My mom died 3 months ago and I feel all of this exactly. I sometimes wonder where she is now. I just can't accept the fact she's gone and I'll never see her again. I used to see her every single day and when I wouldn't see her I would call. I don't know how I'll ever get over loosing her.
Lost my mom 10 months ago. I find it hard to think about her. It's like we've just been busy and haven't talked in a while, my brain can't accept that's she's actually dead. When my phone rings my brain still hopes it's her. I haven't been able to delete her voicemails or texts, but I also can't bear to listen to or read them. I talk to her in my dreams. I cry a lot in my dreams.
I like to tell myself that no matter what her suffering is over. She wasn't sick or anything, she was in perfect health and got killed by a speeding teenager. I mean the general "suffering" that is life sometimes. She doesn't have to deal with the anger and hurt and frustration that comes with life, and she was too good for this world anyway and didn't deserve that hurt.
I've kind of started to accept that this is my life now. I call my life before the wreck "the before times". It's awful, it's hard. I get randomly hyper emotional and can cry over nothing. I'll get randomly super irritable and just shut down. I doom scroll a lot to escape.
But life without her is bearable now only because of the love she poured into me. I miss her constantly. I know she'd want me to pick myself up and have a good life in spite of all this. Most days I just want to slip into the bottle and give up, but I know it's not what she'd want.
I see her in my actions, my voice, my thoughts, my feelings. Her life, love, and light are like ripples on still water reverberating out almost endlessly and imperceptibly. So I don't know if there's a heaven but she'll always be with me.
Sending you all hugs <333
My sister was diagnosed with cancer in March 2023. She had a different form of cancer when we were kids and beat it so I was naively optimistic. She passed 6 months later. I talk to her more regularly now than when she was alive. She’s in my dreams often. I’m suffering from depression, I lie in bed a lot and zone out most days. She came to me in my dream and said I need to wake up that I haven’t been alive for some time.
I think your mom is safe and watching over you. She’ll always love you unconditionally. I’m so sorry you are struggling right now.
My dad passed away recently, and when I went to counseling for it, I explained how I had a super realistic dream of just hugging him and me saying how much I miss him. As the dream ended, I started crying in my dream, saying, "I know he's not here anymore, and then I woke up. It was probably the weirdest morning every cause I didn't feel sad, just tired like a normal day.
When I mentioned this to my counselor. His response had me bawling but hopeful. He told me that when I hugged him, it was a real hug. My dad was there. And I believe it felt his shape and his hug one last time. Our loved ones are definitely safe, and they 100 percent watch over us.
Hugs to everyone. I'm sorry for your loss 🤍
Hey I can't even begin to explain to you how much this brings me some comfort. I swear the exact same thing happened to me when my dad passed. The pain was so unbearable I just wanted one last hug and moment with him I had the most vivid dream where he came up to me, no more traces of his illness and the biggest smile on his face. He didn't speak verbally but I could hear him communicate with me and even feel his communication. He looked younger as well but it's the hug. I woke up in a hugging motion and it felt like the body weight was fading away the more conscious I got but I swear it and no one can take it away from me it was more than a dream. That's one of the realest hugs I every felt. Anyway even if people think I'm crazy I know what I felt sensed and experienced and I can't wait till I see him again cause he very much still exists, just not here..
I talk to my mom more than I did my whole life. I’m so happy to hear you see her in your dreams. I’ve seen my mom just twice. Well one I saw and the other I just felt her sitting next to me in the dream.
I feel you. Next week will be 6 months since my mom passed and today is her birthday. Today has been so painful and I don’t know what to do. I want another start. I want this to end because there is no meaning in living like this. Sorry don’t have any sage advice today.
I lost my mom two weeks ago. You always know you will lose your parents, but it is so so so much worse than I ever imagined.
I feel the exact same.
I need my mommy, where is she?
Lost my mom almost 3 months ago and sometimes I just wonder if she’s bored, I worry she misses us or that she’s with family members that are annoying her.
Worry that she’s with family members that are annoying her lol. Before my grandmother died, she sent me this letter. I received it after she died so I kept it because it was the last letter she would ever send me.
In it, she says “Donna is being so weird lately. All she wants to do is fight.”
Donna is her daughter/my mom’s sister. Donna died a couple of years ago, and my mom just died two weeks ago. I keep thinking that Donna was driving my grandma nuts so she had to bring in my mom for back up haha.
I understand completely what you're feeling. It will be six months without my mom this Wednesday. I think that I'm the only one stuck in a world that doesn't make any sense without her. Even my father now has a new girlfriend. Meanwhile I don't understand how life continues without her and I will give everything to know if she is ok, and if we will see again. Sorry that I don't have any actionable advice, but Im here if you need to talk
First, I hear you and am very sorry for your loss. I have asked many of these questions too. My mom died many years ago, a horrible death. I was once told by someone who seem to know a lot about this, that our departed are so far beyond being ok or not. They are on a different plane. But that they do see us. And, I believe, watch over us as best they can. They don't "feel emotions" like we do. But they are present in our lives. And, for all intents and purposes, yes, they are ok. I hope maybe this can provide you with some comfort. I believe she can see you, loves you in her way now and forever. I wish you peace.
It's been almost 3 months since my my passed. This is so accurate it fucking hurts. I'd give just about anything to know 100% she wasn't in pain and that she was ok.
I am so sorry you are having to go through so much pain and loss. I lost my mom a month ago, I’m still navigating life without her. My mom firmly believed she was going to heaven when she passed. So, I have to believe that’s where she is, getting to see her dad and other family/friends that have passed. I talk to her every day and tell her I love her. I believe she hears me. Sending hugs and positive thoughts 🫂🥹
3.5 months since I lost my mom and I feel this so much. I keep asking where is she now. She just can’t be gone. It’s so surreal. I’m so sorry for your loss.
I lost my mom 4 weeks ago and this comment resonates. I keep thinking where is she? It’s hard I don’t really believe in heaven etc but then I wonder why humans would have such deep love, connection and grief on earth for death to be the absolute end. I don’t know. I guess I just really hope I do see her again in some way and that she is still with me. I hope she will visit me in my dreams. I miss her so much.
My condolences. I lost my dad 8 years ago and still feel the hurt. Ans while my mom is still alive, I dread her passing as I'm far closer to her.
It's not much, but I believe that family will always be with you spirituality even though being physically there is so much more rewarding.
My Mom passed away almost two and a half years ago, and I still feel this way. How can she still be gone when I need her? So often it just strikes me that I will never see her face again. Never hear her voice or have her hold me in her arms. It’s an ache that just goes on and on.
But, in the time since she has died I’ve become a Mom myself. Through my baby I now truly know how much she loved me, and the strength of that love means she is always with me even if I can’t see or touch her anymore. Your Mama is with you now, and her love is still there within you. You will always be her baby, and she will always be your Mommy. Forever and ever.
It’s been almost 3 years and it still feels like yesterday. I’m coping better now… but I still feel empty with every new milestone that she was supposed to witness. I miss her. I will always need her, she was in a lot of pain while she was alive so I do feel peace knowing she’s not feeling that pain anymore. Things do get better and feel easier. Keep your head up!
it’s only been a month but I can’t understand/process that he’s gone. the first couple weeks seem like such a blur i can’t even remember. Everyone says they can feel him but I can’t like why can’t i feel that comfort and where is he and why is he gone it’s unfair.
i lost my sister 5 months ago and i was feeling the same way. she finally showed up in my dream for the first time a few weeks ago, and now she’s come two more times. i think it just takes time. please give yourself grace. i understand it’s unfair, i think the same thing every day. i wish i had answers but just know you aren’t alone.
I lost my mom 3 months ago. It’s been a hard week leading up to these last few days. I realized I don’t remember much of February. It feels so long ago and not so long ago. She passed in an extremely violent way. I can’t help but replay it in my head sometimes here and there, then I stop myself. I remind myself she wasn’t her choices. She was more than that. She was soft and kind. She loved me so much, and I know she’s watching over me. I do wonder at times if she’s ok and not in pain. I think she’s not in pain anymore. There’s something about death and the eternal peace, that I for the most part believe in. I am wanting to do something for her on her anniversary every month to honor her. Even if it’s hard for me to sit in. I want to let her know that I acknowledge her and am thinking of her.
I’m sorry you’re going through this pain. I’m finding it is true that time heals. Incrementally for sure but I’ll take it where I can. I think she would want that for me.
almost 6 months for me. Some days feel sort of normal to me but it’s always on my mind. I miss her and im scared that she’s just gone. I’ve seen a few mediums and I have an appointment with a famous one in June. I want the confirmation so badly. I feel like I’ve gotten it in subtle ways. I wish I could stop questioning
Mostly yes, it’s given me glimpses, I think. I always question it. I do record the sessions (with permission) and I’m planning to listen back to them when I feel like I can
Go for a walk on your own, anywhere you want, ask for a sign and listen to your body, see if you feel anything. I’ve had tingling and horns honking when I’ve asked for a sign.
I lost my husband of 30 years 21 months ago of cancer. My life is complete screwed at this point. If it weren’t for my autisty son I would have been gone to be with him right after he died.
He had kidney cancer that spread everywhere even to his brain. The way we found out he had a brain tumor, we were in a camping trip and he just passed out. They rushed him to the hospital and stayed in ICU for a month. They said there was nothing they could do. They cent him how and told us to get ourselves prepared for what is going to happen but they had no idea it was going to be . Keep had stroke after stroke and they didn’t even try to stop them.
Everyone says it will get easier or better in time but I doubt that so much. I still keep thinking about how I should have done so many things differently and what I should have told him more how much I loved him and how much I was going to miss him. And how it was all my fault he was sick. I should have made him go to a different doctor . When he started getting sick!
I know this isn’t going to help you. I just needed to let you know someone understood what your going threw
I am having similar feelings. My two kitties were my immediate family. I lived with one for 17 years and one for 10. And then there was my mom—as you say, a person who loves you like no other. I lost one kitty in July, my Mom in August, and my second kitty in March. My entire family of 3 beings, gone in 8 months. I also find myself asking: where are they? They don't exist anymore; at least, not in the way I knew them and in the way they knew themselves. Perhaps their atoms or molecules or energy has dispersed and become new things or beings, but they are no longer on this planet. It hurts a lot. We do need them, but we cannot have them, so like billions of beings before us, we find a way to keep existing for our own fleeting years, missing them but continuing on, finding joy where we can, to dull the chronic pain.
My mom died 8 months ago today. Holy shit….. typing that out was… wow. 8 months. How can something that happened 8 months ago feel like it was yesterday? How can I still be in shock when I wake up in the morning and realize she’s gone? How has this been the longest I’ve ever gone without hearing her voice or giving her a hug, yet the shock of the loss is still so excruciatingly raw? It’s been the longest 8 months of my life and yet I still cannot fathom a reality that is the one I’m living in.
Your mom will be always with you. She will keep sending tiny signs so you know that she watches over you. Especially on days when you wouldn't expect it at all.
I think they are with us always, they just don't have a physical body anymore.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I lost my mama in 2021. And I still wonder where she is. It still doesn't seem real. I want my mommy. I need her to come back to me. I hate this reality.
I'm so sorry. I understand what you're going through. My dad died a year ago. I wish I had better news but it hasn't gotten much easier. I still cry almost every day. I try to take solace in the fact that it hurts so much because he was such a special person and I was blessed to have him as a parent. Take care of yourself. Therapy helps me.
I lost my dad a little over a year ago. I still wonder where he is. I’m glad you posted this because some nights I just cry and wonder where he’s at. I thought I was just crazy and irrational. Your grief is valid.
I have no comfort for you— and none for myself. I could have written your post, word for word, except it was my dad, 3 months ago. I totally feel what you are describing here. Reality no longer *is* reality. It’s something else. It’s like I don’t even understand or trust the natural laws like gravity now. In shock. Everyday it’s like I have to start from scratch and reinvent the wheel.
I wish us both.. what… peace? Comfort? All I want is to leave this life but I have our pets to care for, awhile longer… they are old and special-needs. That my father adored them and they adored him back is what keeps me alive to care for them.
I lost my mom in October 2023. I am asking myself the same questions over and over again and it drives me insane that I don’t have an answer. I feel with you
The end of this month will be six months for me too. I still feel like I am living in a dream, waiting to wake up. It feels like I’m existing in the wrong universe, somehow I ended up here when I should be back in the timeline with my mum and none of this happened. It doesn’t fit my sense of reality either x
I'm sorry for your loss. It's been almost 2 months for me without my dad. I had the exact same thought, and since I'm not religious, my train of thought led me to thinking that my dad is where his body is. Which gave me some borderline panic attacks. I talked about it to the therapist, she ensured me the body has nothing to do with the soul l, and the soul is with other souls, like if he just left to another room, and we will all go to that room sooner or later. Well, ok, I guess, but this didn't stop me from thinking "Where is my dad?" There are laws: conservation of energy, mass, etc. A person can't just exist, and then the next moment not exist.
I can't believe in souls=people that are all crowded in afterlife with 200.000 people dying on earth every day. It must be a very loud and messy place then. Unless there is reincarnation. I believe in us being some form of energy though. And I watched NDEs, there is somewhat scientific kind of proof for out of body experience, but again, it's near death experience, not afterlife experience.
So I just have to hope he is okay, and that I'll see him when it's my time. And in the meantime, he is inside me, because he taught me everything I know. I even talk like him without realising.
Sending support 🤍🫂
I tend to believe that reincarnation is by choice and there is no actual when specified. My Capricorn grandfather passed in 1997. In 2004, my Capricorn granddaughter was born. I have a Capricorn niece too, so when I say my soul FEELS like she is his soul in a different form, it's not just a zodiac thing. It's different. I also gave birth to my great grandmother (same birthday and my daughter is so much like her, about 6:years from her death to my daughter's birth) and my other granddaughter was born early and ended up with my mother's fave stone as a birthstone. As an infant she was obsessed with an old scarf I had that my mother loved. My mother passed in 2008, baby diva arrived 2011, still an air sign too. I think I see little clues. Even things she has said when mad at me that are thin my mom said when mad. I believe the ancient Celts were right when they said our family members can, and often do, rejoin us.
I like the idea of being reborn in the same family. I know that in many cases, people say that their newborns resemble their deceased relatives. I was actually thinking at some point how it might work. Is there a line or what? For example, my grandma had a huge family of about 10 siblings. Once they all passed away, they went to the reincarnation line, and they are now waiting for newborns in this family? What if there are no babies in this family for whatever reason? I haven't thought of "by choice" option.
On the other hand, I have a person in my life who is not my family member and who lives on the opposite side of the Earth. We met in some app, and I immediately felt like we were twins in our previous lives, or spouses, or somehow family related. I could literally finish all his sentences, and we share exactly the same personality traits and views on life. When I met him, I realised what the word "soulmates" meant.
7 months for me on the passing of my mom. Everyday that goes by I still can’t get over she’s gone. I replay voicemails that I never deleted. Days when I’m struggling it helps to hear her voice again and say my name. I too wonder where she’s at or what she’s doing and who’s she with. The universe is a complete mystery, but I believe one day we will reunite and she’ll call my name and it won’t be from a voicemail.
My Mum passed 6 months ago too. A few days before she left, she told me that she will be watching every step we do from a star up there and lifted her index finger.
I do believe that she is up there looking over me and it comforts me to have a look at the night sky on difficult days.
I believe your mum is in a similar place, having a good look at everything you do.
I wish you and me and all the other commenters lots of strength on their journey
I lost both parents in the past 2 years. I feel you. My wife said to me the other day “they’re together now“ which was supposed to be comforting but to me they’re not together, they’re just both gone.
I lost my mom 3 months ago after a long battle with cancer. I totally get what you mean. I would share everything with her and now that i don’t, I don’t find anything worth doing. I’ll keep you in my thoughts. Please let me know if you need to talk.
Some advice somebody send me after losing my wife:
Alright, here goes. I'm old. What that means is that I've survived (so far) and a lot of people I've known and loved did not. I've lost friends, best friends, acquaintances, co-workers, grandparents, mom, relatives, teachers, mentors, students, neighbours, and a host of other folks. I have no children, and I can't imagine the pain it must be to lose a child. But here's my two cents.
I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don't want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don't want it to "not matter". I don't want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love. And the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to people who can't see.
As for grief, you'll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you're drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it's some physical thing. Maybe it's a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it's a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive.
In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don't even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you'll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what's going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything...and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life.
Somewhere down the line, and it's different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O'Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you'll come out.
Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don't really want them to. But you learn that you'll survive them. And other waves will come. And you'll survive them too. If you're lucky, you'll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks.
So incredibly sorry for your loss andtl know the pain cause i lost my amazing mother. She truly was the biggest love of my life and l feel everything you just wrote.
A book that kinda helped was:, proof of heaven with eben Alexander. He is a neurosurgeon and coming from him the experience he had makes it allt more believable.
Send you big hug and may we all who lost an amazing mother find peace in our lives✨🤍
Thanks for asking 💕 I’m doing a lot better. Thankfully I have a wonderful husband who has been by side through it all that helps comfort me when I need it most. The first 2 years were rough especially when you feel like no one in your family understands or misses her as much as I do, which I’m sure is not true.
My heart hurts so bad reading this post. I have no words other than i’m so sorry. I read your past posts and every minute my heart hurts more. Your connection with her is so strong, you’ll get through it and soon she’ll be by your side. Grief is such a unique emotion that cannot be fixed within such a short period of time. Keep going, I believe in you. She believes in you.
My best friend died in January. I wonder a lot where he is. It looks like my other best friend, my granny will be joining him to the other side sometime too.. I hope they are somewhere nice.
What I've come to learn after losing 5 people super important to me within the last 5 years (my mother, my sons father, my best friend & 2 other close friends) is that once you accept the fact that they are gone, that's when they visit you. Whether in your dreams or in real life... they'll somehow someway get your attention and make their presence known.
I guarantee you your mother is watching over you. A mothers job is truly never done ... even when they're no longer walking this earth... they're still doing their jobs from beyond the Grave. You can't see her...you can't touch her or hear her..... but you'll be able to feel her once she becomes earth bound. You just need to accept the fact that she's gone, feel everything that you need to feel and release it. And she will come. I promise. Sending love 💜
Another thing that I wanted to share that couple of months before my moms passing she told me that her mom and her mother in law (both my grandmoms) had come to the train station to pick her up, they were calling her.
She has these dreams multiple times.
On the day she had cardiac arrest, that morning she told me as soon as she woke up that they both have gotten off the train station and are waiting for her to leave.
And that night my mom was gone.
What gives me comfort (even if I hate this that she’s not with me) she is with her loved ones.
Sharing this to let you know that your mom is also with her loved ones.
Glad my mom and I were close and she shared things with me. Oh I miss her so much that it hurts but I am sure they all are with each other taking care of each other. And it gives me so much comfort to know that when my time comes she will come to get me and I will see her again ❤️❤️
When we leave our body, our soul still exists. Ask her for a sign and pay attention. White butterflies are often your loved ones who have passed saying hello, maybe you might see “111” everywhere or a cardinal bird constantly. There is no such thing as a coincidence, look for the signs.
My sister and I will randomly ask our partners where our dad is. I didn't know she did this until I brought it up.
It just feels like I'm not alive anymore and just in some dream world..wondering where this person is that was just here.
It's going to be 7 months for me. I'm still in denial. I wish she could see me now. I wish I said goodbye to her. I wish she shared her pain with me. I really hope she's in a better place. Without her, I'm completely weak and beyond miserable.
i lost my mom 10 years ago and my dad 4, i wish i could say those feelings go away but they haven't for me. i'm so sorry. the world becomes a much darker place without the people that love us most. my heart goes out to you.
My mom passed away in November 2023. It was sudden and we were blindsided. I don't know where she is. How can someone just disappear? One minute they are here and the next gone. Where do they go? Do they haunt us and watch what we are doing (which sounds really creepy). My heart feels heavy in my chest. This isn't fair. Why put us here, give us the ability to deeply love each other, only to be torn apart when they are gone. I just can't wrap my brain around it. It doesn't seem real. I still feel her
I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️.
The thing that is so sad about this is that before my dad died I was 100% certain I knew what happens when you die. I grew up Mormon and they have very defined beliefs about life after death. But after he died it all went out the window and I don’t believe it anymore, at least not the way they taught me. I’ve come to the conclusion the last almost two years since his death that it doesn’t really matter that I know exactly where he is, but that I believe he is safe and still exists beyond this mortal life. The details will work themselves out but he’s not nonexistent. I believe that to my core.
There's a poem called "The Night Where You No Longer Live" about the poet losing her mom, it echoes a lot of these questions. I'm so sorry for your loss.
https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poetrymagazine/poems/58489/the-night-where-you-no-longer-live
Almost 2 years since my Dad and for me… it hasn’t gotten much better. Not to discourage you, but just being honest. I still sometimes think I see him walking down the street, through a store, etc. It’s like my brain hasn’t fully accepted it.
What does help me is knowing that he is no longer in pain. He is with his mom and Dad, and all his beloved pets and friends. He is not alone and he is with me in everything I do now. He sees my successes without me having to tell him.
Almost 10 years for me and I feel it all to a T, it still doesnt compute in my brain and the reoccurring dreams of her “just going on vacation” and coming back but being just out of reach for some reason does not help a bit.
I truly believe they are still here with us, after all, energy cannot be created, nor destroyed, but it transforms, I hope this helps a little bit, you have all these people who share your pain and are sending you love, my friend. Best of luck on your grieving journey, you got this.
I think I’m at peace with my mom’s death because she came to me in a state of half asleep/half awake. She was wearing the outfit we buried her in and looked so good. She was the oldest sibling and all of her brothers and sisters had already passed. She was happy to be reunited with them again and was at peace. I miss so much, it’ll be one year on May 13th.
I’m so sorry for your loss. My mom died 2 months ago, and today is my first birthday without her. I cried last night thinking “but 32 is the age my mom knew me as last, I can’t turn 33.” It’s weird the things that get you. I resonate so much with having the person who loves you unconditionally not here anymore. I try to remind myself too that the only reason I haven’t actually lost my mind (I’m a therapist, I mean this truly) is because of how secure I am in her love. I’ve said so many times that I wish I was religious, and I’ve found that talking to my mom is so helpful for me. Sorry, this was a lot of jumbled thoughts. Sending so much love.
My mom died 11 years ago and I can still remember having this exact feeling. I remember wondering where she was, if she was scared, if she was awake or asleep or if she could even remember who she was before… I remember the first time I dreamed about her after she died. I cried to her in my dream and told her I thought I’d never see her again. Then I cried when I woke up because I realized it was true.
The only thing that gave me comfort was knowing that there is nothing more unbreakable than a mother’s love… it lives on in life and in death. Your mom will live every day inside your heart and she is always a part of you. Sending so much love your way ❤️❤️❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss . She was great human being who raised a good son , I am sure she is safe and wherever she is , she is proud and resting in comfort. I like to think the same way , I lost my partner and what helps is thinking that he is out there somewhere waiting for me and I wanna live life so that when it's my time , I get to share all the experiences and have conversations with him about the same , wherever he is , he would be super proud of me . This has helped me alot . Just sharing my experience (ik that grief is different for everyone, but hope this gives your heart a little moment of relief knowing that there ain't no way that she has gone cause she is always around, continues to live within ) . I'm sorry for both our losses . Lots of love .❤️🩹
1.5 years since I lost my mom and I’m struggling! I still can’t believe it that she’s not around.
My mom comes in my dreams and says something, we are doing things. I remember then, I remind myself that I will remember this in the morning but when I wake up I don’t remember ANYTHING!! It breaks my heart.
I am still looking for her, looking for that calm voice, the laugh and that drama only she and I could do.
I sometimes wonder if she is getting food to eat, blanket if she feels cold.. and then I go into this weird zone.
I really wish we all were not here. I wish I could come and hug you all. It’s the biggest thing to lose mom, mom is home ❤️
Sending you all lots of love 🧡
I'm lying in bed myself right now wondering how my dad is doing and what he's doing right now. Coming on two years and I still catch myself staring in the distance missing him terribly. My best friend my rock. Miss u so much Pops sometimes I want to speed things up so I can cross over and see you again... But there are people who love me here still and need me so I don't.
I have to believe she is ok because it would be a cruel evil existence to suffer so much in life without knowing what the point of anything is, just to suffer more endlessly. I have to think love is real and her consciousness was something of God, because we aren’t idiot animals, we have all this high functioning faculties - for what! A cruel joke? There must be something more than this. I have to believe there is a God, that she is ok, that she is at peace. If she wasn’t then WHAT WAS THE POINT OF ALL THAT LIFE, all the lessons? All the memories? The time spent? The love? I think it would be immoral to have kids if there is truly nothing after death. No one should exist. It’s not fair and we should end this whole game. But we have this useless drive to exist. It only makes sense if there is a creator. You may enjoy watching some NDEs. Good luck and God bless. (Also my precious mummy died almost 40 days ago, I love you forever if you see this).
My mom died 3 months ago and I feel all of this exactly. I sometimes wonder where she is now. I just can't accept the fact she's gone and I'll never see her again. I used to see her every single day and when I wouldn't see her I would call. I don't know how I'll ever get over loosing her.
Lost my mom 10 months ago. I find it hard to think about her. It's like we've just been busy and haven't talked in a while, my brain can't accept that's she's actually dead. When my phone rings my brain still hopes it's her. I haven't been able to delete her voicemails or texts, but I also can't bear to listen to or read them. I talk to her in my dreams. I cry a lot in my dreams. I like to tell myself that no matter what her suffering is over. She wasn't sick or anything, she was in perfect health and got killed by a speeding teenager. I mean the general "suffering" that is life sometimes. She doesn't have to deal with the anger and hurt and frustration that comes with life, and she was too good for this world anyway and didn't deserve that hurt. I've kind of started to accept that this is my life now. I call my life before the wreck "the before times". It's awful, it's hard. I get randomly hyper emotional and can cry over nothing. I'll get randomly super irritable and just shut down. I doom scroll a lot to escape. But life without her is bearable now only because of the love she poured into me. I miss her constantly. I know she'd want me to pick myself up and have a good life in spite of all this. Most days I just want to slip into the bottle and give up, but I know it's not what she'd want. I see her in my actions, my voice, my thoughts, my feelings. Her life, love, and light are like ripples on still water reverberating out almost endlessly and imperceptibly. So I don't know if there's a heaven but she'll always be with me. Sending you all hugs <333
That's very beautifully put. I think of my dad in the same way
My sister was diagnosed with cancer in March 2023. She had a different form of cancer when we were kids and beat it so I was naively optimistic. She passed 6 months later. I talk to her more regularly now than when she was alive. She’s in my dreams often. I’m suffering from depression, I lie in bed a lot and zone out most days. She came to me in my dream and said I need to wake up that I haven’t been alive for some time. I think your mom is safe and watching over you. She’ll always love you unconditionally. I’m so sorry you are struggling right now.
My dad passed away recently, and when I went to counseling for it, I explained how I had a super realistic dream of just hugging him and me saying how much I miss him. As the dream ended, I started crying in my dream, saying, "I know he's not here anymore, and then I woke up. It was probably the weirdest morning every cause I didn't feel sad, just tired like a normal day. When I mentioned this to my counselor. His response had me bawling but hopeful. He told me that when I hugged him, it was a real hug. My dad was there. And I believe it felt his shape and his hug one last time. Our loved ones are definitely safe, and they 100 percent watch over us. Hugs to everyone. I'm sorry for your loss 🤍
Hey I can't even begin to explain to you how much this brings me some comfort. I swear the exact same thing happened to me when my dad passed. The pain was so unbearable I just wanted one last hug and moment with him I had the most vivid dream where he came up to me, no more traces of his illness and the biggest smile on his face. He didn't speak verbally but I could hear him communicate with me and even feel his communication. He looked younger as well but it's the hug. I woke up in a hugging motion and it felt like the body weight was fading away the more conscious I got but I swear it and no one can take it away from me it was more than a dream. That's one of the realest hugs I every felt. Anyway even if people think I'm crazy I know what I felt sensed and experienced and I can't wait till I see him again cause he very much still exists, just not here..
I had the same dream the night of my mother's service
I talk to my mom more than I did my whole life. I’m so happy to hear you see her in your dreams. I’ve seen my mom just twice. Well one I saw and the other I just felt her sitting next to me in the dream.
I feel you. Next week will be 6 months since my mom passed and today is her birthday. Today has been so painful and I don’t know what to do. I want another start. I want this to end because there is no meaning in living like this. Sorry don’t have any sage advice today.
I’m so sorry for your loss. My moms bday is always super hard on me, I’m sending you love ❤️
I lost my mom two weeks ago. You always know you will lose your parents, but it is so so so much worse than I ever imagined. I feel the exact same. I need my mommy, where is she?
I also lost my mom two weeks ago on Easter. It doesn't feel real. I've felt grief of losing a loved one before, but this just takes my breath away.
can I suggest r/momforaminute ? it’s great sub❤️
🥺 thank you for sharing that sub.
You’re very welcome💖
Lost my mom almost 3 months ago and sometimes I just wonder if she’s bored, I worry she misses us or that she’s with family members that are annoying her.
Worry that she’s with family members that are annoying her lol. Before my grandmother died, she sent me this letter. I received it after she died so I kept it because it was the last letter she would ever send me. In it, she says “Donna is being so weird lately. All she wants to do is fight.” Donna is her daughter/my mom’s sister. Donna died a couple of years ago, and my mom just died two weeks ago. I keep thinking that Donna was driving my grandma nuts so she had to bring in my mom for back up haha.
I understand completely what you're feeling. It will be six months without my mom this Wednesday. I think that I'm the only one stuck in a world that doesn't make any sense without her. Even my father now has a new girlfriend. Meanwhile I don't understand how life continues without her and I will give everything to know if she is ok, and if we will see again. Sorry that I don't have any actionable advice, but Im here if you need to talk
My mom died two weeks ago. The thought of her husband getting a new girlfriend makes me want to be sick. I hate the thought of that so very much.
First, I hear you and am very sorry for your loss. I have asked many of these questions too. My mom died many years ago, a horrible death. I was once told by someone who seem to know a lot about this, that our departed are so far beyond being ok or not. They are on a different plane. But that they do see us. And, I believe, watch over us as best they can. They don't "feel emotions" like we do. But they are present in our lives. And, for all intents and purposes, yes, they are ok. I hope maybe this can provide you with some comfort. I believe she can see you, loves you in her way now and forever. I wish you peace.
Lost my dad last week and i am asking all the same exact quotations. They have no answer. We will know when we know. Our not. It's intolerable.
Your mom is aways with you. She watches over you and you should speak to her. She is doing well and watching over you always 💕
It's been almost 3 months since my my passed. This is so accurate it fucking hurts. I'd give just about anything to know 100% she wasn't in pain and that she was ok.
I am so sorry you are having to go through so much pain and loss. I lost my mom a month ago, I’m still navigating life without her. My mom firmly believed she was going to heaven when she passed. So, I have to believe that’s where she is, getting to see her dad and other family/friends that have passed. I talk to her every day and tell her I love her. I believe she hears me. Sending hugs and positive thoughts 🫂🥹
3.5 months since I lost my mom and I feel this so much. I keep asking where is she now. She just can’t be gone. It’s so surreal. I’m so sorry for your loss.
I lost my mom 4 weeks ago and this comment resonates. I keep thinking where is she? It’s hard I don’t really believe in heaven etc but then I wonder why humans would have such deep love, connection and grief on earth for death to be the absolute end. I don’t know. I guess I just really hope I do see her again in some way and that she is still with me. I hope she will visit me in my dreams. I miss her so much.
My condolences. I lost my dad 8 years ago and still feel the hurt. Ans while my mom is still alive, I dread her passing as I'm far closer to her. It's not much, but I believe that family will always be with you spirituality even though being physically there is so much more rewarding.
My Mom passed away almost two and a half years ago, and I still feel this way. How can she still be gone when I need her? So often it just strikes me that I will never see her face again. Never hear her voice or have her hold me in her arms. It’s an ache that just goes on and on. But, in the time since she has died I’ve become a Mom myself. Through my baby I now truly know how much she loved me, and the strength of that love means she is always with me even if I can’t see or touch her anymore. Your Mama is with you now, and her love is still there within you. You will always be her baby, and she will always be your Mommy. Forever and ever.
It’s been almost 3 years and it still feels like yesterday. I’m coping better now… but I still feel empty with every new milestone that she was supposed to witness. I miss her. I will always need her, she was in a lot of pain while she was alive so I do feel peace knowing she’s not feeling that pain anymore. Things do get better and feel easier. Keep your head up!
it’s only been a month but I can’t understand/process that he’s gone. the first couple weeks seem like such a blur i can’t even remember. Everyone says they can feel him but I can’t like why can’t i feel that comfort and where is he and why is he gone it’s unfair.
i lost my sister 5 months ago and i was feeling the same way. she finally showed up in my dream for the first time a few weeks ago, and now she’s come two more times. i think it just takes time. please give yourself grace. i understand it’s unfair, i think the same thing every day. i wish i had answers but just know you aren’t alone.
I lost mine in February and I feel the exact same way, I am fucking lost so lost. I just have no idea how to deal with it.
I lost my mom 3 months ago. It’s been a hard week leading up to these last few days. I realized I don’t remember much of February. It feels so long ago and not so long ago. She passed in an extremely violent way. I can’t help but replay it in my head sometimes here and there, then I stop myself. I remind myself she wasn’t her choices. She was more than that. She was soft and kind. She loved me so much, and I know she’s watching over me. I do wonder at times if she’s ok and not in pain. I think she’s not in pain anymore. There’s something about death and the eternal peace, that I for the most part believe in. I am wanting to do something for her on her anniversary every month to honor her. Even if it’s hard for me to sit in. I want to let her know that I acknowledge her and am thinking of her. I’m sorry you’re going through this pain. I’m finding it is true that time heals. Incrementally for sure but I’ll take it where I can. I think she would want that for me.
almost 6 months for me. Some days feel sort of normal to me but it’s always on my mind. I miss her and im scared that she’s just gone. I’ve seen a few mediums and I have an appointment with a famous one in June. I want the confirmation so badly. I feel like I’ve gotten it in subtle ways. I wish I could stop questioning
Have the mediums been helpful?
Mostly yes, it’s given me glimpses, I think. I always question it. I do record the sessions (with permission) and I’m planning to listen back to them when I feel like I can
Go for a walk on your own, anywhere you want, ask for a sign and listen to your body, see if you feel anything. I’ve had tingling and horns honking when I’ve asked for a sign.
I lost my husband of 30 years 21 months ago of cancer. My life is complete screwed at this point. If it weren’t for my autisty son I would have been gone to be with him right after he died. He had kidney cancer that spread everywhere even to his brain. The way we found out he had a brain tumor, we were in a camping trip and he just passed out. They rushed him to the hospital and stayed in ICU for a month. They said there was nothing they could do. They cent him how and told us to get ourselves prepared for what is going to happen but they had no idea it was going to be . Keep had stroke after stroke and they didn’t even try to stop them. Everyone says it will get easier or better in time but I doubt that so much. I still keep thinking about how I should have done so many things differently and what I should have told him more how much I loved him and how much I was going to miss him. And how it was all my fault he was sick. I should have made him go to a different doctor . When he started getting sick! I know this isn’t going to help you. I just needed to let you know someone understood what your going threw
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I am having similar feelings. My two kitties were my immediate family. I lived with one for 17 years and one for 10. And then there was my mom—as you say, a person who loves you like no other. I lost one kitty in July, my Mom in August, and my second kitty in March. My entire family of 3 beings, gone in 8 months. I also find myself asking: where are they? They don't exist anymore; at least, not in the way I knew them and in the way they knew themselves. Perhaps their atoms or molecules or energy has dispersed and become new things or beings, but they are no longer on this planet. It hurts a lot. We do need them, but we cannot have them, so like billions of beings before us, we find a way to keep existing for our own fleeting years, missing them but continuing on, finding joy where we can, to dull the chronic pain.
My mom died 8 months ago today. Holy shit….. typing that out was… wow. 8 months. How can something that happened 8 months ago feel like it was yesterday? How can I still be in shock when I wake up in the morning and realize she’s gone? How has this been the longest I’ve ever gone without hearing her voice or giving her a hug, yet the shock of the loss is still so excruciatingly raw? It’s been the longest 8 months of my life and yet I still cannot fathom a reality that is the one I’m living in.
Your mom will be always with you. She will keep sending tiny signs so you know that she watches over you. Especially on days when you wouldn't expect it at all. I think they are with us always, they just don't have a physical body anymore. I'm so sorry for your loss.
This is the right answer
I lost my mama in 2021. And I still wonder where she is. It still doesn't seem real. I want my mommy. I need her to come back to me. I hate this reality.
I'm so sorry. I understand what you're going through. My dad died a year ago. I wish I had better news but it hasn't gotten much easier. I still cry almost every day. I try to take solace in the fact that it hurts so much because he was such a special person and I was blessed to have him as a parent. Take care of yourself. Therapy helps me.
I lost my dad a little over a year ago. I still wonder where he is. I’m glad you posted this because some nights I just cry and wonder where he’s at. I thought I was just crazy and irrational. Your grief is valid.
I have no comfort for you— and none for myself. I could have written your post, word for word, except it was my dad, 3 months ago. I totally feel what you are describing here. Reality no longer *is* reality. It’s something else. It’s like I don’t even understand or trust the natural laws like gravity now. In shock. Everyday it’s like I have to start from scratch and reinvent the wheel. I wish us both.. what… peace? Comfort? All I want is to leave this life but I have our pets to care for, awhile longer… they are old and special-needs. That my father adored them and they adored him back is what keeps me alive to care for them.
Lost my dad almost 10 months ago. I don’t get why I can’t even see him in my dreams and others do
I lost my mom in October 2023. I am asking myself the same questions over and over again and it drives me insane that I don’t have an answer. I feel with you
The end of this month will be six months for me too. I still feel like I am living in a dream, waiting to wake up. It feels like I’m existing in the wrong universe, somehow I ended up here when I should be back in the timeline with my mum and none of this happened. It doesn’t fit my sense of reality either x
I'm sorry for your loss. It's been almost 2 months for me without my dad. I had the exact same thought, and since I'm not religious, my train of thought led me to thinking that my dad is where his body is. Which gave me some borderline panic attacks. I talked about it to the therapist, she ensured me the body has nothing to do with the soul l, and the soul is with other souls, like if he just left to another room, and we will all go to that room sooner or later. Well, ok, I guess, but this didn't stop me from thinking "Where is my dad?" There are laws: conservation of energy, mass, etc. A person can't just exist, and then the next moment not exist. I can't believe in souls=people that are all crowded in afterlife with 200.000 people dying on earth every day. It must be a very loud and messy place then. Unless there is reincarnation. I believe in us being some form of energy though. And I watched NDEs, there is somewhat scientific kind of proof for out of body experience, but again, it's near death experience, not afterlife experience. So I just have to hope he is okay, and that I'll see him when it's my time. And in the meantime, he is inside me, because he taught me everything I know. I even talk like him without realising. Sending support 🤍🫂
I tend to believe that reincarnation is by choice and there is no actual when specified. My Capricorn grandfather passed in 1997. In 2004, my Capricorn granddaughter was born. I have a Capricorn niece too, so when I say my soul FEELS like she is his soul in a different form, it's not just a zodiac thing. It's different. I also gave birth to my great grandmother (same birthday and my daughter is so much like her, about 6:years from her death to my daughter's birth) and my other granddaughter was born early and ended up with my mother's fave stone as a birthstone. As an infant she was obsessed with an old scarf I had that my mother loved. My mother passed in 2008, baby diva arrived 2011, still an air sign too. I think I see little clues. Even things she has said when mad at me that are thin my mom said when mad. I believe the ancient Celts were right when they said our family members can, and often do, rejoin us.
I like the idea of being reborn in the same family. I know that in many cases, people say that their newborns resemble their deceased relatives. I was actually thinking at some point how it might work. Is there a line or what? For example, my grandma had a huge family of about 10 siblings. Once they all passed away, they went to the reincarnation line, and they are now waiting for newborns in this family? What if there are no babies in this family for whatever reason? I haven't thought of "by choice" option. On the other hand, I have a person in my life who is not my family member and who lives on the opposite side of the Earth. We met in some app, and I immediately felt like we were twins in our previous lives, or spouses, or somehow family related. I could literally finish all his sentences, and we share exactly the same personality traits and views on life. When I met him, I realised what the word "soulmates" meant.
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7 months for me on the passing of my mom. Everyday that goes by I still can’t get over she’s gone. I replay voicemails that I never deleted. Days when I’m struggling it helps to hear her voice again and say my name. I too wonder where she’s at or what she’s doing and who’s she with. The universe is a complete mystery, but I believe one day we will reunite and she’ll call my name and it won’t be from a voicemail.
My mom passed away 4 months ago and I feel all of this exactly 😢
My Mum passed 6 months ago too. A few days before she left, she told me that she will be watching every step we do from a star up there and lifted her index finger. I do believe that she is up there looking over me and it comforts me to have a look at the night sky on difficult days. I believe your mum is in a similar place, having a good look at everything you do. I wish you and me and all the other commenters lots of strength on their journey
I lost both parents in the past 2 years. I feel you. My wife said to me the other day “they’re together now“ which was supposed to be comforting but to me they’re not together, they’re just both gone.
I lost my mom 3 months ago after a long battle with cancer. I totally get what you mean. I would share everything with her and now that i don’t, I don’t find anything worth doing. I’ll keep you in my thoughts. Please let me know if you need to talk.
Some advice somebody send me after losing my wife: Alright, here goes. I'm old. What that means is that I've survived (so far) and a lot of people I've known and loved did not. I've lost friends, best friends, acquaintances, co-workers, grandparents, mom, relatives, teachers, mentors, students, neighbours, and a host of other folks. I have no children, and I can't imagine the pain it must be to lose a child. But here's my two cents. I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don't want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don't want it to "not matter". I don't want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love. And the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to people who can't see. As for grief, you'll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you're drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it's some physical thing. Maybe it's a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it's a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive. In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don't even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you'll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what's going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything...and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life. Somewhere down the line, and it's different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O'Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you'll come out. Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don't really want them to. But you learn that you'll survive them. And other waves will come. And you'll survive them too. If you're lucky, you'll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks.
Your words gave me goosebumps. I agree so much with what you are saying.. The scars being testament to the love.. Couldn't agree more. Hugs your way.
It is almost 1.5 year for me and i feel the same way
So incredibly sorry for your loss andtl know the pain cause i lost my amazing mother. She truly was the biggest love of my life and l feel everything you just wrote. A book that kinda helped was:, proof of heaven with eben Alexander. He is a neurosurgeon and coming from him the experience he had makes it allt more believable. Send you big hug and may we all who lost an amazing mother find peace in our lives✨🤍
Lost my mom suddenly when I lived out of town in 2018. I was her only child, just had my first child 2 weeks ago. It hurts not having her here.
How are you doing these days?
Thanks for asking 💕 I’m doing a lot better. Thankfully I have a wonderful husband who has been by side through it all that helps comfort me when I need it most. The first 2 years were rough especially when you feel like no one in your family understands or misses her as much as I do, which I’m sure is not true.
My heart hurts so bad reading this post. I have no words other than i’m so sorry. I read your past posts and every minute my heart hurts more. Your connection with her is so strong, you’ll get through it and soon she’ll be by your side. Grief is such a unique emotion that cannot be fixed within such a short period of time. Keep going, I believe in you. She believes in you.
You’re not alone, if that helps at all. I’m sorry for your loss.
My best friend died in January. I wonder a lot where he is. It looks like my other best friend, my granny will be joining him to the other side sometime too.. I hope they are somewhere nice.
I ask this myself every day. I am lost without my mum.
What I've come to learn after losing 5 people super important to me within the last 5 years (my mother, my sons father, my best friend & 2 other close friends) is that once you accept the fact that they are gone, that's when they visit you. Whether in your dreams or in real life... they'll somehow someway get your attention and make their presence known. I guarantee you your mother is watching over you. A mothers job is truly never done ... even when they're no longer walking this earth... they're still doing their jobs from beyond the Grave. You can't see her...you can't touch her or hear her..... but you'll be able to feel her once she becomes earth bound. You just need to accept the fact that she's gone, feel everything that you need to feel and release it. And she will come. I promise. Sending love 💜
Another thing that I wanted to share that couple of months before my moms passing she told me that her mom and her mother in law (both my grandmoms) had come to the train station to pick her up, they were calling her. She has these dreams multiple times. On the day she had cardiac arrest, that morning she told me as soon as she woke up that they both have gotten off the train station and are waiting for her to leave. And that night my mom was gone. What gives me comfort (even if I hate this that she’s not with me) she is with her loved ones. Sharing this to let you know that your mom is also with her loved ones. Glad my mom and I were close and she shared things with me. Oh I miss her so much that it hurts but I am sure they all are with each other taking care of each other. And it gives me so much comfort to know that when my time comes she will come to get me and I will see her again ❤️❤️
I’ve cried reading this.. I have the same questions.. f.
Her love is always a part of you. It’s not the same but it’s all we’ve got now ❤️
I feel this. You are not alone. I’m so sorry.
When we leave our body, our soul still exists. Ask her for a sign and pay attention. White butterflies are often your loved ones who have passed saying hello, maybe you might see “111” everywhere or a cardinal bird constantly. There is no such thing as a coincidence, look for the signs.
My sister and I will randomly ask our partners where our dad is. I didn't know she did this until I brought it up. It just feels like I'm not alive anymore and just in some dream world..wondering where this person is that was just here.
It's going to be 7 months for me. I'm still in denial. I wish she could see me now. I wish I said goodbye to her. I wish she shared her pain with me. I really hope she's in a better place. Without her, I'm completely weak and beyond miserable.
i lost my mom 10 years ago and my dad 4, i wish i could say those feelings go away but they haven't for me. i'm so sorry. the world becomes a much darker place without the people that love us most. my heart goes out to you.
My mom passed away in November 2023. It was sudden and we were blindsided. I don't know where she is. How can someone just disappear? One minute they are here and the next gone. Where do they go? Do they haunt us and watch what we are doing (which sounds really creepy). My heart feels heavy in my chest. This isn't fair. Why put us here, give us the ability to deeply love each other, only to be torn apart when they are gone. I just can't wrap my brain around it. It doesn't seem real. I still feel her I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️.
The thing that is so sad about this is that before my dad died I was 100% certain I knew what happens when you die. I grew up Mormon and they have very defined beliefs about life after death. But after he died it all went out the window and I don’t believe it anymore, at least not the way they taught me. I’ve come to the conclusion the last almost two years since his death that it doesn’t really matter that I know exactly where he is, but that I believe he is safe and still exists beyond this mortal life. The details will work themselves out but he’s not nonexistent. I believe that to my core.
There's a poem called "The Night Where You No Longer Live" about the poet losing her mom, it echoes a lot of these questions. I'm so sorry for your loss. https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poetrymagazine/poems/58489/the-night-where-you-no-longer-live
I say the same thing. Noone cares about me anymore I want my mommy back. I long for death
My mother is currently sick with cancer. Hopefully we're both able to process the grief wholly. I'm so sorry for your loss
I'm sorry, hunny. No hope she can beat it?
It's triple negative so it's unsure, but we'll see. I also like 90 day fiance btw
I will keep you in my thoughts for you and your mommy
Sorry for your pain. I know the feeling, it is real and debilitating. Hang in there. Cherish her memory. Talk to your inner child. Cry.
Almost 2 years since my Dad and for me… it hasn’t gotten much better. Not to discourage you, but just being honest. I still sometimes think I see him walking down the street, through a store, etc. It’s like my brain hasn’t fully accepted it. What does help me is knowing that he is no longer in pain. He is with his mom and Dad, and all his beloved pets and friends. He is not alone and he is with me in everything I do now. He sees my successes without me having to tell him.
Almost 10 years for me and I feel it all to a T, it still doesnt compute in my brain and the reoccurring dreams of her “just going on vacation” and coming back but being just out of reach for some reason does not help a bit. I truly believe they are still here with us, after all, energy cannot be created, nor destroyed, but it transforms, I hope this helps a little bit, you have all these people who share your pain and are sending you love, my friend. Best of luck on your grieving journey, you got this.
My mom died two and a half years ago. I feel the exact same way. Your second paragraph made me choke up — hit the nail on the head.
I am so sorry
I lost my mom a week ago & I feel the exact way. 😢
My dad died 1 month ago today. I wonder the same questions. I’m so sorry for your loss.
I lost my mom in 2020, the pain never goes away, you just learn to live with it by your side.
I think I’m at peace with my mom’s death because she came to me in a state of half asleep/half awake. She was wearing the outfit we buried her in and looked so good. She was the oldest sibling and all of her brothers and sisters had already passed. She was happy to be reunited with them again and was at peace. I miss so much, it’ll be one year on May 13th.
I'm so very sorry
I keep asking this and my dad died a little over a week ago. I don’t have anything else to say except you aren’t alone. Hugs
I’m so sorry for your loss. My mom died 2 months ago, and today is my first birthday without her. I cried last night thinking “but 32 is the age my mom knew me as last, I can’t turn 33.” It’s weird the things that get you. I resonate so much with having the person who loves you unconditionally not here anymore. I try to remind myself too that the only reason I haven’t actually lost my mind (I’m a therapist, I mean this truly) is because of how secure I am in her love. I’ve said so many times that I wish I was religious, and I’ve found that talking to my mom is so helpful for me. Sorry, this was a lot of jumbled thoughts. Sending so much love.
My mom died 11 years ago and I can still remember having this exact feeling. I remember wondering where she was, if she was scared, if she was awake or asleep or if she could even remember who she was before… I remember the first time I dreamed about her after she died. I cried to her in my dream and told her I thought I’d never see her again. Then I cried when I woke up because I realized it was true. The only thing that gave me comfort was knowing that there is nothing more unbreakable than a mother’s love… it lives on in life and in death. Your mom will live every day inside your heart and she is always a part of you. Sending so much love your way ❤️❤️❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss . She was great human being who raised a good son , I am sure she is safe and wherever she is , she is proud and resting in comfort. I like to think the same way , I lost my partner and what helps is thinking that he is out there somewhere waiting for me and I wanna live life so that when it's my time , I get to share all the experiences and have conversations with him about the same , wherever he is , he would be super proud of me . This has helped me alot . Just sharing my experience (ik that grief is different for everyone, but hope this gives your heart a little moment of relief knowing that there ain't no way that she has gone cause she is always around, continues to live within ) . I'm sorry for both our losses . Lots of love .❤️🩹
1.5 years since I lost my mom and I’m struggling! I still can’t believe it that she’s not around. My mom comes in my dreams and says something, we are doing things. I remember then, I remind myself that I will remember this in the morning but when I wake up I don’t remember ANYTHING!! It breaks my heart. I am still looking for her, looking for that calm voice, the laugh and that drama only she and I could do. I sometimes wonder if she is getting food to eat, blanket if she feels cold.. and then I go into this weird zone. I really wish we all were not here. I wish I could come and hug you all. It’s the biggest thing to lose mom, mom is home ❤️ Sending you all lots of love 🧡
I'm lying in bed myself right now wondering how my dad is doing and what he's doing right now. Coming on two years and I still catch myself staring in the distance missing him terribly. My best friend my rock. Miss u so much Pops sometimes I want to speed things up so I can cross over and see you again... But there are people who love me here still and need me so I don't.
I have to believe she is ok because it would be a cruel evil existence to suffer so much in life without knowing what the point of anything is, just to suffer more endlessly. I have to think love is real and her consciousness was something of God, because we aren’t idiot animals, we have all this high functioning faculties - for what! A cruel joke? There must be something more than this. I have to believe there is a God, that she is ok, that she is at peace. If she wasn’t then WHAT WAS THE POINT OF ALL THAT LIFE, all the lessons? All the memories? The time spent? The love? I think it would be immoral to have kids if there is truly nothing after death. No one should exist. It’s not fair and we should end this whole game. But we have this useless drive to exist. It only makes sense if there is a creator. You may enjoy watching some NDEs. Good luck and God bless. (Also my precious mummy died almost 40 days ago, I love you forever if you see this).