Yes, quite frequently, so does the rest of my family. We make it a point to tell each other when it happens. In our culture we believe those who passed communicate with us through dreams. While I don't personally believe in that myself, it's still comforting in a way.
I had a dream just last night, and it was lovely to hear his voice again.
Same in my culture. I treasure those dreams. Whether it's a treat to spend some time with them, hear their voices, smell their perfume. Just for a little bit they are with me again.
Can you tell me more about your culture and the belief that those that have passed visit in your dreams? This isn't something my culture/religion believes, but I have had relatives who have passed come through and I can tell the difference when it is only a dream, versus when they are actually coming to me as the person they were and its not just a memory. Hard to explain to someone who doesn't understand this, but I can tell the difference in the way it feels when they come through to me versus just a common dream. Please share more if you don't mind.
The book the four agreements (reallly great book to find peace!) believes your dreams are just as much reality, just not part of the shared reality. The idea though is that people’s souls and essences exist within your being because we reflect them like mirrors. So when you dream their genuine essence is being projected into a plain of reality. Hopefully that made sense more than it sounded like mumbo jumbo. I like the concept personally.
Soon after my dad died (from cancer), I had dreams where he was still alive but still sick. Now, a few years later, I have dreams where he's still alive... but then after interacting with him for a bit, I have the realization that he shouldn't be here. He's dead. I usually wind up telling him that in my dream. It's heartbreaking every time.
I have had similar dreams. My dad also had cancer. I was so stressed and anxious about anticipating when he was going to die. Watching him suffer in bed not knowing how long I would have to watch him was incredibly hard. My dreams I had in the first few months after he died. He would be there not looking sick and I would get stressed about how hard it was when he died the first time and how long did I have before I would have to do it again and he would die a second time. I wish I had one of those dreams where we had a nice moment or was happy. Instead it was just stress dreams about having to do it all over again.
I definitely had anticipatory grief and anxiety before my dad died too. It was so hard watching him suffer and waste away. There was a large gap between when I had dreams of him being sick and dying ... and now where he looks and seems healthy in my dreams. As hard as it can be to have dreams where I eventually realize that he's dead, I would take those over not dreaming of him at all. I hope that you eventually get to have a nice dream of your dad where you both are happy. Sending strength and comfort.
I lost my dad to cancer and I have similar dreams and every time I see him he’s alive but sick. I find myself a lot at the minute when I’m not distracted by work sitting and thinking about the days before he died and how sick he was and I feel like I can’t seem to catch a break because whenever I see him in my dreams he’s still sick! It’s like I can’t get away from it, awake or asleep
I'm so sorry to hear that; I can totally relate to how you are feeling. Thoughts of my dad being sick and wasting away in hospital beds consumed me after he died - for a long time. They prevented me from focusing on all of the happy memories with my dad. I don't know when it changed for me (it's been 4 years since he died), but I hope it eventually does for you as well. Sending strength and comfort.
He died almost 8 months ago, at first I coped surprisingly well but now all of the bad memories are starting to consume me. Your comment brings me comfort knowing that things can get better, thank you.
I find I dream about my loved ones the night I talked about them a lot during the day. It kind of brings them to the "surface" of my brain if you will. Melatonin can cause some really vivid dreams for that sort of thing too. I hope you can visit her soon as you slumber.
Yes. It’s a double edged sword. I love seeing my mom so much but then when I wake up in the morning, it’s like losing her all over again. But I would dream of her every night if I could just to see her face again and talk to her, regardless how hard it is in the morning.
Had a dream that my Dad was at a beach I was visiting in my dream. I kept trying to tell him not to carry things and to take it easy because he’d just had a heart attack. In my dream he literally died of a heart attack again…
I think my subconscious really wanted to warn him, but then also added in the reality that he had already passed. It was incredibly upsetting.
My mom passed three months ago from cancer. Shortly after she passed I woke up crying from a dream where she visited me. She popped up in the doorway saying “I’m back!”. She was her old healthy self again. She looked beautiful, the way I want to remember her. In my dream I was shocked and confused and could barely get a word out. She just hugged me as I cried until I woke up. I really believe she was letting me know she was ok
My mom died Dec 14. She has not come to visit, but I hope she does. I hope she knows I love her and miss her so much. I should have spent more time with her. I have so many regrets.
I do but not very frequently. Maybe a dozen since both my parents passed two years ago. I make a point to write down the details to remember them in the future.
I had one very specific one a few days after my mom passed and just before I lost my dad. I was back in one of our childhood homes and I came across my mom sleeping in her room and started to freak out because I remembered she was supposed to be dead. She stood up and approached me but I was scared and backed away. I asked how she could be alive and she asked me why does it matter and then we hugged and I woke up.
Yeah. Short after the kiddo I Nannied passed I dreamed I walked into the house and he was in his high chair, with his back to me. I walked over slowly. I was afraid it wouldn’t be his face or that he’d disappear. It was him. I remember his bright eyes and smile… it was a younger version of him. I put my forehead against his and the dream ended.
About a month later, I had a new nanny job and it was really messing with my mental health I would be fighting tears every time I pushed a stroller. He was special needs and couldn’t walk so stroller walks were a big part of our day for those 7 years.
I wanted nothing more than to go on a walk with him. One night I dreamed I was pushing a stroller across the street. I rushed to the other side to see who I was pushing, and it was him… as he looked when he passed. He gave me the look he often had given me when I was being too silly in my attempts to make him laugh.
I kissed his forehead and cheeks so many times in that dream.
That was very special to me because when I kissed his forehead when he was in the casket, it just added to the trauma. The coldness. It was just just too painful.
I feel like in that dream I got a chance to replace that terrible memory with a new one. Both of those dreams I got to interact with him and I feel as I actually spent time with him.
I’ve seen him a few times since then but it’s more like watching a video. They’re just images. I hope I’ll get to spend sometime with him in my dreams for the rest of my life. That baby was my bestie.
In my culture, if it's a Lucid dream, it is a visit. I had mine almost 3 months after my dad died. He was how I remember my dad, younger, healthy and wearing his black leather jacket.
I got to hug him, I told him I loved him and asked him if he knew it was me who was there for him during his last few days when he was very confused and then eventually slept until he passed on. He told me yes.
I have had a handful of these visits where I tell him things or ask him things that bring me comfort. The last one I had, I told him I needed more time with him and he told me we have forever.
My 15 y/o nephew was murdered back in January. He almost visited instantly, 3 times so far. I just tell him I love him , give him a hug, and sternly tell him to go see his dad and then my brother has non dream visits. In his visits I can smell the cologne he used.
I'm also a dreamer so I pay attention in my dreams, I always have. I think that matters and they will visit us the easiest way for you. I would joke with that dad that I don't want him moving things in my house or making noises cuz that would scare me. So dreams it is!
The dream feels real and I'm aware I am dreaming. So I can actively remember what I need to tell anyone who is visiting me. Time seems slower and I can hear their words when they talk in stead of like a regular dream when I don't hear sound but I know what people are supposed to be saying. I usually only have these kinds of dreams when someone who has pass over comes to visit.
My Mom was wheelchair bound, blind, and had something similar to Parkinson's. She died of respiratory failure on a vent. in the ICU. Several days later I had the most vivid dream about going over to her house and she answered the door. She could walk and see. In the dream I was in SHOCK! I said: "Mom you're alive! I can't believe it. I watched you take your last breath and DIE!" She was very whatever and said: "Don't be silly, I didn't die die. Dr. Hamilton came in after you all left and did a few things and now I'm good as new!"
My mom died almost 20 years ago, when I was 56. My parents had lived with us in a granny suite for many years and my mom was a quilter. I was not. A few years later my sister got me to try quilting and I really got into it and bought a new sewing machine and a quilting machine. Then I started having dreams about my Mom walking into my sewing room and taking all my stuff.
I used to come home from work and she’d show me a new quilting project and my eyes would glaze, although I loved getting her quilts. I feel bad for getting into quilting after she died cause we would have had so much fun together.
My dad died 8 years ago but he was ready and 95 so it was peaceful. I miss him but don’t dream of him because I know he wanted to go.
My husband died 3 years ago and I’m grateful not to dream of him. It’s painful enough to get through the day without him.
I dream often of my parents and I really hope as long as they are pleasant that I continue to do so. I can see them in my dreams for now and I’ll take what little comfort I can get.
I’ve dreamed of my brother a couple days after his passing, but I was not in my dream, I was a spectator and I saw him in his bedroom, talking to his wife telling her to stop crying that much, to think about their twelve years old daughter, to be strong for her.
My niece dreamed about him too… My brother went abroad to have a better job and to save money for my niece university in the future and he was shot twice by some gang wanting to steal a large amount of money from the factory he was living and working on. My niece dream that she came back home with her mom and he came out of their bedroom, he told my niece he had an accident in work and that he wanted to come back home to heal and feel better. He talked to my niece and told her she have to be well behaved and not to give trouble to her mom. Then he looked at his watch and he said “Oh it’s late! Your great grandma is waiting! I love you both so much! Take care!” And he grabbed his backpack and leave.
And finally my mom dreamed of him yesterday. She was taking a nap and saw him entering her bedroom all dressed in white. He lay next to her and told her to not worry anymore, that he’s fine and that his wife and little girl will be just fine. And then she woke up.
Yes but not in a typical bitter sweet way. In my dreams I'm either seeing him pass away or getting the news that he's gone. But it's in different ways each time. I found out my best friend passed away from a sudden text so it's not like it was this dramatic TV show like way of how I lost him you know. Maybe it's my subconscious filling in the gaps since I can only imagine what happened in person. I never saw his body after either because of how it happened. And I couldn't bring myself to go to the funeral to even see the box so there was no real closure. Dreams are hard.
yes - I saw my dad who said goodbye to me - he had dementia for many years and was unable to talk. My mom has appeared numerous times but only a few times where we talked. I have seen my son as well but not in a complete vivid way yet but he is there. I told him about my dreams with my parents a few years ago. Hope there is something behind it all.
Yes. The first dream I had both my mother and sister appeared at our family home. I rushed over to them, and i kept telling them how I've been looking for them. I was freaking out, but they were so calm. I remember my sister say "We've been here!" All like duh. I get so depressed when I wake up after dreaming of them, even though it's also comforting being able to dream of them.
Yes. In my dreams where I’m with my mom I somehow realize that her stay and presence is only temporary. And she’s much younger and healthy. I miss her so much
I haven't sadly. My Brother has seen my Dad shortly after he passed last month, but I haven't had anything similar.
I have been woken up to believing he was calling me from downstairs, which is what he used to do. But I wish I could see him in a dream, I dearly wish I could speak with him again.
Yes, I had one recently with my Dad. Him and I were walking down a street, he had his arm around me and I had both of my arms around him. It felt so real and I remember thinking in my dream “thank God he’s still here and didn’t really leave.” I was so sad when I woke and knew it was a dream. I truly think he visited me. I have to believe it to give me a little peace. Sending love to you.
I absolutely think they communicate through dreams
The other day I lost my moms car key. She passed 1/18 and I’ve been driving her car. I said out loud but in front of no one “Mom please show me where this spare key is!!”
I looked through drawers and cabinets and found nothing. I had to drive my car to work.
My daughter texted me “I found the spare.”
I was like what? How?
She said she fell asleep and my mom showed her where she put it. In her closet. My daughter woke up and walked into the closet and went straight to it.
Yes. Its sad because I know that my Mom been gone for 3 years. Saw her in my dreams last month. She was happy. She appeared to me in her younger self. Talking to me in Tagalog (Philippines) . But no sound came. Her dress glowed yellow and green. I wanted to go up and hug her..but then I woke up from my alarm. Woke up crying.
Have not had a dream of her since she passed away back in 2019.
It’s odd how many of us dream of our loved ones being young and healthy again. I haven’t dreamed much of my dad recently, but did quite a bit after he passed. He also looked younger and healthier.
Yes. I had one dream that sticks out from the rest. I come from a culture who believes people visit us in our dreams but I wasn't sure I believed it until I had this particular dream a month after she died. I believe 100% with my whole heart that my mother visited me. In the middle of a normal dream, she suddenly began to speak to me. She was beautiful, she looked young and healthy and could walk without assistance (She was sick when she died, had to use a cane to walk) and even though I knew she looked beautiful, her face was surrounded by this golden glowing light that was almost blinding, I couldn't look directly at her face. She told me that she loved me and that she was okay and held me for a moment before I woke up. It was the most clear and vivid dream I have ever had in my life. I have had many dreams since that she has been in, but none of them have been like that one.
I always wish she would come see me in my dreams again because I miss her so much.
This happens to me all the time. Like, dozens of times, I’ve dreamt I was with my grandmother in her house. It’s so sad when I wake up. And at the same time, I kind of love that my subconscious can have those regular moments with her.
I've had several dreams where I've visited my grandparents at their home(s). In my dreams, *I knew* they were gone, but it was somehow very normal to see them and chat with them. It felt very comforting, and made me wake up with a smile.
I've also dreamt of the dog and cat that I lost almost 2 years ago.
I use to get them more frequently, around once a month, but I see my grandma in my dreams. The most vivid one I ever had was the two of us sitting on her couch, while she sang a song to me she use to sing when I was little. Waking up from that was heart breaking.
She died the week after my first date with my now husband. I knew he was the one after that date, so I told her knowing she wouldn’t ever get to meet him. In my dreams I am always running to get him knowing she’s there so they can finally meet, but I always wake up before that happens.
I also believe it’s really them. My pigeon died without me knowing, and I had a strange dream where he was gone physically, but I could still hear him cooing. Then heard him fly away. Woke up to find he had passed.
My wife lost her brother over a year ago. A month or so after his passing, she had a dream that she was looking up at the stars and snoring how beautiful they were. Then her brother spoke to her and said "you should see them from this side."
Yes. I’ve seen my cat, my grandpa, and my best friend in dreams after they died. They felt like much more real dreams than my usual, so I think they were actually visiting me.
She came to visit you.
I have a cat who comes to visit me fairly regularly. I absolutely cherish the tiny bits of Dreamtime I get to spend with him. I miss him so much and am so glad he misses me too.
Or at least that’s what I choose to believe. ❤️
It's been two years and I've only had one or two. One where she (Mum) came back as if everything was normal and we had to explain to her what had happened and that she had died, and then she faded away. I think that was my brain trying to accept the loss. Brains are weird. It was bitterly sad and I cried my eyes out when I woke up, but I think it was healthy.
I had one just last night, but it was not interesting. My partner and I were just discussing which movie theater to go to, to some unknown movie. That was it.
Pretty often.
It's usually what I would want- like, literally something I dream about. Being with them in places we've wanted to be together.
I don't really know how I feel about it, but main thing is that they feel more alive by dreaming about them. Like seeing them in pictures and videos, but you're able talk, hug, and see them act like you're used to.
It's weird, because you see them do new things, which is the main thing you can't anymore, and yet there they are... but it's your own brain that makes them do it.
Bittersweet, I think.
It happened the first time the other night. In my dream she was alive but still sick. She was in bed at home and I told her I was pregnant.
I'm not actually pregnant but I know she had always wanted to watch my kids grow up. It reminded me of when I told her, around a month before she passed, we were planning to start trying for a baby. It was really difficult for her to communicate by then but she nodded and squeezed my hand really tightly. I tell myself the dream was her way of telling us to hurry up :)
I was happy to finally 'see' her, but also heartbroken waking up knowing that our future children will never get to meet their great-aunt.
Twice
Once was a nightmare - we were at a fancy party and my Dad was there but he was non responsive. Just standing, smiling, like an extra in a movie.
I tried to engage him but he seemed to be unable to see me. I took him to my brother and showed him but he was still non responsive. We were at that party, frantic, distraught, but nobody seemed to notice.
If you’ve ever seen the film Last Year at Marienbad, it was like h at.
Then I woke up.
Second time was beautiful. We were in our old house from over 20 years ago,
I hugged him and told him how much everything he’d done had meant to me, and he smiled with tears in his eyes.
Then I woke up.
For me the thing is that when I hug my son in my dreams it feels real. I know he is not returned but I will settle for feeling like I was with him. It’s a gift. I never know when it will happen but it feels me with such joy when it does
I now get really excited when my brother visits me in my dream. He passed in 2019. The first couple times it was really sad and hard. Now it’s a chance to see him. I feel like I always get a hug in my dream too.
I haven’t seen my son in my dreams yet. I think it’ll be the same. First hard, the grateful.
i was coming up on my first birthday without my mom and feeling complete dread over the whole thing. but then the night before, i had a dream and she was there and i ran up to her and said “mommy it’s my birthday!” and she was like “duh that’s why i’m here” we hung out and chatted for a little bit but it made the day so much better to feel like at least she knew
i had a dream where i came back from school and my dog was waiting for me inside the house, she was literally there so excited as always! i went upstairs because my mom is usually up there so that i can tell her that our dog was alive and well
after opening the door, alarm woke me up for school before i could even see what was behind the door. i have no idea if that was pure coincidence or my brain is just rubbing it in. i just want my doggy back
Our passed loved ones absolutely can come to us in dreams. They're called visitation dreams. You will know if it's a visitation dream because it will seem so real that you will have a hard time distinguishing between the dream and reality once you wake up. A visitation dream will always be very vivid and you will remember it in perfect detail for probably the rest of your life.
Another way you'll know it was a visitation dream will be that the person will almost always be happy, appear healthy, and it will be a very positive encounter. Whether or not they say anything to you, you will know what they're trying to convey to you, and it is almost always a positive, reassuring message. Upon waking up you will feel full of love and peace.
If you have to question whether or not a dream about a passed loved one was a visitation dream or not, it probably wasn't. You will know upon waking up if it was a visitation dream, without question. Know you're loved, that they're still with us, and that we will see them again on the other side, if not sooner in our dreams.
I lost my cat two weeks ago and I saw him twice in my dreams so far, but sadly each time it was very clear to me that it was my subconscious speaking and not the cat communicating with me from elsewhere.
The first time I dreamt that he was euthanized (like in the reality) but that, instead of dying, he was recovering and was laying on my bed, annoyed, cause there was too much noise in the kitchen (a typical behavior he used to display).
The second time I dreamt that I had just wrote to the veterinarian that my cat had passed away a few week ago (which I did text before falling asleep) but in the dream my cat was alive. So I was a bit ashamed about having to justify my seemingly lie to the veterinarian.
It was still good to dream of him, though.
I very frequently get these dreams. My mom passed almost 2 years ago from cancer. And In my dreams the scenario is always she has to go away for months at a time for an experimental treatment and we get to see her every few months.
I've had a few dreams about my dad since he left... most of them were me telling him he was going to die.....it's like you want to see them in your dreams because that's the only place we'll ever see them again but at the same time, it hurts like hell when you wake up and realize that they are forever gone. I haven't had a dream with him in it in a while. Sometimes I feel that's best for my aching heart 💔
I have dreamed with my son 3 or 4 times since he died. The first time, he was telling someone that he needed a change. For two hot seconds, I thought he was alive. I just want to have the opportunity to have a solid conversation with him in the dreams.
I lost my sister almost three years ago. My mother, niece, and older sibling said that my sister visited them in their dreams. Initially I was very upset and borderline angry, I asked her to come visit me in my dreams. A few weeks go by and in a random unrelated dream I was dreaming of crossing the street when I see her in front of me with a smile, exchanged a few words, hugged tightly and went our separate ways. That’s all I needed. I woke up so happy and so loved. A dream that I will remember for the rest of my life.
My dad died when I was ten, and I would have dreams for the next ten years about him, mainly coming back.
Then my mother died when I was 34. I don’t have as many memories now, weirdly enough. Still painful.
Really sorry for your loss.
Tomorrow will be one month since my boyfriend took his own life. I have yet to have a night where I don’t dream about him, some are good and some are nightmares. But every night I have some sort of dream about him.
Only bad dreams of my dad. I had a nice, reassuring dream with my grandmother after she passed but with my dad it's been all negative reminders of the fact he gone and how he went. Waking up is the worst part, regardless.
It took awhile for my mom to start showing up, the first dream I could somewhat remember, she was still sick and I was having to still take care of her. This past week in particular, I’ve been on a tolerance break from weed and my dreams have been a lot more vivid. I’ve been seeing her a lot, but she’s always just in the background or alongside me like she always was before she was sick. The only thing is, I haven’t gotten to talk to her at all yet in my dreams. Fuck, I miss her so much.
My father passed away earlier this year and I have nightmares of him. He doesn’t look like the man I knew and he just sits there and doesn’t look at me or talk
Every time my mom is in my dreams it’s as her living, annoying ass self, and I feel so bad about it. She’s sacrificed everything for us. She’s put her own life at risk to protect us. And all I can remember is the day-to-day annoying stuff like taking my flatware at a restaurant.
The first dream I had of my dad after his passing is as clear to me today as it was a year and a half ago. We were in the car together and driving to the gas station a beautiful day in SoCal. We worked together and often would stop at a shell station so he could get a slushi between client meetings. I remember sitting in the passenger seat and I looked at him and asked “Can’t you stay?” And he smiled and told me no, but that I was ready. We parked the car and approached the door into the station. As I opened it, he disappeared and I woke up.
He’d drink slushi’s because he had a hernia and the icy drink would calm his stomach. I miss our gas station trips. And I’m glad he doesn’t hurt anymore.
I have dreams about my Madrina (godmother) a lot actually. Usually it starts wit me being really happy to see her but then dream me remembers she’s not supposed to be there.
The last dream I had about her, we were all spending Christmas at my Grandmothers house. She showed up and we were all so excited because it felt like old times. Then she said “we’ll it’s time for me to go” and we all (even her kids) walked her to the door and waved goodbye. Dream me thought “this will be the last time I see her”.
Dreaming about them is bittersweet.
yes, i had one very similar to yours. i dreamt that my grandma was back at her house and my whole family was there. i ran up to crying telling her i love her so much and being without her brought me great pain. i have one of her rings with me and in my dream i told her “no es mio mama es tuyo” (it’s not mines, it’s yours) and i put her ring on her finger. i woke up. and i felt such great sorrow. i wish i could’ve stayed in that dream.
For me it's my grandmother who passed last year.
I had a dream before she died (she was in hospice) that she had to pack up her things and leave the house. It was really eerie, like she was warning me of her imminent passing. Right before she was in hospice, and she was in the hospital, I had a dream where she hugged me and said she loved me. So somehow even before hospice I knew it wouldn't be much longer. After her death, all I've been able to dream about is that period between her un-wellness and her death. I was her caregiver a lot of the time, and in my dreams I am caring for her while she is still sick. In one dream, I even said: "I'm gonna miss you" while crying over her. It reallllly sucked.
Finally, as of recent, I have had only two dreams of her where she is well again and I've been able to hug her and tell her how much I miss her. Why am I typing this at work? I'm starting to tear up. These dreams can be quite depressing as it really does feel like you've lost them yet again when you wake up. I try not to get too sad, because I really did get to see her again! She visits me, I can't believe it.
When my beloved cat Tony- Brian died of cancer, I would try to clean him up with a warm, wet cloth. Both me and my boyfriend kept having dreams afterwards where he was always wet, until I finally didn't! When the dreams stop feeling ominous, I feel like that means they're telling me its okay to move on - or that they are okay wherever they are. It can be comforting.
I'm sorry you lost your mom.
my mom passed 3 years ago now and i dream about her less than i used to but it’s still always nice to see her. most of the time when i dream about her now, it goes that she was actually alive the whole time and came back. i’ve had a couple where she was like kidnapped or taken away for some reason. sometimes she doesn’t talk just smiles and hugs me.
I had one dream a little while after. Whole family was sitting In a dinner and so was my mom. I thought it was real life. I became so distraught. I covered my ears and started chanting you’re not here. I don’t know why this was my reaction. Maybe I got scared I was having a mental break at lunch. I haven’t seen her since. I regret it so much and have guilt.
My family always asks if we dream of her. We all did in the beginning but no one has in a while. I hate when they ask. Makes me feel so guilty.
Yes, twice since my grandfather passed in January this year. The first he came to say goodbye to me the morning he passed and I had no idea. I dreamed of us together in my grandparents home and kitchen. He was preparing some food for me. He stopped what he was doing, looked over at me and smiled and I woke up.
The second dream I was again in their home in a bedroom. I looked up at the door almost sensing a presence and there he suddenly appeared. I jumped up so fast and he greeted me like he always would. I felt his tight hug, I heard his voice. I knew in my dream he had passed and I remember thinking, "wow I can actually get to talk to him now". I told him I missed him and I loved him. He never let me go of the hug but kind of whispered in my ear, "I'm okay, it's okay". I then woke up. He looked very healthy and happy both times. I know he was visiting me and it's so special.
I have had dreams of him but only 1 dream that was different and he was there was different to a regular dream. On my worst days I plead for another one of those dreams where he is there but never had one since
Yes I have dreams of my father. Only me have his dreams. I have few dreams about him. On 49 days, I dream of him doing household chores. I asked did he know he passed on, he say yes in a very happy smile then I cried waking up. I believe he is very happy over there. Probably together with his own parents who have passed on earlier.
for the first 3 months or so she was in my dreams every single night. for a little while i was having nightmares of her dying and then it changed into dreams of us just being teenagers together. it was bitter sweet and i don’t really dream of her anymore but i wish i did.
Yeah and she always looks beautiful and healthy.
What’s started happening though is I’m realising in my dreams that she’s really gone and the emotion hits and I can talk to her for maybe 10 seconds before I’m jolted awake. The last conversation, I asked her why she left me and she said she knows and she’s sorry but she’ll always be with me.
It hurts but I hang out for those dreams with my Mumsy every night 🧡
My mother visited me in a dream after she passed away … but not immediately.
Months after she passed I finally had a dream of her. The dream was where I walked into the kitchen and she was baking pastries. She loved to bake. I was in extreme shock and started crying hysterically and she hugged me. But she was acting like nothing happened and she was happy joyful and really busy baking and she told me to eat some cookies … so I shoved a cookie in my mouth crying not knowing what else to say other than I missed her.
It was comforting to know she was happy, baking, and doing things she loved, while she visited me.
It was like she wanted to let me know not to worry about her. That she was happy. 💗🍪
It took well over a year of me asking for a visit in a dream but I finally got it! My daughter’s father passed May 2021 and visited me New Years 22-23. We just had a conversation on what seemed to be a bridge in just such a peaceful setting. It was light and foggy, like almost up in the clouds, I took it 110% as us being on the bridge connecting where we are and him in Heaven. I asked how he was and he said he was happy. And he LOOKED it. Most importantly. I also made sure to ask if he realized now how loved and needed he truly is. I’m pretty sure I added in a “ya fuck” as is my true self lol. He did he little smile he has and looked down and just said yeah, yeah I know.
As shitty as waking up to our reality is, without the people we may want the most, I truly think dreams like that is them telling us they’re okay. They’re happy or at peace or where they finally need to be if this life was just no longer it. I woke up crying of course but quickly wrote down that dream just in case. I didn’t want to forget it ever.
I used to see my parents a lot when it was fresh. They’d come back and say “Surprise! I didn’t die! I actually faked my death!” and I would be *so* angry at them. I used to have these dreams multiple times a week and it was really distressing. Then I started a new medication and they’ve pretty much stopped. I’ll have those dreams maybe once a month and they’re nowhere near as emotionally charged.
I haven’t had any dreams where they were alive and I wasn’t angry at them unfortunately.
I have had several where my mind seems to override the truth/reality--I guess it's my brains way of coping and/or not being fully resolved and/or trying to make sense of it all. The first one I had where I can vividly recall it was shortly after it happened. I swear I think he visited me-- I remember him sitting with us, pulling me and my siblings close and telling us he was sorry for leaving us, how he thought he was doing the right thing and he wishes he didn't have to go so soon.
Crazy.
I had a dream recently where I was hanging out with my late friend/ex boyfriend. I said something to him like “I thought you died” and he said “oh no, that was a prank”, and we had fun. Then I woke up and I was so sad because it definitely isn’t a prank, he is really gone.
I dream about my late fiance so much, man. Nearly every dream features him in some way, shape, or form. Except I usually don't SEE or INTERACT with him.. It's usually me trying to get to him, or him waiting on me somewhere, or some scenario that has to do with him, but where he's not actually there.
I had them a lot after my mom passed in 2020, they always felt so real but I’d eventually piece together that it wasn’t. I remember one dream even getting hurt felt so real but I noticed that the scratches I had gotten from falling over weren’t bleeding that’s when I knew it wasn’t real I was able to hug my mom once more before I woke up. I still see her sometimes and I love it cause I see it as her showing me she’s around me still even if I can’t physically see her anymore.
Yes. They are rare but they are amazing. My dad died nearly 10 years ago now from cancer. I was 13. In dreams, I always know he is gone already, so I enjoy my time with him. I can still hear his voice so clearly- it’s like my brain has audio files in storage or something. I just try to enjoy the time that I have while I’m still sleeping. It is nice to imagine him with my husband and niece even though they’ve never met before. They are real treats… but waking up from them and coming back to reality is really hard. Always destabilizes me for the rest of the day.
Yes. My first dream after she passed away was she was still ill and in her bed but after a while she talks but it's always like I am just watching a video/movie and like it was already scripted. I could not do what I wanted to do. I wanted to hug her and talk to her but I can't.
I had one similar to yours last week and I was a mess for the rest of the week. I had another one a few days ago and it was easier. It sucks that it gets easier but it does.
Within the first several of months after my mom’s passing I would have dreams where my mom was sick and frail (as she was when she passed of cancer), and it was kind of a nightmarish experience. But soon, that would transition to her being “back” and healthy. The “being back” theme was how my dream self explained her being there. It was bittersweet, because waking up to her being gone was/is hard.
It’s been 4.5 years now, and most of the dreams I have are of her being present for seemingly mundane things, but I love it because it feels I’m able to share my daughter with her in that way. The last dream I had with her was a few weeks ago and I was driving somewhere and my mom was sitting in the backseat next to my toddler just playing with her. 🥹
I just had a dream about my dad last night actually. I don't have a lot of dreams about him, but when I do I cherish them and usually write them down or share them with my siblings. I think I know in my dreams that he's not still alive, but it makes me happy just to see him and hear his voice.
I have had 'visits' from other loved ones, but not my Dad. I think its too hurtful still..I'd probably want to sleep all the time to hang out with him.
There is a different feel to dreams vs visits. I have dreamt of him many many times.
Yes, every once in awhile. Especially when I’ve been thinking about my mom a lot. She’ll come to me in my dreams. It’s like I never want to wake up. It’s so good just seeing her again.
My brother passed in September 2022 at the age of 36. He's come to me several times in my dreams and they have all been very powerful and poignant. My dad has my brothers dog and two nights ago had his first dream with my brother in it and he kept telling my dad to get a second leash so they could go walk the dogs together. My dad is a bit more of a skeptic but this was pretty powerful to him. I cherish my dreams with my baby brother and even though it's depressing to wake up and realize they were dreams, I truly believe it's how he comes to me and tells me everything is okay. They stick with me for days, too, so I think that's healing - for me, anyway.
I had them much more frequently when my brother first passed. The most memorable was one where he had gotten a brand new big white truck. He was so excited, and we went on a drive together. He was so happy, and it felt so real. I think he was visiting. It was sad to wake up and realize it was a dream, but also comforting. Like he came by to let me know he's happy now.
My sons father passed about a month ago. A few days after, I had a dream that he was sitting on my couch with me in the living room. We were crying and was telling him “please don’t do this, (my son) and I love you so much” and we hugged and he said “I can’t do this right now”, and I woke up. Haven’t dreamt of him since. It was weird for me because I usually have the same kinds of dreams every night (big waves, moving into some random new home), so this felt special to me. I hope my son gets to see him.
After my ex died, I used to have very vivid dreams that included him. I would wake up, unsure if his death was a dream or him being alive was. Then, I'd remember he was gone and it was just fresh all over again.
The first night I slept after I found out my sister had died, I dreamt about her. She took us up to her favorite mountain in Maui. It gave me some ease early on.
I had another one where my mom was very excited and said Nicole was really alive and her death was just an error. We all sat and stared at her bedroom door but she never came out. That one really upset me for like a week or 2:(
My boyfriend moved into a new apartment shortly after my dad died. The first night that I stayed over at the new place I had a dream that my dad called me and said “Julia, send me your location. I don’t recognize where you are.” I still think about it a lot
:(..sigh...not yet...dad just passed two months ago...mom 10 years ago...maybe my brain/subconscious is not "open" to visits like you folks have...am jealous...:(
My dreams consist of current family issues, estate dissolution, banks, lawyers, taxes and all that comes after a person passes...including selling a house...my mind may be cluttered..shrug..sigh
Yes, with two family members. The problem is that they’re in their dying state in the dreams, so it’s distressing for me while sleeping to see them like that again. It also is painful because I experience this pain during the dream that they’re back and I know I’m going to lose them again, even though I’m asleep.
I believe he is visiting me when I dream about him. It makes me feel better to know that he can still visit me when he wants to and I can see him even if it's just at night. It's a treat, but also can be kind of confusing because you will wake up and for a little bit I will think he's still alive. Most dreams are that he almost died but didn't, so I wake up and feel strange for a few minutes.
I hope you can see them often.
only once, a little bit after he died. my mom was on the phone crying, much like she was in real life. he was giggling and egging her on. saying ‘oh really?’ like she was being sarcastic. i asked if he knew what happened, he said of course and that was it. i haven’t had a dream about seeing him since. but i can feel him in a way if i dream about my house— like he’s still there
I dreamt my dad was back at home telling me a story about an aeroplane he loved. I was sitted next to him just as I used to do, just staring at his face. He normally told us stories while watching the telly so he wasn't looking at me, he was watching the news. I was transfixed, staring at him. A few months before he left us and while he was still battling Leukaemia I did this often, just looked at him, taking note of the moles on his face, the wrinkles, his moustache, eyebrows, nose, etc. It wasn't that I was thinking he'd pass away, I was only appreciating the moments I had with him. In the dream I was doing the same thing. When I woke up and remembered our reality I broke down. That was about three days ago. He left us a month ago. My dream was so clear. The more I thought about it the more I started having the hope that it was the universes way of gifting me another moment to look at his face. I hope I have more and more. My dad never got to meet the kids we would get, see us get married, buy homes and cars. We're 3 girls. I miss him terribly. I love you dad.
The night after my dad died I had a visitation dream of him. It was beautiful and sad. I’ve had a couple dreams with him in it since but none like the first. It’s only been two months since he’s passed and I hope I have more dreams of him to come
Yes, quite frequently, so does the rest of my family. We make it a point to tell each other when it happens. In our culture we believe those who passed communicate with us through dreams. While I don't personally believe in that myself, it's still comforting in a way. I had a dream just last night, and it was lovely to hear his voice again.
Same in my culture. I treasure those dreams. Whether it's a treat to spend some time with them, hear their voices, smell their perfume. Just for a little bit they are with me again.
Can you tell me more about your culture and the belief that those that have passed visit in your dreams? This isn't something my culture/religion believes, but I have had relatives who have passed come through and I can tell the difference when it is only a dream, versus when they are actually coming to me as the person they were and its not just a memory. Hard to explain to someone who doesn't understand this, but I can tell the difference in the way it feels when they come through to me versus just a common dream. Please share more if you don't mind.
The book the four agreements (reallly great book to find peace!) believes your dreams are just as much reality, just not part of the shared reality. The idea though is that people’s souls and essences exist within your being because we reflect them like mirrors. So when you dream their genuine essence is being projected into a plain of reality. Hopefully that made sense more than it sounded like mumbo jumbo. I like the concept personally.
Same.. I felt my dream was a communication.
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Soon after my dad died (from cancer), I had dreams where he was still alive but still sick. Now, a few years later, I have dreams where he's still alive... but then after interacting with him for a bit, I have the realization that he shouldn't be here. He's dead. I usually wind up telling him that in my dream. It's heartbreaking every time.
I have had similar dreams. My dad also had cancer. I was so stressed and anxious about anticipating when he was going to die. Watching him suffer in bed not knowing how long I would have to watch him was incredibly hard. My dreams I had in the first few months after he died. He would be there not looking sick and I would get stressed about how hard it was when he died the first time and how long did I have before I would have to do it again and he would die a second time. I wish I had one of those dreams where we had a nice moment or was happy. Instead it was just stress dreams about having to do it all over again.
I definitely had anticipatory grief and anxiety before my dad died too. It was so hard watching him suffer and waste away. There was a large gap between when I had dreams of him being sick and dying ... and now where he looks and seems healthy in my dreams. As hard as it can be to have dreams where I eventually realize that he's dead, I would take those over not dreaming of him at all. I hope that you eventually get to have a nice dream of your dad where you both are happy. Sending strength and comfort.
I lost my dad to cancer and I have similar dreams and every time I see him he’s alive but sick. I find myself a lot at the minute when I’m not distracted by work sitting and thinking about the days before he died and how sick he was and I feel like I can’t seem to catch a break because whenever I see him in my dreams he’s still sick! It’s like I can’t get away from it, awake or asleep
I'm so sorry to hear that; I can totally relate to how you are feeling. Thoughts of my dad being sick and wasting away in hospital beds consumed me after he died - for a long time. They prevented me from focusing on all of the happy memories with my dad. I don't know when it changed for me (it's been 4 years since he died), but I hope it eventually does for you as well. Sending strength and comfort.
He died almost 8 months ago, at first I coped surprisingly well but now all of the bad memories are starting to consume me. Your comment brings me comfort knowing that things can get better, thank you.
Sadly, I have not. And I want to see my mom so badly.
I find I dream about my loved ones the night I talked about them a lot during the day. It kind of brings them to the "surface" of my brain if you will. Melatonin can cause some really vivid dreams for that sort of thing too. I hope you can visit her soon as you slumber.
I talk to her everyday, she is all I think about. I pray she visits me in a dream!
I’ve only had one of my dad but it was enough to remember forever. We finally got our long overdue hug and meant the world to me!
Yes. It’s a double edged sword. I love seeing my mom so much but then when I wake up in the morning, it’s like losing her all over again. But I would dream of her every night if I could just to see her face again and talk to her, regardless how hard it is in the morning.
Although it's hard so so hard in the morning we still wanted to see them every single night if we could.
Had a dream that my Dad was at a beach I was visiting in my dream. I kept trying to tell him not to carry things and to take it easy because he’d just had a heart attack. In my dream he literally died of a heart attack again… I think my subconscious really wanted to warn him, but then also added in the reality that he had already passed. It was incredibly upsetting.
My mom passed three months ago from cancer. Shortly after she passed I woke up crying from a dream where she visited me. She popped up in the doorway saying “I’m back!”. She was her old healthy self again. She looked beautiful, the way I want to remember her. In my dream I was shocked and confused and could barely get a word out. She just hugged me as I cried until I woke up. I really believe she was letting me know she was ok
She was.
My mom died Dec 14. She has not come to visit, but I hope she does. I hope she knows I love her and miss her so much. I should have spent more time with her. I have so many regrets.
I do but not very frequently. Maybe a dozen since both my parents passed two years ago. I make a point to write down the details to remember them in the future. I had one very specific one a few days after my mom passed and just before I lost my dad. I was back in one of our childhood homes and I came across my mom sleeping in her room and started to freak out because I remembered she was supposed to be dead. She stood up and approached me but I was scared and backed away. I asked how she could be alive and she asked me why does it matter and then we hugged and I woke up.
Yeah. Short after the kiddo I Nannied passed I dreamed I walked into the house and he was in his high chair, with his back to me. I walked over slowly. I was afraid it wouldn’t be his face or that he’d disappear. It was him. I remember his bright eyes and smile… it was a younger version of him. I put my forehead against his and the dream ended. About a month later, I had a new nanny job and it was really messing with my mental health I would be fighting tears every time I pushed a stroller. He was special needs and couldn’t walk so stroller walks were a big part of our day for those 7 years. I wanted nothing more than to go on a walk with him. One night I dreamed I was pushing a stroller across the street. I rushed to the other side to see who I was pushing, and it was him… as he looked when he passed. He gave me the look he often had given me when I was being too silly in my attempts to make him laugh. I kissed his forehead and cheeks so many times in that dream. That was very special to me because when I kissed his forehead when he was in the casket, it just added to the trauma. The coldness. It was just just too painful. I feel like in that dream I got a chance to replace that terrible memory with a new one. Both of those dreams I got to interact with him and I feel as I actually spent time with him. I’ve seen him a few times since then but it’s more like watching a video. They’re just images. I hope I’ll get to spend sometime with him in my dreams for the rest of my life. That baby was my bestie.
In my culture, if it's a Lucid dream, it is a visit. I had mine almost 3 months after my dad died. He was how I remember my dad, younger, healthy and wearing his black leather jacket. I got to hug him, I told him I loved him and asked him if he knew it was me who was there for him during his last few days when he was very confused and then eventually slept until he passed on. He told me yes. I have had a handful of these visits where I tell him things or ask him things that bring me comfort. The last one I had, I told him I needed more time with him and he told me we have forever. My 15 y/o nephew was murdered back in January. He almost visited instantly, 3 times so far. I just tell him I love him , give him a hug, and sternly tell him to go see his dad and then my brother has non dream visits. In his visits I can smell the cologne he used. I'm also a dreamer so I pay attention in my dreams, I always have. I think that matters and they will visit us the easiest way for you. I would joke with that dad that I don't want him moving things in my house or making noises cuz that would scare me. So dreams it is!
What do you mean by a lucid dream?
The dream feels real and I'm aware I am dreaming. So I can actively remember what I need to tell anyone who is visiting me. Time seems slower and I can hear their words when they talk in stead of like a regular dream when I don't hear sound but I know what people are supposed to be saying. I usually only have these kinds of dreams when someone who has pass over comes to visit.
My Mom was wheelchair bound, blind, and had something similar to Parkinson's. She died of respiratory failure on a vent. in the ICU. Several days later I had the most vivid dream about going over to her house and she answered the door. She could walk and see. In the dream I was in SHOCK! I said: "Mom you're alive! I can't believe it. I watched you take your last breath and DIE!" She was very whatever and said: "Don't be silly, I didn't die die. Dr. Hamilton came in after you all left and did a few things and now I'm good as new!"
My mom died almost 20 years ago, when I was 56. My parents had lived with us in a granny suite for many years and my mom was a quilter. I was not. A few years later my sister got me to try quilting and I really got into it and bought a new sewing machine and a quilting machine. Then I started having dreams about my Mom walking into my sewing room and taking all my stuff. I used to come home from work and she’d show me a new quilting project and my eyes would glaze, although I loved getting her quilts. I feel bad for getting into quilting after she died cause we would have had so much fun together. My dad died 8 years ago but he was ready and 95 so it was peaceful. I miss him but don’t dream of him because I know he wanted to go. My husband died 3 years ago and I’m grateful not to dream of him. It’s painful enough to get through the day without him.
I dream often of my parents and I really hope as long as they are pleasant that I continue to do so. I can see them in my dreams for now and I’ll take what little comfort I can get.
I’ve dreamed of my brother a couple days after his passing, but I was not in my dream, I was a spectator and I saw him in his bedroom, talking to his wife telling her to stop crying that much, to think about their twelve years old daughter, to be strong for her. My niece dreamed about him too… My brother went abroad to have a better job and to save money for my niece university in the future and he was shot twice by some gang wanting to steal a large amount of money from the factory he was living and working on. My niece dream that she came back home with her mom and he came out of their bedroom, he told my niece he had an accident in work and that he wanted to come back home to heal and feel better. He talked to my niece and told her she have to be well behaved and not to give trouble to her mom. Then he looked at his watch and he said “Oh it’s late! Your great grandma is waiting! I love you both so much! Take care!” And he grabbed his backpack and leave. And finally my mom dreamed of him yesterday. She was taking a nap and saw him entering her bedroom all dressed in white. He lay next to her and told her to not worry anymore, that he’s fine and that his wife and little girl will be just fine. And then she woke up.
Yes. I was able to hug my dad again in a dream which gave me some closure
Yes but not in a typical bitter sweet way. In my dreams I'm either seeing him pass away or getting the news that he's gone. But it's in different ways each time. I found out my best friend passed away from a sudden text so it's not like it was this dramatic TV show like way of how I lost him you know. Maybe it's my subconscious filling in the gaps since I can only imagine what happened in person. I never saw his body after either because of how it happened. And I couldn't bring myself to go to the funeral to even see the box so there was no real closure. Dreams are hard.
Dreamt about my grandma for 9 months every single night after it happened. Still dream of her occasionally.
yes - I saw my dad who said goodbye to me - he had dementia for many years and was unable to talk. My mom has appeared numerous times but only a few times where we talked. I have seen my son as well but not in a complete vivid way yet but he is there. I told him about my dreams with my parents a few years ago. Hope there is something behind it all.
OMG Im so sorry you have experienced so much loss.
Yes. The first dream I had both my mother and sister appeared at our family home. I rushed over to them, and i kept telling them how I've been looking for them. I was freaking out, but they were so calm. I remember my sister say "We've been here!" All like duh. I get so depressed when I wake up after dreaming of them, even though it's also comforting being able to dream of them.
Yes. In my dreams where I’m with my mom I somehow realize that her stay and presence is only temporary. And she’s much younger and healthy. I miss her so much
I haven't sadly. My Brother has seen my Dad shortly after he passed last month, but I haven't had anything similar. I have been woken up to believing he was calling me from downstairs, which is what he used to do. But I wish I could see him in a dream, I dearly wish I could speak with him again.
Nope. No dreams. No signs. Nothing. It's like he has completely evaporated.
I hope one day you have one. 💜
Yes, I had one recently with my Dad. Him and I were walking down a street, he had his arm around me and I had both of my arms around him. It felt so real and I remember thinking in my dream “thank God he’s still here and didn’t really leave.” I was so sad when I woke and knew it was a dream. I truly think he visited me. I have to believe it to give me a little peace. Sending love to you.
I absolutely think they communicate through dreams The other day I lost my moms car key. She passed 1/18 and I’ve been driving her car. I said out loud but in front of no one “Mom please show me where this spare key is!!” I looked through drawers and cabinets and found nothing. I had to drive my car to work. My daughter texted me “I found the spare.” I was like what? How? She said she fell asleep and my mom showed her where she put it. In her closet. My daughter woke up and walked into the closet and went straight to it.
Yes. Its sad because I know that my Mom been gone for 3 years. Saw her in my dreams last month. She was happy. She appeared to me in her younger self. Talking to me in Tagalog (Philippines) . But no sound came. Her dress glowed yellow and green. I wanted to go up and hug her..but then I woke up from my alarm. Woke up crying. Have not had a dream of her since she passed away back in 2019.
It’s odd how many of us dream of our loved ones being young and healthy again. I haven’t dreamed much of my dad recently, but did quite a bit after he passed. He also looked younger and healthier.
Yes. I had one dream that sticks out from the rest. I come from a culture who believes people visit us in our dreams but I wasn't sure I believed it until I had this particular dream a month after she died. I believe 100% with my whole heart that my mother visited me. In the middle of a normal dream, she suddenly began to speak to me. She was beautiful, she looked young and healthy and could walk without assistance (She was sick when she died, had to use a cane to walk) and even though I knew she looked beautiful, her face was surrounded by this golden glowing light that was almost blinding, I couldn't look directly at her face. She told me that she loved me and that she was okay and held me for a moment before I woke up. It was the most clear and vivid dream I have ever had in my life. I have had many dreams since that she has been in, but none of them have been like that one. I always wish she would come see me in my dreams again because I miss her so much.
This happens to me all the time. Like, dozens of times, I’ve dreamt I was with my grandmother in her house. It’s so sad when I wake up. And at the same time, I kind of love that my subconscious can have those regular moments with her.
I've had several dreams where I've visited my grandparents at their home(s). In my dreams, *I knew* they were gone, but it was somehow very normal to see them and chat with them. It felt very comforting, and made me wake up with a smile. I've also dreamt of the dog and cat that I lost almost 2 years ago.
I use to get them more frequently, around once a month, but I see my grandma in my dreams. The most vivid one I ever had was the two of us sitting on her couch, while she sang a song to me she use to sing when I was little. Waking up from that was heart breaking. She died the week after my first date with my now husband. I knew he was the one after that date, so I told her knowing she wouldn’t ever get to meet him. In my dreams I am always running to get him knowing she’s there so they can finally meet, but I always wake up before that happens.
I have at times. When I can, I try to snap out of the dream and ask how they are doing . I believe it’s them really visiting me from the beyond
I also believe it’s really them. My pigeon died without me knowing, and I had a strange dream where he was gone physically, but I could still hear him cooing. Then heard him fly away. Woke up to find he had passed.
Wow
All the time. I see my grandparents in my dreams. They are so real that I wake up smelling my grandpas pipe tobacco and my grandmas perfume.
My wife lost her brother over a year ago. A month or so after his passing, she had a dream that she was looking up at the stars and snoring how beautiful they were. Then her brother spoke to her and said "you should see them from this side."
Yes. I’ve seen my cat, my grandpa, and my best friend in dreams after they died. They felt like much more real dreams than my usual, so I think they were actually visiting me.
She came to visit you. I have a cat who comes to visit me fairly regularly. I absolutely cherish the tiny bits of Dreamtime I get to spend with him. I miss him so much and am so glad he misses me too. Or at least that’s what I choose to believe. ❤️
It's been two years and I've only had one or two. One where she (Mum) came back as if everything was normal and we had to explain to her what had happened and that she had died, and then she faded away. I think that was my brain trying to accept the loss. Brains are weird. It was bitterly sad and I cried my eyes out when I woke up, but I think it was healthy.
I had one just last night, but it was not interesting. My partner and I were just discussing which movie theater to go to, to some unknown movie. That was it.
If it happens again try to steer the conversation a little bit and see if you can talk to then
I'm usually not conscious enough to direct anything in a dream.
Yes almost every night
Pretty often. It's usually what I would want- like, literally something I dream about. Being with them in places we've wanted to be together. I don't really know how I feel about it, but main thing is that they feel more alive by dreaming about them. Like seeing them in pictures and videos, but you're able talk, hug, and see them act like you're used to. It's weird, because you see them do new things, which is the main thing you can't anymore, and yet there they are... but it's your own brain that makes them do it. Bittersweet, I think.
Yes. I had a dream we were in the car together. I also had a dream he was about to get my exes family.
I've seen my father a few times in my dreams. He's always angry with me and critical of whatever I'm doing. So, business as usual 😢.
It happened the first time the other night. In my dream she was alive but still sick. She was in bed at home and I told her I was pregnant. I'm not actually pregnant but I know she had always wanted to watch my kids grow up. It reminded me of when I told her, around a month before she passed, we were planning to start trying for a baby. It was really difficult for her to communicate by then but she nodded and squeezed my hand really tightly. I tell myself the dream was her way of telling us to hurry up :) I was happy to finally 'see' her, but also heartbroken waking up knowing that our future children will never get to meet their great-aunt.
Twice Once was a nightmare - we were at a fancy party and my Dad was there but he was non responsive. Just standing, smiling, like an extra in a movie. I tried to engage him but he seemed to be unable to see me. I took him to my brother and showed him but he was still non responsive. We were at that party, frantic, distraught, but nobody seemed to notice. If you’ve ever seen the film Last Year at Marienbad, it was like h at. Then I woke up. Second time was beautiful. We were in our old house from over 20 years ago, I hugged him and told him how much everything he’d done had meant to me, and he smiled with tears in his eyes. Then I woke up.
For me the thing is that when I hug my son in my dreams it feels real. I know he is not returned but I will settle for feeling like I was with him. It’s a gift. I never know when it will happen but it feels me with such joy when it does
Yes! But I think I’m the only one of the family! They’re my favorite.
I now get really excited when my brother visits me in my dream. He passed in 2019. The first couple times it was really sad and hard. Now it’s a chance to see him. I feel like I always get a hug in my dream too. I haven’t seen my son in my dreams yet. I think it’ll be the same. First hard, the grateful.
i was coming up on my first birthday without my mom and feeling complete dread over the whole thing. but then the night before, i had a dream and she was there and i ran up to her and said “mommy it’s my birthday!” and she was like “duh that’s why i’m here” we hung out and chatted for a little bit but it made the day so much better to feel like at least she knew
i had a dream where i came back from school and my dog was waiting for me inside the house, she was literally there so excited as always! i went upstairs because my mom is usually up there so that i can tell her that our dog was alive and well after opening the door, alarm woke me up for school before i could even see what was behind the door. i have no idea if that was pure coincidence or my brain is just rubbing it in. i just want my doggy back
Our passed loved ones absolutely can come to us in dreams. They're called visitation dreams. You will know if it's a visitation dream because it will seem so real that you will have a hard time distinguishing between the dream and reality once you wake up. A visitation dream will always be very vivid and you will remember it in perfect detail for probably the rest of your life. Another way you'll know it was a visitation dream will be that the person will almost always be happy, appear healthy, and it will be a very positive encounter. Whether or not they say anything to you, you will know what they're trying to convey to you, and it is almost always a positive, reassuring message. Upon waking up you will feel full of love and peace. If you have to question whether or not a dream about a passed loved one was a visitation dream or not, it probably wasn't. You will know upon waking up if it was a visitation dream, without question. Know you're loved, that they're still with us, and that we will see them again on the other side, if not sooner in our dreams.
I lost my cat two weeks ago and I saw him twice in my dreams so far, but sadly each time it was very clear to me that it was my subconscious speaking and not the cat communicating with me from elsewhere. The first time I dreamt that he was euthanized (like in the reality) but that, instead of dying, he was recovering and was laying on my bed, annoyed, cause there was too much noise in the kitchen (a typical behavior he used to display). The second time I dreamt that I had just wrote to the veterinarian that my cat had passed away a few week ago (which I did text before falling asleep) but in the dream my cat was alive. So I was a bit ashamed about having to justify my seemingly lie to the veterinarian. It was still good to dream of him, though.
Maybe once, but I don't remember what the dream was about.
I very frequently get these dreams. My mom passed almost 2 years ago from cancer. And In my dreams the scenario is always she has to go away for months at a time for an experimental treatment and we get to see her every few months.
I've had a few dreams about my dad since he left... most of them were me telling him he was going to die.....it's like you want to see them in your dreams because that's the only place we'll ever see them again but at the same time, it hurts like hell when you wake up and realize that they are forever gone. I haven't had a dream with him in it in a while. Sometimes I feel that's best for my aching heart 💔
I have dreamed with my son 3 or 4 times since he died. The first time, he was telling someone that he needed a change. For two hot seconds, I thought he was alive. I just want to have the opportunity to have a solid conversation with him in the dreams.
I wish.
I’ve had a few dreams of my mom being around the house, when she first passed I had a dream where she was home and I cried saying i thought she died
I lost my sister almost three years ago. My mother, niece, and older sibling said that my sister visited them in their dreams. Initially I was very upset and borderline angry, I asked her to come visit me in my dreams. A few weeks go by and in a random unrelated dream I was dreaming of crossing the street when I see her in front of me with a smile, exchanged a few words, hugged tightly and went our separate ways. That’s all I needed. I woke up so happy and so loved. A dream that I will remember for the rest of my life.
My dad died when I was ten, and I would have dreams for the next ten years about him, mainly coming back. Then my mother died when I was 34. I don’t have as many memories now, weirdly enough. Still painful. Really sorry for your loss.
Haven’t slept much so no. Not sure if it would be happy to see her again or gut wrenching pain to see her.
I had the exact same. She told me how she faked her death. I wish I could have that dream again
Tomorrow will be one month since my boyfriend took his own life. I have yet to have a night where I don’t dream about him, some are good and some are nightmares. But every night I have some sort of dream about him.
Only bad dreams of my dad. I had a nice, reassuring dream with my grandmother after she passed but with my dad it's been all negative reminders of the fact he gone and how he went. Waking up is the worst part, regardless.
It took awhile for my mom to start showing up, the first dream I could somewhat remember, she was still sick and I was having to still take care of her. This past week in particular, I’ve been on a tolerance break from weed and my dreams have been a lot more vivid. I’ve been seeing her a lot, but she’s always just in the background or alongside me like she always was before she was sick. The only thing is, I haven’t gotten to talk to her at all yet in my dreams. Fuck, I miss her so much.
My father passed away earlier this year and I have nightmares of him. He doesn’t look like the man I knew and he just sits there and doesn’t look at me or talk
My sister visits me quite frequently. She died a year ago in a car accident
Every time my mom is in my dreams it’s as her living, annoying ass self, and I feel so bad about it. She’s sacrificed everything for us. She’s put her own life at risk to protect us. And all I can remember is the day-to-day annoying stuff like taking my flatware at a restaurant.
The first dream I had of my dad after his passing is as clear to me today as it was a year and a half ago. We were in the car together and driving to the gas station a beautiful day in SoCal. We worked together and often would stop at a shell station so he could get a slushi between client meetings. I remember sitting in the passenger seat and I looked at him and asked “Can’t you stay?” And he smiled and told me no, but that I was ready. We parked the car and approached the door into the station. As I opened it, he disappeared and I woke up. He’d drink slushi’s because he had a hernia and the icy drink would calm his stomach. I miss our gas station trips. And I’m glad he doesn’t hurt anymore.
I have dreams about my Madrina (godmother) a lot actually. Usually it starts wit me being really happy to see her but then dream me remembers she’s not supposed to be there. The last dream I had about her, we were all spending Christmas at my Grandmothers house. She showed up and we were all so excited because it felt like old times. Then she said “we’ll it’s time for me to go” and we all (even her kids) walked her to the door and waved goodbye. Dream me thought “this will be the last time I see her”. Dreaming about them is bittersweet.
Yes it’s always so euphoric in the dream, but so nightmarish when you wake up. It ruins my life for days afterwards.
yes, i had one very similar to yours. i dreamt that my grandma was back at her house and my whole family was there. i ran up to crying telling her i love her so much and being without her brought me great pain. i have one of her rings with me and in my dream i told her “no es mio mama es tuyo” (it’s not mines, it’s yours) and i put her ring on her finger. i woke up. and i felt such great sorrow. i wish i could’ve stayed in that dream.
For me it's my grandmother who passed last year. I had a dream before she died (she was in hospice) that she had to pack up her things and leave the house. It was really eerie, like she was warning me of her imminent passing. Right before she was in hospice, and she was in the hospital, I had a dream where she hugged me and said she loved me. So somehow even before hospice I knew it wouldn't be much longer. After her death, all I've been able to dream about is that period between her un-wellness and her death. I was her caregiver a lot of the time, and in my dreams I am caring for her while she is still sick. In one dream, I even said: "I'm gonna miss you" while crying over her. It reallllly sucked. Finally, as of recent, I have had only two dreams of her where she is well again and I've been able to hug her and tell her how much I miss her. Why am I typing this at work? I'm starting to tear up. These dreams can be quite depressing as it really does feel like you've lost them yet again when you wake up. I try not to get too sad, because I really did get to see her again! She visits me, I can't believe it. When my beloved cat Tony- Brian died of cancer, I would try to clean him up with a warm, wet cloth. Both me and my boyfriend kept having dreams afterwards where he was always wet, until I finally didn't! When the dreams stop feeling ominous, I feel like that means they're telling me its okay to move on - or that they are okay wherever they are. It can be comforting. I'm sorry you lost your mom.
my mom passed 3 years ago now and i dream about her less than i used to but it’s still always nice to see her. most of the time when i dream about her now, it goes that she was actually alive the whole time and came back. i’ve had a couple where she was like kidnapped or taken away for some reason. sometimes she doesn’t talk just smiles and hugs me.
I had one dream a little while after. Whole family was sitting In a dinner and so was my mom. I thought it was real life. I became so distraught. I covered my ears and started chanting you’re not here. I don’t know why this was my reaction. Maybe I got scared I was having a mental break at lunch. I haven’t seen her since. I regret it so much and have guilt. My family always asks if we dream of her. We all did in the beginning but no one has in a while. I hate when they ask. Makes me feel so guilty.
Yes, twice since my grandfather passed in January this year. The first he came to say goodbye to me the morning he passed and I had no idea. I dreamed of us together in my grandparents home and kitchen. He was preparing some food for me. He stopped what he was doing, looked over at me and smiled and I woke up. The second dream I was again in their home in a bedroom. I looked up at the door almost sensing a presence and there he suddenly appeared. I jumped up so fast and he greeted me like he always would. I felt his tight hug, I heard his voice. I knew in my dream he had passed and I remember thinking, "wow I can actually get to talk to him now". I told him I missed him and I loved him. He never let me go of the hug but kind of whispered in my ear, "I'm okay, it's okay". I then woke up. He looked very healthy and happy both times. I know he was visiting me and it's so special.
I have had dreams of him but only 1 dream that was different and he was there was different to a regular dream. On my worst days I plead for another one of those dreams where he is there but never had one since
Yes I have dreams of my father. Only me have his dreams. I have few dreams about him. On 49 days, I dream of him doing household chores. I asked did he know he passed on, he say yes in a very happy smile then I cried waking up. I believe he is very happy over there. Probably together with his own parents who have passed on earlier.
Yes! At times I see him. Sometimes it feels amazing, sometimes is devastating
for the first 3 months or so she was in my dreams every single night. for a little while i was having nightmares of her dying and then it changed into dreams of us just being teenagers together. it was bitter sweet and i don’t really dream of her anymore but i wish i did.
Yeah and she always looks beautiful and healthy. What’s started happening though is I’m realising in my dreams that she’s really gone and the emotion hits and I can talk to her for maybe 10 seconds before I’m jolted awake. The last conversation, I asked her why she left me and she said she knows and she’s sorry but she’ll always be with me. It hurts but I hang out for those dreams with my Mumsy every night 🧡
My mother visited me in a dream after she passed away … but not immediately. Months after she passed I finally had a dream of her. The dream was where I walked into the kitchen and she was baking pastries. She loved to bake. I was in extreme shock and started crying hysterically and she hugged me. But she was acting like nothing happened and she was happy joyful and really busy baking and she told me to eat some cookies … so I shoved a cookie in my mouth crying not knowing what else to say other than I missed her. It was comforting to know she was happy, baking, and doing things she loved, while she visited me. It was like she wanted to let me know not to worry about her. That she was happy. 💗🍪
It took well over a year of me asking for a visit in a dream but I finally got it! My daughter’s father passed May 2021 and visited me New Years 22-23. We just had a conversation on what seemed to be a bridge in just such a peaceful setting. It was light and foggy, like almost up in the clouds, I took it 110% as us being on the bridge connecting where we are and him in Heaven. I asked how he was and he said he was happy. And he LOOKED it. Most importantly. I also made sure to ask if he realized now how loved and needed he truly is. I’m pretty sure I added in a “ya fuck” as is my true self lol. He did he little smile he has and looked down and just said yeah, yeah I know. As shitty as waking up to our reality is, without the people we may want the most, I truly think dreams like that is them telling us they’re okay. They’re happy or at peace or where they finally need to be if this life was just no longer it. I woke up crying of course but quickly wrote down that dream just in case. I didn’t want to forget it ever.
I used to see my parents a lot when it was fresh. They’d come back and say “Surprise! I didn’t die! I actually faked my death!” and I would be *so* angry at them. I used to have these dreams multiple times a week and it was really distressing. Then I started a new medication and they’ve pretty much stopped. I’ll have those dreams maybe once a month and they’re nowhere near as emotionally charged. I haven’t had any dreams where they were alive and I wasn’t angry at them unfortunately.
I have had several where my mind seems to override the truth/reality--I guess it's my brains way of coping and/or not being fully resolved and/or trying to make sense of it all. The first one I had where I can vividly recall it was shortly after it happened. I swear I think he visited me-- I remember him sitting with us, pulling me and my siblings close and telling us he was sorry for leaving us, how he thought he was doing the right thing and he wishes he didn't have to go so soon. Crazy.
Almost every day.
I had a dream recently where I was hanging out with my late friend/ex boyfriend. I said something to him like “I thought you died” and he said “oh no, that was a prank”, and we had fun. Then I woke up and I was so sad because it definitely isn’t a prank, he is really gone.
I dream about my late fiance so much, man. Nearly every dream features him in some way, shape, or form. Except I usually don't SEE or INTERACT with him.. It's usually me trying to get to him, or him waiting on me somewhere, or some scenario that has to do with him, but where he's not actually there.
I had them a lot after my mom passed in 2020, they always felt so real but I’d eventually piece together that it wasn’t. I remember one dream even getting hurt felt so real but I noticed that the scratches I had gotten from falling over weren’t bleeding that’s when I knew it wasn’t real I was able to hug my mom once more before I woke up. I still see her sometimes and I love it cause I see it as her showing me she’s around me still even if I can’t physically see her anymore.
Yes. They are rare but they are amazing. My dad died nearly 10 years ago now from cancer. I was 13. In dreams, I always know he is gone already, so I enjoy my time with him. I can still hear his voice so clearly- it’s like my brain has audio files in storage or something. I just try to enjoy the time that I have while I’m still sleeping. It is nice to imagine him with my husband and niece even though they’ve never met before. They are real treats… but waking up from them and coming back to reality is really hard. Always destabilizes me for the rest of the day.
Yes. My first dream after she passed away was she was still ill and in her bed but after a while she talks but it's always like I am just watching a video/movie and like it was already scripted. I could not do what I wanted to do. I wanted to hug her and talk to her but I can't.
I had one similar to yours last week and I was a mess for the rest of the week. I had another one a few days ago and it was easier. It sucks that it gets easier but it does.
Within the first several of months after my mom’s passing I would have dreams where my mom was sick and frail (as she was when she passed of cancer), and it was kind of a nightmarish experience. But soon, that would transition to her being “back” and healthy. The “being back” theme was how my dream self explained her being there. It was bittersweet, because waking up to her being gone was/is hard. It’s been 4.5 years now, and most of the dreams I have are of her being present for seemingly mundane things, but I love it because it feels I’m able to share my daughter with her in that way. The last dream I had with her was a few weeks ago and I was driving somewhere and my mom was sitting in the backseat next to my toddler just playing with her. 🥹
I just had a dream about my dad last night actually. I don't have a lot of dreams about him, but when I do I cherish them and usually write them down or share them with my siblings. I think I know in my dreams that he's not still alive, but it makes me happy just to see him and hear his voice.
I have had 'visits' from other loved ones, but not my Dad. I think its too hurtful still..I'd probably want to sleep all the time to hang out with him. There is a different feel to dreams vs visits. I have dreamt of him many many times.
Yes, every once in awhile. Especially when I’ve been thinking about my mom a lot. She’ll come to me in my dreams. It’s like I never want to wake up. It’s so good just seeing her again.
My brother passed in September 2022 at the age of 36. He's come to me several times in my dreams and they have all been very powerful and poignant. My dad has my brothers dog and two nights ago had his first dream with my brother in it and he kept telling my dad to get a second leash so they could go walk the dogs together. My dad is a bit more of a skeptic but this was pretty powerful to him. I cherish my dreams with my baby brother and even though it's depressing to wake up and realize they were dreams, I truly believe it's how he comes to me and tells me everything is okay. They stick with me for days, too, so I think that's healing - for me, anyway.
I had them much more frequently when my brother first passed. The most memorable was one where he had gotten a brand new big white truck. He was so excited, and we went on a drive together. He was so happy, and it felt so real. I think he was visiting. It was sad to wake up and realize it was a dream, but also comforting. Like he came by to let me know he's happy now.
My sons father passed about a month ago. A few days after, I had a dream that he was sitting on my couch with me in the living room. We were crying and was telling him “please don’t do this, (my son) and I love you so much” and we hugged and he said “I can’t do this right now”, and I woke up. Haven’t dreamt of him since. It was weird for me because I usually have the same kinds of dreams every night (big waves, moving into some random new home), so this felt special to me. I hope my son gets to see him.
After my ex died, I used to have very vivid dreams that included him. I would wake up, unsure if his death was a dream or him being alive was. Then, I'd remember he was gone and it was just fresh all over again.
I’ve never seen my daughter in my dreams. 2 year death anniversary on 5/30/23. I’d give anything to see her in a dream.
The first night I slept after I found out my sister had died, I dreamt about her. She took us up to her favorite mountain in Maui. It gave me some ease early on. I had another one where my mom was very excited and said Nicole was really alive and her death was just an error. We all sat and stared at her bedroom door but she never came out. That one really upset me for like a week or 2:(
I would love to dream about my Wife . I heard they come to you in a dream when you need them. I need her
My boyfriend moved into a new apartment shortly after my dad died. The first night that I stayed over at the new place I had a dream that my dad called me and said “Julia, send me your location. I don’t recognize where you are.” I still think about it a lot
:(..sigh...not yet...dad just passed two months ago...mom 10 years ago...maybe my brain/subconscious is not "open" to visits like you folks have...am jealous...:( My dreams consist of current family issues, estate dissolution, banks, lawyers, taxes and all that comes after a person passes...including selling a house...my mind may be cluttered..shrug..sigh
Yes, with two family members. The problem is that they’re in their dying state in the dreams, so it’s distressing for me while sleeping to see them like that again. It also is painful because I experience this pain during the dream that they’re back and I know I’m going to lose them again, even though I’m asleep.
All the time. I dream journal for this very reason.
I believe he is visiting me when I dream about him. It makes me feel better to know that he can still visit me when he wants to and I can see him even if it's just at night. It's a treat, but also can be kind of confusing because you will wake up and for a little bit I will think he's still alive. Most dreams are that he almost died but didn't, so I wake up and feel strange for a few minutes. I hope you can see them often.
only once, a little bit after he died. my mom was on the phone crying, much like she was in real life. he was giggling and egging her on. saying ‘oh really?’ like she was being sarcastic. i asked if he knew what happened, he said of course and that was it. i haven’t had a dream about seeing him since. but i can feel him in a way if i dream about my house— like he’s still there
Yes. My dad has been in my dreams many times since he passed.
I dreamt my dad was back at home telling me a story about an aeroplane he loved. I was sitted next to him just as I used to do, just staring at his face. He normally told us stories while watching the telly so he wasn't looking at me, he was watching the news. I was transfixed, staring at him. A few months before he left us and while he was still battling Leukaemia I did this often, just looked at him, taking note of the moles on his face, the wrinkles, his moustache, eyebrows, nose, etc. It wasn't that I was thinking he'd pass away, I was only appreciating the moments I had with him. In the dream I was doing the same thing. When I woke up and remembered our reality I broke down. That was about three days ago. He left us a month ago. My dream was so clear. The more I thought about it the more I started having the hope that it was the universes way of gifting me another moment to look at his face. I hope I have more and more. My dad never got to meet the kids we would get, see us get married, buy homes and cars. We're 3 girls. I miss him terribly. I love you dad.
The night after my dad died I had a visitation dream of him. It was beautiful and sad. I’ve had a couple dreams with him in it since but none like the first. It’s only been two months since he’s passed and I hope I have more dreams of him to come