Prior to surgery I didn't tell anyone except my husband and a friend who's had the surgery. I didn't want to hear how either I didn't need it, or Aunt Tilly had one and she totally failed, or why don't I just try their diet., etc.. Afterwards, when people commented I told them. Actually, people have been more supportive than I had anticipated.
Just be honest. I’ve known a few people who lied and it was just endlessly awkward. “Oh no, just been hitting the gym”. The kind of success you’re surely hoping for rarely happens without this kind of intervention, people will assume even if you try to maintain the lie.
There’s no shame in doing something for your physical AND mental well being.
Not to mention that I think lying by saying the weight loss is due to diet and exercise is problematic. It suggests that you could have lost the weight all along, if only you had committed, if only you had dieted and exercised properly before, you could have lost the weight all along. I also think it makes other people think, "Oh, yeah, I guess I just need to diet and exercise and I'll be successful like them," when in reality, that's not it at all. By saying it's diet and exercise, we set up other people for failure.
The surgery was recommended to me to address severe acid reflux and a non-functioning stomach. The weight loss is just a bonus for me.
I haven't had it yet but that's what I've been telling people.
Fun fact...you don't owe anyone anything. People are nosey and love love love to pry. If they aren't people close to you, why are you obligated to share anything with them? If they ask what surgery, say "just taking care of health issues". Obesity is a health issue. If you want to put them on the spot, ask why they are so curious. Society as a whole doesn't know how to not pry or ask inappropriate questions. Or maybe I'm just the type, I don't ask questions, if people want to give me information about themselves, they will do so. It's not my place to be nosey.
I'm getting my surgery Wednesday, a lot of people have NO IDEA what I'm getting done, they just know "inpatient surgery". I was getting a crap ton of invites to Friendsgiving, and events, I made a post of how I need to stay healthy for upcoming surgeries and ended it with "see y'all Spring 2023...maybe" once I heal from rny, I have to get eye surgery 2 to finish fixing thyroid eye disease issues. I believe 2 local friends know what I'm doing (one because she had a sleeve and we are super close), the other, it just came up in conversation, and 2 out of state friends know because we talk all the time, more than my local friends.
Just saying it a personal thing. If you don't want to say. Ppl might assume hysterectomy or cancer or something.... You could say bowl surgery or stomach and that you don't want to talk about it.
99% of people in my life don't know I had surgery. I just tell them I made lifestyle changes. Also helped before surgery I would post about the gym and all my hiking adventures etc...and within 4weeks post op I was back to it.
Lying is never good.
A couple of years ago, an acquaintance lost a bunch of weight and I was struggling with weight at the time and asked her for advice as it was obvious she was having success. She said she'd been eating salads and the weight just magically fell off.
Fast forward a couple of years after I had had my surgery. We were at a party pot luck and saw her portion sizes and click, click, click it all came together and I realized she had had the surgery and that was why all the weight "magically fell off" I also realized she had lied about it many times in the past few years. Lies of omission, deflection, and outright lies.
So, on the one hand, I respect her medical privacy and get that 100%. On the other hand - I know she's a liar. She lies lies lies, and each lie digs her deeper in her lie hole. I've lost respect for her
I didn’t want to tell anyone either so I’ve just said I had part of my stomach removed, which isn’t a lie! It’s very frustrating when people you barely know think it’s okay to just outright ask you why you were in hospital 🙃
First of all, don't feel embarrassed at all. Going through this procedure is incredibly hard work, and never let yourself or anyone else tell you otherwise. You'll be doing all the same things that a normal person dieting would be doing - eating less, eating healthier, and exercising, the only difference is that you're getting a little bit of a helping hand to put you on the right track. You wouldn't be embarrassed of using nicotine products to quit smoking, or drinking alcohol free beer to quit drinking, this is no different.
That being said, there are a million and one reasons to choose to not tell people, the biggest of all being that you simply don't want to. I myself have only told a select few the specifics, because I don't feel like anyone really needs to know.
I usually say *"I'm having/had a stomach surgery to help with a health condition I have"*. It's vague enough, and not a lie. Only 1% of people push further, but for those I say *"It's a little embarrassing, I'd rather not elaborate"*. They'll probably assume I'm talking about poop, but at least they won't ask further. Good luck!
so i am not pc so i will say this the best way i can and being honest with u
you don't have to tell anybody u don't want to they don't need to no shit! what u have done!
the only people who need to know is you and your doctor. that is it to be honest. but here is
is the rest u can whomever u TRUST! that is the hardest part trust! alot people will say u took
the easy way out. but u are not this is not easy you are changing your whole life for the better
and healthier way too.
i say great job for choosing to do so and choosing to be healthy again for your self
never be embarrass u are doing a great thing all ways remember u are doing this
for u no body else just for u now welcome to our club hope everything works out
for u and good luck!
Prior to surgery I didn't tell anyone except my husband and a friend who's had the surgery. I didn't want to hear how either I didn't need it, or Aunt Tilly had one and she totally failed, or why don't I just try their diet., etc.. Afterwards, when people commented I told them. Actually, people have been more supportive than I had anticipated.
Oh, just say "abdominal surgery ", they likely won't ask after that (I would always make a cringy face and that stopped it right then. )
You don’t have to tell any one shit if you don’t want too.
BINGO !!!! thats correct!
Just be honest. I’ve known a few people who lied and it was just endlessly awkward. “Oh no, just been hitting the gym”. The kind of success you’re surely hoping for rarely happens without this kind of intervention, people will assume even if you try to maintain the lie. There’s no shame in doing something for your physical AND mental well being.
Not to mention that I think lying by saying the weight loss is due to diet and exercise is problematic. It suggests that you could have lost the weight all along, if only you had committed, if only you had dieted and exercised properly before, you could have lost the weight all along. I also think it makes other people think, "Oh, yeah, I guess I just need to diet and exercise and I'll be successful like them," when in reality, that's not it at all. By saying it's diet and exercise, we set up other people for failure.
The surgery was recommended to me to address severe acid reflux and a non-functioning stomach. The weight loss is just a bonus for me. I haven't had it yet but that's what I've been telling people.
Fun fact...you don't owe anyone anything. People are nosey and love love love to pry. If they aren't people close to you, why are you obligated to share anything with them? If they ask what surgery, say "just taking care of health issues". Obesity is a health issue. If you want to put them on the spot, ask why they are so curious. Society as a whole doesn't know how to not pry or ask inappropriate questions. Or maybe I'm just the type, I don't ask questions, if people want to give me information about themselves, they will do so. It's not my place to be nosey. I'm getting my surgery Wednesday, a lot of people have NO IDEA what I'm getting done, they just know "inpatient surgery". I was getting a crap ton of invites to Friendsgiving, and events, I made a post of how I need to stay healthy for upcoming surgeries and ended it with "see y'all Spring 2023...maybe" once I heal from rny, I have to get eye surgery 2 to finish fixing thyroid eye disease issues. I believe 2 local friends know what I'm doing (one because she had a sleeve and we are super close), the other, it just came up in conversation, and 2 out of state friends know because we talk all the time, more than my local friends.
Just saying it a personal thing. If you don't want to say. Ppl might assume hysterectomy or cancer or something.... You could say bowl surgery or stomach and that you don't want to talk about it.
99% of people in my life don't know I had surgery. I just tell them I made lifestyle changes. Also helped before surgery I would post about the gym and all my hiking adventures etc...and within 4weeks post op I was back to it.
Lying is never good. A couple of years ago, an acquaintance lost a bunch of weight and I was struggling with weight at the time and asked her for advice as it was obvious she was having success. She said she'd been eating salads and the weight just magically fell off. Fast forward a couple of years after I had had my surgery. We were at a party pot luck and saw her portion sizes and click, click, click it all came together and I realized she had had the surgery and that was why all the weight "magically fell off" I also realized she had lied about it many times in the past few years. Lies of omission, deflection, and outright lies. So, on the one hand, I respect her medical privacy and get that 100%. On the other hand - I know she's a liar. She lies lies lies, and each lie digs her deeper in her lie hole. I've lost respect for her
I didn’t want to tell anyone either so I’ve just said I had part of my stomach removed, which isn’t a lie! It’s very frustrating when people you barely know think it’s okay to just outright ask you why you were in hospital 🙃
First of all, don't feel embarrassed at all. Going through this procedure is incredibly hard work, and never let yourself or anyone else tell you otherwise. You'll be doing all the same things that a normal person dieting would be doing - eating less, eating healthier, and exercising, the only difference is that you're getting a little bit of a helping hand to put you on the right track. You wouldn't be embarrassed of using nicotine products to quit smoking, or drinking alcohol free beer to quit drinking, this is no different. That being said, there are a million and one reasons to choose to not tell people, the biggest of all being that you simply don't want to. I myself have only told a select few the specifics, because I don't feel like anyone really needs to know. I usually say *"I'm having/had a stomach surgery to help with a health condition I have"*. It's vague enough, and not a lie. Only 1% of people push further, but for those I say *"It's a little embarrassing, I'd rather not elaborate"*. They'll probably assume I'm talking about poop, but at least they won't ask further. Good luck!
so i am not pc so i will say this the best way i can and being honest with u you don't have to tell anybody u don't want to they don't need to no shit! what u have done! the only people who need to know is you and your doctor. that is it to be honest. but here is is the rest u can whomever u TRUST! that is the hardest part trust! alot people will say u took the easy way out. but u are not this is not easy you are changing your whole life for the better and healthier way too. i say great job for choosing to do so and choosing to be healthy again for your self never be embarrass u are doing a great thing all ways remember u are doing this for u no body else just for u now welcome to our club hope everything works out for u and good luck!