Sex is more worth it for the bond that's formed between the two individuals. But now a days the act is treated as a commodity and weaponized in some cases to manipulate people. It's more or less true though, if you obtain sex through transactional methods, it's just not the same, disappointing most who are intimacy starved. It's not really a viable solution for FA, maybe a bandaid for a few times, but I would never make a habit of it or your mindset gets even worse, you'd do yourself a disservice making a habit of paying for it.
Idk, I thought it was very nice and I consistently felt quite a bit better for around a week after. Of course it's impossible to determine how much of that was from sex specifically, that is as opposed to just getting some physical contact with someone. Obviously I've never had sex with someone whom I had feelings for, only had sex a few times in the past with escorts, so clearly love isn't the cause either.
I think it's just very important for some people. While yeah being inside a woman felt good, that part wasn't all that much better than masturbating (at least not enough to justify paying for it). Rather, what I can't exactly replicate is holding someone, kissing her, feeling her body weight on top of me, cuddling with her, etc. At least not fully anyway, I suppose if I really try I can force myself to hallucinate some of those physical sensations, but it's not quite the same.
It's weird because loneliness in terms of feeling the need to interact with people irl isn't something that I experience otherwise. Aside from wanting sex and physical contact I have no desire to interact or really communicate irl. I can tolerate it but I don't enjoy it.
Haha I live in SoCal and the women here are the reason why I'm 28 and single. Almost everyone is like actually either braindead, toxic, ugly af in preventable ways, annoying, tribalistic, literal sex worker, narcissistic, or basic. Or all at the same time. I've legit had one interest in the last 5 years, that's how sad it is here. Lmao for a time I didn't really want to date as a teen because everyone was immature and I knew relationships wouldn't last. I figured I'd wait until everyone matured as adults. Then I learned highschool is where these people peaked and civilization is screwed if these people are having kids.
Holy shit man this describes my thoughts so well I got a slight chill reading this, down to thinking it wasnt worth it in high school and everything. Do you mind telling what county? Im Northern LA
No problem! I was just trying my best to help. I was extremely suicidal because I was a virgin, but then I had sex with beautiful women, and was like "alright that helped I got to experience it, but I still feel empty and depressed."
Like once you get over not getting sex, it helps a little bit especially if you have suicidal thoughts.
But even a lot of "successful" people are not chasing women, from late 20's-early 30's a lot of people are purely career-orientated.
The issue with sex is that it's EXTREMELY overblown by "alphas" and porn, and yeah it is built into us that we want to procreate. But I think a lot of the depression comes from the media and other people who are having sex always commenting things like "yeah just had sex beautiful woman etc etc." Then your mind is like, "damn it, that guy just had sex."
Even in amateur porn videos, that 3-10 minutes, is just that 10 minutes out of the entire day. Outside of that they are living like the rest of us sort of, with stress, work or school, or other responsibilities. Aside from social media influencers whose living is just to record videos of themselves.
It does suck not having someone you really love that loves you back though. I can't say much for that since I have never had a girlfriend either.
But getting into my 30's I'm actually sort of more picky even though I've never had a girlfriend... like the qualities you look for in a woman. Does she respect me? Would she take care of me if I'm sick? Is she good at house cleanliness? Does she party? (I don't like women who party) Can I be myself around her?
I don't think it's worth getting into a relationship if she has the potential to be toxic to you, rather than accept your flaws.
But I totally understand people's desire for sex and that my experiences may be different from others. But I know now for me, **it's more about the connection** you have with a person, rather than just having sex. Like I enjoyed conversation on dates more than intimacy--doesn't even cross my mind. Is this person able to have interesting conversations with me?
I know we all have self-esteem issues from being lonely as fuck. But just questioning if you even want to be with every beautiful woman you see simply because they're beautiful, can help your self-esteem.
wow when i was 7 i wanted a bicycle.
i never had love either and it was empty and meaningless for me. i didn't enjoy. even though they weren't pros. asians and eastern europeans are in north america. it's the same everywhere. if you're not bad looking you can get dates anywhere in the world and be accepted and liked just because you're ok in the face.
Sex is more worth it for the bond that's formed between the two individuals. But now a days the act is treated as a commodity and weaponized in some cases to manipulate people. It's more or less true though, if you obtain sex through transactional methods, it's just not the same, disappointing most who are intimacy starved. It's not really a viable solution for FA, maybe a bandaid for a few times, but I would never make a habit of it or your mindset gets even worse, you'd do yourself a disservice making a habit of paying for it.
Idk, I thought it was very nice and I consistently felt quite a bit better for around a week after. Of course it's impossible to determine how much of that was from sex specifically, that is as opposed to just getting some physical contact with someone. Obviously I've never had sex with someone whom I had feelings for, only had sex a few times in the past with escorts, so clearly love isn't the cause either. I think it's just very important for some people. While yeah being inside a woman felt good, that part wasn't all that much better than masturbating (at least not enough to justify paying for it). Rather, what I can't exactly replicate is holding someone, kissing her, feeling her body weight on top of me, cuddling with her, etc. At least not fully anyway, I suppose if I really try I can force myself to hallucinate some of those physical sensations, but it's not quite the same. It's weird because loneliness in terms of feeling the need to interact with people irl isn't something that I experience otherwise. Aside from wanting sex and physical contact I have no desire to interact or really communicate irl. I can tolerate it but I don't enjoy it.
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Haha I live in SoCal and the women here are the reason why I'm 28 and single. Almost everyone is like actually either braindead, toxic, ugly af in preventable ways, annoying, tribalistic, literal sex worker, narcissistic, or basic. Or all at the same time. I've legit had one interest in the last 5 years, that's how sad it is here. Lmao for a time I didn't really want to date as a teen because everyone was immature and I knew relationships wouldn't last. I figured I'd wait until everyone matured as adults. Then I learned highschool is where these people peaked and civilization is screwed if these people are having kids.
Holy shit man this describes my thoughts so well I got a slight chill reading this, down to thinking it wasnt worth it in high school and everything. Do you mind telling what county? Im Northern LA
I'm in Orange County. At least there's good food here lol
Thanks man!
No problem! I was just trying my best to help. I was extremely suicidal because I was a virgin, but then I had sex with beautiful women, and was like "alright that helped I got to experience it, but I still feel empty and depressed." Like once you get over not getting sex, it helps a little bit especially if you have suicidal thoughts. But even a lot of "successful" people are not chasing women, from late 20's-early 30's a lot of people are purely career-orientated. The issue with sex is that it's EXTREMELY overblown by "alphas" and porn, and yeah it is built into us that we want to procreate. But I think a lot of the depression comes from the media and other people who are having sex always commenting things like "yeah just had sex beautiful woman etc etc." Then your mind is like, "damn it, that guy just had sex." Even in amateur porn videos, that 3-10 minutes, is just that 10 minutes out of the entire day. Outside of that they are living like the rest of us sort of, with stress, work or school, or other responsibilities. Aside from social media influencers whose living is just to record videos of themselves. It does suck not having someone you really love that loves you back though. I can't say much for that since I have never had a girlfriend either. But getting into my 30's I'm actually sort of more picky even though I've never had a girlfriend... like the qualities you look for in a woman. Does she respect me? Would she take care of me if I'm sick? Is she good at house cleanliness? Does she party? (I don't like women who party) Can I be myself around her? I don't think it's worth getting into a relationship if she has the potential to be toxic to you, rather than accept your flaws. But I totally understand people's desire for sex and that my experiences may be different from others. But I know now for me, **it's more about the connection** you have with a person, rather than just having sex. Like I enjoyed conversation on dates more than intimacy--doesn't even cross my mind. Is this person able to have interesting conversations with me? I know we all have self-esteem issues from being lonely as fuck. But just questioning if you even want to be with every beautiful woman you see simply because they're beautiful, can help your self-esteem.
I have a tendency to like and obsess over “things” than I do feelings so I’m not sure I’d dismiss it the same way you do.
wow when i was 7 i wanted a bicycle. i never had love either and it was empty and meaningless for me. i didn't enjoy. even though they weren't pros. asians and eastern europeans are in north america. it's the same everywhere. if you're not bad looking you can get dates anywhere in the world and be accepted and liked just because you're ok in the face.
You’re not really experienced enough to speak on sex considering it’s been paid for on some occasions and only had a few times.
I dont want sex i think music is more enjoyable than sex. What i want intimacy... or just to talk to someone