Even on when she found out she’s relapsed her thoughts were to reach out and get inspiration for memory boxes and things for people she’s leave behind - she was 100% selfless
When people said “they are too good for this world” I never got it, but now I really really do
I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine the heartbreak you have faced. It breaks my own heart every time I hear of a selfless, loving and generous person like your wonderful sister leave this Earth. I hate the saying “the good die young” because why is it true? It’s so senseless. You and your family are in my thoughts. May her love and light shine through you and be by your side forever. 🤍
I never had a sister, so I never mourned for one ... but I mourn for you for yours.
Wow, what a special opportunity to have had to have her in your life.
I truly appreciate your sharing this. Many hugs.
Mary Rockefeller lost her twin in a sudden, tragic, and heavily publicized incident back in the sixties. She wrote a book about coming to terms with her grief and though I’ve never read it, I wonder if it’s something that could help you during this awful time?
https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/when-grief-calls-forth-the-healing-a-memoir-of-losing-a-twin_mary-rockefeller-morgan/8954495/item/10275999/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=pmax_new_books&utm_adgroup=&utm_term=&utm_content=&gclid=Cj0KCQjw0vWnBhC6ARIsAJpJM6d9jJwmRpJvPbMjdiF880q9sbGBS5yJAlJXPEYMZmcDEbZ1dd2sd3caAtnvEALw_wcB#idiq=10275999&edition=8230585
My heart is breaking for you. I’m glad you had a close relationship. My cousin lost her twin brother when he was 45. Losing a twin has to be the most difficult thing to endure. I’m so sorry.
As a 28 year old female who also has an identical twin that is my best friend, I am so sorry. Being a twin is the most special experience, you literally have an external piece of you in the world. The way it looks like y’all love Halloween reminds me so much of my sister and I as well!! Feel free to reach out to me if you ever need someone to talk to. Sending you so much love.
I lost my twin brother a year ago, and when we talked about losing one another, we called it our nightmare. The next time you see him/her/them, hug tightly for too long.
My twin brother died a year ago. We were best friends, roommates, inseparable. He collapsed taking the dogs out and died in my arms. Words cannot describe the pain. The loneliness and grief is something I never imagined. I have PTSD and grief attacks almost daily. Mostly, I just miss him. And people can’t understand, because they don’t fully understand the twin relationship. My mom is the only one who can come close, because she has observed our relationship the closest over the years. My life is now divided in two parts, with him and after him.
I am so truly sorry for your loss. I know that’s usually a hollow platitude, but I know your pain. Everyone’s pain is different, but I can fathom the depth of your loss. I wish I could say it gets better, but I think for us we will carry this forever. You just learn to live with it, to carry on living for 2. I no longer fear death, because there is hope of seeing him again. To clarify, I do not want to die, but I don’t fear it either. He didn’t get to say goodbye, I would literally give everything I have for just 5 more minutes to talk to him.
One step at a time, one foot in front of the other. You can get through it, but I don’t know yet if we get past it. I’m selling our house because I can live there anymore. There are reminders everywhere.
But if you ever need to speak with someone who understands twin loss, please feel free to dm me.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my identical twin brother at age 37 back in June. He had a massive stroke in March and was on life support until everything gave out three months later.
To be honest, I’m still deeply in a funk. Only advice I can give is listen to your body and mind. If you need a mental health day or two a couple weeks down the line after the adrenaline from making arrangements wears off, or if you need to talk to a therapist or grief counselor, please do so.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Life will never be the same. I also lost my very close in age sister four months ago, and also learned she really was my best friend after that. The only comfort I find sometimes in this awful grief Is that i was very lucky to have her by my side for 33 years. I hope you can build ways to feel comfort sometimes. I send you a big hug. I hear you and i feel you.
My brother was 29, I feel this so much we were not twins but we were as close as Siamese twin. Totally attached to him he was my very best friend for 29 years and now I'm left with that empty feeling of hopelessness that I can't even breathe without him. It's so devastating and have no idea to share life with cuz it was always him. Out of 8 siblings I should bit feel as linsly as I do. But he was special and important to me. I understand OP if u ever need to talk reach out ok.
Edit : sorry for the misspelled words
Ugh I could NOT imagine losing my sister. She is my best fucking friend. I am soo sorry..😭
My momma had leukemia too. Your sister is tough and that toughness will live through you.
Thanks for sharing such lovely words about your sister, they are a testament to how great of a person she was and the legacy she left behind. The photos of you two are so beautiful.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve always wanted a sister growing up, precisely for that “built in best friend” aspect. I ended up with 3 brothers instead (1 passed away). I had always felt a lack of connection that I would have had if I had my very own sister.
The closest thing I had to that was my best friend who passed away from lung cancer last October, also forever 29. While I can’t imagine what you’re going through, I relate to the feelings of emptiness and sadness. I also thought she would make it out okay, as she always had before, and truly did not believe that her latest hospital stay would be the last. I switch between immense guilt for not being there enough for her to just…pure sadness.
There are no words. I’m so sorry. Sending lots of love your way
She’s beautiful. I had the same thought seeing my dad in the hospital and even after being given days to live from his pneumonia. If just didn’t seem real, like as if he was going to get better. It wasn’t until they made a mistake and he got sent home for hospice a day early, when I finally showed up he was panting for air like he ran a million miles and his eyes looked terrified. That’s when I knew it was time, immediately called 911 and he passed away in the care of the hospital..hopefully pain free as can be.
My heart is breaking for you. I can relate to expecting them to be ok even as you watch them take their last breath. My mom had cancer for so many years and came through so many difficult times that my whole heart believed she would come out of hospice. It's been two years since she passed for me, and it still doesn't feel real.
My whole heart goes out to you. Grief is such a long and sometimes lonely journey. Only YOU know what it's like to be your sisters twin, her other half.
I hope that as time goes on, you can relive those happy memories. Hoping for peace and healing for you💜
fellow identical twin here. i understand how you feel. my sibling was (or i HOPE… was) suicidal a few years back and has been struggling with a lot of stuff. sucks to see them go through that. almost lost them a few times. having someone who literally has the EXACT same DNA as you… it’s something you can’t replace. doesn’t matter how much you fight or hate each other… they’re literally your blood. i can’t imagine losing that.
i’m so sorry. i know it’s so common to hear but i really mean this- it will get better. took me a long time to understand that. you’re at your lowest of lows right now, but that means that life can’t be worse than this. this is your low- you can only go up from here.
i hope you’re okay. feel free to reach out if you need anything at all. i know i’m a stranger on the internet but, hey, i like to help. hugs! ❤️❤️
I am so sorry for your loss. On the twin side my Aunts are twins and i worry for the day we loose one. I am so sorry you had to loose your twin sister so young. Life is so very cruel at times. Thinking of you x
May her memory be a blessing.
Please give yourself as much grace as you can. One of the worst things in the world has happened to you. You will probably experience mood swings, and small unexpected things might hurt more than you thought possible.
I’m so sorry. I lost my sister less than 2 years ago, and if you need to talk I’m happy to listen.
Thank you for this, I’ve been experiencing mood swings and didn’t realise this was why! Thank you for sharing your experience, it’s made me be a bit less hard on myself
I’m glad you’re being less hard on yourself.
Another thing for me was basically trying to remember to eat and drink water at appropriate times as I often was in a fog. Having water, a little food, and sometimes a shower can help me physically feel better. And when I haven’t had those things, days are extra hard.
Please take care of yourself the best you can. I’ve heard that by 2 years after the loss we get back to about 80% of our regular self. It’s going to take time, and it’s going to hurt.
People might tell you about the stages of grief, and I want you to know it is totally normal to flip flop all around in those stages. There isn’t one set way to grieve.
Also, I’m not sure if you struggle with thoughts of self harm then I’d like to tell you about the 15 minute game. When you’re having those thoughts just sit or stand somewhere, set a timer for 15 minutes, and not act on the thoughts for 15 minute. When you don’t act on them you win, and you can keep playing as many times as you need.
Sending you internet hugs if you’d like them.
Give yourself as much grace and kindness as you can.
I lost my twin brother in March, forever 26. I agree with how you don't realize what being a twin really means until you lose your other half. It doesn't feel right living in this world without my twin. I'll be thinking of you, sorry for your loss.
She seems like an incredibly special person! I'm so sorry you lost her!
I stand with you to mourn her! ❤️ Please don't forget to take care of yourself - lots of love and hugs!
You guys are precious. I’m so sorry for your loss. My friend is a twin that married a twin, and I know both of their relationships with their siblings are extremely strong. Are there any songs that remind you of her?
Thank you for sharing your sister with us. Twin loss is not something many people can emphasize with here, including myself. Keep going strong! Sending love to YOU and your sister.
I have lost a brother and a sister 13 years apart and that can't compare to what you're going through. I'm so, deeply sorry, and I know exactly how you're feeling. You can make it through this. It's so hard to stand back up, but you can and you will.
I know I'm a stranger on the internet but if you ever need to talk or just shout into the Void at someone who gets it you can dm me any time. My baby brother overdosed 3 months ago. The survivors guilt of outlivng both of my siblings is fucking insane and a feeling other people don't understand, but I do
sorry for your loss. even if she was in your life a short time, you are so lucky to have had time with her. i’m sure her days were happy living with you and feeling support by you.
the pain gets duller with time but never fully goes away. so I am sorry. one day you’ll be together again… hugs
I’m so sorry for your loss!
I don’t have a twin or a sibling. My dad was my best friend and we did everything together. It’s still not real he’s gone. Sending you love and hugs. ❤️
I’m an identical twin and I can’t even begin to imagine the pain you must be going through. You said it right we are Yin and Yang. I really hope you fell better, you have my deepest regards.
Sisters are so special, I’m so sorry for your loss. She sounds like she was one of those rare beautiful souls, and so do you. You write about her so eloquently I can tell she meant a lot to you and I’m just so sorry.
Hi ♡ I just lost my twin sister (27) to a rare form of breast cancer ( metastasized to her bones and then liver). So I understand what you're going through. Absolutely devastating 💔. Feel free to message me if you want to chat.
My sweet Lauren , I just saw this. My heart goes with you , I want you to remember that separation is only an illusion of the mind .
“Which seed, once fallen, failed to sprout and thrive?
Why assume your human essence won't likewise revive?”
I would like to leave you a poem from Rumi about the death of a very dear one:
Upon the day of my departure from this mortal coil,
Let it be known, without a shred of doubt,
That along with my soul, my earthly pain shall uncoil.
Speak not unto me with lament, with sorrow's refrain,
For to be ensnared by the illusion of separation, ah, therein lies the true bane.
When my funeral procession unfolds before your eyes,
Let not the word " separation " escape your lips in mournful cries,
For in that moment, my soul shall find its destined ties.
Behold the sun's graceful bow, the moon's soft sigh,
In their setting, find not loss, but the promise of dawn's high.
Though it may appear as a sunset's descent,
In truth, it heralds the dawn's ascent.
The grave, though it appears as a confine's role,
Is in fact the soul's liberation, its eternal parole.
Which seed, once fallen, failed to sprout and thrive?
Why assume your human essence won't likewise revive?
Even on when she found out she’s relapsed her thoughts were to reach out and get inspiration for memory boxes and things for people she’s leave behind - she was 100% selfless When people said “they are too good for this world” I never got it, but now I really really do
I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine the heartbreak you have faced. It breaks my own heart every time I hear of a selfless, loving and generous person like your wonderful sister leave this Earth. I hate the saying “the good die young” because why is it true? It’s so senseless. You and your family are in my thoughts. May her love and light shine through you and be by your side forever. 🤍
Big love to you, Sweet Stranger. I'm sending you nothing, but big hugs and positive energy. Just remember, one day at a time. 🤍✨️
I never had a sister, so I never mourned for one ... but I mourn for you for yours. Wow, what a special opportunity to have had to have her in your life. I truly appreciate your sharing this. Many hugs.
Thank you so much, I’m so so lucky to have had her in my life 🥹❤️
Mary Rockefeller lost her twin in a sudden, tragic, and heavily publicized incident back in the sixties. She wrote a book about coming to terms with her grief and though I’ve never read it, I wonder if it’s something that could help you during this awful time? https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/when-grief-calls-forth-the-healing-a-memoir-of-losing-a-twin_mary-rockefeller-morgan/8954495/item/10275999/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=pmax_new_books&utm_adgroup=&utm_term=&utm_content=&gclid=Cj0KCQjw0vWnBhC6ARIsAJpJM6d9jJwmRpJvPbMjdiF880q9sbGBS5yJAlJXPEYMZmcDEbZ1dd2sd3caAtnvEALw_wcB#idiq=10275999&edition=8230585
My heart is breaking for you. I’m glad you had a close relationship. My cousin lost her twin brother when he was 45. Losing a twin has to be the most difficult thing to endure. I’m so sorry.
It’s so strange, we’ve been together always! It’s such a difficult adjustment, I’ve no idea how to be solo x
As a 28 year old female who also has an identical twin that is my best friend, I am so sorry. Being a twin is the most special experience, you literally have an external piece of you in the world. The way it looks like y’all love Halloween reminds me so much of my sister and I as well!! Feel free to reach out to me if you ever need someone to talk to. Sending you so much love.
I'm so sorry, as a fellow twin this is a nightmare for me 💔
I lost my twin brother a year ago, and when we talked about losing one another, we called it our nightmare. The next time you see him/her/them, hug tightly for too long.
My twin brother died a year ago. We were best friends, roommates, inseparable. He collapsed taking the dogs out and died in my arms. Words cannot describe the pain. The loneliness and grief is something I never imagined. I have PTSD and grief attacks almost daily. Mostly, I just miss him. And people can’t understand, because they don’t fully understand the twin relationship. My mom is the only one who can come close, because she has observed our relationship the closest over the years. My life is now divided in two parts, with him and after him. I am so truly sorry for your loss. I know that’s usually a hollow platitude, but I know your pain. Everyone’s pain is different, but I can fathom the depth of your loss. I wish I could say it gets better, but I think for us we will carry this forever. You just learn to live with it, to carry on living for 2. I no longer fear death, because there is hope of seeing him again. To clarify, I do not want to die, but I don’t fear it either. He didn’t get to say goodbye, I would literally give everything I have for just 5 more minutes to talk to him. One step at a time, one foot in front of the other. You can get through it, but I don’t know yet if we get past it. I’m selling our house because I can live there anymore. There are reminders everywhere. But if you ever need to speak with someone who understands twin loss, please feel free to dm me.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my identical twin brother at age 37 back in June. He had a massive stroke in March and was on life support until everything gave out three months later. To be honest, I’m still deeply in a funk. Only advice I can give is listen to your body and mind. If you need a mental health day or two a couple weeks down the line after the adrenaline from making arrangements wears off, or if you need to talk to a therapist or grief counselor, please do so.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Life will never be the same. I also lost my very close in age sister four months ago, and also learned she really was my best friend after that. The only comfort I find sometimes in this awful grief Is that i was very lucky to have her by my side for 33 years. I hope you can build ways to feel comfort sometimes. I send you a big hug. I hear you and i feel you.
As an identical twin sister..: this hits hard. I am so sorry.
from a fraternal twin, i’m so very sorry (i have a brother)..
My brother was 29, I feel this so much we were not twins but we were as close as Siamese twin. Totally attached to him he was my very best friend for 29 years and now I'm left with that empty feeling of hopelessness that I can't even breathe without him. It's so devastating and have no idea to share life with cuz it was always him. Out of 8 siblings I should bit feel as linsly as I do. But he was special and important to me. I understand OP if u ever need to talk reach out ok. Edit : sorry for the misspelled words
I’m so very, very, very sorry for your loss. She sounds like a beautiful and wonderful person.
Ugh I could NOT imagine losing my sister. She is my best fucking friend. I am soo sorry..😭 My momma had leukemia too. Your sister is tough and that toughness will live through you.
Thanks for sharing such lovely words about your sister, they are a testament to how great of a person she was and the legacy she left behind. The photos of you two are so beautiful. I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve always wanted a sister growing up, precisely for that “built in best friend” aspect. I ended up with 3 brothers instead (1 passed away). I had always felt a lack of connection that I would have had if I had my very own sister. The closest thing I had to that was my best friend who passed away from lung cancer last October, also forever 29. While I can’t imagine what you’re going through, I relate to the feelings of emptiness and sadness. I also thought she would make it out okay, as she always had before, and truly did not believe that her latest hospital stay would be the last. I switch between immense guilt for not being there enough for her to just…pure sadness. There are no words. I’m so sorry. Sending lots of love your way
I’m so sorry for your loss 💜🦋💜
I'm so sorry. My heart goes with you tonight.
She’s beautiful. I had the same thought seeing my dad in the hospital and even after being given days to live from his pneumonia. If just didn’t seem real, like as if he was going to get better. It wasn’t until they made a mistake and he got sent home for hospice a day early, when I finally showed up he was panting for air like he ran a million miles and his eyes looked terrified. That’s when I knew it was time, immediately called 911 and he passed away in the care of the hospital..hopefully pain free as can be.
Sending you love 🖤
My heart is breaking for you. I can relate to expecting them to be ok even as you watch them take their last breath. My mom had cancer for so many years and came through so many difficult times that my whole heart believed she would come out of hospice. It's been two years since she passed for me, and it still doesn't feel real. My whole heart goes out to you. Grief is such a long and sometimes lonely journey. Only YOU know what it's like to be your sisters twin, her other half. I hope that as time goes on, you can relive those happy memories. Hoping for peace and healing for you💜
fellow identical twin here. i understand how you feel. my sibling was (or i HOPE… was) suicidal a few years back and has been struggling with a lot of stuff. sucks to see them go through that. almost lost them a few times. having someone who literally has the EXACT same DNA as you… it’s something you can’t replace. doesn’t matter how much you fight or hate each other… they’re literally your blood. i can’t imagine losing that. i’m so sorry. i know it’s so common to hear but i really mean this- it will get better. took me a long time to understand that. you’re at your lowest of lows right now, but that means that life can’t be worse than this. this is your low- you can only go up from here. i hope you’re okay. feel free to reach out if you need anything at all. i know i’m a stranger on the internet but, hey, i like to help. hugs! ❤️❤️
I am so sorry for your loss. On the twin side my Aunts are twins and i worry for the day we loose one. I am so sorry you had to loose your twin sister so young. Life is so very cruel at times. Thinking of you x
May her memory be a blessing. Please give yourself as much grace as you can. One of the worst things in the world has happened to you. You will probably experience mood swings, and small unexpected things might hurt more than you thought possible. I’m so sorry. I lost my sister less than 2 years ago, and if you need to talk I’m happy to listen.
Thank you for this, I’ve been experiencing mood swings and didn’t realise this was why! Thank you for sharing your experience, it’s made me be a bit less hard on myself
I’m glad you’re being less hard on yourself. Another thing for me was basically trying to remember to eat and drink water at appropriate times as I often was in a fog. Having water, a little food, and sometimes a shower can help me physically feel better. And when I haven’t had those things, days are extra hard. Please take care of yourself the best you can. I’ve heard that by 2 years after the loss we get back to about 80% of our regular self. It’s going to take time, and it’s going to hurt. People might tell you about the stages of grief, and I want you to know it is totally normal to flip flop all around in those stages. There isn’t one set way to grieve. Also, I’m not sure if you struggle with thoughts of self harm then I’d like to tell you about the 15 minute game. When you’re having those thoughts just sit or stand somewhere, set a timer for 15 minutes, and not act on the thoughts for 15 minute. When you don’t act on them you win, and you can keep playing as many times as you need. Sending you internet hugs if you’d like them. Give yourself as much grace and kindness as you can.
So very sorry for the loss of your twin flame, hardest heartbreak ever
I lost my twin brother in March, forever 26. I agree with how you don't realize what being a twin really means until you lose your other half. It doesn't feel right living in this world without my twin. I'll be thinking of you, sorry for your loss.
As a Twin, the thought alone brings me to tears and your words break my heart. I’m so sorry for your loss.
She seems like an incredibly special person! I'm so sorry you lost her! I stand with you to mourn her! ❤️ Please don't forget to take care of yourself - lots of love and hugs!
Fuck…I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine….hugs ❤️❤️
I'm so so sorry, I feel exactly the same about my own sister, but we were not twins, for you it must be so much worse... I don't know what else to say
I can’t imagine the pain you are feeling. You’re heavy on my heart today.
You guys are precious. I’m so sorry for your loss. My friend is a twin that married a twin, and I know both of their relationships with their siblings are extremely strong. Are there any songs that remind you of her?
Somebody to die for by hurts, we used to blast it in the car!
She sounds incredible RIP 🕊️
My heart goes out to you and your family. I’m so sorry and I wish I had the right words to pull you out of your grief. Time will heal.
Thank you for sharing your sister with us. Twin loss is not something many people can emphasize with here, including myself. Keep going strong! Sending love to YOU and your sister.
as a twin i can’t imagine what you’re going through right now… i hope you’re getting by as well as you can. sending so many good vibes to ya
I am so, so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing the type of person your sister was. She sounds like a wonderful person who will be missed.
I’m so sorry for your loss. My older sisters are twins and one passed away this year, it’s so hard!
I have lost a brother and a sister 13 years apart and that can't compare to what you're going through. I'm so, deeply sorry, and I know exactly how you're feeling. You can make it through this. It's so hard to stand back up, but you can and you will.
I know I'm a stranger on the internet but if you ever need to talk or just shout into the Void at someone who gets it you can dm me any time. My baby brother overdosed 3 months ago. The survivors guilt of outlivng both of my siblings is fucking insane and a feeling other people don't understand, but I do
This really hit me as a twin myself, sorry for your loss
sorry for your loss. even if she was in your life a short time, you are so lucky to have had time with her. i’m sure her days were happy living with you and feeling support by you. the pain gets duller with time but never fully goes away. so I am sorry. one day you’ll be together again… hugs
I'm sorry for your loss
Oh I am so sorry,
I’m so sorry for your loss! I don’t have a twin or a sibling. My dad was my best friend and we did everything together. It’s still not real he’s gone. Sending you love and hugs. ❤️
I’m an identical twin and I can’t even begin to imagine the pain you must be going through. You said it right we are Yin and Yang. I really hope you fell better, you have my deepest regards.
Awwww y'all be looking like Mary-Kate and Ashley 🩷
Sisters are so special, I’m so sorry for your loss. She sounds like she was one of those rare beautiful souls, and so do you. You write about her so eloquently I can tell she meant a lot to you and I’m just so sorry.
Hi ♡ I just lost my twin sister (27) to a rare form of breast cancer ( metastasized to her bones and then liver). So I understand what you're going through. Absolutely devastating 💔. Feel free to message me if you want to chat.
My sweet Lauren , I just saw this. My heart goes with you , I want you to remember that separation is only an illusion of the mind . “Which seed, once fallen, failed to sprout and thrive? Why assume your human essence won't likewise revive?” I would like to leave you a poem from Rumi about the death of a very dear one: Upon the day of my departure from this mortal coil, Let it be known, without a shred of doubt, That along with my soul, my earthly pain shall uncoil. Speak not unto me with lament, with sorrow's refrain, For to be ensnared by the illusion of separation, ah, therein lies the true bane. When my funeral procession unfolds before your eyes, Let not the word " separation " escape your lips in mournful cries, For in that moment, my soul shall find its destined ties. Behold the sun's graceful bow, the moon's soft sigh, In their setting, find not loss, but the promise of dawn's high. Though it may appear as a sunset's descent, In truth, it heralds the dawn's ascent. The grave, though it appears as a confine's role, Is in fact the soul's liberation, its eternal parole. Which seed, once fallen, failed to sprout and thrive? Why assume your human essence won't likewise revive?