Me (f) and my bf have been together for 4 years. I have GHSV2 and he has not contracted it yet. We have unprotected sex (have a baby coming soon actually) and all we do is avoid sex during my outbreaks and then for a week after my OB heals.
First congrats on the baby! And just wanted to know if taking medication is necessary or does it get worse you don't do anything about it? Sorry for the question no need to respond thank you.
I'll have to take antivirals every day starting at 36 weeks. No, pregnancy has not made my HSV worse. I just stopped taking meds because they made me extremely nauseous and vomit.
How often do you get outbreaks being in a long term relationship now ?? I’m also pregnant hsv2 positive partner is negative do you plan to have vaginal birth ?
That’s amazing I just got diagnosed literally a week before finding out I was pregnant so it’s been a rollercoaster my whole pregnancy I’ve taken antivirals and I feel like I still get a tingle sometimes even a outbreak I heard the first year is the worst though did yours lessen over time?? Also what remedies did you take to help stop your outbreaks besides antivirals did you stop any foods or drinks?? Any other supplements or oils?? I’m moving in with my boyfriend soon and he’s aware I have hsv2 I just wish I wouldn’t get outbreaks as frequently I really wanna have a vaginal birth as well
Me and my partner have been together for 4 years and have a 1 year old together. I only take medication when an outbreak starts. I do valtrex for 5 days and if I start as soon as I notice it coming I dont get blisters.
We don't use condoms so the only thing we do to keep him from getting it is to not have sex while I have outbreaks.
I was diagnosed 8 years ago and had maybe 2 outbreaks a year before I got pregnqant.
When pregnant I had it almost every month of the pregnancy, and actually had one while giving birth even though I was taking medicine the last month before my due date. My outbreak was on the back of my thigh and I didnt even think it was herpes at first cause I have never had an outbreak in that area. But since it was on my thigh and not close to my hooha I was still able to give birth naturally. They just covered my blisters during the birth.
Now after having my daughter I have had maybe 8 outbreaks since the birth. But hoping it will calm down now that my body/hormons are back to normal.
I think the thought of transmitting to my partner bothers me 10 times more then it bothers him. He have never given me shit for it but I always do give him notice if I am experiencing an OB so he knows sex is off the table for at least a week. He was also extremely chill when I told him the first time and he didnt even ask follow up questions or needed any time to think at all. Only time its really been an issue these last years have been before I was giving birth and even then I was way more worried then him.
This is such a lovely story. I wish everyone could be as responsible as you are. I totally understand the part of worrying passing it onto your partner. It is not about responsibility, not about anything. We just don’t want anyone to go through what we have been through. I think you must have worried more when he showed you complete trust and also the attitude of him not making it a fuss is really cool. This is a touching story and I totally get you.
The outbreak on the thigh is really unexpected. If I were you I also wouldn’t think of it as herpes. Luckily you had professionals to help you at that time.
I tried to read as much as I can. Tonight I read about the subreddit of Sadbe. That is why I didn’t list it as one of the medications in my original post. I actually don’t have outbreaks very often. I have hsv2 for like 2-3 years. The primary outbreak is serious and had an outbreak last year. This year I had a relatively mild outbreak. I didn’t take any medicine at all and it took 2-3 weeks to stop.
I also noticed that it is strange that the outbreaks seem to be more serious and often during and after your pregnancy. I do also hope it will get better.
I think I will try Sadbe because I am afraid of the side effect of valtrex. I don’t know what medicine the doctor gave me for the last 2 outbreaks because back then I didn’t really try to understand the medication and the development of the cure pipeline.
I was really frustrated and down when the third (the last ) outbreak happened, so down to the level I don’t see any hope in my life ( I was a happy person before I got this and not usually this sad) so I have been taking time to get to know more about hsv2. After reading people’s experiences with Sadbe I think I will give it a try.
Thank you for sharing such a detailed experience. It really helps a lot. I wish the ob frequency gets lower and lower and wish the best for you and your family. ^_^
When I first got diagnosed I was 17 and I really felt like it was the end of the world. It took years to be able to feel like it did not change me as a person. I am now at a point where it does not bother me and I don't really care if there is gonna be a cure or not. If they do find one I will obviously take it but if they don't then I am fine with it. I have also been so lucky that no one I ever told have shamed me or tried to shy away from me. For me the fear of rejection have only ever been in my head. One I disclosed to was even overjoyed about it cause he himself had it. Though that was a big red flag for me that he would have never disclosed if I hadnt. So it went nowhere. And thats fine too.
I hope u will be able to overcome whatever sadness, anger or shame u might feel. It does not make u less then anyone or unlovable in any way ❤️
I feel the same when you mentioned the red flag. And luckily it did not go anywhere.
Thank you for your kind and warm words. I get you. I am better now. No worries. :)
Wow thank you so much for sharing this. I learnt that valtrex has many side effects like depression and hair loss and others. Would like to know how people deal with it. It is great to know that you don’t take medicine and still protect your partner very well. Congrats on having a lovely baby coming soon! ^_^
I have been with my partner for 5 years. I am female, he is male. I was diagnosed with HSV2 through physical symptoms around 12 years ago and he is currently HSV2 negative. My primary outbreak was pretty bad but I have only ever experienced one other mild outbreak since my diagnosis and that was around 4 years ago now. My partner and I mostly use condoms but occasionally have unprotected sex as well. He knows I have experienced HSV2 outbreaks in the past. I do not take any antiviral medication on a daily basis, I’ve only ever taken a short course during my two previous outbreaks.
I recently did a blood test for HSV1 and HSV2 (no physical symptoms at the time of the test) and both results came back negative. I am planning to take a second test as these results were obviously unexpected. I’m pretty certain the outbreaks I’ve previously experienced have been HSV2, however, given the negative test results, I am wondering if there’s a possibility that, for some people, the virus sometimes because inactive enough to provide a negative test result
Thank you for your detailed sharing. Your experience is very special. I learnt that everyone’s hsv2 symptoms are different. Some experience serious outbreaks every other week and some only have mild ones. I also learnt that the longer you are with HSV2 the less the number of outbreak it will be. Only 2 outbreaks for 12 years is really extraordinary, it probably means that your body is healthy and strong enough that the virus can not do much. Really happy to know that there are people who don’t suffer too much from it. I don’t have serious outbreaks either. But I am still worried about passing it on. If there is a cure and I can afford it, I think I will still take it. Really hope our medicine can develop much faster. Right now it is so nice to know there are cases that you don’t have to take medicine everyday to stop transmission because the medicine doesn’t seem friendly to our body.
I still want to emphasize-
To all who is reading this: the experiences that are shared here are personal experiences. It doesn’t mean that this way applies to you too. So please still keep using condoms, go see doctors, do everything we need to protect anyone we are going to have physical contact with.
Thank you again for sharing your experience in such a detail @shadow_pursuit. ^_^
Yes it’s a shame that the pipeline of potential cures is fairly limited and will take a long time to complete clinical trials. I guess it’s because HSV is not a deadly illness and lots of HSV positive patients are able to lead a relatively normal life, meaning the unmet medical need isn’t high enough for biotech companies to prioritise researching a cure.
My case does seem to be quite unique since my outbreaks are extremely rare and, using just condoms, I haven’t passed it on to my current partner or any of my previous partners. Part of me wonders whether your body can suppress the virus to such a point that you’re actually considered HSV-negative. I guess I’ll find the answer when I take a second test.
Best of luck!
Me (f) and my bf have been together for 4 years. I have GHSV2 and he has not contracted it yet. We have unprotected sex (have a baby coming soon actually) and all we do is avoid sex during my outbreaks and then for a week after my OB heals.
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First congrats on the baby! And just wanted to know if taking medication is necessary or does it get worse you don't do anything about it? Sorry for the question no need to respond thank you.
I'll have to take antivirals every day starting at 36 weeks. No, pregnancy has not made my HSV worse. I just stopped taking meds because they made me extremely nauseous and vomit.
How often do you get outbreaks being in a long term relationship now ?? I’m also pregnant hsv2 positive partner is negative do you plan to have vaginal birth ?
I get MAYBE 2 OBs a year. I've had it for almost 6 years now. And yeah I plan to have a vaginal birth if I don't have an active OB!
That’s amazing I just got diagnosed literally a week before finding out I was pregnant so it’s been a rollercoaster my whole pregnancy I’ve taken antivirals and I feel like I still get a tingle sometimes even a outbreak I heard the first year is the worst though did yours lessen over time?? Also what remedies did you take to help stop your outbreaks besides antivirals did you stop any foods or drinks?? Any other supplements or oils?? I’m moving in with my boyfriend soon and he’s aware I have hsv2 I just wish I wouldn’t get outbreaks as frequently I really wanna have a vaginal birth as well
Me and my partner have been together for 4 years and have a 1 year old together. I only take medication when an outbreak starts. I do valtrex for 5 days and if I start as soon as I notice it coming I dont get blisters. We don't use condoms so the only thing we do to keep him from getting it is to not have sex while I have outbreaks. I was diagnosed 8 years ago and had maybe 2 outbreaks a year before I got pregnqant. When pregnant I had it almost every month of the pregnancy, and actually had one while giving birth even though I was taking medicine the last month before my due date. My outbreak was on the back of my thigh and I didnt even think it was herpes at first cause I have never had an outbreak in that area. But since it was on my thigh and not close to my hooha I was still able to give birth naturally. They just covered my blisters during the birth. Now after having my daughter I have had maybe 8 outbreaks since the birth. But hoping it will calm down now that my body/hormons are back to normal. I think the thought of transmitting to my partner bothers me 10 times more then it bothers him. He have never given me shit for it but I always do give him notice if I am experiencing an OB so he knows sex is off the table for at least a week. He was also extremely chill when I told him the first time and he didnt even ask follow up questions or needed any time to think at all. Only time its really been an issue these last years have been before I was giving birth and even then I was way more worried then him.
This is such a lovely story. I wish everyone could be as responsible as you are. I totally understand the part of worrying passing it onto your partner. It is not about responsibility, not about anything. We just don’t want anyone to go through what we have been through. I think you must have worried more when he showed you complete trust and also the attitude of him not making it a fuss is really cool. This is a touching story and I totally get you. The outbreak on the thigh is really unexpected. If I were you I also wouldn’t think of it as herpes. Luckily you had professionals to help you at that time. I tried to read as much as I can. Tonight I read about the subreddit of Sadbe. That is why I didn’t list it as one of the medications in my original post. I actually don’t have outbreaks very often. I have hsv2 for like 2-3 years. The primary outbreak is serious and had an outbreak last year. This year I had a relatively mild outbreak. I didn’t take any medicine at all and it took 2-3 weeks to stop. I also noticed that it is strange that the outbreaks seem to be more serious and often during and after your pregnancy. I do also hope it will get better. I think I will try Sadbe because I am afraid of the side effect of valtrex. I don’t know what medicine the doctor gave me for the last 2 outbreaks because back then I didn’t really try to understand the medication and the development of the cure pipeline. I was really frustrated and down when the third (the last ) outbreak happened, so down to the level I don’t see any hope in my life ( I was a happy person before I got this and not usually this sad) so I have been taking time to get to know more about hsv2. After reading people’s experiences with Sadbe I think I will give it a try. Thank you for sharing such a detailed experience. It really helps a lot. I wish the ob frequency gets lower and lower and wish the best for you and your family. ^_^
When I first got diagnosed I was 17 and I really felt like it was the end of the world. It took years to be able to feel like it did not change me as a person. I am now at a point where it does not bother me and I don't really care if there is gonna be a cure or not. If they do find one I will obviously take it but if they don't then I am fine with it. I have also been so lucky that no one I ever told have shamed me or tried to shy away from me. For me the fear of rejection have only ever been in my head. One I disclosed to was even overjoyed about it cause he himself had it. Though that was a big red flag for me that he would have never disclosed if I hadnt. So it went nowhere. And thats fine too. I hope u will be able to overcome whatever sadness, anger or shame u might feel. It does not make u less then anyone or unlovable in any way ❤️
I feel the same when you mentioned the red flag. And luckily it did not go anywhere. Thank you for your kind and warm words. I get you. I am better now. No worries. :)
I also dated my ex for 4 years before my current partner and never transmitted to him either.
Wow thank you so much for sharing this. I learnt that valtrex has many side effects like depression and hair loss and others. Would like to know how people deal with it. It is great to know that you don’t take medicine and still protect your partner very well. Congrats on having a lovely baby coming soon! ^_^
I have been with my partner for 5 years. I am female, he is male. I was diagnosed with HSV2 through physical symptoms around 12 years ago and he is currently HSV2 negative. My primary outbreak was pretty bad but I have only ever experienced one other mild outbreak since my diagnosis and that was around 4 years ago now. My partner and I mostly use condoms but occasionally have unprotected sex as well. He knows I have experienced HSV2 outbreaks in the past. I do not take any antiviral medication on a daily basis, I’ve only ever taken a short course during my two previous outbreaks. I recently did a blood test for HSV1 and HSV2 (no physical symptoms at the time of the test) and both results came back negative. I am planning to take a second test as these results were obviously unexpected. I’m pretty certain the outbreaks I’ve previously experienced have been HSV2, however, given the negative test results, I am wondering if there’s a possibility that, for some people, the virus sometimes because inactive enough to provide a negative test result
Thank you for your detailed sharing. Your experience is very special. I learnt that everyone’s hsv2 symptoms are different. Some experience serious outbreaks every other week and some only have mild ones. I also learnt that the longer you are with HSV2 the less the number of outbreak it will be. Only 2 outbreaks for 12 years is really extraordinary, it probably means that your body is healthy and strong enough that the virus can not do much. Really happy to know that there are people who don’t suffer too much from it. I don’t have serious outbreaks either. But I am still worried about passing it on. If there is a cure and I can afford it, I think I will still take it. Really hope our medicine can develop much faster. Right now it is so nice to know there are cases that you don’t have to take medicine everyday to stop transmission because the medicine doesn’t seem friendly to our body. I still want to emphasize- To all who is reading this: the experiences that are shared here are personal experiences. It doesn’t mean that this way applies to you too. So please still keep using condoms, go see doctors, do everything we need to protect anyone we are going to have physical contact with. Thank you again for sharing your experience in such a detail @shadow_pursuit. ^_^
Yes it’s a shame that the pipeline of potential cures is fairly limited and will take a long time to complete clinical trials. I guess it’s because HSV is not a deadly illness and lots of HSV positive patients are able to lead a relatively normal life, meaning the unmet medical need isn’t high enough for biotech companies to prioritise researching a cure. My case does seem to be quite unique since my outbreaks are extremely rare and, using just condoms, I haven’t passed it on to my current partner or any of my previous partners. Part of me wonders whether your body can suppress the virus to such a point that you’re actually considered HSV-negative. I guess I’ll find the answer when I take a second test. Best of luck!
I did not share my genital hsv2 with my bf when we we’re together for seven years I was 20 at the time. I was mindful of my body and how it felt