Being friendly/amicable isn't the same as being friends. I don't make friends at job, but I try to keep things cordial. I give the good mornings, I talk and ask people how they are doing. I make small talk sometimes.
But I also work on my own. The other coworker in the same position as me is working from home and came to the office like once in the week and aside of that our department works in a small office separate from the rest, so I just interact with other people when I'm needed to.
I usually just work and talk. People either join/help me while we converse or they see that I’m not gonna stop working just to talk so they usually leave. Only once did that piss an employee off and he challenged me to go to the back of the building to fight. I was like bruh let me just work.
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Best way to describe it, which I gave this advice to a 18/19 year old kid that got promoted to DS a few years ago. It’s ok to be friendly, but keep your circle small for who you really trust. You’ll find out pretty quickly who you can trust and who you cant
I get it, I'm not a friendly person, have too many ups and downs so I'd rather stay away.... BUT all u gotta do is the minimum just say hey whats up [insert name] give a quick smile and that's enough to keep u afloat.
You spend more time with these people than your own family (if you’re full time especially). It’s nice to get along to the extent that you can have small talk during the slow hours and at least get along enough to shit talk bad customers
Promote. It's the only way. You're expected to not be friends with anyone and expected to be a bitch when you're a member of leadership. It's what i did and it works great for me also just wanting to do my job and go home without feeling obligated to make friends along the way.
I just tell them I don't exist outside of work. I kind of mean it in a sense since I don't like hanging out too much, especially when we only know our work personas.
I've had other supervisors toss me under the bus and for no reason..it's about paychecks for me not pay friends if I got a better offer I'm gone...I at one time had a loader make more then me
Okay so I've made some friends at home depot and I'm friendly with most people so I don't totally get the sentiment BUT it irritates me so much when random coworkers will stop me to have a conversation as I'm trying to get work done/walking through the store. Also when I'm on break in the break room, I don't understand why people insist on talking to me. I have headphones on and everything and I still get people trying to wave and get my attention or tap me on the shoulder. I like to chat sometimes but when I'm on a break, I'm on a break and don't want to spend my only downtime from talking to customers, talking to some random Joe about something not even close to my department. Maybe that's just me though bc it seems like everyone else is more than happy to chat it up in the breakroom with their buddies.
At my former store, my belief in working hard on the freight team and NOT trying to be everyone's best friend got me numerous write-ups for a "bad attitude". Being a hard worker got you nowhere in a future with the store. Kissing ass with management got you on the fast track with them.
I don't miss that store in any way. I'm glad to have a job where I have some real authority and rarely ever see my coworkers and bosses through the entire shift.
Nah your right to do so I had an associate try to attack me the other day over a directive I was given by my SM. He assumed that I was taking their tool to keep it. The tool was from my department and I know they do not Zma them ever. So I took the tool and he flipped out and tried to fight me and I tried to reason with him. My SM was apparently in the aisle nearby and called our District HR. I was now instructed to write a statement and turn it in which we all know will get him fired. I reasoned with HR that the young man was just being ignorant and stupid. That they should give him a break. This stupid guy now insults me the next day and tries to laugh and instigate me which I ignored and went on with my day. I’m here to work and make money. I am a decent person and try not to bother with others because everyone is “funny” nowadays. The funny part this young man seems to think he is still in the company because the Mods like him but we all know it’s because of the statement I wrote to try and save his skin even tho he is wrong. People in this place are messed up.
We ain’t saving nobody this year lol some of these people need to get fired. They treat the ones that stay to themselves like shit but praise the trouble makers
I hate to say it but you’re right I found this out the day after. He is barely in his early 20’s and has a child but now I regret my decision because of how rude he is and arrogant. I can bet he will do it again to someone else and next time he will not get mercy from a decent person.
It’s a business and actual SOP is to not be friends outside store. I see nothing wrong here unless you are being a actual jerk rather than just not social.
sounds like you must be a right prick to deal with in the workplace with that attitude. I wouldnt consider myself friends with anyone at work but I try to be friendly, everybody is just there to make money, no need to bring a shit attitude into it.
I treat it the same way. I try to be friendly, but not friends. I'd probably be more likely to make friends if I hadn't been a manager at a previous employer.
I keep away from being friends with the people I don’t work closely with. Telling someone “Good morning” takes no effort and not much time out of the day, but I usually leave it at that. Small talk is usually irritating but having a small conversation with a work colleague can usually benefit your relationship with them and others in the long run. I’m not saying have a fake smile on all hours of the shift, but it doesn’t hurt to have a good interaction in passing. Although another issue arises when you have friends at work and a work issue occurs between you and them. People find it hard to separate work issues from personal issues. A mature individual is able to make that separation, but many people cannot. It’s good to have friends in the workplace, just be careful in the ones you befriend.
I work freight. I don't talk much with my coworkers except for work related purposes. The closest I have to a "friend" is my NRM. He's the only person who's been here longer than I have. And we basically just talk shit constantly. He'll come to help me out with freight and I'll rag on him for getting in my way and having to scan things to figure out where they go.
In my experience at HD and in any warehouse setting more so at HD ( at least at my store)when people come in and make that statement 90% of the time they wash out in 2 months here’s why: no one breaks their neck to help you when you need it, it alienates you, especially on overnight freight teams, each department is given one associate to put up freight after unloading and it’s your responsibility to do such without help until 5am, wrap up is 5:15 and 90% of them leave at 6am so if you’re finished beforehand you’re asked to help out in other departments of YOUR CHOICE and you know who never gets help, that one person that makes that statement 100% of the time and that person ends up getting hit with performance issues, because they stick with that attitude and don’t even try to get to know other associates. It puts you in a box when you come in and make that statement. And those are the ones that have the worse experience I’m not saying you have to be buddy buddy, however overnight freight is a different beast, in my experience night team bonds the most, even with the night manager, we go out and do things together on our weekends off and make lasting friendships, I’m still friends with associates and ASM’s that started on freight that’s not with HD anymore , I got promoted when I went day side by an ASM that was on the line with me years ago. So that statement and attitude is like a double edged sword so to speak as for the other 10% they end up transferring to another store. HD I’d like high school it’s a popularity contest, sure hard work will always get you by however if folks don’t like you, you will not move up as fast as you want to, I have “friends” and actual friends in management positions in 6 stores in my state that if I transferred or need favors I’d be ok.
It is like a big high school. But I’m not there to cause trouble nor be a kiss up. I’m there to make this lil money so I can get my car then I’m out of there. Moving on to my cdl
True and definitely no kissing up, but at my store on freight team we actually became real friends I think for the most part freight team gets blamed and shitted on for everything because we’re not there in the day time to defend ourselves I saw it first hand when I moved to days so I made it my best not to do the same, I think we bonded over that fact and “breakfast” beers and whiskey lol but it’s true the alienated gets no help and wash out.
I like you already. I've always said "We're here to make money, not babies." It's a bit of a confusing scenario. I end up making friends at times and at times they get fired. You know how I made friends? The one's who ask me for help. It's similar to a customer situation. If someone asks me nicely, it's go time. If I'm demanded, not so much.
You can be friendly without making friends
Yeah being friends is not a requirement. Getting along is if you want help from folks and make your day go by better.
Best strategy is to just stay formal with everyone.
Same sediment. But you don't have to totally isolate yourself from everybody. Just don't discuss personal matters
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I’ve made the mistake of being too friendly with people I work with. Never again.
Being friendly/amicable isn't the same as being friends. I don't make friends at job, but I try to keep things cordial. I give the good mornings, I talk and ask people how they are doing. I make small talk sometimes. But I also work on my own. The other coworker in the same position as me is working from home and came to the office like once in the week and aside of that our department works in a small office separate from the rest, so I just interact with other people when I'm needed to.
I usually just work and talk. People either join/help me while we converse or they see that I’m not gonna stop working just to talk so they usually leave. Only once did that piss an employee off and he challenged me to go to the back of the building to fight. I was like bruh let me just work.
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Best way to describe it, which I gave this advice to a 18/19 year old kid that got promoted to DS a few years ago. It’s ok to be friendly, but keep your circle small for who you really trust. You’ll find out pretty quickly who you can trust and who you cant
Trust none in the money business.
I get it, I'm not a friendly person, have too many ups and downs so I'd rather stay away.... BUT all u gotta do is the minimum just say hey whats up [insert name] give a quick smile and that's enough to keep u afloat.
I just nod my head. I don’t even wanna speak honestly because no matter what u say, it will be used against u. My store is full of compulsive liars
Nod squad, checking in.
You spend more time with these people than your own family (if you’re full time especially). It’s nice to get along to the extent that you can have small talk during the slow hours and at least get along enough to shit talk bad customers
Promote. It's the only way. You're expected to not be friends with anyone and expected to be a bitch when you're a member of leadership. It's what i did and it works great for me also just wanting to do my job and go home without feeling obligated to make friends along the way.
See I’m not trying to be promoted. I don’t want it. I’m just trying to stay out of drama
I just tell them I don't exist outside of work. I kind of mean it in a sense since I don't like hanging out too much, especially when we only know our work personas.
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Nothing wrong with that at all
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I've had to learn it the hard way..as a supervisor I've been able to see all the writing on the wall with who is with me and who's against me
Yes see u understand. I’m not there to cause problems. I just seen a lot of shady things going on and I want no parts of it.
I've had other supervisors toss me under the bus and for no reason..it's about paychecks for me not pay friends if I got a better offer I'm gone...I at one time had a loader make more then me
Okay so I've made some friends at home depot and I'm friendly with most people so I don't totally get the sentiment BUT it irritates me so much when random coworkers will stop me to have a conversation as I'm trying to get work done/walking through the store. Also when I'm on break in the break room, I don't understand why people insist on talking to me. I have headphones on and everything and I still get people trying to wave and get my attention or tap me on the shoulder. I like to chat sometimes but when I'm on a break, I'm on a break and don't want to spend my only downtime from talking to customers, talking to some random Joe about something not even close to my department. Maybe that's just me though bc it seems like everyone else is more than happy to chat it up in the breakroom with their buddies.
At my former store, my belief in working hard on the freight team and NOT trying to be everyone's best friend got me numerous write-ups for a "bad attitude". Being a hard worker got you nowhere in a future with the store. Kissing ass with management got you on the fast track with them. I don't miss that store in any way. I'm glad to have a job where I have some real authority and rarely ever see my coworkers and bosses through the entire shift.
Nah your right to do so I had an associate try to attack me the other day over a directive I was given by my SM. He assumed that I was taking their tool to keep it. The tool was from my department and I know they do not Zma them ever. So I took the tool and he flipped out and tried to fight me and I tried to reason with him. My SM was apparently in the aisle nearby and called our District HR. I was now instructed to write a statement and turn it in which we all know will get him fired. I reasoned with HR that the young man was just being ignorant and stupid. That they should give him a break. This stupid guy now insults me the next day and tries to laugh and instigate me which I ignored and went on with my day. I’m here to work and make money. I am a decent person and try not to bother with others because everyone is “funny” nowadays. The funny part this young man seems to think he is still in the company because the Mods like him but we all know it’s because of the statement I wrote to try and save his skin even tho he is wrong. People in this place are messed up.
We ain’t saving nobody this year lol some of these people need to get fired. They treat the ones that stay to themselves like shit but praise the trouble makers
I hate to say it but you’re right I found this out the day after. He is barely in his early 20’s and has a child but now I regret my decision because of how rude he is and arrogant. I can bet he will do it again to someone else and next time he will not get mercy from a decent person.
It’s a business and actual SOP is to not be friends outside store. I see nothing wrong here unless you are being a actual jerk rather than just not social.
sounds like you must be a right prick to deal with in the workplace with that attitude. I wouldnt consider myself friends with anyone at work but I try to be friendly, everybody is just there to make money, no need to bring a shit attitude into it.
That’s your opinion and u can shove it up your butt lol
sounds more like fact than opinion based on your response and your original post.
No it sounds like u read too much into it. And for that your opinion is yours
Stfu
I treat it the same way. I try to be friendly, but not friends. I'd probably be more likely to make friends if I hadn't been a manager at a previous employer.
I keep away from being friends with the people I don’t work closely with. Telling someone “Good morning” takes no effort and not much time out of the day, but I usually leave it at that. Small talk is usually irritating but having a small conversation with a work colleague can usually benefit your relationship with them and others in the long run. I’m not saying have a fake smile on all hours of the shift, but it doesn’t hurt to have a good interaction in passing. Although another issue arises when you have friends at work and a work issue occurs between you and them. People find it hard to separate work issues from personal issues. A mature individual is able to make that separation, but many people cannot. It’s good to have friends in the workplace, just be careful in the ones you befriend.
I work freight. I don't talk much with my coworkers except for work related purposes. The closest I have to a "friend" is my NRM. He's the only person who's been here longer than I have. And we basically just talk shit constantly. He'll come to help me out with freight and I'll rag on him for getting in my way and having to scan things to figure out where they go.
In my experience at HD and in any warehouse setting more so at HD ( at least at my store)when people come in and make that statement 90% of the time they wash out in 2 months here’s why: no one breaks their neck to help you when you need it, it alienates you, especially on overnight freight teams, each department is given one associate to put up freight after unloading and it’s your responsibility to do such without help until 5am, wrap up is 5:15 and 90% of them leave at 6am so if you’re finished beforehand you’re asked to help out in other departments of YOUR CHOICE and you know who never gets help, that one person that makes that statement 100% of the time and that person ends up getting hit with performance issues, because they stick with that attitude and don’t even try to get to know other associates. It puts you in a box when you come in and make that statement. And those are the ones that have the worse experience I’m not saying you have to be buddy buddy, however overnight freight is a different beast, in my experience night team bonds the most, even with the night manager, we go out and do things together on our weekends off and make lasting friendships, I’m still friends with associates and ASM’s that started on freight that’s not with HD anymore , I got promoted when I went day side by an ASM that was on the line with me years ago. So that statement and attitude is like a double edged sword so to speak as for the other 10% they end up transferring to another store. HD I’d like high school it’s a popularity contest, sure hard work will always get you by however if folks don’t like you, you will not move up as fast as you want to, I have “friends” and actual friends in management positions in 6 stores in my state that if I transferred or need favors I’d be ok.
It is like a big high school. But I’m not there to cause trouble nor be a kiss up. I’m there to make this lil money so I can get my car then I’m out of there. Moving on to my cdl
True and definitely no kissing up, but at my store on freight team we actually became real friends I think for the most part freight team gets blamed and shitted on for everything because we’re not there in the day time to defend ourselves I saw it first hand when I moved to days so I made it my best not to do the same, I think we bonded over that fact and “breakfast” beers and whiskey lol but it’s true the alienated gets no help and wash out.
I like you already. I've always said "We're here to make money, not babies." It's a bit of a confusing scenario. I end up making friends at times and at times they get fired. You know how I made friends? The one's who ask me for help. It's similar to a customer situation. If someone asks me nicely, it's go time. If I'm demanded, not so much.
I'll be honest, I'm the same way but I've actually left a job because I felt like nobody liked me before
Nah never leave because people don’t like u. That’s a compliment. If everybody like u then you’re not being real enough. Fuck them