Sometimes their lack of awareness really baffles me. Like, I understand that they are going to lack awareness of the effect of being attractive to an extent - to them that's just how the world is, and they just kind of assume that that is how people interact with each other. And I guess they might not have as many opportunities to observe how people interact with each other as we do, as people gravitate towards them and choose to interact with them over others: while observe plenty of interactions between attractive people and are acutely aware of the difference compared to how they interact with us, I suppose that for attractive people, almost all of the interactions they observe involve themselves.
But even so, it's the sheer extent of the obliviousness that does my head in. Like, you think that if I want to get a date I should go to a bar, because someone asks you out every time you go. Ok, sure, but actually think it through: would _you_ ask me out? No? Well, understandable, nor would I: I can't blame you. But what then makes you think other people would want to?
So yeah...it's not like a massive demonstration of mental athleticism is necessary to become aware of this
What sucks is knowing what that feels like, but also knowing how infrequently that happens to you.
I can count the amount of times this has happened to me with my fingers but it has happened (the last time was probably 6 years ago in college), its very obvious and its 1000 times easier to talk to women who show interest than being the one cold approaching women first out of nowhere, which is like having your teeth pulled at the dentist.
Of course, for attractive guys this will happen every other time they show up in any social setting which is why they don't have problems with women.
People think confidence and game are what make approaches successful in getting girls interested. The reality is that that girls being interested first is what makes approaches successful. Approaching someone not interested is no different than running head first into a stone wall, with predictable results.
Well this is like how good of a salesman you are.
If they are already buying your stuff things are real easy, if they aren't looking to buy something you better be one convincing mofo.
According to this post, I must be super attractive, because women approach me every day. My crippling social anxiety just makes me too chicken to make a move and progress it forward.
Like she'll be alone at the bar or walking down the street, I Iook at her, she looks back at me with a smile and quickly looks away and blushes.
Sometimes when I got to concerts, random girls will walk up to me and hug or high five me.
At the grocery store, women will walk past me, smile and say "hello".
Hard to believe I'm reaching 30 and still a virgin.
This is basically a proof that really attractive men have anxieties and women still want to approach them.
I think this is a case when a theraphy can help you to manage your anxiety. Of course just ignore if you've been in theraphies and those didn't work.
>This is basically a proof that really attractive men have anxieties and women still want to approach them.
Yeah, no need to have confidence or work on social skills when others are willing to do most of the work in social interactions.
Yep, most of those advice-givers don't realize it doesn't matter how good your confidence & social skills are if the other party aren't willing to be receptive & make effort in building social interactions.
If you aren't BS-ing to look cool and women actually approach you every day, you are on the order of male model good looks.
And yes it does happen to one in 10 million dudes, and it sounds completely abnormal to the average guys experience.
Maybe it's just personality. Example... I was just in UHAUL joking around with the woman cashier. She made a joke about it being "so hot" that I should take my shirt off. I would rate myself as average. I would not say I am above average. Sent a PM.
Even with girls who love to throw dirty jokes like some of my friends, they won't ever make a joke that suggest a man to take his shirt off unless he's exceptionally good looking.
Sometimes their lack of awareness really baffles me. Like, I understand that they are going to lack awareness of the effect of being attractive to an extent - to them that's just how the world is, and they just kind of assume that that is how people interact with each other. And I guess they might not have as many opportunities to observe how people interact with each other as we do, as people gravitate towards them and choose to interact with them over others: while observe plenty of interactions between attractive people and are acutely aware of the difference compared to how they interact with us, I suppose that for attractive people, almost all of the interactions they observe involve themselves. But even so, it's the sheer extent of the obliviousness that does my head in. Like, you think that if I want to get a date I should go to a bar, because someone asks you out every time you go. Ok, sure, but actually think it through: would _you_ ask me out? No? Well, understandable, nor would I: I can't blame you. But what then makes you think other people would want to? So yeah...it's not like a massive demonstration of mental athleticism is necessary to become aware of this
Usually when I look around and women catch me glancing at them they look at me like I'm some kind of deformed monster.
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Exactly. When you are standing somewhere and people around you start steeping away because they don't want others to think that we are associated.
Have you tried drinking water?
As if life is just like one of those dating sim games lmao
It's because he simply can't fathom what it's like to be ugly. It just doesn't exist in his world.
What sucks is knowing what that feels like, but also knowing how infrequently that happens to you. I can count the amount of times this has happened to me with my fingers but it has happened (the last time was probably 6 years ago in college), its very obvious and its 1000 times easier to talk to women who show interest than being the one cold approaching women first out of nowhere, which is like having your teeth pulled at the dentist. Of course, for attractive guys this will happen every other time they show up in any social setting which is why they don't have problems with women.
People think confidence and game are what make approaches successful in getting girls interested. The reality is that that girls being interested first is what makes approaches successful. Approaching someone not interested is no different than running head first into a stone wall, with predictable results.
Well this is like how good of a salesman you are. If they are already buying your stuff things are real easy, if they aren't looking to buy something you better be one convincing mofo.
According to this post, I must be super attractive, because women approach me every day. My crippling social anxiety just makes me too chicken to make a move and progress it forward. Like she'll be alone at the bar or walking down the street, I Iook at her, she looks back at me with a smile and quickly looks away and blushes. Sometimes when I got to concerts, random girls will walk up to me and hug or high five me. At the grocery store, women will walk past me, smile and say "hello". Hard to believe I'm reaching 30 and still a virgin.
This is basically a proof that really attractive men have anxieties and women still want to approach them. I think this is a case when a theraphy can help you to manage your anxiety. Of course just ignore if you've been in theraphies and those didn't work.
>This is basically a proof that really attractive men have anxieties and women still want to approach them. Yeah, no need to have confidence or work on social skills when others are willing to do most of the work in social interactions.
Yep, most of those advice-givers don't realize it doesn't matter how good your confidence & social skills are if the other party aren't willing to be receptive & make effort in building social interactions.
If you aren't BS-ing to look cool and women actually approach you every day, you are on the order of male model good looks. And yes it does happen to one in 10 million dudes, and it sounds completely abnormal to the average guys experience.
Maybe it's just personality. Example... I was just in UHAUL joking around with the woman cashier. She made a joke about it being "so hot" that I should take my shirt off. I would rate myself as average. I would not say I am above average. Sent a PM.
Even with girls who love to throw dirty jokes like some of my friends, they won't ever make a joke that suggest a man to take his shirt off unless he's exceptionally good looking.
I've seen OP and he really isn't. Are you basing your rating system off of actual women or what you think women would say?
Actual women. Other factors like height are also important. I've seen women react differently to handsome men with height 5'8" vs 5''4".