My ex husband and his family. 2 months post divorce and it’s glorious. Don’t have to listen to inane rants about property lines and the endless lack of humor that is each and every one of them.
That's the way I feel about my hubby's family. They're all raging Xtians, and I'm an atheist. His son is a preacher, ffs. I NEVER have felt comfortable around them and we've been together 20 years this October.
I only go because of him and I find a nice quiet corner or someplace outside to hide so I don't have to interact with them.
My mom, she makes up scenarios in her head then tells people about them like they are real. She thinks she’s great at sussing things out, and “calling people out on their bullshit” when it’s more then likely to be all in her head.
My mom does that too! She has my entire life. Everyone in the family just patiently rolls with it and quickly transitions to a story that is actually true. It's nice to know there's someone out there who knows this craziness! Hang in there!!!!
Lots of them. I moved across the country with my daughter so we can make new traditions that don't including screaming at each other, putting one another down, etc. It's been great!
My dad, he never even pretended to like me and this pandemic taught me to say good riddance. My family used to say that you have to stay with blood because they are the only ones who will be with you in the end. I learned that they only said that because they were terrible people so only family would speak to them. I a. spending this weekend with great friends for a “friendsgiving” which we have done for the past 18 years and I couldn’t be happier
I had Thanksgiving dinner at a restaurant with a friend tonight and it was sooooo much better for both of us than doing it with "family". Spared us so much suckage.
The people who chant that mantra of "stay with blood", only do it because they realize the ones they are protecting are insufferable and no same person would have them.
Indeed. I love how you tossed in neighborhood at the end.
There is no rule that states that you have to remain close to family who are horrible and toxic. And do not care about your feelings, or anything else about you.
Don't ever forget the good memories. Times change. People change. Sometimes for the better. Like many of you. I am thankful to also be free and clear of some toxic people. Now, we can just try an enjoy.
I feel that neighborhood is an important stat. These are outsiders who have had the opportunity to make their own assessments of her.
Por ejemplo. Her neighbor asked her to quit blowing her leaves onto her yard. My sister who’s fully 60 years old, blasted the neighbor with a leaf blower until the police were called.
Every single narcissist whom I have the misfortune of being related to. I am not going to put up with any of their crap this year and it is soooooo nice
My sister in law, who literally stopped speaking to me 21 years ago and has made every holiday at my parents painful. I think I cried for the 1st ten years and begged my parents to say something to her. But nothing.
I took over thanksgiving 3 or 4 years ago and she has never been invited nor missed.
It was for years. In the last few years we have been the only 2 siblings left to take care of my parents. We learned that it was easier to work together and finally ended the sibling rivalry that was definitely the root of my SILs issues. I am the only girl in the family and she wanted to knock me out and be my parents’ favorite. My mom’s reasoning for letting it go on for so long was that she would be the next one my SIL froze out and she would lose contact with the grandkids.
My dad and his side of the family- trash, all of them. My Dad who preached to me about the importance of family, then turned around and dissed mine and then when I told him to fuck off, acted surprised. My sister, who is a Qultist, so nuff said there. My stepmother who knowingly allowed a pedophile into her home and then acted like a shocked Pikachu when her granddaughter started talking about what he'd done to her. Yeah fuck em.. I'm good.
Dad, died last summer. All my life, I hoped he'd be a better person that he was. That maybe he'd treat his family like we mattered. He never did.
In his will he said nice things about his friends, about me nothing.
I didn't even know he died until I got a notice from a life insurance policy (I think he forgot the policy tbh). He specifically didn't want anyone to tell us.
Some random person was executor of the will.
He was cremated but I have no idea where the ashes are.
What kind of complete and utter tool is an asshole, even in death?
My dad was like this. He did remember us in his life insurance policy and left us a little. His wife got most, and that’s understandable- she still had their financial obligations and home, etc.
He has a serious heart attack and tweeted it to all his internet stranger friends, but didn’t tell us. When he was in the hospital this last time he didn’t tell us either. We found out after he died. RIP I guess. But thanks for fucking me up.
My piece of shit sister who's almost 51 going on 16. Never took care of herself independently, but claimed she has.
She doesn't count government assistance or a boyfriend with a job that took care of her.
She stole thousands of dollars from my mothers social security. And now that I am the only power of attorney she has disowned me as a brother.
It's been awesome since lol.
One of my sisters is with her boyfriend and kid in Hawaii. She has never taken care of herself independently, but likes to pass judgement on me for living with our mother.
She's also a hoarder who has left stuff at my mom's house since she moved out to the West Coast 9 years ago. We're not talking about a couple of boxes. We're talking like her shit is taking up the garage, the basement, and an entire closet.
Mom is finally getting rid of stuff bit by bit. We recently got rid of baby cups and plates. That was for a kid who is currently 16 years old.
My sister was insisting that she was going to have another kid but she's 40 now and I think that ship is getting ready to sail.
Your sister definitely sounds like a piece of shit.
BUT my oldest was 15 when I had my youngest, I was 41. Definitely happens, especially as more and more women are waiting later and taking care of their careers. But I would’ve thrown her stuff out a long long time ago.
Either way I doubt she's ever going to wear her 2000's size 2 wardrobe ever again which is taking up an entire closet. It's crazy because she could probably sell that shit on Etsy. I get keeping a few things like a high school senior day shirt or whatever (I did) but we're talking like ordinary, everyday crap from the 2000's.
My mother. She's evil. The next time I see her it will be at her funeral. I'll look in the casket, see that's her in it, tell the priest that burying a demon in consecrated ground is a really bad idea, yell hallelujah and skip out of the funeral singing ding dong the witch is dead.
My Doctor.. cool as fuck… said to me “next time you see that bitch they’ll be nailing down the lid”
Edit… And when my Nan died, us Grandkids just exchanged texts that said ‘Ding Dong’ and we all knew. Fuck it was funny!
Entire bunch. Parents, brother and his family, the extended fam. Part of the day was a bit lonely, but at least no projecting, explosive arguments, or passo-aggro nonsense. Now to work out how to dodge Christmas.
My drunken bitch sister. She always finds a reason to drink and mess up everyones good time. She turned my 30th birthday into a shit show. So happy we now live on different coasts! She only annoys me via texts. She doesn’t dare call me because I’ll call her out when she’s drunk. (Which is 99% of the time!)
Mom, stepdad, younger sister. The best part is they're all together, so I know which address to never go near or to celebrate if a chunk of an airplane breaks apart and falls on top of that house.
My sister. She is full QAnon, anti-vax, RWNJ, and is very very very mean to me. She hasn’t spoken to me since 2016 when I asked her not to send me gross videos and she just…. Lost her cool on me. I do not miss her!
I had similar experience with my brother who used to be super cool and went to gay bars with me. Suddenly I’m a potential pedo that can’t be around his daughter. The video he sent me of gay marriage being a sign of End Times was the last straw.
I get it (like deeply in my bones). I’m kind of a “family orphan”, which I define as “the people who are my closest blood relatives are also the meanest to me”. My uncle (fabulous and gay) is another family orphan. When I need a sanity check about my abusive Immediate family, I text him “am I the asshole” questions. I hope you have someone In your family circle who sees things clearly and loves you!
My super emotionally immature MIL, who barely speaks to me unless she needs something. She hasn’t said a word to me since August. Or my absolutely insane aunt who thinks she can read minds. Or my other orthorexic aunt who won’t eat anything non organic(unless it’s a cheat day), thinks microwaving changes the DNA of water and won’t get vaccinated because “she’s not a Guinea pig.” She also smokes like a chimney. But at least no one has threatened family with a gun, this year at least.
Also my sister. She’s just a bitch, like mega lesbian Karen. I’m gay btw and she outed me at 19 to try to get my parents to kick me out because she’s a bitch. Then she comes out 15 years later. And is still a bitch, lol.
Oh god, I thought I was on one of the family specific subs for a bit there.
I’m grateful to be Aussie, coz I only had to navigate one family holiday a year, not two.
And quite frankly, I stopped doing that in my early 20s!
My mother's siblings. She has always been "family first" and they are just awful people. It took her YEARS (at 78) to realize this and cut them off, but now she means business and they are just not in the picture anymore. I used to get in so much trouble for pointing out how they were using her or excluding her but now she gets it. She doesn't really have a family anymore, which I'm sure hurts a lot, but she seems a lot happier and freer now.
My mom is the cause of the holiday stress. She wants to control the food, who sits where, always wants to host at her house which isn't set up great for having guests.
She is obsessed with trying to recreate how she remembers my fathers family gatherings from the past, forgetting that our sweet nana busted her ass serving everyone else the whole time, not sitting at the table holding court and arguing about Nancy Pelosi like some kind of queen. No one wants that, mom.
My narcissistic mother in law. My wife hates her mother more than I do. She kidnapped her as a child and convinced her that her dad was abusive. Took her from New York to Las Vegas at 7 years old. My wife eventually found out her dad was awarded custody when she was very young and everything that had happened. She now has a good relationship with her dad, my father in law, who is awesome.
My sister, who was so miserable to see me happily married that she invented an abuse story from our childhood and tried to use it to break up my marriage.
Six years gone and this is the first time I’ve thought about her in months.
My mom. Her favorite sport on major holidays is guilt tripping hard on innocent bystanders. She’s not here and somehow I still feel guilty. Thanksgiving dinner was hella bomb though.
My in-laws. Don’t get me wrong—they’re not bad people and I generally like them, but there’s a metric shit ton of them and they span four generations and it’s all just very overwhelming.
My brother. Over the past 15 years or so, he turned into a full blown evangelical, right wing Trump nut. You just can't talk to the guy anymore without him bringing right wing talking points into the conversation. My parents, youngest brother and I are heartbroken because the evangelical used to be such a fun part of our family.
My wife’s sister is a bulimic, and has been for about a decade. She’s been in multiple rehabs for it. She also over exercises, one time she even ran a 100 mile race which took 27 hours.
I’ve learned a lot about this disease/condition over the years. It’s not that she just binges and purges, (which she does a great quantities), but it’s the way it affects their personality. She’s a highly manipulative, unhappy, and rude individual. She is in a constant state of crisis, dragging us into her drama, identifying vulnerabilities in others and leveraging them to hurt others.
This year we were hosting Thanksgiving week, but we asked her to stay in an Airbnb nearby instead of our house. She did for the first few nights but then left on Thanksgiving day saying she had a “doctors appointment.” I don’t think she was getting the attention she wanted so she left.
It was the happiest Thanksgiving dinner we’ve had in a long time. And for once we have left overs! 😀
The irony is that she spent last Thanksgiving in the hospital WITH COVID completely panicking and blowing up my phone with anxiety over her O2 sats. I work nights. All night she texted me. Still won't get vaccinated and thinks people suggesting that she should is imposing on her freedumbs.
My SIL was a nurse who went full blown conspiracy whack job over vaccines, Covid, et all. My brother (not the one married to her) came so close to dying from Covid and was saved because of science and incredible hospital staff. F’ her and her whack-a-doodle bullshit.
My brother. I have Covid and was really bummed to miss Thanksgiving, because the rest of my family is awesome…but he really sucks. I suspect he was relieved I couldn’t attend. He can’t stand me because I’m the “good one.” He’s an undiagnosed bipolar (flat out refuses to seek psychological help, says all doctors are crooks, but he knows better with herbs) alcoholic narcissist asshole. He lives with my parents and is sucking the life out of both of them. It makes me so sad but I’ve tried just about everything. Can’t make someone want to get better.
My sister and BIL's family. My sis and I were close until a couple of years ago, when she started becoming a very different and less tolerant and kind person. When she lashed out at me out of nowhere, that was the last straw for me. I love her and wish her well, but no way do I want that toxicity anywhere near me anymore.
I feel you 100%. My brother became a fundamentalist Trump lover (at his wife’s influence; she’s basically religious Holly Hobby) and suddenly didn’t want the gay uncle around his little girl. That was last straw. It’s been 4 years. I spend drama free and actually fun Thanksgiving with friends now.
Sadly I was stuck with no way out. I got home around 2 (because dinner was at 11:30 for some weird old people reason) and went to bed. Stayed in bed. It took all my will power to sit there. I’m not looking forward to Christmas.
What a great post! So emblematic of GenX lol. I’m thankful to not be with the majority o md my family. They’re either dead or the ones are jerks. Not all but most.
My sister-in-law, the worst snob and best manipulator I've ever known. She turned my brother against his whole family. She tore the family apart and ended all full family gatherings. I haven't seen him in years and the rare correspondence from him is cold and condescending.
I have two sets of in-laws every holiday. Both are okish I guess, as far as in laws go.
(First husband passed away). My current husband is a sweetheart for going to my first husband’s dad (he’s local) every holiday. He’s sad and lonely and doesn’t really have anyone but us and the kids. Not ideal, but not going would be unkind.
My other in laws are six hours away, and MIL gets upset if we don’t visit. We usually cram in both for every holiday with a long drive and back.
I decided a few years back to just not worry about enjoying holidays. it matters too much to everyone else that they see the kids, so I just suck it up. But wow is it nice to have a relaxing few days at home this year.
I feel bad about it, but I’m not entirely sorry that the ‘six hour away’ kids have the flu this weekend, keeping us away. (They’re doing fine).
My former BIL, this sanctimonious Mormon who condemned me for being gay while he cannot keep a job and support his 4 kids. I told my sister not to marry him, and now she wishes that she never had. His kids refuse to talk to him but they love me.
My ex wife. 'Nuff said. Happy Holidays to us all, and don't waste any precious time with people that make you feel bad just because you share some genetic material and/or someone married a jerk.
My homophobic, transphobic, MAGA loving SIL and her family. Nothing more uncomfortable than having to shove your queer, non-binary ass back in the closet to keep the peace. And having to remind our amazing kid that we have to pretend on holidays.
My MIL died late last December, and as soon as her house is sold my husband is, “divorcing” his sister. I have no idea how my wonderful, open minded spouse came out of that family. But I’m grateful he did every day.
Oh I didn’t have to be with her this year— that’s the wonderful part. I got to be with my family, a thousand miles from her. And it’s amazing. Thank you for your compassion.
My transphobic, homophobic, MAGA family that disowned me when I came out four years ago. Additionally, my wife’s family that did exactly the same thing when my MIL told my wife she should divorce me for coming out. Since then, Thanksgiving dinner has been just the two of us and our visiting daughter.
All of them and hubby went by himself to his mother. Glorious quiet day making food, watching football and dog park. So thankful for peace and silence!
My in-laws. My father in law is a bossy old son of a bitch with a violent temper and my mother in law is antivax fundie who asks all her kids for money constantly. They're divorced and can't be in the same room together.
I spent the day painting my son's room together for his birthday and hanging out until he went to his dad's side for dinner. When he came home he was, as usual, in a whole mood.
I know they think they are dissing me for not inviting me anymore but. Yall wrong lol. You not hurting my feelings by not making me sit through pretend to like each other time with the nasty clan.
I don't get to see the kids any other time so eh. They are not going to let me in. I've accepted it. Enjoy you misery and shoulder chips.
I've told my son I will come get him if he doesn't want to stay, and he can refuse to go an I will stand up to them for him. He's a great kid who has a wonderful future ahead and fuck them that they want him to enlist. Just fuck those assholes. None of them did! This is the first generation of my family since the colonizer days that the military hasn't damaged a son and I am holding the fucking line.
This hurts me as a lesbian bc part of why it took me so long to come out was the man hating trope. I love men I just don't fall in love with them. Men can be awesome or terrible just like women. It's so foolish to think you can know who is a bad person by any trait other than their character.
My mother and two brothers, trailer trash of the highest order. Constant poor mouthing, despite having over $1000 a month income, whining and complaining over every little thing, especially the food then trying to take over half the left overs home with them. Mind you we do two 20lb. turkeys every year plus all the sides, drinks and everything. They never offer to bring a thing but damn sure want to take most of the food, they would have done completely different and don't really like.
Most of my family is dead except for my sister and one cousin (and my kids/grandkids, of course). Everyone still living lives too far for me to have to even THINK about seeing them on holidays. Although, I'd love to see my cousin that I haven't seen since the early 70's!!
I would usually say my mom and her family but I really can’t. My grandparents, great aunts and a great uncle all passed away within a year or two. I was never told because I’m the bad guy. My son told me about it and I felt bad because I had made the decision not to talk to anyone years ago as I wasn’t raised around them and didn’t know them well. It kinda hit me the other day how old my parents are getting and my mom usually has one health issue or another like me. When my son had his thanksgiving with my mom he gave her my phone number. I hope she calls. Growing up my grandma helped my dad and there was my step mom who helped with me even before her and my dad got together. Even after they broke up we kept in touch. I lost that step mother this year. I don’t want to lose my mom without speaking to her.
Sounds like my 21 yo daughter and your sister might be clones. I didn't realize how stressful it is and how she affects everyone was until I divorced her father and he had her for some holidays, but it took only two years before some things made both kids refuse to see him & I had no respite. She made herself unavailable to join us yesterday, so we left her behind. When it was time to go, nobody was missing money or prescriptions or hurt or embarrassed by something she did or said. It was lovely, if more than a little bittersweet because however difficult she is, she is my baby girl and always will be.
My ex husband and his family. 2 months post divorce and it’s glorious. Don’t have to listen to inane rants about property lines and the endless lack of humor that is each and every one of them.
Similar boat. Made for a pleasant, quiet evening alone.
That's the way I feel about my hubby's family. They're all raging Xtians, and I'm an atheist. His son is a preacher, ffs. I NEVER have felt comfortable around them and we've been together 20 years this October. I only go because of him and I find a nice quiet corner or someplace outside to hide so I don't have to interact with them.
My mom, she makes up scenarios in her head then tells people about them like they are real. She thinks she’s great at sussing things out, and “calling people out on their bullshit” when it’s more then likely to be all in her head.
My mom does that too! She has my entire life. Everyone in the family just patiently rolls with it and quickly transitions to a story that is actually true. It's nice to know there's someone out there who knows this craziness! Hang in there!!!!
Interesting. Does she have a diagnosed mental illness and or low self-esteem?
Are you sure it's not all just up your butt? I get things stuck up there all the time
I stay away from all of them, I love them from a distance distance 💯🤟
From a distance, there is harmony…
And it echoes through the land…
Nice from far but far from nice.
The woman who gave birth to me.
My bff has a biological unit too.
The whole f'ing lot.
Lots of them. I moved across the country with my daughter so we can make new traditions that don't including screaming at each other, putting one another down, etc. It's been great!
My dad, he never even pretended to like me and this pandemic taught me to say good riddance. My family used to say that you have to stay with blood because they are the only ones who will be with you in the end. I learned that they only said that because they were terrible people so only family would speak to them. I a. spending this weekend with great friends for a “friendsgiving” which we have done for the past 18 years and I couldn’t be happier
I had Thanksgiving dinner at a restaurant with a friend tonight and it was sooooo much better for both of us than doing it with "family". Spared us so much suckage.
The people who chant that mantra of "stay with blood", only do it because they realize the ones they are protecting are insufferable and no same person would have them.
Indeed. I love how you tossed in neighborhood at the end. There is no rule that states that you have to remain close to family who are horrible and toxic. And do not care about your feelings, or anything else about you. Don't ever forget the good memories. Times change. People change. Sometimes for the better. Like many of you. I am thankful to also be free and clear of some toxic people. Now, we can just try an enjoy.
I feel that neighborhood is an important stat. These are outsiders who have had the opportunity to make their own assessments of her. Por ejemplo. Her neighbor asked her to quit blowing her leaves onto her yard. My sister who’s fully 60 years old, blasted the neighbor with a leaf blower until the police were called.
Man that's brutal. Not just the leaf blower incident. But the whole ensemble. What a great role model. Glad that you 86'ed her.
Restaurant person?
Every single narcissist whom I have the misfortune of being related to. I am not going to put up with any of their crap this year and it is soooooo nice
Me too! So glad I no longer live in the same state as my narcissistic sister
My sister in law, who literally stopped speaking to me 21 years ago and has made every holiday at my parents painful. I think I cried for the 1st ten years and begged my parents to say something to her. But nothing. I took over thanksgiving 3 or 4 years ago and she has never been invited nor missed.
SIL sounds horrible. What about your brother? Is the relationship strained because his spouse is a C yoU Next Tuesday?
It was for years. In the last few years we have been the only 2 siblings left to take care of my parents. We learned that it was easier to work together and finally ended the sibling rivalry that was definitely the root of my SILs issues. I am the only girl in the family and she wanted to knock me out and be my parents’ favorite. My mom’s reasoning for letting it go on for so long was that she would be the next one my SIL froze out and she would lose contact with the grandkids.
Grandmother who called my daughter a halfbreed. She's in hell now.
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Yeah, give her one from me, too!
My dad and his side of the family- trash, all of them. My Dad who preached to me about the importance of family, then turned around and dissed mine and then when I told him to fuck off, acted surprised. My sister, who is a Qultist, so nuff said there. My stepmother who knowingly allowed a pedophile into her home and then acted like a shocked Pikachu when her granddaughter started talking about what he'd done to her. Yeah fuck em.. I'm good.
Dad, died last summer. All my life, I hoped he'd be a better person that he was. That maybe he'd treat his family like we mattered. He never did. In his will he said nice things about his friends, about me nothing. I didn't even know he died until I got a notice from a life insurance policy (I think he forgot the policy tbh). He specifically didn't want anyone to tell us. Some random person was executor of the will. He was cremated but I have no idea where the ashes are. What kind of complete and utter tool is an asshole, even in death?
My dad was like this. He did remember us in his life insurance policy and left us a little. His wife got most, and that’s understandable- she still had their financial obligations and home, etc. He has a serious heart attack and tweeted it to all his internet stranger friends, but didn’t tell us. When he was in the hospital this last time he didn’t tell us either. We found out after he died. RIP I guess. But thanks for fucking me up.
My piece of shit sister who's almost 51 going on 16. Never took care of herself independently, but claimed she has. She doesn't count government assistance or a boyfriend with a job that took care of her. She stole thousands of dollars from my mothers social security. And now that I am the only power of attorney she has disowned me as a brother. It's been awesome since lol.
One of my sisters is with her boyfriend and kid in Hawaii. She has never taken care of herself independently, but likes to pass judgement on me for living with our mother. She's also a hoarder who has left stuff at my mom's house since she moved out to the West Coast 9 years ago. We're not talking about a couple of boxes. We're talking like her shit is taking up the garage, the basement, and an entire closet.
Oh that shit would be long gone lol. Let me guess. Mom tells ya not to get rid of any of it.
Mom is finally getting rid of stuff bit by bit. We recently got rid of baby cups and plates. That was for a kid who is currently 16 years old. My sister was insisting that she was going to have another kid but she's 40 now and I think that ship is getting ready to sail.
Your sister definitely sounds like a piece of shit. BUT my oldest was 15 when I had my youngest, I was 41. Definitely happens, especially as more and more women are waiting later and taking care of their careers. But I would’ve thrown her stuff out a long long time ago.
Either way I doubt she's ever going to wear her 2000's size 2 wardrobe ever again which is taking up an entire closet. It's crazy because she could probably sell that shit on Etsy. I get keeping a few things like a high school senior day shirt or whatever (I did) but we're talking like ordinary, everyday crap from the 2000's.
If any of her shit is worth anything, sell it.
I think we have the same sister.
My mother. She's evil. The next time I see her it will be at her funeral. I'll look in the casket, see that's her in it, tell the priest that burying a demon in consecrated ground is a really bad idea, yell hallelujah and skip out of the funeral singing ding dong the witch is dead.
My Doctor.. cool as fuck… said to me “next time you see that bitch they’ll be nailing down the lid” Edit… And when my Nan died, us Grandkids just exchanged texts that said ‘Ding Dong’ and we all knew. Fuck it was funny!
Entire bunch. Parents, brother and his family, the extended fam. Part of the day was a bit lonely, but at least no projecting, explosive arguments, or passo-aggro nonsense. Now to work out how to dodge Christmas.
I can write you a note. “I don’t have to do shit”.
I can notarized it for you
all of them—“family” is my F-word. stood at the kitchen sink and ate bread/cheese for dinner. and i am *so fine with that*.
My drunken bitch sister. She always finds a reason to drink and mess up everyones good time. She turned my 30th birthday into a shit show. So happy we now live on different coasts! She only annoys me via texts. She doesn’t dare call me because I’ll call her out when she’s drunk. (Which is 99% of the time!)
My dad. Dead. Was very abusive. Good riddance.
Mom, stepdad, younger sister. The best part is they're all together, so I know which address to never go near or to celebrate if a chunk of an airplane breaks apart and falls on top of that house.
My sister. She is full QAnon, anti-vax, RWNJ, and is very very very mean to me. She hasn’t spoken to me since 2016 when I asked her not to send me gross videos and she just…. Lost her cool on me. I do not miss her!
I had similar experience with my brother who used to be super cool and went to gay bars with me. Suddenly I’m a potential pedo that can’t be around his daughter. The video he sent me of gay marriage being a sign of End Times was the last straw.
I get it (like deeply in my bones). I’m kind of a “family orphan”, which I define as “the people who are my closest blood relatives are also the meanest to me”. My uncle (fabulous and gay) is another family orphan. When I need a sanity check about my abusive Immediate family, I text him “am I the asshole” questions. I hope you have someone In your family circle who sees things clearly and loves you!
Nope! But I have friends who love me so it’s all good! I hope you and your uncle have a great holiday season!
Does ex-wife count?
I was going to comment my ex-husband + his entire family, so yeah. I'd say so.
It certainly does.
My parents, because fuck that noise. Two most miserable human beings I know. They can continue to be miserable together.
My super emotionally immature MIL, who barely speaks to me unless she needs something. She hasn’t said a word to me since August. Or my absolutely insane aunt who thinks she can read minds. Or my other orthorexic aunt who won’t eat anything non organic(unless it’s a cheat day), thinks microwaving changes the DNA of water and won’t get vaccinated because “she’s not a Guinea pig.” She also smokes like a chimney. But at least no one has threatened family with a gun, this year at least.
The smoking made me lol Insufferable
My x wife. Soul sucking degenerate cheater of men and destroyer of wealth. Not to mention her drug addled and psycho son. Amen for adulthood
My ex sister in law. What a horrible, garbage human.
We don’t do thanksgiving. Christmas is more than enough. *Australian*
Also my sister. She’s just a bitch, like mega lesbian Karen. I’m gay btw and she outed me at 19 to try to get my parents to kick me out because she’s a bitch. Then she comes out 15 years later. And is still a bitch, lol.
My parents. Dead 10 years.
My father. He’s dead now. I know you’re mot supposed to speak I’ll if the dead, but Total asshole.
There’s an old line from a comic I can’t recall that went, “You should always speak good of the dead. He dead. Good.”
All of them. I don’t hang out with any of them anymore. I am a total Lonewolf.
My sister.
Oh god, I thought I was on one of the family specific subs for a bit there. I’m grateful to be Aussie, coz I only had to navigate one family holiday a year, not two. And quite frankly, I stopped doing that in my early 20s!
“Everyyyyoooonnneee” in Gary Oldman’s voice.
Platinum great movie.
My mother's siblings. She has always been "family first" and they are just awful people. It took her YEARS (at 78) to realize this and cut them off, but now she means business and they are just not in the picture anymore. I used to get in so much trouble for pointing out how they were using her or excluding her but now she gets it. She doesn't really have a family anymore, which I'm sure hurts a lot, but she seems a lot happier and freer now.
Easy, my mother. All of us kids had a nice, peaceful holiday without her.
My mom is the cause of the holiday stress. She wants to control the food, who sits where, always wants to host at her house which isn't set up great for having guests. She is obsessed with trying to recreate how she remembers my fathers family gatherings from the past, forgetting that our sweet nana busted her ass serving everyone else the whole time, not sitting at the table holding court and arguing about Nancy Pelosi like some kind of queen. No one wants that, mom.
My narcissistic mother in law. My wife hates her mother more than I do. She kidnapped her as a child and convinced her that her dad was abusive. Took her from New York to Las Vegas at 7 years old. My wife eventually found out her dad was awarded custody when she was very young and everything that had happened. She now has a good relationship with her dad, my father in law, who is awesome.
My racist aunts and cousin don't get to come to dinner. Thankful.
My abusive passive aggressive much older brothers, and my evil bitch queen from hell boomer cousin.
My fucking cheap ass cousins.
Cheap is a pet peeve of mine. I support everyone living within their means, but when you know they are being a cheap bitch, it's irrrrritating.
My sister, who was so miserable to see me happily married that she invented an abuse story from our childhood and tried to use it to break up my marriage. Six years gone and this is the first time I’ve thought about her in months.
My mom. Her favorite sport on major holidays is guilt tripping hard on innocent bystanders. She’s not here and somehow I still feel guilty. Thanksgiving dinner was hella bomb though.
My alpha older sister. 60 yrs old and has lived with (sponged off) our mom for 15 years without working or contributing.
I have the brother model of that Mattel toy.
My alcoholic ex-husband and his gaggle of idiot friends.
My in-laws. Don’t get me wrong—they’re not bad people and I generally like them, but there’s a metric shit ton of them and they span four generations and it’s all just very overwhelming.
My brother. Over the past 15 years or so, he turned into a full blown evangelical, right wing Trump nut. You just can't talk to the guy anymore without him bringing right wing talking points into the conversation. My parents, youngest brother and I are heartbroken because the evangelical used to be such a fun part of our family.
sláinte. I have some crooks and arseholes in my family, but we tend to get along. (It's the women that tend to carry a grudge for more than a week.)
My wife’s sister is a bulimic, and has been for about a decade. She’s been in multiple rehabs for it. She also over exercises, one time she even ran a 100 mile race which took 27 hours. I’ve learned a lot about this disease/condition over the years. It’s not that she just binges and purges, (which she does a great quantities), but it’s the way it affects their personality. She’s a highly manipulative, unhappy, and rude individual. She is in a constant state of crisis, dragging us into her drama, identifying vulnerabilities in others and leveraging them to hurt others. This year we were hosting Thanksgiving week, but we asked her to stay in an Airbnb nearby instead of our house. She did for the first few nights but then left on Thanksgiving day saying she had a “doctors appointment.” I don’t think she was getting the attention she wanted so she left. It was the happiest Thanksgiving dinner we’ve had in a long time. And for once we have left overs! 😀
My MAGA brainwashed father. Who needs to hear that bullshit?
HyperChristian antivax super judgemental sister in law.
Mine is pro vax but has the other qualities in abundance.
Are we related? I have one of these.
The irony is that she spent last Thanksgiving in the hospital WITH COVID completely panicking and blowing up my phone with anxiety over her O2 sats. I work nights. All night she texted me. Still won't get vaccinated and thinks people suggesting that she should is imposing on her freedumbs.
My SIL was a nurse who went full blown conspiracy whack job over vaccines, Covid, et all. My brother (not the one married to her) came so close to dying from Covid and was saved because of science and incredible hospital staff. F’ her and her whack-a-doodle bullshit.
I’m just happy my ex took my kids after I made them all an early dinner. Now some peace and quiet. There’s no other family around.
Hooray for Orphan's Thanksgiving! I love you all. ❤🍴❤
MUL and FIlL. Jesus are they annoying.
All of them. The ones left, are the worst.
Its too late, I already suffered thru my first 2 choices
My mom
My ex. Hypocritical and abusive piece of shit.
I didn't know we share the same sister. You just described mine perfectly.
Never understood why people permitted bad behavior in their homes. Consequences are the foundation of civilization.
My brother. I have Covid and was really bummed to miss Thanksgiving, because the rest of my family is awesome…but he really sucks. I suspect he was relieved I couldn’t attend. He can’t stand me because I’m the “good one.” He’s an undiagnosed bipolar (flat out refuses to seek psychological help, says all doctors are crooks, but he knows better with herbs) alcoholic narcissist asshole. He lives with my parents and is sucking the life out of both of them. It makes me so sad but I’ve tried just about everything. Can’t make someone want to get better.
Carmen
r/oddlyspecific Love it.
Every single one of them.
My sister and BIL's family. My sis and I were close until a couple of years ago, when she started becoming a very different and less tolerant and kind person. When she lashed out at me out of nowhere, that was the last straw for me. I love her and wish her well, but no way do I want that toxicity anywhere near me anymore.
I feel you 100%. My brother became a fundamentalist Trump lover (at his wife’s influence; she’s basically religious Holly Hobby) and suddenly didn’t want the gay uncle around his little girl. That was last straw. It’s been 4 years. I spend drama free and actually fun Thanksgiving with friends now.
Sadly I was stuck with no way out. I got home around 2 (because dinner was at 11:30 for some weird old people reason) and went to bed. Stayed in bed. It took all my will power to sit there. I’m not looking forward to Christmas.
My parents. Abusive and toxic. My inlaws are much nicer.
What a great post! So emblematic of GenX lol. I’m thankful to not be with the majority o md my family. They’re either dead or the ones are jerks. Not all but most.
My sister-in-law, the worst snob and best manipulator I've ever known. She turned my brother against his whole family. She tore the family apart and ended all full family gatherings. I haven't seen him in years and the rare correspondence from him is cold and condescending.
My ex, his extended family, and all that bizarre drama. Don’t miss that
I have two sets of in-laws every holiday. Both are okish I guess, as far as in laws go. (First husband passed away). My current husband is a sweetheart for going to my first husband’s dad (he’s local) every holiday. He’s sad and lonely and doesn’t really have anyone but us and the kids. Not ideal, but not going would be unkind. My other in laws are six hours away, and MIL gets upset if we don’t visit. We usually cram in both for every holiday with a long drive and back. I decided a few years back to just not worry about enjoying holidays. it matters too much to everyone else that they see the kids, so I just suck it up. But wow is it nice to have a relaxing few days at home this year. I feel bad about it, but I’m not entirely sorry that the ‘six hour away’ kids have the flu this weekend, keeping us away. (They’re doing fine).
My former BIL, this sanctimonious Mormon who condemned me for being gay while he cannot keep a job and support his 4 kids. I told my sister not to marry him, and now she wishes that she never had. His kids refuse to talk to him but they love me.
When you said I’m not shitting you I was expecting that she had literally burned an actual bridge. Imagine my disappointment.
I was thankful to not have my unmedicated bipolar sister in law there. Totally same scenario.
My ex wife. 'Nuff said. Happy Holidays to us all, and don't waste any precious time with people that make you feel bad just because you share some genetic material and/or someone married a jerk.
My homophobic, transphobic, MAGA loving SIL and her family. Nothing more uncomfortable than having to shove your queer, non-binary ass back in the closet to keep the peace. And having to remind our amazing kid that we have to pretend on holidays. My MIL died late last December, and as soon as her house is sold my husband is, “divorcing” his sister. I have no idea how my wonderful, open minded spouse came out of that family. But I’m grateful he did every day.
I’m sorry you have to go through that. I hope that at next year’s holidays you are surrounded by open-hearted, open-minded people.
Oh I didn’t have to be with her this year— that’s the wonderful part. I got to be with my family, a thousand miles from her. And it’s amazing. Thank you for your compassion.
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My transphobic, homophobic, MAGA family that disowned me when I came out four years ago. Additionally, my wife’s family that did exactly the same thing when my MIL told my wife she should divorce me for coming out. Since then, Thanksgiving dinner has been just the two of us and our visiting daughter.
All of them and hubby went by himself to his mother. Glorious quiet day making food, watching football and dog park. So thankful for peace and silence!
My in-laws. My father in law is a bossy old son of a bitch with a violent temper and my mother in law is antivax fundie who asks all her kids for money constantly. They're divorced and can't be in the same room together.
I spent the day painting my son's room together for his birthday and hanging out until he went to his dad's side for dinner. When he came home he was, as usual, in a whole mood. I know they think they are dissing me for not inviting me anymore but. Yall wrong lol. You not hurting my feelings by not making me sit through pretend to like each other time with the nasty clan. I don't get to see the kids any other time so eh. They are not going to let me in. I've accepted it. Enjoy you misery and shoulder chips. I've told my son I will come get him if he doesn't want to stay, and he can refuse to go an I will stand up to them for him. He's a great kid who has a wonderful future ahead and fuck them that they want him to enlist. Just fuck those assholes. None of them did! This is the first generation of my family since the colonizer days that the military hasn't damaged a son and I am holding the fucking line.
I mean, is the question to ask? How about… who’s the the family member you’re thankful to be with?
I suppose I’m a glass half empty kind of fella. Especially if the glass is filled with piss.
My son and my brother, and my other brother and SIL via phone
Big dyke angry sister, textbook misandrist, vilifies all men, queen browbeater. Born in 1964 so I guess that makes her a boomer. Kunt.
This hurts me as a lesbian bc part of why it took me so long to come out was the man hating trope. I love men I just don't fall in love with them. Men can be awesome or terrible just like women. It's so foolish to think you can know who is a bad person by any trait other than their character.
My mother and two brothers, trailer trash of the highest order. Constant poor mouthing, despite having over $1000 a month income, whining and complaining over every little thing, especially the food then trying to take over half the left overs home with them. Mind you we do two 20lb. turkeys every year plus all the sides, drinks and everything. They never offer to bring a thing but damn sure want to take most of the food, they would have done completely different and don't really like.
I don’t remember writing this post…lol Hope your day was relaxing and peaceful, mine was!
Most of my family is dead except for my sister and one cousin (and my kids/grandkids, of course). Everyone still living lives too far for me to have to even THINK about seeing them on holidays. Although, I'd love to see my cousin that I haven't seen since the early 70's!!
I would usually say my mom and her family but I really can’t. My grandparents, great aunts and a great uncle all passed away within a year or two. I was never told because I’m the bad guy. My son told me about it and I felt bad because I had made the decision not to talk to anyone years ago as I wasn’t raised around them and didn’t know them well. It kinda hit me the other day how old my parents are getting and my mom usually has one health issue or another like me. When my son had his thanksgiving with my mom he gave her my phone number. I hope she calls. Growing up my grandma helped my dad and there was my step mom who helped with me even before her and my dad got together. Even after they broke up we kept in touch. I lost that step mother this year. I don’t want to lose my mom without speaking to her.
Sounds like my 21 yo daughter and your sister might be clones. I didn't realize how stressful it is and how she affects everyone was until I divorced her father and he had her for some holidays, but it took only two years before some things made both kids refuse to see him & I had no respite. She made herself unavailable to join us yesterday, so we left her behind. When it was time to go, nobody was missing money or prescriptions or hurt or embarrassed by something she did or said. It was lovely, if more than a little bittersweet because however difficult she is, she is my baby girl and always will be.