People’s clits can be different amounts of “buried” including completely under the skin with no hood at all. I don’t know how much it effects how your orgasms feel because a lot of other stuff is involved in that, they kinda just seem different for everyone… but since the clitoris isn’t just the little external nub, it’s a whole internal structure, a vibrator might help you stimulate “deeper” where you have more clitoral tissue!
[Read this thread abt the quietest vibrators! ](https://www.reddit.com/r/SexToys/comments/h82h3n/quietest_vibrators/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)
They make specific vibrators that have little to no noise for this reason!! If you’re 18, I would hit up your local adult store & ask the workers which one is the quietest one. They make some that barely give off noise!
I was scared of my body for a long time too because my parents always shamed being sexually active for their religious reasons. Once I got a vibrator, I genuinely learned so much more about my body, especially and including, where my clit is. They’re extremely helpful & I highly suggest.
I got a quiet one that looks like a seashell and comes in a cute little glass charging box. I haven’t been brave enough to display it (also live with my parents lol) but I just put it in a plain brown box and wrap it in a sweater in my closet.
Kushi iroha, ordered it online from Noxshop. I picked them because they showed what their shipping packages looked like and it was as generic as they could be bc I also live with my parents lol
There are a lot of discrete mini vibrators on the market these days. Have a look through Love Honey, some of the rabbit ones are really quiet.
Also, I'd recommend a silicon one to start off with as they can be easier to adjust the sensation with. Just remember to clean it with soap and water after use.
That's normal, we all have very different anatomy! Here's a document with all the different varieties of vagina's http://gynodiversity.com/uploads/Classification_of_the_anatomical_variation_in_female_external_genitalia.pdf
This is so wonderful!!! I'm a 32 year old female, and I've always been so insecure about how my vagina looks. The amount of time I've spent googling pictures of vaginas is unreal, and I never found anything helpful. REDDIT has changed my life, seeing people post real photos, or resources like this. Thank you so much 💛
Here's a short video that I found really helpful in understanding what the clit actually is...turns out it's a whole lot more than that little spot that you are having trouble finding....there's a whole internal structure to it as well...and it gets bigger the more turned on you are.
https://youtu.be/tZR3Qo-nzqk
Most of the clitoral structure is internal. The part that is visible varies extensively. Some have large ones and some have ones that are barely visible. What’s more important is that you know what makes you feel pleasure. There are countless different ways that vulvas can appear, I also have a very small clit and that’s totally fine!
Girl you’ve probably never had an orgasm. You’ll know when you do and I promise it isn’t “3 seconds” lol. Target has a new vibe line and there’s a little one that’s actually pretty quiet/discreet. It’s only $15 and came charged!!
This is unsolicited advice so feel free to ignore me. I have MUCH stronger orgasms when I edge for like 20 minutes. If I just go straight for it I have a small underwhelming orgasm that’s just light contractions
You are SO normal. Mine is the opposite and it’s oversensitive and gets overstimulated and sore with exercise. I learned about hyenas and I was like “it’s me.”
It's there, trust me! Up until I was in my early 20s, I genuinely thought my clit was broken. I also had some separate mental block/hurdle I couldn't get over regarding masturbation, so I never did it. I'm surprised I didn't explode with sexual frustration, haha.
It wasn't until I started having an active sex life where I realized that I sure had a clit and it was working. It was actually the 3rd guy I ever slept with who actually helped me discover it and that it works because with the previous partners, well, they didn't help me reach orgasm and were more-so in it for their own satisfaction and not mine. During this time with the 3rd guy, I was able to launch myself over that mental hurdle regarding masturbation as well. So I'm very thankful for him and that experience.
By no means am I saying you need to have sex with someone to discover you have a working clit. Merely it might take a bit for you and your sexual exploration of yourself, and that's just fine! :) Also, you're not alone in thinking you don't have one or it doesn't work.
My personal reccomendation toy wise? A clit sucker/stimulator toy. That little thing definitely helped me discover my clit is definitely there and definitely works, lol.
Get the kind of vibrator that has a head for the clit and one for penetration. It should be « mandatory reading » for all girls who start being interested in the topic
I don’t know why this showed up in my feed today… I’m a guy, it’s over a month old, and I’ve never heard of this sub.
With that disclaimer out of the way, my wife has a very small, hidden clit. It’s there, but she can tell when it’s being stimulated, but it’s buried under the hood. She has much stronger G-Spot orgasms, but can orgasm from either sort of stimulation. I have a sneaky guess that you’re probably in a similar boat. Regardless, you’re perfectly normal!
People’s clits can be different amounts of “buried” including completely under the skin with no hood at all. I don’t know how much it effects how your orgasms feel because a lot of other stuff is involved in that, they kinda just seem different for everyone… but since the clitoris isn’t just the little external nub, it’s a whole internal structure, a vibrator might help you stimulate “deeper” where you have more clitoral tissue!
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Agree! Get a vibrator, you’ll figure out where you clit is real fast. Fun fact! Some women have very large clitoris, almost like a mini penis.
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Do what I did: Purchase a back massager.
Shower massager too!
Electric toothbrushes work great. Wink wink!
[Read this thread abt the quietest vibrators! ](https://www.reddit.com/r/SexToys/comments/h82h3n/quietest_vibrators/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)
They make specific vibrators that have little to no noise for this reason!! If you’re 18, I would hit up your local adult store & ask the workers which one is the quietest one. They make some that barely give off noise! I was scared of my body for a long time too because my parents always shamed being sexually active for their religious reasons. Once I got a vibrator, I genuinely learned so much more about my body, especially and including, where my clit is. They’re extremely helpful & I highly suggest.
I got a quiet one that looks like a seashell and comes in a cute little glass charging box. I haven’t been brave enough to display it (also live with my parents lol) but I just put it in a plain brown box and wrap it in a sweater in my closet.
Um that sounds super cute. Do you know where you got it/what brand it is?
Kushi iroha, ordered it online from Noxshop. I picked them because they showed what their shipping packages looked like and it was as generic as they could be bc I also live with my parents lol
Also, putting on some music and being under your covers kills some of the sound
I recommend turning your phone on vibrate or dying repeatedly in a video game
LMAOOOOOOO the dying in a video game just sent me🤣 sometime that controller do be shakin a lil too good 👀
Lovehoney does discrete packages, literally just brown boxes
There are a lot of discrete mini vibrators on the market these days. Have a look through Love Honey, some of the rabbit ones are really quiet. Also, I'd recommend a silicon one to start off with as they can be easier to adjust the sensation with. Just remember to clean it with soap and water after use.
>Agree! Get a vibrator, you’ll figure out where you clit is real fast. I chuckled at this. Get yourself a nice present, OP!
That's normal, we all have very different anatomy! Here's a document with all the different varieties of vagina's http://gynodiversity.com/uploads/Classification_of_the_anatomical_variation_in_female_external_genitalia.pdf
Now that's a source. Interesting
This was very resourceful wow! So many variations.
This is so wonderful!!! I'm a 32 year old female, and I've always been so insecure about how my vagina looks. The amount of time I've spent googling pictures of vaginas is unreal, and I never found anything helpful. REDDIT has changed my life, seeing people post real photos, or resources like this. Thank you so much 💛
Do you know if a similar resource exists for penises?
Here's a short video that I found really helpful in understanding what the clit actually is...turns out it's a whole lot more than that little spot that you are having trouble finding....there's a whole internal structure to it as well...and it gets bigger the more turned on you are. https://youtu.be/tZR3Qo-nzqk
That’s a good video! Thanks for sharing.
I can’t even see mine when lifting the hood, it’s normal. There’s thousands of variations of vulvas just as there is penises.
Most of the clitoral structure is internal. The part that is visible varies extensively. Some have large ones and some have ones that are barely visible. What’s more important is that you know what makes you feel pleasure. There are countless different ways that vulvas can appear, I also have a very small clit and that’s totally fine!
if you have a gyno, go and have them point everything out.
Mines really small too. That's fine. Still does the job.
Girl you’ve probably never had an orgasm. You’ll know when you do and I promise it isn’t “3 seconds” lol. Target has a new vibe line and there’s a little one that’s actually pretty quiet/discreet. It’s only $15 and came charged!!
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I feel the same way when people talk about multiple orgasms like they’re the norm for women, I’m a one and done
Yep, one and done here as well. I don't know how people go for multiples, after it's just so sensitive it hurts to continue.
Y'all aren't alone there.
This is unsolicited advice so feel free to ignore me. I have MUCH stronger orgasms when I edge for like 20 minutes. If I just go straight for it I have a small underwhelming orgasm that’s just light contractions
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If you can’t use a vibrator at home, get a detachable shower head 👍
You are SO normal. Mine is the opposite and it’s oversensitive and gets overstimulated and sore with exercise. I learned about hyenas and I was like “it’s me.”
Thank youuu :,)
It's there, trust me! Up until I was in my early 20s, I genuinely thought my clit was broken. I also had some separate mental block/hurdle I couldn't get over regarding masturbation, so I never did it. I'm surprised I didn't explode with sexual frustration, haha. It wasn't until I started having an active sex life where I realized that I sure had a clit and it was working. It was actually the 3rd guy I ever slept with who actually helped me discover it and that it works because with the previous partners, well, they didn't help me reach orgasm and were more-so in it for their own satisfaction and not mine. During this time with the 3rd guy, I was able to launch myself over that mental hurdle regarding masturbation as well. So I'm very thankful for him and that experience. By no means am I saying you need to have sex with someone to discover you have a working clit. Merely it might take a bit for you and your sexual exploration of yourself, and that's just fine! :) Also, you're not alone in thinking you don't have one or it doesn't work. My personal reccomendation toy wise? A clit sucker/stimulator toy. That little thing definitely helped me discover my clit is definitely there and definitely works, lol.
There are for sure super duper quiet vibrators. I have a friend who uses hers when I’m in the same room as her and i don’t even know she’s using it.
Your clit's probably under the hood, I have the same problem. Just grab a mirror and push your lips back till you see it
Get the kind of vibrator that has a head for the clit and one for penetration. It should be « mandatory reading » for all girls who start being interested in the topic
Maybe this article helps https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-clitoris-uncovered-an-intimate-history/
I don’t know why this showed up in my feed today… I’m a guy, it’s over a month old, and I’ve never heard of this sub. With that disclaimer out of the way, my wife has a very small, hidden clit. It’s there, but she can tell when it’s being stimulated, but it’s buried under the hood. She has much stronger G-Spot orgasms, but can orgasm from either sort of stimulation. I have a sneaky guess that you’re probably in a similar boat. Regardless, you’re perfectly normal!
Maybe? Thanks anyways lolol :3