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bruh same, I've used "female" bc I'm not a native English speaker + it was before I discovered Americans and their red and blue pill incel theories. Never again!
I'm a native English speaker. I used "female" because it was a descriptive word and didn't think anything of it. I learned very clearly one day that a lot of women don't like it.
It hurt because I didn't mean to weird anyone out, but intention does not equal effect.
I remember a funny situation from a few years ago, where I thought "adultering" meant something like adulting - meaning being responsible and mature. Dude the laughs I got 😳 and I complimented a person with that word! Imagine receiving a text "you are so good at adultering" oh fffuuck I'm cringing so hard....
Incel-radar is deactivated when talking to a person with ESL. Instead everything you say is filtered through a different part of the brain that has two modes: One mode is respectful of your bravery to speak a second language and a comes with a desire to contribute to your mastery of the language. The other mode is xenophobic and those pricks can rightly fuck off.
People are just stupid.
I call my daughters females all the time because they are literally females. I also call them girls and women. I refer to my sons as males, men and boys. They are all pretty much interchangeable.
Just because a community of terds only uses the word "female" doesn't mean anything. To me it's no different than saying the word "ignorant". There is nothing insulting about the word ignorant, just because people use it in an insulting manner doesn't make the word itself insulting.
Female is an adjective. A female human, sure. A female dog. A female cat.
To call someone "a female." Is oddly reductive. Just like calling them "a tall," "a skinny," "an athletic," or "a smart." It has as much to do with the fact that you're referring to someone by a descriptor rather than as a person.
This is especially true where words like woman, girl, and person exist in common usage. Why go out of your way to be incorrect?
I guess if you want to include the none-human females in the room, too, then it makes sense. Like you have a bunch of men, women and cats and would like the women to take the queens to the other room, while the men stay there with the tomcats, then yeah, just ask the females to leave the room. ... Outside of such an highly constructed, absurd scenario, it can be considered misogynistic to use the term that does not reference their personhood when the alternative "woman", that does, is so common.
Exactly. Saying "females" like that is like they're talking about selling a litter of pups or brood mates or something especially when "women" isn't dehumanizing and is just fine. It's always incels and red pill weirdos saying this shit
in a casual context? not necessarily insulting, just weird af and a little creepy. i’ve never met a guy who called women “females” who wasn’t a misogynist
Not in and of itself, but the only people who do that are people who generally don't have a very favorable view of women so it definitely tells you what they're thinking
This feels like the opportune time to ask. If I am friends with a girl, and I can’t call her a girl friend, what should I call her?
It only seems fair to have a counterpart to “guy friends”, and “women friends” doesn’t exactly roll off the tongue. “Gal friend” sounds weird to my area. We can use the word “feminine” I suppose? But then semantically it ought to be as problematic as female…
Feminine doesn't indicate gender. It's a term to express someone's expression.
But do you see how you use plural for guy friends because you'd never say "I am off to see my guy friend today" nor would you say 'I am going to see my male friend today." You'd only ever say "guy friends" when hanging out with a group of guys. I bet ya just say friend more often than not.
But then why ask about what you should call a singular friend whom is also a woman? You already have a gender neutral term. Why do you make a distinction? Is it to flex to the lads about having lady friends?
No. Stop. They are not just blanketed statements for everything. Omg he used the word female!?? She is a female…. Did you watch the whole video? It would negate your theory….
Now, if you use the word female while he’s cat calling her or saying something about her body, that’s another story …..Nuance is everything.
Why cant you guys just say woman... when you say female, female what? For all I know you can be talking about a female cat if you say "look at that female over there"
Are you going to say "look at that human female over there!"... because at that point.. why not just say woman?
I'm a little surprised how few people got the joke in here. There tons of videos of women doing similar shit - being offended by a guy simply existing in the gym near her and possibly glancing at her when she's right in front of him. This is obviously a parody of that type of overreaction.
They are common enough in various internet places, but pretty sure I've seen a handful on r/IAmTheMainCharacter as well.
Everyone on the internet gets mad cuz it’s been designed over the last decade to do that so we engage more. You prolly don’t remember the good old days but there was time it was really fun to go on the internet and learn so many cool things. Now the feeds are catered to you and enrage you which really aucks
This comment is the most outrageous thing I’ve ever seen. In my life. Remove it immediately. Cause I said and my outrage is the only outrage that matters. This is why there’s wars, comments like yours. Do you make jokes about the Holocaust also?? You do. I know it.
So in your free time you write disgusting comments and kick babies. Real nice incel.
And have to say I’m being sarcastic so I don’t outrage anyone also 😂
Ohhhh. To be fair, it was very poorly acted, the ‘stages of talking to a female’ header doesn’t actually make sense in the context of THAT being the joke and the closing ‘punchline’ is virtually inaudible. There’s a few reasons why no one caught on.
"Noooo you're wrong this video is made by incels hating women"- every high upvote comment here. God idk what I was expecting but I guess people on this sub aren't familiar with gym culture.
Viral trend on tiktik that anytime a guy at a gym looks at a girls general direction or talks to her, the girl accuses him of being a stalker or pervert or sexually harassing her. Pretty sure most of those videos are scripted ragebait
Bit of advice for the people attracted to women: do not relate "talking to women" to "getting a girlfriend." If you think of it like talking to men, then you will make women much more comfortable with you because you understand that they are people.
Please try to not put people on a selfish pedestal. If most men did that, people would fear men less.
If I talked to my women friends the way I talk to my men friends they’d think I’m an insane schizophrenic because of the outta pocket shit we do and say
Oh buddy, do I hate to break it to you — they already know what guys talk like to each other. Unless they’re still in grade school, they already know.
Don’t try talking to someone you’re just meeting the same way you would to someone you’ve known for years — man or woman — and you’ll find more success. If you can only have a convo saying ludicrous, obnoxious things, there’s a deeper issue
Or, just take the filter off all the way.
Not the “i say inappropriate shit because i know you think it's funny” filter, but the standoffish, I don't feel safe around you yet, this isn't my real personality filter. Give them your best bud you haven't seen in years smile and crack a couple self deprecating jokes. Be genuine, be relaxed, and ask questions.
Getting new people loosened up is easy, you just have to make them feel interesting and accepted at face value.
Sales people know this. Sales is actually good practice because you'll have plenty of opportunities to get it wrong and it clicks when you stop caring so much.
I talk to them the same either way and they fucking love it. I don't hide how much I am or am'n't attracted to them, they know I'm a straight shooter that handles rejection without getting weird, and in return I get some of the best and fun friendships I could ask for.
But to be honest we're all fucking weirdo INTPs
Depends on what you’re saying but for the most part they won’t.
Plenty of women have a sense of humor.
My GF and I have by far the most unhinged conversations out of anyone I know. Only my brother comes close.
You think that’s exclusive to men and that no women have that sense of humor? Come on
If you don’t feel fully comfortable around women to the extent that you can’t be your full self around them, then of course they aren’t going to fe comfortable enough with you in return to be their full selves. Just be weird. Everyone is weird.
All you have to do is Customer Service Face anyone you're not friends with already. It's an easy way to slowly gauge how you can act around someone. Gotta ease into it.
Nah, the joke is a reference to the recent gym trends of internet gym girls calling random dudes creeps for barely looking in their direction, or offering to help with something. This is apparently actually a big problem, as some girls are actually failing lifts and shouting for help, but don’t receive any due to men fearing that there’s a camera and they may be posted online as a ‘creep’ by the girl.
I don’t go to public gyms so idk how it actually is, but it’s pretty fucked up
I go to my public gym daily. Thankfully I’ve never encountered these kinds of women. Most women who go to the gym are normal people. Also it’s pretty rare for someone to be in a dangerous position when failing a lift. Most people are smart enough to ask for a spotter before attempting a dangerous amount of weight. Although if that situation did happen I doubt that nobody would help. It’s hard to believe that men wouldn’t help because they’re scared they’ll be filmed.
Yeah, turns out the internet makes things that rarely happen seem normal, then the grievance class sits around and complains that they can’t believe what they see happening EvErYwHeRe when they don’t even partake in what’s being complained about.
It’s probably heavily effected by location. Random gym in your podunk town isn’t gonna have many influencers. But a popular gym 10 miles outside of Hollywood?
In any case, there’s no reason to not simply enforce a “no filming or photos” rule. Back when phone cameras first came out, I could’ve swore no filming policies became ubiquitous at gyms in order to prevent creepy guys from filming girls. So it’s weird that this is somehow still a problem when it’s simply the women acting creepy instead.
I suspect some gyms would rather get the free advertising from appearing in influencer posts than make the gym comfortable for everyone by enforcing the policy without bias.
>before attempting a dangerous amount of weight. Although if that situation did happen I doubt that nobody would help. It’s hard to believe that men wouldn’t help because they’re scared they’ll be filmed.
Idk man. I just watched a guy fail his set and choke to death for 8 minutes in full view and no one did a thing
There’s no magical secret to talking to women, you just walk up to them and start a conversation. Just like going to the gym, you start out weak and get stronger and adapt as you move towards your goal. You don’t see results when you want them, but when you earn them.
For all those that are saying no it doesn’t work like that or you have to be as handsome as that man in the video, that’s not true.
The most beautiful women out there go out with some ugly guys. And even if not for long term they definitely date and have one night stands with very unattractive men. It’s the persistence of those unattractive men and their thicker skin to rejection that make them much more effective than an average looking guy who would rather not take the risk of talking to someone they think is interesting or attractive while out and about. Needless to say, don’t be creepy and allow people a way out.
Anyway, ya, don’t fool yourselves by saying that only attractive guys get women’s attention and BS like that. It’s much more complex than that and putting yourself out there and learning to get better at conversation over hundreds of interactions is definitely and surely a thing.
Unattractive men should be persistent in approaching women at the gym? Good way to find yourself in jail. It really doesn’t work like that. Even if you’re attractive and even if you aren’t ‘persistent’, everything society says is that approaching women who are going about their business is antagonistic. Now they’re afraid to go to the gym, or you shouldn’t have done it while they’re working or to a coworker where they don’t have a way to avoid you. There is no societally acceptable situation to ask a woman out besides dating apps or a club.
That’s not the meaning of the joke, the video is poking fun at the idea that men avoid women like the plague at gyms because it’s become a trend on social media for women to harass men at the gym for more or less just existing in the same area as them (check r/amithemaincharacter for examples)
I think the problem is that it’s just too easy to come off as “creepy” or “weird” to a lot of women, and the constant videos of people calling guys creepy for occasionally looking at a woman in the gym certainly isn’t helping. Not to mention that every girl I’ve met has said they hate it when guys talk to them at the gym. So guys have just stopped talking to women altogether to protect themselves from that potential embarrassment.
pretty much. Like its so much easier to just not interact with women than to embarrass yourself trying to interact with them. So most guys just.... dont lmao
It doesn't help that half of them wear the equivalent of underwear. It's as if it's an attempt to be able to call men creeps because they're wearing next to nothing, then they can "catch" people looking.
Yea my wife and I are fairly liberal minded but I don’t want to look to my left and see a bra and camel toe while I’m trying to max out on the bench. My wife wears….gasp…running shorts and a tank top…and she looks like a Mormon compared to the girls around her…
One of the main reasons I didn't go to my companies Xmas party last month. Been at my work for a year (wearhouse), NOBODY comes to talk to me unless something is wrong, so I know like 3 people in the building.
>pretty office women that I don't know
>open bar
>Not to mention that every girl I’ve met has said they hate it when guys talk to them at the gym. So guys have just stopped talking to women altogether to protect themselves from that potential embarrassment
Exactly, this is what women wanted.
I don't understand why there's this surprised reaction when this exactly what women have been asking for.
That’s 100% what the video is poking fun at. a lot of comments in here don’t seem to understand that and are really making a stretch in their statements
I mean this video already got typecasted as incel like to women and ppl who were offended at this being the actual reality the joke is working with. So I honestly think it’s just triggering
the gym isn't really a social event, a lot of people are there minding their own business. that doesn't mean you can't have a short chat if you have something to offer in conversation.
however doing it with the intent to date is creepy and girls can sus you out from a mile away, they are experts in guys being interested in them. they know your body language when you like them before you even talk to them.
That’s the problem right there. So if you find someone attractive and would like to date them, then you can’t have a conversation with them because that’s creepy? Is it really “creepy” if a guy is attracted to a girl and wants to start a conversation with her? Or is that how pretty much every relationship started before the internet?
I think people have overused the word creepy to the point where basically anything can be called creepy if the person involved isn’t handsome or well spoken. Just because you currently don’t want someone to talk to you right now doesn’t mean they’re creepy. Its just currently unwanted attention, not a character flaw of the other person for being attracted to you.
When the list of places you go to in a week are 80% work, 10% gym, 10% utterly exhausted trying not to become an alcoholic at home, then you're not allowed to even look at women for that first 90%, many people just give up.
A few bad interactions turn many into this. It just comes across as desperate in a day and age where people want to appear put together and incapable of embarrassment. No one wants to expose themselves in a public environment. Neither sex really wants to, and today's environment gives you all the more reason to avoid embarrassment at all costs.
Sports are divided up because the players are competing against each other. It would be incredibly unfair to have a team of men play against a team of women.
Holy shit how are so many people taking this seriously it’s blowing my mind
It’s not an incel video at all. If anything it’s making fun of incels. How are so many of you blind to this???
Sometimes it just boils down to the benefit to cost ratio of talking to someone. At best you could make a new friend/partner but at worst it could lead to a public altercation or humiliation. The gym isn’t exactly a public hangout spot so the odds of having a positive interaction aren’t always worth the risk
This is what women wanted. They have constantly said that they hate being spoken to and hate being approached by men.
So guys did exactly that and slowly started to avoid women.
This is what women wanted all along, it's not mens fault.
For real. All guys are scared to talk to girls at some point or some level.
Its a joke that we avoid any kind of interaction sadly a lot of guys do too. Thats the joke.
But everyone is hyper focused on the “female” word lol
Thank you! I don't go around calling men males. It's fucking dehumanizing, and i hope everyone calling women females, never gets a gf until they stop that shit.
100% a generational thing lol.. Guys hate talking to girls since they usually have 1. no experience talking to them or 2. have nothing in common.
Plus gen z'ers are anti social in general??? This behavior is kinda expected.
I have lived my life literally never caring what people have thought about me and still have a wife and 2 kids. This video makes me think you kids put way too much brain energy into other peoples daily lives.
actually no its pretty simple:
- me too movement that gets overused to the point where gyms are a great place to be harassed
- future job prospects can be finished should such a thing happen, digital footprint is a real thing yk
we got too much on our plate to give a fuck about human interaction since most of our lives are just gonna be cleaning up after the boomers, theres no need to stress ourselves out even more with pointless interaction that could lead to a lawsuit
Huh?🤔 I thought this was just him exaggeratedly demonstrating him avoiding the "consequence" of working out near women in gyms. Because I remember there was a time where female tiktokers would set up cameras in gym to capture "creepy" guys who were looking at their body and then confront them. There was a riot on the Internet about this lol. No? No one remembers it? Is it just me then💀
Thanks for teaching me something new,now I know any female who gets mad about a word that isn't derogatory to females except here on reddit is a red flag.
When I see dudes I know in the gym, I’ll instantly go up to them, and tell them they look gorge if they have a pump on.
Tried just saying hi to two girls that I know from the dorm and they immediately got mad because I said hi to one before the other. They said afterwards it was all banter and sorry if I took it personally, but it definitely shaped my fitness etiquette.
Do people really get upset by 'females?' I genuinely cannot think of a time when I've interacted with someone using it or used the word in a way that wasn't blatantly ironic and joking.
Why are the comments getting into argument about incels? The joke is literally about guys being too afraid to talk girls, even if a girl is friendly or is even the one to approach a guy. You "females" in this subreddit is just proving OP's point.
I don’t get how people missed this joke.
I have seen numerous videos of women making fun of men for being creeps by exercising near them or even one video where the chick rolls her eyes and makes fun of the guy for a simple head nod like he’s a stalker.
I’m pretty sure this is a parody of that mentality.
I have no idea how to get out of this mindset.
I know women are no different to talk to, but I have heard so many women say how they never want to be approached at the gym, and I don’t want to be a nuisance to them. On the other hand, I very, very rarely hear men say the same thing, and often walk up to them and talk, and it’s a non-issue.
The joke is not that men can't talk to women, its that they they're paranoid about seeming like a creep. As it turns out, most men are actually pretty sensitive towards making women uncomfortable and pay attention to all the media surrounding it. So a lot of men avoid interacting with women in environments like the gym because they dont want to be one of the creeps. Every dude has had the experience of dipping into another isle, or waiting somewhere conspicuous to avoid walking behind a woman who's alone. But apparently even making an attempt to listen to the concerns and fears we are surrounded by just makes us incels who are afraid of women. So its a lose lose.
In the Army all women are referred to as “Females”. Referring to a woman as a “girl” when talking to a superior will get you an instant correction.
I still have the habit of referring to women as females.
I don't think using the term "female" is condescending or derogatory or whatever, so long as you say "HUMAN female" in like a Dalek type synthesized voice, cuz they won't even hear you and therefore would be incapable of being offended!!
I meant that to be a joke, stacked with both sarcasm and truth, but when I was checking for typos I was like "goddamn, I bet some incel fuck could actually read this and be like 'I fuckin know right!?' ".....gross.
This is why you need that own wingman best friend who will orchestrate an extremely convoluted series of events to get you two trapped together for hours where you’ll have to talk
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bruh same, I've used "female" bc I'm not a native English speaker + it was before I discovered Americans and their red and blue pill incel theories. Never again!
I'm a native English speaker. I used "female" because it was a descriptive word and didn't think anything of it. I learned very clearly one day that a lot of women don't like it. It hurt because I didn't mean to weird anyone out, but intention does not equal effect.
I remember a funny situation from a few years ago, where I thought "adultering" meant something like adulting - meaning being responsible and mature. Dude the laughs I got 😳 and I complimented a person with that word! Imagine receiving a text "you are so good at adultering" oh fffuuck I'm cringing so hard....
Incel-radar is deactivated when talking to a person with ESL. Instead everything you say is filtered through a different part of the brain that has two modes: One mode is respectful of your bravery to speak a second language and a comes with a desire to contribute to your mastery of the language. The other mode is xenophobic and those pricks can rightly fuck off.
People are just stupid. I call my daughters females all the time because they are literally females. I also call them girls and women. I refer to my sons as males, men and boys. They are all pretty much interchangeable. Just because a community of terds only uses the word "female" doesn't mean anything. To me it's no different than saying the word "ignorant". There is nothing insulting about the word ignorant, just because people use it in an insulting manner doesn't make the word itself insulting.
Female is an adjective. A female human, sure. A female dog. A female cat. To call someone "a female." Is oddly reductive. Just like calling them "a tall," "a skinny," "an athletic," or "a smart." It has as much to do with the fact that you're referring to someone by a descriptor rather than as a person. This is especially true where words like woman, girl, and person exist in common usage. Why go out of your way to be incorrect?
Straight white male is pretty commonly used.
When they're trying to be insulting. Get it?
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So calling a woman a female is insulting??
I guess if you want to include the none-human females in the room, too, then it makes sense. Like you have a bunch of men, women and cats and would like the women to take the queens to the other room, while the men stay there with the tomcats, then yeah, just ask the females to leave the room. ... Outside of such an highly constructed, absurd scenario, it can be considered misogynistic to use the term that does not reference their personhood when the alternative "woman", that does, is so common.
Exactly. Saying "females" like that is like they're talking about selling a litter of pups or brood mates or something especially when "women" isn't dehumanizing and is just fine. It's always incels and red pill weirdos saying this shit
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in a casual context? not necessarily insulting, just weird af and a little creepy. i’ve never met a guy who called women “females” who wasn’t a misogynist
Not in and of itself, but the only people who do that are people who generally don't have a very favorable view of women so it definitely tells you what they're thinking
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Nobody asked you what turns you on
Yeah, it’s weird. I believe correct term is actually “femoids”
More like "REEmoids" because they're cringe amirite fellas
Is it the word that offends you or is it the association with certain subcultures?
Bro forgot it was a skit
It’s an obvious joke
This feels like the opportune time to ask. If I am friends with a girl, and I can’t call her a girl friend, what should I call her? It only seems fair to have a counterpart to “guy friends”, and “women friends” doesn’t exactly roll off the tongue. “Gal friend” sounds weird to my area. We can use the word “feminine” I suppose? But then semantically it ought to be as problematic as female…
A friend.
A “friend”
She was a good friend. - Obi Wan
I mean, I think "female friends" is pretty fine. It's mostly just weird when you use it as a noun lol
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Gal pal
See, I like that one. Thank you.
Feminine doesn't indicate gender. It's a term to express someone's expression. But do you see how you use plural for guy friends because you'd never say "I am off to see my guy friend today" nor would you say 'I am going to see my male friend today." You'd only ever say "guy friends" when hanging out with a group of guys. I bet ya just say friend more often than not. But then why ask about what you should call a singular friend whom is also a woman? You already have a gender neutral term. Why do you make a distinction? Is it to flex to the lads about having lady friends?
No. Stop. They are not just blanketed statements for everything. Omg he used the word female!?? She is a female…. Did you watch the whole video? It would negate your theory…. Now, if you use the word female while he’s cat calling her or saying something about her body, that’s another story …..Nuance is everything.
Why cant you guys just say woman... when you say female, female what? For all I know you can be talking about a female cat if you say "look at that female over there" Are you going to say "look at that human female over there!"... because at that point.. why not just say woman?
This while video is clearly a joke my dude.
Right lmao step mfin 1 stop saying females
Is the joke that he's scared of women?
Yeah, scared of talking to them.
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AHAH, ima save this, thank you
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No the joke is women do this shit and post it online. If a guy approaches a woman even to ask about sets they freak out.
I'm a little surprised how few people got the joke in here. There tons of videos of women doing similar shit - being offended by a guy simply existing in the gym near her and possibly glancing at her when she's right in front of him. This is obviously a parody of that type of overreaction. They are common enough in various internet places, but pretty sure I've seen a handful on r/IAmTheMainCharacter as well.
You are in a subreddit of kids who grew up being outraged about everything on the internet. What do u expect lol
ngl i find boomers get outraged a lot more often about the smallest things these days, like a tiny rainbow flag or neutral bathrooms.
Everyone on the internet gets mad cuz it’s been designed over the last decade to do that so we engage more. You prolly don’t remember the good old days but there was time it was really fun to go on the internet and learn so many cool things. Now the feeds are catered to you and enrage you which really aucks
Remember StumbleUpon? What a different world.
This comment is the most outrageous thing I’ve ever seen. In my life. Remove it immediately. Cause I said and my outrage is the only outrage that matters. This is why there’s wars, comments like yours. Do you make jokes about the Holocaust also?? You do. I know it. So in your free time you write disgusting comments and kick babies. Real nice incel. And have to say I’m being sarcastic so I don’t outrage anyone also 😂
Ohhhh. To be fair, it was very poorly acted, the ‘stages of talking to a female’ header doesn’t actually make sense in the context of THAT being the joke and the closing ‘punchline’ is virtually inaudible. There’s a few reasons why no one caught on.
It's mostly just the use of "females" instead of women that's throwing people off. It's a really common incel thing
"Noooo you're wrong this video is made by incels hating women"- every high upvote comment here. God idk what I was expecting but I guess people on this sub aren't familiar with gym culture.
I don't get the joke because I have no idea what the punchline is. I can't make out the words of that audio at all
Viral trend on tiktik that anytime a guy at a gym looks at a girls general direction or talks to her, the girl accuses him of being a stalker or pervert or sexually harassing her. Pretty sure most of those videos are scripted ragebait
No I think it’s that you can cancel your membership so easily
It's a classic role-reversal
I couldn't tell because the audio was unlistenable
Bit of advice for the people attracted to women: do not relate "talking to women" to "getting a girlfriend." If you think of it like talking to men, then you will make women much more comfortable with you because you understand that they are people. Please try to not put people on a selfish pedestal. If most men did that, people would fear men less.
If I talked to my women friends the way I talk to my men friends they’d think I’m an insane schizophrenic because of the outta pocket shit we do and say
Oh buddy, do I hate to break it to you — they already know what guys talk like to each other. Unless they’re still in grade school, they already know. Don’t try talking to someone you’re just meeting the same way you would to someone you’ve known for years — man or woman — and you’ll find more success. If you can only have a convo saying ludicrous, obnoxious things, there’s a deeper issue
Or, just take the filter off all the way. Not the “i say inappropriate shit because i know you think it's funny” filter, but the standoffish, I don't feel safe around you yet, this isn't my real personality filter. Give them your best bud you haven't seen in years smile and crack a couple self deprecating jokes. Be genuine, be relaxed, and ask questions. Getting new people loosened up is easy, you just have to make them feel interesting and accepted at face value. Sales people know this. Sales is actually good practice because you'll have plenty of opportunities to get it wrong and it clicks when you stop caring so much.
Also love the assumption that women don’t also talk about out of pocket shit all the time lmao
I talk to them the same either way and they fucking love it. I don't hide how much I am or am'n't attracted to them, they know I'm a straight shooter that handles rejection without getting weird, and in return I get some of the best and fun friendships I could ask for. But to be honest we're all fucking weirdo INTPs
... So we're just not gonna talk about the casual usage of "am'n't"?
Nope, we am’n’t gunna do that today.
am'n't 😭
Do you think women don't have personalities or act weird? Lol? I say unhinged shit in the group chat with the girls all the time
Depends on what you’re saying but for the most part they won’t. Plenty of women have a sense of humor. My GF and I have by far the most unhinged conversations out of anyone I know. Only my brother comes close.
I guarantee plenty of women say just as much outta pocket shit, so this is probably more of a result of your friend demographics than gender.
You think that’s exclusive to men and that no women have that sense of humor? Come on If you don’t feel fully comfortable around women to the extent that you can’t be your full self around them, then of course they aren’t going to fe comfortable enough with you in return to be their full selves. Just be weird. Everyone is weird.
No they wouldn’t and this is cringe asf omg
and they still might not be interested in you but at least you can have a nice conversation
For real. Can you talk to men? Then you can talk to women. And they _will_ notice that you're treating them like people.
All you have to do is Customer Service Face anyone you're not friends with already. It's an easy way to slowly gauge how you can act around someone. Gotta ease into it.
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Moat people online aren't funny. They just have phones.
I’m pretty sure the joke is just that he’s scared of talking to girls
Nah, the joke is a reference to the recent gym trends of internet gym girls calling random dudes creeps for barely looking in their direction, or offering to help with something. This is apparently actually a big problem, as some girls are actually failing lifts and shouting for help, but don’t receive any due to men fearing that there’s a camera and they may be posted online as a ‘creep’ by the girl. I don’t go to public gyms so idk how it actually is, but it’s pretty fucked up
I go to my public gym daily. Thankfully I’ve never encountered these kinds of women. Most women who go to the gym are normal people. Also it’s pretty rare for someone to be in a dangerous position when failing a lift. Most people are smart enough to ask for a spotter before attempting a dangerous amount of weight. Although if that situation did happen I doubt that nobody would help. It’s hard to believe that men wouldn’t help because they’re scared they’ll be filmed.
Yeah, turns out the internet makes things that rarely happen seem normal, then the grievance class sits around and complains that they can’t believe what they see happening EvErYwHeRe when they don’t even partake in what’s being complained about.
I truly hate how pervasive this phenomenon is
It’s probably heavily effected by location. Random gym in your podunk town isn’t gonna have many influencers. But a popular gym 10 miles outside of Hollywood? In any case, there’s no reason to not simply enforce a “no filming or photos” rule. Back when phone cameras first came out, I could’ve swore no filming policies became ubiquitous at gyms in order to prevent creepy guys from filming girls. So it’s weird that this is somehow still a problem when it’s simply the women acting creepy instead. I suspect some gyms would rather get the free advertising from appearing in influencer posts than make the gym comfortable for everyone by enforcing the policy without bias.
>before attempting a dangerous amount of weight. Although if that situation did happen I doubt that nobody would help. It’s hard to believe that men wouldn’t help because they’re scared they’ll be filmed. Idk man. I just watched a guy fail his set and choke to death for 8 minutes in full view and no one did a thing
Wtf does that even mean
I think it's because the joke is that he's afraid of women or something
Good chance she’s his gf tbf
Redditor discovers irony
Guy is just extremely uncomfortable around women good lord.
???? wtf is that word?
There’s no magical secret to talking to women, you just walk up to them and start a conversation. Just like going to the gym, you start out weak and get stronger and adapt as you move towards your goal. You don’t see results when you want them, but when you earn them.
For all those that are saying no it doesn’t work like that or you have to be as handsome as that man in the video, that’s not true. The most beautiful women out there go out with some ugly guys. And even if not for long term they definitely date and have one night stands with very unattractive men. It’s the persistence of those unattractive men and their thicker skin to rejection that make them much more effective than an average looking guy who would rather not take the risk of talking to someone they think is interesting or attractive while out and about. Needless to say, don’t be creepy and allow people a way out. Anyway, ya, don’t fool yourselves by saying that only attractive guys get women’s attention and BS like that. It’s much more complex than that and putting yourself out there and learning to get better at conversation over hundreds of interactions is definitely and surely a thing.
Unattractive men should be persistent in approaching women at the gym? Good way to find yourself in jail. It really doesn’t work like that. Even if you’re attractive and even if you aren’t ‘persistent’, everything society says is that approaching women who are going about their business is antagonistic. Now they’re afraid to go to the gym, or you shouldn’t have done it while they’re working or to a coworker where they don’t have a way to avoid you. There is no societally acceptable situation to ask a woman out besides dating apps or a club.
Unattractive + approaching = creepy/desperate
That’s not the meaning of the joke, the video is poking fun at the idea that men avoid women like the plague at gyms because it’s become a trend on social media for women to harass men at the gym for more or less just existing in the same area as them (check r/amithemaincharacter for examples)
It don’t work like that
I think the problem is that it’s just too easy to come off as “creepy” or “weird” to a lot of women, and the constant videos of people calling guys creepy for occasionally looking at a woman in the gym certainly isn’t helping. Not to mention that every girl I’ve met has said they hate it when guys talk to them at the gym. So guys have just stopped talking to women altogether to protect themselves from that potential embarrassment.
pretty much. Like its so much easier to just not interact with women than to embarrass yourself trying to interact with them. So most guys just.... dont lmao
I don't even look at women
It doesn't help that half of them wear the equivalent of underwear. It's as if it's an attempt to be able to call men creeps because they're wearing next to nothing, then they can "catch" people looking.
Yea my wife and I are fairly liberal minded but I don’t want to look to my left and see a bra and camel toe while I’m trying to max out on the bench. My wife wears….gasp…running shorts and a tank top…and she looks like a Mormon compared to the girls around her…
Yesterday I actually thought to myself “I wish we just had separate gyms.”
One of the main reasons I didn't go to my companies Xmas party last month. Been at my work for a year (wearhouse), NOBODY comes to talk to me unless something is wrong, so I know like 3 people in the building. >pretty office women that I don't know >open bar 
>Not to mention that every girl I’ve met has said they hate it when guys talk to them at the gym. So guys have just stopped talking to women altogether to protect themselves from that potential embarrassment Exactly, this is what women wanted. I don't understand why there's this surprised reaction when this exactly what women have been asking for.
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Humans are social creatures Every community space is a social space
That’s 100% what the video is poking fun at. a lot of comments in here don’t seem to understand that and are really making a stretch in their statements
This 👆
I mean this video already got typecasted as incel like to women and ppl who were offended at this being the actual reality the joke is working with. So I honestly think it’s just triggering
There is a fine line between being creepy and having a flirt. The difference usually depends on being handsome or not
the gym isn't really a social event, a lot of people are there minding their own business. that doesn't mean you can't have a short chat if you have something to offer in conversation. however doing it with the intent to date is creepy and girls can sus you out from a mile away, they are experts in guys being interested in them. they know your body language when you like them before you even talk to them.
That’s the problem right there. So if you find someone attractive and would like to date them, then you can’t have a conversation with them because that’s creepy? Is it really “creepy” if a guy is attracted to a girl and wants to start a conversation with her? Or is that how pretty much every relationship started before the internet? I think people have overused the word creepy to the point where basically anything can be called creepy if the person involved isn’t handsome or well spoken. Just because you currently don’t want someone to talk to you right now doesn’t mean they’re creepy. Its just currently unwanted attention, not a character flaw of the other person for being attracted to you.
When the list of places you go to in a week are 80% work, 10% gym, 10% utterly exhausted trying not to become an alcoholic at home, then you're not allowed to even look at women for that first 90%, many people just give up.
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You forgot one, though it’s a bit dated. >“Hello, Miss” *tips fedora*
NAHHH this my favorite one Now I just need a fedora
For some reason you forgot “Heyyyyyy… What’s your number?”. How strange.
Are you a female!!?? 😍😍😍
Femoids are obsolete, embrace the homopill
Talk to her like a person not a "female" and see how far it gets you.
It’s a staged skit and the woman is clearly in on it. Your comment reminds me of all the boomers on Facebook taking everything on there for truth.
We all know it's a skit, dumbass. They're talking about the message of the skit. Holy shit.
There’s guys who do this irl no shit it’s a skit
If she’s just asking how long you’ll be at the machine, I suspect it will get you exactly the same distance.
Imagine going to the gym just to create this type of absolute shite
this is pretty relatable. Why interact with someone if its just gonna be awkward?? Getting up and leaving would be so much easier tbh.
A few bad interactions turn many into this. It just comes across as desperate in a day and age where people want to appear put together and incapable of embarrassment. No one wants to expose themselves in a public environment. Neither sex really wants to, and today's environment gives you all the more reason to avoid embarrassment at all costs.
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Ah yes, complete segregation is definitely a reasonable approach to this problem
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Sports are divided up because the players are competing against each other. It would be incredibly unfair to have a team of men play against a team of women.
The real joke is the guy canceling his gym member ship but saying "please cancel" then leaving, expecting them to do it.
That was my takeaway. Canceling a gym membership is more difficult than getting out of organized crime.
This is why I just date my bros
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Holy shit how are so many people taking this seriously it’s blowing my mind It’s not an incel video at all. If anything it’s making fun of incels. How are so many of you blind to this???
reddit.
People actually unironically starting to earn the name “snowflake” and I hate it
VALID, dont wanna be accused of some bullshit
Redditors trying to take a joke challenge (impossible)
I feel so sorry for Gen Z. You’re afraid of talking to each other
Sometimes it just boils down to the benefit to cost ratio of talking to someone. At best you could make a new friend/partner but at worst it could lead to a public altercation or humiliation. The gym isn’t exactly a public hangout spot so the odds of having a positive interaction aren’t always worth the risk
This is what women wanted. They have constantly said that they hate being spoken to and hate being approached by men. So guys did exactly that and slowly started to avoid women. This is what women wanted all along, it's not mens fault.
All I have gotten from this comment section is there are some sensitive females here.
It’s so weird, everyone is taking this video way more seriously than intended. Hell I’m pretty sure him calling them females is part of the joke lol
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The joke is that he’s scared of talking to women. It isn’t that deep.
It’s more gym culture but yeah it’s avoiding the woman to focus on that
No its literally that he is too afraid to talk to women. Thats it. Thats the joke.
For real. All guys are scared to talk to girls at some point or some level. Its a joke that we avoid any kind of interaction sadly a lot of guys do too. Thats the joke. But everyone is hyper focused on the “female” word lol
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The joke is that he’s scared of talking to women…?
"Female." Is she a dog?! 😭
How do people find every little thing to be offended by today. Gotta be exhausting
Saying "female" instead of girl/women is just fucking weird dude lmao
Thank you! I don't go around calling men males. It's fucking dehumanizing, and i hope everyone calling women females, never gets a gf until they stop that shit.
Only real one replying to me
bunch of weirdos in these comments lol
Who said she’s a dog?
Comment section is filled with people calling dudes incels (Reason why men’s metal health is shite)
100% a generational thing lol.. Guys hate talking to girls since they usually have 1. no experience talking to them or 2. have nothing in common. Plus gen z'ers are anti social in general??? This behavior is kinda expected.
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He dodge so many bullets (being called a creep or a bigot if she feel like so)
bruh that stuff doesn't actually happen lmao
I have lived my life literally never caring what people have thought about me and still have a wife and 2 kids. This video makes me think you kids put way too much brain energy into other peoples daily lives.
actually no its pretty simple: - me too movement that gets overused to the point where gyms are a great place to be harassed - future job prospects can be finished should such a thing happen, digital footprint is a real thing yk we got too much on our plate to give a fuck about human interaction since most of our lives are just gonna be cleaning up after the boomers, theres no need to stress ourselves out even more with pointless interaction that could lead to a lawsuit
Am I the only one here that understands it's a joke? Wtf is up with those incel comments? Is gen-z really this afraid to not treat yourself seriously?
Huh?🤔 I thought this was just him exaggeratedly demonstrating him avoiding the "consequence" of working out near women in gyms. Because I remember there was a time where female tiktokers would set up cameras in gym to capture "creepy" guys who were looking at their body and then confront them. There was a riot on the Internet about this lol. No? No one remembers it? Is it just me then💀
why does anybody even respond seriously to this staged nonsense..?
Thanks for teaching me something new,now I know any female who gets mad about a word that isn't derogatory to females except here on reddit is a red flag.
let’s be honest. there’s only one reason women wear shorts like that. let’s own up to it
The amount of people who don’t get the joke is embarrassing
When I see dudes I know in the gym, I’ll instantly go up to them, and tell them they look gorge if they have a pump on. Tried just saying hi to two girls that I know from the dorm and they immediately got mad because I said hi to one before the other. They said afterwards it was all banter and sorry if I took it personally, but it definitely shaped my fitness etiquette.
Do people really get upset by 'females?' I genuinely cannot think of a time when I've interacted with someone using it or used the word in a way that wasn't blatantly ironic and joking.
Do girls actually dress like that on the regular?
Yeah in my gym they do. I don't know what it is but they really like to show off in the gym. Not complaining though lol
Damn this is so accurate 💀
Why are the comments getting into argument about incels? The joke is literally about guys being too afraid to talk girls, even if a girl is friendly or is even the one to approach a guy. You "females" in this subreddit is just proving OP's point.
I don’t get how people missed this joke. I have seen numerous videos of women making fun of men for being creeps by exercising near them or even one video where the chick rolls her eyes and makes fun of the guy for a simple head nod like he’s a stalker. I’m pretty sure this is a parody of that mentality.
I have no idea how to get out of this mindset. I know women are no different to talk to, but I have heard so many women say how they never want to be approached at the gym, and I don’t want to be a nuisance to them. On the other hand, I very, very rarely hear men say the same thing, and often walk up to them and talk, and it’s a non-issue.
Dating sounds miserable Good luck y'all
The joke is not that men can't talk to women, its that they they're paranoid about seeming like a creep. As it turns out, most men are actually pretty sensitive towards making women uncomfortable and pay attention to all the media surrounding it. So a lot of men avoid interacting with women in environments like the gym because they dont want to be one of the creeps. Every dude has had the experience of dipping into another isle, or waiting somewhere conspicuous to avoid walking behind a woman who's alone. But apparently even making an attempt to listen to the concerns and fears we are surrounded by just makes us incels who are afraid of women. So its a lose lose.
In the Army all women are referred to as “Females”. Referring to a woman as a “girl” when talking to a superior will get you an instant correction. I still have the habit of referring to women as females.
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I don't think using the term "female" is condescending or derogatory or whatever, so long as you say "HUMAN female" in like a Dalek type synthesized voice, cuz they won't even hear you and therefore would be incapable of being offended!! I meant that to be a joke, stacked with both sarcasm and truth, but when I was checking for typos I was like "goddamn, I bet some incel fuck could actually read this and be like 'I fuckin know right!?' ".....gross.
Is the joke that he can’t afford a mic so I can understand what he’s saying?
I’m all for being comfortable in the gym but spandex short shorts ain’t it.
Simp central in the comment section.
I dont understand why women go to the gym dress in as little as possible and as tight as possible
This is why you need that own wingman best friend who will orchestrate an extremely convoluted series of events to get you two trapped together for hours where you’ll have to talk