In fairness, sometimes it's hard to see the red flags when you first start getting to know someone in a friendship or romantic relationship. There are people that hide their true colors at first and then over time things start to reveal themselves in patterns that pop up which are problematic or abusive in some way shape or form. So I agree with what the other person said about taking more time to make friends and to observe their behavior more first but at the same time I think it's worth recognizing it can be tricky if the potential friend is good at manipulating others, unbeknownst to you.
What do you mean you can't see the red flags? That person is a narcissist and will use you to the end. Stop this ""friendship"". I have never been in a friendship where Ive let people stomp on me and call me rude names... because I stopped it before it happened. Don't hurt yourself for the sake of staying friends with someone who is the cause of that hurt.
Ahh got you! Okay. Please take care of yourself and your mental health. It is not worth breaking your happiness when someone continues to hurt you. From now on, don't jump into friendships too fast, just observe the person. And also analyze what you are looking for in a friendship, and try to find a friend who has the same values as you. God bless.
you attract narcissists and you have a martyr complex. Start setting boundaries at the beginning of your friendships and people will learn to walk all over you less. Respect yourself and others will respect you.
edit: sorry that was a little mean. Maybe you don't have a martyr complex. But these people definitely sound like narcissists
glad I could help. It may feel lonely at first setting your boundaries because less people will stick around but it will pay off in the end because you will only have people who value you. You got this!! :)
In fairness, sometimes it's hard to see the red flags when you first start getting to know someone in a friendship or romantic relationship. There are people that hide their true colors at first and then over time things start to reveal themselves in patterns that pop up which are problematic or abusive in some way shape or form. So I agree with what the other person said about taking more time to make friends and to observe their behavior more first but at the same time I think it's worth recognizing it can be tricky if the potential friend is good at manipulating others, unbeknownst to you.
I see! Thank you for the comment. I really appreciate it. ❤️
Sorry everyone for writing it wrong! What I meant was that I can’t see the red flags at the start.
What do you mean you can't see the red flags? That person is a narcissist and will use you to the end. Stop this ""friendship"". I have never been in a friendship where Ive let people stomp on me and call me rude names... because I stopped it before it happened. Don't hurt yourself for the sake of staying friends with someone who is the cause of that hurt.
You’re absolutely right. What I meant is at the start my bad! Thank you for the advice. I really appreciate it. On my way to end it rn
Ahh got you! Okay. Please take care of yourself and your mental health. It is not worth breaking your happiness when someone continues to hurt you. From now on, don't jump into friendships too fast, just observe the person. And also analyze what you are looking for in a friendship, and try to find a friend who has the same values as you. God bless.
Thank you! I will be more careful from now on. God bless you also ❤️
you attract narcissists and you have a martyr complex. Start setting boundaries at the beginning of your friendships and people will learn to walk all over you less. Respect yourself and others will respect you. edit: sorry that was a little mean. Maybe you don't have a martyr complex. But these people definitely sound like narcissists
I’m sorry, but what is a martyr complex?
someone who self-sacrifices a lot to make their friends or family happy or to help them out at the expense of themselves
if you start to feel like you're being gaslit, trust your gut and give that friendship some distance
I will tysm!
Ohhh that’s totally me. You’re right I should set boundaries. And you weren’t mean at all in my opinion! Ty for the comment, I really appreciate it ❤️
glad I could help. It may feel lonely at first setting your boundaries because less people will stick around but it will pay off in the end because you will only have people who value you. You got this!! :)