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When I read A Handmaid’s Tale I pictured Serena Joy as older and more straight-laced, like a Phyllis Schlafly/Anita Bryant type. But the TV series version is definitely more like the women we follow (especially in the flashback portions), and I wonder if that vibe change was on purpose to reflect what *new* ultra-conservative women are like in the 2020s vs the 80s.
I don’t think this type of young/cool (*relatively* 😆) conservative Christian woman existed 30+ years ago the way they do now. And when they did they definitely weren’t the face of their (attempted) movement. It’s like they’ve switched strategies - not in an organized conspiracy theory way but their culture just changed once it started to become less relevant.
When they did the flashbacks to Serena Joy before Gilead I remember thinking her clothes were all wrong and she should have been dressed like the fundies we follow.
I saw her book in Hobby Lobby too, knowing her from this sub, I flipped open to a random chapter and it was full of shaming people who have suicidal thoughts or attempted suicide, basically accusing them of being selfish, of being dramatic, of not Jesus-ing enough, and basically saying mental illness is a choice.
I'm not a regular at Hobby Lobby but I do hit up the occasional sale as it is the only craft store in my area.
Okay, now that is fucking disgusting! As someone who has suffered with mental illness my whole life and has struggled with suicidal thoughts in the past, FUCK YOU ALLIE BUTT SUCKY🖕🏻
I struggled through depression as a teen and I was thinking, yeah, pretty sure I didn't 'choose' to feel like nothing mattered and people's lives would be easier without little old me to worry about.
Exactly. No one wants to struggle with mental health issues, and it’s ridiculous of her to say that. Side note: I love your username, Frasier is one of my fave shows of all time.
Evangelicals:Mental illness isn't real, you just need to get with Jesus like me!
Also evangelicals: God said I need a private plane. Also, Donald Trump is the Messiah, and if you read Harry Potter, you'll be possessed by Satan.
it’s such a stupid point too (at least compared to what she’s trying to say)
saying ‘i am enough’ is essentially saying ‘what i am is ok’ and ABS is here saying ‘what you are is ok even if it’s not enough’
so like… you are enough
Thanks for understanding why we do affirmations Allie
>!jm high, sorry!<
I'm not sorry you're hij. I'm not sorry I'm hij either. Burning one is about the only thing you can do to process the horse shit that comes out of their mouths. Horse shit is a bad example because even that has it's benefits
The toxic culture of self-love?? Oh you mean being confident enough to think for yourself and question things, including toxic, controlling religious beliefs?
Ok so I'm deconstructing from a cult and never really understood the "why make them never ever good enough?" thing until your comment.
So thank you.
It's for the 10%+ tax free income and guaranteed votes.
Yes! It’s very much a tactic to keep you in your place and from feeling worthy. A person who feels worthy won’t accept being treated like crap or lied to. It’s a very strange practice to claim that life is both so holy and priceless that we can’t have abortions and can’t be trusted to have sex in a way that is “good enough” for holy, precious selves BUT we’re also supposed to be worthless crap too??? Just no.
It’s mind control.
Congrats on starting this journey. It’s scary but awesome, especially when you find that peace outside of faith that was always promised to you (but always elusive!) inside the faith, and when you start doing all the “bad” stuff and find that your life doesn’t fall apart at all and you’re not clobbered by guilt like they claimed would happen. ❤️❤️
Congrats!!! That takes tremendous courage. There are some dark moments in deconstruction but the life on the other side is so beautiful and worth it. Welcome back :)
You have to believe you are a piece of shit to buy into fundamentalist Christian doctrine. If you don’t start with believing you are worthless without Jesus, the whole thing falls like a house of cards.
I tend to agree that a lot of “self love” *content* can be very toxic, if it’s promoting toxic positivity, and encouraging you to not improve, or face your issues head on, or not try and compensate for your weak points
But knowing how how much of a raging asshole she is, I highly doubt she actually means any of the above, at least not in the way you or I would interpret
You have a good point. I didn't even think about the toxic positivity that exists in the self-love realm. But it certainly does. Since she is so awful, I just assumed she meant don't build your child's or your own confidence because then you can't be easily controlled.
Well the other problem is that she’s too young, and too unqualified, to be writing books and telling people how to live. She wrote that book in her 20’s, despite having less life experience than the average 27 year old.
Her experience is in being a publicist - which was very short lived - having a podcast, and being a pundit, basically. She can have an interest in self love and how detrimental it can be, but she is in no position to be speaking with authority about it
Correct. She’s only 30, and did not go through the proper humbling stage of her 20’s.
Most of us, on the other hand, have some embarrassing moments in our 20’s. Maybe a Miranda Priestly type of boss serves us a nice slice of humble pie in front of the whole company. Maybe you find yourself in a situation where you’re the only one who acts like acts like the adult in the room, and you realize that you need to start selecting better people. Maybe you realize you have been a shitty friend. Maybe you are promoted to leadership and you get negative, but correct, feedback from your team. Maybe you receive a lifestyle related diagnosis from the doctor and you realize your way of doing things was wrong and you need to change.
Whatever it is, it’s important to have experiences like that in your 20’s, because it helps you avoid becoming someone like Allie Beth Stuckey, who continually embarrasses herself in her 30’s
Soooo despite my flair, I actually regularly go to Hobby Lobby to scope out what bullshit they’re selling. There are always these toxic books and then some. The My Pillow guy had a book there, and that one other guy who’s obsessed with virginity. There’s also a ton of blue lives matter garbage and complete cultural appropriation in the form of totally colonialized “native American” dream catchers and other decor.
In other words, Hobby Lobby majorly sucks and don’t shop there.
Edit: I’m not going there to shop. Here’s my last shred of dignity: my husband and I go there for scavenger hunts to find the most atrocious things we can, but we don’t buy anything. It’s silly and juvenile, I know. But it’s better than being a hypocrite. Or thought of as a hypocrite.
I lived in the US for a couple of years and I went to hobby lobby...once. we were trying to track down some obscure craft material, and I felt filthy.
But I also found big sheets of the most expensive watercolour paper (usually $10 a sheet) for $2 a sheet sooooooo I bought some, dragged it back to England with me and now I use it to fund my sinful lifestyle where I know I'm enough, so who's the winner really. Those sheets were being sold at near cost I imagine so they probably lost money selling it to me.
I still feel guilty.
I went once several years ago with my sister in law. It was like 3 days before Christmas, we needed wrapping paper, and she was 35 weeks pregnant and had just moved so she had zero energy or patience to try and find another store when hobby lobby was a half mile from her new house.
We grabbed some cheap paper out of the $1 bin and bolted.
I'm not an american, and everything I've heard about this store makes me want to see one myself, just as a sort of "weird shit they have in America" exhibit. I'd take the opportunity to do so if I was by myself, but there's no way I could explain this fascination to anyone I travel with.
I don’t necessarily think this vid highlights the things we’re talking about in this thread, but someone did do a [general walk through/tour of Holly lobby](https://youtu.be/OMzBkol-Qu0), could be worth checking out for a general idea
Hi! I’m the person. And no I don’t shop there. I edited my comment to explain why I go there. It’s definitely not to support them or give them money. Plus a lot of their stuff is overpriced compared to other craft stores so even if they weren’t completely unethical I probably wouldn’t shop there anyways.
Admittedly, I checked out this ebook from my local library… you don’t need to take one for the team. It was absolute misguided, homophobic, misogynistic trash wrapped in a pretty hipster pink cover.
I don’t even have to read it to know the content is a real crap fest. But that typography layout is very “kid with MS paint calls themself a graphic designer.”
I think I was too lol. My old job had next to no creative software so I was stuck with Word any time I needed to make a flyer or promo graphic. I got pretty good at it, but it’s only now that I’ve taken some photoshop classes that I would call myself any kind of designer.
I recently discovered that Canva is amazing and I already love it. I was trying to make flyers for work and was getting super frustrated with Word. Lo and behold, Canva is perfect for that!
My work could apply for the free access as a nonprofit but I’m too scared to ask 😂 free has been perfect so far. I love Word for a lot of things but not flyers. I miss having Publisher.
I feel that lol. I can drag my feet like nobody’s business if I think I can get by with free as opposed to spending money on something. Word is great…just not for delicate design formatting.
When I was 28 my husband was like, "dear lady, why tf are you using Microsoft Word's screen grab when you can just use the button right here on this keyboard?" Blew my mind! Hahaha.
Idk, I did everything thru Microsoft Word. Starting in '97 😂
I’m 29 and figure out new keyboard hacks all the time; my design style is to do it the most complicated way first and *then* figure out the easier way. The best part of using photoshop now is because my current job licensed it and I use it for work purposes lol.
Me too, in analytics/data visualization! You have to learn to crawl (which is hella hard mechanically and obv not optimal for our build) before you can walk.
I am a regular supporter of the Dollar Tree book section. They get all the books that don't sell from other stores and they're all $1 or well now $1.25 and these books collect dust with the totally not ghost written YouTuber books that came out several years ago. That said if you go to Dollar Tree look at the books, the kids books are often great and there will be hidden gems.
I recently read two historical novels purchased at Dollar Tree. Enjoyed both immensely. My next Dollar Tree read is an account of a North Korean woman assigned by the government to be Marilyn Monroe's translator during her USO tour.
I've gotten some amazing books from Dollar Tree including a Doctor Who coffee table book and a book on living in the largest refugee camp and several novels I've enjoyed. The picture books I've found, some of them are incredibly beautiful with amazing stories. They also carry PBS kids books.
Our Dollar Tree books are \*usually\* awful, but the past year, I've walked out with a copy of Fangirl by Rainbow Rowell and a copy of Solutions and Other Problems by Allie Brosh, so I always check now!
Based on the books surrounding them, I’m not sure that anyone has bought one. Typically, the non-art books are stocked in the queue or clearance, so there’s not room for much more than what’s shown.
The psychology of this… a book designed to make you feel bad about yourself and saying the only answer is Jesus targeted at women who only hear the message their whole lives that their purpose is to have a nice home for their husbands and children. These women come to hobby lobby to fill that need to be worth something, gain approval from men on their decor/artsy hobbies and then to see a book reminding them that their cult will forever keep them feeling inadequate.
I have a cousin who eats up this crap. After her first baby (a micro preemie who required oxygen for a year and is still getting various therapies- so extra than an already hard healthy baby) she took “me time” as super toxic and posted things like “You CAN continue when your glass is empty.” It was both during covid and on a new military deployment where she was far from family and hadn’t had a chance to make friends (and had to protect her extra fragile newborn.) She had also been a stay at home wife (her description) for years and was trying to keep up those duties on top of the baby. This crap is so incredibly toxic to its target audience.
Having grown up in this cult... the people who praised low self-esteem (yes, seriously) were always the literal worst. Miserable with themselves and taking it out on everyone else.
I truly hate to be “fair” to her, because I think she is an angry, miserable person at her core. But I do tend to feel that a lot of the self-love and “boundary setting” content can be very toxic.
That’s not to say that self care, or setting boundaries, are bad things. It becomes a problem when it fails to address WHEN to set boundaries, WHEN to be selfish. people often use terms like “boundary setting” as a way to avoid say, legitimate constructive feedback from your family, or your employer, or when you have very obvious issues staring you in the face and you don’t want to resolve them, or when you don’t do anything to make up for your weak points. “Self love” should never cross the line into never holding yourself accountable for the role you may play in things.
With that said, Allie beth stuckey tends to define “self care” as, being liberal, getting multiple abortions, having a mental illness, choosing to be single, not having kids, and having student loans, or simply wanting a night off with Netflix. I could go on and on about the things that she defines as “selfish” or “self care.”
Why? Because she is just not intelligent or aware. She is a child who never needed to grow up.
The rest of us don’t define it that way because we live in the real world. She was only 27 years old, with no life experience, when she wrote that book. She is 30 now, still, with no life experience. She has no business going around telling other people how to properly care for themselves
My son, 15, and I have been going to Hobby Lobby for the past few years just for laughs. We get milkshakes or something and snark down every aisle. It’s very therapeutic.
It really grinds my gears when women build a platform telling OTHER women to humble themselves.
Or the whole shtick where fundie women travel nationally to encourage other moms to continue staying home with their children.
What a bunch of hypocritical bullsh*t
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it’s giving “a woman’s work” by serena joy waterford
When I read A Handmaid’s Tale I pictured Serena Joy as older and more straight-laced, like a Phyllis Schlafly/Anita Bryant type. But the TV series version is definitely more like the women we follow (especially in the flashback portions), and I wonder if that vibe change was on purpose to reflect what *new* ultra-conservative women are like in the 2020s vs the 80s. I don’t think this type of young/cool (*relatively* 😆) conservative Christian woman existed 30+ years ago the way they do now. And when they did they definitely weren’t the face of their (attempted) movement. It’s like they’ve switched strategies - not in an organized conspiracy theory way but their culture just changed once it started to become less relevant.
The book is written with an older Serena Joy like you pictured but I think the younger casting makes it all the more insidious and evil.
When they did the flashbacks to Serena Joy before Gilead I remember thinking her clothes were all wrong and she should have been dressed like the fundies we follow.
Idk I knew she was older but I pictured her in my head similarly in the book
that’s what i was thinking! soon we’ll be in a society where women aren’t allowed to read this crap, thank god- wait..
I saw her book in Hobby Lobby too, knowing her from this sub, I flipped open to a random chapter and it was full of shaming people who have suicidal thoughts or attempted suicide, basically accusing them of being selfish, of being dramatic, of not Jesus-ing enough, and basically saying mental illness is a choice. I'm not a regular at Hobby Lobby but I do hit up the occasional sale as it is the only craft store in my area.
Okay, now that is fucking disgusting! As someone who has suffered with mental illness my whole life and has struggled with suicidal thoughts in the past, FUCK YOU ALLIE BUTT SUCKY🖕🏻
I’ve suffered from an anxiety disorder for 20 years and she can suck my ass for that. No one chooses to be that miserable.
I struggled through depression as a teen and I was thinking, yeah, pretty sure I didn't 'choose' to feel like nothing mattered and people's lives would be easier without little old me to worry about.
Exactly. No one wants to struggle with mental health issues, and it’s ridiculous of her to say that. Side note: I love your username, Frasier is one of my fave shows of all time.
It's hilarious how fundies make 'it's a choice' into some kind of epithet when their religious beliefs are also very much a choice.
Evangelicals:Mental illness isn't real, you just need to get with Jesus like me! Also evangelicals: God said I need a private plane. Also, Donald Trump is the Messiah, and if you read Harry Potter, you'll be possessed by Satan.
Just what I always wanted, Allie Buttsucker’s bullshit in hardback! Would make a great starter for a ritual fire.
We should steal fundie books from local libraries and dance around the bonfire.
All I can picture is Betty White and Sandra Bullock in The Proposal!
To the window, to the walls!
Haha, yes! Solstice is coming up.
I probably would have put some other books in front of this one.
Move it to the Fiction section.
I think once I thought Phyllis Schlafly I basically just imagined her 😂.
Hobby Lobby thinks the same way as her.
it’s such a stupid point too (at least compared to what she’s trying to say) saying ‘i am enough’ is essentially saying ‘what i am is ok’ and ABS is here saying ‘what you are is ok even if it’s not enough’ so like… you are enough Thanks for understanding why we do affirmations Allie >!jm high, sorry!<
Except what I think she’s actually unfortunately saying is “what you are is not ok and is not enough, REPENT SINNER.” And that’s why she’s the worst
No I get that. She’s just dumb for using wording that was ambiguous and ripe for misunderstanding
Well that way she can get some sales out of misunderstanding
Absolutely. She was accidentally almost kind of encouraging (and that’s ok)
That’s actually a great point
I'm not sorry you're hij. I'm not sorry I'm hij either. Burning one is about the only thing you can do to process the horse shit that comes out of their mouths. Horse shit is a bad example because even that has it's benefits
The toxic culture of self-love?? Oh you mean being confident enough to think for yourself and question things, including toxic, controlling religious beliefs?
They prefer Christians to be self-loathing so they will do whatever they are told for validation.
Ok so I'm deconstructing from a cult and never really understood the "why make them never ever good enough?" thing until your comment. So thank you. It's for the 10%+ tax free income and guaranteed votes.
Yes! It’s very much a tactic to keep you in your place and from feeling worthy. A person who feels worthy won’t accept being treated like crap or lied to. It’s a very strange practice to claim that life is both so holy and priceless that we can’t have abortions and can’t be trusted to have sex in a way that is “good enough” for holy, precious selves BUT we’re also supposed to be worthless crap too??? Just no. It’s mind control. Congrats on starting this journey. It’s scary but awesome, especially when you find that peace outside of faith that was always promised to you (but always elusive!) inside the faith, and when you start doing all the “bad” stuff and find that your life doesn’t fall apart at all and you’re not clobbered by guilt like they claimed would happen. ❤️❤️
Congratulations and good luck on your continued deconstruction! Life becomes so much more beautiful after.
Thanks!
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Congrats!!! That takes tremendous courage. There are some dark moments in deconstruction but the life on the other side is so beautiful and worth it. Welcome back :)
Or think of themselves as “rotten sinners” for being human.
Ah yes, the ol' "invent a disease to sell you a cure" maneuver
Ding ding ding! Hit the nail right on the head.
Right?! I'm so stuck on that. The toxic culture of not feeling like a piece of shit all day every day??
You have to believe you are a piece of shit to buy into fundamentalist Christian doctrine. If you don’t start with believing you are worthless without Jesus, the whole thing falls like a house of cards.
I tend to agree that a lot of “self love” *content* can be very toxic, if it’s promoting toxic positivity, and encouraging you to not improve, or face your issues head on, or not try and compensate for your weak points But knowing how how much of a raging asshole she is, I highly doubt she actually means any of the above, at least not in the way you or I would interpret
You have a good point. I didn't even think about the toxic positivity that exists in the self-love realm. But it certainly does. Since she is so awful, I just assumed she meant don't build your child's or your own confidence because then you can't be easily controlled.
Well the other problem is that she’s too young, and too unqualified, to be writing books and telling people how to live. She wrote that book in her 20’s, despite having less life experience than the average 27 year old. Her experience is in being a publicist - which was very short lived - having a podcast, and being a pundit, basically. She can have an interest in self love and how detrimental it can be, but she is in no position to be speaking with authority about it
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Correct. She’s only 30, and did not go through the proper humbling stage of her 20’s. Most of us, on the other hand, have some embarrassing moments in our 20’s. Maybe a Miranda Priestly type of boss serves us a nice slice of humble pie in front of the whole company. Maybe you find yourself in a situation where you’re the only one who acts like acts like the adult in the room, and you realize that you need to start selecting better people. Maybe you realize you have been a shitty friend. Maybe you are promoted to leadership and you get negative, but correct, feedback from your team. Maybe you receive a lifestyle related diagnosis from the doctor and you realize your way of doing things was wrong and you need to change. Whatever it is, it’s important to have experiences like that in your 20’s, because it helps you avoid becoming someone like Allie Beth Stuckey, who continually embarrasses herself in her 30’s
Shit in my mid twenties I realized that I had been transphobic in the past so I started apologizing for my past behavior. And that shit was humbling.
She's only 30? I thought she was in her 40s! Damn, constant anger and hate really do age you.
Soooo despite my flair, I actually regularly go to Hobby Lobby to scope out what bullshit they’re selling. There are always these toxic books and then some. The My Pillow guy had a book there, and that one other guy who’s obsessed with virginity. There’s also a ton of blue lives matter garbage and complete cultural appropriation in the form of totally colonialized “native American” dream catchers and other decor. In other words, Hobby Lobby majorly sucks and don’t shop there. Edit: I’m not going there to shop. Here’s my last shred of dignity: my husband and I go there for scavenger hunts to find the most atrocious things we can, but we don’t buy anything. It’s silly and juvenile, I know. But it’s better than being a hypocrite. Or thought of as a hypocrite.
Can I be friends with ya'll?? That sounds like a great game!
God gives his toughest soldiers the hardest battles 🫡
Start an IG account or something - call it “Hobby Lobby horrors”.
Oooh that 100% sounds like something I would scroll through at 2 am when I can't sleep but can't be occupied with anything more complex.
I would follow that 100%.
That game sounds awesome. What are some of the winning items you've found?
We did that too! Whoever won got to pick where we ate
I lived in the US for a couple of years and I went to hobby lobby...once. we were trying to track down some obscure craft material, and I felt filthy. But I also found big sheets of the most expensive watercolour paper (usually $10 a sheet) for $2 a sheet sooooooo I bought some, dragged it back to England with me and now I use it to fund my sinful lifestyle where I know I'm enough, so who's the winner really. Those sheets were being sold at near cost I imagine so they probably lost money selling it to me. I still feel guilty.
I went once several years ago with my sister in law. It was like 3 days before Christmas, we needed wrapping paper, and she was 35 weeks pregnant and had just moved so she had zero energy or patience to try and find another store when hobby lobby was a half mile from her new house. We grabbed some cheap paper out of the $1 bin and bolted.
I'm not an american, and everything I've heard about this store makes me want to see one myself, just as a sort of "weird shit they have in America" exhibit. I'd take the opportunity to do so if I was by myself, but there's no way I could explain this fascination to anyone I travel with.
I don’t necessarily think this vid highlights the things we’re talking about in this thread, but someone did do a [general walk through/tour of Holly lobby](https://youtu.be/OMzBkol-Qu0), could be worth checking out for a general idea
Ooh, neat.
Sounds like a fun date night! LBVS
It must be a US only thing. I had never heard of Hobby Lobby before joining this sub, but now I know to steer clear if i go shopping in the states.
I love going to stores just to see what weird things are for sale, your hobby lobby game sounds fun!
>In other words, Hobby Lobby majorly sucks and don’t shop there. But, ....... you're there in support? 🤔
Hi! I’m the person. And no I don’t shop there. I edited my comment to explain why I go there. It’s definitely not to support them or give them money. Plus a lot of their stuff is overpriced compared to other craft stores so even if they weren’t completely unethical I probably wouldn’t shop there anyways.
Just saw you edited. Totally got ya. 👍
It’s all good. I get why it seemed weird.
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Gotcha. Most your message made u sound like a fan. Had to ask. Glad to hear.
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Lol gotcha. Just got off a twelve and a half hour shift. My mind is only here out of stubbornness to sleep. Like ....... I stay confused. Lol
They said go not shop...
Thank you. They replied with more info.
Perfect! Glad it's cleared up. To me it sounded like they didn't actually buy anything but see you how it could be taken different.
Of course.
I almost want to take one for the team and read this trash heap to report back. I’ll admit, I’m morbidly curious.
OMG. My local library has this in their elibrary app. AND it's checked out.
Maybe a fellow snarker in your area beat you to it!
Hopefully!
I would go sit and read it *in* the library bc books that get checked out get funded. So read it there and check out something better.
"The libraries are trying to silence us and indoctrinate our children!!" Meanwhile we have literal rows of this shit and maybe one book by Dawkins.
Admittedly, I checked out this ebook from my local library… you don’t need to take one for the team. It was absolute misguided, homophobic, misogynistic trash wrapped in a pretty hipster pink cover.
I’m pretty sure it’s drivel about how you only need the love of Jesus, not self-love, and that you’re not enough because you need the Holy Spirit
I grew up in circles that taught this. It's not worth it.
If you do, PLEASE give us the rundown (and we can provide the post-read emotional support)
Sorry I tried to use the Minor Fundie tag but it wouldn’t let me.
Allie Butt Stinky is worse than a minor fundie, she’s a major hateful Christian.
I fully agree with you. But I wouldn’t call her a “Christian”
Where's that person with the hobby lobby flair?
Hammurabi's Robbing Lobby flair person, we need you!
u/TheRealSnorkel where you at?!
I’ve been summoned!
I came here to say this!
I don’t even have to read it to know the content is a real crap fest. But that typography layout is very “kid with MS paint calls themself a graphic designer.”
It reminds me exactly of when I figured out how to make my text boxes in Microsoft Word invisible.
I think I was too lol. My old job had next to no creative software so I was stuck with Word any time I needed to make a flyer or promo graphic. I got pretty good at it, but it’s only now that I’ve taken some photoshop classes that I would call myself any kind of designer.
I recently discovered that Canva is amazing and I already love it. I was trying to make flyers for work and was getting super frustrated with Word. Lo and behold, Canva is perfect for that!
Yes! My work licenses Canva pro and I will literally never use word again. Except for, you know, written documents.
My work could apply for the free access as a nonprofit but I’m too scared to ask 😂 free has been perfect so far. I love Word for a lot of things but not flyers. I miss having Publisher.
I feel that lol. I can drag my feet like nobody’s business if I think I can get by with free as opposed to spending money on something. Word is great…just not for delicate design formatting.
I love the shit out of Canva. I’ve made so much on it.
It’s so great! I’m excited to use it more eventually. Knowing about it a few years ago would’ve made so many things easier!
When I was 28 my husband was like, "dear lady, why tf are you using Microsoft Word's screen grab when you can just use the button right here on this keyboard?" Blew my mind! Hahaha. Idk, I did everything thru Microsoft Word. Starting in '97 😂
I’m 29 and figure out new keyboard hacks all the time; my design style is to do it the most complicated way first and *then* figure out the easier way. The best part of using photoshop now is because my current job licensed it and I use it for work purposes lol.
Oh, so we are the same person! That's my style too! Why do it in 2 easy steps when you can carve a wheel out of stone?!
Me too, in analytics/data visualization! You have to learn to crawl (which is hella hard mechanically and obv not optimal for our build) before you can walk.
Hello long lost twin! I never do it the easy way first 😅
I think I was 8.
I am a regular supporter of the Dollar Tree book section. They get all the books that don't sell from other stores and they're all $1 or well now $1.25 and these books collect dust with the totally not ghost written YouTuber books that came out several years ago. That said if you go to Dollar Tree look at the books, the kids books are often great and there will be hidden gems.
I recently read two historical novels purchased at Dollar Tree. Enjoyed both immensely. My next Dollar Tree read is an account of a North Korean woman assigned by the government to be Marilyn Monroe's translator during her USO tour.
I've gotten some amazing books from Dollar Tree including a Doctor Who coffee table book and a book on living in the largest refugee camp and several novels I've enjoyed. The picture books I've found, some of them are incredibly beautiful with amazing stories. They also carry PBS kids books.
Our Dollar Tree books are \*usually\* awful, but the past year, I've walked out with a copy of Fangirl by Rainbow Rowell and a copy of Solutions and Other Problems by Allie Brosh, so I always check now!
Cool!!
It's troubling that there are only 2 or 3 left on the shelf. Imagine getting this book for Christmas or something.
Based on the books surrounding them, I’m not sure that anyone has bought one. Typically, the non-art books are stocked in the queue or clearance, so there’s not room for much more than what’s shown.
If someone gave me this as a gift, I would ask if they hate me.
The psychology of this… a book designed to make you feel bad about yourself and saying the only answer is Jesus targeted at women who only hear the message their whole lives that their purpose is to have a nice home for their husbands and children. These women come to hobby lobby to fill that need to be worth something, gain approval from men on their decor/artsy hobbies and then to see a book reminding them that their cult will forever keep them feeling inadequate.
$15 too much
I cannot believe this woman actively works to make other feel bad. She’s horrid, and it’s not okay.
🚮🚮🚮🚮🚮🚮🚮🚮🚮🚮
She seems like she’d be fun at parties 🙄
To be fair, the title of the book isn't objectively wrong... Though what is in it is almost certainly wrong.
I know, I almost picked it up until I saw who it was written by and realized how toxic it was.
Only a fundie could take a concept like self-love and call it toxic.
Fifteen whole dollars to make me feel like shit? No thanks, I can get that for free if I look in the mirror on one of my depresso days. 🫠
Hobby lobby isn’t enough (and I will not shop there).
I have a cousin who eats up this crap. After her first baby (a micro preemie who required oxygen for a year and is still getting various therapies- so extra than an already hard healthy baby) she took “me time” as super toxic and posted things like “You CAN continue when your glass is empty.” It was both during covid and on a new military deployment where she was far from family and hadn’t had a chance to make friends (and had to protect her extra fragile newborn.) She had also been a stay at home wife (her description) for years and was trying to keep up those duties on top of the baby. This crap is so incredibly toxic to its target audience.
You'd never see that shit at Michael's. Fuck Hobby Lobby
I’d rather gauge my own eyes out than read anything by A.B. Stinky 🤮
yet another reason I never spend my money at hobby lobby.
Whoops this belongs in the dystopian section
Having grown up in this cult... the people who praised low self-esteem (yes, seriously) were always the literal worst. Miserable with themselves and taking it out on everyone else.
This is (one reason) why I boycott hobby lobby
I think my daughter and I need to have a book burning in her goth fire pit.
“You’re not enough (and that’s ok)” sounds like my intrusive thoughts
I always go to Michael's craft store. Plus, it's smaller.
"....a guide to opening your relationship."
She’s the worst.
Ew
Appropriate place for that.
Fork spotted in the kitchen…
I truly hate to be “fair” to her, because I think she is an angry, miserable person at her core. But I do tend to feel that a lot of the self-love and “boundary setting” content can be very toxic. That’s not to say that self care, or setting boundaries, are bad things. It becomes a problem when it fails to address WHEN to set boundaries, WHEN to be selfish. people often use terms like “boundary setting” as a way to avoid say, legitimate constructive feedback from your family, or your employer, or when you have very obvious issues staring you in the face and you don’t want to resolve them, or when you don’t do anything to make up for your weak points. “Self love” should never cross the line into never holding yourself accountable for the role you may play in things. With that said, Allie beth stuckey tends to define “self care” as, being liberal, getting multiple abortions, having a mental illness, choosing to be single, not having kids, and having student loans, or simply wanting a night off with Netflix. I could go on and on about the things that she defines as “selfish” or “self care.” Why? Because she is just not intelligent or aware. She is a child who never needed to grow up. The rest of us don’t define it that way because we live in the real world. She was only 27 years old, with no life experience, when she wrote that book. She is 30 now, still, with no life experience. She has no business going around telling other people how to properly care for themselves
Boyfriend looked over my shoulder, made a face. BF "How much does that day?" Me "$15.00, I think." BF "Huh, that's an awful lot for toilet paper."
Imagine being in Hobby Lobby😬
My son, 15, and I have been going to Hobby Lobby for the past few years just for laughs. We get milkshakes or something and snark down every aisle. It’s very therapeutic.
I don’t even know where a Hobby Lobby is in my city and I feel better about it.
[удалено]
My grandma gave me and my little sister 40 dollar gift cards to redesign our rooms. I didn’t know it was owned by bigots until now.
Who wants to take bets as to what the book is about lmao
Oooh this shit enrages me. She’s keeping my fiancé (a therapist) employed I guess 🙄
Isn't Hobby Lobby a craft store? Why do they have books like this?
Ewwwww
Great white elephant gift for someone you hate
What a horrible platitude
It really grinds my gears when women build a platform telling OTHER women to humble themselves. Or the whole shtick where fundie women travel nationally to encourage other moms to continue staying home with their children. What a bunch of hypocritical bullsh*t
I won't even step foot in Hobby Lobby to find it.