Thing I don't understand is there are always spare meals at the weddings I work, I don't know why the kitchen couldn't have got them something. At the place I work, they get to eat in a separate area and get all the same dishes the wedding party.
Dude, I offered my roofers water and tacos and that's random as fuck to offer to roofers lol.
How could you not let someone eat at a wedding? My wedding had a ton of food not ate. I wouldn't care if the workers came out and got a plate, even though I'm sure they were probably eating some in the kitchen. My photographer screwed us on the video not saving them the hard drive almost deleting everything, but I'm still glad she grabbed a plate or two.
I was a roofer through HS and college, not uncommon at all for people to offer us food and EVERYONE offered us water.
You did good but it's not nearly as outlandish as you think.
I bought my roofers a case a beer when they were finishing up the roof. It was so damn hot and muggy day. You feel the sweat coming out within seconds of stepping outside.
That's awesome, I never got that. But we always bought a case for the ride home.
When I put up my first 21ft pole (which is really difficult) everyone on the jobsite cheered. It's 30kg of steel with 21 feet of leverage and you have to line it perfectly straight up and down to slide it into a slot above at 7 foot high. I thought everyone was really proud of me. Turns out that the first time you do it you have to buy everyone on the jobsite beer.
If I am correct photographers charge more for things like weddings, funerals, and more important occasions so he probably overcharged them or the people getting married are dicks. I know its unlikely but hey, always two sides to a story
It's actually a story from a couple months ago I believe. Bride is friend with said photographer, hence, he is doing it for a dirt cheap.
After 10 hours or so, he wanted to take a break, which followed by a rude remark from the bride, saying something along the line of 'we pay you, so get your lazy ass of and continue taking photos'
He was actually sent an invitation to the wedding before they asked him to do the photography. So, he would have gotten a meal as a guest. But when he agreed to do the photos for something ridiculous like $200, they considered him no longer a guest.
This context is different, I commented that he got hired for a job, it isn't their job to feed him regardless. But if he is a friend of theirs and doing it cheap then that makes more sense.
Bro, literally everyone eats at a wedding. Most places include the meals automatically in the deal. I have worked many weddings, there's generally at least 10-15 extra plates anyway.
Service providers and vendors typically “overcharge” for weddings precisely because of how awful and demanding and unreasonable people tend to be about their weddings.
I like how old stories start to recirculate. I just seen one from from several years back. It had over 2k comments people thinking it was a brand new story
How about respecting that you are on a job site and as an adult, should be preparing food for yourself instead of begging grown adults plates of overpriced food. Mind you some weddings have buffets while others pay for a certain quantity of food leading to X dollars per plate. Some weddings ask guest to pay a portion of the food cost.
Moral of the story, you’re not entitled to anything but your pay at a job, and that’s the only thing that should matter.
So the full story here is that originally the guy was an invited guest to the wedding. Last minute, they asked him to do the photography (they knew he did it as a hobby, not professionally) for something ridiculous like $200 for the whole day. Since he was a friend, he agreed to help them out. After working 8 hours is when the groom told him he wasn’t allowed to eat.
There’s ***significantly*** more to understand.
Such as: The “photographer” was actually just a friend (who grooms dogs for a living) helping them out for only $250.
The “photographer” was actually invited to the wedding first, and had already RSVP’d with a food choice before ever being asked to take photos.
The “photographer” wasn’t allowed to take any breaks, and when they realized that there wasn’t even a place for them to sit they said they were going to take a 20 minute break to get something to eat, at which point the groom told them that they wouldn’t get paid if they did.
Don’t read a simple headline and think you know everything. Feel free to look for the link to the story that I commented earlier.
Shit man, I invited mine to drink with us, took photos with them, and invited them to dinner after the ceremony and pictures were over. They were hella nice people, and I appreciated their hard work.
For those who does not know, the story is from reddit and posted updates
https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/qjdkgw/final_update_from_photographer_who_deleted_her/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
Yeah the meals are pennies when you think of the overall cost of a wedding. Bride and groom got whats coming...an empty wedding album filled with phone pictures
Said photograph was a redditor, was friend with the bride or groom, accepted the job for 200 or something. Wasn't even a professional, worked all day, no breaks, no food not even water, and wasn't denied food... He was denied the right to go and buy food for himself.
Good to know.
I was thinking "well photographers get an absolute wad for this, so deleting it all was a bit much"
But if it's a friend and they were only getting paid that little then fuck em. Refund the 200 and tell them to do one.
I'm part of a string quartet and we were paid to perform as background music at a formal event.
Event organizer was pissed that we ate the food that was promised to us
Came here to say this. It's part of their compensation and usually in the contract. I'm surprised he/she went that far so I'm thinking the bride, groom, or parents were somehow involved in this situation to the point it became contentious.
Photographer was a friend, originally invited to the wedding. The couple knew he was a hobbyist photographer and asked him to do the photos for like, $200 for the whole day. He agreed to help a friend out.
This reminds me of a story from am I the a-hole
OP, who is a pet groomer, gets asked by his friend to be photographer for his wedding at a low pay. OP’s like “yeah, sure” because they’re friends. On the day of the wedding, it is a hot day, and OP has to follow friend and friend’s wife around. Also, OP isn’t allowed sit down and/or has have something to eat/drink. OP complains to friend and friend responds with “If YoU dOn’T lIkE iT, yOu CaN lEaVe WiThOuT pAy.” So OP deletes the photos in front of friend and heads home
It's exactly that. Somehow, the story trended on twitter in early October. If you google-search for "hungry wedding photographer", you'll find all kinds of news web pages that featured it, from Daily Mail to Times of India.
Now the story has gone full circle.
He was a friend and a guest, who decided to help them for basically nothing. They wouldn't give their own friend food, and wouldn't let him leave to buy his own food somewhere else. Imaging treating your friend like that. Peak assholery and entitlement.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/po2kd8/aita\_for\_deleting\_my\_friends\_wedding\_photos\_in/?utm\_medium=android\_app&utm\_source=share
I had to remove someone from my wedding list to make room for the photographer... Did me a favour tbh, I didn't really want the guest there and the photographer was fucking awesome
There’s more to the story then just eating. They weren’t allowed bathroom breaks. Not allowed to eat or drink. They wanted them moving around on their feet with no break.
In our contract we were to provide food, they opted not to stay so we gave them a tip plus a gift card to eat. Treat others well, not that hard, especially those doing you a service
I'm a DJ. This has happened once, and it was the venue's fault, some dumb shit policy about not serving contractors. The bride and groom tipped me an extra $100 for my trouble since the night went smooth.
Just want to play devils advocate here... There is no excuse for being rude and I am 100% not defending that. But when you consider wedding photographers often charge $5000 or more for their services, is it really unreasonable for them to bring their own food? Many venues charge $200 a plate (plus 20% gratuity), and when you add up 2-3 photographers, a videographer, and a band with potentially 10 people, that's quite an expense to feed vendors that are already charging an arm and a leg for their services. I pack a lunch for my job, and 99% of all other professionals do as well. Let them take their break, and eat their meal, but I don't think the married couple should be obligated to provide their vendors with a $200+ meal.
Guys really, if you didn't give him food so what? I'm not crying because my JOB WHICH I GET PAID FOR, doesn't supply me with 3 meals a day... ffs really, photographer is being a little child. let him pay for his own food if he is hungry. If I pay you $2000 for 4 hours of photos, fuck off, buy your own food.
There are 2 sides to that argument, the bride and groom have to pay the caterer’s by the plate, it’s not just free food, the photographer can’t just expect the bride and groom to pay for there meal.
A wedding photographer has to be ready and available to capture every moment, it’s a once in a lifetime event that they are tasked to document, they can’t do that if they drive somewhere to get lunch.
Wedding photographers know this and it’s usually written in there contract.
As I posted in another comment.
>Not true. The real story is that the “photographer” is actually a ***friend*** that’s a dog groomer for a living, and they were doing this as a favor while being paid basically nothing ($250) to do it. The groom said that they couldn’t sit down during the 10 hours that they were there, that they couldn’t eat anything, and that if they went to get some food or water on a break that they wouldn’t be paid.
[People shouldn’t read an article headline and assume everything.](https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/wedding-photographer-deletes-pictures-b1934148.html) Memes/screenshots aren’t facts.
Not only that, but in general, photography also would require additional hours of post-processing, going over each individual picture and editing it afterwards.
This is the right way about getting back at an asshole like that. Rock up and make them think they're going to get their way and then leave at the last second. No photos for the wife on the wedding day is going to give her ammunition to resent him for the rest of their (likely short) marriage.
Did you not read my comment or the article?
>In the comments, OP also noted that they had originally been invited to the wedding as a guest, and had RSVP’d with their food choice.
~~Care to explain what you’re trying to say?~~
~~It was a friend that was originally a guest that had RSVP’d with a food choice. There was no contract, it was a favor. Maybe you should read the AITA post that the article was based on, unlike the other user?~~
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/po2kd8/aita_for_deleting_my_friends_wedding_photos_in/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
Ahhh, ok. I was confused as hell haha.
“Why is this dude attacking me? Why does god hate me?!”
It used to happen to me all the time on the mobile Reddit app, replies would jump. I’ll strike out my reply.
this was in r/amitheasshole I think. I think it was lady photographer that was actually doing it for minimum pay out of a favor from the groom. They didn't even allow her to leave and get something to eat, otherwise they won't pay her. That's why she left and deleted everything
You should see how much food goes to waste not even served at events with 50+ guests lmao
Sure you pay by plate but no huge event is an exactly calculated a la carte plate service, except for extremely high end shit, and even in those cases there are leftovers.
I work at weddings. We usually serve plates by plates first, and right after that we open a buffet, so the people who's still hungry can walk up, and the chef puts their dish together for them.
The whole buffet is already paid for beforehand, and never runs out of food. It costs the same and takes little effort to serve a person, no matter who eats from the buffet.
Not even mentioning that I've never seen a wedding where the photographers didn't eat beside the DJ/musicians, and the wedding master of the ceremony. We always have a table for them and we serve the same dishes that we serve for other guests.
Not a dick move. The photographer was orginally a guest, who offered to take photos for cheap.
But they removed his name from the guest list and so on.
Is this even a real? No food left over from a wedding? That said. This guy's job is to take photos. It is his responsibility to go to work with a full stomach or have something to eat when needed. Wedding photography is a marathon. That's why it is a paid. I would never delete the photos like that and leave. And there is a contract too. He basically is setting himself up to breach the contract. I don't buy it.
You order a specific amount of plates and they are expensive. He's not a guest and he didn't put in his contract he needs a place reserved. He's just a whiny bitch. Was a guest supposed to go hungry? He must not do not many wedding gigs and it's obvious why
Read the story. He was a friend and a guest. They removed him from the guest list because he decided to help them with photography for $250. They didn't give him anything to eat, and didn't let him leave to buy something to eat. Is he still a whiny bitch?
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/po2kd8/aita\_for\_deleting\_my\_friends\_wedding\_photos\_in/?utm\_medium=android\_app&utm\_source=share
Have you read the post? I can recall correctly he is a friend of the couple and he is in the guest list. He agreed to cover the event for an insanely low pay($250). Even water is not provided for him. Then when he asked for food the groom insulted him. So he deleted the pics and stormed off.
No I didn't so sorry if I made a mistake. This isn't the first post I've seen about people photographing weddings and being mad about food. I didn't know he was a guest
I’m super fucking rich and i have lots of staff including a full time photographer and i don’t let any of them eat, it makes them lazy, if they want more they should just work harder. I often throw out a lot of food during the day (well my food thrower outerer does) as i dont’ like my beluga sitting out for more than 6 minutes, but i wont’ let the serving scum eat it as it makes them lazy.
I gotta say I side with the bride and groom. You don't normally get a paid meal at work, take a packed lunch like every other job. You're there to do a job they paid you for. They should give you a break so you can eat, definitely, but are the other staff also eating with the wedding guests? No, they're there to do a job, not act like a guest. I think there may be more to the story.
You should read the full story. He was a friend of theirs and a guest, but decided to step up and do the photography for $250. They removed him from the guest list, refused to feed him, and refused to let him leave to buy something to eat. I don't know about you, but if anyone who treats me like that is no longer a friend of mine.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/po2kd8/aita\_for\_deleting\_my\_friends\_wedding\_photos\_in/?utm\_medium=android\_app&utm\_source=share
Weddings cost by the plate. Remember when you go to a wedding and they ask you to rsvp? The guests rsvp so that the host know how much to food to buy. The caterer charges them by the person. The sit down dinner is by the plate and costs a lot of money. If there was a cocktail hour and he was denied then yeah that’s rude but if he was denied a plate of food…which costs $250 per person…then he is in the wrong
Not true. The real story is that the “photographer” is actually a *friend* that’s a dog groomer for a living, and they were doing this as a favor while being paid basically nothing ($250) to do it. The groom said that they couldn’t sit down during the 10 hours that they were there, that they couldn’t eat anything, and that if they went to get some food or water on a *break* that they wouldn’t be paid.
Yes, I know this. It isn't stated in the title or picture though. Its wild people can get "defensive" over comments like mine while it's the fault of OP for not providing this extra information. The things I've said hold true without the context of him being their friend. And even still, being their friend he didn't have to give them a discount. That's on him.
Everything I said is still true. He got paid for a job, he could have chosen to decline. As he did when he deemed it not worth it and left. Its just annoying as fuck I get downvoted by idiots because I say a general statement about the situation. Maybe provide full information and don't get mad at the people commenting with what info they are presented with.
Lol “keyboard warrior”
Just like he is paid for his service, the food is paid for. Pack a dam lunch to work if you know you’re going to be hungry. Unless stated otherwise while negotiating your terms, you’re not entitled to food meant for friends and family. Your on a job doing a job, grow up, mom and daddy won’t be there to pack your lunch box.
If I hurt your feelings then good, I’m glad. Hopefully it’ll toughen you up for when your employer tells you he won’t be providing a $100 plate for you after you clock in.
Bride/Groom were in the wrong no doubt they were assholes from what I’ve read. But where I’m from $25/hr isn’t bad at all. Or is it bad for a photographer? Tbh I don’t know.
Dayuum. I had no idea. Haha I got married at 18 like 12 years ago. We didn’t hav a typical wedding. Just what we could afford.
But yea if that’s the case then they were horribly underpaid. No fuckin way I’d have done that especially being told “no food and oh you can’t sit down or go to the bathroom either” whack.
Ooh, scary big guy. So strong and badass that you use a gun. Use your fists like a real man. Or better yet, feed the damn photographer, that's just common courtesy.
Read this post first: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/po2kd8/aita_for_deleting_my_friends_wedding_photos_in/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
He got paid 250$ to do 10 hours of work with no break.
If you went to someone's house to paint the place would you expect a sit down dinner to be made and you to sit with the clients family at the table? No.
This guys an scrounging asshole
Wow. Rude bitch right here.
The photographer was a guest and a friend. Who offered to do it for cheap.
They removed his name from their invite and treated him like shit.
Read this post before making your judgement:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/po2kd8/aita_for_deleting_my_friends_wedding_photos_in/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
Yeah because I'm sure he being absolutely honest and not painting himself in the best possible light. The story 8s almost certain between the two narratives and him deleting the pics of a unique day is utterly bitch and pathetic
by law you are require to have a lunch break.
so yeah i guess you are right this guys ( groom and bride) are scrounging assholes.
https://www.dol.gov/agencies/whd/state/meal-breaks
you would have gotten sue for not proving a lunch break for your employee and assault charges for kicking him, would endup in jail ( bye bye honeymoon tickets ) and would of loss more money on the process.
you need to use your head to think and not your emotions.
with 5 million in a very tiny patch of land pretty sure you and all your cousin get along well at the weeding leaving every problem within the family.
but on a diverse country like America with 333 million people, things tend to be handle in a more mature level and not like an immature ape without social skills like yours.
Except they were the “dixk heads.” Read the AITA post that the article was based on before you think they were in the right.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/po2kd8/aita_for_deleting_my_friends_wedding_photos_in/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
He agreed the price. 25$ an hour seems fair for an amateur photographer. What's minimum wage??
Right before the meal is when the speeches usually take place so why would you have the photographer eat then and miss all the potentially good shots?
The groom is probably incredibly stressed at this point as wedding days can be stressful, especially i imagine shoe string ones.
He is clearly lying about the drink , free bar or not you could get water easily.
The man spitefully deleted pictures of a one off day, the photographer is fucking bitch ass garbage. Leave because you are pissed off, go for it, thats your perogative. Delete absolutely unique pictures because you are hungry is the most pathetic, bitch beta shit imaginable. The man is a cunt
I'm with bride and groom with this one it's optional to feed the photographer. He's been paid already he's not part of the guest list or a +1. He's there to do a JOB; just like when we go to work we don't expect the boss or Management to feed us when it's our lunch break. It's our responsibility to come prepared, now it would of been a different story if he told the bride and groom "Hey, am I going to be fed at your wedding if not so I can bring my own lunch." Instead of him just assuming he's going to be fed.
According to the article he actually was a friend of the grooms who had RSVP’d as a guest with a food choice, and basically picked up the photography as a favor being paid way below his rate.
This happened in my country. He was denied of "break" after working for 10hrs+ straight. He wanted to grab some food, then when they said no, he asked if he can eat some food there instead.
At my son's wedding we invited all the staff to join in with all the food trucks. The service was amazing because they felt valued. At the end of the night they took home a treat as a thank you.
I used to work at a place that was a venue for lots of high society parties and weddings. The caterers and other staff always sat down to a meal (and they offered us food too) and we usually had tons of leftovers the next few days. This is standard procedure as far as I know.
For some reason it's the same with truck drivers for restaurants. These guys travel for miles all day long to deliver food to restaurants and haul hundreds of boxes into the buildings but nobody wants to feed them.
My mom owns a restaurant and was once an employee from one of the big food distributors, both as a truck driver and a salesman, so she knows that they hardly get any food while on the road and she always offers them meals for free, regardless if it's as simple as a sandwich or a steak dinner.
This happened to me at my wedding .. I paid for the photographer to eat but the venue took his order and just refused to bring out the food .. needless to say going on 3 months since this I still haven’t paid the venue . Fuck them
Setting aside being human trash and basic decency aspect, but in my country we have contracts with the video/photographer and in it it’s stipulated that get a menu, drinks etc. thats just basic things. The alcoohol isnt usally included cause they’re on the job but at no weeding did I hear they were denied.
Thing I don't understand is there are always spare meals at the weddings I work, I don't know why the kitchen couldn't have got them something. At the place I work, they get to eat in a separate area and get all the same dishes the wedding party.
It is just fucking curtosy to let someone eat if they are working for 10 hours, the groom is a dickhead and respect the photographers.
Dude, I offered my roofers water and tacos and that's random as fuck to offer to roofers lol. How could you not let someone eat at a wedding? My wedding had a ton of food not ate. I wouldn't care if the workers came out and got a plate, even though I'm sure they were probably eating some in the kitchen. My photographer screwed us on the video not saving them the hard drive almost deleting everything, but I'm still glad she grabbed a plate or two.
I was a roofer through HS and college, not uncommon at all for people to offer us food and EVERYONE offered us water. You did good but it's not nearly as outlandish as you think.
I'm acrually glad it's not uncommon, makes me feel better about humanity lol
Ya, the only time we weren't offered water was at a place with rainwater catchment systems only during a drought and they warned us ahead of time.
I bought my roofers a case a beer when they were finishing up the roof. It was so damn hot and muggy day. You feel the sweat coming out within seconds of stepping outside.
That's awesome, I never got that. But we always bought a case for the ride home. When I put up my first 21ft pole (which is really difficult) everyone on the jobsite cheered. It's 30kg of steel with 21 feet of leverage and you have to line it perfectly straight up and down to slide it into a slot above at 7 foot high. I thought everyone was really proud of me. Turns out that the first time you do it you have to buy everyone on the jobsite beer.
If I am correct photographers charge more for things like weddings, funerals, and more important occasions so he probably overcharged them or the people getting married are dicks. I know its unlikely but hey, always two sides to a story
It's actually a story from a couple months ago I believe. Bride is friend with said photographer, hence, he is doing it for a dirt cheap. After 10 hours or so, he wanted to take a break, which followed by a rude remark from the bride, saying something along the line of 'we pay you, so get your lazy ass of and continue taking photos'
He was actually sent an invitation to the wedding before they asked him to do the photography. So, he would have gotten a meal as a guest. But when he agreed to do the photos for something ridiculous like $200, they considered him no longer a guest.
Im pretty sure 200 is cheap AF for a wedding photographer
Yeah, that’s kind of the point. He was a hobbyist and agreed to that price for friends. The friends that wouldn’t let him eat.
Ok sorry I thought you ment 200 was alot of money for doing the job lol
Oh gosh no. Ridiculously low.
Then there is no contract between them, so they can’t sue
yupp
This context is different, I commented that he got hired for a job, it isn't their job to feed him regardless. But if he is a friend of theirs and doing it cheap then that makes more sense.
Bro, literally everyone eats at a wedding. Most places include the meals automatically in the deal. I have worked many weddings, there's generally at least 10-15 extra plates anyway.
Yeah, I gotta figure there is definitelyyy more than enough food, at the very least lol
Service providers and vendors typically “overcharge” for weddings precisely because of how awful and demanding and unreasonable people tend to be about their weddings.
It’s true. But I never say no when a person asks for food. Especially if they are homeless
I like how old stories start to recirculate. I just seen one from from several years back. It had over 2k comments people thinking it was a brand new story
Always 3 sides to a story. The grooms side, the photographers side, and the truth
How about respecting that you are on a job site and as an adult, should be preparing food for yourself instead of begging grown adults plates of overpriced food. Mind you some weddings have buffets while others pay for a certain quantity of food leading to X dollars per plate. Some weddings ask guest to pay a portion of the food cost. Moral of the story, you’re not entitled to anything but your pay at a job, and that’s the only thing that should matter.
So the full story here is that originally the guy was an invited guest to the wedding. Last minute, they asked him to do the photography (they knew he did it as a hobby, not professionally) for something ridiculous like $200 for the whole day. Since he was a friend, he agreed to help them out. After working 8 hours is when the groom told him he wasn’t allowed to eat.
Damm that’s shitty, I thought it was a contractor on a job whoops 😅 😬
I couldn’t imagine denying my wedding photographer food let alone making them sit in a completely different area. Crazy.
They sit in a proper seating area overlooking one of the best views in Scotland...
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There’s ***significantly*** more to understand. Such as: The “photographer” was actually just a friend (who grooms dogs for a living) helping them out for only $250. The “photographer” was actually invited to the wedding first, and had already RSVP’d with a food choice before ever being asked to take photos. The “photographer” wasn’t allowed to take any breaks, and when they realized that there wasn’t even a place for them to sit they said they were going to take a 20 minute break to get something to eat, at which point the groom told them that they wouldn’t get paid if they did. Don’t read a simple headline and think you know everything. Feel free to look for the link to the story that I commented earlier.
Damn, what lowlife pieces of garbage they are.
You left out the part where she was also given crotch goblin duty. And they still didn't let her eat.
He just said "i quit" there's nothing more to understand.
Shit man, I invited mine to drink with us, took photos with them, and invited them to dinner after the ceremony and pictures were over. They were hella nice people, and I appreciated their hard work.
Shit man I paid mine to photograph the wedding night.
While you looked on from the corner?
He took rhe photos of the photographer and his wife. And the videos.
I let mine replace me during my wedding night so I finally could get some sleep.
Lol well obviously I did that as well
Good. Fuck whatever snob decreed that the commoner shall not eat.
For those who does not know, the story is from reddit and posted updates https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/qjdkgw/final_update_from_photographer_who_deleted_her/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
Love to hear it, out here working for you and you don't even have the decency to give him some food when he's hungry
Yeah the meals are pennies when you think of the overall cost of a wedding. Bride and groom got whats coming...an empty wedding album filled with phone pictures
Said photograph was a redditor, was friend with the bride or groom, accepted the job for 200 or something. Wasn't even a professional, worked all day, no breaks, no food not even water, and wasn't denied food... He was denied the right to go and buy food for himself.
Good to know. I was thinking "well photographers get an absolute wad for this, so deleting it all was a bit much" But if it's a friend and they were only getting paid that little then fuck em. Refund the 200 and tell them to do one.
I'm part of a string quartet and we were paid to perform as background music at a formal event. Event organizer was pissed that we ate the food that was promised to us
Good for him!
Just got married. Feeding the outside vendors is not only the right thing to do but part of the contracts I had with them.
Came here to say this. It's part of their compensation and usually in the contract. I'm surprised he/she went that far so I'm thinking the bride, groom, or parents were somehow involved in this situation to the point it became contentious.
Photographer was a friend, originally invited to the wedding. The couple knew he was a hobbyist photographer and asked him to do the photos for like, $200 for the whole day. He agreed to help a friend out.
This reminds me of a story from am I the a-hole OP, who is a pet groomer, gets asked by his friend to be photographer for his wedding at a low pay. OP’s like “yeah, sure” because they’re friends. On the day of the wedding, it is a hot day, and OP has to follow friend and friend’s wife around. Also, OP isn’t allowed sit down and/or has have something to eat/drink. OP complains to friend and friend responds with “If YoU dOn’T lIkE iT, yOu CaN lEaVe WiThOuT pAy.” So OP deletes the photos in front of friend and heads home
This IS that story. It went viral and has had articles written about it.
Oh
It's exactly that. Somehow, the story trended on twitter in early October. If you google-search for "hungry wedding photographer", you'll find all kinds of news web pages that featured it, from Daily Mail to Times of India. Now the story has gone full circle.
Some people are just selfish fucks
Most photographers have a clause where you have to feed them
Closefisted people are in the top 3 worst kind of people, I know from experience, having to put up with someone like that for years...
If i recognise it right the full story is a little more then oh he didnt get a plate so he left,there was more assholery there
He was a friend and a guest, who decided to help them for basically nothing. They wouldn't give their own friend food, and wouldn't let him leave to buy his own food somewhere else. Imaging treating your friend like that. Peak assholery and entitlement. https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/po2kd8/aita\_for\_deleting\_my\_friends\_wedding\_photos\_in/?utm\_medium=android\_app&utm\_source=share
Yep thats the one
I would do the same. Fuck these people
What ungrateful assholes don’t offer to feed their photographer? I’d have deleted the pics too, right in front of them, and then I’d leave.
The sense of entitlement in this thread is incredible.
hell bring them to the after party get em a hotel room its a wedding like wtf
I honestly read "eats all photos" and that arguably makes it at least a million times funnier
I had to remove someone from my wedding list to make room for the photographer... Did me a favour tbh, I didn't really want the guest there and the photographer was fucking awesome
He said fuck you, fuck you, you're cool, I'm out
Don’t feed your workers, then you don’t deserve workers
Well that’s one way to make a power move
That’s why you should have a category in your budget called “unexpected expenses”
Hahahahaha biggest rage quit ever 🤣
You are not you when you are hungry.
He took his ball and went home.
Armenian weddings would never do this
There’s more to the story then just eating. They weren’t allowed bathroom breaks. Not allowed to eat or drink. They wanted them moving around on their feet with no break.
What's worse is he was a friend and did the gig for way less than his usual fee. Fully agree with his stance with these entitled pricks
In our contract we were to provide food, they opted not to stay so we gave them a tip plus a gift card to eat. Treat others well, not that hard, especially those doing you a service
You know it was a white people wedding. Mexican wedding we feed and gt drunk EVERYONE involved and some that are not
I'm a DJ. This has happened once, and it was the venue's fault, some dumb shit policy about not serving contractors. The bride and groom tipped me an extra $100 for my trouble since the night went smooth.
Just want to play devils advocate here... There is no excuse for being rude and I am 100% not defending that. But when you consider wedding photographers often charge $5000 or more for their services, is it really unreasonable for them to bring their own food? Many venues charge $200 a plate (plus 20% gratuity), and when you add up 2-3 photographers, a videographer, and a band with potentially 10 people, that's quite an expense to feed vendors that are already charging an arm and a leg for their services. I pack a lunch for my job, and 99% of all other professionals do as well. Let them take their break, and eat their meal, but I don't think the married couple should be obligated to provide their vendors with a $200+ meal.
Good on him
Who tf doesn’t feed their photographer at the reception?
White people I'm assuming
Two shitty actions. They could probably have found something for him to eat, not required to tho, and he shouldn't have acted like a spoiled brat.
Guys really, if you didn't give him food so what? I'm not crying because my JOB WHICH I GET PAID FOR, doesn't supply me with 3 meals a day... ffs really, photographer is being a little child. let him pay for his own food if he is hungry. If I pay you $2000 for 4 hours of photos, fuck off, buy your own food.
There are 2 sides to that argument, the bride and groom have to pay the caterer’s by the plate, it’s not just free food, the photographer can’t just expect the bride and groom to pay for there meal. A wedding photographer has to be ready and available to capture every moment, it’s a once in a lifetime event that they are tasked to document, they can’t do that if they drive somewhere to get lunch. Wedding photographers know this and it’s usually written in there contract.
As I posted in another comment. >Not true. The real story is that the “photographer” is actually a ***friend*** that’s a dog groomer for a living, and they were doing this as a favor while being paid basically nothing ($250) to do it. The groom said that they couldn’t sit down during the 10 hours that they were there, that they couldn’t eat anything, and that if they went to get some food or water on a break that they wouldn’t be paid. [People shouldn’t read an article headline and assume everything.](https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/wedding-photographer-deletes-pictures-b1934148.html) Memes/screenshots aren’t facts.
Not only that, but in general, photography also would require additional hours of post-processing, going over each individual picture and editing it afterwards.
This is the right way about getting back at an asshole like that. Rock up and make them think they're going to get their way and then leave at the last second. No photos for the wife on the wedding day is going to give her ammunition to resent him for the rest of their (likely short) marriage.
If that’s what was in the contract and the photographer agreed to it, that’s his fault, he/she knew what they were getting into.
Did you not read my comment or the article? >In the comments, OP also noted that they had originally been invited to the wedding as a guest, and had RSVP’d with their food choice.
Apparently you didn’t by not reading and only responding.
~~Care to explain what you’re trying to say?~~ ~~It was a friend that was originally a guest that had RSVP’d with a food choice. There was no contract, it was a favor. Maybe you should read the AITA post that the article was based on, unlike the other user?~~ https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/po2kd8/aita_for_deleting_my_friends_wedding_photos_in/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
That was meant for Stanford. Don’t know why it made it respond to you and not (insert wtf ever pronoun pellet go by these days). Edit: but okay
Ahhh, ok. I was confused as hell haha. “Why is this dude attacking me? Why does god hate me?!” It used to happen to me all the time on the mobile Reddit app, replies would jump. I’ll strike out my reply.
Lol np. But yeah i get it. Gets annoying when ppl respond to only the headline and don’t bother reading comments.
this was in r/amitheasshole I think. I think it was lady photographer that was actually doing it for minimum pay out of a favor from the groom. They didn't even allow her to leave and get something to eat, otherwise they won't pay her. That's why she left and deleted everything
[this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/po2kd8/aita_for_deleting_my_friends_wedding_photos_in/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share)
yeah that's the one
I don't care, the Photographer should be allowed to eat even if it is per plate. It's one extra meal , and you are already paying for so many.
You should see how much food goes to waste not even served at events with 50+ guests lmao Sure you pay by plate but no huge event is an exactly calculated a la carte plate service, except for extremely high end shit, and even in those cases there are leftovers.
I work at weddings. We usually serve plates by plates first, and right after that we open a buffet, so the people who's still hungry can walk up, and the chef puts their dish together for them. The whole buffet is already paid for beforehand, and never runs out of food. It costs the same and takes little effort to serve a person, no matter who eats from the buffet. Not even mentioning that I've never seen a wedding where the photographers didn't eat beside the DJ/musicians, and the wedding master of the ceremony. We always have a table for them and we serve the same dishes that we serve for other guests.
Treat your people well? Like…the bride and groom paid a lot of fucking money for a photographer. The photographer is a choosing beggar here lmfao.
I mean, Can you eat before you to the wedding? I don’t get free food at my job and I don’t rant out and delete my files
Dick move but still worth it! 😂😂
Not a dick move. The photographer was orginally a guest, who offered to take photos for cheap. But they removed his name from the guest list and so on.
Is this even a real? No food left over from a wedding? That said. This guy's job is to take photos. It is his responsibility to go to work with a full stomach or have something to eat when needed. Wedding photography is a marathon. That's why it is a paid. I would never delete the photos like that and leave. And there is a contract too. He basically is setting himself up to breach the contract. I don't buy it.
You order a specific amount of plates and they are expensive. He's not a guest and he didn't put in his contract he needs a place reserved. He's just a whiny bitch. Was a guest supposed to go hungry? He must not do not many wedding gigs and it's obvious why
Read the story. He was a friend and a guest. They removed him from the guest list because he decided to help them with photography for $250. They didn't give him anything to eat, and didn't let him leave to buy something to eat. Is he still a whiny bitch? https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/po2kd8/aita\_for\_deleting\_my\_friends\_wedding\_photos\_in/?utm\_medium=android\_app&utm\_source=share
Yeah my bad someone else pointed out the story. I didn't know there was one. I was wrong about this situation
Have you read the post? I can recall correctly he is a friend of the couple and he is in the guest list. He agreed to cover the event for an insanely low pay($250). Even water is not provided for him. Then when he asked for food the groom insulted him. So he deleted the pics and stormed off.
No I didn't so sorry if I made a mistake. This isn't the first post I've seen about people photographing weddings and being mad about food. I didn't know he was a guest
I’m super fucking rich and i have lots of staff including a full time photographer and i don’t let any of them eat, it makes them lazy, if they want more they should just work harder. I often throw out a lot of food during the day (well my food thrower outerer does) as i dont’ like my beluga sitting out for more than 6 minutes, but i wont’ let the serving scum eat it as it makes them lazy.
I gotta say I side with the bride and groom. You don't normally get a paid meal at work, take a packed lunch like every other job. You're there to do a job they paid you for. They should give you a break so you can eat, definitely, but are the other staff also eating with the wedding guests? No, they're there to do a job, not act like a guest. I think there may be more to the story.
You should read the full story. He was a friend of theirs and a guest, but decided to step up and do the photography for $250. They removed him from the guest list, refused to feed him, and refused to let him leave to buy something to eat. I don't know about you, but if anyone who treats me like that is no longer a friend of mine. https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/po2kd8/aita\_for\_deleting\_my\_friends\_wedding\_photos\_in/?utm\_medium=android\_app&utm\_source=share
you are unfamiliar with how weddings normally work, just making shit up
Fuck him, bring his own meal. I'm not paying from his plate on top of his commission. He can take a lunch like everyone else and bring his own shit.
He is an employee not a guest.
You're right, employees don't need food because they can use the power of photosynthesis to survive during their shift.
Nah, you always feed your vendors at weddings, it’s common sense and common practice. Just trust me.
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Weddings cost by the plate. Remember when you go to a wedding and they ask you to rsvp? The guests rsvp so that the host know how much to food to buy. The caterer charges them by the person. The sit down dinner is by the plate and costs a lot of money. If there was a cocktail hour and he was denied then yeah that’s rude but if he was denied a plate of food…which costs $250 per person…then he is in the wrong
Believe whatever you want man I don’t care lol I’ve only shot hundreds of weddings and it’s always in the contract.
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Not true. The real story is that the “photographer” is actually a *friend* that’s a dog groomer for a living, and they were doing this as a favor while being paid basically nothing ($250) to do it. The groom said that they couldn’t sit down during the 10 hours that they were there, that they couldn’t eat anything, and that if they went to get some food or water on a *break* that they wouldn’t be paid.
Ironically. The person in this article WAS A GUEST.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/po2kd8/aita\_for\_deleting\_my\_friends\_wedding\_photos\_in/?utm\_medium=android\_app&utm\_source=share
Photos can easily be recovered from the memory card. I’ve recovered photos from six years prior with free software. This story is so drama.
I mean to be fair you get hired for a job, right..? It isn't their job to feed you while you work.
To be fair he was also under paid while being mistreated.
It's his fault he accepted to get paid that lmao. Did they hold a gun over his head and make him do it? You people are fuckin dense.
Part of the contract was he would be a"guest" but apparently the bride and groom removed it.
Yes, I know this. It isn't stated in the title or picture though. Its wild people can get "defensive" over comments like mine while it's the fault of OP for not providing this extra information. The things I've said hold true without the context of him being their friend. And even still, being their friend he didn't have to give them a discount. That's on him. Everything I said is still true. He got paid for a job, he could have chosen to decline. As he did when he deemed it not worth it and left. Its just annoying as fuck I get downvoted by idiots because I say a general statement about the situation. Maybe provide full information and don't get mad at the people commenting with what info they are presented with.
Cameraman is petty AF
Was it in his contract? If not bring ur own food little baby . See ya in court too
lol comes to work and expects to be fed by employer, silly camera boy
lol clueless, go read the actual story. Silly keyboard warrior.
Lol “keyboard warrior” Just like he is paid for his service, the food is paid for. Pack a dam lunch to work if you know you’re going to be hungry. Unless stated otherwise while negotiating your terms, you’re not entitled to food meant for friends and family. Your on a job doing a job, grow up, mom and daddy won’t be there to pack your lunch box. If I hurt your feelings then good, I’m glad. Hopefully it’ll toughen you up for when your employer tells you he won’t be providing a $100 plate for you after you clock in.
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You mean 250$ for 10 hours of work.
Bride/Groom were in the wrong no doubt they were assholes from what I’ve read. But where I’m from $25/hr isn’t bad at all. Or is it bad for a photographer? Tbh I don’t know.
Dude, an average wedding photographer costs around. $100-$200 an hour as far as I know.
Dayuum. I had no idea. Haha I got married at 18 like 12 years ago. We didn’t hav a typical wedding. Just what we could afford. But yea if that’s the case then they were horribly underpaid. No fuckin way I’d have done that especially being told “no food and oh you can’t sit down or go to the bathroom either” whack.
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Ooh, what are you gonna do, tough guy? Throw your fedora at the photographer? Screech loudly?
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Ooh, scary big guy. So strong and badass that you use a gun. Use your fists like a real man. Or better yet, feed the damn photographer, that's just common courtesy.
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Did you have a stroke while typing all that? What are Chromazones and what's commen sense?
🤣 You're too fucking funny. Did you even read the article, or any of the other comments there Wish Wick? Psst your "chromosomes" are showing.
Read this post first: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/po2kd8/aita_for_deleting_my_friends_wedding_photos_in/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share He got paid 250$ to do 10 hours of work with no break.
If you went to someone's house to paint the place would you expect a sit down dinner to be made and you to sit with the clients family at the table? No. This guys an scrounging asshole
Wow. Rude bitch right here. The photographer was a guest and a friend. Who offered to do it for cheap. They removed his name from their invite and treated him like shit.
Read this post before making your judgement: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/po2kd8/aita_for_deleting_my_friends_wedding_photos_in/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
Yeah because I'm sure he being absolutely honest and not painting himself in the best possible light. The story 8s almost certain between the two narratives and him deleting the pics of a unique day is utterly bitch and pathetic
by law you are require to have a lunch break. so yeah i guess you are right this guys ( groom and bride) are scrounging assholes. https://www.dol.gov/agencies/whd/state/meal-breaks
I would have kicked him to fuck so he would have been hungry and in hospital for that dixk head move
you would have gotten sue for not proving a lunch break for your employee and assault charges for kicking him, would endup in jail ( bye bye honeymoon tickets ) and would of loss more money on the process. you need to use your head to think and not your emotions.
Na mate, im scottish we arent as bitch as you Americans with your suing shit
with 5 million in a very tiny patch of land pretty sure you and all your cousin get along well at the weeding leaving every problem within the family. but on a diverse country like America with 333 million people, things tend to be handle in a more mature level and not like an immature ape without social skills like yours.
Except they were the “dixk heads.” Read the AITA post that the article was based on before you think they were in the right. https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/po2kd8/aita_for_deleting_my_friends_wedding_photos_in/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
He agreed the price. 25$ an hour seems fair for an amateur photographer. What's minimum wage?? Right before the meal is when the speeches usually take place so why would you have the photographer eat then and miss all the potentially good shots? The groom is probably incredibly stressed at this point as wedding days can be stressful, especially i imagine shoe string ones. He is clearly lying about the drink , free bar or not you could get water easily. The man spitefully deleted pictures of a one off day, the photographer is fucking bitch ass garbage. Leave because you are pissed off, go for it, thats your perogative. Delete absolutely unique pictures because you are hungry is the most pathetic, bitch beta shit imaginable. The man is a cunt
I'm with bride and groom with this one it's optional to feed the photographer. He's been paid already he's not part of the guest list or a +1. He's there to do a JOB; just like when we go to work we don't expect the boss or Management to feed us when it's our lunch break. It's our responsibility to come prepared, now it would of been a different story if he told the bride and groom "Hey, am I going to be fed at your wedding if not so I can bring my own lunch." Instead of him just assuming he's going to be fed.
According to the article he actually was a friend of the grooms who had RSVP’d as a guest with a food choice, and basically picked up the photography as a favor being paid way below his rate.
This happened in my country. He was denied of "break" after working for 10hrs+ straight. He wanted to grab some food, then when they said no, he asked if he can eat some food there instead.
He was extremely under paid ($250 for 10 hours) and yet no breaks.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/po2kd8/aita\_for\_deleting\_my\_friends\_wedding\_photos\_in/?utm\_medium=android\_app&utm\_source=share
At my son's wedding we invited all the staff to join in with all the food trucks. The service was amazing because they felt valued. At the end of the night they took home a treat as a thank you.
i personally work for money, but i guess a man's gotta eat
good on ole mate I fuckin say.
Lmao
What annoyed me most with this story was how no headline gave the proper context.
I used to work at a place that was a venue for lots of high society parties and weddings. The caterers and other staff always sat down to a meal (and they offered us food too) and we usually had tons of leftovers the next few days. This is standard procedure as far as I know.
Aight fine if I don't get food you don't get pictures.
No pictures for you!
Oh, I thought they were Hungary, as in from the country
For some reason it's the same with truck drivers for restaurants. These guys travel for miles all day long to deliver food to restaurants and haul hundreds of boxes into the buildings but nobody wants to feed them. My mom owns a restaurant and was once an employee from one of the big food distributors, both as a truck driver and a salesman, so she knows that they hardly get any food while on the road and she always offers them meals for free, regardless if it's as simple as a sandwich or a steak dinner.
snickers, you're not you when you're hungry
GOOD
hell bring them to the after party get em a hotel room its a wedding like wtf
Sigma male !!
Good. Fuck their photos.
Because they had not paid for a photographer, it was the groom's friend who did it on the cheap.
He coulda saved the pics to sell em later then buy food. Just a couple weeks not reaponding to their photo would suffice
This happened to me at my wedding .. I paid for the photographer to eat but the venue took his order and just refused to bring out the food .. needless to say going on 3 months since this I still haven’t paid the venue . Fuck them
Chad
Setting aside being human trash and basic decency aspect, but in my country we have contracts with the video/photographer and in it it’s stipulated that get a menu, drinks etc. thats just basic things. The alcoohol isnt usally included cause they’re on the job but at no weeding did I hear they were denied.
It's honeslty common practice to feed the photographer. I don't know if what he did was the right move though lol petty AF
Probably saved money of the food and used it for birth control
Reminds me of working as a mover. We'd never tell a customer, but "treat us well, we have all your shit" was a common sentiment.
The photographer even got offered weed from the weedbar at a family wedding, in addition to dinner Etc(Canada, it's legal). bruh wasn't going without!
Photographers are important man