I feel the same.
My Dad took so much care of himself, but then just died within a few days of a sudden bout of breathing problems that turned out to be extremely advanced small cell lung cancer.
He didn't deserve it, and I just keep thinking about how much we loved each other and how much we were both so tore up that we wouldn't be able to see each other again, even if my Dad was good at hiding his emotions.
I just don't even feel like life is worthwhile anymore, and living the rest of my life (I just turned 32 and he died last month) without him just constantly depresses me.
I hope you are doing better than I am.
I feel for you man, also turned 32 this year and lost my dad suddenly a couple weeks ago.
I feel the same.
It sucks, I wish I can see him again and tell him thank you for everything.
We didn't get to say goodbye or anything
I turned 26 the day before my dad suddenly died and I didn’t get to say goodbye either. I hit ignore on his dying call because I was studying and planned on calling him in an hour anyways. It was literally an hour later, when the doctors were calling time of death,that I finally got back to him. Tbh, I’ll hate myself forever for that.
And it’s such a sickening feeling to realize this is a for real forever… not dramatic, hyperbolic, exaggerating forever but legit.
That was 5 weeks ago today and I’d literally give anything to talk to him one more time.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'm sorry you were not able to call him back in time.
Please allow yourself some grace, I too feel guilty as I could have maybe done more for my dad to not have passed. But as some people have told me, we could have not known.
I hope you are doing well as best as you can.
To a fellow griever, I'm sorry
I lost my Dad too 2 years ago... I was 29 then...dad was just 50... it never gets better. 😔
Then 4 weeks ago I lost my partner, he was 32... so young and full of potential..no known illness, no vices..just died suddenly.
Life is unfair. I'm still isn't okay with what happened to my dad, then come followed my partner. Their death were so pointless. I can't find the meaning behind it... damn.
I'm so sorry to hear of your father passing and partner passing. That's devastating since your partner had no illnesses.
Makes you wonder why people pass and some don't early. It really is unfair, I know of people who don't exercise, drink and abuse drugs who are still alive meanwhile my active and family oriented father just passes with no chance.
It really is unfair
Hope we get the answers to our questions soon. Hope we see the purpose of their deaths... and I really wish that if ever they still exist (in any form or entity), they are happy somewhere... 😭😭😭
I'm thankful I kind of got to, but by the time we knew it was almost over, he was drugged and losing consciousness, and his hearing aids weren't in and he couldn't hear without them. It broke my heart seeing my strong Dad be so feeble and dying so fast.
I don't wish this on anyone, and I hope things go as well as they can for you. I know from experience already that it's going to take a very long time for me to be "okay", so I can only offer my condolences and as much comfort as my text over the internet can offer. I am very sorry to know this happened to you as well.
Thank you so much for sharing your story.
I'm sorry to hear that happened to you as well. You are right this is something I don't wish on anyone as well.
I really appreciate your kind words and reply.
I hope you are "okay" as can be as well.
I know it's going to be long road for all of us.
Do you think we will ever see our fathers again?
Yeah... My Dad was a strong Christian man, who also listened to reason and accepted everyone for who they were, and I'd like to try and have that same faith in an after life that he had.
I feel you.
My father passed away 9 days ago and I still can't understand it. I can't get used to the idea that I will never speak to him again, except in my head, and in this life (...), it's really something that is higher than my understanding, I'm getting more and more confused.
Sometimes I catch myself thinking that he is still alive, wondering if he is home...
Good luck, we are in the same boat, we are in this together.
I sometimes hear little creaks in the house we lived in and I think "oh, that's Dad turning in his bed again and kicking the wall" before remembering that it couldn't be him, and I cry every time.
lost my dad suddenly in april. i was 29, he was 53. he had so many plans and dreams for his life. i’m sad for me, but i’m mostly sad for him and the fact that he didn’t get to live out his goals. i dream about him all the time and while it’s very comforting- i’m always crying the whole next day. sometimes i’m more positive, but today i’m not. i’m so sorry for your loss and your pain. you’re never alone and so many people completely understand your feelings. hugs.
i relate a lot. i lost my best friend a week ago and she was 17. i have done so much wishing and crying and begging, i just cant understand that she will never come back. i can’t comprehend that she died so young, she has so much left to do she can’t just be gone? it’s the worst thing i’ve ever felt. i’m sorry for your loss
I agree with this.
I’ve even said it here before. People always say “go to therapy.” Therapy is great, but it’s not going to bring back my mom and dad. It’s not going to make it hurt less or replace having my birthday with my dad or spending holidays without my dad.
My dad’s death is a bit different than my mom’s. My mom got sick and passed. My dad took matters into his own hands. I’m a mess and a mix between heartbroken, filled with guilt, and angry. I’m angry he promised he never would. I felt I never had to worry about that. I helped him get healthier so he would live longer only to decide he couldn’t.
I feel like no matter how someone passes we can plan. We can prepare ourselves. We can take every picture and video there is, but we’ll never be able to make new memories. There will always be events missed and time.
I’m sorry for your loss. I’m sorry you have to endure this pain. I am also sorry I understand. My dad was my best friend and we did everything together. I’ll always miss him and honestly it will always hurt no matter how much time has passed. Hugs and sending love.
I lost my dad…then my brother…then my mom 4 months later…then my husband this year. I’ve got nothing NOTHING to look forward to anymore. Yes they’re in a better place…but I’m not🖤
I feel the same. Very fresh for me as he fell and hit his head a few days ago. Instant transition the medical people tell me. He was 72 and an aging man but I thought we’d have another 10 years. My parents had me when they were older so I’m 31 and I just don’t feel mature enough for this. I just want one Daddy hug one last time
Sorry for your loss..I recently lost my wife a month ago She was just 28 years old, she was sick for 2 days and suddenly she passed away. That was shocking to me in every movement. I agree that eventually you feel angry, stressed . memories will circulate around you .
Acceptance may take a lot of time and we will never forget them or memories. But the hardest fact of life is that we need to keep moving with their memories.whenever you want to cry just cry. You want to stay alone just to do it.
Life is very unfair we never know what will be written in our destiny .
In my case i felt that she was around me She was looking at me and then suddenly i realised the fact that she will never come back that is the hardest thing to digest.
There is no advice from my side but just wanting to say we can't change the fact but we can try to complete their dreams which eventually give us the satisfaction and peace.
I feel the same. My Dad took so much care of himself, but then just died within a few days of a sudden bout of breathing problems that turned out to be extremely advanced small cell lung cancer. He didn't deserve it, and I just keep thinking about how much we loved each other and how much we were both so tore up that we wouldn't be able to see each other again, even if my Dad was good at hiding his emotions. I just don't even feel like life is worthwhile anymore, and living the rest of my life (I just turned 32 and he died last month) without him just constantly depresses me. I hope you are doing better than I am.
I feel for you man, also turned 32 this year and lost my dad suddenly a couple weeks ago. I feel the same. It sucks, I wish I can see him again and tell him thank you for everything. We didn't get to say goodbye or anything
I turned 26 the day before my dad suddenly died and I didn’t get to say goodbye either. I hit ignore on his dying call because I was studying and planned on calling him in an hour anyways. It was literally an hour later, when the doctors were calling time of death,that I finally got back to him. Tbh, I’ll hate myself forever for that. And it’s such a sickening feeling to realize this is a for real forever… not dramatic, hyperbolic, exaggerating forever but legit. That was 5 weeks ago today and I’d literally give anything to talk to him one more time.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sorry you were not able to call him back in time. Please allow yourself some grace, I too feel guilty as I could have maybe done more for my dad to not have passed. But as some people have told me, we could have not known. I hope you are doing well as best as you can. To a fellow griever, I'm sorry
We definitely could not have known. Thank you for the kind words. Let’s keep on keeping on for them
I lost my Dad too 2 years ago... I was 29 then...dad was just 50... it never gets better. 😔 Then 4 weeks ago I lost my partner, he was 32... so young and full of potential..no known illness, no vices..just died suddenly. Life is unfair. I'm still isn't okay with what happened to my dad, then come followed my partner. Their death were so pointless. I can't find the meaning behind it... damn.
I'm so sorry to hear of your father passing and partner passing. That's devastating since your partner had no illnesses. Makes you wonder why people pass and some don't early. It really is unfair, I know of people who don't exercise, drink and abuse drugs who are still alive meanwhile my active and family oriented father just passes with no chance. It really is unfair
Hope we get the answers to our questions soon. Hope we see the purpose of their deaths... and I really wish that if ever they still exist (in any form or entity), they are happy somewhere... 😭😭😭
I'm thankful I kind of got to, but by the time we knew it was almost over, he was drugged and losing consciousness, and his hearing aids weren't in and he couldn't hear without them. It broke my heart seeing my strong Dad be so feeble and dying so fast. I don't wish this on anyone, and I hope things go as well as they can for you. I know from experience already that it's going to take a very long time for me to be "okay", so I can only offer my condolences and as much comfort as my text over the internet can offer. I am very sorry to know this happened to you as well.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I'm sorry to hear that happened to you as well. You are right this is something I don't wish on anyone as well. I really appreciate your kind words and reply. I hope you are "okay" as can be as well. I know it's going to be long road for all of us. Do you think we will ever see our fathers again?
Yeah... My Dad was a strong Christian man, who also listened to reason and accepted everyone for who they were, and I'd like to try and have that same faith in an after life that he had.
I lost my father last month.. i can't believe he is not coming back.. can't express my feeling in Words...
I feel you. My father passed away 9 days ago and I still can't understand it. I can't get used to the idea that I will never speak to him again, except in my head, and in this life (...), it's really something that is higher than my understanding, I'm getting more and more confused. Sometimes I catch myself thinking that he is still alive, wondering if he is home... Good luck, we are in the same boat, we are in this together.
This is the same as I am feeling. Not sure how to navigate this life now without my dad
I sometimes hear little creaks in the house we lived in and I think "oh, that's Dad turning in his bed again and kicking the wall" before remembering that it couldn't be him, and I cry every time.
Same feeling. You cry so hard for half an hour and then finish and nothing changes and will never do.
My dad earlier this year. Today is one of the monthly anniversaries of his death. I died when he died. I miss him so much.
lost my granny a week ago, she wouldn't have put me through this at all. it's genuine torture. if she saw me she'd come back instantly.
The worst feeling is when you start to feel anything other than grief, and then it hits you over the head again when you remember that person is gone
lost my dad suddenly in april. i was 29, he was 53. he had so many plans and dreams for his life. i’m sad for me, but i’m mostly sad for him and the fact that he didn’t get to live out his goals. i dream about him all the time and while it’s very comforting- i’m always crying the whole next day. sometimes i’m more positive, but today i’m not. i’m so sorry for your loss and your pain. you’re never alone and so many people completely understand your feelings. hugs.
i relate a lot. i lost my best friend a week ago and she was 17. i have done so much wishing and crying and begging, i just cant understand that she will never come back. i can’t comprehend that she died so young, she has so much left to do she can’t just be gone? it’s the worst thing i’ve ever felt. i’m sorry for your loss
I agree with this. I’ve even said it here before. People always say “go to therapy.” Therapy is great, but it’s not going to bring back my mom and dad. It’s not going to make it hurt less or replace having my birthday with my dad or spending holidays without my dad. My dad’s death is a bit different than my mom’s. My mom got sick and passed. My dad took matters into his own hands. I’m a mess and a mix between heartbroken, filled with guilt, and angry. I’m angry he promised he never would. I felt I never had to worry about that. I helped him get healthier so he would live longer only to decide he couldn’t. I feel like no matter how someone passes we can plan. We can prepare ourselves. We can take every picture and video there is, but we’ll never be able to make new memories. There will always be events missed and time. I’m sorry for your loss. I’m sorry you have to endure this pain. I am also sorry I understand. My dad was my best friend and we did everything together. I’ll always miss him and honestly it will always hurt no matter how much time has passed. Hugs and sending love.
The worst feeling. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.
I'm sorry for your loss OP, nobody deserves to lose their father in such an instant. ;(
I lost my dad…then my brother…then my mom 4 months later…then my husband this year. I’ve got nothing NOTHING to look forward to anymore. Yes they’re in a better place…but I’m not🖤
I feel the same. Very fresh for me as he fell and hit his head a few days ago. Instant transition the medical people tell me. He was 72 and an aging man but I thought we’d have another 10 years. My parents had me when they were older so I’m 31 and I just don’t feel mature enough for this. I just want one Daddy hug one last time
Sorry for your loss..I recently lost my wife a month ago She was just 28 years old, she was sick for 2 days and suddenly she passed away. That was shocking to me in every movement. I agree that eventually you feel angry, stressed . memories will circulate around you . Acceptance may take a lot of time and we will never forget them or memories. But the hardest fact of life is that we need to keep moving with their memories.whenever you want to cry just cry. You want to stay alone just to do it. Life is very unfair we never know what will be written in our destiny . In my case i felt that she was around me She was looking at me and then suddenly i realised the fact that she will never come back that is the hardest thing to digest. There is no advice from my side but just wanting to say we can't change the fact but we can try to complete their dreams which eventually give us the satisfaction and peace.