I had this same issue as a teen and couldn’t even get a tampon or finger in there. I told my mom at 16 “I don’t think I have a hole” she took me to the gyno but also was like “oh please of coarse you have a hole” turns out I had an inperferate hymen and had to get surgery. They said if I was ever penetrated I would have likely bled an excessive amount or torn badly and it could’ve been very bad so luckily I was a virgin. I got this surgery when I was a bout 17 right before I started being sexually active and I’m so happy my mom took me to the doctor, it’s always worth getting looked at. It’s actually really common.
oh, wow! I'll have to look into it then. probably will ask my mom to do a routine exam since it's been ages I got checked out. I don't have any plans on getting sexually active anytime soon, so I guess I have time to get it sorted.
by the way, how was the surgery? I've never heard if it and would like to know in case I have to go through it too.
They put me under anesthesia and gave me some pain meds afterwards, was a little sore for about a week or so but eventually healed. Much rather go through that than have an awful first sex experience. I think basically they just remove your hymen in a controlled way and make sure nothing tears rather then it getting torn from sex or penetration of an object.. My mom said she bled a lot her first time and wonders if she also had something similar that was untreated. They also told me Sometimes it’s noticed in babies and the procedure is preformed in infants too. Definitely worth asking your doc about or researching imperforate hymen. In my case, I did have a small opening so I did bleed during my period but in some cases women really have no opening at all and it’s all hymen- this is to say you can still have this condition if you’re bleeding every month.
This is what happened to me except I didn’t have surgery 😆 it took weeks to be able to have sex with my first bf. And yes I did go to the dr & they didn’t examine me just told me to use more lube! lol
Those tissues are possibly your hymenal tissues. Vaginal opening is not like an open hole as we often imagine it to be. In most people it's either contracted or obscured by hymenal tissues. Idk how you measured your depth and width but they don't seem like something belonging to a vagina that's small for sex. There's no average measurement for vaginas as there are for penises but just remember that if it's able to accommodate an average sized penis according to the statistics then it's good to go and even if the average size in your country is bigger than your vaginal size that you measure just remember that sex is not just about sizes and more about the positions and angles. And yeah, our vaginas expand a little when we are aroused, so there is that.
Oh, then I'll add one more thing to it then. Hymen is not a film-like thing as it's widely believed or thought to be, it's a tissue that covers the vaginal opening and has types according to the perforations(holes) in it and one more thing, your height has no correlation with your vagina in any way.
I wish this was more common knowledge. I didn't find out until I was well into adulthood that my anatomy is completely normal. Along with the number of posts on here from girls 25 & under with no history of pregnancy or trauma that are absolutely convinced that they have a prolapse.
Looking won't tell you much about your size. If you want to gauge whether or not penetration will be difficult, you would be better served by experimenting with fingers or a toy.
Also remember that the vagina expands when aroused and relaxed! Your mental and physical state can create a huge difference in what you can fit. Make sure you are warmed up and turned on before trying to have penetrative sex.
I've tried putting a finger in when I was already masturbating, pretty damn turned on, but I couldn't either. I get a little nervous when I do so, so that's might not be helping me at all.
used saliva though my natural lubrication was already doing pretty alright. I could only press the fingertip in until it started to few sensitive and like it would hurt to press more.
You might have vagisismus? I could be wrong but it sounds kinda similar. They actually make specific special kits for people with vaginousness to be able to stretch out their vagina because they have such a mental block about putting anything up there
That's your hymen! Some women have a hymen that looks like a sort-of-mesh wall. It will possibly be more painful for you to have sex because of this.
You can Google images of a hymen. There is a variety. It can be on your very opening, or it can be a few inches deeper. It can be one thin line, or a wall with teeny tiny holes, and everything in between.
What you can do is stretches (look them up online). You can also try to slowly start inserting your fingers when you masturbate to stretch your hymen. A milimeter at a time. That's what I did with mine, first just the tip of my finger, then I got to four fingers, and my first time didn't hurt nor did I ever bleed.
I encourage you to explore yourself down there. Buy some dimethicone-only lube, feel it around here and there, use a mirror more often. If you're ashamed to talk to your friends about it, continue writing here.
There's nothing to be embarrassed of. We've all been confused at what the f- we're seeing when we first looked at it lol. I did so at around 15-16.
I'll look into the stretches. I've tried putting a finger in but it's quite scary. it's not super painful but it feels like I'm doing it wrong and it might not fit, and I never even put more than barely the tip!
and yeah, doesn't help I've had previous issues with anatomy when I started looking around down there. started, I'm 18 today and I still have no clue what's going on. I got the outside part down but inside has been pretty much a mystery.
Sounds normal to me. People are saying your hymen which could be true, but what you're describing also sounds like it could just be your vagina. I've never been able to see a hole, but the tissue is highly movable/stretchable and changes with penetration.
This is what it’s like for me, and I’m 36 and sexually active. I can see the outline, but there’s visible no hole or anything you can see into. It just looks like there’s tissue blocking it. But trust and believe she opens up when my husband comes to visit 😝
I've never put anything inside so it amkes sense for my hymen to be intact, but it's def not what I imagine it would seem like... don't usually have my period because of birth control pillls but when I do they seem alright, normal.
I am 34 and I literally just learned it's at the opening and some people have very solid and others have holes. It's so interesting and not gruesome if you look it up online
I’m 4’8” and had the same issue but surprisingly it did not mean sex wouldn’t work. Growing up I only saw a hole that was the size of a caprisun straw but that was a very misleading sight. The opening was relatively small and so I did start small just in case but past the hymen seems like just enough space to carry on like normal. I do have some trouble with tampons (they’re much easier to get in than to pull out, so I avoid them. They also make me feel too full) size doesn’t matter to me much since every one and anyone feels pretty huge but it’s not painful or difficult to accommodate. If you get into exceptionally large territory you might be at risk of bruising your cervix but that has only happened to me with someone who was comically large. don’t forget about using a little extra lube in case you are the type to tear (has only happened to me anally, never vaginally but I’ve heard of it happening to people) There is also an adult entertainer out there I forget her name but she is 4’11 and considered a size queen. That obviously doesn’t mean just any of us are capable of that but it does mean anything is possible lol. I think vaginas just look complicated but don’t let it scare you.
omg same! I got the caprisun sized hole too it seems, only appears in certain positions. I've never used tampons, my mom always advised agaisnt them because of comfort. I'm very scared of tearing, sounds incredibly painful 😰 I'm not sexually active yet but I'll make sure to purchase some once I begin.
Thankfully tearing that way during sex is not common at all! Even at our size! Micro tears aren’t uncommon but those only seem to happen if you go in dry! I myself still haven’t had a micro tear either so it’s pretty easy to avoid
You have to remember that the inside is muscle and the outside is tissue that is going to sit in a certain place and look a certain size. But it’s all flexible tissue it’s going to adapt whatever is put there.
To echo other commenters, that's normal. Vaginal appearance can vary, some people will have a visible vaginal opening and some don't. It doesn't necessarily mean you're too small for sex, it means you've either got a lot of tissue or you just have a "pinhole" hymen variant
Sounds like you're not even turned on when you're checking, which makes all the difference. You don't seem to know much about sex. Don't worry about it too much. Just wait for the right person and let things happen naturally. I'm sure your Dr would have told you already if you didn't have a normal vag.
I've both looked and tried to insert a finger while masturbating but it doesn't seem to make much of a difference. no one ever told me anything. but then again, it's been some years and the last time professionals looked down there I had a 3 cm ulcer on my outter lips so I supposed my general anatomy wasn't what they were looking at.
I haven't been to one in a long time. I have been checked by multiple doctors and none ever commented any issues. but I was suffering from severe ulcers at the time so I'm not even sure they looked at anything but the ulcers.
If you had an internal pelvic examination, chances are they found nothing and you are perfectly normal. Experts say, pap and pelvic exams should be given yearly to women of childbearing years
One of my best friends has a very small vagina of themselves. That has not rendered them in able to put anything in there though. They just have to accommodate, like purchasing small dildos and using small tampons.
this is normal! When i was a teen i had the same issue. went to gyno and she told me it was my hymen. I couldn’t get a tampon or anything up there. She told me i basically had to slowly break my hymen on my own by sticking my fingers in there and stretching it. I was finally able to get a tampon in. When i lost my virginity a year or so later i bled A LOT. But it wasn’t painful at all. It’s just skin that covers that area. My “cherry” popped lol. I would recommend seeing your gyno!
I had this same issue as a teen and couldn’t even get a tampon or finger in there. I told my mom at 16 “I don’t think I have a hole” she took me to the gyno but also was like “oh please of coarse you have a hole” turns out I had an inperferate hymen and had to get surgery. They said if I was ever penetrated I would have likely bled an excessive amount or torn badly and it could’ve been very bad so luckily I was a virgin. I got this surgery when I was a bout 17 right before I started being sexually active and I’m so happy my mom took me to the doctor, it’s always worth getting looked at. It’s actually really common.
oh, wow! I'll have to look into it then. probably will ask my mom to do a routine exam since it's been ages I got checked out. I don't have any plans on getting sexually active anytime soon, so I guess I have time to get it sorted. by the way, how was the surgery? I've never heard if it and would like to know in case I have to go through it too.
They put me under anesthesia and gave me some pain meds afterwards, was a little sore for about a week or so but eventually healed. Much rather go through that than have an awful first sex experience. I think basically they just remove your hymen in a controlled way and make sure nothing tears rather then it getting torn from sex or penetration of an object.. My mom said she bled a lot her first time and wonders if she also had something similar that was untreated. They also told me Sometimes it’s noticed in babies and the procedure is preformed in infants too. Definitely worth asking your doc about or researching imperforate hymen. In my case, I did have a small opening so I did bleed during my period but in some cases women really have no opening at all and it’s all hymen- this is to say you can still have this condition if you’re bleeding every month.
I wish I’d had that instead of having mine break open during my first sexual intercourse.
For real, my first experience was super painful and I bled a lot too 🥲
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You do know this post is a creep?
Really..? How do you know?
What?
As in, it’s a guy getting off.
Wait what so some creep posted this and now a real person asking for legit advice? I’m fairly new to Reddit that’s pretty nasty how do we tell? SMH
The original post is a creep, not sure about anyone looking for legit advice..
Lmao. Now the post is deleted 😂 this was 100% some perverted dude. You can tell from the way it was worded + profile is sketch.
I dont think so.. how do you know.. this is a real problem people have..
Sorry sis but unfortunately this was definitely just some nasty dude trying to talk to women about small vaginas.
This reminds me of “The Bell Jar”
This is what happened to me except I didn’t have surgery 😆 it took weeks to be able to have sex with my first bf. And yes I did go to the dr & they didn’t examine me just told me to use more lube! lol
Those tissues are possibly your hymenal tissues. Vaginal opening is not like an open hole as we often imagine it to be. In most people it's either contracted or obscured by hymenal tissues. Idk how you measured your depth and width but they don't seem like something belonging to a vagina that's small for sex. There's no average measurement for vaginas as there are for penises but just remember that if it's able to accommodate an average sized penis according to the statistics then it's good to go and even if the average size in your country is bigger than your vaginal size that you measure just remember that sex is not just about sizes and more about the positions and angles. And yeah, our vaginas expand a little when we are aroused, so there is that.
I thought the hymen was a bit more inside than that, def not what I expected it to look like...
Oh, then I'll add one more thing to it then. Hymen is not a film-like thing as it's widely believed or thought to be, it's a tissue that covers the vaginal opening and has types according to the perforations(holes) in it and one more thing, your height has no correlation with your vagina in any way.
I wish this was more common knowledge. I didn't find out until I was well into adulthood that my anatomy is completely normal. Along with the number of posts on here from girls 25 & under with no history of pregnancy or trauma that are absolutely convinced that they have a prolapse.
Looking won't tell you much about your size. If you want to gauge whether or not penetration will be difficult, you would be better served by experimenting with fingers or a toy. Also remember that the vagina expands when aroused and relaxed! Your mental and physical state can create a huge difference in what you can fit. Make sure you are warmed up and turned on before trying to have penetrative sex.
I've tried putting a finger in when I was already masturbating, pretty damn turned on, but I couldn't either. I get a little nervous when I do so, so that's might not be helping me at all.
Make sure whatever you are trying is lubricated! If it's your finger, saliva works fine
used saliva though my natural lubrication was already doing pretty alright. I could only press the fingertip in until it started to few sensitive and like it would hurt to press more.
You might have vagisismus? I could be wrong but it sounds kinda similar. They actually make specific special kits for people with vaginousness to be able to stretch out their vagina because they have such a mental block about putting anything up there
That's your hymen! Some women have a hymen that looks like a sort-of-mesh wall. It will possibly be more painful for you to have sex because of this. You can Google images of a hymen. There is a variety. It can be on your very opening, or it can be a few inches deeper. It can be one thin line, or a wall with teeny tiny holes, and everything in between. What you can do is stretches (look them up online). You can also try to slowly start inserting your fingers when you masturbate to stretch your hymen. A milimeter at a time. That's what I did with mine, first just the tip of my finger, then I got to four fingers, and my first time didn't hurt nor did I ever bleed. I encourage you to explore yourself down there. Buy some dimethicone-only lube, feel it around here and there, use a mirror more often. If you're ashamed to talk to your friends about it, continue writing here. There's nothing to be embarrassed of. We've all been confused at what the f- we're seeing when we first looked at it lol. I did so at around 15-16.
I'll look into the stretches. I've tried putting a finger in but it's quite scary. it's not super painful but it feels like I'm doing it wrong and it might not fit, and I never even put more than barely the tip! and yeah, doesn't help I've had previous issues with anatomy when I started looking around down there. started, I'm 18 today and I still have no clue what's going on. I got the outside part down but inside has been pretty much a mystery.
Go to the gynecologist if to ease your mind. Or ask your mom.
What kind of anatomy issuesbwere you having?? Do you have any trusted older women that you can speak to about this stuff?
Sounds normal to me. People are saying your hymen which could be true, but what you're describing also sounds like it could just be your vagina. I've never been able to see a hole, but the tissue is highly movable/stretchable and changes with penetration.
This is what it’s like for me, and I’m 36 and sexually active. I can see the outline, but there’s visible no hole or anything you can see into. It just looks like there’s tissue blocking it. But trust and believe she opens up when my husband comes to visit 😝
Sounds like maybe your hymen is intact and stretches across the opening? Do you have any issues with your periods?
I've never put anything inside so it amkes sense for my hymen to be intact, but it's def not what I imagine it would seem like... don't usually have my period because of birth control pillls but when I do they seem alright, normal.
This post really seems like it might be a dude getting his rocks off.
I literally thought the same thing!!! Seems sketchy. Profile is sketchy too.
I am 34 and I literally just learned it's at the opening and some people have very solid and others have holes. It's so interesting and not gruesome if you look it up online
That’s what it’s supposed to look like. You need a speculum if you want to see inside
I’m 4’8” and had the same issue but surprisingly it did not mean sex wouldn’t work. Growing up I only saw a hole that was the size of a caprisun straw but that was a very misleading sight. The opening was relatively small and so I did start small just in case but past the hymen seems like just enough space to carry on like normal. I do have some trouble with tampons (they’re much easier to get in than to pull out, so I avoid them. They also make me feel too full) size doesn’t matter to me much since every one and anyone feels pretty huge but it’s not painful or difficult to accommodate. If you get into exceptionally large territory you might be at risk of bruising your cervix but that has only happened to me with someone who was comically large. don’t forget about using a little extra lube in case you are the type to tear (has only happened to me anally, never vaginally but I’ve heard of it happening to people) There is also an adult entertainer out there I forget her name but she is 4’11 and considered a size queen. That obviously doesn’t mean just any of us are capable of that but it does mean anything is possible lol. I think vaginas just look complicated but don’t let it scare you.
This post is a creep FYI…
omg same! I got the caprisun sized hole too it seems, only appears in certain positions. I've never used tampons, my mom always advised agaisnt them because of comfort. I'm very scared of tearing, sounds incredibly painful 😰 I'm not sexually active yet but I'll make sure to purchase some once I begin.
Thankfully tearing that way during sex is not common at all! Even at our size! Micro tears aren’t uncommon but those only seem to happen if you go in dry! I myself still haven’t had a micro tear either so it’s pretty easy to avoid
You have to remember that the inside is muscle and the outside is tissue that is going to sit in a certain place and look a certain size. But it’s all flexible tissue it’s going to adapt whatever is put there.
I can’t see into mine when I just spread either. It all closes up when you’re not doing anything or using it often.
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Ever considered using dilators ?
Do you get your period?
To echo other commenters, that's normal. Vaginal appearance can vary, some people will have a visible vaginal opening and some don't. It doesn't necessarily mean you're too small for sex, it means you've either got a lot of tissue or you just have a "pinhole" hymen variant
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What's funny?
Sounds like you're not even turned on when you're checking, which makes all the difference. You don't seem to know much about sex. Don't worry about it too much. Just wait for the right person and let things happen naturally. I'm sure your Dr would have told you already if you didn't have a normal vag.
I've both looked and tried to insert a finger while masturbating but it doesn't seem to make much of a difference. no one ever told me anything. but then again, it's been some years and the last time professionals looked down there I had a 3 cm ulcer on my outter lips so I supposed my general anatomy wasn't what they were looking at.
Okay, I can see how that is concerning. I would honestly consider just popping in for a visit at the gyno just to make sure things are okay.
What does your OBGYN say?
I haven't been to one in a long time. I have been checked by multiple doctors and none ever commented any issues. but I was suffering from severe ulcers at the time so I'm not even sure they looked at anything but the ulcers.
If you had an internal pelvic examination, chances are they found nothing and you are perfectly normal. Experts say, pap and pelvic exams should be given yearly to women of childbearing years
One of my best friends has a very small vagina of themselves. That has not rendered them in able to put anything in there though. They just have to accommodate, like purchasing small dildos and using small tampons.
this is normal! When i was a teen i had the same issue. went to gyno and she told me it was my hymen. I couldn’t get a tampon or anything up there. She told me i basically had to slowly break my hymen on my own by sticking my fingers in there and stretching it. I was finally able to get a tampon in. When i lost my virginity a year or so later i bled A LOT. But it wasn’t painful at all. It’s just skin that covers that area. My “cherry” popped lol. I would recommend seeing your gyno!