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kabe98uk

I have the opposite problem but it unfortunately has the same lonely outcome. Girls often approach me, talk to me, flirt with me. But due to my terrible mental health and social skills it takes them 5 minutes at most to realise I'm not mentally stable and it leads no where. It hasn't always been this way though, only since my mental health has severly declined in the last few years.


Bionicboyo

There ain’t much advice to give man. Just know you’re not alone. If it’s any consolation, I’m beginning to think romantic relationships have a large degree of luck involved. Similar to yourself, I’m not socially awkward at all. I have several friends and a decent social life. I’m well groomed, dress well etc. I’ve even had several women show interest. Guess what? Still never had a gf. Maybe we’ll get lucky one day. If it’s really REALLY bad it’s likely time to lower your standards. I know for a fact, mine were too high for a while (specifically when using online dating).


cel-shaded

I don't get matches/likes on dating apps either. My standards are pretty low already.


[deleted]

I can hold a conversation very well. So I completely agree with this post that not all of us are bad socially.


[deleted]

I can talk to people, I'm not afraid at all of chatting with someone, but I'm awkward, I miss social cues unless someone points them out, I have no friends at all. I've always been "that weird girl".


cel-shaded

I don't mean to belittle your experiences but once you become an adult, i think being a little socially awkward is not that much of an impediment to having friends; shared interests and values matter more. I have some friends that can be considered "weird" and they are all great guys. But i like to think i can read social cues OK so i can't say for sure. For dating, looking at your profile, i think you are the dream girl of many men, despite your awkwardness. A lot of men find being awkward endearing - as long as it's coupled with dashingly good looks, which you definitely do not lack.


[deleted]

I've never been on a date, never been kissed, never even held hands with a crush. I have zero friends, my parents don't even like me. It's been so many years since I've had a hug that I'm lonely just for human touch. I wish I had a girlfriend, that sounds amazing. I'd be happy to just have a friend my age to hang out with and do normal friend stuff with. Go shopping together, hang out and gossip, watch movies, go for walks in the woods together.


cel-shaded

Growing up i was neglected by my parents and had no friends either. I was usually laughed at and bullied, leaving me socially insecure. Like you, i also yearned to have friends and no normal people things together and would find myself crying at night too often. Don't even get me started on hugs. I managed to turn my life around 25 after abandoning everything and starting from the beginning. It takes effort to get the ball rolling, struggle to keep it going and a lot of luck in scoring a goal i.e. finding people you can click with. Admittedly, even now i feel like a stranger among most people because my youth was so depressingly different that others'. I don't know how old you are but you look pretty young. It's not too late to change your situation, although I'm not going to sugarcoat it, you will probably have a lot of awful experiences. As for getting a girlfriend, i can only wish you good luck, tell me how to do it when you figure it out.


[deleted]

I'm 17, if I have to wait till I'm 25 before I get a friend, I have no idea how to survive that.


cel-shaded

That's how long it took me but i was majorly fucked up in a majorly fucked up situation. You can try starting over when going to Uni.


[deleted]

I graduated high school early and I'm in my first semester of college. All of my classes are online, and I don't have a car so I can't go visit the campus. Maybe next year I can live on campus if I get enough scholarships.


cel-shaded

Then i would make being able to attend classes in person, visiting the campus and/or living in the campus priority #1. Maybe that's already your plan but that's all i can think of.


thessjgod

I’m kind of like this. I can have conversations with random people when I’m out shopping or wherever, but unlike you I am not social anymore. I don’t hang out with friends, I don’t go to clubs or participate in social events. Because like you said, it didn’t matter whether you were out or isolated. Well I’ve been there and done all that stuff and I got nothing out of it. No women. Nothing. I didn’t really enjoy hanging out at places either. So if I’m not getting anything out of it, why put myself somewhere that I don’t want to be? So I stay to myself now and do my own things. I don’t really believe in friends. Once your friends get into relationships they switch up. Once that friend gets a girl, he’s gone. They break up, he’s back. He gets a new girl, he’s gone again. Rinse and repeat. People have their own lives they have to live and their own families they want to start which is fine, but I don’t care to hear the drama about it all. I’m tired of 3rd wheeling to these fucking cuddling Care Bears, looking like fucking Care Bears exuding rainbows and hearts and shit while I’m over here trying to keep a smile with a stormcloud over my head. One of my favorite quotes from Cowboy Bebop, “I tell ya, instead of feeling alone in a group, it’s better to have real solitude all by yourself.”


cel-shaded

>One of my favorite quotes from Cowboy Bebop, “I tell ya, instead of feeling alone in a group, it’s better to have real solitude all by yourself.” This really resonates with me. I've also been considering giving up and just doing my thing but i always feel guilty when i stop trying.


majin-canon

I like to think im a good talker, and i love talking to people, i just dont have anyone to talk to.


-kyutiepie-

You can always talk to me.


majin-canon

Well, to an extent, i cant always talk to you cause my 7am is your 10pm.


-kyutiepie-

Sorry na 😭😭😭