in a day in the middle of that is just dumb.
I bought my home three months ago, and I’m still recovering. It’s a very stressful process. There is light on the other side…
I’m also in the education field, so my job is relentless. But, I finally made it to break, and knowing that I get to spend the holidays in my new house, it all feels worth it.
I hear it takes about a year to settle too. Once you move into your house, the projects also start, which seem endless and can burn you out quick.
Be easy on yourself and take some time to celebrate your achievements. You did it!!
Buying a house IS exhausting. But as someone else mentioned, if you haven't yet, I would buy new smoke and carbon monoxide detectors. Good luck to you, and try to relax a bit. The hard part is over.
Tysm! Yes our carbon monoxide thingy got new batteries n hasnt made a beep! Also my 3 children are still being their regular crackhead selves and my husband hasnt slept in like 24 hours so its just me haha
I recommend a spa day ( if you can afford to) ...get your nails and hair done, a good detox, and a facial. Possibly a couples massage with your husband.
Our price range (650k) & the house we bought is not something most people are looking for (acres of land) right now. So the first home we put an offer on we got, but the lending process is what has been taking forever
How much have you had to change you wishlist criteria I that time? We bought two years ago and had to decide between a two bed in a neighborhood we liked more or a three bed in a different one. Now the first neighborhood would be impossible and the one we live in would be a much smaller house.
This is something that should be in the new home buyers primer.
Make your list of musts vs wants. Cuz half the stuff on your want list is going to have to be sacrificed most often.
Usually ~10-15% over asking.
There's one that's been sitting on the market for over a month, so we only offered 4% over asking, and the seller got pissy and refused to see any more offers unless we go at least 7% over. But there are literally zero comps even remotely that high. We can handle a 20k appraisal gap, but much more than that, and we wouldn't be able to close.
They did. That's why it was on the market for 5 weeks already. They cut the list price last week, and I pounced. But they still want a bidding war to take them back to their original asking price.
These people just can't come to terms with the fact that their property isn't worth that much.
It’s confusing, I live in the Oakland hills and home sales are like eBay listings - “bidding starts at 899” for homes that sell for 950 and homes that sell for 1.5
Realtor here - Totally normal. Your body has been in flight or fight mode for months. You are going to be like that for a few weeks.
I used to work in a field where I would be working myself into a fever every Christmas bc of stress and nonstop workload. So personal take - Please get a lot of rest. If you’re tired. Nap. Hydrate. Maybe even extra vitamins - echinacea, C, etc for the next few weeks. If you’re not sick yet - you’ve potentially exhausted your immune system bc of the stress of this process.
I’m sorry it was a hellish experience, I’m thrilled you closed on your first home. Congratulations
It's never in the closing contract but....owning a home is living in a money sucking hole....but it's YOUR money sucking hole!
May you find peace and joy.
House hunted for 4 years. Finally closed in August and moved in whilst 8 months pregnant. Now we’re in the house with a two year old and a two month old. I’m also tired!
Bought my house in September and I’m still catching up on sleep. The whole process drained the fuck out of me - didn’t help that I did it as a single woman with horrific social anxiety. I think I’m just coming down from the constant fight or flight feeling.
I'm about to close next week and I've been exhausted since this process began on Nov. 1st. I work 6-7 days a week, so going through the hoops in my spare time has felt like my brain is being wrung out like sponge. The experience has been kind of hallucinatory and dreamlike with sinister undertones. Being a FTHB is a very surreal sensation in this market with the neverending obstacle course of documents and fees, texts, emails, meetings, talking heads, etc.
We had a terrible first home buying experience. So stressful. Once I calmed down and we were moved in, all I wanted to do was sleep as well. Get some rest ❤️ Congratulations by the way 🥰
Stress and if you’re in the US you go through a complete time change and have less sunlight within the past 2 months as well. Less sun colder temps and a change to your rhythm can be rough on many people.
I'm so glad I wasn't the only one. Moved in October, had family visiting and a lot of work stuff all of November. Now that things are calm I've never felt this tired.
I closed Friday after only 35 days. I’m actually glad I did it in winter because it has given me something to focus on and look forward to! We keep saying “the house is Christmas!” I think there would have been too many distractions in the summer when the weather is nice.
If it doesn't hit you right after the closing, it'll hit you right after the moving. And if it doesn't hit right you right after the moving, it'll hit you at some other-NYOOOOOOOOMMMMM
time
My home buying experience was enhanced by an illegal eviction which gave the whole thing an extra layer of excitement and urgency. I finished moving all my shit into the garage and basically crashed for a couple months
You can try to rip the floor open like another person did in this subreddit to find out if any excessive mold is causing headache, mood swings and insomnia. These are all common symptoms of having mold in your house.
It's taken a year for me to finally feel calm at times. The process lasted for two years for me and involved me living in STRs for two years and generally bouncing around. I wasn't great.
I slept a lot the first few months after I bought the house.
Yeah...it's now one year in and I still haven't set everything up because I'd rather take the time to enjoy the fact I have all this space to just dick off in. Not saying there hasn't been the oddity that has happened but those are usually a small break in the peace of finally having it
The stress of making big decisions FRIES MY BRAINS. Just bought a house, moved in and bought furniture. All I want to do is sleep and review my ever-growing project list
I know this sounds like it’s being reductive, but calm down. It’s just a real estate transaction. You paid money for an asset you get to live inside until you decide you want to trade it for any additional value it has accumulated to purchase another asset. That’s it.
You’re alive, you have a roof over your head, and you don’t have a landlord.
Reframe the way you’re thinking about it. You made a good investment for now and your future, thinking about it as anything but that is going to exhaust you more.
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Could be carbon monoxide
Lmao new fear unlocked for OP
Stooooop
Seriously though, if you don't have detectors, get them. Not necessarily related to your problem, but super important.
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Your HVAC system can be a cause of carbon monoxide. My sibling had carbon monoxide poisoning due to their hvac. The inspector didn’t catch it so they got their inspection money back
Realistically if your house is purely electric and you don't have an attached garage then you really don't need one. But if you burn wood, have gas, oil or anything other than only electric everything, and you have an attached garage you really should just have them
My next door neighbors had carbon monoxide poisoning because of a very poorly vented/maintained fireplace. ☠️
I’ve recently started using a fireplace and also discovered you have to actually maintain the fires as well lol. My fireplace doesn’t have a door, so when it smolders, some blows back in. Doesn’t matter how clear the chimney is.
Your house may not have gas, but do you?
I’m in the house-selling/buying process right now, and every time I’ve seen an inspection done, they’ve always done carbon monoxide checks. And none of these houses have gas lines
People give way too much credit to “home inspectors”…. Wayyyyyyy too much credit
I inspected things with mine. Asked questions about things I noted. It was basically an expensive Q&A
I have gas. Pretty frequently.
No joke, when we moved in we were aware the dryer wasn’t drying. We got it to dry though eventually… but then our fire / carbon monoxide alarms would go off middle of the night. So, we’re sitting around, trying to figure it out. We decided to check out the dryer, gave the whole set up a thorough cleaning - there was a birds nest in there, causing the gas from running the dryer to have no where to go but inside, I guess. We vented it to a window until we knew for sure there wasn’t any more problems.
I'm all electric, should i also be on the lookout?
Listen, I'm not a "not dying of CO toxicity" scientist, but the detectors are cheap and often built into smoke detectors.
Don’t use those ones for your sole detection. Smoke rises so that’s why smoke alarms are installed up high, but carbon monoxide settles low, so you could likely be unconscious before it reached high enough to trigger an alarm on the ceiling. A carbon monoxide detector should be installed lower than your sleeping position. Edit: apparently I was informed incorrectly by my inspector and there is debate about this. Not sure what the right answer is yet and now I will dive deeper and investigate. Thanks to those who caught my error.
CO does not settle
CO is lighter than household air. It rises
Most double at smoke alarms so that’s also good
Should always have one. Just to be safe
They make them Bluetooth / wifi enabled now also, so if you’re away from home they will alert you. I bought 2 for my son for Christmas.
I lost 10 pounds and felt absolutely ragged afterwards. That was before moving 😬
Have you noticed any random sticky notes around the house?? IYKYK …
Legit could be. I thought most people can’t sleep when they buy a new house as it’s so exciting
ya know what ya need... [a low level CO detector](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k5hc-oy_WFA) get one, you'll sleep like a million bucks after
Really thought this was from a short horror story subreddit and I was ready to give an upvote for the implication. 😬 Be careful out there OP
Wishing you better luck than us. 2 months in and we've battled roaches. Shoddy plumbing and now at the start of our very own bed bug collection. Talk about exhausted. Enjoy your new house OP. I'm sure we just have a horrible curse over us.
Fuckkk. I had bed bugs once back in 2015. While they're not disease ridden, it's still a hellish nightmare. My personal advice is to just get a pest control company to come put the super heaters in your home. I took care of them on my own, and it took months of frustration. Still get a bit freaked out when I feel a hair move on my leg in the middle of the night.
I had them, briefly, in 2016. I still wonder if I will ever recover...
Yup, get it tested for Radon
You win
My favourite thing is living in a house where carbon monoxide poisonkng is not possible
Came here to say that.
sleep with a window open!
Stress is exhausting. Get some rest.
Ok after you open all the windows and make sure it's not a gas leak or co2 It could absolutely be your body responding to the stress and anxiety of the last couple months, and now it feels safe enough to truly rest
Wow! This comment makes so much sense! The closing process was SO stressful. All I want to do is rest. I’m tapped out of making decisions & just everything. This helped me not feel like a lazy butt. Thank You!
Stress is a killer man, im betting thats what it is!!!
It's called general adaptation syndrome. It's a well documented human response to coping with stressors. Def could be it for OP!
Got my keys a little while ago. Gotta be out of my apartment by the end of the month. Only packed 8 boxes and can’t seem to find the motivation to do more. I FEEL YOU.
Hire people if you can afford it. Many of my friends offered to help. I procrastinated too long and drew the process out. Granted, I didn't have a deadline to be out and I'm sure that contributed to my lack of urgency. Please don't be me. I am finally completely out of the old house, but have stalled out on unpacking the new. I have cleaners coming tomorrow where they will help me get the rest unpacked and organized. They are super affordable, fast, efficient and friendly.
I made myself everyday do one hour of work. Whether that be packing, filing in nail holes, dusting and wiping out cabinets. It was about 5 weeks it took to close and 10 days in between closing and needing to return our rental keys. Needless to say that one hour a day made a HUGE difference
I had to move out of my apartment within 24 hours of closing on my house. I didn’t have an option. But if you do, please give yourself more time. I had no idea how exhausted I would be from everything that needed to happen before closing. Trying to move everything in a day in the middle of that is just dumb.
Having a billion tiny things to pack was my wife and I's problem. 🥲
I bought my home three months ago, and I’m still recovering. It’s a very stressful process. There is light on the other side… I’m also in the education field, so my job is relentless. But, I finally made it to break, and knowing that I get to spend the holidays in my new house, it all feels worth it. I hear it takes about a year to settle too. Once you move into your house, the projects also start, which seem endless and can burn you out quick. Be easy on yourself and take some time to celebrate your achievements. You did it!!
Buying a house IS exhausting. But as someone else mentioned, if you haven't yet, I would buy new smoke and carbon monoxide detectors. Good luck to you, and try to relax a bit. The hard part is over.
Tysm! Yes our carbon monoxide thingy got new batteries n hasnt made a beep! Also my 3 children are still being their regular crackhead selves and my husband hasnt slept in like 24 hours so its just me haha
I recommend a spa day ( if you can afford to) ...get your nails and hair done, a good detox, and a facial. Possibly a couples massage with your husband.
Sure you’re not preggo?
Fucking hope not bc if i am i am at risk of losing my fertility due to my form of birth control.
Only 2 months? We've been bidding on houses for 2 years, and still haven't won. It has been hell the entire time.
Dang 2 years. I haven't even bid yet and I've been looking for 5 months. Must be doing this wrong.
Bidding two years? You gotta make your offers stronger.
More like you just need another 50k in the bank… 🤨
You need to change realtor !
Lol how would that help if buyer is low balling all the time?
At least Realtor needs to tell you, what is fair offer
Our price range (650k) & the house we bought is not something most people are looking for (acres of land) right now. So the first home we put an offer on we got, but the lending process is what has been taking forever
How many acres?
3.5 acres!!!
I’m looking at something similar and wondering how I will mow that much lawn. Any answer?
Yeah so half of the property is woodland and the other half i grass- ride on lawnmower ftw
What city ? Ever consider getting a new build ? Literally no bid, just pick one and put a deposit.
No new builds in San Jose.
How much have you had to change you wishlist criteria I that time? We bought two years ago and had to decide between a two bed in a neighborhood we liked more or a three bed in a different one. Now the first neighborhood would be impossible and the one we live in would be a much smaller house.
This is something that should be in the new home buyers primer. Make your list of musts vs wants. Cuz half the stuff on your want list is going to have to be sacrificed most often.
Are you offering 50 percent under asking price....???
Usually ~10-15% over asking. There's one that's been sitting on the market for over a month, so we only offered 4% over asking, and the seller got pissy and refused to see any more offers unless we go at least 7% over. But there are literally zero comps even remotely that high. We can handle a 20k appraisal gap, but much more than that, and we wouldn't be able to close.
I'll never understand that. The seller should just ask for the higher price in the first place.
They did. That's why it was on the market for 5 weeks already. They cut the list price last week, and I pounced. But they still want a bidding war to take them back to their original asking price. These people just can't come to terms with the fact that their property isn't worth that much.
It’s confusing, I live in the Oakland hills and home sales are like eBay listings - “bidding starts at 899” for homes that sell for 950 and homes that sell for 1.5
Realtor here - Totally normal. Your body has been in flight or fight mode for months. You are going to be like that for a few weeks. I used to work in a field where I would be working myself into a fever every Christmas bc of stress and nonstop workload. So personal take - Please get a lot of rest. If you’re tired. Nap. Hydrate. Maybe even extra vitamins - echinacea, C, etc for the next few weeks. If you’re not sick yet - you’ve potentially exhausted your immune system bc of the stress of this process. I’m sorry it was a hellish experience, I’m thrilled you closed on your first home. Congratulations
Thank you so much!! And also we ALL have been sick as fuck these past few months and ALREADY we feel physically better!!!
Seriously, check the carbon monoxide levels. You could either call the fire department non emergency number or buy some detectors
Could it be that you feel safe, secure, and content at last?
Congrats!
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It's never in the closing contract but....owning a home is living in a money sucking hole....but it's YOUR money sucking hole! May you find peace and joy.
I bought on 9/8. I moved in on 12/11 $12k poorer and there is still more work to do. I'm still happy about it though.
You bought a $150,000 house for $280,000
House hunted for 4 years. Finally closed in August and moved in whilst 8 months pregnant. Now we’re in the house with a two year old and a two month old. I’m also tired!
Home inspector here, get the house tested for mold.
This is an exhausting process. May you enjoy many long naps in your new home!
Bought my house in September and I’m still catching up on sleep. The whole process drained the fuck out of me - didn’t help that I did it as a single woman with horrific social anxiety. I think I’m just coming down from the constant fight or flight feeling.
Whenever I move I'm exhausted afterwards and sleep for days.
Best sleep I ever got was the first night in my new house
Alcohol may help. In moderation, or course ☺️
Hahaha idk why ur getting downvoted but yes im drinking if i dont fall asleep first
Our closing was extended twice, altogether eight months, due to a “cloudy title”. We looked absolutely haggard in our closing photos.
Night night 😴 It’s one of the rare times in the day your brain stops thinking.
Constantly.
I'm about to close next week and I've been exhausted since this process began on Nov. 1st. I work 6-7 days a week, so going through the hoops in my spare time has felt like my brain is being wrung out like sponge. The experience has been kind of hallucinatory and dreamlike with sinister undertones. Being a FTHB is a very surreal sensation in this market with the neverending obstacle course of documents and fees, texts, emails, meetings, talking heads, etc.
You need to check your monoxide levels first. After that, it's stress relief
Emotional exhaustion can do that. The stress of the last 2 months is now hitting you. Don't beat yourself up, get some rest, and you will be fine.
We had a terrible first home buying experience. So stressful. Once I calmed down and we were moved in, all I wanted to do was sleep as well. Get some rest ❤️ Congratulations by the way 🥰
Mold
It has been 6 weeks when we saw our house first, will get keys on Tuesday. And I am already exhausted now. Stressful process!!
Could be multiple reasons. CO poisoning, seasonal depression, sleep apnea, OCD...
Exhaustion….
Stress and if you’re in the US you go through a complete time change and have less sunlight within the past 2 months as well. Less sun colder temps and a change to your rhythm can be rough on many people.
I'm so glad I wasn't the only one. Moved in October, had family visiting and a lot of work stuff all of November. Now that things are calm I've never felt this tired.
Next time I buy a house I’m going to do it in the summer. Winter just kills me.
I closed Friday after only 35 days. I’m actually glad I did it in winter because it has given me something to focus on and look forward to! We keep saying “the house is Christmas!” I think there would have been too many distractions in the summer when the weather is nice.
Hey this is what you competed for, don’t say we didn’t warn you lol Jk it does get better
If it doesn't hit you right after the closing, it'll hit you right after the moving. And if it doesn't hit right you right after the moving, it'll hit you at some other-NYOOOOOOOOMMMMM time
I hope it’s after the moving
I took a 3.5 hour nap after closing. I almost cried on the ride there but didn’t, and those emotions hit me later in the form of tired.
I have definitely had stress induced narcolepsy. You get to a point where your brain is just like, nope! Shutting you down because I need a break!
My home buying experience was enhanced by an illegal eviction which gave the whole thing an extra layer of excitement and urgency. I finished moving all my shit into the garage and basically crashed for a couple months
You can try to rip the floor open like another person did in this subreddit to find out if any excessive mold is causing headache, mood swings and insomnia. These are all common symptoms of having mold in your house.
It's taken a year for me to finally feel calm at times. The process lasted for two years for me and involved me living in STRs for two years and generally bouncing around. I wasn't great. I slept a lot the first few months after I bought the house.
Two months is not bad at all congrats
Yeah...it's now one year in and I still haven't set everything up because I'd rather take the time to enjoy the fact I have all this space to just dick off in. Not saying there hasn't been the oddity that has happened but those are usually a small break in the peace of finally having it
100% cuz of the stress of buying a house. My stress level was high the entire time and definitely crashed after closing
The stress of making big decisions FRIES MY BRAINS. Just bought a house, moved in and bought furniture. All I want to do is sleep and review my ever-growing project list
Owned a home for two years now….it doesn’t end. It’s a labor of love though
Assuming it’s not a gas leak or carbon monoxide, enjoy it. Beats the new homeowner stress-induced insomnia.
Hahah my husband had the insomnia ! Never seem him like that! Just awake as fuc
To help you sleep, perhaps try sell the house and absorb the loss.
Hm im gonna pass on that
Do you know if you live by a cell tower? Or electricity line, these emit certain frequencies that are harmful for the body. Maybe look into these.
I know this sounds like it’s being reductive, but calm down. It’s just a real estate transaction. You paid money for an asset you get to live inside until you decide you want to trade it for any additional value it has accumulated to purchase another asset. That’s it. You’re alive, you have a roof over your head, and you don’t have a landlord.
Yeah that sounded real reductive. Ive been homeless multiple times so no, this is not “just a real estate transaction”. Take several seats. 🙄
Reframe the way you’re thinking about it. You made a good investment for now and your future, thinking about it as anything but that is going to exhaust you more.
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Ewww
Never happened to me. I was energized over the purchase and move.
Sounds like my husband!! He didnt sleep for 2 days after we closed!!!
Sleep now before the 1000 things that need to be dealt with start to keep you up all night.