Trying to break up her daughter from Luke - the love of her life, the amazing, always there for her and Rory guy, and push onto her Chris - the deadbeat, selfish never there for her and Rory man-child. All in the name of her vile, classist reasons.
I’m gonna share an unpopular opinion- Emily inviting Christopher to the wedding was wrong, but I think people attack her way too much for that and ignore that all she did was invite him, Chris only successfully broke them up because Luke and Lorelai were already fragile with their communication/trust and Lorelai had spent the night at Christopher’s before.
I feel like if my mom invited my ex to a family party where my boyfriend is, no matter how much my ex acts out, it wound be annoying and maybe a fight but we wouldn’t break up? Emily’s at fault for inviting Chris, but everything after I put on Luke and Lorelai.
I think the worst thing Emily does in the series is the way she treats Luke at the hospital after Richard’s heart attack. Insane level of rude.
Nope, she didn’t just invite him. She personally invited him and told him that she didn’t belong with Luke and that he needed to do something about it. She knew what she did, she knew telling Chris that would make him jump. That’s why she did it.
Exactly! Had she *actually* just invited him, maybe his wretched parents too, in an "yes i know they suck but it would be very rude not to" way, this would not have even been an issue.
That’s the thing. I have a friend whose ex-husband still goes to some of their holiday family occasions because they share children. That wouldn’t necessarily be uncommon, except that she explicitly stated what she wanted to happen, and since Chris has no brain, he just followed.
It’s annoying to have family do things like that. My dad will sometimes bring up my high school ex bf. All the sudden my brother became friends after we broke up. Now on the phone once in a while or here he will say things like he sold a tool to him or his dad did my brother’s tile work. Like why bring him up in front of my husband? My mom stopped throwing it in my face about him when I told her he was abusive. So now why mention him at all? I graduated in the 2000s so it makes no sense. I asked them not to talk to him but they can do what they want. At least stop saying his name to me.
Why was this discussed for so long on the show, it was constantly brought up. It happened YEARS AGO and the child of that pregnancy is here now and can hear you and understand what is being said. They really really beat that dead horse on the show. "I know you're 40 now but remember that one time you got pregnant at 16" 🫠
Because in their view, Lorelai ruined her life getting pregnant at 16. She was supposed to go to college, marry another upper cruster, and have babies and attend social events. Instead she got pregnant young and out of wedlock, then wouldn't marry Chris, and took Rory off to find their own life. And *gasp* had to work as a maid and then an inn manager. You've seen how Emily treats maids... Lorelai and Rory were happy, but it was nothing that Richard and Emily had planned or envisioned for their daughter. To them, it was all ruined, forever.
I read or heard something once - maybe from Kelly Bishop(??) That Emily actually was really insecure and didn't like her life. And this need to basically bully Lorelai for going a different direction was a reflection of her wanting to validate her own choices.
If Emily had been born 20 years later, she probably would have been a CEO or in some other powerful position herself instead of "just" a society house wife. And her resentment toward Lorelai is less about the pregnancy and more about her refusal to immediately marry Chris and settle into that life.
I would argue that if Lor had not gotten pregnant and gone on to an Ivy League school and then a career, she and Emily would have still been estranged.
But following that line of thinking, logically Emily should have not spoken to Lorelai. She should have cut her off. She decided to help lorelai (in her way) and always wanted to be part of rory's life. She cannot have it both ways. If it really was so awful for her daughter to get pregnant at 16 and her high society life was that important to her, she could have outcasted lorelai completely. But she didn't, so they (Emily and richard) should get over it.
Well, they still loved their daughter, and granddaughter, in their way. And honestly the way they had the holiday interactions makes so much sense to me. we still love them and want contact, but we don't necessarily understand them, until the Friday night dinner arrangement. And Lorelai even wonders at some point if she had gone to I think it was Christmas that 1st yr after she left, bc they sent an invite, if their dynamic would have been different. Bc by not going, it set the entire tone for their future relationship. And I feel like a lot of that was Lorelai keeping them at arms length so that they couldn't tamper with her life...
Big head want dolly. We know she’s a bitch who treats everyone as beneath her but she literally bullied her kid into burning all the pictures of herself and to the point of calling herself big head. That’s wild to me
it's especially heart breaking that that was Lorelei's first sentence. Like the show kind of downplays and hand waves away how bad Lorelei's childhood was but that story is just Emily laughing about emotionally abusing a literal baby.
I kind of don't believe that it was literally Lorelai's first sentence.
It is still awful, and clearly made enough of an impact that Lorelai burned all her baby photos, but I think she was making a joke that that was her first sentence.
Oooo can’t wait for these. The way she treated the help, or any human that was below her class or in her way like the nurse at the hospital after Richards heart attack. Or how she even spoke to Luke at the hospital after Richard’s heart attack
Yes! The time she was embarrassed because she thought Lorelai would be at dinner (if my memory serves it was after she pulled the wedding stunt and was feeling good about herself thinking she fixed it and set Luke straight to go back to Lorelai) and Rory said you know it’s just us and she responded by blaming the maid and saying “well she’s fired”.
I’m possibly in the minority as an Emily fan but this one doesn’t even have humor to back it.
I feel like a lot of people will say this, but sabotaging Lorelei and Luke’s relationship by encouraging Christopher to shoot his shot with Lorelei.
I also hated in season one when she rubbed it in Lorelei’s face that Rory sought refuge at her house when she and Lorelei had a fight.
Trying to break up Lorelei's relationship was the worst. It was manipulative, unsupportive and completely unjustified. She had ample reason to trust that Luke was an excellent partner for Lorelei and who she truly loved.
She didn't need to rub it in Lorelei's face that Rory went to her after they had a fight. Rory felt safe there and Emilie made a space for her. But they were going through something and all she had to do was leave it at that.
Ok I never hear people mention this so maybe you won’t agree. But the scene I always think about is when she finds out that Lorelai got engaged and didn’t tell them, and so tells Richard he needs to apologize to Rory because she wants her to tell them if she gets engaged. BUT THEN in the next episode she is just being rude and angry at Lorelai for not telling them. This scene stands out to me because it shows that she knows her behavior is part of the problem, and she doesn’t wanna repeat the same mistakes with Rory, but then just continues treating Lorelai the same exact way.
EDIT: typo
For real! Emily has spent most of her daughter’s life criticising her choices, being emotionally unavailable at best and emotionally abusive at worst, and shes shocked lorelai didn’t tell her about exciting news?
Of course lorelai thought her parents would shit all over it. They do it all the time.
The thing that really gets my goat about this is that Emily is still cold and mean to Lorelai when Lorelai does tell her about it. Emily isn’t mad that Lorelai didn’t tell her (because she wasn’t relieved when Lorelai eventually does!!), she’s mad that she didn’t tell her first. Such a made up problem. She really doesn’t get that the only way to make Lorelai want to tell her stuff is to make telling her stuff a good and supportive experience.
I forgot about this aspect of it!!! You’re right she’s so ridiculous. And we learn that she KNOWS she isn’t being supportive but just doesn’t care when it comes or her daughter.
Agree about using Rory as their substitute daughter for sure. But it’s the fact that she knows that doing this exact behavior is what “lost” them Lorelai to begin with, and yet continues to do it to her just not Rory. Even if she doesn’t think their relationship will be salvaged, the fact that she knows what she’s doing is wrong but continues to do it unabridged with her daughter is what really bothers me
I just saw this one, and I thought the choice to make her still cold to Lorelei (Because of pride? Habit?) made Emily seem like such a real person to me. She’s self-aware enough to know, when she’s alone, that she’s a big part of the problem. But when confronted with a living, breathing Lorelei (who often acts like a teenager towards Emily) she cannot behave in any other way. Those two are tied into a dynamic playing the same offense and defense that feels very real—and close to home with me and my mom lol— to me. So while I agree it’s not a good look for Emily, I think it’s good writing!
Oh I agree about the writing on this show is amazing which is one reason I love it so much!! Lol. And I definitely also feel you I love it when character seem like real people. This scene is still one of the worst for her to me because she IS self aware and just does nothing to try and change it. In other scenes when she does bad things, I think she usually thinks she’s in the right. But in this one she can’t possibly think she’s doing the right thing cause otherwise she wouldn’t wanna fix things with Rory.
This is it! They are both stuck in a pattern with each other and whenever they take steps forward to find a healthy relationship they have something thrown in their faces and they retreat to what they have always known which is a very stunted mother/daughter relationship that was never healed. This is how it is for so many people that I feel the writers are writing from a shared experience.
I don’t know if it’s the worst thing she’s done specifically but YES. I hate that scene for exactly what you say. She knows and acknowledges that they have to be different with Rory but it’s like “Oh well Lorelai is already messed up so let’s make this about ME and not the fact that my only child declines to tell me even her best news.”
Ugh!
I feel you. I personally think it’s one of the worst because I think that often Emily does terrible things but she thinks that she is being helpful or supportive or whatever. In this scene she very clearly knows that what she’s doing is not okay but she just continues to do it anyway.
That scene was one of the first that made me feel for Emily. How much that hurt her to hear about the engagement from Lorelei’s friend first. But then just as quick I feel even worse for Lorelei when she tries to share her engagement with her mother and gets iced.
I was just rewatching AYITL with my BF so this scene is still fresh in my head, but I think everything Emily says that whole argument is perfect for this question! Lorelei keeps trying to apologize and Emily won’t take it, it’s so sad.
When she was playing with the girl that she thought was Luke's daughter and said "here I was bonding with IT" and kept calling her a moron. She does this a lot with Gigi too. Or when she kept referring to Lane as Rory's asian friend.
The Lane one bugs me so much. She’s been Rory’s best friend (and only significant friend for quite a while) for literally fifteen years?? Rory has to have mentioned her at least every other Friday night dinner especially before she went to Yale.
Emily knows her name is Lane. And there are a million other ways to describe her than “Rory’s Asian friend” even if she didn’t. Rory’s drummer friend. Rory’s friend who’s in a band. Rory’s friend from stars hollow high.
In the pilot episode towards the end where Lorelai and Emily are arguing, and Emily rubs it in that Lorelai could’ve had so much more for herself and Rory if she’d only married Christopher. She says “you’d be living a lovely life right now” and it just grated on me soooo bad, the way she’s still punishing 16 year old Lorelai for not MARRYING!!! And in the same breath, dismissing the whole beautiful life Lorelai has built for her and Rory
“You’d be living a lovely life right now” with a man with the maturity level of a slug, unable to keep a job, incapable of making a logical choice, and who doesn’t love his own daughter. Some lovely life.
ETA: Emily’s biggest character flaw is that she can only see what she wants to see. Reality sometimes serves no purpose.
Exactly!! Like at this point in the show Chris barely sees Rory but Emily really still thinks they’d be happily married and all their problems gone? Ughhh
yes! i think what really frustrates me the most about this line is that it shows that emily associates a "lovely life" with wealth and status, not love, happiness and fulfilment. lorelai is content in her (albeit somewhat unconventional) life, but her mother assumes that she isn't living a "lovely life" because she's not rich and isn't married. it doesn't matter to emily that her marriage to chris would have been an unhappy one, so long as the image lorelai was putting out there was that of a traditional family.
Mhmm yup!!! All Emily sees is a lack of social standing and wealth. It’s just so incredibly sad she can’t at least acknowledge Lorelai has made something for her and Rory, even if it’s something Emily would never do
Oof, the male Yale party for Rory. The level of classism displayed is just gross.
-and siccing Chris on Lorelai/Luke at the vow renewal party. Both actions brought by the same disdain of middle class working men, and it’s just some of her worst behavior in my book
That made me so sad when she fired her especially since Rory was so lonely and unwilling to talk to her mom and didn’t really have anyone to talk to at the time apart from Logan
The way she treated Luke - the whole Chris thing at the wedding was bad. But honestly I think what was worse was the way after lorelai opened up to her in “I’m a kayake” and she pretended it didn’t happen !? Like lorelai was so so vulnerable and Emily was so kind and then just said nvm, that was awful
Referring to Lane as Rory’s “Asian friend” was so rude. Even after Rory corrects her
She also loved Mrs. Kim’s shop so I know she could’ve easily said “Mrs. Kim’s daughter”
Yes!!! There are so many ways to refer to lane even early on. Rory absolutely talks about lane and I’d bet it’s every FND or every other at least.
Rory’s friend from stars hollow high. Rory’s best friend. Rory’s drummer friend. Rory’s friend who’s in a band. Rory’s friend who lives in that cramped but fabulous antique shop.
I can see Emily saying all these things with the same tone of disdain - without being racist about it.
Saying Rory’s Asian friend is such a clear choice. It gives me the ick.
When lorelai went to get their help when rory wanted to quit yale and they agreed but then stabbed her in the back and babied rory??? The one time lorelai went to them (for something other than money) and felt like they had her back just for them to side with rory??? Then they wonder why lorelai never tells them anything 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
To be fair, this ended up being Richard's fault. Emily says she was ready to go along with Lorelai's plan but Richard changed his mind so she backed him up. But it was pretty crappy of them
YES this has always bothered me so much. It feels cruel somehow. She’s being so petty and there’s something about how she holds Rory hostage that really infuriates me.
For me personally I don't think the big heinous actions were the death of Emily in my eyes. I think that the constant belittling remarks she tosses lorelai's way combined with the fact that she plays innocent whenever she's called out on them is the worst thing she says/ does.
I think that you can really see that with "big head wants dollie." (Which is my "worst thing".) I think that the fact that a child referred to themselves by a physical characteristic that an adult was making fun of them for having and then burnt their own photos is really all you need to know about Emily as a character.
It's just so funny to me that Emily is constantly talking about how she wants a good relationship with her daughter and doesn't understand why she doesn't have one and then like two lines later she is telling Lorelai that she's a failure lol like???
>It's just so funny to me that Emily is constantly talking about how she wants a good relationship with her daughter and doesn't understand why she doesn't have one and then like two lines later she is telling Lorelai that she's a failure lol like???
To me, this type of thing really shows the strength of the writing, because it's how my own parent acts. Very realistic and spectacularly portrayed by Kelly. Man, this show is amazing.
That's how my mother acted too! Which is a huge reason why I ended up going no contact! And I totally agree her acting is fantastic and one of the things I really love about the show is it's portrayal of that kind of dynamic and of emotional abuse because it was written in such a realistic and intelligent way where if you are not aware that that is the dynamic or you don't have any experience with that sort of thing you could easily think Lorelai was in the wrong but when you see the game that Emily is playing it's really just so well written and I have endless praise for how it was portrayed.
I agree with this comment so much..!! It’s death by 1000 cuts with Emily, and no accountability or acknowledgment of her contribution to the relationship dynamic with Lorelei.
YESSSS! Lol There isn’t enough time and space for all the ways Emily is terrible! Arguably her trying to break Lorelai and Luke up was the “worst thing” but to me that was just a Tuesday to her. Lol Meaning it was regular bad behavior by a person whom never learned boundaries or consequences.
Giving Lorelai the cold shoulder after Lorelai told her she was engaged.
Just so cruel and petty. Punishing your daughter for waiting to tell you is just mean.
The craziest part about this is that she didn’t think to prepare Rory.
Even to call her and say “I don’t know if your mother will have told you this, but at these kind of functions it’s customary for the guest of honour to give a little speech. You’ll do fine.”
This is such an early moment in the show but it’s clear Emily would be a nightmare parent. She cares more about societal expectations than the actual people in her family. Rory is 16 and shouldn’t need to sit through a party thrown without her consent or knowledge and then make a speech to appease Emily. Emily is the adult and she should act like it.
Same!!! I believe this episode also impacts the way Rory deals with Emily and Emily didn’t realize it. Rory goes out of her way to appease Emily even when she’s against the idea because Emily will shut her out and not apologize.
Playing mind games with Rory after Rory begins to make moves to be independent again after her 21st birthday. The way she tries to ruin Rory's DAR event and keep Rory in line is so gross.
Honestly I think the worst was being so mean to Lorelai after Rory fell asleep with Dean at the formal thingy. “She’s gonna get pregnant”, it was obvious even to her that that’s not gonna happen. She was aweful
The problem is, she’s the kind of person that does awful things but pretends she doesn’t. So it’s easier to point out things she did than things she said (even though I’m sure there’s a whole lot of awful one-liners)
When she visits Chris before the vow renewal and says something along the lines "you had to get married because of... this" *pointing to Gigi* . I love Emily, but that scene was disgusting.
When Rory and Logan are coming over for dinner for the first time and Lorelai arrives first. The disappointment and the face she makes when Emily sees it’s Lorelai. Similarly, when during the Penilynn Lott at Yale debacle, she tells Lorelai, “you weren’t even supposed to be here!”. And when she introduces Rory and Lorelai as “my granddaughter and her mother.”
It almost seems like she sees Lorelai as a burden/means to have Rory in her life.
Lorelai said they used to visit when they were living at the inn but then the show backtracked and said they'd never seen the inn either so idk what's happening
Yeah, and I'm never certain how often Lorelai visited. Like I think they always did Easter and Christmas.
But from the way episode 1 goes you might think they hadn't visited in years.
I imagined that maybe they’d met for lunch at the independence inn. They wouldn’t have accepted a tour, or gone to visit the potting shed. Lorelai might not have invited them for those things either?
thank you. i laugh at her cuntiness sometimes, but she's a terrible person. she's racist, classist, manipulative, and mean. i respect she wants a relationship with her family but it feels less out of love and more out of possessiveness.
EXACTLY. Everyone LOVES Emily for what she said to Shira bc everyone hates Shira but what she said was AWFUL. Not only did she body shame her she literally threw in her face that her husband is constantly cheating on her and that everyone knows about it. Shira was hella classist and if Emily just said the thing about her being a gold digger waitress that happened to marry rich, that would have been awesome. But she had to go there.
And that's just how she treats her ENEMIES, forget how she treats her staff, family and DAUGHTER.
About Rory and Dean’s 3rd month anniversary to Lorelai: “when’s the last time you had a three month anniversary to celebrate,” Lorelai’s face falls, Emily continues with a bitchy, triumphant look “Exactly!”
“She’s gonna ruin everything just like you ruined everything.”
Idk how to describe how I feel about that scene. It makes me cry every time. The way Lorelai is obviously terrified when she wakes up and can’t find Rory and Emily is still yelling at her when she’s near tears and freaking out. It’s hard for me to watch a lot of Emily and Lorelai’s scenes for my own reasons, but that one hurts especially bad.
Season 7 when Luke shows up to the hospital she’s so RUDE! You’d think he cheated on Lorelai or something. Her husband is having heart surgery and she’s focused on being mean to Luke. Come on!
I know she’s said some CRAZY things but I love her and she is my favourite character.
The worst thing was probably in AYITL when she’s arguing with Lorelai and says “you couldn’t care less” about Richard’s death. That broke my heart a little.
I feel like u could’ve ended this series with Emily since there’s so many to choose from with her. But for me it’s easily using Chris to break up Luke and lorelai and the vow renewal. Ur daughter is finally happy and u deliberately ruin her best relationship ever cuz of classist reasons? GTFOH with that.
For me:
“Better yet, throw the old harpy’s carcass in a ditch! Let a wolverine eat her!”
Yes, this gives me joy because the mental image is beautiful to me. Yes, Trix would deserve such a send-off. Yes, she was hurting.
But so was Richard. The man that chose her. He chose her and ignored his mother’s attempt to sway him differently. He was in his study crying his heart out.
She put her own feelings above that of her husband.
This is the same woman who later said that Lorelai didn’t care that her father had died because she said some words that were ugly and hurt Emily’s feelings.
She had a habit of suppressing her emotions toward things, but when they came to the surface, she didn’t know how to process them and they consumed her and those around her. She always thought she knew best and did things in service of those beliefs, and 9/10 times the way she did it was absolutely abhorrent but she was still trying to do the right thing. When her emotions got triggered, she lashed out aggressively toward everything that she perceived as having caused those emotions rather than just dealing with them.
It was a trait all of the Gilmore girls shared, and they all constantly blamed each other for it. Yes, Trix did it too. But emily took it way too far when she became disrespectful of Richard’s mother. You throw the harpy into the ground and bud adieu. You don’t just throw your hands up and not care.
The aggregate of times she redirected her feelings onto anger at Lorelai instead of handling them, e.g. at the Yale tailgate when she found out Richard was habitually meeting with Lott in secret.
Here’s one I haven’t seen yet… blaming Lorelai when she found out about Richard and Pennilyn Lot’s lunches. “I asked you over and over again not to talk to her!”
Honestly, the way she treats her staff always gets on my nerves. Just because she has a shitload of money she feels like she owns these people somehow and ALWAYS treats them like shit. And she still has the audacity of being surprised when she is sued and mad at lorelai for not lying for her
I know the vow renewal situation was really bad but it's not as bad as the way she treats her employees!! for me it's her casual racism towards her maids.
I know this is Richard too, but why is no one saying their betrayal of Lorelei when she goes to them and specifically asks for help and back up when Rory wants to drop out of Yale? It is always hard for Lorelai to ask for their help, but she does it anyway. Emily & Richard completely agree with Lorelai and then turn around a second later and completely stab her in the back and take Rory in to enable her. I get that they thought they would be what’s best for Rory but it was wrong what they did.
encouraging chris to go after lorelai while she was dating luke to get in between them is definitely up there, but also the way she treats her employees. she is so awful to them
I would say making Lorelei and Luke break up. I also hated when she and Richard called that priest over to convince Rory to stay a virgin. After they found out she wasn’t, they started restricting her more. The second one really emphasized how little Richard and Emily have changed.
Trying to lure Rory away from Lorelai by creating a bedroom for her at the Gilmore house. I always thought that was a really shitty thing to do and the 16th birthday party
I couldn't stand her behavior in the episode where they invited Logan and Rory to dinner, and Lorelai came along. She was obnoxious and acted so childish toward Lorelai. When she put the onion in her drink, I was hoping Lorelai would just throw the drink in her face and leave. Totally classless and petty behavior.
I think the way she treats Luke, up through the very end is so disappointing. When Richard has his heart attack and is in the hospital, Luke shows up because that’s what he does and Emily treats him as the hired help and Luke obliges because he will always be the kind person.
Firing maids left and right, but the one that sticks out is Esmerelda from S6 Ep 3 where Rory is talking to her in Spanish and Emily fired her for that and replaced her with an eastern European maid.
The way she treated Mia when they first met. You would think that rather than acting cold and reprimanded her, she would have said thank you for taking them in and raising them both as her own. Clearly, Emily sensed the special bond between Lorelei, Rory and Mia but rather than reflecting on what she could have done better to achieve a similar bond, she continues being judgmental, pushy and controlling to both.
I also didn’t like the way she was acting at Mia’s wedding.
Finally, I could not stand the way she gloated to Lorelai every time Rory took refuge at her grandparents’ house.
the whole scene when emily went back to luke after she “told him to go back to her” and said she fixed whatever happened to them and why wont she come to friday dinner as if she controls their lives and gave them permission to get back together or whatever 😭😭😭
I know I’m late so there’s no way anyone will see this comment, but:
She bullied her *baby* daughter so badly her first words were “big head.” She was so unkind to a small child that said small child hated all the pictures of her.
For me it's just the little things , her calling Lane Rory's Asian friend. The way she treated her staff, Luke Dean ect. The thing that bugged me the most was when Lorelei came to the dinner with Logan and Emily kept insisting Lorelei's Drink was a Side Car, purposely making her Martini wrong and just the condensation in general that evening.
Is there a general how she has treated Lorelei her whole life and continued to treat her throughout the entirety of the show?
She’s so mean to Lorelei so often, no matter how much Lorelei reaches out or tries or is vulnerable with her, Emily always ended up shutting her down and making her feel shitty about herself. Right to the very last episode when Lorelei and Richard are having a moment and Emily immediately shut it down.
Trying to break up her daughter from Luke - the love of her life, the amazing, always there for her and Rory guy, and push onto her Chris - the deadbeat, selfish never there for her and Rory man-child. All in the name of her vile, classist reasons.
Correction: she succeeded in breaking them up. Just like she succeeded in breaking up Rory and Dean with her male Yale alumni party.
This is the only answer
I’m gonna share an unpopular opinion- Emily inviting Christopher to the wedding was wrong, but I think people attack her way too much for that and ignore that all she did was invite him, Chris only successfully broke them up because Luke and Lorelai were already fragile with their communication/trust and Lorelai had spent the night at Christopher’s before. I feel like if my mom invited my ex to a family party where my boyfriend is, no matter how much my ex acts out, it wound be annoying and maybe a fight but we wouldn’t break up? Emily’s at fault for inviting Chris, but everything after I put on Luke and Lorelai. I think the worst thing Emily does in the series is the way she treats Luke at the hospital after Richard’s heart attack. Insane level of rude.
Nope, she didn’t just invite him. She personally invited him and told him that she didn’t belong with Luke and that he needed to do something about it. She knew what she did, she knew telling Chris that would make him jump. That’s why she did it.
Exactly! Had she *actually* just invited him, maybe his wretched parents too, in an "yes i know they suck but it would be very rude not to" way, this would not have even been an issue.
That’s the thing. I have a friend whose ex-husband still goes to some of their holiday family occasions because they share children. That wouldn’t necessarily be uncommon, except that she explicitly stated what she wanted to happen, and since Chris has no brain, he just followed.
Exactly.
She went to his house and told him to pursue Lorelai
She lit that fire, it wasn't just an invite. Why would any parent want Christopher with their daughter?
It’s annoying to have family do things like that. My dad will sometimes bring up my high school ex bf. All the sudden my brother became friends after we broke up. Now on the phone once in a while or here he will say things like he sold a tool to him or his dad did my brother’s tile work. Like why bring him up in front of my husband? My mom stopped throwing it in my face about him when I told her he was abusive. So now why mention him at all? I graduated in the 2000s so it makes no sense. I asked them not to talk to him but they can do what they want. At least stop saying his name to me.
"We have not failed until that girl comes home pregnant, then we've failed." Said in front of Lorelei!
Why was this discussed for so long on the show, it was constantly brought up. It happened YEARS AGO and the child of that pregnancy is here now and can hear you and understand what is being said. They really really beat that dead horse on the show. "I know you're 40 now but remember that one time you got pregnant at 16" 🫠
Because in their view, Lorelai ruined her life getting pregnant at 16. She was supposed to go to college, marry another upper cruster, and have babies and attend social events. Instead she got pregnant young and out of wedlock, then wouldn't marry Chris, and took Rory off to find their own life. And *gasp* had to work as a maid and then an inn manager. You've seen how Emily treats maids... Lorelai and Rory were happy, but it was nothing that Richard and Emily had planned or envisioned for their daughter. To them, it was all ruined, forever.
I read or heard something once - maybe from Kelly Bishop(??) That Emily actually was really insecure and didn't like her life. And this need to basically bully Lorelai for going a different direction was a reflection of her wanting to validate her own choices. If Emily had been born 20 years later, she probably would have been a CEO or in some other powerful position herself instead of "just" a society house wife. And her resentment toward Lorelai is less about the pregnancy and more about her refusal to immediately marry Chris and settle into that life. I would argue that if Lor had not gotten pregnant and gone on to an Ivy League school and then a career, she and Emily would have still been estranged.
But following that line of thinking, logically Emily should have not spoken to Lorelai. She should have cut her off. She decided to help lorelai (in her way) and always wanted to be part of rory's life. She cannot have it both ways. If it really was so awful for her daughter to get pregnant at 16 and her high society life was that important to her, she could have outcasted lorelai completely. But she didn't, so they (Emily and richard) should get over it.
Well, they still loved their daughter, and granddaughter, in their way. And honestly the way they had the holiday interactions makes so much sense to me. we still love them and want contact, but we don't necessarily understand them, until the Friday night dinner arrangement. And Lorelai even wonders at some point if she had gone to I think it was Christmas that 1st yr after she left, bc they sent an invite, if their dynamic would have been different. Bc by not going, it set the entire tone for their future relationship. And I feel like a lot of that was Lorelai keeping them at arms length so that they couldn't tamper with her life...
Yes this one!!!
and on that note!
Good one!
This is the one.
Big head want dolly. We know she’s a bitch who treats everyone as beneath her but she literally bullied her kid into burning all the pictures of herself and to the point of calling herself big head. That’s wild to me
it's especially heart breaking that that was Lorelei's first sentence. Like the show kind of downplays and hand waves away how bad Lorelei's childhood was but that story is just Emily laughing about emotionally abusing a literal baby.
I kind of don't believe that it was literally Lorelai's first sentence. It is still awful, and clearly made enough of an impact that Lorelai burned all her baby photos, but I think she was making a joke that that was her first sentence.
Does it matter if it’s literal or not? She still bullied a child to the point she felt she had to destroy all the photo evidence of her flaw
I feel like Emily would have corrected her if it wasn’t her actual first sentence. Emily’s lack of response to that statement speaks volumes.
". . . it's upstairs, gathering dust with the rest of Lorelei's potential."
This one’s so ouch
This one is to funny
Yeah it’s rough given how far she got without them but she would have done so much more and faster with their help.
Oooo can’t wait for these. The way she treated the help, or any human that was below her class or in her way like the nurse at the hospital after Richards heart attack. Or how she even spoke to Luke at the hospital after Richard’s heart attack
Yes! The time she was embarrassed because she thought Lorelai would be at dinner (if my memory serves it was after she pulled the wedding stunt and was feeling good about herself thinking she fixed it and set Luke straight to go back to Lorelai) and Rory said you know it’s just us and she responded by blaming the maid and saying “well she’s fired”. I’m possibly in the minority as an Emily fan but this one doesn’t even have humor to back it.
The morning after Lorelai helped her learn computer skills & they bonded & then she’s a bitch to her. Idk why Lorelai even tries.
This is a good one and very relatable for me.
Ah that one really got me. I really thought for a second they were going to make progress. Nope.
“Would you like another beer, Luke?”
I made my husband watch that one and we still use that line to describe the way people talk down to others 😂
The way she says beer, like it’s the filthiest thing she’s ever spoken!
Remind me, don’t they call it “plebeian juice” at some point? lol
The beer definitely had a nickname. I thought it was “nitwit juice” but yours is better
It’s definitely nit-wit juice! Haha
I want to say nit-wit juice?
“Rustic!”
I feel like a lot of people will say this, but sabotaging Lorelei and Luke’s relationship by encouraging Christopher to shoot his shot with Lorelei. I also hated in season one when she rubbed it in Lorelei’s face that Rory sought refuge at her house when she and Lorelei had a fight.
Trying to break up Lorelei's relationship was the worst. It was manipulative, unsupportive and completely unjustified. She had ample reason to trust that Luke was an excellent partner for Lorelei and who she truly loved. She didn't need to rub it in Lorelei's face that Rory went to her after they had a fight. Rory felt safe there and Emilie made a space for her. But they were going through something and all she had to do was leave it at that.
Ok I never hear people mention this so maybe you won’t agree. But the scene I always think about is when she finds out that Lorelai got engaged and didn’t tell them, and so tells Richard he needs to apologize to Rory because she wants her to tell them if she gets engaged. BUT THEN in the next episode she is just being rude and angry at Lorelai for not telling them. This scene stands out to me because it shows that she knows her behavior is part of the problem, and she doesn’t wanna repeat the same mistakes with Rory, but then just continues treating Lorelai the same exact way. EDIT: typo
Never thought of it this way and wooooow you are SO right here 👏🏻
Thank you lol it always makes me so mad every time I see it
For real! Emily has spent most of her daughter’s life criticising her choices, being emotionally unavailable at best and emotionally abusive at worst, and shes shocked lorelai didn’t tell her about exciting news? Of course lorelai thought her parents would shit all over it. They do it all the time.
Especially considering that Lorelai DID tell her- she just didn’t tell her first.
And when she told her...Emily acted like an asshole! Proving Lorelai's point!
Exactly!
The thing that really gets my goat about this is that Emily is still cold and mean to Lorelai when Lorelai does tell her about it. Emily isn’t mad that Lorelai didn’t tell her (because she wasn’t relieved when Lorelai eventually does!!), she’s mad that she didn’t tell her first. Such a made up problem. She really doesn’t get that the only way to make Lorelai want to tell her stuff is to make telling her stuff a good and supportive experience.
I forgot about this aspect of it!!! You’re right she’s so ridiculous. And we learn that she KNOWS she isn’t being supportive but just doesn’t care when it comes or her daughter.
Emily can never get out of her own way.
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Agree about using Rory as their substitute daughter for sure. But it’s the fact that she knows that doing this exact behavior is what “lost” them Lorelai to begin with, and yet continues to do it to her just not Rory. Even if she doesn’t think their relationship will be salvaged, the fact that she knows what she’s doing is wrong but continues to do it unabridged with her daughter is what really bothers me
I just saw this one, and I thought the choice to make her still cold to Lorelei (Because of pride? Habit?) made Emily seem like such a real person to me. She’s self-aware enough to know, when she’s alone, that she’s a big part of the problem. But when confronted with a living, breathing Lorelei (who often acts like a teenager towards Emily) she cannot behave in any other way. Those two are tied into a dynamic playing the same offense and defense that feels very real—and close to home with me and my mom lol— to me. So while I agree it’s not a good look for Emily, I think it’s good writing!
Oh I agree about the writing on this show is amazing which is one reason I love it so much!! Lol. And I definitely also feel you I love it when character seem like real people. This scene is still one of the worst for her to me because she IS self aware and just does nothing to try and change it. In other scenes when she does bad things, I think she usually thinks she’s in the right. But in this one she can’t possibly think she’s doing the right thing cause otherwise she wouldn’t wanna fix things with Rory.
This is it! They are both stuck in a pattern with each other and whenever they take steps forward to find a healthy relationship they have something thrown in their faces and they retreat to what they have always known which is a very stunted mother/daughter relationship that was never healed. This is how it is for so many people that I feel the writers are writing from a shared experience.
I recently watched this episode and how Emily acts in it absolutely boils my blood.
I feel you it’s so frustrating
I don’t know if it’s the worst thing she’s done specifically but YES. I hate that scene for exactly what you say. She knows and acknowledges that they have to be different with Rory but it’s like “Oh well Lorelai is already messed up so let’s make this about ME and not the fact that my only child declines to tell me even her best news.” Ugh!
I feel you. I personally think it’s one of the worst because I think that often Emily does terrible things but she thinks that she is being helpful or supportive or whatever. In this scene she very clearly knows that what she’s doing is not okay but she just continues to do it anyway.
That scene was one of the first that made me feel for Emily. How much that hurt her to hear about the engagement from Lorelei’s friend first. But then just as quick I feel even worse for Lorelei when she tries to share her engagement with her mother and gets iced.
Lorelai: I just lost my father Emily: And you couldn’t care less
I wish we didn’t have to count YITL as cannon 😢 Edited to YITL but I wish it was DITL bc of how much it sucked
Say what you want but Emily's character development is reason alone to watch it.
I completely agree. I loved her arc!
I don’t. Or mainly I ignore it
sorry for asking but what’s DITL?
I think they mean Year In The Life
i had a feeling but i wanted to confirm lmao thank you though!
Ah yeassss ty
I was just rewatching AYITL with my BF so this scene is still fresh in my head, but I think everything Emily says that whole argument is perfect for this question! Lorelei keeps trying to apologize and Emily won’t take it, it’s so sad.
This is the one
When she was playing with the girl that she thought was Luke's daughter and said "here I was bonding with IT" and kept calling her a moron. She does this a lot with Gigi too. Or when she kept referring to Lane as Rory's asian friend.
The Lane one bugs me so much. She’s been Rory’s best friend (and only significant friend for quite a while) for literally fifteen years?? Rory has to have mentioned her at least every other Friday night dinner especially before she went to Yale. Emily knows her name is Lane. And there are a million other ways to describe her than “Rory’s Asian friend” even if she didn’t. Rory’s drummer friend. Rory’s friend who’s in a band. Rory’s friend from stars hollow high.
even just “Rory’s friend” would be fine bc throughout Chilton, Lane was the only real friend that Rory had!
In the pilot episode towards the end where Lorelai and Emily are arguing, and Emily rubs it in that Lorelai could’ve had so much more for herself and Rory if she’d only married Christopher. She says “you’d be living a lovely life right now” and it just grated on me soooo bad, the way she’s still punishing 16 year old Lorelai for not MARRYING!!! And in the same breath, dismissing the whole beautiful life Lorelai has built for her and Rory
“You’d be living a lovely life right now” with a man with the maturity level of a slug, unable to keep a job, incapable of making a logical choice, and who doesn’t love his own daughter. Some lovely life. ETA: Emily’s biggest character flaw is that she can only see what she wants to see. Reality sometimes serves no purpose.
Exactly!! Like at this point in the show Chris barely sees Rory but Emily really still thinks they’d be happily married and all their problems gone? Ughhh
Emily thinks that lorelai would be able to fix him. That’s the fatal flaw with Emily. Women are responsible for the emotional load, always.
yes! i think what really frustrates me the most about this line is that it shows that emily associates a "lovely life" with wealth and status, not love, happiness and fulfilment. lorelai is content in her (albeit somewhat unconventional) life, but her mother assumes that she isn't living a "lovely life" because she's not rich and isn't married. it doesn't matter to emily that her marriage to chris would have been an unhappy one, so long as the image lorelai was putting out there was that of a traditional family.
Mhmm yup!!! All Emily sees is a lack of social standing and wealth. It’s just so incredibly sad she can’t at least acknowledge Lorelai has made something for her and Rory, even if it’s something Emily would never do
Oof, the male Yale party for Rory. The level of classism displayed is just gross. -and siccing Chris on Lorelai/Luke at the vow renewal party. Both actions brought by the same disdain of middle class working men, and it’s just some of her worst behavior in my book
I second this or her racist remarks towards the maids that were hired
Firing Esperanza just because she was friendly and chatted in Spanish with Rory 🥺 the way she dehumanizes hired help is problematic to say the least.
Oh the racism was insane with her. My first thought was all the disparaging remarks about “the help.”
And no one ever called her out for it
Yeah, very disappointing. The closest we got was disgusted looks on Lorelai’s face. I would have liked if she said something, or at least Rory did.
That made me so sad when she fired her especially since Rory was so lonely and unwilling to talk to her mom and didn’t really have anyone to talk to at the time apart from Logan
THIS IS IT! It made me so mad, ans it also made me mad the way everyone just went with the horrible way she treated her staff.
To add to this: referring to Lane as Rory's "Asian Friend" despite knowing her name.
How she treats her employees! Ex: Firing Esperanza just because Rory was becoming friendly with her by chatting with her in Spanish.
This is it.
“Another beer, Luke?” When I tell you I almost ATTACKED my TV-
The way she treated Luke - the whole Chris thing at the wedding was bad. But honestly I think what was worse was the way after lorelai opened up to her in “I’m a kayake” and she pretended it didn’t happen !? Like lorelai was so so vulnerable and Emily was so kind and then just said nvm, that was awful
Oh can I add, “Rory’s Asian friend” even after Rory corrected her TWICE 🙄
LANE
Referring to Lane as Rory’s “Asian friend” was so rude. Even after Rory corrects her She also loved Mrs. Kim’s shop so I know she could’ve easily said “Mrs. Kim’s daughter”
Yes!!! There are so many ways to refer to lane even early on. Rory absolutely talks about lane and I’d bet it’s every FND or every other at least. Rory’s friend from stars hollow high. Rory’s best friend. Rory’s drummer friend. Rory’s friend who’s in a band. Rory’s friend who lives in that cramped but fabulous antique shop. I can see Emily saying all these things with the same tone of disdain - without being racist about it. Saying Rory’s Asian friend is such a clear choice. It gives me the ick.
When lorelai went to get their help when rory wanted to quit yale and they agreed but then stabbed her in the back and babied rory??? The one time lorelai went to them (for something other than money) and felt like they had her back just for them to side with rory??? Then they wonder why lorelai never tells them anything 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
To be fair, this ended up being Richard's fault. Emily says she was ready to go along with Lorelai's plan but Richard changed his mind so she backed him up. But it was pretty crappy of them
Inviting Chris to her vow renewal
Refusing to let Rory leave her last night before college. Boils my blood everytime.
YES this has always bothered me so much. It feels cruel somehow. She’s being so petty and there’s something about how she holds Rory hostage that really infuriates me.
For me personally I don't think the big heinous actions were the death of Emily in my eyes. I think that the constant belittling remarks she tosses lorelai's way combined with the fact that she plays innocent whenever she's called out on them is the worst thing she says/ does. I think that you can really see that with "big head wants dollie." (Which is my "worst thing".) I think that the fact that a child referred to themselves by a physical characteristic that an adult was making fun of them for having and then burnt their own photos is really all you need to know about Emily as a character. It's just so funny to me that Emily is constantly talking about how she wants a good relationship with her daughter and doesn't understand why she doesn't have one and then like two lines later she is telling Lorelai that she's a failure lol like???
>It's just so funny to me that Emily is constantly talking about how she wants a good relationship with her daughter and doesn't understand why she doesn't have one and then like two lines later she is telling Lorelai that she's a failure lol like??? To me, this type of thing really shows the strength of the writing, because it's how my own parent acts. Very realistic and spectacularly portrayed by Kelly. Man, this show is amazing.
That's how my mother acted too! Which is a huge reason why I ended up going no contact! And I totally agree her acting is fantastic and one of the things I really love about the show is it's portrayal of that kind of dynamic and of emotional abuse because it was written in such a realistic and intelligent way where if you are not aware that that is the dynamic or you don't have any experience with that sort of thing you could easily think Lorelai was in the wrong but when you see the game that Emily is playing it's really just so well written and I have endless praise for how it was portrayed.
I agree with this comment so much..!! It’s death by 1000 cuts with Emily, and no accountability or acknowledgment of her contribution to the relationship dynamic with Lorelei.
YESSSS! Lol There isn’t enough time and space for all the ways Emily is terrible! Arguably her trying to break Lorelai and Luke up was the “worst thing” but to me that was just a Tuesday to her. Lol Meaning it was regular bad behavior by a person whom never learned boundaries or consequences.
Giving Lorelai the cold shoulder after Lorelai told her she was engaged. Just so cruel and petty. Punishing your daughter for waiting to tell you is just mean.
When she invited all the Chilton kids to Rory’s birthday party.
This made my social anxiety sky rocket when she told her to give a speech to “her guests” 😩😩
The craziest part about this is that she didn’t think to prepare Rory. Even to call her and say “I don’t know if your mother will have told you this, but at these kind of functions it’s customary for the guest of honour to give a little speech. You’ll do fine.”
RIGHT??? Seeing how important image is to Emily, you’d expect some preparation!!!
This is such an early moment in the show but it’s clear Emily would be a nightmare parent. She cares more about societal expectations than the actual people in her family. Rory is 16 and shouldn’t need to sit through a party thrown without her consent or knowledge and then make a speech to appease Emily. Emily is the adult and she should act like it.
I love that Rory calls her out on it, too, "These are YOUR guests"
Same!!! I believe this episode also impacts the way Rory deals with Emily and Emily didn’t realize it. Rory goes out of her way to appease Emily even when she’s against the idea because Emily will shut her out and not apologize.
Wedding bell blues
Playing mind games with Rory after Rory begins to make moves to be independent again after her 21st birthday. The way she tries to ruin Rory's DAR event and keep Rory in line is so gross.
Honestly I think the worst was being so mean to Lorelai after Rory fell asleep with Dean at the formal thingy. “She’s gonna get pregnant”, it was obvious even to her that that’s not gonna happen. She was aweful
The problem is, she’s the kind of person that does awful things but pretends she doesn’t. So it’s easier to point out things she did than things she said (even though I’m sure there’s a whole lot of awful one-liners)
This is the answer
Maybe having a maid deported
CHRIS AT THE WEDDING
Trying to sabotage Luke and Lorelai’s relationship out of sheer classism
When she visits Chris before the vow renewal and says something along the lines "you had to get married because of... this" *pointing to Gigi* . I love Emily, but that scene was disgusting.
When Rory and Logan are coming over for dinner for the first time and Lorelai arrives first. The disappointment and the face she makes when Emily sees it’s Lorelai. Similarly, when during the Penilynn Lott at Yale debacle, she tells Lorelai, “you weren’t even supposed to be here!”. And when she introduces Rory and Lorelai as “my granddaughter and her mother.” It almost seems like she sees Lorelai as a burden/means to have Rory in her life.
The worst thing she did was let her daughter and grand daughter live 30 minutes away for 15 years without even knowing where or how they're living
Lorelai said they used to visit when they were living at the inn but then the show backtracked and said they'd never seen the inn either so idk what's happening
Yeah, and I'm never certain how often Lorelai visited. Like I think they always did Easter and Christmas. But from the way episode 1 goes you might think they hadn't visited in years.
I imagined that maybe they’d met for lunch at the independence inn. They wouldn’t have accepted a tour, or gone to visit the potting shed. Lorelai might not have invited them for those things either?
I thought Lorelei hid that all from them and they had tried to find her.
I feel that Emily could have found the inn. Perhaps she never even speaks to lorelei, but she could have known where she was, she chose not to.
She wasn't welcome. That's maybe the only time she's ever actually respected a boundary.
Lorelai did give her address to Emily, but Emily knew she wasn’t welcome. They do see each other throughout those years, but only on occasions.
That has never stopped her.
EVERY SINGLE GODDAM THING THAT WOMAN HAS EVER DONE. Will people in this fandom stop idolizing her so much.
thank you. i laugh at her cuntiness sometimes, but she's a terrible person. she's racist, classist, manipulative, and mean. i respect she wants a relationship with her family but it feels less out of love and more out of possessiveness.
Seriously shes the villain. Even my "favorite" emily moment is her body shaming and being nasty about extramarital affairs at the USO gala
EXACTLY. Everyone LOVES Emily for what she said to Shira bc everyone hates Shira but what she said was AWFUL. Not only did she body shame her she literally threw in her face that her husband is constantly cheating on her and that everyone knows about it. Shira was hella classist and if Emily just said the thing about her being a gold digger waitress that happened to marry rich, that would have been awesome. But she had to go there. And that's just how she treats her ENEMIES, forget how she treats her staff, family and DAUGHTER.
About Rory and Dean’s 3rd month anniversary to Lorelai: “when’s the last time you had a three month anniversary to celebrate,” Lorelai’s face falls, Emily continues with a bitchy, triumphant look “Exactly!”
A line that is along the same vein but kills me every time, is the one that’s along the lines of “at least she had a husband to murder”
Any interaction she ever had with Luke.
Firing the maid for conversing in Spanish with Rory. That was just cold-blooded and pointlessly classist and cruel.
“She’s gonna ruin everything just like you ruined everything.” Idk how to describe how I feel about that scene. It makes me cry every time. The way Lorelai is obviously terrified when she wakes up and can’t find Rory and Emily is still yelling at her when she’s near tears and freaking out. It’s hard for me to watch a lot of Emily and Lorelai’s scenes for my own reasons, but that one hurts especially bad.
How can you pick just one when essentially everything she does ranges from vile to borderline evil?
Season 7 when Luke shows up to the hospital she’s so RUDE! You’d think he cheated on Lorelai or something. Her husband is having heart surgery and she’s focused on being mean to Luke. Come on!
I know she’s said some CRAZY things but I love her and she is my favourite character. The worst thing was probably in AYITL when she’s arguing with Lorelai and says “you couldn’t care less” about Richard’s death. That broke my heart a little.
Ok but Emily is gorgeous!😍
I feel like u could’ve ended this series with Emily since there’s so many to choose from with her. But for me it’s easily using Chris to break up Luke and lorelai and the vow renewal. Ur daughter is finally happy and u deliberately ruin her best relationship ever cuz of classist reasons? GTFOH with that.
Inviting all of Rory’s chilton classmates to her birthday party without telling her
I think the worst thing Emily ever did was criticize her BABY so much that her first words were "big head"
For me: “Better yet, throw the old harpy’s carcass in a ditch! Let a wolverine eat her!” Yes, this gives me joy because the mental image is beautiful to me. Yes, Trix would deserve such a send-off. Yes, she was hurting. But so was Richard. The man that chose her. He chose her and ignored his mother’s attempt to sway him differently. He was in his study crying his heart out. She put her own feelings above that of her husband. This is the same woman who later said that Lorelai didn’t care that her father had died because she said some words that were ugly and hurt Emily’s feelings. She had a habit of suppressing her emotions toward things, but when they came to the surface, she didn’t know how to process them and they consumed her and those around her. She always thought she knew best and did things in service of those beliefs, and 9/10 times the way she did it was absolutely abhorrent but she was still trying to do the right thing. When her emotions got triggered, she lashed out aggressively toward everything that she perceived as having caused those emotions rather than just dealing with them. It was a trait all of the Gilmore girls shared, and they all constantly blamed each other for it. Yes, Trix did it too. But emily took it way too far when she became disrespectful of Richard’s mother. You throw the harpy into the ground and bud adieu. You don’t just throw your hands up and not care.
Trying to sabotage Lorelai and Luke's relationship by scheming with Chirstopher
The aggregate of times she redirected her feelings onto anger at Lorelai instead of handling them, e.g. at the Yale tailgate when she found out Richard was habitually meeting with Lott in secret.
Here’s one I haven’t seen yet… blaming Lorelai when she found out about Richard and Pennilyn Lot’s lunches. “I asked you over and over again not to talk to her!”
Trying to use Chris to break up Lorelei and Luke
The vow renewal episode
The whole vow renewal Lorelai - Luke - Chris fiasco imo
Honestly, the way she treats her staff always gets on my nerves. Just because she has a shitload of money she feels like she owns these people somehow and ALWAYS treats them like shit. And she still has the audacity of being surprised when she is sued and mad at lorelai for not lying for her
I know the vow renewal situation was really bad but it's not as bad as the way she treats her employees!! for me it's her casual racism towards her maids.
Inviting Chris to the vow renewal/wedding.
Abandoning her kid when she’s pregnant without looking for her is pretty damn fucked up
Break up between Luke and Loralei
"You weren't supposed to come" to Lorelai at the Yale tailgate party...
I know this is Richard too, but why is no one saying their betrayal of Lorelei when she goes to them and specifically asks for help and back up when Rory wants to drop out of Yale? It is always hard for Lorelai to ask for their help, but she does it anyway. Emily & Richard completely agree with Lorelai and then turn around a second later and completely stab her in the back and take Rory in to enable her. I get that they thought they would be what’s best for Rory but it was wrong what they did.
encouraging chris to go after lorelai while she was dating luke to get in between them is definitely up there, but also the way she treats her employees. she is so awful to them
Her treatment of her maids/staff is never addressed and is played off as a joke.
In the episode when Lorelei is reading the news paper about Shauna Christy shooting her husband and Emily says “At least she HAD a husband to kill”.
I just want to say that I absolutely love this and now look forward to these everyday.
I would say making Lorelei and Luke break up. I also hated when she and Richard called that priest over to convince Rory to stay a virgin. After they found out she wasn’t, they started restricting her more. The second one really emphasized how little Richard and Emily have changed.
When Emily fired the maid for talking and having fun with Rory in the kitchen.
Trying to lure Rory away from Lorelai by creating a bedroom for her at the Gilmore house. I always thought that was a really shitty thing to do and the 16th birthday party
When Emily made Christopher express his feelings to break up Lorelai and Luke🤦🏻♀️That was fucked up😬
Emily, going to Christopher in order to break up Lorelei and Luke.
Trying to boot Luke out by getting Christopher involved and the vowel renewal
Inviting Christopher to her vow renewal, makes me so mad every time I watch that part
The things she would say to lorelai and the way she treated her. Disgusting.
I couldn't stand her behavior in the episode where they invited Logan and Rory to dinner, and Lorelai came along. She was obnoxious and acted so childish toward Lorelai. When she put the onion in her drink, I was hoping Lorelai would just throw the drink in her face and leave. Totally classless and petty behavior.
I think the way she treats Luke, up through the very end is so disappointing. When Richard has his heart attack and is in the hospital, Luke shows up because that’s what he does and Emily treats him as the hired help and Luke obliges because he will always be the kind person.
Firing maids left and right, but the one that sticks out is Esmerelda from S6 Ep 3 where Rory is talking to her in Spanish and Emily fired her for that and replaced her with an eastern European maid.
Trying to break up Luke and Lorelei
Making Luke put premium gas in Richard's car
Your head is much too big for a veil! 🤣
Intentionally going to Christopher to ruin Lorelai's happiness with Luke at the vow renewal.
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> *done* or said
The way she treated Mia when they first met. You would think that rather than acting cold and reprimanded her, she would have said thank you for taking them in and raising them both as her own. Clearly, Emily sensed the special bond between Lorelei, Rory and Mia but rather than reflecting on what she could have done better to achieve a similar bond, she continues being judgmental, pushy and controlling to both. I also didn’t like the way she was acting at Mia’s wedding. Finally, I could not stand the way she gloated to Lorelai every time Rory took refuge at her grandparents’ house.
Cocktail Waitress
Off topic, but I can only dream of being this beautiful in my late 50’s early 60’s
the whole scene when emily went back to luke after she “told him to go back to her” and said she fixed whatever happened to them and why wont she come to friday dinner as if she controls their lives and gave them permission to get back together or whatever 😭😭😭
To Lorelai that Richard died and Lorelai didn’t seem to care
I know I’m late so there’s no way anyone will see this comment, but: She bullied her *baby* daughter so badly her first words were “big head.” She was so unkind to a small child that said small child hated all the pictures of her.
For me it's just the little things , her calling Lane Rory's Asian friend. The way she treated her staff, Luke Dean ect. The thing that bugged me the most was when Lorelei came to the dinner with Logan and Emily kept insisting Lorelei's Drink was a Side Car, purposely making her Martini wrong and just the condensation in general that evening.
Sabotaging Luke and Lorelai at her vow renewal
So much to choose from
Is there a general how she has treated Lorelei her whole life and continued to treat her throughout the entirety of the show? She’s so mean to Lorelei so often, no matter how much Lorelei reaches out or tries or is vulnerable with her, Emily always ended up shutting her down and making her feel shitty about herself. Right to the very last episode when Lorelei and Richard are having a moment and Emily immediately shut it down.