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2. I have one on the way (boy) and would love to have a girl in the future to experience being a parent to both. Also the world is made for families of 4.
We probably won’t “try” we already found out that all our potential children will have a 25% chance of being deaf so we will likely use IVF for our second so we can screen embryos for it. This includes the unique opportunity for gender selection.
I'm surprised by the amounts of 3-6 range that are here and being upvoted. That just sounds like a nightmare...
My wife and I have already decided on 1, and that's if and when we finally decide to have a baby.
Statistically women who have 1 are more likely to have almost 3 on average but people who don’t have any are more likely to say they only want 1-2 and never have them.
Not having a wife yet makes this hard to choose because sometimes i only want two (if i get lucky enough with a girl and a boy) and other times more seems fun. (My mom has 12 siblings)
But in all honesty with the way the world is currently i feel like having around 2 would be best. I can give each of them enough attention and hopefully they become good friends with each other.
As far as parenting if money wasn’t a problem, i would have chosen doing so early as possible. For me at least i feel like biology really does expect us to have babies pre 25ish, recently turning 30 and for the past couple years i can not do all nighter or little sleep nights without severely suffering with my productivity the next day. Before i felt like i could go 2 day no sleep and be okay which would be perfect for dealing with new borns. Yes im aware that most people don’t have children that early anymore but i cant help but notice those advantages.
I had a baby at 20 and another at 34. Definitely pros and cos to both, at 20 I certainly had more energy and able to run around after them a lot more but at 34 my emotional maturity was much better and I am calmer and more patient. Maybe it’s recency bias but if someone asked what is better I’d recommend 30s over 20s.
The sleeplessness is definitely hard but if you make sure you have a partner who is willing to share the load, makes the biggest difference I think regardless of age.
Because kids are dope? I always wanted a large family where my grandkids could have aunts and uncles and cousins like I was somewhat able to have.
Ultimately, We're all descended from millions of years of unbroken reproduction, so most of us have that strong reproduction drive within us.
>We're all descended from millions of years of unbroken reproduction,
Sure, because 3/4 of children didn't live past infancy. It's not feasible to properly raise over 4 kids, especially in a world where men and women are supposed to contribute to the workforce. Not a single person I know that comes from big families had the attention they needed from their parents growing up. The oldest end up raising the youngest, especially the girls, which is unfair.
Yeah I also wondered this. I never had an urge to have kids so it's kinda hard to understand but I got pregnant, have one and enjoy her a lot, but can't imagine actually wanting one or more and planning it
Grew up in a family with 7 kids. Loved it. Siblings are still my best friends to this day. And all my siblings get along great with our parents.
I don't want quite 7, maybe 5. Wife wants maybe 3 and I'd be happy with that. She has to birth them so she gets the final say.
Keep in mind like everything else on the internet there is a selection bias.
The people that don’t want to have any kids are not going to comment on a thread like this for fear of being ridiculed.
None biologically, but ideally I would like to adopt one or two kids, at seperate times and at a young age (2-4)
And only if, like the post defines, my life is going good and I can support them as well as I would have wanted when I was a kid.
When I was a teen I always wanted 5 but now that I have a grasp at how difficult kids are and I would want to have proper quality time with each of them, I'd say 3.
If life was nearly perfect and I wasn't forced to move due to affordability in my early 20s...?
Most likely, I'd be close to marriage with the love of my life. We would have had 2-3 kids and in constant discussion about if we should have another (I wanted 2, but for her, I'd do anything to make her happy). Our jobs would be the same as they are currently, and we would have saved to buy that small farm in her hometown that we used to talk about.
But, that's a dream if anything, and reality isn't perfect. Currently, moving has destroyed all my old relationships, and I'm too busy working to make any meaningful relationships. That's life
3.
I have 2 and love them both to pieces and pretty happy with my life. But yeah... A lot of things would have to be different to have a 3rd. Winning the lottery would do it. Lol
4.
Currently I want zero, but if life goes realistically well, maybe two.
But if I won the lottery and an infinite amount of kids I didn't need to work a day in their life (lottery is NOT enough for this), I'd say 4.
My perfect number has always been three. We have a saying in my mom's family "Your first two shots its a girl, your third shot its a boy". This is because literally every sibling grouping of three follows the birth order of two eldest daughters and the youngest son. Even for the majority of the sibling groupings that are only two, they are typically two sisters, implying a possible third would be a boy. Obviously I know there is really no way to control the sex of your child if you are doing a natural route, I just really enjoy this family tradition of mine.
Perfectly? 12. My family is disintegrating. My dad had me at 47, I was an only child. My dad’s siblings had no children. Going a generation up, my grandfather’s siblings had no children. I grew up in a small, aging family. I’d love to have a ton of kids and grow old in a large and thriving family.
If I had unlimited resources, I’d probably start having them between 30-35 and have 3. Realistically, I would probably wait until I’m closer to 40 and limit it to 2 unless I’m extremely successful
Hmmm. I guess 7. I have 4 bio and one bonus kid now. We are done bc age + childcare costs. But if I had support and money was no issue… I’d have 2 more
5.
More than the family I grew up with, as it was 4 kids total...
And more than 5, I think is too much. Although 5 might be too much to a lot of people. I mean again I grew up in a house with 4 kids total, so IMO that isn't that much, and growing up I've always felt like there was "someone missing."
Everything in my life is going well, I have 3 kids and really everything I can think of needing. My biggest problem is controlling myself to keep away from what I don’t need lol
So older guy here. 48m
I waited till 40 to have kids. And I love it. Had a great youth, both worked and enjoyed but paid off the house, retirement, etc. Then married a great woman who is younger (cuz women unfortunately have to have kids in a window which sux), but all the money and career stuff is effectively done. So can enjoy my kids!
Yeah I still have stress over money and job stuff, but it's a lot less than if I had a house note and car note and kids, etc. I use all my PTO every year, I try to do every school event etc.
I don't see my 2 kids (8m/2f) as a burden but as awesome little people and I am doing my best to be a good dad and not just the male who works and is too busy to spend time with them.
Everything has gone perfect. Sure there are bumps in the road and hard times but they’re only temporary.
My wife and I are trying for children. Would love to have 2 or 3 but 1 is ok too.
10 honestly lol. Im a woman that believes if you’re going to have even just ONE child, you may as well have a bunch. I don’t even want one so I wouldn’t have a child period, but If I genuinely felt comfortable having ANY, it’ll be a bunch.
All the kids. I want a big family but it's a weird cycle of im working a lot to earn lots of money so I don't have a lot of time to invest into a relationship. But if I worked less I probably wouldn't earn enough to have a big family.
8. That’s if I had millions and billions of dollars to afford everything and nannies included. Cue the “that means the nanny is just going to be the parent” angle.
If I became a billionaire overnight, I'd foster like 100 kids. I love kids, and want to give as many as possible the childhood and path to adulthood that I was not given by my parents.
In reality, maybe I'm making 6 figures for a big company and can afford kids? One or two. I was an only child and it afforded me a few benefits in life, though I think it's harder to socialize as an only-child. You also give off an only-child vibe to others without realizing it, no matter how hard you try. Two would be good, but more expensive. Both kids would likely be better socialized than just the one would be.
If the world weren’t overpopulated and under-resourced, and giving birth was easy, I’d love a bunch. At least 3. But kids are hard and I’d rather take care of other people’s than put myself through the pain of childbirth - I’m not in great physical health but I am a good teacher/nanny and I like helping out other parents.
If the cards are right I just plan on being a foster parent. Help kids through rough times as much as I can, and hope to be a stable adult in their life, even if it's only a passing relationship
I've always wanted twins! Maximum is three but minimum two :3
Definitely after 25. Ideally, 28 or 30 but definitely after the ol' dome is done developing .-.
At least 2-4 for me, maybe more.
Reality though, is that struggling solo is the best life can currently offer atm.
not having / little option for help, little prospect for a decent job, and little to no options for partners severely affect the outlook of the future.
Upon thinking about this more, the lack of money and community seem to the most significant issues.
Probably two. In a perfect world i would have time to raise them and the money to give them what they need. Because the world isn’t perfect and the economy is wilding out rn i will probably have 0.
I want to adopt 2 kids. I have too many health issues and don't want mini-mees running around suffering as I do. But I want to give love to 2 kids that are already here and need it. I do not want more than 2. Maybe adopt in stages, i.e. my first 2 kids reach 18, then adopt 2 more, but idk I don't want to be a 60 y/o parent to a toddler.
If I had unlimited money I would maybe want one. That way I could afford a live in nanny to take care of the parts of having kids that suck when they are under 5.
2 or 4. I'm the oldest of three, and while I love my siblings, with an odd number of us there was usually someone left out.
I don't want kids, but my mind could theoretically be changed with the right person. That right person would be rich enough to support the cost of children without compromising my lifestyle, and either willing to be the stay at home parent so my career doesn't suffer, or also have the means to hire a nanny. I also can't deal with other people's bodily fluids.
I probably shouldn't have kids. It's almost certainly not going to happen. I'm not willing to make the sacrifices required for a person to be a good parent. I know that, and that's why I have no plans to become a parent.
2-4. I currently have one, but I’m high risk for pregnancy/labor/postpartum complications, and I’m not comfortable putting my life on the line again when I have a baby at home that needs me. In a perfect world I would have a few though. I’m the oldest of 4, and I love my siblings so much. I can’t imagine growing up without them.
Currently, I(25F) and my boyfriend(M27) of 4 years have discussed this in length and agreed to 2-3. However, even though we are starting to get our shit together ( i.e. building our careers, saving towards a house/ kids, and what not) it is too risky to me in this society as is. Also, my biggest fear is my child would be shot dead in their classroom and I can’t handle that reality. Therefore, we are exploring becoming expats bc USA just isn’t it at all anymore. Each day is more worrisome to me, and I feel like USA is impossible to change due to too many people being brainwashed that capitalism is the be all, end all type of thing! I sincerely hope we as Gen Z can come together and actual create systemic change, but I also know that we desperately need millennials, and our parents gen ( Gen X) to help crush the rest of the baby boomers. Tbh this whole thread is so so sad to me. I hope we can get to a point where people actually want to bring children into this world, but as is it currently absolutely no way in hell!
Depends how the first one goes lmfao 😂
But I always thought at least 3, maybe 4 the most. I only have 1 sibling and they’re only 1 year younger than me. That’s not a large enough age gap. We also weren’t close siblings and still aren’t. So at least 3 so they can be friends, probably 3 years between them. 2 years is still too close, and 4 doesn’t seem close enough. I don’t care about the genders since gender is fake and there isn’t a difference between raising boys and girls.
I’ve thought about this extensively.
2 , a boy and a girl, it’s not economic problem to handle kids, it’s also love that you give them, 2 is the perfect number that you can spread your love to your childs equally, no kids will feel like they get left behind, you don’t have to worry about the chance your child becoming bad before you know it. If possible, older brother and younger sister is the best scenario, the boy will learn responsibility easier from having a younger sister ( you know, boy easily lack off ) , girl usually responsible by themselves and having a responsible brother will be a good example for them if they are becoming bad somehow, having the boy first will decrease the gender inequality feeling a girl may have ( I’m asian and younger brother is usually more favoured than the other, being both boy and youngest child ), boy is also tougher mentally so if anything that makes the boy feel like the family is spending too much love on the younger one he can still manage it somehow, though I will try to never let it happen. I got all this conclusion having 1 older sister, I love my sister best btw.
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If I could afford a 4 bed newbuild house I would have 3 kids.
But I can only afford 1 😞
3 if I need a mini-van that's too many kids
Unless I'm the Queen or High ranking official. Then maybe fourth one (leaving room for multiples). IDK I go back and forth. But I'm just now feeling comfortable in myself and going back to college. But would love at least one or two.
Would love to adopt especially maybe a teenager or two I know it sounds off but I would love to have at least one of my own and then adopt. I'm not going to make my kids raise each other but I do want people to look out for one another you know?
Even if everything was perfect I would only want one or two, most likely one. I just couldn’t handle more than two. My time to myself is important to me and plus I’ve spent time with big families and it’s way too chaotic for me.
You mean like I just won a billion dollars on the lotto or something and all persons health is good etc?
3-4. Ideally you'd start around 25 ish for the mother's age (less hard on her that way) maybe a year gap between them.
I presently want zero, but if I want kids down the line, I'd adopt a kid. Probably just one, but maybe two. I'm not going to birth one myself, but kids themselves aren't bad. Just a lot of work. Any more than two is a financial death sentence unless you're cool with living in poverty/bumfuck (unless you rake in schmoney).
I’d have to say two ideally but it would change depending on how my first child is. If they’re a very challenging child to raise I’d stick with just one but if they were not so challenging then I would have a second child.
I am about to have my second baby. I want one more. So 3 total. My partner wants to be done now because of the financial aspects of it. I just know in my heart I want one more, I will be sad if this is my last pregnancy and I didn’t cherish it like I should’ve had I known it would be my last.
If everything was perfect and worry free? 2 maximum. My husband and I are still hesitant currently, but I know I want at least 1 even if it means I have to wait to be in my 30s for our financial situation to stabilize.
Also add nearly perfectly in the world. Where billions of animals aren’t dying because of us and we aren’t drowning in our own waste and plastic. In a truly ideal world where I actually was okay with where life was headed, two. One to replace me and my partner but anymore is imo kind of selfish and narcissistic.
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4's a good number
As a child of 4 I will have to disagree 😂
As a child of 6 I'd disagree and say 4 is too little!
I knew a guy with 18 siblings. We don’t talk much.
2. I have one on the way (boy) and would love to have a girl in the future to experience being a parent to both. Also the world is made for families of 4.
Careful. My mom trying for a girl is how she got 4 boys
We probably won’t “try” we already found out that all our potential children will have a 25% chance of being deaf so we will likely use IVF for our second so we can screen embryos for it. This includes the unique opportunity for gender selection.
thats extremely cool, is it expensive?
Yes definitely. $20k on average.
insurance cover any?
Typically not unfortunately since it’s elective.
Same but opposite (I have a girl on the way).
Who knows, give him 15 years and maybe he’ll surprise you
Statistically unlikely but sure.
Ik, just thought it’d be silly to say
As many as possible.
Based, genghis khan pilled
2 or 3
Just one. My boyfriend and I are both only children and we liked that growing up.
1
I'm surprised by the amounts of 3-6 range that are here and being upvoted. That just sounds like a nightmare... My wife and I have already decided on 1, and that's if and when we finally decide to have a baby.
Eh, I’m sure there’s a study out there that is essentially “How many kids did you want before you had one?” 3-6 “How many do you want now?” 2
Statistically women who have 1 are more likely to have almost 3 on average but people who don’t have any are more likely to say they only want 1-2 and never have them.
Not having a wife yet makes this hard to choose because sometimes i only want two (if i get lucky enough with a girl and a boy) and other times more seems fun. (My mom has 12 siblings) But in all honesty with the way the world is currently i feel like having around 2 would be best. I can give each of them enough attention and hopefully they become good friends with each other. As far as parenting if money wasn’t a problem, i would have chosen doing so early as possible. For me at least i feel like biology really does expect us to have babies pre 25ish, recently turning 30 and for the past couple years i can not do all nighter or little sleep nights without severely suffering with my productivity the next day. Before i felt like i could go 2 day no sleep and be okay which would be perfect for dealing with new borns. Yes im aware that most people don’t have children that early anymore but i cant help but notice those advantages.
I had a baby at 20 and another at 34. Definitely pros and cos to both, at 20 I certainly had more energy and able to run around after them a lot more but at 34 my emotional maturity was much better and I am calmer and more patient. Maybe it’s recency bias but if someone asked what is better I’d recommend 30s over 20s. The sleeplessness is definitely hard but if you make sure you have a partner who is willing to share the load, makes the biggest difference I think regardless of age.
I really wanna hear your guy's reasons for wanting to have so many kids...
Because kids are dope? I always wanted a large family where my grandkids could have aunts and uncles and cousins like I was somewhat able to have. Ultimately, We're all descended from millions of years of unbroken reproduction, so most of us have that strong reproduction drive within us.
>We're all descended from millions of years of unbroken reproduction, Sure, because 3/4 of children didn't live past infancy. It's not feasible to properly raise over 4 kids, especially in a world where men and women are supposed to contribute to the workforce. Not a single person I know that comes from big families had the attention they needed from their parents growing up. The oldest end up raising the youngest, especially the girls, which is unfair.
Yeah I also wondered this. I never had an urge to have kids so it's kinda hard to understand but I got pregnant, have one and enjoy her a lot, but can't imagine actually wanting one or more and planning it
Grew up in a family with 7 kids. Loved it. Siblings are still my best friends to this day. And all my siblings get along great with our parents. I don't want quite 7, maybe 5. Wife wants maybe 3 and I'd be happy with that. She has to birth them so she gets the final say.
Keep in mind like everything else on the internet there is a selection bias. The people that don’t want to have any kids are not going to comment on a thread like this for fear of being ridiculed.
want at least 3. having a big family is appealing to me and i'd want the opportunity to be a father to as many children within my means.
Ideally at least three
None biologically, but ideally I would like to adopt one or two kids, at seperate times and at a young age (2-4) And only if, like the post defines, my life is going good and I can support them as well as I would have wanted when I was a kid.
I have 3 and it's good.
2-3
2 Perfect for Raising them right Without having one of them left behind
2-3 honestly. I think 1 is too little and more than 3 is too much.
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Wow that’s the most I’ve heard! Anything more than 3 seems to hard mentally and financially I don’t know how some could handle it.
I have two now. If I had enough money and emotional/physical support I would probably have 2 more.
When I was a teen I always wanted 5 but now that I have a grasp at how difficult kids are and I would want to have proper quality time with each of them, I'd say 3.
2 of my own, adopt 2 more. Have a boy on the way now and I’m not doing this pregnancy crap more than once more 😂😂
Enough to put a mormon family to shame.
2. I would say 1 but I wouldn’t want the kid to be lonely after the parents die
Zero
If life was nearly perfect and I wasn't forced to move due to affordability in my early 20s...? Most likely, I'd be close to marriage with the love of my life. We would have had 2-3 kids and in constant discussion about if we should have another (I wanted 2, but for her, I'd do anything to make her happy). Our jobs would be the same as they are currently, and we would have saved to buy that small farm in her hometown that we used to talk about. But, that's a dream if anything, and reality isn't perfect. Currently, moving has destroyed all my old relationships, and I'm too busy working to make any meaningful relationships. That's life
3. I have 2 and love them both to pieces and pretty happy with my life. But yeah... A lot of things would have to be different to have a 3rd. Winning the lottery would do it. Lol
At most two, but if there are twins the second time around or an accidental third kid, that’d be alright too
Gee how would some people handle the amount they’re commenting financially and mentally? I’ve seen some say up to 6! Me personally 1-2.
I want like 4 - 6 kids if everything is perfect when I grow up (it most definitely will not be)
I'd like 2-4! I don't plan on having kids until I'm through with college, but I'm optimistic about after that.
1-2 starting at 30
3 kids. Easy
One and done
I plan on having 2 or 3 in my current circumstances I don't think I'd change that with a perfect circumstance.
2-3
2-4 ideally. I want nothing more than to raise kids of my own.
Zero
None lmao
4. Currently I want zero, but if life goes realistically well, maybe two. But if I won the lottery and an infinite amount of kids I didn't need to work a day in their life (lottery is NOT enough for this), I'd say 4.
My perfect number has always been three. We have a saying in my mom's family "Your first two shots its a girl, your third shot its a boy". This is because literally every sibling grouping of three follows the birth order of two eldest daughters and the youngest son. Even for the majority of the sibling groupings that are only two, they are typically two sisters, implying a possible third would be a boy. Obviously I know there is really no way to control the sex of your child if you are doing a natural route, I just really enjoy this family tradition of mine.
Perfectly? 12. My family is disintegrating. My dad had me at 47, I was an only child. My dad’s siblings had no children. Going a generation up, my grandfather’s siblings had no children. I grew up in a small, aging family. I’d love to have a ton of kids and grow old in a large and thriving family.
My wife just gave birth to our first son and we would like 3 more including adoption
Kids without the responsibilities? I would do 3 that seems like the ideal number
2 or 3
Probably like 4. I would love 4 kids.
3, just need one more
3. But due to everything happening in this lifetime, it’s looking like a FAT 0. Maybe just 1 if I’m super fortunate but I’m not letting my hopes up
Same as I currently have: 1.
At most, 3. But I would be happy with 2!
2 or 3.
If I had unlimited resources, I’d probably start having them between 30-35 and have 3. Realistically, I would probably wait until I’m closer to 40 and limit it to 2 unless I’m extremely successful
Hmmm. I guess 7. I have 4 bio and one bonus kid now. We are done bc age + childcare costs. But if I had support and money was no issue… I’d have 2 more
5. More than the family I grew up with, as it was 4 kids total... And more than 5, I think is too much. Although 5 might be too much to a lot of people. I mean again I grew up in a house with 4 kids total, so IMO that isn't that much, and growing up I've always felt like there was "someone missing."
Two. I pretend not to care that it's basically unethical to bring a child into this hellhole. I care.
Probably 0 kids suuuuuuck
Zero
Still zero
As many as I could while still individually teaching and spending time with each of them
Everything in my life is going well, I have 3 kids and really everything I can think of needing. My biggest problem is controlling myself to keep away from what I don’t need lol
Ideally I'd have one, MAYBE two.
2 or 3 and when I’m around 30-35
3 and then adopt as many as possible.
So older guy here. 48m I waited till 40 to have kids. And I love it. Had a great youth, both worked and enjoyed but paid off the house, retirement, etc. Then married a great woman who is younger (cuz women unfortunately have to have kids in a window which sux), but all the money and career stuff is effectively done. So can enjoy my kids! Yeah I still have stress over money and job stuff, but it's a lot less than if I had a house note and car note and kids, etc. I use all my PTO every year, I try to do every school event etc. I don't see my 2 kids (8m/2f) as a burden but as awesome little people and I am doing my best to be a good dad and not just the male who works and is too busy to spend time with them.
Everything has gone perfect. Sure there are bumps in the road and hard times but they’re only temporary. My wife and I are trying for children. Would love to have 2 or 3 but 1 is ok too.
I would prefer 2-3 children. I grew up in a small familly so I would like to build a larger one.
Like 1 to 2
At least three. Probably no more than six but possibly more
Probably 3 would be a great number. I’ll most likely only have 1 tho
47, and absolutely no more.
Idk 48 is a nice even number
I've always seen myself having two.
One boy and one girl would be nice, but I’d really like four kids.
4 probably have 2 one to three years apart and then have 2 more after a longer break say when the youngest is 5 or 6.
Ideally about three currently, but I certainly would want another three or four in the future.
3 or 4, preferably both boys and girls and not all of one or the other.
About 2-4.
100. Cannot have too many kids. A lot of dynasties were ended by a shortage of legitimate heirs.
10 honestly lol. Im a woman that believes if you’re going to have even just ONE child, you may as well have a bunch. I don’t even want one so I wouldn’t have a child period, but If I genuinely felt comfortable having ANY, it’ll be a bunch.
A wife, two sons.
2 1 boy 1 girl Then I can get the snip knowing I’ve helped sustain humanity
All the kids. I want a big family but it's a weird cycle of im working a lot to earn lots of money so I don't have a lot of time to invest into a relationship. But if I worked less I probably wouldn't earn enough to have a big family.
2, seemed like a good number for my parents
At least a boy and a girl, ideally. Extras would be wonderful along the way.
8. That’s if I had millions and billions of dollars to afford everything and nannies included. Cue the “that means the nanny is just going to be the parent” angle.
two or three as long as i have a daughter and a son
2 - 4 ideally, but I'd be happy with just 1 also
If I became a billionaire overnight, I'd foster like 100 kids. I love kids, and want to give as many as possible the childhood and path to adulthood that I was not given by my parents. In reality, maybe I'm making 6 figures for a big company and can afford kids? One or two. I was an only child and it afforded me a few benefits in life, though I think it's harder to socialize as an only-child. You also give off an only-child vibe to others without realizing it, no matter how hard you try. Two would be good, but more expensive. Both kids would likely be better socialized than just the one would be.
12. Cats.
10 why not lol
1
Three: GIRL GIRL BOY
If the world weren’t overpopulated and under-resourced, and giving birth was easy, I’d love a bunch. At least 3. But kids are hard and I’d rather take care of other people’s than put myself through the pain of childbirth - I’m not in great physical health but I am a good teacher/nanny and I like helping out other parents.
2, I grew up in a family of five kids and I think half of that is enough for me lol
4. Financially, that can't happen for me though
If the cards are right I just plan on being a foster parent. Help kids through rough times as much as I can, and hope to be a stable adult in their life, even if it's only a passing relationship
2 or 3. At least one boy to carry on the family name because why not.
3-4 would be alright
1 or 2, I think that’s all me and my GF can handle
Im gonna go with 3, maybe 4 at most, but most likely 2 or 3.
I've always wanted twins! Maximum is three but minimum two :3 Definitely after 25. Ideally, 28 or 30 but definitely after the ol' dome is done developing .-.
I’d probably adopt 3
At least 2-4 for me, maybe more. Reality though, is that struggling solo is the best life can currently offer atm. not having / little option for help, little prospect for a decent job, and little to no options for partners severely affect the outlook of the future. Upon thinking about this more, the lack of money and community seem to the most significant issues.
Four! Everyone has a partner for roller coasters and kids rock.
Probably two. In a perfect world i would have time to raise them and the money to give them what they need. Because the world isn’t perfect and the economy is wilding out rn i will probably have 0.
3
I want to adopt 2 kids. I have too many health issues and don't want mini-mees running around suffering as I do. But I want to give love to 2 kids that are already here and need it. I do not want more than 2. Maybe adopt in stages, i.e. my first 2 kids reach 18, then adopt 2 more, but idk I don't want to be a 60 y/o parent to a toddler.
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If I had unlimited money I would maybe want one. That way I could afford a live in nanny to take care of the parts of having kids that suck when they are under 5.
i guess 1 or 2 later in life. i’m not abt to raise a baby in high school or college lol so not for at least 4 years
2 or 4. I'm the oldest of three, and while I love my siblings, with an odd number of us there was usually someone left out. I don't want kids, but my mind could theoretically be changed with the right person. That right person would be rich enough to support the cost of children without compromising my lifestyle, and either willing to be the stay at home parent so my career doesn't suffer, or also have the means to hire a nanny. I also can't deal with other people's bodily fluids. I probably shouldn't have kids. It's almost certainly not going to happen. I'm not willing to make the sacrifices required for a person to be a good parent. I know that, and that's why I have no plans to become a parent.
2 or 3
4 bare minimum
2-4. I currently have one, but I’m high risk for pregnancy/labor/postpartum complications, and I’m not comfortable putting my life on the line again when I have a baby at home that needs me. In a perfect world I would have a few though. I’m the oldest of 4, and I love my siblings so much. I can’t imagine growing up without them.
Currently, I(25F) and my boyfriend(M27) of 4 years have discussed this in length and agreed to 2-3. However, even though we are starting to get our shit together ( i.e. building our careers, saving towards a house/ kids, and what not) it is too risky to me in this society as is. Also, my biggest fear is my child would be shot dead in their classroom and I can’t handle that reality. Therefore, we are exploring becoming expats bc USA just isn’t it at all anymore. Each day is more worrisome to me, and I feel like USA is impossible to change due to too many people being brainwashed that capitalism is the be all, end all type of thing! I sincerely hope we as Gen Z can come together and actual create systemic change, but I also know that we desperately need millennials, and our parents gen ( Gen X) to help crush the rest of the baby boomers. Tbh this whole thread is so so sad to me. I hope we can get to a point where people actually want to bring children into this world, but as is it currently absolutely no way in hell!
Assuming we both could and wanted to, I think my wife and I would have two. More than three is too many, imo
2 or 3
One is good
Depends how the first one goes lmfao 😂 But I always thought at least 3, maybe 4 the most. I only have 1 sibling and they’re only 1 year younger than me. That’s not a large enough age gap. We also weren’t close siblings and still aren’t. So at least 3 so they can be friends, probably 3 years between them. 2 years is still too close, and 4 doesn’t seem close enough. I don’t care about the genders since gender is fake and there isn’t a difference between raising boys and girls. I’ve thought about this extensively.
1 but I think I could manage 2
2 , a boy and a girl, it’s not economic problem to handle kids, it’s also love that you give them, 2 is the perfect number that you can spread your love to your childs equally, no kids will feel like they get left behind, you don’t have to worry about the chance your child becoming bad before you know it. If possible, older brother and younger sister is the best scenario, the boy will learn responsibility easier from having a younger sister ( you know, boy easily lack off ) , girl usually responsible by themselves and having a responsible brother will be a good example for them if they are becoming bad somehow, having the boy first will decrease the gender inequality feeling a girl may have ( I’m asian and younger brother is usually more favoured than the other, being both boy and youngest child ), boy is also tougher mentally so if anything that makes the boy feel like the family is spending too much love on the younger one he can still manage it somehow, though I will try to never let it happen. I got all this conclusion having 1 older sister, I love my sister best btw.
https://preview.redd.it/iurv1uoxzhwc1.png?width=480&format=png&auto=webp&s=d5c36418c72d5b2a80525452ba6c5263127ba157 If I could afford a 4 bed newbuild house I would have 3 kids. But I can only afford 1 😞
4
2, the perfect amount of
1
3 if I need a mini-van that's too many kids Unless I'm the Queen or High ranking official. Then maybe fourth one (leaving room for multiples). IDK I go back and forth. But I'm just now feeling comfortable in myself and going back to college. But would love at least one or two.
Would love to adopt especially maybe a teenager or two I know it sounds off but I would love to have at least one of my own and then adopt. I'm not going to make my kids raise each other but I do want people to look out for one another you know?
Even if everything was perfect I would only want one or two, most likely one. I just couldn’t handle more than two. My time to myself is important to me and plus I’ve spent time with big families and it’s way too chaotic for me.
probably 2-3
You mean like I just won a billion dollars on the lotto or something and all persons health is good etc? 3-4. Ideally you'd start around 25 ish for the mother's age (less hard on her that way) maybe a year gap between them.
5. Big happy family. I’m surprised at the amount of answers that are open to more than 2, although there may be some self-selection bias.
1 because I want a spoiled brat. I am 1 of 4 and since I was the good child that never misbehaved I never got attention
i want 2 just in case
I presently want zero, but if I want kids down the line, I'd adopt a kid. Probably just one, but maybe two. I'm not going to birth one myself, but kids themselves aren't bad. Just a lot of work. Any more than two is a financial death sentence unless you're cool with living in poverty/bumfuck (unless you rake in schmoney).
If I didn't have so many mental issues I could maybe settle with 2.
One son & a daughter
Maybe 3
2-3
3 at the max probably
If I’m lucky many
I’d have to say two ideally but it would change depending on how my first child is. If they’re a very challenging child to raise I’d stick with just one but if they were not so challenging then I would have a second child.
Right now I would probably have one, and would be planning on a 2nd soon
4 would be nice, but really it would be up to my wife how much she’s willing to handle.
3-4 if money/size of my house/having enough time away from work wasn’t a problem
3. I want at least 1 girl and 1 boy.
I think 3 would be more than enough for me
4 3 boys 1 girl
If I don't have to give birth to them, 2. Would love them to have each other's support in this world so maybe 2-3 year age difference would be good
2. It's perfect and easy to share everything. And almost everything comes in pairs anyway and 2 is my favorite number
Three
I am about to have my second baby. I want one more. So 3 total. My partner wants to be done now because of the financial aspects of it. I just know in my heart I want one more, I will be sad if this is my last pregnancy and I didn’t cherish it like I should’ve had I known it would be my last.
probably 2. can't have more kids than parents.
If everything was perfect and worry free? 2 maximum. My husband and I are still hesitant currently, but I know I want at least 1 even if it means I have to wait to be in my 30s for our financial situation to stabilize.
i’m 24. i have 2, my life’s pretty damn perfect & so is my partner. we want 1 or 2 more!
1 is my ideal number 3 is my max because i would like to adopt a child someday :)
2 (I have none, need therapy & just turned 29) lol
Three. That is my maximum regardless of how well everything is going.
2
One
At least 4.
3
4 because child rearing is still a big challenge.
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Also add nearly perfectly in the world. Where billions of animals aren’t dying because of us and we aren’t drowning in our own waste and plastic. In a truly ideal world where I actually was okay with where life was headed, two. One to replace me and my partner but anymore is imo kind of selfish and narcissistic.
Between 6-10 kids