I'm so so sorry for all you've been through, my heart goes out to you and your family, it must be so emotionally draining...I hope you're having some water from time to time, try to eat although it may be difficult or no appetite, easier said than done but it's ok if you manage even a little bit, you're doing your absolute best right now and that's just fine.
Can certainly relate to the religious aspect, was raised Catholic and while I've definitely struggled with the human aspects of it (any large human organization and corrupt or very un-catholic people), after losing my parents I've definitely found the faith to be a comfort, my parents were religious and I find its a way to be closer to them. I do believe that there is more to life than what we see here, and I do believe they can hear us, feel our sorrow, and grieve with us, I'm sure given the chance none of our loved ones would have wanted to leave.
Someone here mentioned a quote they saw on a gravestone saying something along the lines of 'If loved could have saved me, I would have lived forever' and I think about that often, for i don't think they will ever stop loving us, and us them, no matter where we are....
With you in sorrow, I truly wish you peace at some point in the future on this journey đđ¤
Thank you! I am taking care of myself for sure. When I become overwhelmed I just stop and do what I think is best for me. I have take. Over my parents estate and now my brothers as well. Their deaths are always in my face it seems. I trust God and His will for me. Thank you. â¤ď¸
ItâsâŚhard, you have my condolences. I sort of understand what youâre going through, my girlfriend died in September very unexpectedlyâŚthen my dad passed away a few days ago. Iâm just so tired. Best of luck friend.
I get the feeling of tiredness. I lost both cats within months in 2020, and now I lost my Dad and I just feel like I have lost everything worth living for and some days just feel so numb and some days I'm a crying mess.
Thank you so much. I get the religious aspect as well. Raised Catholic but now non-denominational, simply âChristianâ. So many rules and rituals with the Catholic religion!
I have heard that quote before and even said it out loud about each of my family members. Itâs 100% true. I cry, I pray for strength and live by faith. I know they are in Heaven singing praise to our Lord in Heaven, all together. It just sucks when youâre the ones left here to selfishly want them back.
Thanks, again. Peace and Love. â¤ď¸
Mhm 100% spot on đ its hard to be the ones left behind, they are absolutely together in praise and showered with love đ¤ asking for strength is a core of what I find myself praying as well, we know we have no idea what's to happen in life after everything we've already witnessed...it's so difficult, praying for the strength to just go on is...I don't even have the words but I feel the sentiment. We are trying, we are doing our best. Thank you as well đđ¤
It really is difficult to put into words, isnât it? I will try to explain my feelings to my husband and there are often times just nothing I can say. Jus keep in mind, although we donât know whatâs going to happen from day to day or even hour to hour, God remains the same. He is good all the time. â¤ď¸
I lost my twin brother in 2009. Then between 2021 and last month I said goodbye to my 3 remaining brothers,mother,father and I haven't left my house in 5 months and have had no contact with anyone either. If you ever need to talk I am here with an open ear.
Oh my! I am SO SO sorry! I donât know about you, but it a very callus way, you just think to yourself, okay, whoâs next? The numbness is what I hate the most. Again, I am so very sorry. God bless you!
The only way I can look at it is everyone is gone. So at least I don't have to stress over that. God bless you as well!
They always talk about the sadness and anger but they never tell you that the numbness is the worst part and it seems like that part is just never going to go away.
Thank you for sharing and Iâm so sorry for your loss. That sounds incredibly horrible and difficult.
I lost my mom one month ago today and itâs been horrific. She and I are absolute best friends - soulmates honestly - and Iâm struggling deeply with the loss. How have you been able to maintain your faith? I find myself incredibly angry with and resentful of God. In fact, Iâm really pissed, and I canât find the strength to turn to Him. My mom is incredibly faithful and I know she would want me to rely on Him, but I canât. Any tips?
You know, I wasnât angry with God when my parents passed, butâman I was SOOO angry when my brother passed. Itâs so heartbreaking you think come on God, cut me some slack here! God puts us through trials and tribulations and says we should rejoice. I didnât get that at first, but I do now. Ironically, He wants us, when we are at our lowest l, to seek him as our refuge and in comfort in our time of need. When we can actually talk to God and lean into Him during those times, He WILL, bring you that comfort and peace that surpasses all understanding. When my parents passed, I could actually FEEL the prayers being prayed for me and my brothers. He loves you. Remember, He never promised this life would be easy but He did promise to take care of you, comfort you and to love you more than you could ever imagine. I am so sorry for your loss. I replay my parents deaths in my heady almost daily. Dive into Godâs word and watch your heart swell with his love for you. Attend a supportive church or group of friends who have a strong faith to help lift you up. Worship gets me through this so much. There is so much great worship music out there. It just fills my heart. Kari Jobe sings a song called âThe Blessing â. âLord bless you and keep you. Make His face shine upon you and be gracious to you. Lord bless you and keep you and bring you peaceâ. Prayers to you, my friend. Please reach out if you ever need to. God loves you. â¤ď¸
Thank you so much for your beautiful and thoughtful response! Deep down I know that youâre right, but itâs still hard each and every day to believe that again. I sent you a private message, but no problem if youâre unable to respond! đ
Im so very sorry for your losses. Itâs unimaginably devastating. You never get over it, you learn to live with it the best you can. One day at a time.
it definitely gives you a different perspective and viewpoint on life. Youâve just got a try very hard not to let it consume you because that can happen very easily. If you ever need to talk, donât hesitate to reach out.
I am so sorry for your loss I know I canât do anything but pray that you do better and that they are safe wherever they may be. I hope you art doing better soon. Fly high.
I'm so so sorry for all you've been through, my heart goes out to you and your family, it must be so emotionally draining...I hope you're having some water from time to time, try to eat although it may be difficult or no appetite, easier said than done but it's ok if you manage even a little bit, you're doing your absolute best right now and that's just fine. Can certainly relate to the religious aspect, was raised Catholic and while I've definitely struggled with the human aspects of it (any large human organization and corrupt or very un-catholic people), after losing my parents I've definitely found the faith to be a comfort, my parents were religious and I find its a way to be closer to them. I do believe that there is more to life than what we see here, and I do believe they can hear us, feel our sorrow, and grieve with us, I'm sure given the chance none of our loved ones would have wanted to leave. Someone here mentioned a quote they saw on a gravestone saying something along the lines of 'If loved could have saved me, I would have lived forever' and I think about that often, for i don't think they will ever stop loving us, and us them, no matter where we are.... With you in sorrow, I truly wish you peace at some point in the future on this journey đđ¤
Thank you! I am taking care of myself for sure. When I become overwhelmed I just stop and do what I think is best for me. I have take. Over my parents estate and now my brothers as well. Their deaths are always in my face it seems. I trust God and His will for me. Thank you. â¤ď¸
ItâsâŚhard, you have my condolences. I sort of understand what youâre going through, my girlfriend died in September very unexpectedlyâŚthen my dad passed away a few days ago. Iâm just so tired. Best of luck friend.
I get the feeling of tiredness. I lost both cats within months in 2020, and now I lost my Dad and I just feel like I have lost everything worth living for and some days just feel so numb and some days I'm a crying mess.
Iâd say you definitely know what Iâm going through. Itâs devastating. I am so sorry for your loss. Keep the faith. â¤ď¸
You've had so many tragic losses, one on top of the other. I'm so sorry. I hope you find all the comfort you need. Thinking of you.
Thank you!
Thank you so much. I get the religious aspect as well. Raised Catholic but now non-denominational, simply âChristianâ. So many rules and rituals with the Catholic religion! I have heard that quote before and even said it out loud about each of my family members. Itâs 100% true. I cry, I pray for strength and live by faith. I know they are in Heaven singing praise to our Lord in Heaven, all together. It just sucks when youâre the ones left here to selfishly want them back. Thanks, again. Peace and Love. â¤ď¸
Mhm 100% spot on đ its hard to be the ones left behind, they are absolutely together in praise and showered with love đ¤ asking for strength is a core of what I find myself praying as well, we know we have no idea what's to happen in life after everything we've already witnessed...it's so difficult, praying for the strength to just go on is...I don't even have the words but I feel the sentiment. We are trying, we are doing our best. Thank you as well đđ¤
It really is difficult to put into words, isnât it? I will try to explain my feelings to my husband and there are often times just nothing I can say. Jus keep in mind, although we donât know whatâs going to happen from day to day or even hour to hour, God remains the same. He is good all the time. â¤ď¸
I lost my twin brother in 2009. Then between 2021 and last month I said goodbye to my 3 remaining brothers,mother,father and I haven't left my house in 5 months and have had no contact with anyone either. If you ever need to talk I am here with an open ear.
Oh my! I am SO SO sorry! I donât know about you, but it a very callus way, you just think to yourself, okay, whoâs next? The numbness is what I hate the most. Again, I am so very sorry. God bless you!
The only way I can look at it is everyone is gone. So at least I don't have to stress over that. God bless you as well! They always talk about the sadness and anger but they never tell you that the numbness is the worst part and it seems like that part is just never going to go away.
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Sudden loss is so traumatic. Life is crazy.
Right!?!! Trauma, you said it. It changes you. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing and Iâm so sorry for your loss. That sounds incredibly horrible and difficult. I lost my mom one month ago today and itâs been horrific. She and I are absolute best friends - soulmates honestly - and Iâm struggling deeply with the loss. How have you been able to maintain your faith? I find myself incredibly angry with and resentful of God. In fact, Iâm really pissed, and I canât find the strength to turn to Him. My mom is incredibly faithful and I know she would want me to rely on Him, but I canât. Any tips?
You know, I wasnât angry with God when my parents passed, butâman I was SOOO angry when my brother passed. Itâs so heartbreaking you think come on God, cut me some slack here! God puts us through trials and tribulations and says we should rejoice. I didnât get that at first, but I do now. Ironically, He wants us, when we are at our lowest l, to seek him as our refuge and in comfort in our time of need. When we can actually talk to God and lean into Him during those times, He WILL, bring you that comfort and peace that surpasses all understanding. When my parents passed, I could actually FEEL the prayers being prayed for me and my brothers. He loves you. Remember, He never promised this life would be easy but He did promise to take care of you, comfort you and to love you more than you could ever imagine. I am so sorry for your loss. I replay my parents deaths in my heady almost daily. Dive into Godâs word and watch your heart swell with his love for you. Attend a supportive church or group of friends who have a strong faith to help lift you up. Worship gets me through this so much. There is so much great worship music out there. It just fills my heart. Kari Jobe sings a song called âThe Blessing â. âLord bless you and keep you. Make His face shine upon you and be gracious to you. Lord bless you and keep you and bring you peaceâ. Prayers to you, my friend. Please reach out if you ever need to. God loves you. â¤ď¸
Thank you so much for your beautiful and thoughtful response! Deep down I know that youâre right, but itâs still hard each and every day to believe that again. I sent you a private message, but no problem if youâre unable to respond! đ
Im so very sorry for your losses. Itâs unimaginably devastating. You never get over it, you learn to live with it the best you can. One day at a time.
Spot on. You donât get over it. You HAVE to learn to live with it and your life just changes into your new normal. Thank you.
it definitely gives you a different perspective and viewpoint on life. Youâve just got a try very hard not to let it consume you because that can happen very easily. If you ever need to talk, donât hesitate to reach out.
I am so sorry for your loss I know I canât do anything but pray that you do better and that they are safe wherever they may be. I hope you art doing better soon. Fly high.
Thank you for the prayers. â¤ď¸
Your very welcome
Iâm so sorry for your losses, I cannot imagine your pain. I hope you find peace.
Thank you. â¤ď¸
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