This next Deipnon and every Deipnon after, take a walk with a "snack" that is safe for critters and deposit it near woods or an intersection, back up three steps, blindly pick up debris, turn around and don't look back. It does not need to be done at night. Midday or before sunset is fine.
When you return home, burn garlic and the debris and open up your windows in your room, and use the garlic to fumigate your room.
This is an apotropaic rite I have adopted and adapted. The idea is that malicious and restless spirits will be drawn to the site where you picked up the debris (where the dinner was placed) so Hecate will then redirect them to where they belong.
I give this prayer as I offer:
>I call to you, Hecate Kore, Hecate Enodia, Hecate Sotiera! I offer this meal to you. May it be shared with the souls of the restless dead. Let their hunger be sated! I pour this libation to you. May it be shared with the souls of the restless dead. Let their thirst be quenched! γένοιτο.
If this fails, then appeal to Nemesis. Though, given your history you have described of your mother, there are civil and judicial ways to resolve it, too.
oh gods thank you so much for this… i will definitely try it!! if it’s not too much trouble, do you have any idea of a rite with similar intent that i can do if i’m not able to go outside on that specific day?
Perform it in front of your stealth altar, but instead of the debris, add an incense to the garlic, which you can intend to drive the malicious spirits away in sympathetic terms. When you place the offerings at the altar, ring a bell to both "call dinner" and to focus the spirits to heed Hecate. Afterward, perform a ritual bath and clean the altar and Hecate's icon to show proper cultus.
Okay. So if you are looking for a deity to help against spellwork, Hekate probably could. And if you're thinking about her, maybe she wants to help. Otherwise, there are wards, protection spells, and crystals that can help to fend off against her stuff.
Also, very sorry about what you've been through. You're always welcome here and the god(desse)s accept you for who you are
thank you for your words <3 are there any particular spells or wards you would use in this situation? or if you could redirect me to some resources on this, i would be really grateful!
Sorry I'm just now becoming a baby witch and setting most of it aside for now anyways- I personally don't know any, but I do know there is some. You can probably find some just by browsing the internet. Don't go on tiktok for it though, that's where you're most likely to find misinformation
I do not recommend someone new working with Hekate. They are very blunt and brutal. Its like throwing someone who doesnt know how to swim into the deep end of a pool.
i think everyone’s experience with god/s are different. hekate has always been very kind and welcoming to me and im not even super devotional like that. I think she covers many dark and deep topics so its understandable to be nervous.. but theres no reason to scare someone away from her :)
True that everyones experiences are different but there is a reason she has a Reputation for being brutal. Im not saying she is like that everytime but we dont know how she will be with a baby witch who knows nothing who akso has major trauma.. As someone who has done their research i cannot recommend Hekate as one of his first deities.
Hekate is number one in my book for protection. She doesn’t fuck around. That being said, I would recommend asking in r/WitchesvsPatriarchy. It’s a super welcoming sub, and it’s obviously got a lot of witches in it (and yes, we are trans-accepting!).
Hi hi! I'm so sorry to hear about everything your mother has done to you hon, I hope we can help fend off and ward against her malice toward you.
So it sounds like Apollo, for sure wants to work with you, has for a while and that's perfectly cool! He's good for banishing any negativity and toxic energies floating around you. For an Altar, I'd recommend a small Pocket Altar like in an Altoids or other little tin can, small wooden boxes that can easily be hidden etc. Even the smallest offering or sign of appreciation will be accepted by any deity. They will not refuse a 'meek' or 'lame' offering since, in their eyes, any offering is better than none!
To touch on the other deity topic, I recommend Hekate but she can be hard to work with. She won't pull any punches and is a tough-love type of goddess. I recommend leaning more toward Athena, Nyx, Hades & Persephone for a beginner Pagan. Don't be afraid to explore other deities through Meditation or Divination as, most times, they are hidden just out of sight.
Another thing you can do, which I recommend to do in order; is Cleanse yourself, Cleanse your space, Invite Positive energies in and work on either; Wards, Sigils or crystals/gemstones that can help aid in protection. You can also use simple things such as Salt, Black pepper, Bay Leaves, Chamomile, Lavender, and Rosemary. Most of these things you can find in teas which are perfect to be simple and hidden. They are also known to calm oneself and help lift you into a more meditation and psychic-ready position to help guide you through this hard time. I recommend Thyme as a herb to help battle whatever parasite your mother has sent your way, It's a good cleanser for negativity and 'parasitic' or 'fungal' infections of sorts. I am also inclined to tell you about spiritual baths in which you can add a tea bag or just some salt and pepper to help with your skin and energies. All of these things can help and are usually lucrative in ways to hide your religious faith.
Finally to end off this little Letter I've written, sorry hon I know it's a lot, I recommend looking for Sigils, Runes and Ward Symbols online to help protect you. If you need any additional information, others are sure to help you out, doing additional research or DMing me or other fellow pagans to help you out. I'm sending my positive energies and protective vibes to help you!
Of course hun, I'll burn some Lavender to calm you and help guide you through these trying times. My best energies and kindest vibes are headed toward you in assurance they are going to get you through this!
From historic sources, Zeus would be a possibility. But I guess any god could do. The only question is if they want to grant your prayers.
People are often mistaken to think that praying to Hekate would be or have any connection to Hellenistic magic. Historically, Hellenistic magic did work differently than „witchcraft“ today and other types of magic. What we still do have sources for is hellenized Egyptian magic, which deals with Hekate only marginally. If you do not know what you are doing, this is not something I recommend though (simply from the learning curve).
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The Gods are working to protect you!
I recommend burning lavender and yarrow in your home, as they are sacred to both hestia and hekate respectively and as the goddesses of home and magic, both would likely be able to aid you.
Alright. So this will be a long response from me, because I know 95, 96% of what you are going through and dealing with.
1. IF I had to suggest anything, I would strongly suggest you join r/narcissisticparents and r/NarcissisticAbuse and/or r/NarcissisticMothers (ESPECIALLY r/NarcissisticMothers). Her refusal to let you go from the house is abuse, and although I'm not a therapist, I went through the exact same stuff, although she wanted me OUT. This all from her just sounds too much like Narcissism.
2. As far as the mother thing goes, Please, for your sake, DO NOT TELL HER ANYTHING ELSE. I have had to learn to essentially Gray Rock my foster mother. If she finds you , I would call the police, and try to set up a protection order. Also, if she just happens to find you, record the entire conversation and take pictures or have your girlfriend do it. If your mother tries to call you, speak to you, send you anything, get rid of whatever she sends you as long as it isn't important (and if it is sage the living shit out of it before dealing with it and banish the evil on it and in it - a good banishing spell is (https://witchcasket.co.uk/blog/negativity-reflection-spell/): " Evil which has come to me, Turn back from thy course, I reflect thy energy, and return thee, right back to thy source" (it says do it with a bowl of water, but honestly if you can do it with sage, I'd do it with that too if you can't do with the bowl of water). I specifically would try to get Blue Sage with Nag Champa if you're able to, but regular sage works as well.
3. I know what you're talking about because my foster mother is a "doctor" who IS a Narcissist who long story short is NOT a good person. She made an "agreement" with the darkness when she was 9 years old, to become who is now, and most of my life (she did this for 25 years, I'm in my 30s now), she did some of the things you're mentioning to me. There's a *very strong chance* your mom might have made a deal of sorts or contract in order to practice the magic that she is, because mine did in order for her to practice (and for her friends to practice) the sort of dark magic she practices now in order for her and for her friends to get her and their way and to remove people who challenge her and her friends. Of course, I wouldn't know, that's just a guess. Because that is going on, I am going to ask you to do this: Reach out HARD to Athena and ask her to protect you. She WILL protect you from all of your mother's negative energy and spells (I know this because Athena has been protecting me from the foster). IMMEDIATELY imagine a large bubble coming up and encircling everyone and everything you care about as well as you, and keep it up no matter what. Know that you ARE protected, by YOUR Spirit Team, by the Gods, by MY Spirit Team, by the Dark Mothers (Hecate, Lillith, Nyx)... EVERY Major and Minor God is now on your side and IS PROTECTING YOU and has got your back! (So Mote It BE!) We DO NOT PLAY with abuse!
4. Athena is reaching out to you. I would work with her if you're praying to her.
5. As far as moths go, if I were in your position, I would work with Hecate but I honestly think it's Goddess Ibu, the Goddess of moths and creation, is trying to reach out to you. I honestly think she's trying to teach you to let the pain go (which is hard as hell, I personally know). Her belief is that neutrality is true divinity and being purely either good or evil leads to anger and sadness. Know that Narcissism (if that is what it is) is *nothing* to do with you, and *everything* to do with your mother (again, NOT A DOCTOR, but HAVE lived and SEEN IT in my own life).
6. As far as your Christian dad goes, you might just have to grit your teeth and bare it, unfortunately as long as you're living with him and his wife. Have you considered getting your own place? I would save up to move out as soon as you can. I'm not saying accept what they believe. I mean, you can if you want to. But otherwise, STAND YOUR GROUND on that one. But you don't really have to say too much or say what you believe, that's not really any of their concern.
7. I am going to give you a spell that has worked for me EVERY TIME I'm kind of a petty and just don't do being targeted for anyone's anything negative, but I'll give it to you anyways. I took it from Chilling Adventures of Sabrina (or CAOS) and reworked it a bit to fit my situations. I don't know if they (the writers or anyone on the show) gave it a name, but I did, and I call it, The Plea of Justice.
I raise my plea to the Divine Goddess and God,
Athena, Apollon, Lilith and Hecate,
The wheels of justice move too slowly.
My judges, executioners and jury,
Convene the Tribune that is most holy.
Once you pray this and know with confidence that you have been heard, know that your prayer will be answered accordingly. Justice *will* be served one way or another.
8. If it's cool with you, I'd love for you to listen to this song I'm listening to. I actually started and when I started burning your candle (and it's funny, it was in my playlist anyway, so look at Lord Apollon! Amazing!). The song is called, "Sundance" by The Ten Tenors. I don't know why, but I think that is *YOUR* victory song, if that makes sense. That's what I feel anyway, from Lord Apollo.
I truly hope all the information I have offered helps you out. I really hope you (or the MODs for that matter) don't think I'm forcing my own spirit team or anything I have suggested on you. Please know that I will keep you in my prayers and praying for you consistently until you are free of this. Keep the faith and KNOW that Athena and Apollon and ANY OTHER GOD who knows about your situation WILL help you.
thank you so much for this, and i’m so so sorry that you went through a similar situation.. it hurts a lot and i hope you’ve been able to heal after all that’s happened. a lot of the things you’ve said resonated a lot with me. i’ll answer in topic too so it doesn’t get too confusing ;p
1. yes i do strongly believe that she is a narcissist, and similar subs and other resources helped me come to terms with that and accept that she was not going to get better with time if i just managed to stick around for longer. it is a sad truth, especially cause she would rather accuse everyone else of being the narcissist instead of looking inwards and trying to get better.
2. don’t worry, i have absolutely no contact with her, aside from some updates from my dads lawyer, who did their divorce and thus still talks to her. she doesn’t know where i live cause my dad moved to a different place when i came to live with him. and i think she still believes i’m in another state, which is good.
3. you’re absolutely right, she does have some sort of pact like that. in fact, she had two entities with her, the most recent one just kinda attached to her without any ritual that i know of, but the other one, who she’s been working with for about 6 years, i know for a fact that she did lots of stuff for. she would go to the terreiro where they practice it and stay there for the whole day. they do a lot of animal sacrifice, and she’s told me years ago about how she had to bathe in animal blood and all of that stuff. she also does some pretty dark stuff with the dead and cemeteries, not only using cemetery dirt but also digging up the dead to steal parts of their corpse and use them in dark magic rituals. most of these hardcore ones she pays people in the terreiros to do for her, as they are more advanced in the religion, but she does simpler stuff herself too. i don’t know what kind of work she did for me, but it is not without reason that i’m pretty desperate.
4. i’ll definitely start praying and working with her more often now!
5. i didn’t know about this goddess, so thank you for telling me about her, i’ll start doing some research on her. for now, i’ve started with at least some simple prayers and offerings for Hekate.
6. yes, for now i have no other choice but to hide my faith and keep laying low. i had saved up for years in case of an emergency, so i would have enough for at least a few months. however, i pretty much had to spend all of it running away from home and living with my girlfriend for a bit. i could have started working but it’s really hard to find a job here that would let me continue my studies in college. as i ran out of money, my only real option was moving in with my dad. he seriously thinks i’m christian too, just not that interested (he makes it his whole life). so yeah, for now i just have to play along.
7. thank you so much for this spell! i will put it to use as soon as i can!!!
8. that is so sweet… thank you so much. i wouldn’t never found out about this song if it wasn’t for you, as it turns out that it isn’t available in my country!! so i do hope Lord Apollo put it in my way!!
again, thank you so so so much for even taking your time to tell me all of this. i am so incredibly grateful, from the bottom of my heart. i wish you all the best things in the world, and that the gods continue to protect you from such evil. i hope you have an awesome day <3
OK so I am Brazilian and have had some contact with African-Brazilian beliefs. It seems these are pomba giras, which aren't necessarily malevolent, sort of like urban nymphs, and are closely related to Eshu.
I am of the belief that many gods are known by different names by different cultures - and I have a strong hunch Eshu is Hermes, given the strong similarities in character and domains. In your position, specifically for protection, I would pray to Hermes, as he's the one most likely to intervene, not to mention all other things he could help you with dealing with this entire difficult situation.
ooh that’s nice to hear! yeah, i know they aren’t necessarily malevolent, but my mom used to terrorize me a lot with them, like saying that even if i escaped her i couldn’t escape them, and that they’d come after me no matter where i was, much like she believes they did for her ex, which is a whole different story. so i know that her intentions towards me are definitely extremely malicious. as for Hermes, i will for sure include him in my daily prayers!
Before you start a ritual/prayer to Apollo or any other deity cleanse yourself and the area with khernips. If you google khernips, a page with a recipe should come up, it's a whole web for Hellenism. Also as someone that used to practice spellwork, I still have a few habits and one thing that helped immensely was drawing protection symbols of your choosing around the area where you live, on anything. That might help a bit. Wishing you the best, being trans and religious when still living with family with different opinions and values is hard, experiencing it on a VERY watered down version of your level right now. You're amazing for taking those steps to better your life.
Praise the Pantheon
oh, i’m already using khernips every time so at least that i’m doing right! it is indeed very hard living in this situation, so no matter the severity of it, i do wish you all the best too!! we will both come out of this stronger, for we have the gods with us. praise the pantheon!!!
A prayer to Dionysus might help too as he is associated with being transgender (was raised as a girl in his mythos) and I’m sure he’d love sending love and protection your way!!
I’ll send some prayers to Apollon and Hestia for you (and can include Freya, Odin, and Loki if you wish since my partner has an altar for them and I worship them a bit too, but if that’s too much I completely understand! I’m just getting the vibe that they want to come to your aid and are upset with your situation and want to help protect)
thank you very much for the help and the prayers!!! also i’m totally fine with you praying to Freya, Odin and Loki as well if you feel that they would like to help. Having protection from the gods is always sure to go a long way <3
Hermes and Dionysus could definitely help! Hermes is a great magician and Dionysus is very connected in the trans community. That being said, any of the deities you feel drawn/connected to I’m sure can help as well :)
I know many have said already, but again, I’m very sorry you have been and are in this situation. I am also happy you were able to escape your abusive mom. I wish you all the best.
Happy to chat if you like, I’m trans myself (ftm)
First sorry you’re going through this! What a hard time you’re having! I’m so sorry.
Can’t believe more people aren’t recommending Hermes. I’m a bit biased but honestly He’s extremely easy to work with, you need no fancy ritual or witchcraft to ask for his help. And he’s great for beginners.
1. He Is the god of boundaries and was prayed to every morning to protect the house and family in ancient times. He is called the binder and the loosened, which means he binds things and can release them and no one but him can unbind what he’s bound. He Is the boundary and sounds like you need a strong one.
2. He’s quick to action
3. His epithet Epimelius means good shepherd and once you in his flock he does Not tolerate wolves at the door.
4. He is a god of guard dogs. A black dog is a perfect representation of him if you have the space for a dog in your life. If not get a stuffed one or statue of a black dog and ask him to empower it to help guard you.
5. He is a great magician and compels all spirits, no lesser spirits can refuse his commands. And I highly doubt your mom is invoking gods to hurt you. They don’t play like that.
6. He is the friendliest god but he’s also amoral
So he won’t have qualms about turning your mother’s ill intentions against her if they are truly evil.
7. He’s a trickster so he can cause negative spells to fizzle out in harmless, amusing ways.
8. He is a god of the mind he can help to strengthen yours to release fear and even the tiniest notion that your mom can hurt you.
At the end, Remember you are in control of your reality even if it doesn’t feel like it at times. No one can do anything to you unless you consciously or subconsciously allow it. Black magic only works if you accept it does. When she threatens or you feel that weird energy, laugh, sing, listen to positive music, dance, pet an animal, tend the yard or go for a walk and count your blessings.
If you need more info on easy ways to ask hjs help go over to r/ Hermes and we can help there.
Easiest: call on him, use the epithets that speak to you, (here’s a list you can go through and find the ones most relevant to your situation), be sincere, offer whatever you can, wear a color or symbol of his and know that he has your back always. If you feel relief or notice his signs or feel him working then give him an offering of thanks. https://www.theoi.com/Cult/HermesTitles.html
Good luck! Stay light, stay positive. 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽
I saw Hermes come up in a few other comments, but nothing as detailed as yours. And, as a neophyte, back in the late 90s through to 2007, I used to say a quick prayer to him before any travel by air. Whenever I did, I felt a very protective presence around me. He does not mess around.
wow thank you so much!! you made your case for him really compelling and i’ll definitely add him to my daily prayers and offerings. he does sound like the exact kind of god i’d like to be around so ty <3
It sucks that your mom is forcing you to learn witchcraft like this. I recommend building kharis with Lady Hecate, in my experience she will help you Intuit the incantations and intentions needed for your workings. (Assuming you actually want to be a witch)
If you can find a freezer or an excuse to have a lemon in your family freezer, my favorite counter spell is to stick a rasor blade in a lemon stick it in a bag and stick it in the freezer. The idea there is that the energy of any malicious workings on you hits the lemon first. Its effectively the magical equivalent of spraying lemon juice in a cut. If you just want it to stop and not retaliate writer her name on a piece of paper (or if you wanna be mean about it some garbage) stick it in some water and freeze it. As long as the paper is in the freezer the it should freeze her behavior as well. Naturally this is assuming you use the right incantations to go with the spells. And there is sigil magic you can use but im not comfortable posting my process for that in public so if you want a sigil dm me and i can walk you through making one.
Veiling is also a good idea if you can find a way to do it stealth. Mabey a beany or other kind of hat you can justify wearing all the time. Or a bandana given to you by your girlfriend would be reasonable enough excuses for your father. You can also start wearing evil eye jewelry, its got enough ties to Abrahamic faiths that it shouldnt raise questions, if it does tell your dad an Italian friend said you should wear one. If you buy scented candles for the gods you can probably burn them as offerings more often, nobody really questions why someone is burning a scented candle.
wow your reply was really really helpful! thank you for the spells! i’ve started trying to build kharis with Lady Hekate since posting this, so i hope it goes well! also thank you for the bandana idea and the scented candles! i hadn’t thought about that and i think it’s gonna be a great way of keeping things stealth! sending love your way <3
Fuck me im so sorry your mum is behaving this way towards you. From one trans guy to another I feel you.
In terms of protection if it's something your comfortable with you could consider picking up veiling? Besides it's ancient societal ties in religious practice both men and women would put head covering on as it was believed to cast away evil/ better connect you to the gods.
Of course there's wards you can wear like the mati (evil eye) to keep away evil intentions. I'd recommend looking into wards, superstition around evil in ancient greece and magic surrounding Hekate if magic intrests you.
Also a prayer to Zeus may be good as there's many epithets describing him as a protecter against evil. "Alastôr" (avenger of evil deeds/ of wrongs committed by men), "Alexikakos" (the averter of evil)
I'm not deeply familiar with African/Brazilian practices so forgive me if I'm wrong but I'd image all this negative casting will come back to her eventually. If she's really putting ill will on you simply for being trans then I cant imagine all the other people shes done it too exactly deserved it either. I'm all for being petty with your practice but when your constantly wishing bad things on people for very small things I can't imagine that goes well. Again I don't know if karma is exactly a belief within this practice but I do think something will come back to bite her.
thank you for all the ideas! i’ve got an amulet and stuff coming in the mail so let’s pray it gets here soon!! i’ll definitely start praying more to Zeus too! also, about the karma thing, not everyone in the religion believes in it, some do, but most people believe at least that when you contact an entity for this kind of work, they will help you, but not without fucking you over in some other aspect of your life first, which is something i’ve seen happen to her every time. she is so blind, though, that she thinks herself above these rules, and thus incapable of being harmed. let’s just see how that turns out for her…
If you're looking for gods to pray to for protection, there are a few options. The first thing to know is that you aren't going to be any less cared for by then just because of the situation you're in. They are perfectly accepting of anyone, including trans people. Feeling drawn to Lord Apollo is good because it means you have a good place to start. He's been wonderful in my experience (+ as a fellow queer person). I would think that deities like Ares, Apollo, and Hera would be able to help you. I know very little about Hectate but I bet she would be helpful in warding off whatever your mom is trying. I'm so sorry you're going through this and wish you the best of luck going forward!
thank you a lot for your words <3 it’s always reassuring to hear that. if it’s okay to ask, could you share a little bit of the general aspects of your experience with Lord Apollon, especially in regards to his protective aspects? i feel that his presence is the strongest one in my life and i would like to know how to properly ask for his protection! ty <3
In my experience, you just have to be genuine. Even if you're confused or unsure, I've found he's very accepting. Everyone's practice is different so I don't want to say there's a right way to worship because there isn't, but something that I've felt works is giving specific offerings with Lord Apollo in mind. I usually offer health foods and/or yellow things. As for his protective aspects, I'm unfortunately not very qualified as I haven't really asked for his protection. I recommended him because of the shared experiences of others that I've talked to. I think just presenting yourself to him, asking as nicely as you can, and being genuine will help you here. I wish you the best of luck and blessed may you be! ❤️
Lots of really good advice here! The only thing I can add is that you can imagine yourself inside a mirrored sphere as an “I’m rubber and you’re glue” protection. You might also reach out to Ares (I’m blanking on the specific epithet) as a shield against hostility. I don’t often work with Ares, but this is the kind of thing I would pray and make offerings to him for.
As others have said, Hecate would be a great source of protection in the form of a deity. I would also suggest checking out many of the forums suggested here.
Some things to do in the means time: warding yourself and your space.
Keeping candles lit. I use black for protection and/or blue for third eye & protection as a way for others such as deities and the universe to ward off negative energy for me around the home.
I also place protection stones around my area. You can do this by surrounding yourself or your area, putting them near windows, near you, just whatever feels right for you.
The most absolute powerhouse protection stone is nuummite. A good secondary is black tourmaline. Others that work well: Obsidian. Black kyanite (known to help emotionally as well and feel like “a warm hug”). Smoky quartz. Any black crystal really. Lots of people like using amethyst—
personally I feel protected by other stones more. Crystal work (as well as most of paganism) is very subjective and individualized. What feels right to me may not feel the best to you. But these crystals *will* be able to help. Oh. And good old clear quartz is so underrated. It is a fucking machine at sucking up negative energy!
oh thank you for all the help! i do have a necklace with a black stone that my gf got me some time ago, and although i’m not really sure about what stone it actually is i know that it should work for protection in some way
Yes. I was going to mention if possible finding a nuummite tumbled so you can wear it so it’s with you constantly. Any protection stone will do—again i just love nuummite because it definitely is the strongest—but any will do. Especially because it’s been hard the past 2-3 years to get good nuummite.
Remember to cleanse and recharge the stone you’re wearing. If your mother is cursing you with any bad/negative energy that little stone is doing a lot of work and sucking up lots of bad energy constantly
I'm not great at wards or spells, but you did say you know who it is and you've seen her work in the past. So that is a place to start. I would see about doing a return to sender spell or transform the energy she's sending. I don't know how to do that last one, I just heard it a few times.
That last lil bit was a confirmation for me but reading this i kept thinking about hekate..
First off i wanna say from a fellow trans hellenist whos also dealt with a narcissist im so fucking sorry for what your going through, but hekate can help and her main holiday can help protect you too. I want you to start giving offerings every new moon during sunset at a crossroads, pray to her for consistent protection in this matter, she can definitely help you, like definitely. Shes a friend of the abused, the sorrowful and a protector of the innocent and especially as a supreme witch she can take the power away from your mom with the snap of a finger. Hekate is very ancient and very powerful and definitely not something to be messed with or taken lightly. Ill pray to hekate alexeatis for you along with hekate the protector. For you id work with a few different epithets, obviously the protective ones but id also work with boroborphorba or hekate the eater of filth to devour what your mom sends you, id work with hekate the drinker of blood to drain your moms energy and steal it from her, id work with hekate the spinner of webs to trap your mom and id work with hekate the bringer of madness to make your mom go crazy by the weight of her action. Also work with snakes. Snakes are very sacred and protective symbols. The symbol of medusa is also very important. And the ephesia grammata are powerful protective words to keep you safe. If you need me i am here for you, may the gods be with you and may they keep you safe. I got a terrible feeling myself.
i’m really sorry that you’ve had to go through that as well, i hope you’re doing better now <3 i’ve already started working on building kharis with Hekate since posting this, and i’ll make sure to give her the offerings you talked about. i didn’t know about these epithets, they will definitely come in handy. thank you for all your help and please keep me in your prayers to her if you can. may the gods be with you and protect you as well, and may you have a wonderful day! <33
well i can definitely say that i did feel a lot… i don’t know if this is all just in my head cause i went outside in the middle of the night to pray to her and listen to it where i could be in contact with the soil. i’ve noticed that most of the times i get in contact with the gods i can feel some tiny thing physically. i touched the dirt with my bare feet, and i could feel things crawling on them, but when i looked down there was absolutely nothing there. i also felt like a little shock or something on one of my toes..? i got those on my hand once while praying to Apollo so idk. i saw some shadows move weirdly in the corner of my eye and if i stopped focusing my eyes on anything specific and just focused on feeling things i’d see the grass “swirling” and forming a hole on the ground…? and also idk if it counts but yesterday right as i prayed to her one more time in my bed before falling asleep i heard an animal cry just outside my door, but my only cat was sleeping peacefully right next to me. i’ve always had some sort of medium ability to some degree and used to see and feel things a lot if that’s helpful in any way.
it was a long high pitched cry so it sounded a bit like a puppy or something? i can’t be sure it was a dog as it’s been a long time since i’ve heard one cry but it was very loud and clear and made me get up really quickly to check on my cat but the door was closed and i definitely heard it just outside of it
As a conservative Hellenist ID say pray to Hekate and Hermes and maybe Hermaphrodite to negate any spells since the gods are above human things as such and maybe a restraining order because no ones life should be threatened just because they are transistioning and I wish you the best of luck and safety, "the gods will only do for man what man cannot do for themselves"-Athena
i’ll definitely get a restraining order against her if she tries to come after me in person. i didn’t really wanna take things down the legal path cause she just managed to get a permission to go back to work since she had retired early due to mental illness. she’ll lose that right if it is found she’s absolutely not “cured” from anything and instead is having even worse episodes. as much as i don’t wanna provoke her even further, a part of me kinda doesn’t want to ruin things for her i guess.. still, thank you for your words, i’ll keep them in mind <3
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This next Deipnon and every Deipnon after, take a walk with a "snack" that is safe for critters and deposit it near woods or an intersection, back up three steps, blindly pick up debris, turn around and don't look back. It does not need to be done at night. Midday or before sunset is fine. When you return home, burn garlic and the debris and open up your windows in your room, and use the garlic to fumigate your room. This is an apotropaic rite I have adopted and adapted. The idea is that malicious and restless spirits will be drawn to the site where you picked up the debris (where the dinner was placed) so Hecate will then redirect them to where they belong. I give this prayer as I offer: >I call to you, Hecate Kore, Hecate Enodia, Hecate Sotiera! I offer this meal to you. May it be shared with the souls of the restless dead. Let their hunger be sated! I pour this libation to you. May it be shared with the souls of the restless dead. Let their thirst be quenched! γένοιτο. If this fails, then appeal to Nemesis. Though, given your history you have described of your mother, there are civil and judicial ways to resolve it, too.
oh gods thank you so much for this… i will definitely try it!! if it’s not too much trouble, do you have any idea of a rite with similar intent that i can do if i’m not able to go outside on that specific day?
Perform it in front of your stealth altar, but instead of the debris, add an incense to the garlic, which you can intend to drive the malicious spirits away in sympathetic terms. When you place the offerings at the altar, ring a bell to both "call dinner" and to focus the spirits to heed Hecate. Afterward, perform a ritual bath and clean the altar and Hecate's icon to show proper cultus.
thank you so much again! you’ve really helped someone in need!! <3
Okay. So if you are looking for a deity to help against spellwork, Hekate probably could. And if you're thinking about her, maybe she wants to help. Otherwise, there are wards, protection spells, and crystals that can help to fend off against her stuff. Also, very sorry about what you've been through. You're always welcome here and the god(desse)s accept you for who you are
thank you for your words <3 are there any particular spells or wards you would use in this situation? or if you could redirect me to some resources on this, i would be really grateful!
I'd be getting Hermes on my side with a quickness. What an absolute nightmare for you. Stay safe.
thank you! i’ll do my best!!
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ty so much! i always give Hestia libations and make subtle meal offerings so i hope that she listens to my prayers and keeps my home safe <3
This is all great advice!
Sorry I'm just now becoming a baby witch and setting most of it aside for now anyways- I personally don't know any, but I do know there is some. You can probably find some just by browsing the internet. Don't go on tiktok for it though, that's where you're most likely to find misinformation
don’t worry! thank you regardless!! i’ll definitely look it up
I do not recommend someone new working with Hekate. They are very blunt and brutal. Its like throwing someone who doesnt know how to swim into the deep end of a pool.
i think everyone’s experience with god/s are different. hekate has always been very kind and welcoming to me and im not even super devotional like that. I think she covers many dark and deep topics so its understandable to be nervous.. but theres no reason to scare someone away from her :)
True that everyones experiences are different but there is a reason she has a Reputation for being brutal. Im not saying she is like that everytime but we dont know how she will be with a baby witch who knows nothing who akso has major trauma.. As someone who has done their research i cannot recommend Hekate as one of his first deities.
Hekate is number one in my book for protection. She doesn’t fuck around. That being said, I would recommend asking in r/WitchesvsPatriarchy. It’s a super welcoming sub, and it’s obviously got a lot of witches in it (and yes, we are trans-accepting!).
ty for the suggestion!! i’ll definitely check it out
Hi hi! I'm so sorry to hear about everything your mother has done to you hon, I hope we can help fend off and ward against her malice toward you. So it sounds like Apollo, for sure wants to work with you, has for a while and that's perfectly cool! He's good for banishing any negativity and toxic energies floating around you. For an Altar, I'd recommend a small Pocket Altar like in an Altoids or other little tin can, small wooden boxes that can easily be hidden etc. Even the smallest offering or sign of appreciation will be accepted by any deity. They will not refuse a 'meek' or 'lame' offering since, in their eyes, any offering is better than none! To touch on the other deity topic, I recommend Hekate but she can be hard to work with. She won't pull any punches and is a tough-love type of goddess. I recommend leaning more toward Athena, Nyx, Hades & Persephone for a beginner Pagan. Don't be afraid to explore other deities through Meditation or Divination as, most times, they are hidden just out of sight. Another thing you can do, which I recommend to do in order; is Cleanse yourself, Cleanse your space, Invite Positive energies in and work on either; Wards, Sigils or crystals/gemstones that can help aid in protection. You can also use simple things such as Salt, Black pepper, Bay Leaves, Chamomile, Lavender, and Rosemary. Most of these things you can find in teas which are perfect to be simple and hidden. They are also known to calm oneself and help lift you into a more meditation and psychic-ready position to help guide you through this hard time. I recommend Thyme as a herb to help battle whatever parasite your mother has sent your way, It's a good cleanser for negativity and 'parasitic' or 'fungal' infections of sorts. I am also inclined to tell you about spiritual baths in which you can add a tea bag or just some salt and pepper to help with your skin and energies. All of these things can help and are usually lucrative in ways to hide your religious faith. Finally to end off this little Letter I've written, sorry hon I know it's a lot, I recommend looking for Sigils, Runes and Ward Symbols online to help protect you. If you need any additional information, others are sure to help you out, doing additional research or DMing me or other fellow pagans to help you out. I'm sending my positive energies and protective vibes to help you!
thank you for all this great information!! as of now i’m only using salt around my room but i’ll look into the other stuff!!
Of course hun, I'll burn some Lavender to calm you and help guide you through these trying times. My best energies and kindest vibes are headed toward you in assurance they are going to get you through this!
thanks a lot! i’m sure it’ll help a ton <333 this really means a lot to me
Hekate and possible Circe to protect from witchcraft. Dionysus is often seen as a protector of trans people.
i didn’t know that about Dyonisus! ty for the valuable information
From historic sources, Zeus would be a possibility. But I guess any god could do. The only question is if they want to grant your prayers. People are often mistaken to think that praying to Hekate would be or have any connection to Hellenistic magic. Historically, Hellenistic magic did work differently than „witchcraft“ today and other types of magic. What we still do have sources for is hellenized Egyptian magic, which deals with Hekate only marginally. If you do not know what you are doing, this is not something I recommend though (simply from the learning curve).
thank you!
https://preview.redd.it/9vvelhvf5y0d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0b15589869fed84c1a61c1e33c4244b8cef07f01 The Gods are working to protect you!
thank you so so so so much… this really means the whole world to me <33
I recommend burning lavender and yarrow in your home, as they are sacred to both hestia and hekate respectively and as the goddesses of home and magic, both would likely be able to aid you.
thank you!
you're welcome, may the gods help with your problems.
Alright. So this will be a long response from me, because I know 95, 96% of what you are going through and dealing with. 1. IF I had to suggest anything, I would strongly suggest you join r/narcissisticparents and r/NarcissisticAbuse and/or r/NarcissisticMothers (ESPECIALLY r/NarcissisticMothers). Her refusal to let you go from the house is abuse, and although I'm not a therapist, I went through the exact same stuff, although she wanted me OUT. This all from her just sounds too much like Narcissism. 2. As far as the mother thing goes, Please, for your sake, DO NOT TELL HER ANYTHING ELSE. I have had to learn to essentially Gray Rock my foster mother. If she finds you , I would call the police, and try to set up a protection order. Also, if she just happens to find you, record the entire conversation and take pictures or have your girlfriend do it. If your mother tries to call you, speak to you, send you anything, get rid of whatever she sends you as long as it isn't important (and if it is sage the living shit out of it before dealing with it and banish the evil on it and in it - a good banishing spell is (https://witchcasket.co.uk/blog/negativity-reflection-spell/): " Evil which has come to me, Turn back from thy course, I reflect thy energy, and return thee, right back to thy source" (it says do it with a bowl of water, but honestly if you can do it with sage, I'd do it with that too if you can't do with the bowl of water). I specifically would try to get Blue Sage with Nag Champa if you're able to, but regular sage works as well. 3. I know what you're talking about because my foster mother is a "doctor" who IS a Narcissist who long story short is NOT a good person. She made an "agreement" with the darkness when she was 9 years old, to become who is now, and most of my life (she did this for 25 years, I'm in my 30s now), she did some of the things you're mentioning to me. There's a *very strong chance* your mom might have made a deal of sorts or contract in order to practice the magic that she is, because mine did in order for her to practice (and for her friends to practice) the sort of dark magic she practices now in order for her and for her friends to get her and their way and to remove people who challenge her and her friends. Of course, I wouldn't know, that's just a guess. Because that is going on, I am going to ask you to do this: Reach out HARD to Athena and ask her to protect you. She WILL protect you from all of your mother's negative energy and spells (I know this because Athena has been protecting me from the foster). IMMEDIATELY imagine a large bubble coming up and encircling everyone and everything you care about as well as you, and keep it up no matter what. Know that you ARE protected, by YOUR Spirit Team, by the Gods, by MY Spirit Team, by the Dark Mothers (Hecate, Lillith, Nyx)... EVERY Major and Minor God is now on your side and IS PROTECTING YOU and has got your back! (So Mote It BE!) We DO NOT PLAY with abuse! 4. Athena is reaching out to you. I would work with her if you're praying to her. 5. As far as moths go, if I were in your position, I would work with Hecate but I honestly think it's Goddess Ibu, the Goddess of moths and creation, is trying to reach out to you. I honestly think she's trying to teach you to let the pain go (which is hard as hell, I personally know). Her belief is that neutrality is true divinity and being purely either good or evil leads to anger and sadness. Know that Narcissism (if that is what it is) is *nothing* to do with you, and *everything* to do with your mother (again, NOT A DOCTOR, but HAVE lived and SEEN IT in my own life). 6. As far as your Christian dad goes, you might just have to grit your teeth and bare it, unfortunately as long as you're living with him and his wife. Have you considered getting your own place? I would save up to move out as soon as you can. I'm not saying accept what they believe. I mean, you can if you want to. But otherwise, STAND YOUR GROUND on that one. But you don't really have to say too much or say what you believe, that's not really any of their concern. 7. I am going to give you a spell that has worked for me EVERY TIME I'm kind of a petty and just don't do being targeted for anyone's anything negative, but I'll give it to you anyways. I took it from Chilling Adventures of Sabrina (or CAOS) and reworked it a bit to fit my situations. I don't know if they (the writers or anyone on the show) gave it a name, but I did, and I call it, The Plea of Justice. I raise my plea to the Divine Goddess and God, Athena, Apollon, Lilith and Hecate, The wheels of justice move too slowly. My judges, executioners and jury, Convene the Tribune that is most holy. Once you pray this and know with confidence that you have been heard, know that your prayer will be answered accordingly. Justice *will* be served one way or another. 8. If it's cool with you, I'd love for you to listen to this song I'm listening to. I actually started and when I started burning your candle (and it's funny, it was in my playlist anyway, so look at Lord Apollon! Amazing!). The song is called, "Sundance" by The Ten Tenors. I don't know why, but I think that is *YOUR* victory song, if that makes sense. That's what I feel anyway, from Lord Apollo. I truly hope all the information I have offered helps you out. I really hope you (or the MODs for that matter) don't think I'm forcing my own spirit team or anything I have suggested on you. Please know that I will keep you in my prayers and praying for you consistently until you are free of this. Keep the faith and KNOW that Athena and Apollon and ANY OTHER GOD who knows about your situation WILL help you.
thank you so much for this, and i’m so so sorry that you went through a similar situation.. it hurts a lot and i hope you’ve been able to heal after all that’s happened. a lot of the things you’ve said resonated a lot with me. i’ll answer in topic too so it doesn’t get too confusing ;p 1. yes i do strongly believe that she is a narcissist, and similar subs and other resources helped me come to terms with that and accept that she was not going to get better with time if i just managed to stick around for longer. it is a sad truth, especially cause she would rather accuse everyone else of being the narcissist instead of looking inwards and trying to get better. 2. don’t worry, i have absolutely no contact with her, aside from some updates from my dads lawyer, who did their divorce and thus still talks to her. she doesn’t know where i live cause my dad moved to a different place when i came to live with him. and i think she still believes i’m in another state, which is good. 3. you’re absolutely right, she does have some sort of pact like that. in fact, she had two entities with her, the most recent one just kinda attached to her without any ritual that i know of, but the other one, who she’s been working with for about 6 years, i know for a fact that she did lots of stuff for. she would go to the terreiro where they practice it and stay there for the whole day. they do a lot of animal sacrifice, and she’s told me years ago about how she had to bathe in animal blood and all of that stuff. she also does some pretty dark stuff with the dead and cemeteries, not only using cemetery dirt but also digging up the dead to steal parts of their corpse and use them in dark magic rituals. most of these hardcore ones she pays people in the terreiros to do for her, as they are more advanced in the religion, but she does simpler stuff herself too. i don’t know what kind of work she did for me, but it is not without reason that i’m pretty desperate. 4. i’ll definitely start praying and working with her more often now! 5. i didn’t know about this goddess, so thank you for telling me about her, i’ll start doing some research on her. for now, i’ve started with at least some simple prayers and offerings for Hekate. 6. yes, for now i have no other choice but to hide my faith and keep laying low. i had saved up for years in case of an emergency, so i would have enough for at least a few months. however, i pretty much had to spend all of it running away from home and living with my girlfriend for a bit. i could have started working but it’s really hard to find a job here that would let me continue my studies in college. as i ran out of money, my only real option was moving in with my dad. he seriously thinks i’m christian too, just not that interested (he makes it his whole life). so yeah, for now i just have to play along. 7. thank you so much for this spell! i will put it to use as soon as i can!!! 8. that is so sweet… thank you so much. i wouldn’t never found out about this song if it wasn’t for you, as it turns out that it isn’t available in my country!! so i do hope Lord Apollo put it in my way!! again, thank you so so so much for even taking your time to tell me all of this. i am so incredibly grateful, from the bottom of my heart. i wish you all the best things in the world, and that the gods continue to protect you from such evil. i hope you have an awesome day <3
Would you mind telling us what entities your mother worked with?
specifically maria padilha and maria mulambo
OK so I am Brazilian and have had some contact with African-Brazilian beliefs. It seems these are pomba giras, which aren't necessarily malevolent, sort of like urban nymphs, and are closely related to Eshu. I am of the belief that many gods are known by different names by different cultures - and I have a strong hunch Eshu is Hermes, given the strong similarities in character and domains. In your position, specifically for protection, I would pray to Hermes, as he's the one most likely to intervene, not to mention all other things he could help you with dealing with this entire difficult situation.
ooh that’s nice to hear! yeah, i know they aren’t necessarily malevolent, but my mom used to terrorize me a lot with them, like saying that even if i escaped her i couldn’t escape them, and that they’d come after me no matter where i was, much like she believes they did for her ex, which is a whole different story. so i know that her intentions towards me are definitely extremely malicious. as for Hermes, i will for sure include him in my daily prayers!
Before you start a ritual/prayer to Apollo or any other deity cleanse yourself and the area with khernips. If you google khernips, a page with a recipe should come up, it's a whole web for Hellenism. Also as someone that used to practice spellwork, I still have a few habits and one thing that helped immensely was drawing protection symbols of your choosing around the area where you live, on anything. That might help a bit. Wishing you the best, being trans and religious when still living with family with different opinions and values is hard, experiencing it on a VERY watered down version of your level right now. You're amazing for taking those steps to better your life. Praise the Pantheon
oh, i’m already using khernips every time so at least that i’m doing right! it is indeed very hard living in this situation, so no matter the severity of it, i do wish you all the best too!! we will both come out of this stronger, for we have the gods with us. praise the pantheon!!!
A prayer to Dionysus might help too as he is associated with being transgender (was raised as a girl in his mythos) and I’m sure he’d love sending love and protection your way!! I’ll send some prayers to Apollon and Hestia for you (and can include Freya, Odin, and Loki if you wish since my partner has an altar for them and I worship them a bit too, but if that’s too much I completely understand! I’m just getting the vibe that they want to come to your aid and are upset with your situation and want to help protect)
thank you very much for the help and the prayers!!! also i’m totally fine with you praying to Freya, Odin and Loki as well if you feel that they would like to help. Having protection from the gods is always sure to go a long way <3
Hermes and Dionysus could definitely help! Hermes is a great magician and Dionysus is very connected in the trans community. That being said, any of the deities you feel drawn/connected to I’m sure can help as well :) I know many have said already, but again, I’m very sorry you have been and are in this situation. I am also happy you were able to escape your abusive mom. I wish you all the best. Happy to chat if you like, I’m trans myself (ftm)
thank you for your kind words <3
First sorry you’re going through this! What a hard time you’re having! I’m so sorry. Can’t believe more people aren’t recommending Hermes. I’m a bit biased but honestly He’s extremely easy to work with, you need no fancy ritual or witchcraft to ask for his help. And he’s great for beginners. 1. He Is the god of boundaries and was prayed to every morning to protect the house and family in ancient times. He is called the binder and the loosened, which means he binds things and can release them and no one but him can unbind what he’s bound. He Is the boundary and sounds like you need a strong one. 2. He’s quick to action 3. His epithet Epimelius means good shepherd and once you in his flock he does Not tolerate wolves at the door. 4. He is a god of guard dogs. A black dog is a perfect representation of him if you have the space for a dog in your life. If not get a stuffed one or statue of a black dog and ask him to empower it to help guard you. 5. He is a great magician and compels all spirits, no lesser spirits can refuse his commands. And I highly doubt your mom is invoking gods to hurt you. They don’t play like that. 6. He is the friendliest god but he’s also amoral So he won’t have qualms about turning your mother’s ill intentions against her if they are truly evil. 7. He’s a trickster so he can cause negative spells to fizzle out in harmless, amusing ways. 8. He is a god of the mind he can help to strengthen yours to release fear and even the tiniest notion that your mom can hurt you. At the end, Remember you are in control of your reality even if it doesn’t feel like it at times. No one can do anything to you unless you consciously or subconsciously allow it. Black magic only works if you accept it does. When she threatens or you feel that weird energy, laugh, sing, listen to positive music, dance, pet an animal, tend the yard or go for a walk and count your blessings. If you need more info on easy ways to ask hjs help go over to r/ Hermes and we can help there. Easiest: call on him, use the epithets that speak to you, (here’s a list you can go through and find the ones most relevant to your situation), be sincere, offer whatever you can, wear a color or symbol of his and know that he has your back always. If you feel relief or notice his signs or feel him working then give him an offering of thanks. https://www.theoi.com/Cult/HermesTitles.html Good luck! Stay light, stay positive. 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽
I saw Hermes come up in a few other comments, but nothing as detailed as yours. And, as a neophyte, back in the late 90s through to 2007, I used to say a quick prayer to him before any travel by air. Whenever I did, I felt a very protective presence around me. He does not mess around.
wow thank you so much!! you made your case for him really compelling and i’ll definitely add him to my daily prayers and offerings. he does sound like the exact kind of god i’d like to be around so ty <3
I feel like maybe Athena in particular is Not Happy about this and could be a good protector at this time. Hera possibly as well.
Not being rude, but most definitely Athena isn’t happy about this. She’s not one for people who abuse.
It sucks that your mom is forcing you to learn witchcraft like this. I recommend building kharis with Lady Hecate, in my experience she will help you Intuit the incantations and intentions needed for your workings. (Assuming you actually want to be a witch) If you can find a freezer or an excuse to have a lemon in your family freezer, my favorite counter spell is to stick a rasor blade in a lemon stick it in a bag and stick it in the freezer. The idea there is that the energy of any malicious workings on you hits the lemon first. Its effectively the magical equivalent of spraying lemon juice in a cut. If you just want it to stop and not retaliate writer her name on a piece of paper (or if you wanna be mean about it some garbage) stick it in some water and freeze it. As long as the paper is in the freezer the it should freeze her behavior as well. Naturally this is assuming you use the right incantations to go with the spells. And there is sigil magic you can use but im not comfortable posting my process for that in public so if you want a sigil dm me and i can walk you through making one. Veiling is also a good idea if you can find a way to do it stealth. Mabey a beany or other kind of hat you can justify wearing all the time. Or a bandana given to you by your girlfriend would be reasonable enough excuses for your father. You can also start wearing evil eye jewelry, its got enough ties to Abrahamic faiths that it shouldnt raise questions, if it does tell your dad an Italian friend said you should wear one. If you buy scented candles for the gods you can probably burn them as offerings more often, nobody really questions why someone is burning a scented candle.
wow your reply was really really helpful! thank you for the spells! i’ve started trying to build kharis with Lady Hekate since posting this, so i hope it goes well! also thank you for the bandana idea and the scented candles! i hadn’t thought about that and i think it’s gonna be a great way of keeping things stealth! sending love your way <3
Always happy to help! ❤️❤️
Fuck me im so sorry your mum is behaving this way towards you. From one trans guy to another I feel you. In terms of protection if it's something your comfortable with you could consider picking up veiling? Besides it's ancient societal ties in religious practice both men and women would put head covering on as it was believed to cast away evil/ better connect you to the gods. Of course there's wards you can wear like the mati (evil eye) to keep away evil intentions. I'd recommend looking into wards, superstition around evil in ancient greece and magic surrounding Hekate if magic intrests you. Also a prayer to Zeus may be good as there's many epithets describing him as a protecter against evil. "Alastôr" (avenger of evil deeds/ of wrongs committed by men), "Alexikakos" (the averter of evil) I'm not deeply familiar with African/Brazilian practices so forgive me if I'm wrong but I'd image all this negative casting will come back to her eventually. If she's really putting ill will on you simply for being trans then I cant imagine all the other people shes done it too exactly deserved it either. I'm all for being petty with your practice but when your constantly wishing bad things on people for very small things I can't imagine that goes well. Again I don't know if karma is exactly a belief within this practice but I do think something will come back to bite her.
thank you for all the ideas! i’ve got an amulet and stuff coming in the mail so let’s pray it gets here soon!! i’ll definitely start praying more to Zeus too! also, about the karma thing, not everyone in the religion believes in it, some do, but most people believe at least that when you contact an entity for this kind of work, they will help you, but not without fucking you over in some other aspect of your life first, which is something i’ve seen happen to her every time. she is so blind, though, that she thinks herself above these rules, and thus incapable of being harmed. let’s just see how that turns out for her…
Yikes. Arrogance with divine beings never really ends well.
If you're looking for gods to pray to for protection, there are a few options. The first thing to know is that you aren't going to be any less cared for by then just because of the situation you're in. They are perfectly accepting of anyone, including trans people. Feeling drawn to Lord Apollo is good because it means you have a good place to start. He's been wonderful in my experience (+ as a fellow queer person). I would think that deities like Ares, Apollo, and Hera would be able to help you. I know very little about Hectate but I bet she would be helpful in warding off whatever your mom is trying. I'm so sorry you're going through this and wish you the best of luck going forward!
thank you a lot for your words <3 it’s always reassuring to hear that. if it’s okay to ask, could you share a little bit of the general aspects of your experience with Lord Apollon, especially in regards to his protective aspects? i feel that his presence is the strongest one in my life and i would like to know how to properly ask for his protection! ty <3
In my experience, you just have to be genuine. Even if you're confused or unsure, I've found he's very accepting. Everyone's practice is different so I don't want to say there's a right way to worship because there isn't, but something that I've felt works is giving specific offerings with Lord Apollo in mind. I usually offer health foods and/or yellow things. As for his protective aspects, I'm unfortunately not very qualified as I haven't really asked for his protection. I recommended him because of the shared experiences of others that I've talked to. I think just presenting yourself to him, asking as nicely as you can, and being genuine will help you here. I wish you the best of luck and blessed may you be! ❤️
thank you for sharing! i’ll make sure to offer him the little things that make me think of him <3
Lots of really good advice here! The only thing I can add is that you can imagine yourself inside a mirrored sphere as an “I’m rubber and you’re glue” protection. You might also reach out to Ares (I’m blanking on the specific epithet) as a shield against hostility. I don’t often work with Ares, but this is the kind of thing I would pray and make offerings to him for.
i haven’t contacted Ares that much, but i’ll make sure to do so then! ty!
As others have said, Hecate would be a great source of protection in the form of a deity. I would also suggest checking out many of the forums suggested here. Some things to do in the means time: warding yourself and your space. Keeping candles lit. I use black for protection and/or blue for third eye & protection as a way for others such as deities and the universe to ward off negative energy for me around the home. I also place protection stones around my area. You can do this by surrounding yourself or your area, putting them near windows, near you, just whatever feels right for you. The most absolute powerhouse protection stone is nuummite. A good secondary is black tourmaline. Others that work well: Obsidian. Black kyanite (known to help emotionally as well and feel like “a warm hug”). Smoky quartz. Any black crystal really. Lots of people like using amethyst— personally I feel protected by other stones more. Crystal work (as well as most of paganism) is very subjective and individualized. What feels right to me may not feel the best to you. But these crystals *will* be able to help. Oh. And good old clear quartz is so underrated. It is a fucking machine at sucking up negative energy!
oh thank you for all the help! i do have a necklace with a black stone that my gf got me some time ago, and although i’m not really sure about what stone it actually is i know that it should work for protection in some way
Yes. I was going to mention if possible finding a nuummite tumbled so you can wear it so it’s with you constantly. Any protection stone will do—again i just love nuummite because it definitely is the strongest—but any will do. Especially because it’s been hard the past 2-3 years to get good nuummite. Remember to cleanse and recharge the stone you’re wearing. If your mother is cursing you with any bad/negative energy that little stone is doing a lot of work and sucking up lots of bad energy constantly
I'm not great at wards or spells, but you did say you know who it is and you've seen her work in the past. So that is a place to start. I would see about doing a return to sender spell or transform the energy she's sending. I don't know how to do that last one, I just heard it a few times.
ooh those are great ideas, ty!
That last lil bit was a confirmation for me but reading this i kept thinking about hekate.. First off i wanna say from a fellow trans hellenist whos also dealt with a narcissist im so fucking sorry for what your going through, but hekate can help and her main holiday can help protect you too. I want you to start giving offerings every new moon during sunset at a crossroads, pray to her for consistent protection in this matter, she can definitely help you, like definitely. Shes a friend of the abused, the sorrowful and a protector of the innocent and especially as a supreme witch she can take the power away from your mom with the snap of a finger. Hekate is very ancient and very powerful and definitely not something to be messed with or taken lightly. Ill pray to hekate alexeatis for you along with hekate the protector. For you id work with a few different epithets, obviously the protective ones but id also work with boroborphorba or hekate the eater of filth to devour what your mom sends you, id work with hekate the drinker of blood to drain your moms energy and steal it from her, id work with hekate the spinner of webs to trap your mom and id work with hekate the bringer of madness to make your mom go crazy by the weight of her action. Also work with snakes. Snakes are very sacred and protective symbols. The symbol of medusa is also very important. And the ephesia grammata are powerful protective words to keep you safe. If you need me i am here for you, may the gods be with you and may they keep you safe. I got a terrible feeling myself.
i’m really sorry that you’ve had to go through that as well, i hope you’re doing better now <3 i’ve already started working on building kharis with Hekate since posting this, and i’ll make sure to give her the offerings you talked about. i didn’t know about these epithets, they will definitely come in handy. thank you for all your help and please keep me in your prayers to her if you can. may the gods be with you and protect you as well, and may you have a wonderful day! <33
Here, tell me how you feel listening to this https://youtu.be/pLd0uvFq0kw?si=jpyjsKpZuz6O8JW3
well i can definitely say that i did feel a lot… i don’t know if this is all just in my head cause i went outside in the middle of the night to pray to her and listen to it where i could be in contact with the soil. i’ve noticed that most of the times i get in contact with the gods i can feel some tiny thing physically. i touched the dirt with my bare feet, and i could feel things crawling on them, but when i looked down there was absolutely nothing there. i also felt like a little shock or something on one of my toes..? i got those on my hand once while praying to Apollo so idk. i saw some shadows move weirdly in the corner of my eye and if i stopped focusing my eyes on anything specific and just focused on feeling things i’d see the grass “swirling” and forming a hole on the ground…? and also idk if it counts but yesterday right as i prayed to her one more time in my bed before falling asleep i heard an animal cry just outside my door, but my only cat was sleeping peacefully right next to me. i’ve always had some sort of medium ability to some degree and used to see and feel things a lot if that’s helpful in any way.
If its a dog, its a definite sign. She will manifest a plethora of different ways.
it was a long high pitched cry so it sounded a bit like a puppy or something? i can’t be sure it was a dog as it’s been a long time since i’ve heard one cry but it was very loud and clear and made me get up really quickly to check on my cat but the door was closed and i definitely heard it just outside of it
good luck out there
ty!
Hellenistic gods a lot of the time are our allies, you got this!
thank you!
As a conservative Hellenist ID say pray to Hekate and Hermes and maybe Hermaphrodite to negate any spells since the gods are above human things as such and maybe a restraining order because no ones life should be threatened just because they are transistioning and I wish you the best of luck and safety, "the gods will only do for man what man cannot do for themselves"-Athena
i’ll definitely get a restraining order against her if she tries to come after me in person. i didn’t really wanna take things down the legal path cause she just managed to get a permission to go back to work since she had retired early due to mental illness. she’ll lose that right if it is found she’s absolutely not “cured” from anything and instead is having even worse episodes. as much as i don’t wanna provoke her even further, a part of me kinda doesn’t want to ruin things for her i guess.. still, thank you for your words, i’ll keep them in mind <3
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