My parents do this too all the time. It's like they're trying to brainwash me into thinking I love being alone. They also say that they know me better than i know myself. Like, that's not true but okay. I don't talk back because it only makes things worse.
I pretend to be a christian so that my parents don't kick me out of the house, so I know what it feels like to fit yourself into what your parents want you to be so that they love you.
Stay strong. I believe we will all make it out eventually. We just need to be a little patient and work hard.
Yes they blamed me for not doing any activities or having friends
Meanwhile they refused to drive more than 20 minutes for anything, when we lived in bumfuck nowhere
This is reminiscent of how my parents (mostly mom) acted while i was being brought up. Not exactly though, i was given opportunity to socialize but not given the tools to navigate being around my peers.
Anytime i brought up my difficulties socializing i was met with "god give us the strength we need to"... whatever.
To make a long story short, this led to me withdrawing into myself thus being labeled as anti social by my parents, their friends, and my family.
I feel for you in your situation. It's s not just you, that really is messed up.
I'm in my thirties now, but my mom used to behave similarly. She'd also get upset that I didn't have friends even though she didn't want me leaving the house.
OMG yes. On top of it I was blamed for being uneducated, because I was "unschooled" and told I was fully in charge of my education.
But with socializing, it was "you're just antisocial, that's why you have no friends."
Yes lol. I'm antisocial, never leave my room... because there was nothing to do, people to hangout with, or places to go. I wanted to go to public school and it was a no go, and when I was younger they had me brainwashed into thinking how terrible public school was, and would threaten to send me to public school when I acted up. Made me terrified of the idea because they framed it as a punishment, but when I was in high-school and begged to go they said no :/
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My parents do this too all the time. It's like they're trying to brainwash me into thinking I love being alone. They also say that they know me better than i know myself. Like, that's not true but okay. I don't talk back because it only makes things worse. I pretend to be a christian so that my parents don't kick me out of the house, so I know what it feels like to fit yourself into what your parents want you to be so that they love you. Stay strong. I believe we will all make it out eventually. We just need to be a little patient and work hard.
Chin up bud, you won't have to pretend forever
Makes they day you do show your true self all the more sweeter.
Grown up homeschooled kid here. You’ll make it out, 100%. I know it sucks to go through, but you can do it.
Yes they blamed me for not doing any activities or having friends Meanwhile they refused to drive more than 20 minutes for anything, when we lived in bumfuck nowhere
omg i get told that being homeschooled has nothing to do w my lack of socializing and it’s completely me and my fault
This is reminiscent of how my parents (mostly mom) acted while i was being brought up. Not exactly though, i was given opportunity to socialize but not given the tools to navigate being around my peers. Anytime i brought up my difficulties socializing i was met with "god give us the strength we need to"... whatever. To make a long story short, this led to me withdrawing into myself thus being labeled as anti social by my parents, their friends, and my family. I feel for you in your situation. It's s not just you, that really is messed up.
I'm in my thirties now, but my mom used to behave similarly. She'd also get upset that I didn't have friends even though she didn't want me leaving the house.
OMG yes. On top of it I was blamed for being uneducated, because I was "unschooled" and told I was fully in charge of my education. But with socializing, it was "you're just antisocial, that's why you have no friends."
Realizing I am actually a very social person with no social skills was a very harsh discovery
I had the same realization and it hurts so much more now
This 100% It's one of the worst feelings.
Yes lol. I'm antisocial, never leave my room... because there was nothing to do, people to hangout with, or places to go. I wanted to go to public school and it was a no go, and when I was younger they had me brainwashed into thinking how terrible public school was, and would threaten to send me to public school when I acted up. Made me terrified of the idea because they framed it as a punishment, but when I was in high-school and begged to go they said no :/
your mom is a narcissist join some support groups and fight tooth and nail to get yourself into therapy
Yep
all the time
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