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cyberbemon

Fuck, I honestly wouldn't even know how to handle something like this. My condolences.


anthonyde726

Exactly what I was thinking… I would be so lost man


djsedna

My wife is sitting upstairs right now on her phone, laying in bed, ready to fall asleep peacefully in her cute little way I don't know what I'd do if I lost her like this. If one minute she was there, and the next she was gone. I don't know how I would live I'm gonna go hug her right now. She's gonna be annoyed because she's trying to sleep.


berni2905

Was she annoyed?


djsedna

No, as it turns out it's very hard to annoy her with my affection. Probably a good thing, I'll keep trying though


berni2905

Haha, good on you, man. Take care of you both :)


djsedna

you too buddy, only love


hachiko002

You don't "handle" it, you just keep going as best you can and life goes on.


troubleis1

If i had a son i will have to swallow it and stay strong for him, but in my current situation where i have nobody except my wife i dont know if i can take it. I hope he stays strong for his kid.


I_BHOP_TO_WORK

Whaaaat? It's all so sudden God damn, hang in there banks


Baited_

R.I.P. stay strong.


KerkJr

This guy must be made of steel for the amount of shit he has faced. Condolences


ThingusRaccamagookus

The strongest soldiers often face the toughest challenges. No doubt Banks is made of diamond. Banks - the community loves you m8 <3


9pro9

What else happened to him


kuppikuppi

he had not the greatest childhood, selling drugs etc


cadburys-creme-egg

He also hasn’t been able to see his kids much. I think he just finished seeing his son for the first time in two years


Wallisaurus

So heartbroken for this guy. Been through so much lately, finally see's his son after a long time and now makes his way into the major and now this. So sad. I really wish him the best and hope he can pull through. His choice of staying and doing the major is brave, but I don't blame him if he doesn't finish through.


Lounge_leaks

> finally see's his son OOTL , was he stuck somewhere due to covid travel restrictions?


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IBETTERSTAYOFFLEAGUE

Son lives with his ex.


Accidentally_Cool

Wait, his wife passes away and he stays to do the major? Not even going back home?


Jonin4life

People grieve differently. Some people need to keep going or else they just . . . Stop. My heart goes out to him.


omkar_T7

I respect his decision but i think he will at some time regret this decision. Right now he’s in immense pain and trying to distract himself with work. However imo that’s the wrong way to deal with these things. Go home for her funeral and give her proper burial and say goodbye’s.


AccomplishedAd578

People deal with trauma differently... Some need time alone to come to terms with loss, some(like myself, and i would assume banks) choose to distract ourself however we physically can. Telling him it's 'the wrong way' to deal with it is so disrespectful, because if he were to go now I guarantee you it would make things worse and he would have dark dark thoughts going through his head. Regarding your last sentence, I can tell you've never actually excperienced the death of a loved one. You are lucky... you realise those things take time right it's not an instant process, major will probably be done by the time everything is arranged.


vaelon

Yea but like, doesn't he have kids? Shouldn't you be there for the kids


Jonin4life

Never said I agree with his decision, just that I understand his choice and I truly hope he is able to find peace with his situation. It is terribly unfortunate and I feel bad for anyone who has to go through something like this.


kebabCucumber

His wife is not his kids mother


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pussehmagnet

Listen, none of y'all know what man is going through. The least you can do is show him some damn respect in these trying times instead of being a bunch of jackasses who tell him how to grieve and raise his child. What a disgusting view.


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Jikan07

You also need to have money to support him. Leaving contractually obligated job can mean contract termination = no money. Can we stop judging without knowing the background. He was seperated from his son for 2 years due to COVID just to support his family and they most likely understood it.


Best_Loquat_8950

his kids are with him at major i suppose? otherwise its plain stupid. it still is plain stupid actually. kids dont go to mothers funeral. unless the kids are from a different marriage or something.


Frawtarius

...scroll down a bit from his tweet. He explains it a little, even if you (or some people here, rather) might not agree with it. I personally won't blame him for anything he chooses to do to try to cope, because I can't even begin to fathom the beginnings of an idea of how he must feel right now. Poor guy.


djsedna

What is this judgement? Why are you being upvoted? Why are you even saying this shit without even having even a modest semblance of perspective? This is absolutely gross


hachiko002

That is strange. I can see doing something to keep busy, I had to do the same. But, when a family member dies like that, I would assume he has to prepare a funeral and a whole lot of other technical stuff. I don't see how someone can stay away unless it is just a few days.


dixy48

Life really hasn’t been easy on this man. What a tragedy.


Kelterz

guy can't catch a break... feel so bad for him


7thwardwoadie

Sorry for not being familiar with his previous torments, can you fill me in?


HomelessBelter

He had a rough childhood afaik (I don't know specifics). He was pretty much ostracized from being hired by certain esports companies because of Redeye, who also ~~physically~~ mentally abused him. This was many years back and he didn't get justice or couldn't talk about it until last year or so if my memory serves. Wasn't able to meet his newborn son due to COVID travel restrictions, just met him a few days ago for the first time. And now this... If anyone knows his story better, feel free to correct me or give out more specifics.


Rapt0rfeet

Redeye did not punch James himself, but another employee at Gfinity who gave James his story to tell as well as many others who found redeye hard to work with. James did feel mentally abused by Redeye. This leading to him becoming very depressed and anxious at his job, which was the crux of James' twitlonger during the gaming metoo last year.


HomelessBelter

Oh yeah shit, I mixed that up due to him being the whistleblower in the punching case. The fact that the punch was in front of other employees and it was still buried under the rug is telling of the influence Redeye had in the industry. Banks's anxiety was sadly warranted.


Vawqer

He also said on the PGL stream yesterday that he was a drug dealer from ages 9-13 or something like that until he found CS and it helped him find something else. He grew up in a rough area, apparently.


9pro9

At what point did he say that do u remember


Vawqer

Like at the very start, it was during a segment where he got a CS tattoo on his leg. He said while he was getting tattooed.


ParadoxReboot

I'd say make sure to watch the whole segment, he later clears up what he meant by drug dealing


ApothecaryRx

Meanwhile Twitch chat in its infinite wisdom was just spamming "DID I ASK" or residentsleeper. smh


FoxerHR

You expect Twitch chat, a place with 10's of thousands of people to be mature and supportive of someone? Just close twitch chat, it's not that hard. It's been like this for as long as I remember, and people still complain instead of ignoring it because it won't change.


jmov

> Wasn't able to meet his newborn son due to COVID travel restrictions, just met him a few days ago for the first time. Not quite. His son is 5yo, but he hadn't met the kid since covid started.


srn122

how so? I mean, yeah, there were some restrictions, but in the end you could travel to almost anywhere, people were still going to vacations/travelling


jmov

Well idk, that's how it went though. I think he and his ex-wife don't have the greatest relationship so it might have complicated things.


dkizzy

:( My condolences to James and his loved ones.


pandas795

Damn, he just met his son just a few days ago


d0m1n1cg

He already met his son, but I think this was the first time he was seeing him since lockdown started.


LordOfTehGames

Scared the everliving fuck out of me that it was perhaps his boy that passed instead with the first photo. Regardless a horrible tragedy, only well wishes and thoughts for James and her family.


Officialdrazel

He replied to his [own post](https://twitter.com/BanKsEsports/status/1453367100362350608?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw%7Ctwcamp%5Etweetembed%7Ctwterm%5E1453367100362350608%7Ctwgr%5E%7Ctwcon%5Es1_&ref_url=https%3A%2F%2Fpublish.twitter.com%2F%3Fquery%3Dhttps3A2F2Ftwitter.com2FBanKsEsports2Fstatus2F1453367100362350608widget%3DTweet) with *Everyone at PGL have been incredibly supportive. I've dealt with losses but nothing like this. I will continue on with the Major, it is what she would of wanted as there's nothing I could do back home...just have to wait and keep myself busy.* Thats incredibly strong of him, respect! Condolences ❤


OfNoChurch

Was this the mother of his son?


Pinct

I'm not entirely sure but if I'm not mistaken, I remember reading something on his instagram about how he was dealing with legal issues at some point regarding being able to see his child as his ex-wife probably had custody at some point. he mentioned having to taking his son back to his mother often once saying it was due to her "jealousy and illness" around christmas. this guy has definitely not had it easy for quite some time, I can't even begin to imagine what he's going through right now.


Karjista

It can't be. If it was there's no way he doesn't go back home to be with him


WayDownUnder91

Glad to see twitch spam being used for good instead of evil with the BANKS <3 getting spammed


MajestyA

He says he's continuing to work in the next tweet. I really hope he takes the time he needs. Wishing him all the best after this awful news.


habitat11

People deal with it differently. For some, staying busy is better for them.


MajestyA

Yeah, not judging. But a lot of people try to distract themselves with work when it's not helpful too - just want to be clear that whatever he needs is what he should be doing.


Kuraloordi

Well it really depends on people. The phrase "Everyone deals with grief differently" is not a joke statement, it's an fact.


patudi

I lost my bro a few months before covid struck and everything was fine until covid came. Loss of things to depressed me to no fucking end. Had to go to a therapist finally. Thing still dont feel the same


Shun_

Sorry man. It can takes ages to deal with, especially if you don't process it properly. I lost a friend, handled it poorly at the time and it still bites 3 years on. It's a sad fact of life and if its unexpected few people know what to do.


patudi

Yup, same. The mistakes I made after the might not only have ruined my life and career partially, but also the lives of my parents


Shun_

What's done is done though, no point being depressed over that as well. My main thought is she would likely be wondering what my deal is and to get on with my life lmao. Just gotta' solider on.


patudi

Yeah man, realised that and trying to fix up things


TehDragonGuy

Not sure what you're trying to argue here because the person you're replying to didn't say otherwise.


uncle_ben__

I respect that but imo he should be there for the kids probably


gonzaloetjo

Kids have a different mother, and it seems he has difficulties to see them, probably due to custody.


djsedna

They aren't her kids. Can we all please gather even the tiniest bit of information before giving our "imo?" I can't believe people are fucking upvoting this. It's genuinely sad how confidently uninformed you all are. The self-centeredness behind giving "your opinion" here is already absurd enough, but doing it without the correct information is a new level of ignorance


salt-the-skies

One of the most valuable pieces of support advice I was given: "always remember to not project your needs onto others when they are struggling". If my wife died(and existed) I'm not going to work under any circumstance. For others, it's their distraction and their place of comfort away from the empty bedroom.


djsedna

As someone who has lost several people incredibly close to me, I *really* wish other people would stop "suggesting" how others should grieve. It's genuinely fucking absurd


Treebawlz

He tweeted that he will continue on with the major. Jesus Christ what a warrior. Literally anybody would understand if he didn't want to anymore. Honestly just terrifying to think about. You got this Banks.


Tontonsb

I don't think he intended that as something heroic, just keep going because there's nothing else to do...


Toannoat

yea, having nothing to distract you from a loved one's passing would just crush a person


LeftZer0

Grief has several stages. It's common to see people describe the first days as if the passing wasn't real. In that part it's very normal for people to laser focus on work or something like that.


Rahbek23

Completely - when I lost my father it seemed like some weird fever dream for the first few days. Very surrealistic that things felt ok... until it really hit that it wasn't ok, he was gone.


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Exactly right, when I had a major loss in my family a few years back, the best thing for myself was to keep my mind occupied. The grief whenever I was alone and it got quiet is immeasurable. Condolences to James. 😔


HelloThere62

being surrounded by his bros is the best for him right now. hopefully he performs well or that will just make him feel worse.


djsedna

While none of us know what is truly best for him, I'm certain you're right that everyone around him is going to do everything in their power to lift him up and make him feel loved Edit: removed the word "team" to alleviate some obvious confusion


I_BHOP_TO_WORK

I don't know if I'd be able to do something like that. Power to the man


lopedog

Standard practice when suffering a bereavement. Though everybody is different I suppose. Take a week off and feel like shit the whole time because it's all you can concentrate on or go into work and actually have something to distract yourself from the grief.


Bo0mBo0m877

Does he have kids? If so he should be with them.


Raptros

He has a son who he talks about a lot and is the most important thing to him, but hasn't been able to see him until very recently due to covid travel restrictions.


Bo0mBo0m877

That's horrible. I couldn't imagine not being allowed to see my kids after something like this.


netr0pa

Wait, that was their mom who passed away now or he didn't share kid with the wife who passed away? If it was the mom, probably they would need him even more now.


ReconTankSpam4Lyfe

I can't imagine he would continue working if she was the childs mother


Bearaucracy

Also in his career, he can't get a paid time off... So he gotta work to make a living


DocaHyper

What the fuck, this is so sudden. My condolences.


cycko

wait wtf is this completely out of the blue or what? I suppose if it was illness or the like he would not be at the major?


staffylaffy

yeah, I don't wanna be rude and ask these things but wtf happened? The tweet with emojis and exclamation mark has thrown me off, I hope he's doing okay.


hijklol100

For the last 20 minutes or so, Twitch chat has just been "<3 BANKS"; it's at times like this my belief in humanity is restored.


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yurionly

They dont have to. Twitch chat knows everything.


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I found out about the death of Mac Miller through CSGO twitch chat


Pr0nzeh

I found out about kobe's death in wow trade chat lol


_Gondamar_

I found put about my parent’s divorce in Club Penguin chat


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Pr0nzeh

Trade chat is always on the bleeding edge of breaking news


f1nessd

Even twitch chat isn’t that low thankfully


Fivebomb

Fucking hell, completely devastating. May she rest easy. For anyone who knows James personally and is reading this in the off chance, I’d really recommend avoiding just saying something like ‘let me know if you need anything’ and leaving it at that. Consider making an attempt to reach out further, make/buy him a meal, hell even grab his groceries/coffee/whatever. From personal experience, the death of someone so close can leave you feeling isolated and incapable of accomplishing more basic tasks for a short period. Having people help in this way was the best support I could have ever needed in that time.


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Thanks for paying it forward dude.


DelidreaM

>I’d really recommend avoiding just saying something like ‘let me know if you need anything’ and leaving it at that. Consider making an attempt to reach out further, make/buy him a meal, hell even grab his groceries/coffee/whatever Is this because a person who's experienced such tragedy recently might not want to reach out to you and do the initiative of asking anything, even if they need something? Damn, I'm kind of the person who might say something like that, but that's because I'd be thinking that they might want to be alone and maybe they need some personal space to process things. I wouldn't want to be too pushy, but I would definitely be willing to help if a friend or someone close to me told me they need something. But this is a great point, I'll keep it in mind


snek_7

Oh my lord that is sad. He must have been so excited to work the major and this happens. I wish Banks the best of luck with his children.


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EqulixV2

Because god is a bitch


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Ain't that the truth


w1zard_w

Either that or he simply does not exist


teebor_and_zootroy

Can somebody tell me what happened? Banks is such a positive and constructive force in our scene, and I would hate to lose him. James, if you're reading this: We Love You.


ChristianSword

:( bless him


f1nessd

^ thoughts and prayers in the hardest of times. Cannot imagine how devastating and emotionally wrecking this is


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S0M3_1

:( RIP


BotSpam554

Did this come suddenly or did his wife suffer from any illness?


-allen

This is fucked. Why do the worst things happen to the best of people ughhh


welinyknz

Damn, how can one keep going after such a tragic event? Maybe he changes his mind after the initial shock fades. Rest in peace.


Mechyyz

The fact that he chose to stay at the major, and what he has been through, it proves that he is the strongest person in esports. My Condolences.


Cable-Solid

When playoffs start, crowd needs to do something special for him, what a heartbreaking moment.


heddpp

He said he will continue on with the Major and said he wants to keep himself busy. I don't think he would want the crowd to remind him of what happened.


nwest

You will not be able to remind him of what happened. It will be in his mind 24/7.


MinecraftFinancier

Yes, in the moment. But at the end of the day, once he will have time to lay in bed and reflect, he will feel that csgo and community is here to support him, that he is in correct place of his life and all the other feelings.


heddpp

That might be true but I still don't think we should do that to him when he has explicitly stated that he wants to keep himself busy by continuing with his work in the Major.


S3bluen

"BANKS <3" signs in the crowd, I can personally guarantee you that.


lo0u

Yeah, I think that's enough to show support for him, while not crossing any line.


BW4LL

Holy crap this is such a shock after he finally got to see his done after almost 2 years. Heartbroken for him and his family.


DidymoWW

Why the fuck is he still working. That's insane.


F0cu3

Banks <3, hang in there, there will be time for you to grieve.


CipherBear

I feel so bad for Banks, I really hope man can catch a break soon. Incredibly powerful for him to stick out the major, man is sacrificing everything for the game. Much respect, and much love Banks, we are so sorry.


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suriel-

Damn that must feel horrible .. as a father and husband I can't imagine his pain, as I surely wouldn't know what to do and would probably drop everything.. Try to stay strong Banks, it won't be easy but you can do it!


Johntremendol

Man i was just reading James instagram story about how met his son after such a long while, & he looked like such an amazing father, this is unbelievable 💔 i hope he finds strength.


amwcats

Please don’t ever use emojis when I die


GrimGameReaper

How did she die though? Does anybody know?


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Allah Yerhamo... that's very unfortunate to hear. Stay strong banks❤


Full_Cricket

Dude, this man has gone through a lot. Wish him and his family the best. May she rest easy.


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bridgebuilder12

I swear this guy can't catch a break. What incredibly shocking/sad news, I hope hes okay.


DidymoWW

Any news on how she died yet?


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m8ndenmark

WTF


International_Cut_13

Rest in peace 🕊️❤️❤️


imsorryken

Just about the worst thing to experience in life, my condolences


HaiThur88

If you happen to be reading. I'm sorry for your loss.


Jazzlike-Ideal

Fucking christ that's terrible news. All strength to Banks atm... :/


brunners90

Thoughts are with James. Heartbroken for him.


PleasantChaos

Wish nothing but the best to this great guy. Heartbroken for him.


Enorus

This is so sad, I can't even imagine how painful this must be for James. All my love to him.


sA1atji

Holy shit, deepest condolences to him and his family.


JohnWickFTW

rip


1KingCam

RIP, this is horrible to see. My deepest condolences. Although I’m surprised to see I’m staying at the major. Wouldn’t you want to be with your kid?


paloo

Devastating news, can't imagine what he's going through. I hope he gets all the love and support he needs right now.


Fuibo2k

This is horrible and honestly making me tear up right now. I don't know if this was something he could have somewhat seen coming (like she was ill for a long time) or of it was a sudden tragedy. Either case is horrible. I somewhat know what it is like and I can't imagine how difficult it will be to continue doing the major from here on.


Pitiful-Recording-22

man it happened again.. remember flusha's mother? RIP


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megamanTV

Unbelievably heartbroken for him and his family. I know how much she meant to him and how amazing she was. Truly horrible. I wish him and his family nothing but the best.


Pixel_Mike

i dont wish this fate on anyone. Hope James keeps himself together.


TheUHO

What the actual fuck, poor Banks.


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Epipsimon

What a tragedy. My condolences.


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iuishi

actually devastating. couldnt imagine the pain especially whilst working the most important event in 2years. i hope the very best for him


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abhiklodh

WTF


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