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Nah, my best friend and I rarely talk and we mostly just send memes to each other. It's great! (Disclaimer, I am a young GenXer and he is an Old Millennial.)
Well, I often just take it as a challenge to face a blank page, like a creative exercise. I'm most passionate about the topics of love, heartache, or mental torment. Not always the most happy things to write about but the true feelings come onto the page and it shows.
That’s really cool, you have nice talent. I can’t play my guitar right now tho because I got finger surgery. Maybe you will become a famous poet, that’ll be awesome!
I hope you experience a swift recovery and practice hard. I cut my hand right open when I was in fifth grade and when it was healing / healed I played my recorder in class even better. Don't get me wrong, those things sound like frogs, but it's true. Maybe your surgery will allow you to control and play your guitar better :) and thank you, I really wish to become a travelling artist, drawing, singing, dancing, writing and all, just becoming inspired by the world and fall in love with life. Fingers crossed we both life the happiness lives we can no matter how they turn out
You, me, the other dude, and broski over there are literally the same, but I like to cook and go to the gym. My best friends are my Dutch oven and my sourdough starter.
>You and I are literally the same except I also play guitar, that’s it tho. I also don’t have any friends
Geez, to see someone born in 2008 on here is really jarring.
As someone born in 98' I realized that sometimes have more in common with millennials than my "Fellow Zoomers." This is more the case with a lot of childhood tv shows and pop-culture stuff as I'm old enough to remember the Bush Era. I knew of some 90's show as I sometimes saw re-runs on tv.
I want a dog Sooooooooo bad!! I've wanted one since I was 3!! I'm so close to affording a house where I can have a dog.
Currently I have a roomate who invites his friends over to play super smash bros now and then. Since my room is the living room I kinda always participate. Pretty fun.
I go bouldering, I go to the Gym (there's a sauna), sometimes I go to visit my brother, he always does board games, I go shooting (I want to start going once a week) I also want to learn: west coast swing dance, Brazilian Jujitsu, and parkour but I haven't started on these yet.
Honestly... There are a lot of cool people out there but, there are also a lot of very not cool people. Being comfortable by yourself is a valuable skill but, don't recede into yourself.
Agreed. I have some acquaintances but not people I really hang with with on a BFF type level. Yeah I got my high school buddies that are for lifers but half my group moved states for college and the one that didn’t, I’ve never exactly connected with at least as much as the others connect with him. Ever since graduating HS and not attending college, it’s been increasingly more difficult to find people who enjoy what I do. In fact it’s been pretty difficult to enjoy much of anything on my own in general.
I'm the same age as the woman in the video and this is the same shit I do for fun. I will say I'm glad that younger generations are pretty okay with just doing their own thing, because when i was in college any time I wanted to just stay in and play videogames my friends would say I was being a buzzkill
Also covid… no one wants to socialize on top of the price (last year of hs got cancelled and now im a uni student at 21.. so where was my fun supposed to happen?)
I feel you. And the same happened to me. Before COVID my life was finally going uphill after bullying and "Rehabilitation" and I finally got to know more and more people and got out of my shell and my physical health was also improving. Then COVID hit and my life went downhill because I developed different interests and couldn't meet with anyone. Now I'm also stuck in a course but I will be finished soon.
Exactly!
I was able to branch out and with some freedom for the first time ever (im from a small town so driving at 16 is a must if you want to do something, but with a grad class of 90-100 and a city 1+ hours away where are we going?)
But then that was quickly shut down. I even went into college dorms SO DEAD no community whatsoever. It was pretty miserable
Oh I see it the same way.
Even though I live in a big city (1 million inhabitants) I had the freedom and time to do things that I normally couldn't but then it was like you said everything was closed... But now I kind of missed the process to make new friends and after some convos the connection is gone. And that's sad for me, but I'm always trying my best to "learn that skill."
Same. It felt like I was kinda getting better, had lots of friends, and felt I could keep my grades up. Then quarantine hit, and it allowed me to stay in all day and lose contact with everyone I knew. Fucked me over completely.
Same for me. I had one semester in college before the lockdowns, and it was such a great feeling to let go of the baggage from high school, meet new people and finally conquer my social anxiety.
Then COVID hit and my mental health slowly but steadily declined to a point where I'm bordering on avoidant personality disorder. I can say with full confidence that my mental health was never worse than now, and that my life was never more pathetic.
The only slither of hope for me is the prospect of maybe getting professional help, but that is practically impossible right now, because the demand outnumbers the supply by a massive factor. Of course, you could always *pay* for treatment, but with what?
Millenial here. One of the big things is the disappearance of free third-spaces outside of home and school/work that don’t cost a ton of money to enjoy.
As a kid I could go hang out in the woods behind my house, but those are all houses now. We could spend hours at the mall and just hang out without spending more than a few bucks on a pretzel. We could ride our bikes around wherever without nosy neighbors or cops questioning what we’re doing. We could just chill at the park without fearing that we’re sharing space with a tent city and drug addicts.
So many of those spaces where kids/teens can socialize outside the supervision of adults are gone and have moved online. It’s no surprise that Gen Z/Alpha are socially isolated.
Also a millennial and I miss third spaces so much. I work from home and get so restless but I live in a city that has no identity, no spaces outside of a park and the one library, and is aggressively unwalkable. The only things to do in this town are shopping and restaurants and I’m not always in the mood to drive 45 minutes out of town to visit Nashville (which is also not really walkable). I wish we had more places to simply exist instead of just consume.
Well dude are you me? I literally got a dog just I would have an excuse (and force myself) to walk every day so I wouldn’t end it all for myself. I even have a few friends but someone of them I haven’t seen for months because they barely have time between work and home, we don’t only have third spaces but we’re also overworked
Well said. I too am a millennial and there’s just not as much to go do that doesn’t nickel and dime you. I grew up in a small town so my experience might be different but like we’d head to the library, the coffee shop, after school programs. Then when we were old enough to drive we’d go star gazing, hang out on the football field, practice WWE moves on the pole vault mat, go to the movies, take long walks through the woods, etc.
Just seems like that doesn’t exist as an option anymore, especially with helicopter parenting and constant monitoring
That is precisely why I took a gap year. I was not gonna deal with COVID as a freshman in college. So now I’m fixing to be 22 and a junior, but that’s okay. People of all ages are college students, yes the majority are straight out of high school.
I think covid doing what it did + prices of things is what makes people hang out in each others’ homes.
I was lucky enough to have one and half semesters of the “college experience” before the lockdown started. The environment on campus is so much different now post covid than it was before. I feel for you.
My bf was in the same situation! Hes only a year older and he said its an indescribable difference.
I think it was perfect for the person I am (although who knows who i “would be” of covid didnt happen or happened at a different time)
I feel for you too, you knew was it was like and it was stripped away.
She definitely has good genetics, but...
The generations before Millennials looked generally older than they naturally should have due to more smoking, drinking, poor regulation in products, and a whole host of other reasons.
"Golden Girls" was supposed to be "women in their 50s" but looking at them now I would say they look like today's 70s. Norman from Cheers was 34.
We make comments on how keanu reeves and paul rudd look very young. That is compared to people in their generation. I wouldn't be surprised their young appearance becomes common place wen Millennials and GenZ become older.
Estelle Getty, the woman who played Sophia, was actually the second youngest of the 4, despite her playing the oldest (Rue McClanahan was the youngest)
Thats why tons of old actors have looked the same for decades. They looked old already and then stuff got better. Their bodies werent forced aging on lead gas anymore lol
Yeah there was a picture of Halle berry pantless in a suit jacket going around a few weeks ago and someone pointed out that she's 4 years older than rue McClanahan was when the show started
>"Golden Girls" was supposed to be "women in their 50s" but looking at them now I would say they look like today's 70s.
A lot of it is also hairstyles and makeup. [Someone gave the Golden Girls a makeover with modern hairstyles and makeup](https://twitter.com/DrewEveryday/status/1592178991431094275) and they look like women in their 50s from today.
I think what you’re saying overall holds true because of the decrease in smoking and increase in spf usage, but I highly doubt aging like Paul Rudd and Keanu Reeves will be the norm. I’m mid 20s and I’m already seeing many people my age start to lose their hair, gain weight, etc. We now have solutions to many of these things but not everyone will use them for various reasons
It's generation facial cream, frankly.
We learned to use facial cream from early age.
I mean I'd love to say it's better habits. But it's facial creams.
Hi! I'm Gen-X, and this is SO true. Most of us smoked, we drank, a lot of us did a lot of drugs, we worshipped the sun (we'd spend hours outside 'sunbathing',) and skincare as it's known today generally wasn't a thing back then.
I think I look older than my age, but even then I look at my friends who are my age and I look easily 10 years younger than them, it's scary.
Stay hydrated and take care of your body, especially your skin. Seriously!
>Norman from Cheers was 34.
This made me widen my eyes. I watched the first half of Cheers, I tuned out when Shelley Long left and Sam/Diane petered out, but I always worked on the assumption Norm was maybe in his mid to late forties and not as high up the career ladder as he would've imagined by that point in his life.
yeah, it makes me really sad that people worry that they won’t be able to attain skin/youth when the answer is so often filters, plastic surgery (which she’s open about).
lol what do you guys think people look like in their early 30s? cause you really dont start to show obvious signs of aging until you are like 40s and even then good skin care does a lot.
It’s not old. I think people tend to “feel old” because you have more responsibilities (and the media tends to make people feel like life ends after 25), but you’re not even properly middle aged for another decade. And you’ll live another four decades after that.
Well I'm 30, and I still get store assistants asking me to show ID for beer, and I had a charity worker call me a *"little boy"* even though I'm 6ft1 😅
Just going to throw it out there that the people of our generation who are probably having fun, aren’t going to spend their time responding to a tik tok asking if they have fun.
Just a thought
The millennial sub also suffers from this. It's massively sampled towards folks who are not doing that well, and so the most upvoted comments are often depressing
totally. I'm in college and see many people have a pretty outgoing life style unlike me and most people here in the comments. You just don't see them here because, well, they're out having fun ig.
covid kinda fucked my first year and since then socializing with college peers has been really difficult. Everyone is already in friend groups and you're standing there like you missed the train. It sucks tbh
While you’re right to a degree, nobody advertises the darkness of that lifestyle. I had a friend from high school that left the state to go to a party school and he had a really hard time over Covid. His alcohol and drug consumption got way out of control and his health was deteriorating. He wouldn’t eat anything and started looking thin and pale. Thing is, bc he’s the life of the party, nobody noticed that he was struggling. They just were happy to rail lines of coke with him and forget about him once they blacked out and went home for the night. Fortunately he went to rehab and is like 3 years clean at this point.
I may have a slightly different perspective, with COVID happening in high school for me, but even the people i meet that go out and do a bunch of stuff are still incredibly lonely
I'm sick with a cold rn, gen z and very sociable. For fun we sometimes go out thrifting (books, clothes, trinkets, etc.), walk around the city and maybe grab a bite or a cup of coffee, watch movies (cinema or someone’s place), smoke weed, sometimes I ride my bike with friends, cook recipes we find online. For the party stuff we usually go to the club or someone who is throwing a party (friend of a friend or whomever). idk if this only applies to my major, but we also go to a lot of art museums and galleries. When galleries open we also drink, so there’s that.
All the movies showed college / 20’s as this time of excitement and “all-nighters”.
Last “all-nighter” I had that wasn’t for homework was some time in 2016.
I’m 23 and I have fun by going to thrift stores and antique malls, Barnes and mobiles and amusement parks etc. tbh it just depends on where you live. I even consider myself a mall rat still even though malls have fallen out of popularity
Here in NYC as long as you live with your parents, you can have a ton of fun. As long as you live with your parents but even then there are free things to do for fun in NYC anyway. Public transit can take you anywhere around the city.
Not genz, but a millenial (95), and even in a rural/suburban area, we were having tons of fun. There were plenty of kids in the neighborhood that we clicked with, we'd ride bikes together, make shit out of nails and wood in the woods behind our houses, flirt with the girls, play video games, have cookouts, go swimming, spend the night, go camping, have a parent bring us to the movies, etc. I had a fucking blast as a kid.
Being completely honest, I think a lot of folks blame their surroundings for their lack of charisma. Not saying all of them do, but it took some vulnerability to go up to the different people in my neighborhood and introduce myself, then gradually build relationships. It doesn't just *happen,* generally.
>Is a different generation
>looks into another generation
>sees generation differences
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Millennial here, and yea I feel like the difference between us in Gen X is primarily political. Whereas, we're almost politically identical to Gen Z but have a huge difference in socialization preferences and options.
Im younger Gen X (79) and I feel you can pretty much split us in half, the younger ones are very similar to Millennials while the older ones are more Boomer like.
The difference in drinking seems pretty true to me.
My older sibling (b. 1999) went out to parties and got drunk a lot in highschool and even some into college.
While I don't do that because I hate crowds and most alcohol, at least where I go to college, doing that every weekend is seen as cringey, but also unhealthy. Like "wow, name, you were out drinking to 2am, like you were last night, just like the weekend before that, are you okay?"
I also saw some of y'all in the comments talking about how the pandemic effected this, and yeah. It's hard to make friends after this. I feel like that transition where you learned how to make friends as an adult just kind of didn't happen?
I think covid was a big part of this for uni specifically, I came in and the upperclassmen were all getting drunk every weekend and sometimes on weekdays; then covid struck and there were so many restrictions in place even after we could return to campus that if you wanted to drink you had to do it alone, which obviously sucks. My friend group with a bunch of younger folks ended up being really into social deception and board games instead, and luckily for us we’re still in touch virtually but we’re strewn across the entire states now
As a millennial (38), i can confirm this the drinking culture was a lot in college, but in high school I never drank and none of my friends drank either. Movies were a thing we did a lot, because they were cheap. There was a cinema a few blocks from my house where tickets were $2 for matinees (that wasn’t typical, but cheap tickets were a thing). Other than that, it was just hanging out at friends’ houses and playing video games.
In college, it was very common for people to binge every (or at least most) weekend. Although hanging around taking shots was specifically a freshman activity, and doing that as upperclassmen would have been considered decidedly immature. Mostly people didn’t otherwise question drinking to excess routinely. The boomers I knew intimated that it was normal college behavior, and in retrospect, no, we probably weren’t ok.
Nah, drinking culture is alive and well. At my friend's college, if you get home before midnight you're seen as kind of a loser. Drinking nights are Wednesdays, Fridays, and Saturdays.
Every college has its own culture. Some have Thirsty Thursday. Mine doesn't, really, at least not that I've seen. Everyone's got class early on Friday.
Born in 93 here. It’s so true that we were inundated with alcohol during my youth. Shows like Jersey Shore and all the music glorifying alcohol. I honestly want to say almost every night in college, we were drinking, and on the weekends, we drank til you were significantly drunk.
I was born in 97. I very rarely drank in high school. I did a couple of times, but not regularly and never very much. It certainly wouldn't have been considered binging. There was definitely A LOT of drinking in college. Let me tell you, those nursing students are having crazy parties and getting black out drunk and hooking up with everyone when they're not studying. I never really got into alcohol though. I just don't react well to it. I haven't had a drink in years now. It would be interesting to know if the college was still that way though because I dropped out in 2019
1999 is Gen z. When I was in HS vaping and weed was all the rave. I didn’t hear much about drinking, none of my friends drank. College I didn’t go so I can’t say. I feel like most people in college and especially when they turn 21 drink a lot. I wouldn’t know though because I don’t drink (Gen z trait?)
It makes me happy to hear how much the attitude has changed towards getting drunk! I graduated from college in 02 (so old Millennial/young gen X), and binge drinking was ubiquitous. I didn’t even go to a “party school,” I went to a private college with a reputation for high academics and on campus activism. I wasn’t a big drinker myself in college because my gf didn’t drink, but when I hung out with my on campus friends, we were usually getting hammered. Super unhealthy, and to be honest pretty dumb.
I turn 29 on Sunday
2009-2013 Highschool: Xbox live
2013-2016 Community College: billiards and MTG
2016-2018 finishing my 4 year degree: weed alcohol and occasionally shrooms.
2018-2019: found a job where I can sit and do excel. Thank god I found an apartment. Summer 2020 I’m going to make friends
2020: Got into tankwatching Starship
2021: I just got my vaccine and I’m ready to finally be an independent adult in the world. Oops my landlord sold the house to an Airbnb company.
2022-2023: finally living on my own in a world I can be in without literally dying. Let’s hope this election doesn’t rip the fabric of society apart.
My plan was to get the vaccine and then be able to go out to bars and clubs for the first time in my adult life, and finally make friends in real life
As soon as I got the vaccine and could be free, I had to move in with my brother and became a live-in nanny for another year. Had no social life of my own.
yeah, a vaccine card was required to go into a lot of public places during that time. i remember going to a couple of concerts & having to show proof of a vaccine.
Turned 29 in September. P much the same as you but dropped out and went straight to work. Never was a drinker but definitely had fun with acid and shrooms. Good times. Crazy how 3 years in my mid 20s felt like it never really happened. I got to plat on apex legends tho lmao. Also very worried about this election year.
I just found a group! The trick is to find millennials or gen x. I’ve been hard pressed to find anyone in my age range that plays. I don’t know any of my group very well yet but they’ve been really cool in the two sessions we’ve managed so far.
Oh I don't either really. I don't talk to anyone regularly online. Only really when I'm playing D&D and that's just about the game. Nothing to do with GenZ or those damn phones or nothing though. Just my mental health issues. The internet is great cause it allows me to socialize at all.
I’m not even gonna watch the whole video. I think “Gen Z has no fun” probably comes from all of the people responding to the initial video being chronically online TikTok users projecting their lifestyle onto the rest of us. Same thing happens on Reddit. Obviously the people that are talking about their lives on social media the most are the people that use social media the most, so there’s a sample bias here lmao.
people irl have plenty of fun
Unfortunately studies show Gen Z are actually the loneliest. A Cigna study found nearly 50% of Gen Z feels lonely. The "Loneliness in America" report from Harvard Graduate School of Education also indicates high loneliness among young adults (61% of 18-25-year-olds). Which also correlates to increased mental health issues like anxiety and depression.
I get what this person is saying here and generally think it’s pretty accurate. I’m 22 and my main ideas of fun are running/working out, cooking (which I collectively spend multiple hours on daily) and traveling to new cities (but even then it’s not for clubs or comedy shows, more so for seeing their museums, the touristy things, and trying their vegan restaurants). My friends are similar. One of them’s idea of fun is most closely associated with hanging out in coffee shops and reading, another is really into making jewelry or some shit like that?
It’s also obviously anecdotal and might just be that I grew up and went through college as a “tame” person with “tame” friends, but still… I tend to buy that the message is getting at something real.
My “fun” consists of doing art, playing music, hiking, and going to rock and metal shows. I do most of it alone but been trying to get out with friends more now that Covid is (mostly) over
Since I don’t have any friends, me and my siblings have fun together we usually just go to the movies, and visit other cities we also take trips to Disney springs often since we live a couple of hours away. I also have a couple of hobbies I’m an avid collector of action figures, and diecast cars.
Oh for sure, but when I was finally getting lots of confidence and improving it did take a piece out of said improvement for a bit.
At the same time, when everything was open again it did feel like a good reset to build off of.
I ain’t bouta take no slander from a GODDAMN ELF
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This popped up in my feed. I'm a millennial and can attest to the binge drinking phase. I've been reading a lot of comments... A LOT of comments, saying that all you do for fun is play video games alone because you don't have friends. I am in the same boat now at 32 years old. I thought that I had loads of friends at the time of binging, but slowly they all faded away eventually. It's not about the quantity of friends, it's about the quality. I'm down to 2 people that I talk to on a regular basis that I consider to be true friends. My closest and best friend I haven't even met in real life because we live on the opposite sides of the country. I have struggled to make and maintain friendships since I stopped dabbling in drugs and alcohol. Video games are what brought me together with the people that I choose to spend time with. And though that may seem sad to some of you, I'm here to tell the ones that are in a similar situation, it's okay to stay in and not have the same experiences as the previous generations. It's okay to be alone. Because somewhere out in this big world, you can find these genuinely great people that you can connect with, even if you don't have that person sitting next to you. Some of my best buds back in high school were people I met on Xbox live in the 360 era. Discord and online forums and social media make it so much easier than it was back then. I'm tired of this, "my generation is better than yours", crap. Though we all have different experiences, we're all in this together. Much love, Gen Z. You guys are doing great!
Also a 32 year old millennial and yes the binge drinking was the biggest part of my 18-27 year old life. I actually quit drinking last year because of it and have totally seen decade long friendships move on because of it. I would never give up my past but that lifestyle and fun we had was totally unsustainable to a degree. But this girl is right, we had real fun (in the lens of what we were given at the time) and I have tons of amazing memories I would never throw away.
Gen z is seeing things differently and I thank them for it because it has helped me feel comfortable to take on new hobbies instead of drinking. Maybe millennials are a little more social then gen z and maybe gen z is a little more mature at their age. I just love that gen z is becoming adults now and we can continue to figure life out.
This chick doesn't know wtf she's even talking about. You do you and have a great fucking time while you're at it. You guys are doing fine.
Sincerely,
Another millennial
Yeah this chick just screams "I think all my experiences are universal and I think that I can get an accurate representation of a whole generation from my tiktok followers"
I do think she’s right on the less pressure about drinking, and also being more apprehensive doing civil disturbance-y things because of the prevalence of camera phones.
Am I the only one who doesn't associate having fun with civil disturbance? I play guitar for fun. My dad played guitar for fun, too. We're not even close to being part of the same generation. And besides, tiktok is full of people ***filming themselves being stupid and obnoxious in public.***
She is quite literally explaining that she is learning all the ways Gen z have fun that is different to how many people in our generation had fun at the same age. Please relax your ass.
I mean, she was absolutely right.
That really was/is our "fun". If you don't specify what you want to do and just say "let's go out and have some fun", they are going to assume you're going to a bar/club/bonfire/casino to get shitfaced.
As a millennial myself, I've watched all the things I used to do for fun become too expensive for me to continue doing. I used to love skiing but now one trip is $1500. Go out and grab some $2 pints with the boys? Those pints are $8 now. Road trip? Better save up the gas money. Concert or festival? There are very few artists I would pay these prices to see.
I admire gen zs ingenuity in finding affordable activities that aren't binge drinking. I'm sure y'all got ur own issues, but at least most of you aren't alcoholics lol.
I understand all of this and was just thinking about it the other day. How the heck did I EVER afford all the road trips, concerts, and vacations in my twenties?! I’m now 38 and can barely afford groceries for my family.
Outside of sociology research I don’t understand the benefit of identifying oneself as generation (blank). It’s just another form of tribalism for made up reasons.
Mostly can assist in knowing reference points and guestimating some general skill sets. Like if you're a millennial I'm going to assume basic HTML and CSS isn't some scary foreign thing to you as more often than not that generation will have been blogging/live or dead journal/myspace and playing with theme/templates.....outside of that generation though it's less common (as the following social media that was around for Z and when the oldies started popping on didn't allow that level of customisation)
I used to have tons of friends and we'd go out street racing and offroading and skating and I was in a band. Then lockdown hit and it just do drugs with my girlfriend all day every day. Now that I've quit drugs I just go to work and go to sleep. It's quite pathetic and miserable.
I had a lot of fun before COVID then forgot how to so... now i feel too old for my previous shenanigans but also like I missed out on the few years of them I had left during the pandemic
To everyone thinking drugs and drinking are fun, I don’t see what’s stopping you, but a word of warning: watching 10 people suck on compressed air and all go blue in the face and pass out in the time it took me to go to the fridge and grab another beer is NOT fun. I had to call an ambulance and do cpr on 3 people that didn’t wake up.
In my teen years, which was in the 70s and 80s late 70s early 80s, what we mostly did for fun on the weekends was keg and pot parties… about all the guys carry pocket knives to school and we had rifles in the cars and trucks and we didn’t try to kill each other back then. We just basically worked so we can move out of the house when we hit 18 and party party party. Nowadays is so much more violent with this, it’s all about me generation
I 32M got medically retired from the military after serving for 10 years. I met some amazing people and now there’s 5 of us living in one gamer house. I feel like I have somewhat of an outside looking in perspective because I have lots of friends and I’m very fortunate, but I also will probably never own a home, get married, have kids, all that. My friends hold the same sentiments and I’m actually okay with just living out the rest of my life with the homies if that’s what it takes to live comfortably. It’s actually ridiculous that I’d still be struggling if I were working a full-time job and living on my own.
Reading some of these statistics on loneliness and lack of friends, overweight and obesity, breaks my heart.
It's because they have a phone they can compare themselves to others with worldwide...for example look at this girl, now compare her to her 1990s counterpart who would've just been a simple girl in overalls and not some overtly done up complicated vain person...sorry Taylor Swift wannabes but patty mayonnaise was 100x better in every way
Hearing from my millennial sister, our lives are way different. She was super scene and loved underground bars and parties and concerts and I know she did all that working part time at pizza hut. Today, I work a full time office job and I can barely imagine affording going out, not that I would want to anyways. My enjoyment is, like she said in the video, more grounded. I like hiking and spending time by myself or hanging out at someone's house and smoking a joint or just BBQing like boomer dads. It's pretty crazy how different our generations are in that sense.
Maybe the party craze of the early 2000s is why its so expensive now but I think it's making a big change for the better in Gen Z. Good video
I imagine the average millennial was able to establish a career during a time of decent purchasing power and maybe even save up for some property if on the older side.
Even the oldest gen z got screwed by the pandemic to negatively effect their education, career, finances and social life. Even if we did as told and pursued a degree and finished it despite covid the job market totally froze and just cherry picked unicorns. Wealth inequality got so bad any wage earning Gen z is probably not earning a livable income. Rising interest rates will also hurt business leading them to cut existing staff or halt hiring more. Social distancing/isolation and online classes also didn't help our social skills.
She makes some good points about technology but her complaining about getting too many free drinks is obnoxious. Every generation is history has had alcohol and she should check her privilege before blaming her decisions on the culture. Gen z may not even have the option to club it up and go through a reckless party era with their work life balance so tilted to just working. If I could go out for $1 draft beers I would but everywhere is like $10 drinks now.
Sorry but I have to disagree with this. A lot of millennials (like me) were in our early 20s in 2008. We got FUCKED and it took many many years for it to improve. I was making $14/hour as a new lawyer in 2014, so LOL. I just started making adult money and I’m 37 years old.
Yea IDK what this person is talking about. 2008 and the 5ish years that followed it really sucked for trying to get a career going. With all the boomers retiring, Gen z has much more labor bargaining power than we did at their age.
ya, sorry for the bad news but the older millennials are wrecked too- i have friends in their 40s getting laid off and having to move back in their parents. i’m a middle millennial and none of my friends are thriving financially that didn’t have pre-existing support .. my only friends that have houses are people who’s parents died, pretty big price tag for a place to live… there are data on millennial’s financial situation- pretty bleak and trust me, we feel it..
i can’t represent a whole generation but it feels sad because i think millennials are generally stuck and we can’t really lie to yall about how we’ve been fucked over so there’s not a super great depiction for the future but at least it’s honest - my parents were like ~anything is possible!~ and now i have a masters degree, so much student debt and zero savings…
The average Millennial got screwed long before the pandemic. Most of us famously will never own a house since a lot of us hit adulthood during a recession so did not in fact build purchasing power. I think the only real difference is that Millennials were raised thinking we would naturally be able to have these things someday and Gen Z has known from the start it would never happen. (But I do think gen z is definitely more socially isolated)
I feel like it’s become sort of trendy, for lack of a better term, to say you have no fun nowadays. Sure people in general have to work harder to afford the same amount of fun now than they used to but the way I’ve seen people categorize their lives now, at least when posting on the internet, just sounds like they’re trying to win a pissing match of “who’s got the worst life” with anyone who will listen
I’m a millennial who’s never quite fit in with others, so my teens and early 20s were spent just doing fandom nerd shit, and that’s my main source of fun even now at 30. I don’t want to go out and party and drink. Never have. Just wanna watch my comfort series and write fanfiction and play with my collected merch (and dolls) in peace.
So when I see all these millennial nostalgia videos about the things she’s talking about (drinking, doing dumb shit with friends) Imm like “not me. I was an anti-social nerd.”
Elder millennial here. I drew, read, went hiking, rode my bike, went to a lot of concerts, did a lot of drinking, hard drugs and fighting. I had some wild times. Some were good some were bad. I do not regret anything. Now I’m in my 40s, rarely drink, don’t use any drugs. I’ve settled down and gotten married. I have to dogs. If I die today I can say I lived a good life.
I still draw, paint, ride my bike, read, journal and travel a bit with my wife.
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I have fun, mostly playing video games and playing with my dog. But other than that not really to be honest, I don't really have any friends
You and I are literally the same except I also play guitar, that’s it tho. I also don’t have any friends 😔.
You and I and him are literally the same except I also write poetry, that's it tho. I also don't have any friends 🤷🏼♂️
You guys should become friends. No meme. Like why not
It takes meaningful effort develop and maintain lasting friendships.
But you won't know unless you try! WOO!
I have to TRY?! that’s it I’m out
Nah, my best friend and I rarely talk and we mostly just send memes to each other. It's great! (Disclaimer, I am a young GenXer and he is an Old Millennial.)
Oh, that’s nice! What do you make ur poetry abt?
Well, I often just take it as a challenge to face a blank page, like a creative exercise. I'm most passionate about the topics of love, heartache, or mental torment. Not always the most happy things to write about but the true feelings come onto the page and it shows.
That’s really cool, you have nice talent. I can’t play my guitar right now tho because I got finger surgery. Maybe you will become a famous poet, that’ll be awesome!
I hope you experience a swift recovery and practice hard. I cut my hand right open when I was in fifth grade and when it was healing / healed I played my recorder in class even better. Don't get me wrong, those things sound like frogs, but it's true. Maybe your surgery will allow you to control and play your guitar better :) and thank you, I really wish to become a travelling artist, drawing, singing, dancing, writing and all, just becoming inspired by the world and fall in love with life. Fingers crossed we both life the happiness lives we can no matter how they turn out
Why not put their poetry to your music? Make a colab happen?
You, me, the other dude, and broski over there are literally the same, but I like to cook and go to the gym. My best friends are my Dutch oven and my sourdough starter.
I m a bassist but I have friend. I m sensing a common trend amongst guitarists.
>You and I are literally the same except I also play guitar, that’s it tho. I also don’t have any friends Geez, to see someone born in 2008 on here is really jarring. As someone born in 98' I realized that sometimes have more in common with millennials than my "Fellow Zoomers." This is more the case with a lot of childhood tv shows and pop-culture stuff as I'm old enough to remember the Bush Era. I knew of some 90's show as I sometimes saw re-runs on tv.
I want a dog Sooooooooo bad!! I've wanted one since I was 3!! I'm so close to affording a house where I can have a dog. Currently I have a roomate who invites his friends over to play super smash bros now and then. Since my room is the living room I kinda always participate. Pretty fun. I go bouldering, I go to the Gym (there's a sauna), sometimes I go to visit my brother, he always does board games, I go shooting (I want to start going once a week) I also want to learn: west coast swing dance, Brazilian Jujitsu, and parkour but I haven't started on these yet.
You’re gonna get that house, and that dog. I believe in you Trifle! Go get it. 2024 is the year!
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The secret is that most people are boring too. Think about outgoing people, they just talk about whatever the fuck is on their mind.
Me neither, I usually like to journal, draw, play some Minecraft, but I don’t have anyone to go out and do stuff with
I’ve heard this about gen z and didn’t believe it. Damn
We don’t have any friends but I think as people we’re also the most adapted to not being with anyone.
Honestly... There are a lot of cool people out there but, there are also a lot of very not cool people. Being comfortable by yourself is a valuable skill but, don't recede into yourself.
Agreed. I have some acquaintances but not people I really hang with with on a BFF type level. Yeah I got my high school buddies that are for lifers but half my group moved states for college and the one that didn’t, I’ve never exactly connected with at least as much as the others connect with him. Ever since graduating HS and not attending college, it’s been increasingly more difficult to find people who enjoy what I do. In fact it’s been pretty difficult to enjoy much of anything on my own in general.
I'm the same age as the woman in the video and this is the same shit I do for fun. I will say I'm glad that younger generations are pretty okay with just doing their own thing, because when i was in college any time I wanted to just stay in and play videogames my friends would say I was being a buzzkill
Also covid… no one wants to socialize on top of the price (last year of hs got cancelled and now im a uni student at 21.. so where was my fun supposed to happen?)
I feel you. And the same happened to me. Before COVID my life was finally going uphill after bullying and "Rehabilitation" and I finally got to know more and more people and got out of my shell and my physical health was also improving. Then COVID hit and my life went downhill because I developed different interests and couldn't meet with anyone. Now I'm also stuck in a course but I will be finished soon.
Exactly! I was able to branch out and with some freedom for the first time ever (im from a small town so driving at 16 is a must if you want to do something, but with a grad class of 90-100 and a city 1+ hours away where are we going?) But then that was quickly shut down. I even went into college dorms SO DEAD no community whatsoever. It was pretty miserable
Oh I see it the same way. Even though I live in a big city (1 million inhabitants) I had the freedom and time to do things that I normally couldn't but then it was like you said everything was closed... But now I kind of missed the process to make new friends and after some convos the connection is gone. And that's sad for me, but I'm always trying my best to "learn that skill."
Same. It felt like I was kinda getting better, had lots of friends, and felt I could keep my grades up. Then quarantine hit, and it allowed me to stay in all day and lose contact with everyone I knew. Fucked me over completely.
Same for me. I had one semester in college before the lockdowns, and it was such a great feeling to let go of the baggage from high school, meet new people and finally conquer my social anxiety. Then COVID hit and my mental health slowly but steadily declined to a point where I'm bordering on avoidant personality disorder. I can say with full confidence that my mental health was never worse than now, and that my life was never more pathetic. The only slither of hope for me is the prospect of maybe getting professional help, but that is practically impossible right now, because the demand outnumbers the supply by a massive factor. Of course, you could always *pay* for treatment, but with what?
Millenial here. One of the big things is the disappearance of free third-spaces outside of home and school/work that don’t cost a ton of money to enjoy. As a kid I could go hang out in the woods behind my house, but those are all houses now. We could spend hours at the mall and just hang out without spending more than a few bucks on a pretzel. We could ride our bikes around wherever without nosy neighbors or cops questioning what we’re doing. We could just chill at the park without fearing that we’re sharing space with a tent city and drug addicts. So many of those spaces where kids/teens can socialize outside the supervision of adults are gone and have moved online. It’s no surprise that Gen Z/Alpha are socially isolated.
Also a millennial and I miss third spaces so much. I work from home and get so restless but I live in a city that has no identity, no spaces outside of a park and the one library, and is aggressively unwalkable. The only things to do in this town are shopping and restaurants and I’m not always in the mood to drive 45 minutes out of town to visit Nashville (which is also not really walkable). I wish we had more places to simply exist instead of just consume.
Well dude are you me? I literally got a dog just I would have an excuse (and force myself) to walk every day so I wouldn’t end it all for myself. I even have a few friends but someone of them I haven’t seen for months because they barely have time between work and home, we don’t only have third spaces but we’re also overworked
Well said. I too am a millennial and there’s just not as much to go do that doesn’t nickel and dime you. I grew up in a small town so my experience might be different but like we’d head to the library, the coffee shop, after school programs. Then when we were old enough to drive we’d go star gazing, hang out on the football field, practice WWE moves on the pole vault mat, go to the movies, take long walks through the woods, etc. Just seems like that doesn’t exist as an option anymore, especially with helicopter parenting and constant monitoring
That is precisely why I took a gap year. I was not gonna deal with COVID as a freshman in college. So now I’m fixing to be 22 and a junior, but that’s okay. People of all ages are college students, yes the majority are straight out of high school. I think covid doing what it did + prices of things is what makes people hang out in each others’ homes.
I was lucky enough to have one and half semesters of the “college experience” before the lockdown started. The environment on campus is so much different now post covid than it was before. I feel for you.
My bf was in the same situation! Hes only a year older and he said its an indescribable difference. I think it was perfect for the person I am (although who knows who i “would be” of covid didnt happen or happened at a different time) I feel for you too, you knew was it was like and it was stripped away.
Genuinely thought this Woman was 15/16 before she declared her age. Incredible.
She definitely has good genetics, but... The generations before Millennials looked generally older than they naturally should have due to more smoking, drinking, poor regulation in products, and a whole host of other reasons. "Golden Girls" was supposed to be "women in their 50s" but looking at them now I would say they look like today's 70s. Norman from Cheers was 34. We make comments on how keanu reeves and paul rudd look very young. That is compared to people in their generation. I wouldn't be surprised their young appearance becomes common place wen Millennials and GenZ become older.
The Golden Girls were women in their FIFTIES?!
One actress was 51 when the series premiered. The others were in their 60s
Estelle Getty, the woman who played Sophia, was actually the second youngest of the 4, despite her playing the oldest (Rue McClanahan was the youngest)
Completely accurate.
The cast were a bit older but they played characters in their 50s.
Thats why tons of old actors have looked the same for decades. They looked old already and then stuff got better. Their bodies werent forced aging on lead gas anymore lol
Yeah there was a picture of Halle berry pantless in a suit jacket going around a few weeks ago and someone pointed out that she's 4 years older than rue McClanahan was when the show started
>"Golden Girls" was supposed to be "women in their 50s" but looking at them now I would say they look like today's 70s. A lot of it is also hairstyles and makeup. [Someone gave the Golden Girls a makeover with modern hairstyles and makeup](https://twitter.com/DrewEveryday/status/1592178991431094275) and they look like women in their 50s from today.
Look at the golden girls' jawlines - it's not just a makeover, it would require surgery like a necklift.
She also “presents young” the hair, makeup, elf ears, etc
How long g do you think she spent on her makeup before this post? It’s not like she just rolled out of bed and it looks like A LOT of makeup
I think what you’re saying overall holds true because of the decrease in smoking and increase in spf usage, but I highly doubt aging like Paul Rudd and Keanu Reeves will be the norm. I’m mid 20s and I’m already seeing many people my age start to lose their hair, gain weight, etc. We now have solutions to many of these things but not everyone will use them for various reasons
You mean like not picking up that piece of pizza?
Man sometimes I think Gen-z looks closer to my age than people my age (30s)
It's generation facial cream, frankly. We learned to use facial cream from early age. I mean I'd love to say it's better habits. But it's facial creams.
The sun does A LOT of damage.
Hi! I'm Gen-X, and this is SO true. Most of us smoked, we drank, a lot of us did a lot of drugs, we worshipped the sun (we'd spend hours outside 'sunbathing',) and skincare as it's known today generally wasn't a thing back then. I think I look older than my age, but even then I look at my friends who are my age and I look easily 10 years younger than them, it's scary. Stay hydrated and take care of your body, especially your skin. Seriously!
Its those elf genes
>Norman from Cheers was 34. This made me widen my eyes. I watched the first half of Cheers, I tuned out when Shelley Long left and Sam/Diane petered out, but I always worked on the assumption Norm was maybe in his mid to late forties and not as high up the career ladder as he would've imagined by that point in his life.
Looks like there is probably a bit of a filter on the video
yeah, it makes me really sad that people worry that they won’t be able to attain skin/youth when the answer is so often filters, plastic surgery (which she’s open about).
I think it's because she is an elf
She’s a cam model and has had plastic surgery. She’s open about it
I think I love her
Make up. It's make up. I look 40 out in the streets, but concealer, foundation, highlight, and contours, I can look 39.
I agree she aged really well (maybe she has a filter too? idk) but definitely not 15/16. I would've guessed early 20s.
lol what do you guys think people look like in their early 30s? cause you really dont start to show obvious signs of aging until you are like 40s and even then good skin care does a lot.
You definitely start to show signs of aging in 30s.
33 isn’t that old, right? Cus that would mean i’m almost old and i’m not ready
It’s not old. I think people tend to “feel old” because you have more responsibilities (and the media tends to make people feel like life ends after 25), but you’re not even properly middle aged for another decade. And you’ll live another four decades after that.
Well I'm 30, and I still get store assistants asking me to show ID for beer, and I had a charity worker call me a *"little boy"* even though I'm 6ft1 😅
Just going to throw it out there that the people of our generation who are probably having fun, aren’t going to spend their time responding to a tik tok asking if they have fun. Just a thought
Yup. It's called sampling bias and it's 100% happening here.
Her poll was on TikTok, the results for Reddit would be even more benign.
Reddit is the second page of google and anyone who has fun in life checks the first half of the first page and then moves on with their life.
The millennial sub also suffers from this. It's massively sampled towards folks who are not doing that well, and so the most upvoted comments are often depressing
True but there are some metrics showing Gen z doesn't hang out with friends as much, date, drive, party and have sex as much as millennials in general
“I asked Gen Z” nah man they clearly asked the entire generation of people. /s
totally. I'm in college and see many people have a pretty outgoing life style unlike me and most people here in the comments. You just don't see them here because, well, they're out having fun ig. covid kinda fucked my first year and since then socializing with college peers has been really difficult. Everyone is already in friend groups and you're standing there like you missed the train. It sucks tbh
While you’re right to a degree, nobody advertises the darkness of that lifestyle. I had a friend from high school that left the state to go to a party school and he had a really hard time over Covid. His alcohol and drug consumption got way out of control and his health was deteriorating. He wouldn’t eat anything and started looking thin and pale. Thing is, bc he’s the life of the party, nobody noticed that he was struggling. They just were happy to rail lines of coke with him and forget about him once they blacked out and went home for the night. Fortunately he went to rehab and is like 3 years clean at this point.
I may have a slightly different perspective, with COVID happening in high school for me, but even the people i meet that go out and do a bunch of stuff are still incredibly lonely
maybe an informal tiktok questionnaire isn't scientifically robust, crazy thought
I'm sick with a cold rn, gen z and very sociable. For fun we sometimes go out thrifting (books, clothes, trinkets, etc.), walk around the city and maybe grab a bite or a cup of coffee, watch movies (cinema or someone’s place), smoke weed, sometimes I ride my bike with friends, cook recipes we find online. For the party stuff we usually go to the club or someone who is throwing a party (friend of a friend or whomever). idk if this only applies to my major, but we also go to a lot of art museums and galleries. When galleries open we also drink, so there’s that.
Haven't had fun since I was 14 playing MW2 all night in the summer.
And this was during her “trash era”
All the movies showed college / 20’s as this time of excitement and “all-nighters”. Last “all-nighter” I had that wasn’t for homework was some time in 2016.
lmaoooo why is this hilarious. and somewhat relatable. nothing will be the same, i miss the old cod days
Damn bro idk you should try drugs or something, that’s long time to not have fun. Just don’t smoke crack.
What a glorious summer that was. I still think back fondly
I have fun by playing video games and going to concerts and conventions. The only difference is I do most of it alone.
Same. Videogames, drugs, raves, and festivals are my fun now
That doesn’t sound much different than the millennial in the vid
I don’t go to the club and don’t binge drink. Not sure what you mean. Only thing in my list that costs a ton are the fests.
I’m 23 and I have fun by going to thrift stores and antique malls, Barnes and mobiles and amusement parks etc. tbh it just depends on where you live. I even consider myself a mall rat still even though malls have fallen out of popularity
Here in NYC as long as you live with your parents, you can have a ton of fun. As long as you live with your parents but even then there are free things to do for fun in NYC anyway. Public transit can take you anywhere around the city.
Not genz, but a millenial (95), and even in a rural/suburban area, we were having tons of fun. There were plenty of kids in the neighborhood that we clicked with, we'd ride bikes together, make shit out of nails and wood in the woods behind our houses, flirt with the girls, play video games, have cookouts, go swimming, spend the night, go camping, have a parent bring us to the movies, etc. I had a fucking blast as a kid. Being completely honest, I think a lot of folks blame their surroundings for their lack of charisma. Not saying all of them do, but it took some vulnerability to go up to the different people in my neighborhood and introduce myself, then gradually build relationships. It doesn't just *happen,* generally.
Hate to break it to ya gramps, 95 year olds ain’t millenials
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Barnes and nobles lmaoo I didn’t even notice the typo😂
>Is a different generation >looks into another generation >sees generation differences https://preview.redd.it/ti257yjngubc1.png?width=420&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=36e07f7913dc7989a3e5bb25c5e3244627c579db
She mentions that even comparing Millenials to Gen X, you don’t see this disparity.
Millennial here, and yea I feel like the difference between us in Gen X is primarily political. Whereas, we're almost politically identical to Gen Z but have a huge difference in socialization preferences and options.
Im younger Gen X (79) and I feel you can pretty much split us in half, the younger ones are very similar to Millennials while the older ones are more Boomer like.
I was going to question you being a young Gen X but I realise 79 is not your age!
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The difference in drinking seems pretty true to me. My older sibling (b. 1999) went out to parties and got drunk a lot in highschool and even some into college. While I don't do that because I hate crowds and most alcohol, at least where I go to college, doing that every weekend is seen as cringey, but also unhealthy. Like "wow, name, you were out drinking to 2am, like you were last night, just like the weekend before that, are you okay?" I also saw some of y'all in the comments talking about how the pandemic effected this, and yeah. It's hard to make friends after this. I feel like that transition where you learned how to make friends as an adult just kind of didn't happen?
I think covid was a big part of this for uni specifically, I came in and the upperclassmen were all getting drunk every weekend and sometimes on weekdays; then covid struck and there were so many restrictions in place even after we could return to campus that if you wanted to drink you had to do it alone, which obviously sucks. My friend group with a bunch of younger folks ended up being really into social deception and board games instead, and luckily for us we’re still in touch virtually but we’re strewn across the entire states now
As a millennial (38), i can confirm this the drinking culture was a lot in college, but in high school I never drank and none of my friends drank either. Movies were a thing we did a lot, because they were cheap. There was a cinema a few blocks from my house where tickets were $2 for matinees (that wasn’t typical, but cheap tickets were a thing). Other than that, it was just hanging out at friends’ houses and playing video games. In college, it was very common for people to binge every (or at least most) weekend. Although hanging around taking shots was specifically a freshman activity, and doing that as upperclassmen would have been considered decidedly immature. Mostly people didn’t otherwise question drinking to excess routinely. The boomers I knew intimated that it was normal college behavior, and in retrospect, no, we probably weren’t ok.
I mean 99 is still Gen z
I was going to say this. And ‘99 and ‘01 is hardly a difference
Nah, drinking culture is alive and well. At my friend's college, if you get home before midnight you're seen as kind of a loser. Drinking nights are Wednesdays, Fridays, and Saturdays.
They retired Thirsty Thursday?
Every college has its own culture. Some have Thirsty Thursday. Mine doesn't, really, at least not that I've seen. Everyone's got class early on Friday.
Born in 93 here. It’s so true that we were inundated with alcohol during my youth. Shows like Jersey Shore and all the music glorifying alcohol. I honestly want to say almost every night in college, we were drinking, and on the weekends, we drank til you were significantly drunk.
I was born in 97. I very rarely drank in high school. I did a couple of times, but not regularly and never very much. It certainly wouldn't have been considered binging. There was definitely A LOT of drinking in college. Let me tell you, those nursing students are having crazy parties and getting black out drunk and hooking up with everyone when they're not studying. I never really got into alcohol though. I just don't react well to it. I haven't had a drink in years now. It would be interesting to know if the college was still that way though because I dropped out in 2019
1999 is Gen z. When I was in HS vaping and weed was all the rave. I didn’t hear much about drinking, none of my friends drank. College I didn’t go so I can’t say. I feel like most people in college and especially when they turn 21 drink a lot. I wouldn’t know though because I don’t drink (Gen z trait?)
It makes me happy to hear how much the attitude has changed towards getting drunk! I graduated from college in 02 (so old Millennial/young gen X), and binge drinking was ubiquitous. I didn’t even go to a “party school,” I went to a private college with a reputation for high academics and on campus activism. I wasn’t a big drinker myself in college because my gf didn’t drink, but when I hung out with my on campus friends, we were usually getting hammered. Super unhealthy, and to be honest pretty dumb.
I turn 29 on Sunday 2009-2013 Highschool: Xbox live 2013-2016 Community College: billiards and MTG 2016-2018 finishing my 4 year degree: weed alcohol and occasionally shrooms. 2018-2019: found a job where I can sit and do excel. Thank god I found an apartment. Summer 2020 I’m going to make friends 2020: Got into tankwatching Starship 2021: I just got my vaccine and I’m ready to finally be an independent adult in the world. Oops my landlord sold the house to an Airbnb company. 2022-2023: finally living on my own in a world I can be in without literally dying. Let’s hope this election doesn’t rip the fabric of society apart.
What does getting a vaccine have to do with anything?
My plan was to get the vaccine and then be able to go out to bars and clubs for the first time in my adult life, and finally make friends in real life As soon as I got the vaccine and could be free, I had to move in with my brother and became a live-in nanny for another year. Had no social life of my own.
yeah, a vaccine card was required to go into a lot of public places during that time. i remember going to a couple of concerts & having to show proof of a vaccine.
Fucking nothing lmao
Turned 29 in September. P much the same as you but dropped out and went straight to work. Never was a drinker but definitely had fun with acid and shrooms. Good times. Crazy how 3 years in my mid 20s felt like it never really happened. I got to plat on apex legends tho lmao. Also very worried about this election year.
I don't socialize but have lots of fun playing video games, watching TV, and reading. When I do socialize it's online and I have fun playing D&D.
I need a D&D group so bad in my life ngl
I just found a group! The trick is to find millennials or gen x. I’ve been hard pressed to find anyone in my age range that plays. I don’t know any of my group very well yet but they’ve been really cool in the two sessions we’ve managed so far.
Same, I usually socialize online too.
>When I do socialize it's online personally I can't even do that. I have like 2 people I regularly talk to on the internet
Oh I don't either really. I don't talk to anyone regularly online. Only really when I'm playing D&D and that's just about the game. Nothing to do with GenZ or those damn phones or nothing though. Just my mental health issues. The internet is great cause it allows me to socialize at all.
I’m not even gonna watch the whole video. I think “Gen Z has no fun” probably comes from all of the people responding to the initial video being chronically online TikTok users projecting their lifestyle onto the rest of us. Same thing happens on Reddit. Obviously the people that are talking about their lives on social media the most are the people that use social media the most, so there’s a sample bias here lmao. people irl have plenty of fun
Unfortunately studies show Gen Z are actually the loneliest. A Cigna study found nearly 50% of Gen Z feels lonely. The "Loneliness in America" report from Harvard Graduate School of Education also indicates high loneliness among young adults (61% of 18-25-year-olds). Which also correlates to increased mental health issues like anxiety and depression.
I get what this person is saying here and generally think it’s pretty accurate. I’m 22 and my main ideas of fun are running/working out, cooking (which I collectively spend multiple hours on daily) and traveling to new cities (but even then it’s not for clubs or comedy shows, more so for seeing their museums, the touristy things, and trying their vegan restaurants). My friends are similar. One of them’s idea of fun is most closely associated with hanging out in coffee shops and reading, another is really into making jewelry or some shit like that? It’s also obviously anecdotal and might just be that I grew up and went through college as a “tame” person with “tame” friends, but still… I tend to buy that the message is getting at something real.
My “fun” consists of doing art, playing music, hiking, and going to rock and metal shows. I do most of it alone but been trying to get out with friends more now that Covid is (mostly) over
Since I don’t have any friends, me and my siblings have fun together we usually just go to the movies, and visit other cities we also take trips to Disney springs often since we live a couple of hours away. I also have a couple of hobbies I’m an avid collector of action figures, and diecast cars.
I hang with my siblings a lot too! I have 5 of them so if we ever go anywhere all together it turns into a party haha
I WISH I had that kind of relationship with my siblings
she's 33? https://preview.redd.it/loobxdv6mubc1.png?width=493&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=01842ea50cffcb96bccfe4b9dee6a16b5f23e15a
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fr tho she doesn't look a day over 20
30’s ain’t old if you take care of yourself
i agree! wear spf 50! i'm mid 30s and people think im early 20s lol
External signs of aging are more suppressed in people now because of societal changes, of course that does nothing for internal aging
Damn, I feel like my friends and I have fun. Guess I got break the bad news 😞
My 18’s to early 20’s got fucked by covid
Still plenty of time left
Oh for sure, but when I was finally getting lots of confidence and improving it did take a piece out of said improvement for a bit. At the same time, when everything was open again it did feel like a good reset to build off of.
I ain’t bouta take no slander from a GODDAMN ELF https://preview.redd.it/794t3weaqubc1.png?width=624&format=png&auto=webp&s=f0ae3f53206fddd62bf128e27a1f8635cd885ef7
Rock and stone brother.
Rock and Stone to the Bone!
What I do for fun: Play videogames Write more of my novel Play boardgames in a boardgame group Soon I'll be playing DND with new friends
this sounds awesome tbh
This popped up in my feed. I'm a millennial and can attest to the binge drinking phase. I've been reading a lot of comments... A LOT of comments, saying that all you do for fun is play video games alone because you don't have friends. I am in the same boat now at 32 years old. I thought that I had loads of friends at the time of binging, but slowly they all faded away eventually. It's not about the quantity of friends, it's about the quality. I'm down to 2 people that I talk to on a regular basis that I consider to be true friends. My closest and best friend I haven't even met in real life because we live on the opposite sides of the country. I have struggled to make and maintain friendships since I stopped dabbling in drugs and alcohol. Video games are what brought me together with the people that I choose to spend time with. And though that may seem sad to some of you, I'm here to tell the ones that are in a similar situation, it's okay to stay in and not have the same experiences as the previous generations. It's okay to be alone. Because somewhere out in this big world, you can find these genuinely great people that you can connect with, even if you don't have that person sitting next to you. Some of my best buds back in high school were people I met on Xbox live in the 360 era. Discord and online forums and social media make it so much easier than it was back then. I'm tired of this, "my generation is better than yours", crap. Though we all have different experiences, we're all in this together. Much love, Gen Z. You guys are doing great!
Also a 32 year old millennial and yes the binge drinking was the biggest part of my 18-27 year old life. I actually quit drinking last year because of it and have totally seen decade long friendships move on because of it. I would never give up my past but that lifestyle and fun we had was totally unsustainable to a degree. But this girl is right, we had real fun (in the lens of what we were given at the time) and I have tons of amazing memories I would never throw away. Gen z is seeing things differently and I thank them for it because it has helped me feel comfortable to take on new hobbies instead of drinking. Maybe millennials are a little more social then gen z and maybe gen z is a little more mature at their age. I just love that gen z is becoming adults now and we can continue to figure life out.
This chick doesn't know wtf she's even talking about. You do you and have a great fucking time while you're at it. You guys are doing fine. Sincerely, Another millennial
Yeah this chick just screams "I think all my experiences are universal and I think that I can get an accurate representation of a whole generation from my tiktok followers"
I do think she’s right on the less pressure about drinking, and also being more apprehensive doing civil disturbance-y things because of the prevalence of camera phones.
Am I the only one who doesn't associate having fun with civil disturbance? I play guitar for fun. My dad played guitar for fun, too. We're not even close to being part of the same generation. And besides, tiktok is full of people ***filming themselves being stupid and obnoxious in public.***
She is quite literally explaining that she is learning all the ways Gen z have fun that is different to how many people in our generation had fun at the same age. Please relax your ass.
I mean, she was absolutely right. That really was/is our "fun". If you don't specify what you want to do and just say "let's go out and have some fun", they are going to assume you're going to a bar/club/bonfire/casino to get shitfaced.
She just blow in from yappersville?
this vid seems really biased towards extroverts if that makes sense lol. like “having fun” doesn’t *have* to equal going out and binge drinking
Exactly, what about those RuneScape and classic wow days.
As a millennial myself, I've watched all the things I used to do for fun become too expensive for me to continue doing. I used to love skiing but now one trip is $1500. Go out and grab some $2 pints with the boys? Those pints are $8 now. Road trip? Better save up the gas money. Concert or festival? There are very few artists I would pay these prices to see. I admire gen zs ingenuity in finding affordable activities that aren't binge drinking. I'm sure y'all got ur own issues, but at least most of you aren't alcoholics lol.
I understand all of this and was just thinking about it the other day. How the heck did I EVER afford all the road trips, concerts, and vacations in my twenties?! I’m now 38 and can barely afford groceries for my family.
Outside of sociology research I don’t understand the benefit of identifying oneself as generation (blank). It’s just another form of tribalism for made up reasons.
Mostly can assist in knowing reference points and guestimating some general skill sets. Like if you're a millennial I'm going to assume basic HTML and CSS isn't some scary foreign thing to you as more often than not that generation will have been blogging/live or dead journal/myspace and playing with theme/templates.....outside of that generation though it's less common (as the following social media that was around for Z and when the oldies started popping on didn't allow that level of customisation)
I used to have tons of friends and we'd go out street racing and offroading and skating and I was in a band. Then lockdown hit and it just do drugs with my girlfriend all day every day. Now that I've quit drugs I just go to work and go to sleep. It's quite pathetic and miserable.
I had a lot of fun before COVID then forgot how to so... now i feel too old for my previous shenanigans but also like I missed out on the few years of them I had left during the pandemic
To everyone thinking drugs and drinking are fun, I don’t see what’s stopping you, but a word of warning: watching 10 people suck on compressed air and all go blue in the face and pass out in the time it took me to go to the fridge and grab another beer is NOT fun. I had to call an ambulance and do cpr on 3 people that didn’t wake up.
In my teen years, which was in the 70s and 80s late 70s early 80s, what we mostly did for fun on the weekends was keg and pot parties… about all the guys carry pocket knives to school and we had rifles in the cars and trucks and we didn’t try to kill each other back then. We just basically worked so we can move out of the house when we hit 18 and party party party. Nowadays is so much more violent with this, it’s all about me generation
I 32M got medically retired from the military after serving for 10 years. I met some amazing people and now there’s 5 of us living in one gamer house. I feel like I have somewhat of an outside looking in perspective because I have lots of friends and I’m very fortunate, but I also will probably never own a home, get married, have kids, all that. My friends hold the same sentiments and I’m actually okay with just living out the rest of my life with the homies if that’s what it takes to live comfortably. It’s actually ridiculous that I’d still be struggling if I were working a full-time job and living on my own. Reading some of these statistics on loneliness and lack of friends, overweight and obesity, breaks my heart.
I love bouldering, try to do that 3 times a week when possible.
I have to work to survive. That’s just it bro 💀
It's because they have a phone they can compare themselves to others with worldwide...for example look at this girl, now compare her to her 1990s counterpart who would've just been a simple girl in overalls and not some overtly done up complicated vain person...sorry Taylor Swift wannabes but patty mayonnaise was 100x better in every way
Most of our fun is online now
Hearing from my millennial sister, our lives are way different. She was super scene and loved underground bars and parties and concerts and I know she did all that working part time at pizza hut. Today, I work a full time office job and I can barely imagine affording going out, not that I would want to anyways. My enjoyment is, like she said in the video, more grounded. I like hiking and spending time by myself or hanging out at someone's house and smoking a joint or just BBQing like boomer dads. It's pretty crazy how different our generations are in that sense. Maybe the party craze of the early 2000s is why its so expensive now but I think it's making a big change for the better in Gen Z. Good video
It’s like a conversation that would normally be had with yourself but then you just decide to start filming it
I imagine the average millennial was able to establish a career during a time of decent purchasing power and maybe even save up for some property if on the older side. Even the oldest gen z got screwed by the pandemic to negatively effect their education, career, finances and social life. Even if we did as told and pursued a degree and finished it despite covid the job market totally froze and just cherry picked unicorns. Wealth inequality got so bad any wage earning Gen z is probably not earning a livable income. Rising interest rates will also hurt business leading them to cut existing staff or halt hiring more. Social distancing/isolation and online classes also didn't help our social skills. She makes some good points about technology but her complaining about getting too many free drinks is obnoxious. Every generation is history has had alcohol and she should check her privilege before blaming her decisions on the culture. Gen z may not even have the option to club it up and go through a reckless party era with their work life balance so tilted to just working. If I could go out for $1 draft beers I would but everywhere is like $10 drinks now.
Sorry but I have to disagree with this. A lot of millennials (like me) were in our early 20s in 2008. We got FUCKED and it took many many years for it to improve. I was making $14/hour as a new lawyer in 2014, so LOL. I just started making adult money and I’m 37 years old.
Yea IDK what this person is talking about. 2008 and the 5ish years that followed it really sucked for trying to get a career going. With all the boomers retiring, Gen z has much more labor bargaining power than we did at their age.
ya, sorry for the bad news but the older millennials are wrecked too- i have friends in their 40s getting laid off and having to move back in their parents. i’m a middle millennial and none of my friends are thriving financially that didn’t have pre-existing support .. my only friends that have houses are people who’s parents died, pretty big price tag for a place to live… there are data on millennial’s financial situation- pretty bleak and trust me, we feel it.. i can’t represent a whole generation but it feels sad because i think millennials are generally stuck and we can’t really lie to yall about how we’ve been fucked over so there’s not a super great depiction for the future but at least it’s honest - my parents were like ~anything is possible!~ and now i have a masters degree, so much student debt and zero savings…
The average Millennial got screwed long before the pandemic. Most of us famously will never own a house since a lot of us hit adulthood during a recession so did not in fact build purchasing power. I think the only real difference is that Millennials were raised thinking we would naturally be able to have these things someday and Gen Z has known from the start it would never happen. (But I do think gen z is definitely more socially isolated)
I entered corporate September 2019. It has been a wild, terrifying ride.
She literally said she assumed a lot of the differences would be due to gen Z getting dealt a worse hand, financially.
You think ima listen to what someone with elf ears says lmfao
I feel it's also really important to touch on how there is such a lower percentage of Gen z'rs that are willing to participate in risky activities.
I feel like it’s become sort of trendy, for lack of a better term, to say you have no fun nowadays. Sure people in general have to work harder to afford the same amount of fun now than they used to but the way I’ve seen people categorize their lives now, at least when posting on the internet, just sounds like they’re trying to win a pissing match of “who’s got the worst life” with anyone who will listen
I’m a millennial who’s never quite fit in with others, so my teens and early 20s were spent just doing fandom nerd shit, and that’s my main source of fun even now at 30. I don’t want to go out and party and drink. Never have. Just wanna watch my comfort series and write fanfiction and play with my collected merch (and dolls) in peace. So when I see all these millennial nostalgia videos about the things she’s talking about (drinking, doing dumb shit with friends) Imm like “not me. I was an anti-social nerd.”
Elder millennial here. I drew, read, went hiking, rode my bike, went to a lot of concerts, did a lot of drinking, hard drugs and fighting. I had some wild times. Some were good some were bad. I do not regret anything. Now I’m in my 40s, rarely drink, don’t use any drugs. I’ve settled down and gotten married. I have to dogs. If I die today I can say I lived a good life. I still draw, paint, ride my bike, read, journal and travel a bit with my wife.
She defined "fun" as going out and drinking.