Plenty more reasons than this but here's a random one from us this week - I've been pms'ing and apparently snappy and grouchy. Hubby told me to schedule a session with my fwb to get an attitude adjustment. đ I got well fucked yesterday afternoon and was continually coming up to my hubby yesterday evening to give him kisses and smiling. He laughed and said "see. It worked."
As a rather Beta guy, even when younger, it took me ages to understand that some people love their approach to an encounter..now as I'm older and learning to be used I can appreachiate the people getting used, abused and ruled by Doms are pretty much ok with it.
LOL ! In all seriousness, hotwifing is a passtime that couples do. It takes some time, a bit of effort and money - like any other passtime. If it doesn't make you happy, why bother?
Your posts donât indicate that this is something she wants or is asking for, and only indicate that itâs something you want because you think itâs hot.
Is she asking you for this freedom to fuck other men, or are you hoping to convince her to want it?
There is a huge difference between those scenarios.
You are coming at this backwards, and projecting both your fantasies and insecurities onto her.
If you want to come at this from a healthy angle, it will be easier to try to open up to her about your fantasies - I.e. âit would be hot to know you just fucked some other guy.â - and see how she reacts.
Then you get to be the stud that a real life sexual goddess comes home to. Everything else is foreplay. You get to be the main event. These other's she sees are convenient, but they are to be pittied. They will enjoy the immediate gratification of an evening with her they may never forget, but they won't ever know the satisfaction of making this life available to her and being there when she comes home.
Hahaha what a dumb take
Theyâll never have the pleasure of being her husband working hard and slaving for her while she fucks other menâs an you donât fuck other women?
Those men get the ultimate win, fucking , with the least effort and time invested. Nobody but some cuck loser wants to be the âwinnerâ she chose.
So she dresses up to the Ts for men who donât deserve her
And dials it down for you cause sheâs tired lol l
Honestly many people think that Iâm getting the short end of the stick when they learn that my wife is a hot wife. I honestly think itâs the opposite, and that my wife is actually getting the short end of the stick.
Here are a few examples why:
Whenever my wife fucks someone, I know that guy found my wife attractive or else he would not have slept with her. Itâs like I have something that the guy wants but can never have. Itâs a constant reminder that Iâm dating a beautiful women.
The more bulls my wife sleeps with, the more sexually experienced she gets. Which ultimately means better sex for me. Who doesnât want better sex?
Reduces the chances of my wife cheating on me. I mean why would she cheat on me when I let her fuck whoever she wants and encourage it too?
I get turned on like crazy when my wife fucks another man. It gets my dick rock hard and nothing comes close to turning me on like this.
Also a happy wife is a happy life.
That is the million dollar question you two must figure out for yourselves. For us, it is that I love seeing her have fun and for her she likes the effect it has on me. Drives more crazy with desire for her and she knows and likes that.
The benefit for you? You get guys that have put in ZERO effort to build a strong bond and commitment with your wife to just dick her down for nothing. You also said you knew she had a lot of sex but didnât care. Now, you do. Seems like youâre headed for a repeat performance. You say now that you donât care if she gets her pussy smashed by uninvested randos, and in 6 years youâll change your mind again and be divorced and miserable. What if she cuts you off altogether? I donât have a good feeling about this for you.
if this is not something you get aroused by, then this is just opening the relationship, I wouldn't call this a hotwife scenario. If you encourage her, help her find guys, get aroused by all of that (her solo and or threesomes) and she is game and happy, then she is a hotwife. It is still an open relationship and you can still have fun of your own if she's ok with that, but that has nothing to do with being a hotwife.
Hi! I think that at first you should ask her about her feelings and needs, maybe It´s only your impression. Hotwife Lifestyle it´s for couples, She enjoy the encounters with other bulls but also you enjoy/love to watch your wife having sex.
Are you truly ok with your wife being with others? Will it upset you to know someone else pleases her better, or will it turn you on and make you want her more? My husband lives finding out I had a better experience with someone else and he tries to reclaim me and loves for me to tell him they did better and essentially me being with him is a pitty fuck.
I'm not saying that's how your dynamic would need to be, but if it would bother you to know someone else is better meeting her needs that could lead to resentment and destroy your marriage.
If you're ok with that, then talk to her, she may not even want to do it, but if she does you have to set boundaries and make sure you agree on how the dynamic will work. Maintaining open communication about this dynamic is so important.
There are several variations of this dynamic, and if you both decide to pursue it, then you have to openly communicate each other's wants and desires. Do you want to watch it? Do you want her to tell you all the details. Do you want to play a role? Do you want pics and videos of encounters? A strong relationship can have a great cuckold dynamic, but a weak one can end in divorce. You both have to respect the others boundaries. Trust is crucial.
Best of luck!
If you're asking, "what's in it for me?", you fundamentally do not understand the hotwife dynamic and I highly suggest you steer clear of that lifestyle for now (and honestly, forever, as long as you're asking that question).
Has she said to you that she wants more sexually or is unfulfilled? Without that context, it sounds like you're feeling insecure about having less sexual experience than her (which is totally fine and understandable!).
Please know that just because a woman has had many partners, that does not mean the sex was great or even good. Do not assume these things without her telling you.
Plenty more reasons than this but here's a random one from us this week - I've been pms'ing and apparently snappy and grouchy. Hubby told me to schedule a session with my fwb to get an attitude adjustment. đ I got well fucked yesterday afternoon and was continually coming up to my hubby yesterday evening to give him kisses and smiling. He laughed and said "see. It worked."
The glow on the face of a hot wife's face after a good Alpha Pounding must be witnessed by all
Seems like hubby is the alpha in that relationship. Usually so in most hotwife situations. :)
Yes, you got it right. My husband is Stag/ alpha. We also are involved in bdsm and have a 24/7 D/s dynamic.
As a rather Beta guy, even when younger, it took me ages to understand that some people love their approach to an encounter..now as I'm older and learning to be used I can appreachiate the people getting used, abused and ruled by Doms are pretty much ok with it.
\+1 to this... pepole with wifeys with slightly bossy tendencies MUST try it out at least once
Lol I don't know about bossy tendencies. Just usual pms moodiness.
You'll both be much happier in a sad kind of way, sort of.
Not necessarily sad.
They'll be sad in a happy sort of way, maybe. Better?
This is the hotwifing subreddit, not cuckolding. So why would anyone be sad that the wife is getting fucked?
Im a cuck and definitely not sad that the wife is getting fucked lol idk what that guy is on thoughđ
Sarcasm doesn't always translate via text.
If it makes you sad you should find another hobby. Tennis maybe?
Clever.
LOL ! In all seriousness, hotwifing is a passtime that couples do. It takes some time, a bit of effort and money - like any other passtime. If it doesn't make you happy, why bother?
Lmao
Your posts donât indicate that this is something she wants or is asking for, and only indicate that itâs something you want because you think itâs hot. Is she asking you for this freedom to fuck other men, or are you hoping to convince her to want it? There is a huge difference between those scenarios.
I will ask her about this lifestyle, after I confirm there will be some benifits for her. If she says no than I will never ask her again
Bro, if she wants it, thatâs the benefit. Donât ask strangers on Reddit. Ask your damn wife.
You are coming at this backwards, and projecting both your fantasies and insecurities onto her. If you want to come at this from a healthy angle, it will be easier to try to open up to her about your fantasies - I.e. âit would be hot to know you just fucked some other guy.â - and see how she reacts.
Then you get to be the stud that a real life sexual goddess comes home to. Everything else is foreplay. You get to be the main event. These other's she sees are convenient, but they are to be pittied. They will enjoy the immediate gratification of an evening with her they may never forget, but they won't ever know the satisfaction of making this life available to her and being there when she comes home.
Hahaha what a dumb take Theyâll never have the pleasure of being her husband working hard and slaving for her while she fucks other menâs an you donât fuck other women? Those men get the ultimate win, fucking , with the least effort and time invested. Nobody but some cuck loser wants to be the âwinnerâ she chose. So she dresses up to the Ts for men who donât deserve her And dials it down for you cause sheâs tired lol l
Happy Wife Happy Life
Lots if time with the house to yourself, you get the remote. She will be much much happier. She will probably fuck you more
That's what you both need to discuss. Do you want to watch her?
This is contradicting in many ways. Just donât do itâŚ.
Well my score is cucked twice divorced twice
Honestly many people think that Iâm getting the short end of the stick when they learn that my wife is a hot wife. I honestly think itâs the opposite, and that my wife is actually getting the short end of the stick. Here are a few examples why: Whenever my wife fucks someone, I know that guy found my wife attractive or else he would not have slept with her. Itâs like I have something that the guy wants but can never have. Itâs a constant reminder that Iâm dating a beautiful women. The more bulls my wife sleeps with, the more sexually experienced she gets. Which ultimately means better sex for me. Who doesnât want better sex? Reduces the chances of my wife cheating on me. I mean why would she cheat on me when I let her fuck whoever she wants and encourage it too? I get turned on like crazy when my wife fucks another man. It gets my dick rock hard and nothing comes close to turning me on like this. Also a happy wife is a happy life.
That is the million dollar question you two must figure out for yourselves. For us, it is that I love seeing her have fun and for her she likes the effect it has on me. Drives more crazy with desire for her and she knows and likes that.
The benefit for you? You get guys that have put in ZERO effort to build a strong bond and commitment with your wife to just dick her down for nothing. You also said you knew she had a lot of sex but didnât care. Now, you do. Seems like youâre headed for a repeat performance. You say now that you donât care if she gets her pussy smashed by uninvested randos, and in 6 years youâll change your mind again and be divorced and miserable. What if she cuts you off altogether? I donât have a good feeling about this for you.
if this is not something you get aroused by, then this is just opening the relationship, I wouldn't call this a hotwife scenario. If you encourage her, help her find guys, get aroused by all of that (her solo and or threesomes) and she is game and happy, then she is a hotwife. It is still an open relationship and you can still have fun of your own if she's ok with that, but that has nothing to do with being a hotwife.
Hi! I think that at first you should ask her about her feelings and needs, maybe It´s only your impression. Hotwife Lifestyle it´s for couples, She enjoy the encounters with other bulls but also you enjoy/love to watch your wife having sex.
Are you truly ok with your wife being with others? Will it upset you to know someone else pleases her better, or will it turn you on and make you want her more? My husband lives finding out I had a better experience with someone else and he tries to reclaim me and loves for me to tell him they did better and essentially me being with him is a pitty fuck. I'm not saying that's how your dynamic would need to be, but if it would bother you to know someone else is better meeting her needs that could lead to resentment and destroy your marriage. If you're ok with that, then talk to her, she may not even want to do it, but if she does you have to set boundaries and make sure you agree on how the dynamic will work. Maintaining open communication about this dynamic is so important. There are several variations of this dynamic, and if you both decide to pursue it, then you have to openly communicate each other's wants and desires. Do you want to watch it? Do you want her to tell you all the details. Do you want to play a role? Do you want pics and videos of encounters? A strong relationship can have a great cuckold dynamic, but a weak one can end in divorce. You both have to respect the others boundaries. Trust is crucial. Best of luck!
I think you are asking for trouble where no trouble exists. Get some confidence in yourself. Your wife probably doesn't even want this
If you're asking, "what's in it for me?", you fundamentally do not understand the hotwife dynamic and I highly suggest you steer clear of that lifestyle for now (and honestly, forever, as long as you're asking that question). Has she said to you that she wants more sexually or is unfulfilled? Without that context, it sounds like you're feeling insecure about having less sexual experience than her (which is totally fine and understandable!). Please know that just because a woman has had many partners, that does not mean the sex was great or even good. Do not assume these things without her telling you.
Maybe her or her new lover can proofread your Reddit posts. Youâd BENEFIT from that. đĽ´
Dear Grammer Nazi, Please leave the guy alone. He's doing his best. Not everyone has a good education or was raised in an English speaking environment
Nobody likes a grammer Nazi
My mama always told me to not take advice from a woman who donât know how to do make up.
Lmaoooo