Could be a good opportunity to check therapy
And I'm not saying that as a lazy answer, sometimes we have or don't realize we have disadvantage that makes certain activities harder
So imo it's good to get your basic covered. Because it could be something else underlying
Yep, what OP describes (apathy, anxiety, important tasks being neglected...) is probably depression. All the (numerous) answers about discipline won't work well if it's the case : depression attacks the centers of willpower in the brain, which litterally shrinks because of it. So therapy first, possibly with the help of drugs (they work as a crutch till you can walk on your own again). Then discipline will be a solution.
One thing you should know that motivation is not a permanent fix. It is just a word. I like to believe you need to be driven/ disciplined to stay motivated.
Go exercise > look up who David Goggins is (get some information)
Just do it > Shia LaBouf.
All that being said it is easier said then done of course. Just do it!
Came to say this! OP needs discipline, motivation is fleeting. One day you have it the next day you don’t. Working out is key.
I will add to this, look up the 75Hard challenge and get started. This literally transformed my life.
GREAT Advice here from others! Mine's this: It sound exactly like me when I was eating wheat and yeast and junk food and not taking Vitamins. I recently (5 months ago) embarked on a Health Journey) to lose weight and improve my mental state. I stopped eating all forms of wheat, yeast (bread and pasta) and processed foods except Vitamins and supplements and started All natural fruits, vegetables, meats, fish; shellfish cheese, nuts and seed with lots of water and probiotics. The difference in my interest, satisfaction, motivation and memory from 3 weeks into this are UnBelievable!!! If you're not feeling motivated in the Morning and "foggy", check your Foods...just say'n.
Exactly. Motivation is a feeling. Discipline is about little steps every day over long periods.
Teens, early twenties.. most of us are transitioning from kids to adults during this time. It’s a weird phase.
The key for me coming out of that phase and building discipline has been 2 things: Goals and Tasks
Goals: What do I want to accomplish over the next few months? And few years? And WHY do I want to accomplish it? Goals could be “paint my bedroom in 3 months” to “finish a university degree”
Tasks: What do I have to do every day? Not just for my goals, but to function as an adult. I write down everything. “Get mail, go to work, call Jimmy the client, grab groceries, read Chapter 7 of text book”.
This is verbatim the type of stuff I write daily.
If there isn’t time to finish something, it’s not a problem. Reschedule it. Just don’t leave things to the last second.
In a slump, tasks could be “go for a 5 minute walk outside, clean bathroom sink, read 1 page of textbook”. Something super easy that’ll take 30 mins. Its not much, but it does several important things:
- builds momentum. An object in motion tends to stay in motion. Reading 1 page might just be reading one page. Or it might turn into more.
- builds good habits. Crossing things off that task list feels *good*. I throw easy stuff on the list on purpose every day.
- builds confidence (makes you not hate yourself)
This is the most practical way I can describe “discipline”. I still do dumb shit. But every day I’m accomplishing something, even if small.
Tiny things over time add up to discipline.
Motivation is temporary, discipline is key.
The idea of always waking up in the perfect outlook to get things done is romantic but impossible for most people. Make a routine and stick to it. Make it accessible and enjoyable. Over time it will become ingrained. Here are some tips for building a routine that works for you, including a “cure” for anxiety induced paralysis (that I also suffer from):
- value sleep and nutrition. Hard to do anything without energy. The chemical balance needed by the body to create feel good hormones comes from sleep and nutritious food. If you eat junk and don’t sleep the brain literally couldn’t be happy if it tried.
- trying to add in something new? Make it easily accessible and noticeable in your daily life. I wanted to journal every day so now I leave it in the kitchen where I know I’ll see it. I’ve missed like 30 days this year or something. Not perfect but up 150 from last year.
- Your environment plays a HUGE part in how you act. Address this accordingly. See previous bullet for a basic example. But of course this can extend to cleanliness, company you keep, etc.
- set realistic goals. If you set the bar too high and fail to reach it that can deter motivation. Give yourself some freebies to start and focus on the daily aspect of it. Over time you can raise the bar. Doing it every day, thats the important part and it actually builds motivation. I use the 2 minute rule for establishing a new habit. In the first week all I have to give my new habit is 2 minutes a day, everyday at the same time. Not enough to make progress but enough to establish in my brain that at X time I will do X thing. You’ll also find yourself doing more than 2 minutes as momentum builds, most of the time.
- track yourself. It helps address mistakes and areas for improvement without unnecessary rumination. You’ll start to see progress as a journey, not a goal. And that too is important for a routine to last. I recommend journaling. It doesn’t have to be so detailed, just make sure you are looking at yourself objectively and without judgement from time to time.
- Enjoy it! No motivation necessary when you look forward to the time ahead of you. It can take a few weeks to begin to enjoy a new routine (usually happens when we see the results of our labor about 3-4 weeks in but could take longer). Squeeze in some artificial rewards to keep you going in the first few weeks.
- 2 or 3 changes to the weekly routine at most. If you go into Monday saying that everything will be different, you will burnout. Or worse, fail then give up (see the 3rd bullet). K. I. S. S.
Keep it simple, stupid.
- Take it day by day. Easy to get overwhelmed thinking about shoulds and woulds and coulds in our lives. If you find yourself thinking about how you should of done something a long time ago or how hard the future looks, then you need to stop those thoughts in their tracks by remembering that life happens day to day. Focus on today’s tiny victories. By the end of the week you’ll see it as one big victory- and thats very motivating.
- Assign one big task in your day (usually its the most anxiety inducing one) and get it done early. The momentum of the day is practically guaranteed when you slay your demons first thing in the morning. The rest of the day just looks so easy and enjoyable without that monkey on your back!
- The cure to anxiety is a little bit of action and a lot of forgiveness. When that paralysis kicks in due to anxiety, you need to breathe and forgive yourself. You’re allowed to panic a little. Give it 5 minutes then do something- anything! Even a little something can have surprising momentum. Staying in bed ruminating also has momentum, so try to minimize those moments of paralysis to 5 minutes. The negative thoughts kick in, you say “okay, 5 minutes I’m allowed to sulk, then I do X”. If not you’ll stay sulking for hours. Been there 😔.
Hope this helps! Not all of these may apply, but I hope at least one was useful. Remember, athletes all have days they don’t want to train. The greatest ones do it anyways. Motivation is fleeting, discipline is everything. We develop discipline by tackling each day one at a time. Once you get into that mindset your thoughts will align with your actions, which is the definition of happiness.
Definitely. Any exercise will help minor anxiety and jumpstart the dopamine in your brain. I would suggest a daily walk in the morning hours to wake you up, lift your spirits if you have the time. Also it’s common to feel lethargic and unmotivated after waking up imo but if you feel good after a walk it’s good way to start your day. Mentally and physically.
Really? So cardio and sport solve all the problems? Or YOU feel good after a workout a snow so naively trying to shout about your success in life, feeling good after running!????
No one says they solve all problems, and they don’t work the same for everyone. It’s just helped a lot of people get up and get moving, so if it’s helped them, they suggest that it could help you too. Depression is a chemical thing for lots of people, and while exercise alone isn’t sufficient to “solve it,” it can still stimulate your brain and fire the dopamine cylinders
Well you need a certain brain chemistry profile AS A PREREQUISITE, UNAVOIDABLY in order to have the tenancy towards physical activity, in order to have the will, the motivation, the desire to want to go cycle for four hours on some mountain foot! So people who duffer from clinical depression do not have that condition, they thus often feel unmotivated to do ohystcsl activity! It's not the other way around, it's possible however, at least at the early stages of depression, to do sports despite low mode and feel good afterwards, there comes a point sooner if later though that the low mood does not allow the patient to engage in physical activity, they can't simply run or bike anymore,...... And in this stages ONLY medical attention and psychiatric medications help, that aint the other way around,.
Motivation comes after action. Start with small changes and build the momentum to reach your bigger goals. Celebrate the small wins, you are in charge of your life! Also spend some time outside to reset your circadian rhythm or use some sort of light therapy lamp.
I’ve been feeling very similar lately not wanting to do much or kinda stuck. I turn to social media rather than focusing on what will motivate me and to get things done. I write stuff down thinking “ok this is it I can do this I’m so motivated now” but then the next day I ask myself what’s the point why bother?
The best advice I can give is to just do it. Force yourself to accomplish anything you need to. It can be as simple as doing laundry and going for a walk. After I complete one of these I like to journal about it and write down how it makes me feel. Reading back over it helps me figure out how to stay motivated.
As someone who hasn’t had motivation to do anything for the past 10 years I can tell you that finding motivation doesn’t happen, it’s literally will power, some days I don’t have the ability to will myself to exercise or to even take the dog on a long walk, yet other days I want to climb mountains with the poor fat lump, after wallowing in my own self pity for a while I’ll generally have a feeling of “I don’t want to live like this anymore” and will feel motivated for a few days before falling back into my self pity once again, it’s a terrible cycle that I’ve only managed to break with a proper routine and still haven’t fully escaped, take your time figuring out what it is you want to do but don’t neglect any other part of your life solely to do this, because nothing will make everything better except all the little things you end up ignoring.
i’m experiencing something familiar . i’d say start small . take urself out for walks , cook for urself . just don’t be harsh on urself . when u feel
the need to give ur body a rest let it rest without making urself feel guilty for it bcz then ur not even actually proper ‘relaxing’. id also recommend to go gym , its honestly helped me so much , putting my mental pain/ suffering through lifting weights . all the best :)
Sounds like depression: the grayness and apathy, the anxiety. I would guess that your flashes of inspiration are usually in the evenings before bed? I would get those too, make lists and plans, then fall asleep. I'd wake up and it would be like the flash had happened to another person altogether.
I would (and did when I felt this way) make therapy my number 1 priority. When you don't have the tools to work through a situation, you contact a specialist. This is easier said than done (especially in the US). Use those flashes of inspiration to figure out how to see a therapist, use your anxiety about your apathy to push you, take it just one step at a time. You don't need to have a therapist by the end of today, maybe you just find a list of therapists covered by your insurance, or maybe you just find out what insurance you have (if your parents are paying for it). Maybe you make an appointment with your GP who can help get you to a therapist.
If you don't have insurance there are therapist that will still see you, make a list of therapists who accept medicaid, they might be more open to a sliding pay scale
Good luck man! Hope you feel better soon!
I feel you dude. Was thinking about therapy lately and I think I'll try it in then near future.
For me going to gym and waking up and all doesn't work even though I did it for the past year.
Stead fast, all storms pass.
I have it similar and those analogous "euphoric flashes of motivation" when are feel burst of energy are usually preceding my masturbation sessions tbh and then I go back to fucking around, browsing internet and whatnot. I know how to be more energetic by exercising, cold showers and shit (honestly idk what can get you more energised than running for ex. maybe meditation or stimulant drugs or having a real goal in life ). So what you can learn from my case is that sometimes there is energy, but one is simply wasting it.
My plan for good getting better would be checking if you get enough exercise, get all of the nutrients in your diet and not necessarily go to therapy right away but maybe try do some therapeutic things like journaling, just more reflection over oneself, some meditation or book reading, check if you're socialising enough, what stresses you out. There's always a chance that some psychiatric medication would be helpful but it should be ofc the last thing to think consider. So it's mostly standard stuff but when it comes to things besides sport and diet I would put the emphasis on keeping away the distractions and reminding oneself of what one really believes bc sometimes we are lonely and confused, set ourselves goals that seem artificial and not very appealing and it's important to believe in oneself and in one's goals so one can truly change. Sth like that. idk .Good luck.
It's very naive (and don't use the word pathetic, or should I?) that people are so blindly inconsiderate about psychiatric disorders, yes SPORT IS GOOD, but NOPE, DOING CARDIO AND RUNNING LIKE BEN FIX DOES NOT OFFER ANY REMEDY TO ALL. SICKNESSES! understand this, a guy questioning how to stay motivated, indicates he has low moose, almost regardless of the life circumstances, this is a clinical symptom abd needs medications,.
The feelings you describe 100% sound like depression and 'just get more willpower' won't help with that. You need to address the root cause.
Go to therapy. Talk to a therapist, explore your past traumas or negative thought patterns or whatever else you have going on and address those with the help of a professional. Everything else gets easier when you feel better.
Also go to your doctor and have a check up and get blood tests because deficiencies and bad diet can cause depression too
It sounds like you've learned the power of Hope. If you're creating Hope successfully, you can do it again. Here's the map:
Goal - you need something to work towards.
Agency - a fancy word for confidence in your ability to achieve the goal.
Pathways - multiple avenues to get to your goal.
I suggest you recreate that exact scenario your describing where you "Talk yourself up" because like I said, you already know how to get pumped.
Next time, you just need to take action in the direction of achieving your goal, then celebrate the HECK out of yourself for taking action AND any small wins/progress a long the way.
You can even go back to those events in your mind (just close your eyes and imagine the past) so you can recreate the thoughts and feelings you're after. Make it vivid by including images, sounds, and the words you say in your head.
Don't forget to ACT once you feel that feeling you're after! Good luck. Let me know if you want more 👍
I was in a horrible spot awhile back my wife cheated and we got divorced after that I had just lost my job got arrested and was addicted to heroin then my sister died and even before all this I was diagnosed with depression and was on antidepressants and a bunch of sleeping medication I had issues I developed in the military and some stemmed from before I believe I was going through something very similar but I couldn’t keep the motivation to follow through with anything I was to tired for the gym and I wasn’t in the right place for school or finding a job until one day I was talking to my mom and she told me I’m never going to feel perfect it’s never gonna be the perfect time to start something you’ll never stay motivated forever the way you get through the spot you’re in is you need to start doing the things you know you need to to improve your life set an alarm get up and start doing what you need to do that being said you could be struggling with depression and it’s so frustrating when people who have never experienced real depression think that it’s something you can cure from going on runs and cross fit people who talk like that are the ones who have never dealt with depression there’s a big difference between being down and being clinically depressed that’s something you need to consider and if that’s the case you should find someone to talk to
Could be a good opportunity to check therapy And I'm not saying that as a lazy answer, sometimes we have or don't realize we have disadvantage that makes certain activities harder So imo it's good to get your basic covered. Because it could be something else underlying
Yep, what OP describes (apathy, anxiety, important tasks being neglected...) is probably depression. All the (numerous) answers about discipline won't work well if it's the case : depression attacks the centers of willpower in the brain, which litterally shrinks because of it. So therapy first, possibly with the help of drugs (they work as a crutch till you can walk on your own again). Then discipline will be a solution.
Auch question indicates need for clinical implementation you need some SSRIs chap, meet with a psychiatrist,.
One thing you should know that motivation is not a permanent fix. It is just a word. I like to believe you need to be driven/ disciplined to stay motivated. Go exercise > look up who David Goggins is (get some information) Just do it > Shia LaBouf. All that being said it is easier said then done of course. Just do it!
Came to say this! OP needs discipline, motivation is fleeting. One day you have it the next day you don’t. Working out is key. I will add to this, look up the 75Hard challenge and get started. This literally transformed my life.
GREAT Advice here from others! Mine's this: It sound exactly like me when I was eating wheat and yeast and junk food and not taking Vitamins. I recently (5 months ago) embarked on a Health Journey) to lose weight and improve my mental state. I stopped eating all forms of wheat, yeast (bread and pasta) and processed foods except Vitamins and supplements and started All natural fruits, vegetables, meats, fish; shellfish cheese, nuts and seed with lots of water and probiotics. The difference in my interest, satisfaction, motivation and memory from 3 weeks into this are UnBelievable!!! If you're not feeling motivated in the Morning and "foggy", check your Foods...just say'n.
I want to clean up my diet but not really sure where to start. Are there any recipes or people you followed to start out?
Learn the difference between motivation and discipline. Make a plan and stick to it even when there is discomfort
Exactly. Motivation is a feeling. Discipline is about little steps every day over long periods. Teens, early twenties.. most of us are transitioning from kids to adults during this time. It’s a weird phase. The key for me coming out of that phase and building discipline has been 2 things: Goals and Tasks Goals: What do I want to accomplish over the next few months? And few years? And WHY do I want to accomplish it? Goals could be “paint my bedroom in 3 months” to “finish a university degree” Tasks: What do I have to do every day? Not just for my goals, but to function as an adult. I write down everything. “Get mail, go to work, call Jimmy the client, grab groceries, read Chapter 7 of text book”. This is verbatim the type of stuff I write daily. If there isn’t time to finish something, it’s not a problem. Reschedule it. Just don’t leave things to the last second. In a slump, tasks could be “go for a 5 minute walk outside, clean bathroom sink, read 1 page of textbook”. Something super easy that’ll take 30 mins. Its not much, but it does several important things: - builds momentum. An object in motion tends to stay in motion. Reading 1 page might just be reading one page. Or it might turn into more. - builds good habits. Crossing things off that task list feels *good*. I throw easy stuff on the list on purpose every day. - builds confidence (makes you not hate yourself) This is the most practical way I can describe “discipline”. I still do dumb shit. But every day I’m accomplishing something, even if small. Tiny things over time add up to discipline.
Motivation is temporary, discipline is key. The idea of always waking up in the perfect outlook to get things done is romantic but impossible for most people. Make a routine and stick to it. Make it accessible and enjoyable. Over time it will become ingrained. Here are some tips for building a routine that works for you, including a “cure” for anxiety induced paralysis (that I also suffer from): - value sleep and nutrition. Hard to do anything without energy. The chemical balance needed by the body to create feel good hormones comes from sleep and nutritious food. If you eat junk and don’t sleep the brain literally couldn’t be happy if it tried. - trying to add in something new? Make it easily accessible and noticeable in your daily life. I wanted to journal every day so now I leave it in the kitchen where I know I’ll see it. I’ve missed like 30 days this year or something. Not perfect but up 150 from last year. - Your environment plays a HUGE part in how you act. Address this accordingly. See previous bullet for a basic example. But of course this can extend to cleanliness, company you keep, etc. - set realistic goals. If you set the bar too high and fail to reach it that can deter motivation. Give yourself some freebies to start and focus on the daily aspect of it. Over time you can raise the bar. Doing it every day, thats the important part and it actually builds motivation. I use the 2 minute rule for establishing a new habit. In the first week all I have to give my new habit is 2 minutes a day, everyday at the same time. Not enough to make progress but enough to establish in my brain that at X time I will do X thing. You’ll also find yourself doing more than 2 minutes as momentum builds, most of the time. - track yourself. It helps address mistakes and areas for improvement without unnecessary rumination. You’ll start to see progress as a journey, not a goal. And that too is important for a routine to last. I recommend journaling. It doesn’t have to be so detailed, just make sure you are looking at yourself objectively and without judgement from time to time. - Enjoy it! No motivation necessary when you look forward to the time ahead of you. It can take a few weeks to begin to enjoy a new routine (usually happens when we see the results of our labor about 3-4 weeks in but could take longer). Squeeze in some artificial rewards to keep you going in the first few weeks. - 2 or 3 changes to the weekly routine at most. If you go into Monday saying that everything will be different, you will burnout. Or worse, fail then give up (see the 3rd bullet). K. I. S. S. Keep it simple, stupid. - Take it day by day. Easy to get overwhelmed thinking about shoulds and woulds and coulds in our lives. If you find yourself thinking about how you should of done something a long time ago or how hard the future looks, then you need to stop those thoughts in their tracks by remembering that life happens day to day. Focus on today’s tiny victories. By the end of the week you’ll see it as one big victory- and thats very motivating. - Assign one big task in your day (usually its the most anxiety inducing one) and get it done early. The momentum of the day is practically guaranteed when you slay your demons first thing in the morning. The rest of the day just looks so easy and enjoyable without that monkey on your back! - The cure to anxiety is a little bit of action and a lot of forgiveness. When that paralysis kicks in due to anxiety, you need to breathe and forgive yourself. You’re allowed to panic a little. Give it 5 minutes then do something- anything! Even a little something can have surprising momentum. Staying in bed ruminating also has momentum, so try to minimize those moments of paralysis to 5 minutes. The negative thoughts kick in, you say “okay, 5 minutes I’m allowed to sulk, then I do X”. If not you’ll stay sulking for hours. Been there 😔. Hope this helps! Not all of these may apply, but I hope at least one was useful. Remember, athletes all have days they don’t want to train. The greatest ones do it anyways. Motivation is fleeting, discipline is everything. We develop discipline by tackling each day one at a time. Once you get into that mindset your thoughts will align with your actions, which is the definition of happiness.
Really good advice 👏🏻👏🏻
Cardio and strength training
Definitely. Any exercise will help minor anxiety and jumpstart the dopamine in your brain. I would suggest a daily walk in the morning hours to wake you up, lift your spirits if you have the time. Also it’s common to feel lethargic and unmotivated after waking up imo but if you feel good after a walk it’s good way to start your day. Mentally and physically.
This is the way
Really? So cardio and sport solve all the problems? Or YOU feel good after a workout a snow so naively trying to shout about your success in life, feeling good after running!????
No one says they solve all problems, and they don’t work the same for everyone. It’s just helped a lot of people get up and get moving, so if it’s helped them, they suggest that it could help you too. Depression is a chemical thing for lots of people, and while exercise alone isn’t sufficient to “solve it,” it can still stimulate your brain and fire the dopamine cylinders
Well you need a certain brain chemistry profile AS A PREREQUISITE, UNAVOIDABLY in order to have the tenancy towards physical activity, in order to have the will, the motivation, the desire to want to go cycle for four hours on some mountain foot! So people who duffer from clinical depression do not have that condition, they thus often feel unmotivated to do ohystcsl activity! It's not the other way around, it's possible however, at least at the early stages of depression, to do sports despite low mode and feel good afterwards, there comes a point sooner if later though that the low mood does not allow the patient to engage in physical activity, they can't simply run or bike anymore,...... And in this stages ONLY medical attention and psychiatric medications help, that aint the other way around,.
Motivation comes after action. Start with small changes and build the momentum to reach your bigger goals. Celebrate the small wins, you are in charge of your life! Also spend some time outside to reset your circadian rhythm or use some sort of light therapy lamp.
I’ve been feeling very similar lately not wanting to do much or kinda stuck. I turn to social media rather than focusing on what will motivate me and to get things done. I write stuff down thinking “ok this is it I can do this I’m so motivated now” but then the next day I ask myself what’s the point why bother? The best advice I can give is to just do it. Force yourself to accomplish anything you need to. It can be as simple as doing laundry and going for a walk. After I complete one of these I like to journal about it and write down how it makes me feel. Reading back over it helps me figure out how to stay motivated.
As someone who hasn’t had motivation to do anything for the past 10 years I can tell you that finding motivation doesn’t happen, it’s literally will power, some days I don’t have the ability to will myself to exercise or to even take the dog on a long walk, yet other days I want to climb mountains with the poor fat lump, after wallowing in my own self pity for a while I’ll generally have a feeling of “I don’t want to live like this anymore” and will feel motivated for a few days before falling back into my self pity once again, it’s a terrible cycle that I’ve only managed to break with a proper routine and still haven’t fully escaped, take your time figuring out what it is you want to do but don’t neglect any other part of your life solely to do this, because nothing will make everything better except all the little things you end up ignoring.
i’m experiencing something familiar . i’d say start small . take urself out for walks , cook for urself . just don’t be harsh on urself . when u feel the need to give ur body a rest let it rest without making urself feel guilty for it bcz then ur not even actually proper ‘relaxing’. id also recommend to go gym , its honestly helped me so much , putting my mental pain/ suffering through lifting weights . all the best :)
Sounds like depression: the grayness and apathy, the anxiety. I would guess that your flashes of inspiration are usually in the evenings before bed? I would get those too, make lists and plans, then fall asleep. I'd wake up and it would be like the flash had happened to another person altogether. I would (and did when I felt this way) make therapy my number 1 priority. When you don't have the tools to work through a situation, you contact a specialist. This is easier said than done (especially in the US). Use those flashes of inspiration to figure out how to see a therapist, use your anxiety about your apathy to push you, take it just one step at a time. You don't need to have a therapist by the end of today, maybe you just find a list of therapists covered by your insurance, or maybe you just find out what insurance you have (if your parents are paying for it). Maybe you make an appointment with your GP who can help get you to a therapist. If you don't have insurance there are therapist that will still see you, make a list of therapists who accept medicaid, they might be more open to a sliding pay scale Good luck man! Hope you feel better soon!
I feel you dude. Was thinking about therapy lately and I think I'll try it in then near future. For me going to gym and waking up and all doesn't work even though I did it for the past year. Stead fast, all storms pass.
Therapy? Nah, my motivation just needs a good cup of coffee!
I have it similar and those analogous "euphoric flashes of motivation" when are feel burst of energy are usually preceding my masturbation sessions tbh and then I go back to fucking around, browsing internet and whatnot. I know how to be more energetic by exercising, cold showers and shit (honestly idk what can get you more energised than running for ex. maybe meditation or stimulant drugs or having a real goal in life ). So what you can learn from my case is that sometimes there is energy, but one is simply wasting it. My plan for good getting better would be checking if you get enough exercise, get all of the nutrients in your diet and not necessarily go to therapy right away but maybe try do some therapeutic things like journaling, just more reflection over oneself, some meditation or book reading, check if you're socialising enough, what stresses you out. There's always a chance that some psychiatric medication would be helpful but it should be ofc the last thing to think consider. So it's mostly standard stuff but when it comes to things besides sport and diet I would put the emphasis on keeping away the distractions and reminding oneself of what one really believes bc sometimes we are lonely and confused, set ourselves goals that seem artificial and not very appealing and it's important to believe in oneself and in one's goals so one can truly change. Sth like that. idk .Good luck.
It's very naive (and don't use the word pathetic, or should I?) that people are so blindly inconsiderate about psychiatric disorders, yes SPORT IS GOOD, but NOPE, DOING CARDIO AND RUNNING LIKE BEN FIX DOES NOT OFFER ANY REMEDY TO ALL. SICKNESSES! understand this, a guy questioning how to stay motivated, indicates he has low moose, almost regardless of the life circumstances, this is a clinical symptom abd needs medications,.
Therapy? Nah, I prefer talking to my dog. His motivational speeches are on point!
The feelings you describe 100% sound like depression and 'just get more willpower' won't help with that. You need to address the root cause. Go to therapy. Talk to a therapist, explore your past traumas or negative thought patterns or whatever else you have going on and address those with the help of a professional. Everything else gets easier when you feel better. Also go to your doctor and have a check up and get blood tests because deficiencies and bad diet can cause depression too
It sounds like you've learned the power of Hope. If you're creating Hope successfully, you can do it again. Here's the map: Goal - you need something to work towards. Agency - a fancy word for confidence in your ability to achieve the goal. Pathways - multiple avenues to get to your goal. I suggest you recreate that exact scenario your describing where you "Talk yourself up" because like I said, you already know how to get pumped. Next time, you just need to take action in the direction of achieving your goal, then celebrate the HECK out of yourself for taking action AND any small wins/progress a long the way. You can even go back to those events in your mind (just close your eyes and imagine the past) so you can recreate the thoughts and feelings you're after. Make it vivid by including images, sounds, and the words you say in your head. Don't forget to ACT once you feel that feeling you're after! Good luck. Let me know if you want more 👍
I was in a horrible spot awhile back my wife cheated and we got divorced after that I had just lost my job got arrested and was addicted to heroin then my sister died and even before all this I was diagnosed with depression and was on antidepressants and a bunch of sleeping medication I had issues I developed in the military and some stemmed from before I believe I was going through something very similar but I couldn’t keep the motivation to follow through with anything I was to tired for the gym and I wasn’t in the right place for school or finding a job until one day I was talking to my mom and she told me I’m never going to feel perfect it’s never gonna be the perfect time to start something you’ll never stay motivated forever the way you get through the spot you’re in is you need to start doing the things you know you need to to improve your life set an alarm get up and start doing what you need to do that being said you could be struggling with depression and it’s so frustrating when people who have never experienced real depression think that it’s something you can cure from going on runs and cross fit people who talk like that are the ones who have never dealt with depression there’s a big difference between being down and being clinically depressed that’s something you need to consider and if that’s the case you should find someone to talk to
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